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Oh my god over a year on since i first joined this site (where has the time gone) and i'm still loving it.
I got alot of help from all of the fantastic aunts and uncles when i needed it most, it was great getting everyone else's views on my situation at the time and it's great to see that those same people are still here doing the same fantastic job.
Due to what i have been through and the advise i have recieved off of here i am a much stronger person now and have so much more confidence in myself.
I am turning thirty this year i have a wonderful husband, yeah we have had our problems but thats life, and two fantastic children and i really believe my life is starting now and i cant wait for the rest of it.
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How do you find the strength to leave a relationship that you know is not good for you and will probably never change?
Q. How do you find the strength to leave a relationship that you know is not good for you and will probably never change? I know everyone says being alone will be fine, but I have panic attacks just thinking about it. I know I am possibly a bit ...
A. 7 July 2007: I think you say you love him so much to justify staying with him so you don't have to be on your own, which is really not good.
Have you not got any family or friends that you can stay with? as i'm sure if they knew how you felt they would be more... (read in full...)
When is the best time to tell my friend that I love her...?
Q. Hi me and my best friend are both 22 years old and she is female. Thing is we see each other very often and at some weekends or when we are both off work we do stop over at each others houses and yes we do sleep together but obviously nothing ...
A. 6 July 2007: Saying 'I LOVE YOU' to someone really should not make you nervous.
There is no ideal time or place to say it, if thats what you really feel it really is that easy to come out and say it.
Why do you think it is not as easy as i sounds and why does... (read in full...)
I love my husband even though we've had our bad times but I feel I've missed out on other parts of my life.
Q. I've been married 5 years and got together when I was only 16, I love my husband even though we've had our bad times but I feel I've missed out on other parts of my life. I know I'm being selfish but I can't shake this feeling that there's more to ...
A. 6 July 2007: Hi,
I would just like to say i don't think you are being selfish at all, but at the same time not all people are into romancing they just happen to show their love in other ways.
Which your husband obviously does like you say giving up work so ... (read in full...)
I think I might be pregnant; my boyfriend and I are happy but I'm worried about how others may react
Q. Hey guys. My name is Gemma and I am 18 years old. At the minute I am worrying about whether I could be pregnant or not and I don't know what to do. Me and my Boyfriend would love to have a child together and feel ready and committed to have a child ...
A. 6 July 2007: I was 18 when i fell pregnant with my little man, at the time we had only just got back together after having split up for a few months so i was really worried about telling my parents.
We went round there together and just sat them down and told... (read in full...)
Why does she keep playing with my feelings like this?
Q. I am 18 and 'gay' female and recently made friends with a 23 year old 'gay' female from myspace. I have been texting her for ages now and have feelings for her and she knows this. I have met her once before but it wasn't arranged, I was sat in the ...
A. 5 July 2007: Personally i would have nothing to do with someone that was messing with my head as much as she is.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I'm worried because my heart pumps really fast! Is this normal?
Q. Recently even now, my heart has been pumping really fast. I don't know what is this caused by. It could be the food I am eating or my nervousness. I am worried about this....
A. 5 July 2007: Have you started drinking alot of tea or coffee recently?, as in large doses this can cause the heart rate to speed up.
If you are feeling tense or worried about something this could cause anxiety which can increase the heart rate as well.
Smoki... (read in full...)
Does my music teacher have a crush on ME?
Q. I think i have fallen in love with my music teacher i absoulutly rubbish at music but he always seems to chooses me i really like him he always trys to stay close to me and all ways flirts with me and i feel safe when i am around him he is really ...
A. 5 July 2007: It would be totally inappropriate for yor teacher to feel this way babe, and as you have mentioned the fact that you feel you are 'rubbish at music' i feel that the case will probably be that he is trying to boost your confidence and spending more ... (read in full...)
Should I forgive him and give him another chance or forget about him?
Q. Hey, This boy who I have known since I can remember has just started talking to me again, but I'm not sure whether I should get too involved with him again or not. The reason I'm not sure is because he was horrible to me when we were a bit younger ...
A. 5 July 2007: We all do some really nasty things when we are young but everyone deserves a second chance to prove themselves and like you have said when you were friends you had a great friendship.
I don't think it would hurt to let him know how much he hurt you ... (read in full...)
I'm new to sex... How can I please my man while I'm "on top"? What sort of moves should I be pulling?
Q. This is embarrasing but I need advice, I am new to the sex life, I have only slept with one man and I still only sleep with him, now when it comes to our love making, he is incredible in bed, he is always on top which i love because he knows how to ...
A. 5 July 2007: Hey just go with the flow and enjoy the moment, you say it was embarrasing for you but that was because you have not done it before.
New things are experienced with each new partner and just because you don't know how do it and they have to guid... (read in full...)
We don't choose to be attracted to people. It just happens. When it does, should we just dismiss these feelings under the aegis of "respect"?
Q. I recently posted regarding my problem, that is, I have very strong feelings for a married female co-worker. I got the expected responses (i.e. stay away from her!!!) but my feelings persist. I simply cannot stop thinking about her. I won't bore ...
A. 5 July 2007: Me and my husband own a coffee shop he works there i don't, a year ago a women that had been going in there was going through marriage difficulties, and talked to my husband about it, she knew full well he was married and had a young daughter yet ... (read in full...)
Can anybody give me some advice to as why my ex abusive partner does not approach me when we split up and apologize even when he knows that he was in the wrong?
Q. Can anybody give me some advice to as why my ex abusive partner does not approach me when we split up and apologize even when he knows that he was in the wrong? We have had a stormy realationship for many years and he has been emotionally and ...
A. 5 July 2007: If he apologise to you he actually has to admit to himself that he has a problem and he might not be ready for that, there is no justification for what he has done to you and i don't agree with it, but i have looked at everyones opinions and just ... (read in full...)
Me and my boyfriend have been together 5 weeks and we are both virgins and are both ready for sex.
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together 5 weeks and we are both virgins and are both ready for sex. We are both nervous and don't know how to approach it. We tell each other everything and are completely comfortable with each other. Please help and ...
A. 5 July 2007: I am not going to lecture bacause most of us have all been there and done it, but you really need to consider the consequences if you get caught doing this as it is illegal.
Obviously at such a young age it is not all the safe just having cond... (read in full...)
Help! I think my boyfriend is sleeping with his younger sister!
Q. Help! I think my boyfriend is sleeping with his younger sister! I have no proof, what should I do? They both smoke pot, and talk about porn and things....He has even told me that he thinks his sister looks like Angelina Jolie (v.unlikely) and this...
A. 5 July 2007: This is a very difficult one, like YummyMummy says if you are uncomfortable and really think something is going on walk away.
I always go with my gut feeling and to this day it has never let me down.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I would rather date his best mate, but dont want to seem a slut
Q. Hi there, I met a guy a couple of months ago in a club (call him Mr A) and we have met up most wkds since, we have kissed loads but have not yet slept together altho we did sleep in the same bed once - but nothing more than kissing and cudd...
A. 5 July 2007: You have not slept with either of them and it's not worked out with MrA, so i can not personally see any harm in it.
And if MrA is not really interested in seeing you anymore then he should not be bothered if you start dating his best friend.
Take ... (read in full...)
Are people who are jealous of me just bad people?
Q. I have been conditioned to feel very afraid of people who are jealous of me in some way. I use too much of imagination to develop some picture about the personality of that person who is jealous / judgemental to me in some manner. They are bad ...
A. 5 July 2007: People that are jealous of you are not bad people and they should certainly not be rejected by you, because if you start doing that you will probably find that you have no one around you at all.
Everyone is jealous of someone for some reason or anot... (read in full...)
I want to break up with him, but he always seems to convince me not to
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for just over a year but want to split up with him because we have been having arguments for aout 7 months. I have tried splitting up with him several times but he always changes my mind andi give him one more chance ...
A. 5 July 2007: You need to sit down and tell him you are unhappy in the relationship and that it is not working anymore, and you can't stop arguing so you don't think it's good for either of you to carry on.
But if you tell him that it is over then you really need... (read in full...)
Is it normal to look at other girls even though I love my amazing girlfriend?
Q. My girlfriend is amazing. She's smart, funny and I have a great time with her. She treats me like a king, gives me space and I can totally be myself with her. We've been dating for almost 2 years and living together for a year. The problem is...
A. 5 July 2007: Hey that is totally normal in fact i would say there is something wrong with you if you did not check out other women, like you say you would not be unfaithful to her so don't worry about it.
We are all attracted to things of beauty and the natu... (read in full...)
My cousin hates my boyfriend!
Q. Now My boyfriend is four years older than me im 19 and hes 24. thats not where it ends. we started off as friends then the feelings got mutual. we spent some time apart and now we are together.its been 7 months now and the only thing standing in ...
A. 5 July 2007: It should not stand in your way, talk to your cousin and tell her that you have taken on board everything she has to say but you really like him and are going to keep on seeing him.
Tell her if she loves you she will stand by that decision and be h... (read in full...)
I dont trust my boyfriend because he talks to other girls
Q. Me and my boyfriend recently got back together after a break up that happened about a week ago, we've been dating almost 2 years. Over that past week he told me he needed to find himself, so I gave him the time and space to do so, and we got back ...
A. 5 July 2007: You should not want to and can't change someone, you started seeing each other beacuse you liked each other for who you were when you met.
If you can't communicate and there is no trust, i personally think there is no relationship, maybe it woul... (read in full...)
I am feeling shut out from my daughter because of the boy she is dating
Q. I am a married woman with a 20 year old daughter. In the past few months she has been seeing a boy who we have not met and they have become very close. He is also 20 and is her first boyfriend and I have just found out that their relationship has ...
A. 5 July 2007: Hey she is a young adult now, and as long as she is happy and being safe that should be all that counts, so i would not take it to heart some things are just a little uncomfortable to speak to your mum about and her sex life, if she feels like i do ... (read in full...)
I havent seen him for years but now my feelings for him are stronger than ever. Should I contact him?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for more than 5 years but but I have felt our relationship has stalled and we are more like brother and sister. I love him alot but can't picture myself with him even though he constantly talks about having a family ...
A. 5 July 2007: You say you love you boyfriend, but are you in love with him?
If not then it might be wise to disolve the relationship as it is not fair on either of you to carry on, especially when he has been talking about having a family.
Don't think personal... (read in full...)
I broke up with my boyfriend for another guy who dumped me and now I want my ex back
Q. i split up with my ex a few weeks ago after a year because i fancied a guy at work. me and this guy started sleeping with each other. now he has gone away for a month and said that when he returns we will just be mates. i relised i shouldnt have ...
A. 5 July 2007: Do you really still like him or are you trying to go back because you don't want to be on your own?
If you really do want to be with him for the right reasons then whats the harm in trying to win him back, but i do think you will need to give him ... (read in full...)
Will my boyfriend be able to tell that I am a virgin?
Q. My Boyfriend Thinks I Have had Sex But Im A Virgin Will He Know?...
A. 5 July 2007: He will have no idea physically unless you tell him, the only thing he might pick up on is inexperience but that is no big deal and quite a turn on to some people.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I'm on a trip around the world and worried I'm drinking (far) too much!
Q. I just cant stop drinking... Im on a years trip around the world..trip of a lifetime yes? Im ruining it ...I just cant stop... I dont really want to go home just now but I cant find a programme in English to help me... any ideas? For the first ...
A. 5 July 2007: I am really glad that you have managed to get this sorted out and i wish you the very best.
Take care.x.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend had sex with my mother!
Q. I came home from work the other day early and found my boyfriend who is 39, having sex with my mother, aged 69, on my bed. My parents live with me, as does my boyfriend who moved in last year. He does drink a lot as he is having problems with post ...
A. 4 July 2007: If you feel this way , which is totally understandable do you really think it would be a good idea to carry on this relationship, as i think it would be virtually impossible to have a happy loving relationship with this hanging over you.
He has said... (read in full...)
The guy I like and I are both shy; any ideas for starting conversation when we're alone?
Q. Okay. I like this guy and we're both shy. so Well, I asked him out...sort of. Well, it's like a group date. I asked him to come with me and my friends to New York to see Emma Watson. She plays Hermione Granger in The Harry Potter Movie. She's ...
A. 4 July 2007: Well you are obviously harry potter fans (me too) so why not talk about the new film, have you both seen it yet if not try and arrange to both go together and see it, it should keep things flowing because it's something that is of interest to you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I split up and I want him back
Q. Right well where do i start. me and my ex boyfriend were with each other for a long time and split up over something stupid. so i wanted to get him back. so i went with one of his best friends, who has a girlfriend. i'm still in love with my ex ...
A. 4 July 2007: Oh dear that was not a good move was it, does your ex know about the friend and does the friends girlfriend know?
If it's just between you two, then you could wait around but only for a bit, you can't put your life on hold just waiting for him to c... (read in full...)
I want the guy I like to quit smoking before I'll date him
Q. if the guy i like smokes pot should i tell him he has to stop if he wants to go out with me? He also smokes cigarettes when he drinks i really like this guy but are these things changable?...
A. 4 July 2007: These things can only be changed if he is prepared to change them, when you like someone you generally have to accept everything that comes with them ,and if you can't do that then you really don't like them enough to be in a relationship with ... (read in full...)
My daughter ended an affair she was having with a married man twice her age and now he won't stop pestering her
Q. I've recently found out my 19 year daughter has been having an affair for just under a year with a married man of 39. His wife has known for 10 months and didn't until a few days ago choose to tell me. I feel as though my world has been turned ...
A. 4 July 2007: AS a parent i think the more we try to get involved the further we are likely to push them away, she is your daughter and you love her and sometimes thats all we can do love them and just be there for them when it all goes wrong.
I know and unde... (read in full...)
He got mad at me..when he proposed marriage and I thought he was joking! What should I do?
Q. I've known this guy for years and there was always a connection and flirting. the other day he proposed marriage to me and while he was being serious i thought he was joking. he got really mad and now he says he doent even know if he wants to ...
A. 4 July 2007: Let him get over his bruised ego and then talk to him and tell him how you feel about him.
Like the other aunts have said he is probably just feeling a bit embarrased at the moment, and it's not that he can't trust you, sometimes we say things we d... (read in full...)
Can you be pregnant and still get your period?
Q. erm can u be pregnant but come on your period?xx...
A. 4 July 2007: Yes many people still have their periods whilst they are pregnant, so if you have had unprotected sex and that is a worry for you, then get a home testing kit or visit your doctor to put your mind at rest.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
She says there is no one else she is interested in..but she does seem confused. Should I date her, anyways?
Q. Hi I am 28 yrs old and i have been friendley with this girl now for 12 months. Every time we see each other when were out we always end up together. recentley we have been getting closer and i can feel myself falling for her, she wants to sleep wi...
A. 4 July 2007: THen you need to be brave and take her out just the two of you and have a chat.
Tell her that you really like her but that you get the feeling that something is holding her back and you would like to know what it is so you could try to solve it. ... (read in full...)
How do I befriend my bf's pregnant ex gf?
Q. I need some advice. My boyfriend is having a baby soon with another girl. i really want to befriend her but its very hard as she dislikes other women, and no doubtably dislikes me. how do i befriend her? I want our relationship to last but he...
A. 4 July 2007: Is the only reason you want to befriend her, because you are worried now the time has nearly come for the baby to be born, that he might want to try again, or maybe if you are friends with her you can always be there when they are together so you ... (read in full...)
I end up having sex with the ex everytime he comes to see the kids! Any advice?
Q. hi,I have 2 children and my relationship has faded into thin air. I was with their dad. He hardly comes to see the kids and when he does we end up in bed. What can i do?...
A. 4 July 2007: I know all about that situation, because i was there myself only a few months ago.
It's hard to let go of someone wether you are still in love with them or not, but you really need to think about you now.
Could you move on while this is happenin... (read in full...)
My finacee shoved me! Should I still marry him?
Q. I have been on before about my fiance of 7 years kissing someone else well I tried to get over it went on holidays with him we got on great until we came back! Everything was fine but there is this genuine guy who likes me but will never jeaopardise ...
A. 4 July 2007: So you know another guy likes you, and yet you chose to stay with someone that has been unfaithful to you and pushed you about.
Personally if i were in your shoes i would not have to think twice, there are no children involved and you are youn... (read in full...)
I have the biggest crush on a guy at work!!
Q. I've fallen for a guy at work, we get on really well as friends, we have loads in common, and his family like me. Only problem is he has a girlfriend, and I'm friends with her. I would never do anything while he's still dating her, I'm not that kind ...
A. 4 July 2007: You are trying to justify what you are doing and it is clear that no one is going to agree with you, the only time that will happen is if you say you will walk away and forget him.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Why do men look at other women?
Q. Why do married men--or any man for that matter--stare at other women when they want to be with you and they love you and all that stuff? Men are so confusing sometimes I'm surprised I have nerves left....
A. 4 July 2007: It's a perfectly natural thing for any male or female to do we all like something that is beautiful, and it draws our attention wether it be art, sunsets, or other people.
All the time they are with you i would not worry about it because if they... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to smell?
Q. Recently, I touched myself down there while I was feeling myself. When I smelled my fingers it smelled like fish--is it supposed to smell like that?...
A. 4 July 2007: If you are showering daily, then you should not be smelling anything like that down there.
If you hygiene is very good and you are still having this problem it might be that you have an infection, so you would need to visit your doctor.
Take ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend demanded all my passwords and that I stop talking to a friend--is he controlling?
Q. Hello, My name is Natalie. I am 19 years old and having some ridiculous boyfriend troubles. My boyfriend, Joe, of 8 months, knew my email password and I assume has been checking it often. Last night, he texted me freaking out about how he rea...
A. 4 July 2007: Is he controlling?
Without a shadow of a doubt he is, he had absolutely no right at all to demand your passwords for anything they are personal to you.
You have not messed up at all, you have done nothing wrong, and it is good that you and your ex ... (read in full...)
My father isn't taking his doctor's advice--how do I help him?
Q. I am going through a rough time right now. My dad doesn't feel too good. His heart is bothering him. His doctor put him on the omega 3 diet. I am very concerned and worried about his health. However he is not following the diet. What should I do to ...
A. 4 July 2007: If you are that concerned, which i imagine you are then why don't you go and visit your dad's doctor and tell them of your concerns, and see if they could maybe pay him a visit to see how he is getting on.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
The condom had a hole--what do I do now?
Q. I am 14 and yesterday I had sex with my boyfriend. It was with a condom, but on the end when he pulled it out there was a little hole. What should I do now? Please help me--I don’t want to get pregnant. ...
A. 4 July 2007: You have up untill 72 hours after to take the morning after pill, but it is more effective the earlier you take it, so like the others have said you need to get to your doctors.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I have the biggest crush on a guy at work!!
Q. I've fallen for a guy at work, we get on really well as friends, we have loads in common, and his family like me. Only problem is he has a girlfriend, and I'm friends with her. I would never do anything while he's still dating her, I'm not that kind ...
A. 2 July 2007: We always want what we can't have, just try and stay clear of him for a while and get out loads and try and meet different people, and i applaude you for having morals and not trying anything on.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I'm on a trip around the world and worried I'm drinking (far) too much!
Q. I just cant stop drinking... Im on a years trip around the world..trip of a lifetime yes? Im ruining it ...I just cant stop... I dont really want to go home just now but I cant find a programme in English to help me... any ideas? For the first ...
A. 25 June 2007: Is there a local hospital or doctors surgery near where you are that would have an english speaking doctor that would be able to point you in the right direction.
Take care and i hope you get the help you need.
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