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writes: I have been conditioned to feel very afraid of people who are jealous of me in some way. I use too much of imagination to develop some picture about the personality of that person who is jealous / judgemental to me in some manner. They are bad people and need to be rejected outright. It this true?
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reader, angelica111  +, writes (5 July 2007):
 Jealousy can wear a person out I find. This is negative energy. Though this is a bad feature in most humans, you shouldn't reject these people outright unless they really harm your daily life or gossip about you badly. It also depends WHO is the person jealous about you. If it's just a person in a shop, bus, silly neighbour or at work you don't care specially about, yes, give no notice to this at all.But should it be your mother, partner or so, if talking to them about the problem doesn't help, I can give you the advice to try and compliment these people who care about you and show them YOUR love in any way you like. (little notes, cards, gifts). Help THEM if you can. Do not dwell in their jealous reactions. Do this for quite a while (a year or more) even if at times it seems difficult. I garantee you that you might not recognize their loving behavior towards you afterwards. They will have changed their behavior towards you thanks to what you've given them. The need to be loved and recognized as a human too! Good luck and tell me how this has worked for you! :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2007): There is a huge difference between 'jealousy' and 'envy'. Jealousy denotes insecure, unhappy people who don't treat others with respect or compassion. Envy is simply someone who treats you with respect, is supportive but envies something about you or what you have. Envy is complimentary and envy is healthier. We all envy others..that's human. But jealousy is destructive, misguided and sad. And yes, you are right to choose people in your life with care and caution. Sometimes people live a good, clean life and they set standards for the way they live, only to be criticized and judged for that. I know that no one wants to be unpopular, but if you conduct yourself with grace and dignity, It sounds like you won't lower your standards to just fit in. If this is truely you, then all I only have to say.. don't tolerate others that tear you down. Press on and go forward. Stay true to yourself, your self-belief just let them live their life the way they want. You need to be happy, so always pick people who share the same worldview and values as you have. Good luck and take care.
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reader, nologo  +, writes (5 July 2007):
 People are not actually "good" or "bad".We use these words to express attitude.I will skip the part about jealousy to get to the point here.Your "need to be rejected outright" is based on expectations of their attitude to you, not how you see their personality.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (5 July 2007):
 People that are jealous of you are not bad people and they should certainly not be rejected by you, because if you start doing that you will probably find that you have no one around you at all.
Everyone is jealous of someone for some reason or another wether it's because of their job, clothes, house or relationship status.
I take jealousy as a compliment in some ways, because it means i'm doing or have something that someone else wants.
Take care.xx.
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