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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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How do I behave toward his daughter when she comes to visit?
Q. My partner has one daughter who lives with her mum. When I first met her it was on a day out with her dad when we went to visit her and I thought she had no time for me on that day. I kept my thoughts to myself because I was unsure. About 6 m...
A. 17 May 2011: I think the only way you can expect to have any sort of 'normal' relationship with his daughter is if he and she and you acknowledge that this has been difficult for her for some reason. I would adopt the attitude that she is mildly mentally ... (read in full...)
Not looking for sex or anything serious, how to tell him without being harsh?
Q. i met a nice guy on a night out, we didnt have sex, just cuddled and talked all night. he told me that he had been in a relationship for 4years and now he is just looking for something causal. i dont know what he means by that, is it causal sex or ...
A. 17 May 2011: "Casual" I expect means to him some nice sex with no strings attached. I would clarify your definition of "casual" to him in this way: "I'm not looking for a serious relationship just yet but I'm also not into jumping into bed too early. I need to ... (read in full...)
Untrustworthy behaviour?
Q. Background: I have been quite close to an older guy for a number of months. We ended up getting quite close and he tends to flirt with me, especially when we're alone - though nothing has actually happened yet (he's married). He's been very ...
A. 17 May 2011: Why would he lie? Um. Well, first of all, it pretty clearly shows you don't know him as well as you might think. You're close only in the sense that you like to flirt with each other, I think. Sorry. Reasons for lying: he has an undiagnosed brai... (read in full...)
Wife just admitted to sleeping with my friend when we were dating!
Q. Hi everyone. I am a 33 year old man who has been married for almost 9 years. When I was 19 and gettign ready to go into my second year of college, I met what would end up being my future wife. i was instantly attracted to her. She was amazing. ...
A. 17 May 2011: You want us to second-guess the poor choices a scared and drunken teenager made 15 years ago? You confronted her 15 years ago, but she's only been your wife for 9? When did you have your first child together?
And you beat up your friend 15 year... (read in full...)
Decoding boy signals - friends with benefits
Q. Hi, So I'm new here, but have been reading a lot of previous questions with great interest. I'm in a bit of tricky situation, which to be honest is probably my own making, and I'm feeling a bit lost as to where to turn. The background - I'm...
A. 17 May 2011: My experience is that when a man tells you he isn't interested in a relationship, he means it. Ignore the looks and other non-verbal communication, it is trumped by this declaration he's made. He has done his best to prepare you for the let-down ... (read in full...)
How do I behave toward his daughter when she comes to visit?
Q. My partner has one daughter who lives with her mum. When I first met her it was on a day out with her dad when we went to visit her and I thought she had no time for me on that day. I kept my thoughts to myself because I was unsure. About 6 m...
A. 16 May 2011: "Her dad and I talked it through and we both felt that he get through her visit as best he could without any questioning of her behaviour." And now she's being called to account on this, is that right?
I am curious how old she is now as well. Also... (read in full...)
Did she purposely text me and pretend it was an accident to let me know that she's thinking about me?
Q. So I've been seeing this girl for about 2 months and about 3 weeks ago I found a text to her ex bf that lives out of state now and I approached her on it. For the next few weeks we have not hung out at all, we've been texting here and there, just ...
A. 16 May 2011: Your approach to handling a concern was to play games via text, rather than waiting until you could have a real conversation in person. It honestly reads like something out of high school.
"So finally I stood up for myself as I was being the "nic... (read in full...)
Why did my youth leader reveal this in front of everyone?
Q. Why did he have to do that? I feel so bad.:(? ? ? Last week I went to a prayer meeting with the youth at my church and when we were praying the youth leader said the Lord revealed to him that I've done something physical and the Lord has giv...
A. 16 May 2011: Pardon me for saying so, but the youth leader is full of it. Spendy, based on your other question about why your friend was trying to embarass you because of the top you wore, I suspect there are rumors out there about you. I think if this is ... (read in full...)
Not sure how to tell my boyfriend I have probably passed genital warts on to him?
Q. I have recently been to the clinic because I have developed genital warts. I asked the doctor if I needed to inform my current sexual partner about them and she said not to bother as he would know if he had them. I'm really embarrassed abou...
A. 14 May 2011: Of course you tell your current partner you have genital warts. It's unpleasant and nasty but so is letting him spread them to his next partner because you didn't let him know. Which is perhaps why you have them in the first place. Someone along the ... (read in full...)
I give him oral 24/7, but NEVER has gotten it in return, am I being selfish?
Q. Hello, I am a 18 year old female and i am mixed. I am native american and black. I been with my boyfriend for a year in a half and i have done everything to please him. I even pay for every single damn thing. I wait for him all the damn time ...
A. 14 May 2011: As long as you allow yourself to be his doormat, he will wipe his shoes on you. The reason he does it is because you stick around and tolerate it, in fact you reward him by giving him blow jobs and paying for everything. He thinks you're fine with ... (read in full...)
I gave out TMI to a gossipy friend and now I'm afraid my b/f won't forgive me!
Q. I'm 19 and this guy I was sleeping with for a while is 20. We were really good friends and he told me alot of things in confidence. He told me his ex-girlfriend miscarried about 8 months ago and it hurt him deeply. Well I found out the other day I'm ...
A. 14 May 2011: Whoa. You're pregnant with by a 'friend' and you're concerned about gossiping?
Look, he broke confidence with the ex by telling you in the first place. If he has anyone to blame, it's himself. You didn't help by passing it on, obviously. Talk to t... (read in full...)
City girl falling for a country boy, does he like me too?
Q. I just need some clarity without judgment, please! I've known this guy for about five years and over the last couple of years, we've been hanging out a lot. NOT dating; just hanging out and being great friends. Now, I've always been into British ...
A. 13 May 2011: Let me ask you this, if he WAS interested in you, what would your response be? My guess is he likes you a lot but is being a gentleman and allowing you to look for your city slickers. Maybe he's hoping that when you've had your heart broken enough, ... (read in full...)
Why does she want a 10" dildo?
Q. My ex girlfriend asked my to buy her a dildo, she want it to be ten inches, i asked her why? she said she wants something different, keep in mind we've been together for five years and we just recently broken up. and i want her back ...
A. 13 May 2011: It sounds like you two have a lot to work on. It also sounds like she's not really interested in fixing things. Are you asking if she's lying about the dildo or about being friends?
From what you've written, she doesn't want you as a boyfriend. From... (read in full...)
What does the female g-spot feel like? And where is it?
Q. hello. Just wondering if you lovely people could tell me what the female g spot feels like. And how far in it is. Many thanks ...
A. 13 May 2011: There's some good information here: http://men.webmd.com/guide/sex-fact-fiction
I'll copy/paste the relevant paragraphs for you to read.
"Just the Facts on the G-Spot"
If sex myths have such power over men's thinking about their own anatomy, the... (read in full...)
He has urges and wants me to let him go through with them!
Q. My boyfriend and I have a very satisfying sex life and I was surprised when he began asking about threesomes and open relationship. What irks me about this is that this only started when we met a friend through a friend, and she happened to be ...
A. 12 May 2011: How old are you? I'd be heading for the hills by now. This guy has signaled very clearly that he wants sex with outside partners and has referred to them as urges he doesn't know how to handle. You might be sexually satisfied but he's shopping for ... (read in full...)
Why does she want a 10" dildo?
Q. My ex girlfriend asked my to buy her a dildo, she want it to be ten inches, i asked her why? she said she wants something different, keep in mind we've been together for five years and we just recently broken up. and i want her back ...
A. 12 May 2011: You may have loved her but she's not exactly reciprocating, now, is she? Sorry she's turned out to be such a whacko but I guess people can really fool you. I'd stop contacting a woman who plays such nasty little games. It's healthier for you that ... (read in full...)
Everything has to be perfect for my wife to have sex!
Q. My wife is only open to having sex once between day 5 and 8 of her cycle. Everything has to be perfect. The house has to be empty. We have three teenagers that are in and out of our house constantly so that doesn’t happen very often. It can’t be ...
A. 12 May 2011: Not without some professional help. It sounds pretty bleak to me. Amazing that you have tolerated this for 20 years; she must think you are okay with it as you are still there. You're 45? You've got a great many years ahead of you. Why don't you ... (read in full...)
He deliberately embarrasses me. What can I do to stop him being Mr Wize Guy?
Q. My guy thinks it is funny sometimes to call out silly things in front of strangers, to embarrass me. It is not funny. The things he calls out are not true, but he bursts out laughing once he has done it. I have told him I find it embarrassing. that ...
A. 12 May 2011: I like cupidus' idea. Ignore him and look at the people around you, shrug your shoulders and say, "He's very socially insecure and this is his way of coping. We've been hoping the medications and counseling would have helped more but we still se... (read in full...)
My friends have all turned against me and now I'm afraid to go back to Uni!
Q. I have fallen out with my friends at university, they have been leaving me out for months due to my depression. (Long story but basically they see me as a psycho). Anyway, we have all recently been on quite civil terms verging on friendship again ...
A. 11 May 2011: I think I saw your earlier post. Your exams are coming up and you are stuck in this extremely unhappy place.
Right, two things, one, you have to decide if you want to pass your exams or deal with your fragile mental status first. Based on what you'... (read in full...)
Am I wrong not to want to take my husbands child on our Holiday?
Q. A couple of years ago my husband and I went on holiday and took his child from a previous relationship with us. During the holiday my husband did absolutely nothing with the child and I ended up doing everything for him so it was no holiday for me. ...
A. 11 May 2011: Could you please help us understand the situation a bit better?
How much time does your husband spend with this child?
How much time do you spend with the child?
How many holidays have you had with the child? And how long is the average holi... (read in full...)
He says slaggy looking girls are adding him on Facebook, but that's not true. Should I say something, again?
Q. I've being going with a guy for nearly 7 months. We met over facebook. He lives in the same area as me, but I didn't know him. Hasn't being the easiest of relationships. He really gets to me about his facebook habits. He is adding girls all the time...
A. 10 May 2011: I see Cerberus has analyzed this guy thoroughly, and I have to say that he has sewn it up so completely I have nothing else to offer on the guy.
All couples will have some area of disagreement. The thing you want to see in a partner is a mature and ... (read in full...)
He seems to be hiding something.........
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 years now and for about the last year hes been very secretive about his phone. He never used to care if I messed around with his phone but now all of a sudden he does. I have questioned him about it a few ...
A. 9 May 2011: Is your birthday coming up shortly? Any chance he's planning a surprise party for you? But a year of planning would be unlikely....
It does sound like there's something to be concerned about, and that you've tried to talk with him about it. Mayb... (read in full...)
He says slaggy looking girls are adding him on Facebook, but that's not true. Should I say something, again?
Q. I've being going with a guy for nearly 7 months. We met over facebook. He lives in the same area as me, but I didn't know him. Hasn't being the easiest of relationships. He really gets to me about his facebook habits. He is adding girls all the time...
A. 9 May 2011: You met over facebook and he adds and deletes women friends on facebook? Any red flags popping up for you here at all?
It sounds as though he enjoys the time and attention spent on facebook with the girls he meets. Would you be any happier if all ... (read in full...)
I am crushed. I read what she wrote about my size and don't how I am going to work this, or our new LDR, out with her.
Q. I need help with a difficult situation. I met a girl about three months ago through a work friend and we hit it off. We have been dating since then and I feel as if the relationship is the most amazing thing that has ever happened to me. ...
A. 9 May 2011: It's not clear to me that this relationship has any hope of surviving, and certainly not as an LDR. She needs the opportunity to decide if she wants to stay with a guy who invades her privacy. You need to decide if you honestly believe she is happy ... (read in full...)
Bf hasn't returned my messages in over 24 hours. Would it be stalking him to keep trying him?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for a couple of months, it is not that serious yet mainly due to the fact that he had just started a new job working nights and has had to do a lot of overtime so I only get to see him once a week- at weekends and we do not ...
A. 9 May 2011: I think it would be reasonable to make one call to the workplace, just to say something like, "I was worried when I didn't hear from you and wanted to make sure you were okay. That's all." And then let it go, if there is no medical/emergency ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend was diagnosed with depression and I feel like I'm walking on eggshells
Q. Hey. So after a really, really bad "episode," my boyfriend was recently diagnosed with depression. He and his parents and his doctor decided the best way to handle it is through psychotherapy only without the use of antidepressants. Most of time h...
A. 7 May 2011: Sweetheart, you are 16 or 17? Your boyfriend is having a difficult time and you know he is under a doctor's care and his family is aware of this, which is good.
I think your job is to let his healing process take place and honestly, it's a bit much... (read in full...)
LDR's mom doesn't know about me just yet but I thought about sending her flowers for Mother's Day
Q. Hello all! I have an LDR boyfriend whom Im visiting in a few months. His mom will be told about us mid-May, but with mother's day coming up, I've been considering sending her flowers. The thing is, I've mentioned it to him and he thinks...
A. 7 May 2011: So, let's see. You have discussed sending flowers to your boyfriend's mother with your boyfriend. He said wait until she knows you exist. You still want to send her flowers only with his name on them.
I think that maybe you are trying to find a wa... (read in full...)
How do you trust in a relationship after being cheated on and played so many times?
Q. How do you trust in a relationship after being cheated on and played so many times?...
A. 6 May 2011: In re-reading this question (a bit brief, isn't it?), I guess the poster might be asking how to trust in a new relationship, after the old ones all turned sour due to cheating and games.
In this case, I would suggest the poster work out what it was ... (read in full...)
What are women's views on foreplay?
Q. OK well. It is really a fun thing befor the real thing. And I know guys get pleasure out of foreplay. They like that kind of secret between him and his girlfriend no one else. It keeps him alot interested. What bothers me is how do women feel ...
A. 6 May 2011: I love how people assume the definition of "foreplay" is the same for everybody. Was there some rulebook I missed out on? "First, touch part A for 2 minutes, then caress part B for 3 minutes, then kiss part C for 2 1/2 minutes, before moving on to ... (read in full...)
How do you trust in a relationship after being cheated on and played so many times?
Q. How do you trust in a relationship after being cheated on and played so many times?...
A. 6 May 2011: Why bother? There are so many people out there who aren't players and cheats.... (read in full...)
Not FWBs, not BF/GF, but still affectionate with each other. What are we???
Q. So, I'm slightly confused if this girl is playing mind games with me, or it's just how she is and i should just relax and accept this is how she is. i do find myself over analyzing things quite often. Firstly, we have known each other for 2-3...
A. 6 May 2011: She sounds like she isn't really ready for a committed relationship. Listen to her and don't expect too much. I know she seems like your perfect girl but if you really examine this you are projecting what you want onto her flawed reality; she's got ... (read in full...)
I'm rare, but does that make me wrong?
Q. I seem to have the perfect life in which I am fully satisfied with but yet everyone seems to think that there is something wrong with me. I am 23 years old,I have had years of community service, a Black Belt in two martial arts, a loving girlfriend ...
A. 6 May 2011: My observation of the male of the species is that he struggles to NEVER allow another male appear to be superior in any way. In other words, guys like to one-up each other, bust each other's chops, essentially never allow another male to gain any ... (read in full...)
This guy is complicated! Do I spend the weekend with him and have sex, with no strings attached?
Q. This guy is complicated! Do I spend the weekend with him and have sex with no emotions or strings attached? Here's the short story.... We met a couple months ago, went out a few times, he works out of town and we text everyday. I was...
A. 6 May 2011: He's not complicated. He wants sex with no strings attached. He's very creative on how he gets there but basically, he's told you that he wants sex with no strings.
He's really good at manipulating you, from what you've written, he's allowed you ... (read in full...)
What are women's views on foreplay?
Q. OK well. It is really a fun thing befor the real thing. And I know guys get pleasure out of foreplay. They like that kind of secret between him and his girlfriend no one else. It keeps him alot interested. What bothers me is how do women feel ...
A. 6 May 2011: I'm wondering what YOU think foreplay is. I think most women would say they like it, but if you think foreplay is holding her head still with both hands pulling her hair out just a bit while you attempt to perform a tonsilectomy with your penis, ... (read in full...)
What makes me so incapable of attracting a girl?
Q. I'm 25 and have never in my life had a girlfriend or even anything close. I'm not a virgin but might as well be. I've had sex a total of one time several years ago leaving me with almost no sexual experience and zero relationship experience in my ...
A. 5 May 2011: When was the last time you asked a girl on a date? And how did you go about it?
There's nothing desperate about letting a girl know you think she's cute and attractive and would like go out on a date. Desperate is being so afraid of rejection that... (read in full...)
Does grammar matter when people communicate today? Or is it a lost cause? What's your pet grammar issue?
Q. First off I will admit it: sometimes I mis-spell words. And another thing, sometimes when I'm in a hurry I abbreviate some words. And when I was at University I used to have the best set of abbreviations in Contract Law. If I needed to refer to ...
A. 5 May 2011: NEW clee ur. Not NUKE you ler. Nuclear. Not Nucular.
Thanks for the rant space.
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Doctor proposed HIV tests to my husband, and I'm freaking out.
Q. My husband and I have been married for 7 years, but we've been together for almost ten. When we started dating, we both did HIV tests. All of them came negative. In the past 4 years we've been living under extreme stress, mostly caused by financ...
A. 5 May 2011: Your doctor is just making sure she has checked for all the obvious causes of the symptoms you've mentioned. Don't freak out about it. Doctors have to do this all the time, they "rule out" things by testing for them.
Mysterious rash? Check all poss... (read in full...)
I have this distorted image of the world and need advice on how to fix it!
Q. I have low self esteem and have battled with depression for years. I have a really bad body image and hate the world right now because of how it has become about hot bodies, sex, one night stands, etc. i feel like women have become more obse...
A. 5 May 2011: Sorry to hear you are suffering from "stinking thinking." I have a couple of things you might find helpful.
Books: "The Road Less Traveled" by M. Scott Peck, M.D. Basically acknowledges that life is suffering but it's worth working on your... (read in full...)
I just found out my fiance is bi after finding an on-line ad he posted!
Q. I have been with my fiance for 6 years and I just recently found out that he is bisexual because I found his ad that he put on craigs list to be bottom/host. He loves to play on the computer when I am sleeping alot. I love him and I know that he ...
A. 5 May 2011: Whoop! Red flag. He is posting for sex, high-risk in terms of HIV and other STDs if he wants to be the bottom, and expects you to be okay with an apology? This would not be okay and would not be something that can be forgotten. Obviously, he's not ... (read in full...)
My whole family is hypocritcal about having sex before marriage!
Q. My whole life my family told me, 'sex before marriage it wrong and they never did it' now I have just found out my entire family lied to me, literally everyone had sex before marriage. I was shocked about this news because my whole life they ...
A. 5 May 2011: Your parents and grandparents are calling you a prude and old-fashioned? I doubt that. Your cousins and siblings, that I could believe.
This is the equivalent of people saying "do as I say, not as I do." They say this thing because that's what they... (read in full...)
I need a solution. I'm having an affair with my sister-in-law and don't know how to stop.
Q. So here it goes. I am a married man and have a beautiful loving and caring wife and six months old son too. She loves me a lot and usually we talk over phone for hours in the night before going to bed (Since from last three months I am out of town). ...
A. 5 May 2011: You don't want to cheat on your wife. But you call up your sister-in-law and go out o your way to see her to have sex. So you DO want to cheat on your wife? As I said, as you can't figure it out, you need some professional help in doing so. People ... (read in full...)
Does grammar matter when people communicate today? Or is it a lost cause? What's your pet grammar issue?
Q. First off I will admit it: sometimes I mis-spell words. And another thing, sometimes when I'm in a hurry I abbreviate some words. And when I was at University I used to have the best set of abbreviations in Contract Law. If I needed to refer to ...
A. 5 May 2011: Oh goody! A rant thread! Yay! I hate people who use too many exclamation points! No! Really! Just kidding.
Do you mind if I just post when something occurs to me?
"Each other" is not one word. There is no such word as "eachother." That is two word... (read in full...)
I need a solution. I'm having an affair with my sister-in-law and don't know how to stop.
Q. So here it goes. I am a married man and have a beautiful loving and caring wife and six months old son too. She loves me a lot and usually we talk over phone for hours in the night before going to bed (Since from last three months I am out of town). ...
A. 5 May 2011: Do you really want help or are you just enjoying your confession of infidelity with your wife's sister? When people say things like: "we tried to stop but this thing is beyond our power to control" I roll my eyes. You are making a choice to cheat on ... (read in full...)
My whole family is hypocritcal about having sex before marriage!
Q. My whole life my family told me, 'sex before marriage it wrong and they never did it' now I have just found out my entire family lied to me, literally everyone had sex before marriage. I was shocked about this news because my whole life they ...
A. 4 May 2011: Who is "they", exactly? Your mom and dad? Your brothers and sisters? I'm a little curious, and this will affect how I would answer your question.
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