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Oh my god over a year on since i first joined this site (where has the time gone) and i'm still loving it.
I got alot of help from all of the fantastic aunts and uncles when i needed it most, it was great getting everyone else's views on my situation at the time and it's great to see that those same people are still here doing the same fantastic job.
Due to what i have been through and the advise i have recieved off of here i am a much stronger person now and have so much more confidence in myself.
I am turning thirty this year i have a wonderful husband, yeah we have had our problems but thats life, and two fantastic children and i really believe my life is starting now and i cant wait for the rest of it.
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After illness, my looks deteriorated and he went on a date with another girl
Q. I have known my boyfriend for 4 yrs now through the internet. I was in a relationship when I get to know him and broke up with my ex few months after knowing him. The break up with my ex have nothing to do with my boyfriend. My boyfriend an...
A. 30 June 2007: I wish you the very best and hope everything works out for you.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
He's looking at pics of exes and have also caught him texting them....what should I do?
Q. I feel so stupid. I am dating someone, and have been with him for a year now. But things are different. He used to tell me that I am beautiful, that he knows I'm meant for him....that the sex was good, etc. But now he doesnt do those things. We ...
A. 27 June 2007: He talks about other women during sex with you and he thinks they would not be getting upset, what planet is he on i'm sorry but this man is an absolute arsehole.
I can assure you me and just about every other women out there would be feeling exac... (read in full...)
I love this girl, but she is married and doesn't want to wreck her home
Q. i have an ex girlfriend who is already married and has a baby . she got pregnant before she married . she told me she doint like the boy who impregnanted her and asked me if i coud still marry her if she gave birth. i agreed but later requested her ...
A. 27 June 2007: Hey she is married and wants the best of both worlds she wants you for the fun and her husband to support her, you need to tell her if she wants you then she needs to leave her husband and be with you only, and if she can not do that then you need ... (read in full...)
My guy is taken, but is taken with me, but wants to run back to his fiancee
Q. i have been friends with my boss for three years now. we started seeing eachother 2 months ago and i am madly in love with him. he says he loves me to. but we have a few problems with our relationship. 1) i am only seventeen and he is thirty 2)...
A. 27 June 2007: If you hand it to him on a plate of course he is going to take it, you are young so get rid of him and find someone without the baggage and that can be true to one person.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Does he like me more than he likes his girlfriend?
Q. My crush gave me a hickey but he has a gf does this mean he likes me because he was saying stuff like My life is unfair and My feelings are all over the place we were real friendly and all cuddly and close to kissing so does he like me?...
A. 27 June 2007: His life should not be all over the place at sucha young age, i think you will find he is telling you what he thinks you want to hear so he can get what he wants, he's having his cake and eating it, so i would tell him where to go and find a ... (read in full...)
Any fashion tips to help me look older than I am?
Q. i am going on holiday on friday and i was wondering what i should wear to the airport i now this might sound silly .(p.s i want somtihng that will make me look older i am 14 and i am going to menorca....
A. 27 June 2007: I totally agree with YummyMummy here, you do not need to make yourself look older especially when you are going on holiday to a place you do not know.
If you look older than you are you will attract the wrong attention and could get yourself into... (read in full...)
He seems to have time for everyone except me and his daughter.
Q. I am freaking inside... I have been talking to a man for almost 3 years. All this while, he has still been talking with his ex-fiance. He tells me he is torn between us both. He doesn't want a relationship. He doesn't want to hurt anyone. I just...
A. 27 June 2007: I think you need to accept that this man was a mistake, but hey you got something very beautiful out of it, get him to pay his dues for his daughter and move on with your life.
You will meet someone that truly loves you and who will love your daug... (read in full...)
Will I ever be any more than my neighbour's friend?
Q. Next door neighbor - women and I have had a friendship/sexual relationship on and off for the past seven years. About 16 months ago she came to me and told me she loved me and wanted a relationship. At the time she was depressed and not happy with ...
A. 27 June 2007: As hard as it may be i think it is probably best to go and see her as her friend and tell her that you can see how happy she is now in her current relationship, that you realise it's time for you to move on as you can not wait for her forever as ... (read in full...)
I don't know if he really likes me or wants me just for sex and I don't want to lose him. What should I do?
Q. I am a 16 year old virgin and don't know if I'm ready to have sex or not! I love my boyfriend to death, I've been with him for four months already and he's always asking me if I want to do it but I know I'm not ready. I'm scared if i don't do it ...
A. 27 June 2007: If you are not ready for that then you tell him that and if he does not like it then you tell him where to get off, i was 16 when i met my now husband and i was not ready until about three months into our relationship, he was cool with that and ... (read in full...)
I like him and I know his girlfriend is cheating, should I approach him?
Q. i like a guy but he does not know and he has a girlfriend but she cheating on him how do i tell him i like him and that his girlfriend is not who he think she is ?...
A. 27 June 2007: Leave it the way it is at the moment, if the girlfriend is cheating then he will find out sooner or later because someone always slips up.
When he realises what she is like and gets rid of her you could make sure you are around to give him supp... (read in full...)
He seems to have stopped trying
Q. what does it mean when a guy knows that you like him that he all of a sudden sort of stops trying? i started seeing this guy 2 months ago and he would always text me and want to see me and always say i can;t wait to see you and now i always have to ...
A. 27 June 2007: It seems very early in the relationship to stop trying, so maybe there is an underlying issue.
Talk to him tell him how you feel and see how he feels about you and what he thinks is going to come from your relationship.
Judging by the responce... (read in full...)
He's acting suspiciously and I think he's cheating; should I leave him?
Q. i am currently with a man whom for 4yrs we have been going out as a couple. recently things aint been great due to the fact that he`s a selfish,self centered pig,and i love him. i am 99% sure hes having an affair,secret txts,silent phone ...
A. 27 June 2007: After all you have said i would definatly get rid of him rather than wait around for him to get rid of you when someone better (in his eyes) comes along.
God you can do so much better than this and no one deserves to be treated with such disr... (read in full...)
After illness, my looks deteriorated and he went on a date with another girl
Q. I have known my boyfriend for 4 yrs now through the internet. I was in a relationship when I get to know him and broke up with my ex few months after knowing him. The break up with my ex have nothing to do with my boyfriend. My boyfriend an...
A. 27 June 2007: From what you have said it sounds very much as though he is in the relationship now for what he can get out of it, if he truly loved you he would be concentrating only on helping you in anyway he could, instead of putting you down and making ... (read in full...)
He didn't feel the same so I started avoiding him; now he's acting strangely
Q. So I havent talked to this guy for about over a month. The reason I havent talked to him was because I like him but he dosen't feel the same way towards me so I decided to lose contact with him so that I could get over him. Well today I got on msn ...
A. 27 June 2007: Do you know what, this guy seems so wrapped up in himself it does not sound as though he would have any time for anyone else in his life, if i were you you have already got over him once so do it again and find someone that that is not so self ... (read in full...)
I'm hurt my boyfriend doesn't seem to care that I can't get an erection
Q. I recently started taking medication to halt the loss of hair on my head and prevent me from going bald. I ended up suffering just about all possible side effects, which included decrease in sex drive and inability to get an erection. I told my ...
A. 27 June 2007: You think he would not be bothered if you never had an erection again, but it bothers you that he may be thinking that way.
Your in a relationship so you should talk to him and tell him how it comes accross to you, what he has or has not said abou... (read in full...)
Update: How do I apologise to my teacher for bullying her?
Q. Hi yet again its me, Im writing about the teacher I bullied again. I was walking down a corridor alone today at lunch time and the teacher was shouting at a pupil for bullying. Suddenly she looked at me turned to the girl n errupted, she sa...
A. 27 June 2007: It really sounds now like she is trying to make you feel bad for what you done to her and as a teacher that is not on.
Like i said to you last time i think you now need to take this to your head teacher so that there is someone in the middle of this... (read in full...)
Update: I want to go on holiday with my female friends and my gf doesn't like it.
Q. (@dearCupid: sorry if this question is the same, but something doesn't seem to work. I also could not make an update on my previous question. The computer didn't recognise me a the one who originally posted the question. So I do it this way.) Hi! ...
A. 27 June 2007: It's jealousy but more that you can afford to go on holiday and that she can't, and that you will be going with other people and she will not be there with you to join in the fun, she will get over it and if she does not maybe it's not meant to ... (read in full...)
How do I make sure that it's me who he wants?
Q. well my bf and i have been going out for a week and my best friend likes him too well alot of girls like him so how do i make sure that he likes me for who i am not becasue i am one of the girls that like him? thax 4 the help...
A. 27 June 2007: Just be yourself babe and be genuine, if he is a decent enough guy he will see that you like him for him on his own, without you having to do anything.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
My fiance treats his sister the same as he treats me! I doubt anyone would be able to tell who he is actually in a relationship with!!
Q. My fiancee has a very close relationship with his sister if we are all together no one would be able to tell who is the sister and who is the girlfriend. I get very jealous as eveything he does with me he does with her and 9 out of 10 times when we ...
A. 27 June 2007: Surely sibling love is better than rivalary, i have a great relationship with my brother and i would never let anyone stand in the way of that and if you are not careful or you push too much you might make him chose and odds on he will chose his ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't understand how upset his porn viewing makes me!
Q. My boyfriend doesnt understand how I get hurt if he watches porn, pictures of naked females and mastrubates to it... Hello, my bf of 2 years and i broke up 9 days ago. We want to get back together but only after we both read the book on a relati...
A. 27 June 2007: Ok so we are on the porn thing again, there is nothing wrong with porn at all it's legal no body is forced to do it and they get paid a good deal of money to do it.
It's pictures and video's and it's harmless as long as thats all they do.
Have ... (read in full...)
We both love each other, but life situations seemed to have killed the spark!
Q. Seven months ago I met the best partner I've ever had- he was cute, smart, professional, established, had a great sense of humor, and we're into similar things. He treats me well too. We fellin love quickly- I think he said it 3 weeks in- and ...
A. 27 June 2007: With the amount of stress you have both been under it is possible that one or both of you are suffering from depression, may be it would be advisable for you both to visit your gp's and see if this is a possibility, because if you carry on the way ... (read in full...)
She used me then started meeting up w/ her ex and lying about it! I split w/ her, but want her to realize the pain she put me through.
Q. My "ex" gf doesn't always log out of her yahoo email account properly so I checked her email after she uses the PC. I have been doing this for a little while now without her knowing and realise she has been meeting up with her ex. I told her tha...
A. 27 June 2007: There are some really vile people out there in the world and she certainly sounds like one of those, you looked after her, supported her gave her your all and she has s#@t on you how nice.
Unfortunately people like this never realise what they have... (read in full...)
After 4 years together, he confessed he cheated. Then they moved in together. He seems so unhappy and I want him back!
Q. Me and my boyfriend had been together for 4yrs.One day he made a confession to me and told me he had cheated on me with this other girl,and now they live together.But here is the twist,he still has his clothes at my house with his important ...
A. 27 June 2007: If you want him back then you need to fight for him and don't let anyone stand in your way.It sounds like with everything he has been through he may well be suffering with depression at the moment and if he is that can seriously cloud his ... (read in full...)
I like a new lad... but still have feelings for my ex?
Q. I havn't been going out with my ex now for three months, a girl split us up becaus my ex still had feelings for her whilst we were going out but insisted they were just mates. I knew about this so I was paranoid and jelous and we argued a lot. W...
A. 27 June 2007: You can not wait around for ever while your ex makes his mind up about what he wants from life that is not fair on you, i don't think you are wrong to go out on a date with this other lad as you are no tied to a relationship at the moment and he ... (read in full...)
I believe he's after just one thing... and I want it too, but will I get hurt?
Q. theres a guy i like, and we flirt and regually send each other bad messages, pictures etc. however i believe he is just after one thing. but because im so attracted to him it doesnt bother me. his asked how far i would go with him and iv said all ...
A. 27 June 2007: If you have feelings for him and you know that are not reciprocated then you are most definatly going to get hurt, yes you are old enough to make your own decisions so you need to think hard about this.
If you are prepared to just have sex and exce... (read in full...)
I feel nothing when having sex!
Q. why can't i feel noting when i have sex? does this mean im never going to have an orgasm?...
A. 27 June 2007: It most certainly does mean that you will never have an orgasm, it takes a while sometimes to discover each others bodies so i would suggest you talk about it, have fun and guide each other.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I'm a girl--is it normal that I like lesbian porn?
Q. I'm a female--is it normal for me to love and get very turned on by lesbian porn?...
A. 27 June 2007: Hey if it's something then you enjoy then there is nothing wrong with it what so ever, what is normal anyway?
It's down to each individual.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Is there anyway to tell if your girlfriend is faking an orgasm?
Q. I've recently read quite a lot of questions from women about faking orgasms so I was just wondering if there is anyway to tell if a girl is faking it? Especially physical signs, because I want to make sure I really please my girlfriend....
A. 27 June 2007: I faked it right up until i actually did and my husband did not know any different, sometimes it takes a while for you to discover each others bodies so just go with the flow and enjoy it.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Are there any concerns with having sex doggy style?
Q. Guys, I just want to know the disadvantage of doing doggy style position because every time my boyfriend and I do it, we really enjoy it...but I just want to know is it ok or will it be bad for me?...
A. 27 June 2007: Can't say i have ever heard of it beng bad for you in anyway, if you enjoy it and it's comfortable that way just carry on.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I don't want to be tied down, but I feel an urge to have a baby!
Q. This is really weird. I'm nearly 16 and I've had sex twice with my boy-friend. My cousin is 18 and has a daughter and has just moved in with her boyfriend. My mum is a child minder so I see a few babies around the house sometimes. Recently I rea...
A. 27 June 2007: I'm 29 and it's hard enough at this age to have children and thats with money and support from a partner, so cherish your youth as it does not last long and unfortunately you do not realise that until you get older.
It's perfectly natural to get ... (read in full...)
Can you get your period when you're pregnant?
Q. Quick question my mate is going to get a pregancy test. She hasnt missed a period but is on the pill and says its best to check now and again. She wanted me to do but one too, i said no i use protection and havent missed a period. She told me her ...
A. 27 June 2007: Some people do go through their whole pregnancy having periods, if you feel that you want to check thats entirely up to you but you say you use protection and you have not missed any periods providing you are very strict with your protection you are ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure how keen he really is
Q. Hello I have been seeing this guy for the past 5 weeks. He is absolutley fantastic. I think about him all the time! We have had sex a couple of times about 3 weeks ago and since then nothing. We do spend time togerther over the weekwend and sometime...
A. 27 June 2007: There is nothing wrong with the fact you have not done that yet when you meet someone i think you kind of know straight away if it's just going to be a one night stand, bit of a fling or a proper relationship.
If you give yourself straight away you ... (read in full...)
My partners sperm doesn't stay in my vagina!!
Q. Me and my partner have decided to try for another baby we already have a 4 year old. When we have had sex me partners sperm doesnt seem to stay in my vagina it comes straight out. Please could you tell me why this is....
A. 27 June 2007: Thats natural for some to come back out but believe me if you are trying for a baby there will be sperm that makes it through and i will give you a tip that i was given when i was trying for a baby, straight after ejaculation lay on your back and ... (read in full...)
My close friends unfairly abandoned me; I feel like I can't finish school
Q. I'm 16, almost turning 17. A month ago, I was full of life, had lots of friends and my grades were pretty good. a couple weeks later, I got accused of backstabbing by my friends and all of them, now, hate or dislike me. I did not do what they had ...
A. 27 June 2007: I went through exactly the same thing as you when i was at school and it forced me to take a week off school which i know realise was silly because they kind of got what they wanted, and after a couple of weeks it was as though nothing had ever ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure how keen he really is
Q. Hello I have been seeing this guy for the past 5 weeks. He is absolutley fantastic. I think about him all the time! We have had sex a couple of times about 3 weeks ago and since then nothing. We do spend time togerther over the weekwend and sometime...
A. 27 June 2007: It is possible he may have issues from past relationships and it is still early days for you so just chill out abit and take it slow, he has told you he will not do something if he did not want to and i think that his way of reassuring you that he ... (read in full...)
I faked an orgasm to please him now I don't know if I should do it again
Q. Hi I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months (I'm 22, he's 25) and we started to have sex a month ago. I enjoy the sex but I haven't had an orgasm. He said last week that he would like it if I showed him when I was having one because he likes to know ...
A. 26 June 2007: You have only just started sleeping with each other, so you have no idea about each others bodies yet that comes with time, i said the same thing to someone earlier talk you are supposed to be having fun, you need to learn from each other and guide ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to want to cheat on my husband with a married man?
Q. I'm in a bit of bother! I have feelings for my friends husband, and he has feelings for me too (More sexually driven). We love our partners but have this urge for each other that is so so so strong. We dont see each other anymore but we still cha...
A. 26 June 2007: HELLO, you are both married and just because you both have problems in your marriage that does not justify what you are doing, you do realise that this is an affair that you are having, it's emotional but still an affair.
If you are not happy in y... (read in full...)
We're going to have sex for the first time this weekend--how do I make it good for her?
Q. Hey guys, I'm 25 and am dating a gorgeous girl who's 21. She's perfect for me and we've decided that we're ready to start sleeping together. This weekend we're gonna have sex for the first time but I'm really nervous because it's been a while fo...
A. 26 June 2007: Hey you need to chill out and relax big time, don't put so much pressure on yourself, she is probably feeling exactly the same way as you so maybe you should try talking it over with her, maybe you could get a nice bottle of wine just lay down on ... (read in full...)
After four years, she's not interested in sex. When I bring it up, she accuses me of only wanting her for sex!
Q. Hi Guys, I'm really hoping someone out their can help me as Im so damn confused. My girlfriend and I have been together nearly 4 years. My problem is that lately (over the past few months) she just doesn't seem interested in being intimite with me ...
A. 26 June 2007: Well sex is not the be all and end all of a relationship but it is a very big part, you say you have tried everything to make her feel secure in the fact that you do not want her for just sex and that has not made any difference.
You are young and ... (read in full...)
I still love him even thought he lied to me and hurt me so much.
Q. When I was 14, I met a boy who lived near a friend of mine when it was her birthday. We didn't talk all night, but I think I fell in love straigt away, and luckily the feeling was mutual. After a couple of years however, in which we had lost our ...
A. 26 June 2007: As horrible as it sounds unfortunately you had no right to check his texts as you were no longer together (even if you were that would still give you no right).
Don't try and contact him again you will get over this, if you feel that bad then go a... (read in full...)
After sex for the first time, I feel a burning sensation downstairs..
Q. i recently had sex for the first time.since then whenever i pee or masturbate it burns.what should i do?or is this something that always occurs?please help...
A. 26 June 2007: Sounds like it is possibly an infection so as YummyMummy says i would be very advisable to get to your doctors and get tested and quickly.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
He makes me feel insecure about myself and picks out things I hate myself for.
Q. he makes me feel insecure about myself, he sometimes picks out the things i hate about myself. he knows about this and his way of talking is to involve his d*ck and think it makes it all better. i told him it wont fix the problems or what im ...
A. 26 June 2007: What a bully this is emotional abuse and no one deserves to be treated like this, he has no right to use your insecurities in yourself as a tool for anything.
Get rid of him now and you will probably start to feel much better as he is just maki... (read in full...)
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