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Oh my god over a year on since i first joined this site (where has the time gone) and i'm still loving it.
I got alot of help from all of the fantastic aunts and uncles when i needed it most, it was great getting everyone else's views on my situation at the time and it's great to see that those same people are still here doing the same fantastic job.
Due to what i have been through and the advise i have recieved off of here i am a much stronger person now and have so much more confidence in myself.
I am turning thirty this year i have a wonderful husband, yeah we have had our problems but thats life, and two fantastic children and i really believe my life is starting now and i cant wait for the rest of it.
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Am I being twitchy??
Q. I really like girls, women, a lot. Lots of them smile at me or look at me when I'm out in public - but I can't look at them. For instance, when I notice a beautiful girl on the train, I will desperately try to keep myself from looking at her - lo...
A. 2 July 2007: Pay no attention to most remarks that you read, because you would probably find that the people that make those sort have comments have been cheated on so just feel bitter.
There is nothing wrong with looking at other women even when you are in a re... (read in full...)
Should I feel guilty about leaving my vulnerable partner???
Q. My wife of many years has a drink problem that has seriously damaged our lives in many ways and caused our only child aged 19 to leave home. I also left and have now fallen for a widowed old friend, we make each other very happy. Divorce is on the ...
A. 2 July 2007: You have obviously been there for her and supported her for long enough judging by what you have said, so try not to feel guilty you have no reason to.
Sometimes it takes something like this for people to take stock of their lives and actually do s... (read in full...)
I have always liked a girl who is now pregnant--should I chase her?
Q. Ok I'm new to this site but I was looking to see what people thought about this situation that has me trippin'. I met this one girl and I always liked her, but we never talked. I never tryed getting with her because she's my friend's little s...
A. 2 July 2007: I think if your friend is cool with it and it's what you want then go for it, just take things slow i really hope she wants to give it a go with you as you seem like a really decent person.
I wish you all the best and take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I have been on a roller coaster relationship, but I dont want to lose her
Q. This is a complicated situation and I want to include as much details as possible. I met this girl a three months ago at a function. i'm 20 she's 18. After two weeks of talking every night on the phone for 5 or 6 hrs we finally got together and ...
A. 2 July 2007: Why is it you think that by looking on her myspace account it's going to stop your hurting, surely you have heard of the saying 'the truth hurts'.
She sounds to me like one of these people that needs to have lots of male attention or to put it more... (read in full...)
My boyfriend broke up with me...how do I not hurt him now?
Q. My boyfriend of six months just broke up with me. I'm heartbroken. This stupid part of me still loves him, and I'm actually so much more worried about his broken heart than mine (He still loves me too). What should I do to ease the pain for bot...
A. 2 July 2007: If he is in love with you and hurting that much, then the best thing you could do for him, is leave well alone don't have any contact and just let him move on with his life.
That will infact save you both the heartache.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
How can I help my partner through her bereavement?
Q. Hi, you know when your partner is going through grief of losing a close family member what sort of things can you do to help? By this I mean are there any sorts of activites we could do together to try and take her mind off it? How can I show her ...
A. 2 July 2007: I have just been through the same thing and there is nothing you can say or do, activities and things to take their mind off it will come in time when they are ready, just lots of support and a shoulder to cry on is the best way to help them through ... (read in full...)
We've been together over five years, but it still feels like a one-night stand...what do I do?
Q. I usually wake up with my girlfriend feeling wonderful and wanting to cuddle - almost in a child like way - but by the time we've left for work I have doubts about our relationship. This is becoming very commonplace. This morning for example, she ...
A. 2 July 2007: Like Dr Pete says sometimes we are just not right for each other, and it's sounds very much the case for you two.
Maybe you do not want to just tell her that it is over but is it really fair to either of you to carry on in a relationship that clea... (read in full...)
Should I ask her to choose?
Q. Hi. There's this girl I'm starting to fall for and she's given me strong signs that she wants me to, like text messages saying she loves me and misses me, but she already has a boyfriend and she's recently left comments on his Myspace saying she ...
A. 2 July 2007: Just back off and wait but stop the contact, she knows you like her, the ball is in her court if she likes you as much as she has told you she does, she will leave the person she is with and come get you.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
How do I keep a first date short in case I need to escape?
Q. I recently came back from a college retreat (to experience the campus and possibly apply to as seniors) and found someone who i'm interested in. He likewise. We've kept in touch for a few days through email now and want to continue that, but in ...
A. 2 July 2007: I think you just need to go with the flow don't concern yourself with how long it should or should not last because that is just going to make you more nervous, if conversation flows then just enjoy yourself, if not make sure your friend has his/her ... (read in full...)
How can I let go of my feelings?
Q. How can I let go of my feelings? I was caught off guard! My friend with benefits brought his date to the apartment. I knew this was going to happen but not soo soon. I ignore him because I did not know how to react. Today the same treatment but he ...
A. 2 July 2007: Maybe you should sit down and discuss this and try and working something out, like if either of you are going to bring someone back then you let the other know, so if you don't want to be there you don't have to be.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I caught him with an "old friend"--what does it mean?
Q. OK, bizarre story. Boyfriend of 6 months told me he was going away for the wknd for work. No big deal, I travel for work too. I was driving to a friend's place on the weekend - I see my BOYFRIEND walking with another girl, and her dog. Not hol...
A. 2 July 2007: Ok if she is that much of a good friend that he goes to see her before he even lets you know he has lost his job, or that he is back , why have you not met her before?
I have to agree with eddie it does sound abit suspious, maybe he is just a cowa... (read in full...)
After we broke up, he got close with my sister--now he wants to get back together!
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up a few weeks ago and now he wants to patch things up but I dont know if I should let him back in my life because he has gotten close with my younger sister and he knows that my sister and I are not on speaking terms ...
A. 2 July 2007: Family is the most important thing, please do not ever let a man come between you maybe you should both have no more contact with him and work out your own relationship.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I help people as much as I can, but I am not happy--any advice?
Q. I have been in a relationship for 7 months tomorrow and I don't feel happy at all! Since I have been going out with my girlfriend she has cheated on me 3 times and I even caught her giving one of my "friends" a blowjob in a toilet of a discotech. ...
A. 2 July 2007: You have said she has treated on you three times and you have only been together seven months, and you are convinced she is still cheating.
This girl and from what you have said she is still very young is not ready to be in a relationship, and if y... (read in full...)
I can't help making myself look like an idiot.
Q. I liked this boy for ages, I was like in love with him. I slept with him and things didn't work out. After that he started seeing another girl, but she had a boyfriend. He found and stopped seeing her--now she is seeing the boy I like. To get ...
A. 2 July 2007: So if you can see you are going to make yourself look like an idiot by doing this what is the point, all you are going to achieve by doing this is make yourself feel bad.
If he likes you he will be with you, she has no hold on him and it's not a ca... (read in full...)
She's been a friend for a long time, but I'm not sure how good a friend!
Q. I made friends with this girl when I was like 7 or 8 but she moved away. I saw her again when I was 13 and we were like best mate for years. She's moved back around my area but I don't get on with people around there any more because everyone...
A. 2 July 2007: If you are really truely friends with someone, then you should be able to tell them absolutly anything and know without asking that they will 100% keep it to themselves, and if they can't do that then they are not a true friend.
She is causing trou... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a bad boy with a girlfriend--how do I get him?
Q. Who loves bad boys? I do. lol I'm in love with this boy and have been for years--he was always playing hard to get, but I loved it really. It what made me like him even more, him making me chase him. The problem is we slept together and then car...
A. 2 July 2007: If his ex is back, then i would say it is pretty much out of your hands now.
All your can do is tell him how you feel and then leave it to him to decide what he really wants, if he really likes you he will leave her and come back to you.
Take ... (read in full...)
I have always liked a girl who is now pregnant--should I chase her?
Q. Ok I'm new to this site but I was looking to see what people thought about this situation that has me trippin'. I met this one girl and I always liked her, but we never talked. I never tryed getting with her because she's my friend's little s...
A. 2 July 2007: Firstly would you be happy to take on someone else's child?
This you need to be sure of before you take any further steps.
If you think it is something you can handle then what is the harm, if she is now seperated from the babies father, to at le... (read in full...)
He couldn't get an erection, now I'm afraid to bring it up--help!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 months and are in love with each other. The problem is, each time we have tried to have sex, he couldn't obtain an erection. He said he wanted nothing more than to 'be with me' and I could tell he was ...
A. 1 July 2007: This all could be down to nerves if it is going to be your first time, you both need to be very relaxed and take it slow.
A suggestion could be a bottle of wine, candles and soft lighting, talk to each other try some foreplay and just enjoy the mome... (read in full...)
I haven't met my online boyfriend yet..what do I do?
Q. I met my boyfriend online. We haven't met yet. I'm not sure what to do? Is it safe to meet up with him? How can we do stuff like normal boyfriend and girlfriend do? ...
A. 1 July 2007: Online dating is very risky, but at your age even more so, and i would say no to meeting him unless you have an adult with you for security.
tell your parents about him if they don't already know and then suggest that you meet up and both bring your... (read in full...)
Do teen boys like shaved pubic hair?
Q. I'm 14 and I'm wondering, do majority of the boys my age like shaved pubic hair or not?...
A. 1 July 2007: You should not be worrying about things like that at your age, you need to enjoy being a child as it does not last very long.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Is the perfect man out there for me?
Q. I'm 21 and got the perfect job and soon to be getting a lovely little cottage, hopefully.. only thing I'm missing is the man of my dreams. I'm not hunting for one but when I look around all i find is Unsuccessfuls. Is he out there? I'm beginnin...
A. 30 June 2007: Hey the right man is out there for all of us, and he will jump in front of you when you are not expecting it, you are still young so don't worry about it just enjoy your life.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I think my friends take advantage of me--what can I do?
Q. I worry that my friends take advantage of my kindness and take my friendship for granted, perhaps I'm being too sensitive, but it feels they ask far more favors than they do and they often forget to show their thanks. I have in the past tried ...
A. 30 June 2007: Please don't do things for people just because you are afraid of losing them as friends, because if they are real friends they will be there for you no matter what you do or don't do for them.
Just like relationships, friendships need give and take... (read in full...)
I want my ex back--she kisses me, but won't leave her boyfriend!
Q. Hi there, Me and my girlfriend (now my ex) split up a few months back, we were together almost 2 years. I was heartbroken for ages! We never really got on since we split... until a couple of weeks back where we started to talk properly and...
A. 30 June 2007: Oh love, she is not in a marriage she just has a boyfriend, so if she really wanted you she would come back to you.
I think she probably does care for you as you had a long relationship and it is hard to just let go sometimes, but i also think she ... (read in full...)
My health is being effected by my breakup--please help!
Q. Please help me, I have been crying for the past four hours. I am having a hard time "getting over" me ex. We were together for eight months, most of that time it was long-distance, but we were pretty much head over heels for one another right wh...
A. 30 June 2007: Well i think your first port of call should be to your gp, as it sounds as though you are suffering with depression, which is understandable due to what you have been through.
Secondly i think for you to move on completely, as hard as it will be y... (read in full...)
How do I make out like a professional?
Q. So the whole make out thing...I have the feeling that with my current boyfriend I'm going to have to act personally if i want to make out. But the problem is... I've never really done it before. so i probably seem like some little ignorant girl, but ...
A. 30 June 2007: Can you let us know how old you are please before i chose what the responce to your question should be.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I think my teacher fancies me...and I'm starting to fancy her!
Q. I know this sounds daft but I think my teacher fancies me. 2 years ago we got too close and were told this by another teacher, however i got in trouble for being too close to the teacher and nothing happened to her. Nothing happened between us, ...
A. 30 June 2007: For you this is just a crush and believe me we have all been there at some point in our lives, but on the other hand for your teacher this is very wrong and she should be struck off for behaving like this around you.
You have a girlfriend which is g... (read in full...)
He said it was only a break, but he is telling his friend he no longer loves me--please help!
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years, and we were very much in love. We planned a whole future together, and no matter how bad things got in the relationship the other would come through for us. Yesterday though, he said he needs "Time ...
A. 30 June 2007: Babe you are young you have your whole life ahead of you, i'm not trying to justify the way he has dealt with this, but maybe he was scared of hurting you by telling you the way he really felt.
Unfortunatly the way he has done it has given you fals... (read in full...)
He cheated and I took him back, but now I am upset
Q. I discovered that my husband of 16 years was having an affair with a work colleague. I had my suspicions and constantly confronted him. He finally told me and then left to cross the world to be with her. All this time he was telling me he loved ...
A. 30 June 2007: You have been through alot i can see that but you both obviously think enough of each other to start again, it may well be now that you need to go to marriage counselling to sort out the issues that caused him to stray in the first place, and it may ... (read in full...)
He has behaved badly and now my parents dont want me to see him!
Q. im so lost i need help!!! i am 18 and my boyfriend has just turned 22. We have been going out for 2 years and i love him very much. it was all very well with my family and both them and him were close. however they logged into my e mail and found ...
A. 30 June 2007: I can totally understand how your parents feel being a mother myself, if some one treated my daughter in that way there would be no way on this earth that she would see him again, and to be perfectly honest with you i can not understand why you ... (read in full...)
We were f*** budies, but now I want something more
Q. dear cupid, i've been seeing a guy unofficially for about 18 months- we're good friends and really fancy each other but recently i've realised i've completely fallen for him. we both promised each other that aside from our friendship it was...
A. 30 June 2007: Why not tell him how you feel at least then he will know and he can let you know how he feels, and if he does not feel the same about you then at least you know where you stand and you can move on with your life.
Take care.x.... (read in full...)
He wants me to get a brazilian, but I dont think I want to
Q. My boyfriend wants me to get rid of my hair in the genital region. I'm not too sure about this. I feel like I have to because he won't find me atrractive if I don't but at the same time, why should I HAVE to do it? The main reasons why I don't want ...
A. 30 June 2007: Hey you do what you want to do and don't let anyone else tell you any different.
I will however tell you that i have myself done this, which was my own choice, i used a razor and shaving cream which was ok, but if you don't like it which i did not ... (read in full...)
I just found out my Dad is not my Dad, and I want to know who really is my Dad!
Q. Recenlty, my mum told me that the person who I thought was my dad wasnt! Im really upset because I want to Know where I came from and Its become awkward because I dont know what to call the person who I thought was my dad. Also , I want to find out ...
A. 30 June 2007: The person who you thought was your dad is your dad if they have been around for all of your life and treated you like you were their own daughter.
Just because someone else supplied the sperm for your mum to concieve you it does not make them your... (read in full...)
I feel stupid and paranoid and have no direction in my life
Q. Hi everyone. Please can u help me! I am at an age where i should no what i would like to achieve in life however i dont. I feel so unintelligent sometimes and it is really depressing. I m intimidated by people i think that maybe its to do with my ...
A. 30 June 2007: Just because you are 24 it does not mean you should know what you want from life, i'm 29 ok i'm married with children which i am completely happy with but career wise i still have no idea what i want to do and that does not worry me.
You are stil... (read in full...)
He broke up with me, but is still sleeping with me
Q. I think i already know the answer to this but i wanted advice anyway... i came out of a 4 year relationship a few months ago. My boyfriend dumped me because i'd slept with someone else at uni. He was very understanding but still couldn't be with me. ...
A. 30 June 2007: If this is his way of paying you back for what you done then it is very creul, ok you made a mistake we all do at some point in our lives but he has no right to now treat you in this way.
I would sever all contact with him as i think it would be b... (read in full...)
I am having wierd episodes at night
Q. In the Day , Im fine but At Night , I keep having these Sessions.. Normally in the middle of Night , I wake up ( Normally Slept walked)and I feel Sick and Like Im About to be Sick. I dont know Why and It happens every night and Im tired of it and I ...
A. 30 June 2007: This sounds very much like something called Night Terror, as all of the symtoms you have discribed are associated with this.
In children it is not something that you need to be concerned about and it's something you will grow out of.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
For the gals: What are you thinking when you are checking out a guy's wedding ring?
Q. For the gals: What are you thinking when you are checking out a guy's wedding ring? I was having lunch with a buddy of mine when this topic came up. Occasionally, when I am among women, I catch them ogling my wedding ring. If they end up maki...
A. 30 June 2007: Maybe when you are with her next time and she looks at your ring take it off and hand it to her, just say to her you only had to ask if you wanted a closer look as i have catch you looking at it before, if she gets embarrased about it, it's probably ... (read in full...)
I'm sure he's cheating on me but I just can't nail him!
Q. My boyfriend fixes things for a living. I don't wanna get too specific. I recently checked the contacts in his phone and saw a girl's name (and I actually haven't looked in a few weeks and before that it was a long time), a new girl, which I ...
A. 30 June 2007: You check his phone and you do not trust what he has told you once you confronted him about it, so let me ask you whats the point in this relationship carrying on.
Ok it does sound abit sus from the detective work you have carried out, so if you ... (read in full...)
I have been on a roller coaster relationship, but I dont want to lose her
Q. This is a complicated situation and I want to include as much details as possible. I met this girl a three months ago at a function. i'm 20 she's 18. After two weeks of talking every night on the phone for 5 or 6 hrs we finally got together and ...
A. 30 June 2007: I think if you really feel this strongly for her and don't want to lose her the only thing you can do, is tell her how you feel.
Tell her that you need her to know that you love her and want to be with her and try and make the relationship work... (read in full...)
His best friend is a constant source of problems for us
Q. My boyfriends best friend is a woman. They have known each other since they were children and there is no romantic attraction, at least on my boyfriends side. She, however, loves him in the same way that I do. She is a wonderful person and has ...
A. 30 June 2007: I don't get this at all, and i don't want to appear rude or disrespectful to you... but you say this women is a really good friend, like a sister but i'm sure i would not treat my friend the way she treats you.
Ok she has been friends with him for ... (read in full...)
How can I get my ex to leave me alone?
Q. Hi. My name's Summer. I have an amazing boyfriend for 8 months now. I love him so much. I also have an ex boyfriend, who I have gotten over, and moved on..but recently, he's been calling me ( I don't know how he got my number, he says from a ...
A. 30 June 2007: If you can't bring yourself to tell him to leave you alone then maybe you should just try ignoring his calls altogether and he will hopefully get the message then.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Should I give in so we can be together?
Q. Dear Cupid... I have an ex-boyfriend his B. I still like him alot but I guess all he wants to do is have sex with me, In fact we broke up because I didn't want to have sex....Should i give him what he wants so we can be together again?...
A. 30 June 2007: If he broke up with you just because you would not have sex, then he is not worth it.
It is illegal for you to be doing that which could involve prison time if you get caught, also you said you did not want to, so clearly he has no respect for you ... (read in full...)
For the gals: What are you thinking when you are checking out a guy's wedding ring?
Q. For the gals: What are you thinking when you are checking out a guy's wedding ring? I was having lunch with a buddy of mine when this topic came up. Occasionally, when I am among women, I catch them ogling my wedding ring. If they end up maki...
A. 28 June 2007: I tend to find that women if they think a guy is nice the first thing they do is check out to see if they are wearing a wedding ring( if they have an ounce of decency anyway), failing that you must have one stunnig wedding ring and it just catches ... (read in full...)
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