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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Confusing crush....is he interested?
Q. Hey guys , I need some help understanding my crush . I haven't known him very long but I'm very keen on him and feel there is some sort of connection .. Thing is I didn't know he had a girlfriend because he never spoke about being taken so I fell ...
A. 22 June 2011: He's definitely not as interested in you as you are in him. He's not jumping in to ask you out, so maybe now would be a good time to back off and give him a chance to miss you a bit.
If he likes you, he'll try to close that gap. If it was a roug... (read in full...)
Am I wrong or am I really a bad person?
Q. Well this isn't a relationship question really... It's about my dad. He's mentally unwell and uses it as an excuse not to do anything around the house. The bathrooms haven't been cleaned for 3 months and the floors haven't been vacuumed in about ...
A. 22 June 2011: It does sound like you are experiencing an abusive relationship with your father here. I would strongly urge you to contact this organization: http://www.womensaid.org.uk/ and discuss the situation with them. I think they will be able to get you ... (read in full...)
Should I send him online pictures?
Q. I met this guy on the internet. At first I wasnt me in the pictures and they were another prettier girl. When I realized I started liking him I told him and apologized by an ecard. We were just friends but he was angry and demanded to see 5 pictures ...
A. 22 June 2011: It IS weird. I'd say drop him as a friend. Don't send pictures to anyone unless you have spent some time together! I think there's a high likelihood that most of these types of blackmail picture extractions end badly for the females involved.
D... (read in full...)
Why do men do this?
Q. Hi I have the same problem with men all the time My friends tell me Im good looking, fun to be around, very smart the only problem I have is with men Like the last guy I was with we had been going out for a few months and when I slept with hi...
A. 22 June 2011: My guess is that your expectations don't match theirs. You say this has happened many times?
Then I'm sad to say that I think something changes after you have sex. Either they think it means something different than you do or the sex is so appa... (read in full...)
It sucks that I can't be friends with my boyfriend's friend!
Q. Hello everyone, I have been struggling with a question and need to hear some opinions from others. My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for a good number of years. Four years ago, he started a job in a different country (halfway across ...
A. 22 June 2011: Could you please clarify: where do you and Fran and your boyfriend live, in relation to each other? I'm not asking for your specific locations, just something like, 'my bf and I live 100s of miles from each other, fran lives next door to him' or ... (read in full...)
My wife slept with my best friend before I dated her and its on my mind day and night.
Q. It sounds silly but here it is. my wife dated my best friend before me. Its been almost 20 years and i cant get over the fact that he had sex with her.I dont understand how my mind works. my wife and i have swung with other couples when we were ...
A. 21 June 2011: I have started a thread on this topic here http://www.dearcupid.org/question/retrograde-jealousy.html and there may be some information in there that can help.
The fact that you were a swinger (does this mean you had sex with other men's wive... (read in full...)
Anybody ever cured a sexual fetish/obsession?
Q. Has somebody ever cured an obsession? I'm talking about a sexual obsession here. Before I could understand what sex really meant, I was obsessed about this one body part. Now I'm not gonna say which part because I want the answers to be in...
A. 15 June 2011: I have no practical or observational advice to offer, but I found you a helpful link. You have what is called a paraphilia, and if it is disrupting your normal life and not allowing you to have normal relationships then you will need to seek ... (read in full...)
My bf of 3 years doesn't want to tell the mother of his children that I exist.
Q. My bf of 3 years will not tell the mother of his children that I exist. I find it very disrespectful. I'm on the verge of leaving, we only argue about this, the rest of the relationship is good, how can I explain how hurtful this is without ...
A. 14 June 2011: I would think that after 3 years you'd be fully integrated into his life. If his kids have never met you, that's really strange. What reason has he given for not introducing you to them?
I'd probably be looking for the exit strategy in this rela... (read in full...)
My worry is that love isn't real, or doesn't last... Am I right? Does anyone have a loving relationship that has lasted???
Q. Hey, I'm wondering if it is unrealistic to think that love can last? I've been with my bf 8 months, things are great, and he's talked about us moving in together in the next year and said that he'd like us to marry and have children some day, which ...
A. 14 June 2011: My parents are married 50+ years. I've been with my guy for 20+ years now. Next door is 15+ years, other next door is 15+ years, across the street is 18+ years. Let's see, keeping on through the neighborhood... 20+ years, a divorce but dating new ... (read in full...)
Is this a good plan to help her get over my past?
Q. me and my girlfriend have been together for almost 2 years. for her its her first relationship, for me its my second. both of us are in deep love and soon going to get married. in my past relationship ,i never had sex but did kiss my ex-gf and see ...
A. 14 June 2011: You should not ask him. Read Yos's answers for more insight on RJ. Did you read my linked post?... (read in full...)
My bf of 3 years doesn't want to tell the mother of his children that I exist.
Q. My bf of 3 years will not tell the mother of his children that I exist. I find it very disrespectful. I'm on the verge of leaving, we only argue about this, the rest of the relationship is good, how can I explain how hurtful this is without ...
A. 14 June 2011: How old are his children, and do they know you exist? This does seem to be an odd secret to keep, especially after 3 years. Kids pay attention. And kids talk. She'll know about you if you spend any time with them at all.
Is there some history with... (read in full...)
Girlfriend claims she got an STD from a towel or mat from her yoga class!! Is that really possible or is it more likely that she cheated on me?
Q. My girlfriend had a vaginal discharge for some time which worried her greatly. She was worried she had some sort of cancer. We had not been sexually active in quite some time (more than a year). She went to the doctor and she diagnosed her with tri...
A. 13 June 2011: I found a link for you that suggest it can be spread with fluid transfer: "How Is Trichomoniasis Spread?
"Trich is easily passed between sex partners. It is spread through vaginal intercourse, sharing sex toys, and mutual masturbation if fluids f... (read in full...)
Is this a good plan to help her get over my past?
Q. me and my girlfriend have been together for almost 2 years. for her its her first relationship, for me its my second. both of us are in deep love and soon going to get married. in my past relationship ,i never had sex but did kiss my ex-gf and see ...
A. 13 June 2011: Your girlfriend is suffering from retroactive (or retrograde) jealousy. I started a thread on it which may help you. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/retrograde-jealousy.html
Most women who are in love with a man are not going to be happy with kiss... (read in full...)
Burning sensation when I pee. Any Idea what this is all about?
Q. Okay. Since yesterday morning I've been feeling this weird burning orgasmic feeling when I'm finished peeing. Its like a huge burning orgasm that dies out. I don't what the fck it is but it hurts and I don't like it. and now every 2 hours or ...
A. 13 June 2011: "Can someone just tell me what to do. I don't want to go to my doctor."
You really don't have a choice, you are peeing blood now. Go see your doctor. You have a bad infection and it's only going to get worse without treatment. It might only be a ur... (read in full...)
Partner says my butt is too small!
Q. My partner keeps saying my butt is too small and that I need to eat more to make it bigger. However, a few years ago before we got together and were just mates, he once let slip that his ex had the best butt in the world. Now I'm getting anno...
A. 12 June 2011: "I already have a fat ass in my life. You."
"Knock it off with the 'eat more because your butt is too small' crap. I'm tired of hearing about it and honestly, I have about one nerve left, and you are getting on it. I'm healthy, I'm happy and I like... (read in full...)
Did I miss the relationship train?
Q. It would be wonderful to get some insight regarding how to get over something. I would like to share my life with someone, but I have been feeling a little down. I have always had guys as close friends and never got into a serious relation...
A. 9 June 2011: "An American guy with Hispanic heritage is still going to be like any other American guy. He won't be any different than an Anglo saxon guy raised in the United Sates... he won't be loving, kind, romantic or sweet..."
It's so sad that you think ther... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to get a mistress to do the sexual things that I can't do!
Q. My boyfriend wants me to squirt or give him a golden shower, but despite my best efforts I can't do either. He now wants to get a 'mistress' that can do these things. I know what ur all thinking 'get rid of him and find someone that loves me etc' ...
A. 8 June 2011: Good luck to you. I guess we have some problem giving him much credit because of the incredible audacity the guy has, to ask for a mistress because you don't want to/can't do some of the sexual stuff he thinks he deserves.
It's like saying the guy'... (read in full...)
How can I tell if my FWB is ever going to turn into something more?
Q. I have known this wonderful guy for four years. He always was so nice and made me laugh, both were in relationships at the time. But for the last four n half months we have been making hot passionate sex with kissing and cuddling and spending the ...
A. 8 June 2011: Ashtray? Puzzling.
Ah well, you will learn through experience, as I did, I see. When a man says he doesn't want to date you, he generally doesn't want to date you. His actions to date indicate he is happy with the sexual relationship, enjoys the ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to get a mistress to do the sexual things that I can't do!
Q. My boyfriend wants me to squirt or give him a golden shower, but despite my best efforts I can't do either. He now wants to get a 'mistress' that can do these things. I know what ur all thinking 'get rid of him and find someone that loves me etc' ...
A. 8 June 2011: Thanks for the follow up. You asked, 'what's a woman to do?' Well, based on what you wrote, you say 'no' to the mistress and 'I'm working on it' to his fetish requests, and 'it would help if you studied up on what to do for the female ejaculation ... (read in full...)
How can I tell if my FWB is ever going to turn into something more?
Q. I have known this wonderful guy for four years. He always was so nice and made me laugh, both were in relationships at the time. But for the last four n half months we have been making hot passionate sex with kissing and cuddling and spending the ...
A. 8 June 2011: In my experience, when a guy says he's not interested in more, he's not interested in more. This guys words and actions do match up, when you realize that he is providing the minimum required to keep you quiet and acquiescent. The song isn't a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to get a mistress to do the sexual things that I can't do!
Q. My boyfriend wants me to squirt or give him a golden shower, but despite my best efforts I can't do either. He now wants to get a 'mistress' that can do these things. I know what ur all thinking 'get rid of him and find someone that loves me etc' ...
A. 8 June 2011: To me sex is not the be all and end all of a relationship. ... But to him, the sex you're having doesn't satisfy him. So to him sex is more important?
Yes it is a part of it and the sex we have is amazing....far from vanilla lol....
but it's sti... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to get a mistress to do the sexual things that I can't do!
Q. My boyfriend wants me to squirt or give him a golden shower, but despite my best efforts I can't do either. He now wants to get a 'mistress' that can do these things. I know what ur all thinking 'get rid of him and find someone that loves me etc' ...
A. 8 June 2011: Tell us why he's the one for you? Why he's so wonderful? Maybe then someone will understand why you are contemplating allowing him to have sex with another woman.
Your guy has a fetish and if you can't fulfill the 'requirements' of the fetish you ... (read in full...)
What is it really like to be a mistress?
Q. What is it really like to be a mistress? I have been propositioned by a married man I've known for 2 years. He is 24 years older than me and he really turns me on. Obviously I know this is wrong but it all just sounds amazing. Plus he's had a rocky ...
A. 7 June 2011: I think it would be a lonely and poor life. Wife and kids get priority on his time and money. Oh and the holidays as well.
A girlfriend of mine got into a relationship with a married man. She even thought she was pregnant by him. So idiotic! He had ... (read in full...)
Does all of this sound reasonable? I no longer know what's right or not....
Q. I have a few questions: Whenever we argue, my boyfriend refuses to make up. When I offer affection, he refuses it. He says that offering affection doesn't change anything and in fact makes him angry because it's a sham - i.e., affection doesn'...
A. 7 June 2011: Rather than argue about all this, why not get yourself into counseling and find out? Get him into it too, try individual counseling for yourself and couples' counseling for you two together. From what you've written, you need an outside mediator to ... (read in full...)
I don't care if LDR fiance smokes pot...I just don't want to be lied to about it. How do I approach this?
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship. My fiance and I have been engaged for almost 6 months. But he's been lying to me. Leaving him is out of the question; he's a great guy and I love him with all my heart. He doesn't want me to smoke weed, and he ...
A. 7 June 2011: So you two have never met? And yet you are talking marriage. And marriage 4 years from now. Is he in prison or something?
You're putting a great deal of faith and energy in a guy who you may not actually be compatible with in real life. You're more... (read in full...)
Did I miss the relationship train?
Q. It would be wonderful to get some insight regarding how to get over something. I would like to share my life with someone, but I have been feeling a little down. I have always had guys as close friends and never got into a serious relation...
A. 7 June 2011: What about dating American men of Hispanic heritage? Someone suggested on one of your questions on this topic that you try moving to L.A. or any of the many towns with a rich Latino heritage. This would mitigate the culture gap and would give you a ... (read in full...)
What is an orgasm? And how do I achieve one?
Q. what do i do to experience an orgasm, i would like a clear defination of what orgasm really is. pls help me...
A. 7 June 2011: There's an extensive discussion of orgasm here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Orgasm
Basically, to reach orgasm, a woman's clitoris or in some cases, her 'G-spot' located inside the vagina, is stimulated until she experiences an involuntary set of r... (read in full...)
We dated in 3rd grade but he is not interested in me now, is there a way to get him to like me again?
Q. I like this guy but he says he does not like me. but we 'dated' in 3rd grade so is it posible to get him to like me if so how?...
A. 6 June 2011: Sorry, this question just sounded like someone from a younger age bracket. My mistake. You may have "dated" in third grade but people do change over time. Did he happen to tell you why he doesn't like you? I'm curious as to how he got to the point ... (read in full...)
We dated in 3rd grade but he is not interested in me now, is there a way to get him to like me again?
Q. I like this guy but he says he does not like me. but we 'dated' in 3rd grade so is it posible to get him to like me if so how?...
A. 6 June 2011: How old is he now and how old are you? Are you in school together?... (read in full...)
Found a lump in my right breast, but I'm too scared to go to the doctor!
Q. i know this might seem a bit weird, but iv noticed a lumb in my right breast, at first i just ignored it as i thought it may just be beacuse i lost weight and they are changing, but know i am a bit worried. i am to scared and ashamed to tell ...
A. 4 June 2011: Okay, chances are it's nothing serious. Most women have lumpy breasts. The key is knowing your own landscape of lumps.
That being said.
Ahem.
GET YOURSELF INTO THE DOCTOR'S OFFICE NOW!!!
Do you realize that if it IS something more serious, yo... (read in full...)
Girl I like was really quiet on our date. What does this mean?
Q. Hi cupid, This girl told me she liked me by saying that as long as I'm at her party than that's all that matters. So because I liked her as well I decided to ask her out. We went to the cinema and for something to eat. She was really quiet whi...
A. 4 June 2011: How old is the girl? And has she been out on other dates?... (read in full...)
What kinds of lies would you tolerate in a relationship?
Q. I know people lie. I know I tell a little lie at least every day whether it is i try not to but it happens. Now my question is what kinds of lies would you tolerate in a relationship. For example, a girl I have been seeing lies to me sometimes whe...
A. 4 June 2011: You know what, if she's looking for ways to avoid your company, I'd take that as a sign she's not the one for you. I agree with the distancing thing, but rather than just letting it fizzle out, why not be upfront with her and let her know why you ... (read in full...)
I'm 15, he's 18, I have a boyfriend but really like the 18 year old!
Q. Okay, well to begin with the truth, i am a 15 year old girl and i really like this 18 year old boy.. he tells me he really likes me too, and that he always wants to see me... we've met, and we're not together, but we always tell each other how much ...
A. 4 June 2011: Let's just put this in a way that might help you decide what to do:
"Okay, well to begin with the truth, i am a 15 year old boy and i really like this 18 year old girl.. she tells me she really likes me too, and that she always wants to see me..... (read in full...)
Gave up on relationships and got a few "friends with benefits" but now I'm wondering about this one...
Q. ok well recintly ive pretty much given up on wantin realtionships for a while so ive aquired myself a few "friends with benifits", but the problem is i dont know if me and one of them are starting to have real feelings for eachother, this morning i ...
A. 4 June 2011: So instead of chasing guys you suck them off instead? You must have lots of guys who don't want relationships lining up for you now.
If you want a relationship, having 'FWB' isn't going to get you there. Instead, it's going to label you as some... (read in full...)
I am 17, in love with a 47 year old married man, my parents don't like him, what should I do here??
Q. I am in love with a married man. He loves me back but we have never been physical and he has not cheated on his wife except for being in love with me. He has wanted a divorce with his wife for a long time, even before he met me and before we were ...
A. 4 June 2011: Seriously, healthy and normal 47 year old men would never dream of chatting up a 17 year old girl on the internet against her parents wishes. He may not seem like a monster to you but you're going to have to trust the grown ups on this one: he's not ... (read in full...)
Did my daughter have sex while she was visiting a friend? Or am I over-exaggerating things?
Q. I am a father to a 17 year old girl. A little over a month ago i gave her permission to stay at her friend's house during Easter recess. She DID go, because i called one day and spoke to her mom who then passed the phone. Fine. I was proud of her. ...
A. 3 June 2011: Don't worry about answering, OP. I only asked because you seem to completely leave your wife's viewpoint on this completely out of the story. If you're a cop then I'm sure you are very concerned that you'll be arrested and charged with ... (read in full...)
Due to sexual problems, no lovemaking for 6 months, any suggestions would hel[p??
Q. I am married for two years to a lovely woman whom i dated for 5 years before we got married. We used to be wiled in bed but as our marraige life goes by either i cant get it up or if i could i ejaculate prematurely leaving my wife unsatisfied. Now ...
A. 3 June 2011: Go see your doctor. Learn to pleasure your wife with things other than your penis. Your hands and mouth, for example. If you are feeling unhappy about this, I'm sure she would like to know that you are concerned and want to fix things so you can be ... (read in full...)
Aren't there ANY women who don't want kids out there?
Q. Why is it that women say that the things they want in a boyfriend or partner tend to be things like: confidence, kind, generous, loving, make me feel special, sense of humour? It's total nonsense. All they want is someone to father their chi...
A. 3 June 2011: Well, at 37, in 3 years, you'll be in the 40s crowd and the age-gap won't be such a big deal. Though I'm wondering how an age gap of 6 or so years at your age would matter. I know some extremely attractive 40-something women, and I honestly thought ... (read in full...)
What kinds of lies would you tolerate in a relationship?
Q. I know people lie. I know I tell a little lie at least every day whether it is i try not to but it happens. Now my question is what kinds of lies would you tolerate in a relationship. For example, a girl I have been seeing lies to me sometimes whe...
A. 3 June 2011: And just out of curiousity, how do you find out she lied to you? Just wondering....... (read in full...)
How do I start a conversation with a girl on facebook that I've not met properly but have a huge crush on her?
Q. There's this girl that I've not properly met but i added her on facebook after a party over a year ago.. I started talking to her on it a few months ago rarely and I really like her. I've got a massive crush on her but because I've never actually ...
A. 3 June 2011: You're chatting on line to her? Why not say something like, 'Hey, I really enjoyed chatting with you, you have a great sense of humour. Let's meet up for coffee or something, I need to get off the internet for a while and actually speak to someone ... (read in full...)
What kinds of lies would you tolerate in a relationship?
Q. I know people lie. I know I tell a little lie at least every day whether it is i try not to but it happens. Now my question is what kinds of lies would you tolerate in a relationship. For example, a girl I have been seeing lies to me sometimes whe...
A. 3 June 2011: I guess I'd want to understand this woman's motivation for lying. She could be lying because she's a congenital liar and lies just because. For no reason. She could be lying because she doesn't want to hurt your feelings, and thinks that telling you ... (read in full...)
Aren't there ANY women who don't want kids out there?
Q. Why is it that women say that the things they want in a boyfriend or partner tend to be things like: confidence, kind, generous, loving, make me feel special, sense of humour? It's total nonsense. All they want is someone to father their chi...
A. 3 June 2011: Your anger at the women who are honest about wanting a family in the future seems misplaced. Why would you want a woman who knows she will want children to lie to you to date you? To bury her dreams for a family, with a guy with all those wonderful ... (read in full...)
Did my daughter have sex while she was visiting a friend? Or am I over-exaggerating things?
Q. I am a father to a 17 year old girl. A little over a month ago i gave her permission to stay at her friend's house during Easter recess. She DID go, because i called one day and spoke to her mom who then passed the phone. Fine. I was proud of her. ...
A. 3 June 2011: I'm still waiting to hear what her mom has to say about all of this. Just because she works the graveyard shift doesn't mean she's not awake and present for some of the parenting duties. Surely she has an opinion about this incident?... (read in full...)
Did my daughter have sex while she was visiting a friend? Or am I over-exaggerating things?
Q. I am a father to a 17 year old girl. A little over a month ago i gave her permission to stay at her friend's house during Easter recess. She DID go, because i called one day and spoke to her mom who then passed the phone. Fine. I was proud of her. ...
A. 3 June 2011: Thanks for the followup. Is it possible that part of your anger is that you are doing this by yourself? I mean, you say your wife is working the graveyard shift, as a nurse, which I guess means she is working overnight but there are hours that she ... (read in full...)
Did my daughter have sex while she was visiting a friend? Or am I over-exaggerating things?
Q. I am a father to a 17 year old girl. A little over a month ago i gave her permission to stay at her friend's house during Easter recess. She DID go, because i called one day and spoke to her mom who then passed the phone. Fine. I was proud of her. ...
A. 2 June 2011: "Do you know how stupid I felt when i heard her tell this friend that she was at a park 60 miles away while under the supervision of neighbors whom i have known for over 15 years? Its almost like she was laughing at me for being so stupid."
I thin... (read in full...)
Did my daughter have sex while she was visiting a friend? Or am I over-exaggerating things?
Q. I am a father to a 17 year old girl. A little over a month ago i gave her permission to stay at her friend's house during Easter recess. She DID go, because i called one day and spoke to her mom who then passed the phone. Fine. I was proud of her. ...
A. 2 June 2011: My parents made it pretty clear what would happen if I broke curfew, lied or otherwise violated the boundaries that they drew. We didn't have mobile phones back in the Dark Ages nor did we have social networking, but I expect had I violated their ... (read in full...)
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