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Oh my god over a year on since i first joined this site (where has the time gone) and i'm still loving it.
I got alot of help from all of the fantastic aunts and uncles when i needed it most, it was great getting everyone else's views on my situation at the time and it's great to see that those same people are still here doing the same fantastic job.
Due to what i have been through and the advise i have recieved off of here i am a much stronger person now and have so much more confidence in myself.
I am turning thirty this year i have a wonderful husband, yeah we have had our problems but thats life, and two fantastic children and i really believe my life is starting now and i cant wait for the rest of it.
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I have the biggest crush on a guy at work!!
Q. I've fallen for a guy at work, we get on really well as friends, we have loads in common, and his family like me. Only problem is he has a girlfriend, and I'm friends with her. I would never do anything while he's still dating her, I'm not that kind ...
A. 4 July 2007: You are trying to justify what you are doing and it is clear that no one is going to agree with you, the only time that will happen is if you say you will walk away and forget him.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
The condom had a hole--what do I do now?
Q. I am 14 and yesterday I had sex with my boyfriend. It was with a condom, but on the end when he pulled it out there was a little hole. What should I do now? Please help me--I don’t want to get pregnant. ...
A. 4 July 2007: You have up untill 72 hours after to take the morning after pill, but it is more effective the earlier you take it, so like the others have said you need to get to your doctors.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I met a boy on the internet and we want to meet but I have low self esteem
Q. hi ive just met this bloke hes 12 yrs younger than me . i met him on the nett, we really like each other and want to meet up. my only problem is i have no selfconfidence in my body. ie my small boobs. am i just being silly....
A. 4 July 2007: No problem that's what we are here for.Enjoy yourself and take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I've been cross dressing on and off now for 30 years but my wife of 4 years doesn't have a clue about it!
Q. I've been happily married for 4 years now but in the last 12 months I've had a very strong urge to cross dress again and have been dressing as often as possible. I've been dressing on and off for almost 30 years now and it's always going to be a ...
A. 4 July 2007: If you carry on doing this without your wife knowing it's possible that she will find out one day by accident as you always here of these things happening.
Would it not be better to hear it from you then finding out you have been hiding it from her,... (read in full...)
If I do end up forgiving her if she wants to be my best friend again it will take me ages to trust her again.
Q. dear cupid, I know I just asked you a question about me and my bestfriend but I have another question 4 you.. If I do end up forgiving her if she wants to be my best friend again it will take me ages to trust her again IF I even can and I don't kn...
A. 4 July 2007: I think all friendships go through a rough patch at some point or another, because especially with best friends you feel as though you can say whatever you like to them and thats the way it should be, if you are true friends it is worth saving the ... (read in full...)
I am so scared I will lose him forever if I don't keep seeing him, what should I do?
Q. My boyfriend, and best friend, of 8 years finished with me and is seeing someone else. I still have deep feelings for him and we see each other regularly as friends. However, it is killing me. I want more than friendship, but he says he cannot ...
A. 4 July 2007: It's not doing you any good still having the contact with him , you have to see him when he is in a new relationship which is going to be very hard on you as you feel he should still be with you.
The way i see it is he is giving you false hope by t... (read in full...)
She's willing to do anything to be with him but he doesn't seem that interested
Q. I need some help in dealing with a good friend of mine. She is 22 and is madly in love with a 39 year old man she met through a dating site. She was specifically interested in someone older than herself as she finds guys her own age not mature ...
A. 3 July 2007: Unfortunately i don't think there is much you can do, if you try and influence her too much she might turn against you and look at it as interfering in her life.
She is a big girl now, so maybe you should let her lead her own life , make some mist... (read in full...)
He's always out with his girl friends and I'm never invited
Q. my boyfriend goes to the movies with his close female friends all the time and im NEVER invited. he goes with them at least once a week sometimes with a couple of them and sometimes with just one of them and i know a couple of them have a crush on ...
A. 3 July 2007: You say they are close friends of his, so if you try and talk to him about it and tell him how you feel he may well think you are trying to control him.
They are his friends and it does not matter how much any of them are attracted to him he is with... (read in full...)
I'm back in contact with my ex and having feelings for him again
Q. my ex and i have been back in contact for about 2 months now and i'm starting to have feelings for him again and i'm pretty sure he does aswell what should i do? any help/advice would be great...
A. 3 July 2007: Sometimes a break in a relationship makes you realise what you had in the first place, if you feel you are both developing feelings for each other again, then it should not be a problem talking about it, discuss why you broke up in the first place ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend spends too much time with his first love and one-night stands
Q. My boyfriend of a year has been friends with his first love for years now but since we've started dating i've felt uncomfortable when he told me he was going on a two week vacation to hawaii with her and that she was coming out to our apartment to ...
A. 3 July 2007: I think that it is good that he can still have that sort of friendship with ex's and it sounds like he is not hiding anything from you.
I have got to say i know how you feel though, because when i met my husband his best friend was a female and they... (read in full...)
She says she loves me but wants to focus more on her friends and her studies
Q. Greetings! My name is Mark. My biggest problem was with my girlfriend. she just broke up with me today.. we've been dating for almost 4 months now and we are very happy with each other. She's 9 yrs younger than me. i'm 28 and she's 19 yrs old. The ...
A. 3 July 2007: Of course you are going to feel lonely at the moment it is very raw and will be for a while, she is young and studying and so she should be focused on her studies, as she is going to want a good start in life.
Give yourself time to accept her deci... (read in full...)
I'm suffering post-natal depression and afraid I'm going to lose my loved ones because of my moods
Q. Hi, well i'm not too sure where to start.... Last time i wrote i was pregnant now i have a beautiful little boy... Problem!!! I feel like no one understands me. i have been told i suffer from post natal depression, ok so i have support and everyone ...
A. 3 July 2007: Are you on any sort of medication for this and how old is your baby now?.
Sorry to ask you questions, but it may be able to help with the responce i can give.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and she is 12; is this age difference a problem?
Q. Dear All I'm 14 and I have feelings for this 12 (nearly 13) year old young lady and vice versa, she is very mature. Do you feel it's appropriate to have such an age difference, I don't mean this in an inappropriate way I mean to be loving one ...
A. 3 July 2007: I dont think there is any problem with the age difference, it is after all not that bigger gap, as long as you both apprieciate that you are too young for anything sexual.
If you like her go for it.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Does he really like me or is he just trying to get me in bed?
Q. I went to a couple parties and this guy has been to them too. We talked at the first one and sat together and then we danced and got really close at the second one. This night he asked if i liked him and said he liked me. Then he would ask if i ...
A. 3 July 2007: That you won't know until you go out with him, if he really likes you he will ask you out rather than wait till you are at a party together and he is drunk.
If he does ask you out, go if you want to but just make it clear to him if he trys anyt... (read in full...)
Our relationship is making me emotionally unstable
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months. We live together and are usually very happy. Sometimes we do get in bad arguments though. Just like any couple. Almost every time we start yelling at eachother he says he wants to break up. Of ...
A. 3 July 2007: It sounds to me very much like control, you have a massive arguement and you are going to be right in some of them and so to make himself feel better he ends things with you, and just guessing i might be wrong but i bet when he does this and you get ... (read in full...)
I met a boy on the internet and we want to meet but I have low self esteem
Q. hi ive just met this bloke hes 12 yrs younger than me . i met him on the nett, we really like each other and want to meet up. my only problem is i have no selfconfidence in my body. ie my small boobs. am i just being silly....
A. 3 July 2007: I would not say you are being silly. as we all have insecurities about our body in some form or another.
There are alot of men out there that are not interested in a women with big boobs, and to be honest if that is one of their biggest conc... (read in full...)
I always need to be in a relationship... why?
Q. I'm the kind of girl who always needs to be in a long-term relationship (meaning I'm scared to be alone!). I realize this about myself but don't understand it... why am I like this? Why do I neglect maintaining friendships with others and spend ...
A. 3 July 2007: I think this feeling is perfectly natural as everyone wants to feel loved and wanted by someone special.
It is also very important to surround yourself with some close friends, as if you have some close friends i think that they can make you feel... (read in full...)
How do I get someone out of my head?
Q. Hi, I am from the US; I work full time (40hrs/week), I go to the gym, I read, I go out to the bars on the weekends, I watch movies, I volunteer at a children's hospital on the weekends, etc... But even with doing all this, I still feel overwhelmed ...
A. 3 July 2007: What sort if any contact do you have with this person?
It sounds as though you are doing everything in your power to try and stop this, is it someone you have been in a relationship with or just someone you have seen?
Some times it makes it a lit... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and it's sent my sex drive through the roof! Problem is that my partner seems to be satisfied with porn instead. Help!
Q. Help - He Doesn't Want to Have Sex with me but Watches Porn at every opportunity!! I live with my partner and we have been together about 6 years. For at least 2 years possibly 3 we have seldom had sex. However, by some miracle I am now pregnan...
A. 3 July 2007: Have you got any problem with him watching the porn say if things were different between you sexually, if not have you not suggested that you watch it together to see if that does anything for him, i personally find it a turn on and think there is ... (read in full...)
We were friends growing up and now we're in a relationship. We've been keeping it a secret so far, so how do we tell her mum?
Q. Hi me and my gf have been going out secretly for a few months now and we really want to tell her mum and dad except she would rather we tell her mum when shes on her own as shes mainly concerned about what she thinks and then let her tell her dad. ...
A. 3 July 2007: From what you have said it sounds as though you are worrying a little too much, as you have said you get on well with her mum and she has always been there for you, so she will probably be quite cool with the idea.
She would probably have more of a... (read in full...)
I had unprotected sex w/ the guy I've been seeing. I want to ask about his sexual past as I'm worried about STDs, but how? It's so awkward!
Q. I feel uncomfortable asking people how many people they have slept with and if they are 'clean'. I have recently been hooking up with this guy and we do like each other but are not ready for a serious relationship quite yet. I feel that I have a ...
A. 3 July 2007: My suggestion would be to just visit your gp and get tested for sti's, that way you will know for sure and it will save any embarrasing or awkward conversations.
When it comes to his previous sexual partners that should not really matter, if he is s... (read in full...)
I think he cheated before we got married
Q. Ive been married for a year and a half now. My husband and I are best friends. However, there was a point before we married when I felt that he had cheated on me while I was away studying. I sometimes still have this strong niggling feeling that he ...
A. 3 July 2007: If you spoke to him about it and it turned out that something had indeed gone on, do you think you would be able to forgive him.
If you think you could then maybe it would be best to leave it altogether, what makes you think if he has done any thin... (read in full...)
I think he cheated before we got married
Q. Ive been married for a year and a half now. My husband and I are best friends. However, there was a point before we married when I felt that he had cheated on me while I was away studying. I sometimes still have this strong niggling feeling that he ...
A. 3 July 2007: If you spoke to him about it and it turned out that something had indeed gone on, do you think you would be able to forgive him.
If you think you could then maybe it would be best to leave it altogether, what makes you think if he has done any thin... (read in full...)
I am worried about what my friends would say if they knew my BF was a virgin
Q. my boyfriend is 18 but he has never has sex. i am a bit worred about mine coz all my other m8 have 18 year old bf and their bf have all had sex before. but i dont wont to tell them that my bf has never had sex becouse i am worred on what they would ...
A. 3 July 2007: It's got nothing to do with anyone else, your sex life what ever stage it is at should be personal to you both.
I think that it is a good thing and neither of you should worry about that fact.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I'm just not happy.....could it be depression again?
Q. I have been very fortunate in life but i feel that there is something missing which is preventing me from being happy. I never feel happy and am only relatively happy when im drunk. I often jst burst into tears and feel incredibly lonely even when ...
A. 3 July 2007: I was treated for depression and it came back, probably never really went away so it is possible that it has come back again.
Go and see you gp and discuss how you feel with them and see if they can help you again.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
My text-on-the-side has stopped texting--what gives?
Q. Let me start by saying - I'm married - but I love attention from attractive men. Recently, I have been text messaging with a man - he sent naughty pictures of himself and he wanted me to send pictures of myself (which I wouldn't). We'd been tex...
A. 3 July 2007: Are you not happy in your marriage then? because myself and probably other people even though it's only texting and calling, would view this as an emotional affair.
If you are not happy then you should discuss it with your husband and try and sort... (read in full...)
I can't get past her past--help!
Q. Hi everyone, I've been seeing my girlfriend now for about 18 months - we're very much in love, and are now living together. So, all good on that front! But...my problem is that, at the start of our relationship she used to talk about her "past...
A. 3 July 2007: Yes it is normal to feel like this to some extent but if you let it consume you it will ruin your relationship, she is with you now and is obviously happy so try not to think about it, like you said yourself everyone has a past and it really needs ... (read in full...)
How do I find female friends who will go to the bars with me?
Q. The majority of my friends are male, and of my female friends only one is in my new town with me. I love going to the bars, especially since I'm single and I want to meet new guys. But here's my problem, the one girl doesn't like bars, and when I ...
A. 3 July 2007: Have you not thought of maybe joining a gym or a local exercise group where you may be able to meet some new girly friends that can come out with you, i know it's hard because when i was single all of my friends were married so they never wanted to ... (read in full...)
Gonna dress up in heels and fishnets and show up at his door
Q. Just had a relationship breakup. Thinking of showing up at his place in heels and fishnet tights and showing him a side he never saw. Sex between us was almost nonexistent and now I just want to dominate him in a sexual way. He has never seen this ...
A. 3 July 2007: Do you really think that it will win him back, if so i think you are probably deluding yourself.
Possible outcome is that you turn up there he thinks you look fantastic and it turns him on and you end up in bed together.
That will just mess you... (read in full...)
What are the rules on entering the army with bad health?
Q. Hello just after some advise relly the thing is i have been unemployed becoes of medical reassons since june 06 after attempts to get in to the army but to cut a long story short i have been felling relly depressed for the last couple of mounths but ...
A. 2 July 2007: You can go and see your gp about it as it is totally confidential, it might just be down to the stress that you have been under trying to get into the army thats just taken it's toll on you.
How long have you got to go before you go in?
Take ... (read in full...)
My grandmother's presence in the house is suffocating me
Q. My house is a living nightmare my nan is living with us and shes braking up the family, before she moved in i was a happy go lucky girl, now it feels im down in the dumps i want to excape. My nan is always keeping me up all night coughing she ne...
A. 2 July 2007: Sorry to hear about your recent loss.
It must be very difficult for you having no space or time to yourself, but please try and see this from a different angle as well, grand parents as annoying as they can be at times are a treasure and i did not ... (read in full...)
We forgave each other for cheating but can we still make it?
Q. i`ve been with my current girlfiend for over a year we are going through our roughest time yet she claims shes had sex behind my back a few weeks ago to make matters worse i slept with my ex lst yr she forgave me and i forgave her can we still be a ...
A. 2 July 2007: Yes you can still be a loving couple after this but only if you can totally forgive and forget, and know that if you have future arguements it will not be thrown in each others faces, it is something that takes time to get over but if you really ... (read in full...)
He never wants sex anymore.
Q. Well me and my boyfriend have been seeing eacth other for 3 years and when we first were together we had sex all the time. Now he dosent want to and when we do it's not diffrent its hte same no forplay nothing it's just take off ur clothes and thats ...
A. 2 July 2007: I think this happens to most couples at some point in their relationship but as long as you discuss it with each other than you usually find there is a simple explanation for it.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I believe his exs are more pretty than me and I'm jealous! Does he really love me?
Q. i have a bf from 2 months i love him so much but iam very jealous from his old girlfriends i think they look more beautiful than me and much richer than me i dont know what i do i want to know if he really loves me?????...
A. 2 July 2007: If he did not want to be with you he wouldn't, we all have insecurities about previous relationships but if you let it worry you too much it will ruin the one you have now.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
She constantly chooses her friend over me.
Q. Me and my girl have been together for a year. But she constantly chooses her friend over me. Often she cancels with me at the last second to hang with her. She will tell me to come pic her up, then right before I get there she comes up with a reason ...
A. 2 July 2007: Hi
I think you are right to give her this chance, as everyone deserves a chance to put things right, you ask if she will do this again, which is hard to tell she might well have learnt her lesson now you have told her how you feel about the situ... (read in full...)
Do I ask him or just wait?
Q. DO I ask him or just wait? Yep me again lol im a pickle with men at the moment, well not pickle it just seems strange nothing and then they come along like buses lol My current situation is the ex, I think i did post about him, after 9 months a...
A. 2 July 2007: Sometimes you need to take a chance in life so you don't spend the rest of it thinking what if, there is obviously still a big attraction there if you are going out again for the second time, so i would personally go for it.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I have recently found out that my best friends boyfriend has been cheating on her!
Q. hi i have recently found out that my best friends boyfriend has been cheating on her! My boyfriend was the one who told me (as my friends boyfriend is his mate) but he said if i tell my best friend he will finish with me. i don't think he would ...
A. 2 July 2007: I think sometimes it is best to stay out of it and just leave them to make their own mistakes, like you say you don't think it will last anyway so there is no point in upsetting any relationships.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Am I selfish if I do not tell my wife that I do not love her in fear she will break up the family?
Q. Am I selfish if I do not tell my wife that I do not love her in fear she will break up the family? We have tried several times to work things out, she is a great mom and person but she is not someone I want to grow old with once the kids are gone. ...
A. 2 July 2007: I would say that it is more selfish to stay where you are feeling the way you do, these things happen as much as we do not want them too.
If you wait until the children have left home are you still going to have time to move on, you may then feel... (read in full...)
Is it okay to string one girl along if it is the only way for me to be with my true love?
Q. Is it okay to string one girl along if it is the only way for me to be with my true love? This is the longer version for those willing to read: While attending the birthday party of my best friend's little brother, I met a two girl...
A. 2 July 2007: I don't mean to be rude but wake up darling this girl is 9 she has no idea of love apart from the love she feels for her family, and you even if you have no intentions of anything sexual should not even be entertaining the thought of dating her as ... (read in full...)
I have the biggest crush on a guy at work!!
Q. I've fallen for a guy at work, we get on really well as friends, we have loads in common, and his family like me. Only problem is he has a girlfriend, and I'm friends with her. I would never do anything while he's still dating her, I'm not that kind ...
A. 2 July 2007: We always want what we can't have, just try and stay clear of him for a while and get out loads and try and meet different people, and i applaude you for having morals and not trying anything on.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I have this itchy burning feeling on my vagina and it hurts when I have sex!
Q. ok..this is a crazy question... i have this itchy burning feeling on my vagina and its soo annoying and it hurts when i have sex! i dont think its thrush because u get discharge from that..i have used a cream calld vagisil but it still here what ...
A. 2 July 2007: This is a common problem for women, you need to try and resist the urge to scratch, becayse that will just increase the irritation. try washing once a day with just plain water, don't use any talc, soaps or deodorants.
Wear only cotton unde... (read in full...)
Am I being twitchy??
Q. I really like girls, women, a lot. Lots of them smile at me or look at me when I'm out in public - but I can't look at them. For instance, when I notice a beautiful girl on the train, I will desperately try to keep myself from looking at her - lo...
A. 2 July 2007: Pay no attention to most remarks that you read, because you would probably find that the people that make those sort have comments have been cheated on so just feel bitter.
There is nothing wrong with looking at other women even when you are in a re... (read in full...)
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