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writes:[Moderator note: this post has been edited for clarity]my mom promised me a phone for christmas. She said the place was too busy and she said we'd get one 'tomorrow'. That happened again and I still didnt get it. Today she got a phone (for herself). I'm 13 years old and in middle school everyone has a phone and sometimes girls ask for my number and I say I dont have a phone. It looks like I'm rejecting them and they're really hot too. My mother promised she'd take me out after school. She doesn't. She promises i will go to las vegas. And guess what? we didnt go and i think im about to run away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2010): Don't run away man, cause soon you can get a job and provide for yourself, then you can buy all the phones you want. Stay home and focus on school so you can get a good education, a great job, and super hot wife lol! You want good money? Focus on school, figure out what you want to do and study it. In the end you'll have everything you need and want. You can take yourself to vegas.Also, maybe your mum doesn't have the money? Or maybe she's to tired or burnt out from work? Where is your Dad? It's tuff being a parent sometimes.Be happy you don't live in a war torn country getting bombed every day. Or a poor country with no food. If you run away you'll have nothing, and it will feel like you do live in worse country, the streets are meen and unforgiving, no one loves you on the streets, at least not the good kind of love lol.
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reader, celtic_tiger  +, writes (14 April 2010):
 Do you get an allowence? Pocket Money? What about Birthdays, Christmas?
My Mother has a saying. I WANT never gets. This is because it shows a lack of respect and is just plain greedy.
Have you ever said PLEASE, and THANK YOU? or do you just expect your mother to provide what ever you ask for as soon as you demand it? I WANT, I WANT, ?
What kind of phone do you want? I am sure you WANT one of the newest, most expensive, coolest phones? Am I right? But if you want a phone that badly, why not pick out the cheapest most basic version, that is not that expensive?
My advice, stop whining about what you WANT, and save up. If you get an allowence, save your money. Dont buy things you dont need. If you dont, go out and do jobs for people. Wash cars, mow lawns, walk dogs. DO SOMETHING, rather than just expecting these things to fall into your lap.
Where do you think your Mum gets her money from? Where does anyone get money from? They WORK for it, and believe me, it doesnt grow on trees. I work, and I have to pay bills. If I see something special I want to buy, I have to make sure the bills are paid first and sometimes, I may not have enough left, so I have to save up for the special thing. THAT IS HOW LIFE WORKS.
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reader, raiders +, writes (14 April 2010):
 First of all before you start throwing tantrums like a toddler you should take under consideration your mum sacrifice she has to makes to feed you, dress you, and to put a roof over your head. Raising a kid is not easy and the sad thing is that parents compensate their kids with material things out of guilt for having to work long hours, by during this they are bringing up spoiled little brats. Second the streets is a dangerous place to be and keep in mind that there are pimps who collects run away not only females but males as well. Sex trafficking is a very profitable business that recruits young people to become sex slaves. Think of the danger you will be facing out in the streets.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (14 April 2010):
 Are you kidding?
Wow, Whine much? I know you are 13 but you are acting like a 3 year old.
A 13 year old should not be running around Las Vegas either.
IF YOU seriously want a phone I would start negotiating chores so you can EARN enough money to buy your phone..
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reader, Polaroid93 +, writes (14 April 2010):
Grow up, find some people with real problems and see how yours compares. You sound like a really spoilt typical western kid
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2010): well your mum probably doesn't want to dissapoint you, that's why she says things and makes promises. they probably aren't empty promises, because one day she probably will do what she said..but adults are very busy people and do actually have to pay for other things, like the roof over your head and the food that you eat. maybe she needed a mobile phone, for her job, or to make sure she's in contact with other people.but if you wanted a phone that much, go earn money and buy one. you sound a bit spoilt to me. sorry if that's not what you want to hear, but you can't expect everything from your mum, you should appreciate her for what she does do for you.running away will probably make her less likely to buy you a phone anyway!!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (14 April 2010):
 I agree with the aunts that said to get off your hind end and get an after school or summer job and earn the dang phone yourself. I'm sure you'll appreciate it more if you are the one paying for it. I'll give you 10 bucks to mow my lawn.
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reader, Dekten  +, writes (14 April 2010):
Where will you run away to? It's not a solution.
Just communicate with her clearly not to make promises she can't keep.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2010): just tell your mum that she has to stop making promises that she wont keep,, and just you remember all good things come to those who wait :)...and theres no point running away from home just because you arent getting things you want! your mum really cares about you..maybe she just forgot about these things!
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (14 April 2010):
 Seriously?
Actually, NOT giving hot girls your number is the way to make you seem even more attractive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2010): I know exactly how you feel my mum does the same,either I don't gete the item or I wait months I.e I have been waiting 3 months for my laptop,however I know that I am getting for sure
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (14 April 2010):
 Your mom should not make empty promises. This is very bad .I am so sorry that you did not get a phone .
Maybe, you should tell your mom not to make promises if she cannot fulfill them.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (14 April 2010):
Haha!!! You're seriously considering running away because of a phone? Believe it or not, back in my day, I didn't get a cell phone until I was 17 and back then that was young to have one. Don't you have at least a house phone? And what's this thing about Vegas? There must be some sort of purpose with Vegas because I certainly don't think you're old enough to be out at the Roullette table.
Have you ever thought that maybe your mom doesn't have the money? Maybe she got a new phone for herself because she has actual important things to talk about and business to take care of? Maybe she thinks it's nonsense for a 13-year old to have a cell phone just like I do? If you want to talk to your little hot girlfriends, talk to them at school or Myspace or something.
Maybe your mom shouldn't be making promises she can't keep. And you should talk to her about it. Let her know that it would be easier if she just said "no" instead of promising something that she won't follow through with because it disappoints you. So I really don't think you're wanting to run away completely over a phone, but I think you want your mom's attention because she doesn't follow through on what she says she's going to. Don't run away. If your mom wants to teach you a lesson about running away, she can have the cops find you and put you in juvie. I don't think you want that. Just talk to her, tell her that you're tired of feeling disappointed and let down.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2010): nothing comes for free, even from our parents and you have to learn that if you want something then you have to be willing to work for it - you may want to think about getting a paper round or a similar part time job. If your mum has not get you what you wanted then maybe she doesn't think you need it - i assume she provides food, shelter, clothes and love for you ... what more do you need?
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (14 April 2010):
 Your mum did not give you a phone is hardly a reason to run away, It is better to have a safe home and a roof over your head than to run away. In todays day and time you cannot trust anyone and people offering you help are likely to use you and abuse you. You are safe at home. I did not grow up with everything I wanted but that made me a stronger and more determined person to make sure I studied and achieve everything I wanted that included buying my own things. Think of those that are less fortunate and not compare to people above you, this way you will learn to appreciate what you have and strive to become better. You can runaway but the grass is not always greener on the other side.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2010): what's wrong with you? Get a job and buy the phone. What are you going to do with no money, where can you go besides back home? If you leave your parents will really never get you that phone.
ask your mom how much she makes a month and her expenses to keep you alive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2010): Honestly? Why are you going to run away over a phone? I am fairly young myself and didn't get a phone until I graduated. Why do you need one? I'm not trying to be rude, and I do understand how awkward it is to be the only person without one, but it's not a necessity.
I could understand running away because your mother abused you or because you were neglected, but because she hasn't bought you a phone?! Being 13 is a hard age because hormones are just starting in, but please please please try to look at this. It's a phone. You may just need to ask your mother nicely for it again.
Can you imagine how much it would hurt her for you to run away? Over something so materialistic. Please, you are showing a level of maturity here by asking other people, so try to look at things from her view. And think about this, is a phone worth all the heartache and fall out running away would cause?
Again, I know this is going to come across badly and sound rude, and I'm sorry in advance but I am trying to give you some perspective, which is exactly what you have stated you want by asking other people.
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