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Oh my god over a year on since i first joined this site (where has the time gone) and i'm still loving it.
I got alot of help from all of the fantastic aunts and uncles when i needed it most, it was great getting everyone else's views on my situation at the time and it's great to see that those same people are still here doing the same fantastic job.
Due to what i have been through and the advise i have recieved off of here i am a much stronger person now and have so much more confidence in myself.
I am turning thirty this year i have a wonderful husband, yeah we have had our problems but thats life, and two fantastic children and i really believe my life is starting now and i cant wait for the rest of it.
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Should I give in so we can be together?
Q. Dear Cupid... I have an ex-boyfriend his B. I still like him alot but I guess all he wants to do is have sex with me, In fact we broke up because I didn't want to have sex....Should i give him what he wants so we can be together again?...
A. 30 June 2007: If he broke up with you just because you would not have sex, then he is not worth it.
It is illegal for you to be doing that which could involve prison time if you get caught, also you said you did not want to, so clearly he has no respect for you ... (read in full...)
He says young relationships rarely last, does this mean he isnt commited to me?
Q. Me and my boyfriend are both young, I'm 18 and hes turning 19 soon. We have been going out for 5 months now and I'm scared/paranoid hes going to break up with me because I don't feel he is commited as he says he is from a disscussion we recently ...
A. 30 June 2007: I personally think for his age he has his head well screwed on, he is right you do have to make the most of every day, because you never know whats round the corner so if you don't set yourself up for a long relationship then if things do not work ... (read in full...)
After illness, my looks deteriorated and he went on a date with another girl
Q. I have known my boyfriend for 4 yrs now through the internet. I was in a relationship when I get to know him and broke up with my ex few months after knowing him. The break up with my ex have nothing to do with my boyfriend. My boyfriend an...
A. 30 June 2007: I wish you the very best and hope everything works out for you.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I want to send my boyfriend naked pics of myself
Q. My boyfried of two years is now long distance and I miss our sex life. Would it be stupid to e-mail him some nude pictures of myself? I am no model and a little bit round around the waist. Will he be shocked? How do I pose?...
A. 30 June 2007: Have to agree with eddie it's a no go on sending pictures of yourself, as if things should go pear shaped between you two they could end up on the web avaiablr for all to see, well thats one possibility .
I personally would not take the risk but ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated on me with my best friend
Q. Ok well my bf cheated on me with my bestfriend not even just once but like 4 times in like a few days and i found out obviously which he is also her ex boyfriend and she cheated on her boyfriend with mine but what do i do its hard for me to be mad ...
A. 30 June 2007: I understand that you are very close to your best friend, but she did not betray you once it was a couple of times, i would not even dream about doing anything like that to my best friend, you just don't go there.
So if you forgive her are you ever... (read in full...)
What will it taste like if I ejaculate in his mouth?
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for 6 weeks i have been divorced for 5 years but never done adventrose things with my ex, with my new fella it great but he wants me to cum in his mouth an i not sure ??? can anyone tell me what it taste like?????please ...
A. 30 June 2007: He has obviously had it done to him before and likes it so i would just go with it ,if you feel comfortable with it.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I'm walking on eggshells with my online girlfriend
Q. hi, i met this woman online about a year ago, we have never met although we were suppose to in november, i have totaly fallen for her, i think that she has a partner or is married due to certain events that have happened, but she has always said she ...
A. 30 June 2007: People can say what they like online and you will never know whether it's the truth or not, i would be worried about the fact you are not meeting her till november, why so long away?
Maybe she is married or with someone and they are away on busi... (read in full...)
How can I help him get over the feelings he still harbours for his ex, so I can date him?
Q. Is there any way to help the guy I like, who was recently dumped, get over his ex so we can date? He really loves/d her, and I know he likes me and wants to see what could happen with him and I... but he needs time to deal with his other confusing, ...
A. 30 June 2007: Just give him time and space to get over his ex and when he is ready to move on if he likes you he will let you know.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
My online boyfriend doesn't seem as keen as he used to be
Q. I met this man on the net, he promised me all what a lady will want. I trusted him. for more than 10 times he promised me but never fulfiled his promises. He hardly calls these days, when i call he complains of time difference (He is in New York ...
A. 30 June 2007: Move on i think it quite clear that he is no longer interested ,sorry.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
What are some effective ways to beat boredom?
Q. Is w**king the only way out for people who are burned out / depressed / bored? What are the other effective ways to deal with this feelings?...
A. 30 June 2007: Become an agony aunt on this site that will cure your boredom as you we get asked some really far out questions sometimes.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
She's got a boyfriend but she likes me; what should I do about it?
Q. I like Missy and we'r kind of seeing each other. Shes got a boyfriend and she likes me too. We have gone out for dates, held hands, make out short of sleeping with her. Last Thursday she went for a vacation comin back this Sunday didn't tell me who ...
A. 29 June 2007: She has the best of both worlds here, a loyal boyfriend and you who seems to be prepared to hang about for her.
When she gets back you should talk to her and tell her while she has been away it has given you time to think and you are no longer prep... (read in full...)
I can't move on as I feel obligated to help my ex husband
Q. ok, here is the scenerio: I cheated on my ex husband 8 years ago for a year, I told him and we divorced with no children. I cannot seem to seperate from him, we have a special loyal relationship. He has not been able to be in a stable relation...
A. 29 June 2007: It's going to be impossible for you to move on from this all of the time your ex husband is still living with you and the same for him.
Is there not any family or friends that he could stay with?
You could still be there for him but at least th... (read in full...)
I don't want to give him the wrong idea
Q. i split up with my boyfriend two weeks ago and we are still in touch and often speak. he is going to his mates engagement party tomorrow night and has invited me to go with him and he said he would pay for my train there and back i am just scared ...
A. 29 June 2007: Thats a decision you will have to make on your own, you have told him nothing will happen, he might have taken that in and still wants you to go anyway because he feels comfortable being with you.
You could go and when you meet him just say to him,... (read in full...)
I can't bring myself to leave my husband but I can't end my affair
Q. I am very confused and need help. I have been married for almost ten years. About fours years after we were married I became pregnant and was blessed with a beautiful daughter. Unfortunately, I became very ill during the pregnancy and almost died ...
A. 29 June 2007: The first priority should be your husband and daughter, have you ever thought that maybe with everything you went through, through your pregnancy and giving birth that it may well of had a major impact on your husband, have you talked to him about ... (read in full...)
I'm on the pill but is it possible I'm pregnant?
Q. i have recently been gaining a lot of weight and always wanting to eat, my nipples are also starting to hurt me and i keep feeling sick on and off i am currently on the pill and dont think it is possible and i also used a condom the last time i had ...
A. 29 June 2007: These can also be symtoms of being due on, have you just started on the pill or changed pill recently?, go and run your concerns past your doctor and they can do a test for you, and get to the bottom of it.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
He says he's not the jealous type but he hates me being around his best mate
Q. My boyfriend's told me that he's no way near the jealous type. Yet, according to my friend, whenever I'm with his best mate on my own talking to him (I don't fancy him), it 'pisses him off'. I know my friend's not lying to me about it, because ...
A. 29 June 2007: I agree with YummyMummy just come straight out and ask him what it's all about, you never know it might be something like he has been stung in the past before by an ex going off with his friend or something.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I don't want to leave my possesive fiance but I like this new boy
Q. hi!!! i really need your advice bcz i m really worried..i got a fiance since last 5 years he loves me alot n i also love him but the prob iz tht he is very possesive, he become angry on small things and use slang language in short he dont respect ...
A. 29 June 2007: For a start i can not see how the boy you met at the party a few days ago can be in love with you quite this soon, sorry to say that to you but that just what i think, secondly is there any ggod points about your fiance because you have not listed ... (read in full...)
He's impotant; what can I do to help him?
Q. hi i've just started a relationship with a guy who i've lknown for about 15 months,. he's 53 and i'm 38. we've been very attracted to each other from the start and we're very close friends. the problem is that he's suddenly impotent, we ha...
A. 29 June 2007: Impotence can be due to many different factors, it could be tempory due to stress, have you noticed him being under any stress for any reason?
Or it could be something longstanding due to anxiety and giult from childhood another thing that can caus... (read in full...)
I love him but he treated me harshly. Now he wants me back! What should I do?
Q. I was going out with someone for 8 months and in the this time i found videos of him having sex with the mother of his son, he treat me like i meant nothing but then would tell me he loves me. He would get txt messages off other women who i thou...
A. 29 June 2007: Go with your heart girl, everyone has a past and thats where it should be left, don't let things like that spoil your chance of happiness.
Evryone deserves a second chance.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
He's not interested in sex; is it hopeless?
Q. My bf of three years has had not much interest in sex for the second half of our relationship. For months I didn't say anything as he was busy and tired so just put it down to that. After a long while I raised it and he said was that he didn't know ...
A. 29 June 2007: Well you really need to sit him downand tell him how you feel, tell him you feel unloved and not wanted anymore and there is no point in the relationship carrying on if this is the way it is going to be.
Sex is not the be all and end all of a rela... (read in full...)
I like this lad but he's my best friends brother...
Q. I was stayin at my best friends house recently when she decided that we should stay in her brother's room because he has a double bed. he came home and was fine with it he said he will just share the bed with us, I was fine because I have grown up ...
A. 29 June 2007: Has your friend actually told you she would have a problem with it if anything did happen while you were in the bed?
Maybe you could just sound her out about it and see how she would feel about asking her brother out, you can make your mind up what... (read in full...)
She always passes my desk with a smug smile on her face, what is with her?
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up after 9 months because he was fooling around with a married woman he works with. I also work for the same place. It's been a few weeks now and I have made no contact but it's hard seeing both of them at work when there ...
A. 29 June 2007: Just wait till she walks past your desk again look up at her and smile and just say are you alright.
She sounds very childish and neither of them are worth it they are the scum of the earth and they will get their commupence.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
YOU CAN HELP: Spread the word about DearCupid!
Q. Hi, I want to ask a really big favour of everyone who uses, likes and has been helped by DearCupid. Help spread the word this weekend, by doing some of these suggestions: * Tell your friends and family about DearCupid * Talk about and ...
A. 29 June 2007: I'm addicted to the site and i tell every one about it.xx.... (read in full...)
I'm losing touch with my friends and I feel really lonely.
Q. I feel lonely. Apparantly I am on the verge of losing touch with my friends. I belong(ed) to a fairly large group of friends, but lately I've noticed that they rarely contact me. It's always me who calls/emails and suggests meeting up. At first I ...
A. 29 June 2007: It's probably just a lack of communication between all of you, you say you are in a long distance relationship and are away and busy alot of the time, maybe they have jsut thought that when you are not away and busy you just want to spend time ... (read in full...)
I'm losing touch with my friends and I feel really lonely.
Q. I feel lonely. Apparantly I am on the verge of losing touch with my friends. I belong(ed) to a fairly large group of friends, but lately I've noticed that they rarely contact me. It's always me who calls/emails and suggests meeting up. At first I ...
A. 29 June 2007: It's probably just a lack of communication between all of you, you say you are in a long distance relationship and are away and busy alot of the time, maybe they have jsut thought that when you are not away and busy you just want to spend time ... (read in full...)
Should I go looking or sit back and wait? I need advice on how to win someone I like and know they like me too.
Q. Hi, I haven't had a relationship in a year now. I'm bisexual, and everyone finds me really pretty. People do want to be with me, I heard the people I like, also like me, but they haven't done anything to show or prove to me. I feel really lonely and ...
A. 29 June 2007: You could just sit around and wait but then again you could be waiting forever, if there are people you like and you know they like you to, then do abit of flirting they might well not realise that you like them.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I'm bisexual but I don't know how to pleasure a girl
Q. im a 17 year old girl. recently finding out im bisexual. i really like this girl i have been kissing. she wants me to stay over at her new house next weekend, the thing is. ive never slept with a girl before and im scared i do it wrong and she gets ...
A. 29 June 2007: It going to be no different to the first time for anyone, bi or straight or gay, you could always tell her it's your first time she might actually like that and find it a turn on that she can lead you.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I have feelings for both girls and boys
Q. Hi, I'm in a real difficult position. I have feelings for both girls and boys, but recently mostly girls. I really like a girl friend, she is bisexual, but she has been hanging out a bit with her ex girlfriend as friends, I really want to be with ...
A. 29 June 2007: If you are out drinking at the same bar, you know what she drinks, one night just take her a drink over when she has a min on her own, when the ex is not about.
Just take it easy and chat and then drop into conversation that maybe it would be nice... (read in full...)
If a guy loves you and wants to marry you, is it okay to ask that he not go to a woman's house at night?
Q. I have a wonderful guy that still visits a beautiful girl who lives down the street from him once in a while in the evenings. I told him it makes me uncomfortable, and he said they are only friends. I told him, how would I know that. And he said ...
A. 29 June 2007: So why should it be one rule for you and another for him, you are not asking him to give up his friendship with her and maybe you need to make that clear to him.
There is not a friend of my husbands that i have not met and vice versa, in fact when... (read in full...)
I don't want to push her, but I'm tired of playing the cat and mouse game. I need to find a way to see if she comes to me. HELP!
Q. I'm a 46 year old female in love with another female. I am convinced she loves me as well. I told her how I felt about her and she did deny she felt the same way. I am sure that is because she has been married and is confused by her feelings. She ...
A. 29 June 2007: Thats exactly what you have to do sometimes, just back off a bit and let her do some of the work, thats also one way of telling if someone really likes you or not.
As frustrating as it is, i find if someone does not email me back very quickly then... (read in full...)
I just feel like nothing is going right for us. everything we seem to plan we end up cancelling and I can't help but see a bleak future for us both.
Q. I am in a serious relationship with my boyfriend, we have been together for just over a year. It is a long distance relationship and I am due to move in with him in the next couple of weeks. I have recently started to feel like this is not what...
A. 29 June 2007: If you are feeling this way maybe you should hold off the moving in for a bit, you need to be secure in yourself before you start to live with someone, as it is a big step to take, try not to let past history put doubt in your head about the here ... (read in full...)
Our marriage is over and I'm angry about his other interests
Q. My eleven year marriage recently ended. For the last two years our relationship declined to a mere roommate situation and during this time frame I became very lonely, but because of my belief in maintaining a monogomous relationship I never steped ...
A. 29 June 2007: I think you are that angry because it does not matter that you are already separated, you feel betrayed and rightly so.
Try not to let it consume you though, you need to live life for you now, and if you carry on with this anger it will more than... (read in full...)
His female friend is getting too close
Q. my bf has a close female friend hes nown lot longer than he has nown me, and i dont trust her cos i no she has a crush on him. she always wants to hang out with him nomatterwhat me and him mite be doing, and theres always a wierdnes in the air ...
A. 29 June 2007: I think you need to talk to your boyfriend about this, because i think if you speak to the friend she might not take it too well from you.
Tell your boyfriend how you feel about her spending so much time with you, and just say you would prefer to s... (read in full...)
We keep arguing, he clicks his fingers and I run back. What can I do?
Q. Hi guys i have an issue with my boyfriend...weve been together for nearly 2years and well he likes to be in denial about our arguments..but all we do is argue and im sick of it. Its complicated because i can get over things quite quickly because i ...
A. 29 June 2007: If you are sick of waiting around babe, then don't do it anymore.
What kind of a relationship is argueing perminantely and then not talking for days afterwards, i have to agree with the other aunts on this, i think it's time this relationship came... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be in a long distance relationship with someone you've never actually met?
Q. umm, my question is...is it strange to be in a relationship with someone you have never met?? i'v been in a relationship since august 2005 and we have yet to meet but are completely in love with each other. i think it is rididculous but at the same...
A. 29 June 2007: No one has the right to tell you if it is strange or not, if thats what you are happy with thats the most important thing.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Is she serious about not wanting relationships? She flirts a lot
Q. I have friend who 53, she is a single mother and I have known her for 10 years. She is stunning and easily taken for 30'sh. We both decided long ago that we didn't want a romantic relationship with anyone anymore and have been happy with a close, ...
A. 29 June 2007: It means alot to women of that age to look good, especially with the amount of pressure around to look good, every day we open magazines and papers and see beautiful women staring back at us, so if we look that good at that age i think you should ... (read in full...)
We're going to sell up, move away and start again, opinions on this would be appreciated.
Q. Hi guys, It would be nice to get some opinions on my situation as it is at the moment please. My husband and I were going through some business and financial difficulties early part of last year and it caused us to lose sight of each other. My ...
A. 29 June 2007: Thanks everyone for your opinions much apprieciated.
The monies from the sale will be going into my personal account that hed already been arranged so i am not worried about them doing a runner and leaving me in the s@#t also he was suffering with... (read in full...)
I fancied a girl who I'm crazy about for 7 months now!
Q. I fancied a girl who I'm crazy about for 7 months now! I think we were good mates but found out she really fancies my best mate. My best mate has already got girlfriend and hates her. She's used me a lot to get to him, my friend told me everything ...
A. 29 June 2007: When you are hurt you can say some really nasty things that you regret later no, matter how bad you have been treated believe me i've done it, she is not worth it if i were you just have no more contact with her full stop.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend seems to have a wandering eye for other guys!
Q. Well I have a boyfriend and me being gay there is a lot of shady things said about being homosexual. Well my new boyfriend has been with 15 guys, I'll be number 16 and I feel like he's never really interested but here lately there seems to be signs ...
A. 29 June 2007: Sounds like a bit of a player to me, i think you would do well to get out of this relationship.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I have another chance of making a go of it with her.
Q. So I am about to go see this girl that I once kinda had a thing with. We weren't together but we acted like it. She kinda treated me bad and then just stopped talking to me. I was really upset. Then I found out she was moving and somehow we started ...
A. 29 June 2007: If thats what you want then go for it, she has obviously realised the mistake she made and everyone deserves a second chance.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
is there anything I can do to forget him? Should I date other guys, or focus on something else?
Q. My boyfriend just broke up with me yesterday, he is off to college in September, and he says he wants to get ready. And when we were watching a movie the other nite, one of my ex-friends Roxy called and asked wat he'll be doing that nite...he says ...
A. 28 June 2007: You are young and just out of a relationship, so i would give yourself some time to adjust to this.
Don't jump into another relationship as it would be too soon, just go out and have fun with your friends and live a little for a while.
Is there an... (read in full...)
After illness, my looks deteriorated and he went on a date with another girl
Q. I have known my boyfriend for 4 yrs now through the internet. I was in a relationship when I get to know him and broke up with my ex few months after knowing him. The break up with my ex have nothing to do with my boyfriend. My boyfriend an...
A. 27 June 2007: From what you have said it sounds very much as though he is in the relationship now for what he can get out of it, if he truly loved you he would be concentrating only on helping you in anyway he could, instead of putting you down and making ... (read in full...)
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