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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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She likes me. How do I show her I like her too?
Q. I have never been in a real relationship before and I know of a girl who likes me. This could be quite a real one but if I do get involved how do I show her that I still like her and that I dont push her away?...
A. 18 February 2011: Why do you think you are going to push her away? Just talk with her and tell her you like her too. Take it nice and slow and you'll be fine. Don't rush things and don't expect her to drop everything for you, like her friends and activities.
H... (read in full...)
Would have I been better off if I had had a girlfriend years ago? Be honest.
Q. Hi everyone. I'm back. I would appreciate an honest answer to this question. I like feeling sorry for myself and blaming God for everything, but to do that, I need amunition. I need proof that what I'm complaining about is fair enough. I have always ...
A. 18 February 2011: Bruce, it would be helpful to people if you told them about your Asperger's syndrome; this has more to do with your social life than you seem to realize. It would help the aunts understand a bit more about you and about your approach to the world.
R... (read in full...)
How long does a sperm live inside you?
Q. This morning (feb 12th) I had sex... well last night too. Anyways I found online calendars that say my ovulation week starts tomorrow (feb 13th). Would I have any chance that I'll get pregnant? And I always hear different answers about how long ...
A. 13 February 2011: This website says about six days: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/pregnancy/how-pregnancy-happens-4252.htm
Good luck!... (read in full...)
How long does a sperm live inside you?
Q. This morning (feb 12th) I had sex... well last night too. Anyways I found online calendars that say my ovulation week starts tomorrow (feb 13th). Would I have any chance that I'll get pregnant? And I always hear different answers about how long ...
A. 13 February 2011: Anywhere from three to seven days.
You have an excellent chance of conceiving! Congratulations!... (read in full...)
How do I tell him he's too rough?
Q. Hi. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 7 months and we are sexually active but the problem is that he is very rough during sex and it sometimes can be painfull. Help. What should I say to him ...
A. 11 February 2011: "Ouch, that hurts."... (read in full...)
Are guys attracted to "sweet" girls?
Q. Are guys attracted to "sweet" girls? I've been on a few dates, and a lot of times the guy will tell me that I'm "sweet." But they don't seem interested in me. Could they just be saying that as a nice gesture so they can walk away without har...
A. 8 February 2011: "Sweet" is code for "you're a really nice person but I just don't have that much in common with you. You and I don't share many interests, your energy level is different from mine and I am just not interested."
It could also mean that you are maki... (read in full...)
My husband drinks and stays out till 3.30 in the morning. Is that normal?
Q. I've been married 2.5 years..My husband is british born and loves going out to a party. but his parties are all at the pub...they start in the evening and he doesnt come home till 2.30 or sometimes 4 in the morning. Earlier, it was once a week..but ...
A. 8 February 2011: It sounds like your husband is an alcoholic. I don't blame you for wanting out, I don't think you are overreacting to his increasing overuse of alcohol.
I assume you have tried talking to him about it but he simply cannot control his drinking? Try ... (read in full...)
Am I needy or is my boyfriend a prick?
Q. I need help deciding whether my anger at my boyfriend is justified. I live in Florida. He lives in Texas. I go visit him about once a month. In November he and I agreed that next weekend, Feb. 11 and 12, I would visit. I bought the plane ticket...
A. 7 February 2011: You're 22-25 and are dating a guy in a fraternity in Florida? Wouldn't it be a better idea to date guys your own age? Guys who don't have to answer to another 'authority' such as a fraternity rather than the girlfriend?
In the long run, these frat... (read in full...)
I had a termination 24 hours ago and already he's wanting sex!!!
Q. i just have a quick question, i just had an abortion 24 hours ago, and for anybody that dont know how an abortion feels is painful, cramping feeling, and constant bleeding, my stupid ass boyfriend is asking me to please him sexually regardless of ...
A. 6 February 2011: So why are you with him? He sounds dreadful.... (read in full...)
Planning to have a loveless life!
Q. I'm planning to have a loveless life (no relationship, no sex). Work in a non-governmental organization and totally dedicate myself to humanitarian and environmentalist activities. It's not that bad, I guess... It would be tough since I'm really p...
A. 2 February 2011: I'm going to challenge the "spiritually negative" notion you seem to have. I have several gay friends who are in long-term committed relationships and they enjoy life. One even has devoted himself to humanitarian causes and works for an NGO as well. ... (read in full...)
I dumped her, yet I'm turning into a wuss over her. What's a good action plan to get me coping again?
Q. What is wrong with me? I broke up with a woman 16 months back but I'm obsessed with keeping tabs on what she doing. My obsession is taking over my life. I hardly eat, my condo's filthy, I don't go out. I feel like I'm married to my laptop and b...
A. 2 February 2011: I think Abella should turn that answer into an article. That was GREAT!... (read in full...)
I'm acting on my fetish with other women -- should I keep it a secret?
Q. I am a male in my 40,s with a foot fetish. I am becoming more obsessed with this and now even pay local ladies to enjoy their feet. I do this even though i have an understanding fiance who lets me enjoy and play with her feet. It is somewhat ...
A. 2 February 2011: You're 40 and presumably mature enough to recognize when what you are doing would be damaging to your 'committed' relationship. If you cannot control your behavior, then it is controlling you and that is when it's time to call in the professionals. ... (read in full...)
He hasn't replied to my second text of the morning
Q. Hi all, i need advice really, about something thats worryin me a little....... On new years eve I met a guy and had a one night stand with him. He was amazing. I really fell for him but was too shy to ask for his number, the next day he left, and I ...
A. 2 February 2011: He's probably busy. Ease up, relax, don't panic and don't text him any more today. Not everyone loves texting and not everyone replies instantly. It's like a phone call, I will answer if I am able but if I am in the middle of something, I am not ... (read in full...)
It's been 3 months since she said she needed some space. Is this over?
Q. My mistress of 4 years told me she "needs some space". Her friends told her we should not talk or e-mail for a few months. we both miss doing things together (not just the sex). It's been 3 long months . Is it over ? Neither one of us (I think) h...
A. 2 February 2011: Three months and no contact? Yes, it's over. She has moved on. Time for you to do the same.... (read in full...)
We've been talking online, but she hasn't called me. Where do I go from here?
Q. Hey there people... I have completely fallen for a girl that I met at a restaurant. I managed to get her name although I didn't ask for her phone number. I then found her on facebook and sent her an invite and she accepted right away. About a...
A. 2 February 2011: It sounds as though she's really not interested in getting to know you. Why she accepted your facebook friend request, I don't know. Maybe she was being polite?
She sees you merely as an acquaintance and one on facebook, at that. I think you have... (read in full...)
I am 16 years old, height is 5'5", is a weight of 103 lbs. normal??
Q. I am 16 years old, my height is 5"5. Is it normal that my weight is 103? ...
A. 1 February 2011: Marjo, based on your followup, it's apparent that you need to speak to your physician about eating properly and your overall health. This isn't the right place for you to do this. Best wishes to you. ... (read in full...)
I am 16 years old, height is 5'5", is a weight of 103 lbs. normal??
Q. I am 16 years old, my height is 5"5. Is it normal that my weight is 103? ...
A. 1 February 2011: An online BMI calculator shows you in the 'underweight' category.
What does your doctor say? How do you feel? How is your general health?
We aren't medical experts and can't make an assessment of this type. Stay healthy, eat well, take good car... (read in full...)
I hate condoms and she won't go on the pill!
Q. I am in a bit of a predicament with my new girlfriend. We're both 22 and have been going out for 2 months. Last week we talked about having sex with each other for the first time, it's not that one of us doesn't feel ready it's just an issue with ...
A. 1 February 2011: Feels like a wet sock vs. side effects of hormonal birth control:
Some women may have undesirable side effects while taking birth control pills. But many women adjust to the pill with few or no problems.
Some of the most common side effects... (read in full...)
The constant worrying is driving me insane!
Q. dear readers my boyfriend and i started having sex about 6 months ago and he uses a condom every time, but the thing is im always very concerned that it will break! he doesnt seem to feel the worry i do and probably thinks im being rediculous...
A. 1 February 2011: Over the course of a year, some women do indeed become pregnant despite using condoms as contraception. So I think you have reason to be concerned about potential unwanted pregnancy, you are not being irrational about this.
From the plan... (read in full...)
Birth Control - Spermice & Condoms
Q. Is there anyone here who uses spermicidal gel and condoms? I cannot use birth control pills because of a medical condition, so what I was wondering if anyone has personal experience with this or how it works? Would it be uncomfortable or anything? I ...
A. 30 January 2011: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
Here's a resource for you as you consider your options. You can click on each icon to get more information about the various methods of cont... (read in full...)
I want my boyfriend to hit me.. Is this normal?
Q. For some reason, I have a strong desire to be in an abusive relationship with a guy. I want to be hit, thrown to the ground, or pushed into a wall. I'm not sure if this is normal or not though. My boyfriend seems like the kind of guy who may do ...
A. 29 January 2011: No, what you are describing isn't normal or healthy. Please ask for counseling before you are injured or maimed for life. Best wishes to you.... (read in full...)
Have I ruined my chances with this man? What should I say to him now?!
Q. Please, please help me... I can't stop thinking and my mind is going crazy!! Last night, I had a dinner date at my place with a colleague of mine I really really really really like. The evening was smooth and flirty and fun. Then he started making p...
A. 28 January 2011: Toads in the old days didn't have the power of texts. Text appeal, if you will. ... (read in full...)
Have I ruined my chances with this man? What should I say to him now?!
Q. Please, please help me... I can't stop thinking and my mind is going crazy!! Last night, I had a dinner date at my place with a colleague of mine I really really really really like. The evening was smooth and flirty and fun. Then he started making p...
A. 28 January 2011: You are right, he isn't worth your time, or any more worry or concern! If he wanted to get to know you, he would have gone a few miles extra to meet you for a drink. Now you know, now you have back your power. Stay strong and don't feel badly about ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says we have broken up but it's more like we are on a break!
Q. Hi everyone. Me and my bf have just broken up and we are both devastated. we both still love eachother very much. There have been alot of problems, including me suffering from depression and paranoia which he really struggles with. I am on ...
A. 28 January 2011: I'm going to suggest that he's trying to break up with you as gently as he can, giving you time to come to terms with it. I think he feels strongly for you but cannot deal with the problems your illness brings and has decided the best thing is to ... (read in full...)
I have no female friends and am lonely. I have turned to masturbation to cope!
Q. Dear cupid, i am a 19yr old guy, pursuing engineering.i have this strange dis-order of social illness.I have very few friends and i want to remain in their zone only, people don't like me because of my this introvert nature. I cannot mark my prese...
A. 28 January 2011: Hi, it looks like Dorothy has given you some very helpful advice. I only want to add that I think you might want to google "Asperger's Syndrome" and see if there isn't information out there that could be helpful to you. It could perhaps explain your ... (read in full...)
I cheated and my boyfriend ended things
Q. Hello, right now i feel like shit,i have been a bit bad and cheated the odd time. Its lead to break up after break up,he wont let it drop. I have never admitted it as he will end it,i know he wont come back if i do. He turned off his phone last ...
A. 28 January 2011: Does it matter why he texted that message? Obviously, he knows that you have cheated, then lied and lied and continued to lie. At some point, you must agree, this kind of behavior will no longer be able to be lied and bluffed away, and the ... (read in full...)
I constantly seek validation from men, and compare myself to other women! It has turned me a bitter woman at age 22, so how do I stop caring about men and relationships?
Q. How can I stop caring about relationships and what men think of me? You know, when you have stupid problems and you fight against things you just can't fight against. For instance, I hate society, I hate how society works, and how most people go b...
A. 27 January 2011: Tell me how many arms and legs you have. How many breasts? How are your eyes and ears and nose and mouth? All working?
Watch this and get back to me.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ciYk-UwqFKA... (read in full...)
Will I be unable to satisfy women
Q. My Business is 6" long exactly and around 5 and a quarter around. I understand that this is safely within the average, but don't know how acceptable this is for women. A cursory Google search of penile size preference revealed a poll, http://w...
A. 27 January 2011: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/are-women-satisfied-with-average-size-penis-or.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-this-size-small-for-a-5-foot.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/whats-right-for-my-partner-in-regards-to.html
http://ww... (read in full...)
Will I be unable to satisfy women
Q. My Business is 6" long exactly and around 5 and a quarter around. I understand that this is safely within the average, but don't know how acceptable this is for women. A cursory Google search of penile size preference revealed a poll, http://w...
A. 27 January 2011: Well, I'll give you the bust size thing. We do get our fair share of women and girls worried about 'inadequate' bust size posting here. And what do those women get told?
Anyone, anyone? Bueller, anyone?... (read in full...)
Will I be unable to satisfy women
Q. My Business is 6" long exactly and around 5 and a quarter around. I understand that this is safely within the average, but don't know how acceptable this is for women. A cursory Google search of penile size preference revealed a poll, http://w...
A. 27 January 2011: I have NEVER met a woman who selected her mate based on his penis size. Ever.
"Will I be laughed at/rejected or be unable to satisfy women because of my size?" It's not your size that satifies a woman. It's what you do with ALL your body parts. Unle... (read in full...)
Should I stop seeing two brothers
Q. im 23y/o female and im having sex with both my bf and his brother..my bf doesnt know but his brother knows and told me not a say anything..im really having fun..should i stop seeing them both or continue having fun.....
A. 27 January 2011: Why do you feel the need to ask the question? Is there something troubling you about the arrangement?... (read in full...)
I love him, but has his love for me died? What should I do?
Q. He's doing it again! He's saying I've broken his heart more than once... HOW??? I've been faithful throughout this relationship, while he was out doing God know's what from 6pm-1am! I love him dearly but sometimes it does my head in to HAVE TO ...
A. 27 January 2011: My advice is to stop trying to woo him and start acting distant and vanish yourself. Remove yourself from his life for the next week or two. Stop texting, calling, emailing, facebooking, whatevering. Do NOT make him dinner. Leave his clothing on the ... (read in full...)
My friend doesn't want to know me anymore despite everything I did for him!
Q. my good friend has suddenly decided he doesnt want to know me. i helped him with everything last year with his homelife and work exams. now hes joined a new team hes gone distant and boast how great it is and how much work he gets-a lot different to ...
A. 27 January 2011: Is this good friend married, by any chance? And why are you not replying to the people who take the time to answer your question, technically questionS.
You seem to have developed a very strong attachment to him, and from the three posts here, it s... (read in full...)
Should I tell my online friend my real name? And was it wrong of me to lie about my name?
Q. I started exchanging messages with someone I 'met' on a internet forum. Completely against my expectations, we still 'talk' about a lot after 3 weeks. The problem is that I didn't tell him my real name and he did give me his. (first names only, ...
A. 27 January 2011: I would advise holding off on giving him your real name. There are some extremely damaged people who can act very normally online but if they become upset for some reason, their instability comes out, like your stalker. They are good at masking ... (read in full...)
He cheated, I cheated, then he cheated again.
Q. I am so confused. I can't decide whether to stay with my fiance or leave him for another guy. My fiance and I have lived together for the past 5 years. In the beginning he was cheating on me another girl that was his actual girlfriend at the time. ...
A. 27 January 2011: You tried, it didn't work. That whole trust/honesty thing is pretty central to a functional, healthy relationship. Throwing another 5, 10, 20 years after 5 years doesn't make any sense either, that's just time wasted on a guy whose proven track ... (read in full...)
He's abusive, but I don't know how to live without him. What should I do?
Q. Im in 2 relationship for the past 4 years. My boyfriend beats me up. I've lost all my friends for him.now I have no one to tell me what to do. Every1, including his friends have told me to move on and I also tried. I tried getting into another ...
A. 27 January 2011: Here's a number to help you:
Vanitha Sahayavani
The Bangalore City Police initiated the women helpline named Vanitha Sahaya Vani (Women helpline) on 22.1.99. Any person can dial to telephone No.1091 in respect of any Women in crisis situatio... (read in full...)
How can I be romantic with my on line crush, and show him that I care?
Q. Hello! My on line crush says that he likes romance, and to show him that I care about him... My question is how can I be romantic with him? And how can I show him that I care and like him? I already said that to him, but how can I prove it...
A. 27 January 2011: Is this his code for asking you to do things on webcam? Or to send him money or gifts? How did you two meet, and if he's so into romance, what is he doing to be romantic for you?
Write him a lovely poem, put it in the mail and send it to him. Draw... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to stop abusing his ex?
Q. My boyfriend wont stop texting his ex and calling her names he tells me he hates her and everything n he doesnt have her number but he keeps texting her, im friends with her and she tells me, he tells me not to talk to her. I talk to her behi...
A. 27 January 2011: He sounds like a very immature and ridiculous person. I would let him go and talk to your parents about this. This is beyond your ability to deal with and it's time to talk to an adult who can help. Take care.... (read in full...)
Does my husband have the right to be upset about a one night stand when we were separated?
Q. I'm so confused and need some advice. Let me start out by saying I am married, I love my husband and I have no intention on leaving him. Basically my question right now is does my husband have the right to be mad and upset at me for having a one ...
A. 27 January 2011: Sorry, the man who left you for another woman, fathered a child by her, continued to have sex with both of you at the same time is having a hissy fit because you slept ONCE with another guy, and didn't tell him about it right away? Am I reading that ... (read in full...)
The thoughtless way my bf's father speaks upsets me. What can I do about this?
Q. Hi everyone i'm a 20 yr old female and i have been with my boyfriend (19) for over 15 months. We live together, like most girls i have a problem with his ex, however they never were really an item she just messed him around. He hasn't seen her sinc...
A. 27 January 2011: I like maverick's idea of calling him out on it. The next time he brings up the ex in your presence, speak to him about it, as she suggested.
"You mention Diane every time I'm here. You seem to have a fascination about her."
This may be an American... (read in full...)
We can't have vaginal sex due to my girlfriend's health issue, is it wrong to ask for oral?
Q. My girlfriend can't have sex at the moment due to a health issue with her vagina. She is hopefully seeing a gyno soon to figure out what's up. My question: should she offer to perform oral on me while we go sexless? if she does not offer (she h...
A. 26 January 2011: One more thing. If she thinks it's a miscarriage, there may be some resentment or anger there. That is, some thinking along the lines of, "I'm the one who gets pregnant, I'm the one who has this awful bleeding, I'm unhappy that I lost a baby, I'm ... (read in full...)
We can't have vaginal sex due to my girlfriend's health issue, is it wrong to ask for oral?
Q. My girlfriend can't have sex at the moment due to a health issue with her vagina. She is hopefully seeing a gyno soon to figure out what's up. My question: should she offer to perform oral on me while we go sexless? if she does not offer (she h...
A. 26 January 2011: I see, you're actually a little afraid of her, what her reaction might be if you try to press on her for some oral sex. She is indeed stubborn, and foolish.
You might try bursting into tears and having a meltdown about her not going to the hosp... (read in full...)
We can't have vaginal sex due to my girlfriend's health issue, is it wrong to ask for oral?
Q. My girlfriend can't have sex at the moment due to a health issue with her vagina. She is hopefully seeing a gyno soon to figure out what's up. My question: should she offer to perform oral on me while we go sexless? if she does not offer (she h...
A. 26 January 2011: To assist you in this endeavor, I realize you might require some assistance: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/
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We can't have vaginal sex due to my girlfriend's health issue, is it wrong to ask for oral?
Q. My girlfriend can't have sex at the moment due to a health issue with her vagina. She is hopefully seeing a gyno soon to figure out what's up. My question: should she offer to perform oral on me while we go sexless? if she does not offer (she h...
A. 26 January 2011: Many girls enjoy giving head. Virtually ALL girls dislike vaginal bleeding. Okay, you're young and sexually frustrated right now, so I'll cut you a break, but you are worrying about getting HEAD while your girlfriend may have something very wrong ... (read in full...)
Have I ruined my chances with this man? What should I say to him now?!
Q. Please, please help me... I can't stop thinking and my mind is going crazy!! Last night, I had a dinner date at my place with a colleague of mine I really really really really like. The evening was smooth and flirty and fun. Then he started making p...
A. 26 January 2011: Hold your head up high... he's the one who has to account for his actions and assumptions. Not you. Don't let him flip that onto you, okay?
Just go on about your business and be professional if you encounter him.
I really do think that dating c... (read in full...)
He cheated, I cheated, then he cheated again.
Q. I am so confused. I can't decide whether to stay with my fiance or leave him for another guy. My fiance and I have lived together for the past 5 years. In the beginning he was cheating on me another girl that was his actual girlfriend at the time. ...
A. 25 January 2011: "I can't trust him and I can't get past it." And he isn't interested in cooperating with the 'checking up' on himself, is he?
Look, the guy has a proven track record. YOU have one too, now. For him, fidelity is totally optional, and it sounds as t... (read in full...)
We can't have vaginal sex due to my girlfriend's health issue, is it wrong to ask for oral?
Q. My girlfriend can't have sex at the moment due to a health issue with her vagina. She is hopefully seeing a gyno soon to figure out what's up. My question: should she offer to perform oral on me while we go sexless? if she does not offer (she h...
A. 25 January 2011: One more thing. If this 'issue' is a mysterious discharge that indicates a possible infection, it would be a good idea to have YOURSELF checked too, just to make sure you don't have something that you would then be introducing into her mouth.
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We can't have vaginal sex due to my girlfriend's health issue, is it wrong to ask for oral?
Q. My girlfriend can't have sex at the moment due to a health issue with her vagina. She is hopefully seeing a gyno soon to figure out what's up. My question: should she offer to perform oral on me while we go sexless? if she does not offer (she h...
A. 25 January 2011: You said she can't have sex, I assume you are referring to intercourse? But does this 'issue' mean she can't enjoy some manual stimulation by you? Can you use your hands and fingers to pleasure her? And if the 'issue' is not a contagious infection ... (read in full...)
Have I ruined my chances with this man? What should I say to him now?!
Q. Please, please help me... I can't stop thinking and my mind is going crazy!! Last night, I had a dinner date at my place with a colleague of mine I really really really really like. The evening was smooth and flirty and fun. Then he started making p...
A. 25 January 2011: So did you ask him over to dinner at your house? This may have given him the idea that you were interested in sex, he may have misunderstood your intention.
I'd play it very calmly and confidently. You like him, you'd like to date him, you don'... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to stop abusing his ex?
Q. My boyfriend wont stop texting his ex and calling her names he tells me he hates her and everything n he doesnt have her number but he keeps texting her, im friends with her and she tells me, he tells me not to talk to her. I talk to her behi...
A. 8 December 2010: How old is this guy? He sound extremely immature and I know he has a lot of growing up to do, but being nasty and ugly to someone is wrong no matter how old you are. He is a bully, based on what you've written here.
You can't control his beha... (read in full...)
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