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If women can only orgasm from G-spot and clitoral, then what about women who orgasm from kissing?
Q. If its true that women get orgasms from clitoral and g-spot stimulation only,then how can you explain those who get orgasms just by kissing their breasts,or massaging them,or whatever?...
A. 9 August 2010: Anyone who claims that "women get orgasms from clitoral and g-spot stimulation ONLY" is wrong. Certainly, those considerations are apt to please a majority of women if they can find the right man to do it, and perhaps much more intently satisfying, ... (read in full...)
I don't want to give him oral sex b/c actual sex happen rarely
Q. me and my boyfriend have been together for about 6 months and even at first he didnt want to have sex that much, maybe 1 or 2 times a week. He always asks for blow jobs and I dont really even want to because I know that will make him last even ...
A. 9 August 2010: Why would "having no control" over a healthy sexual desire at your age be a bad thing? In the late teens and 20s, most of us are quite promiscuous and it is normal, or should be, whether in a married or romantic situation (or whatever), as long as ... (read in full...)
AIDS from Orla Sex?
Q. can u get aids from blowjob...
A. 9 August 2010: Yes, and if provider is HIV positive, consider it likely.... (read in full...)
Never had sex. Is it ever going to happen for me?
Q. I have never had sex. I really wish I could have a boyfriend but guys NEVER hit on me. I have thought of using a service like Craigslist just so I can get laid but I am too scared to do that, I don't know what kind of people are out there. Besides I ...
A. 4 August 2010: To "C. Grant," you must be young and very naive. The 30s are no where near being out of the singles realm.
To "ThisGirlAmy," you are NOT correct that no man can be sympathetic, whatever your meaning there, to you as a woman and lover. And you can ... (read in full...)
I don't desire daily sex, is there something wrong with me??
Q. Hey everyone:) I need some help; i love my hunny and everything and want to be with him, but i find myself not wanting to have sex everyday or everyother day for that matter. I enjoy like the quality time we spend together doing silly stuff but as f...
A. 1 August 2010: No, this is not unusual in my opinion. You will probably go through phases all your life - sometimes insatiable, and sometimes just nominally interested.... (read in full...)
How long am I meant to last during sex?
Q. Hai, I am 24M. I had sex when i was 21 and it did not lasted for more than 10mins and my gf broke up with me as she wanted to go long. since then i gave up untill a week bak i met this woman who was 35 and we met and very soon got so comfotable that ...
A. 1 August 2010: Answer: The ability of any man to maintain sexual intercourse for up to two hours without pause or ejaculation should be studied as a phenomenon.... (read in full...)
How long am I meant to last during sex?
Q. Hai, I am 24M. I had sex when i was 21 and it did not lasted for more than 10mins and my gf broke up with me as she wanted to go long. since then i gave up untill a week bak i met this woman who was 35 and we met and very soon got so comfotable that ...
A. 31 July 2010: Well I tend to doubt the veracity of this post, but if this Indian male is consistently having intercourse with a woman for up to two hours, without conclusion, then he is a phenomenon or something "else." ... (read in full...)
I love sex but don't have orgasms!
Q. I'm a female and I love having sex. This may be a weird question to ask, but I'm curious. Every man that I've had sex with experienced an orgasim but myself. Even my friends have. Is it me? Are my sexual partners not pleasing me enough? I would ...
A. 28 July 2010: Very few young women have orgasms because very few young men know how to make it happen for a woman.... (read in full...)
Why do I hate to have an orgasm?
Q. This is strange, can someone tell me why I don't like to have an orgasm? I enjoy sex enough, but hate to have an orgasm. It honestly does not feel good to me at all. My guy doesn't understand at all and thinks he is not satisfying me because he ...
A. 28 July 2010: Well "marriedlady" may not much like my input, but I think her submission is superb. Still, I insist that orgasm, whether on the part of a male or a female, includes an element of "surrender" that may be somewhat uncomfortable to some individuals - ... (read in full...)
Why do I hate to have an orgasm?
Q. This is strange, can someone tell me why I don't like to have an orgasm? I enjoy sex enough, but hate to have an orgasm. It honestly does not feel good to me at all. My guy doesn't understand at all and thinks he is not satisfying me because he ...
A. 27 July 2010: Yes, it is a "loss of control" so to speak. That's why an orgasm is so liberating, whether by a man or a woman. It is a momentary surrender of control, if only for seconds. Try to think of it as a cleansing of the mind and body that should be ... (read in full...)
Why do I hate to have an orgasm?
Q. This is strange, can someone tell me why I don't like to have an orgasm? I enjoy sex enough, but hate to have an orgasm. It honestly does not feel good to me at all. My guy doesn't understand at all and thinks he is not satisfying me because he ...
A. 27 July 2010: Well I agree that this seems odd. Please try to explain in greater detail why you dislike orgasms . . .... (read in full...)
What positions work to make sex last longer?
Q. how can i make sex with my husband for long ? what can i do to make him stay longer in sex not to finish soon as i want to enjoy? which styles will make us do sex for longer time,and how to make him need me all the time what will drive man crazy? as ...
A. 27 July 2010: More foreplay.... (read in full...)
How can I achieve orgasm through intercourse?
Q. I'm a 20 year old female and have had a few sexual partners. My problem however is that I cannot have an orgasm through penetrative sex. No partner has ever made me have an orgasm. I can reach it myself through clitoral stimulation but no one else ...
A. 25 July 2010: This issue has been addressed hundreds of times on DearCupid and can be searched in the archives, but know that you are in the majority of women. It is nothing new and has been studied for decades, even before Masters & Johnson and the Kinsey ... (read in full...)
Overactive Sex Drive at My Age?
Q. Hello everyone! So, I've got a little bit of a problem... I'm 16 years old, and I know for a fact that I have an overactive libido. Before, I used to masturbate every day. I've settled down a bit - but that's only because I've become busier and ...
A. 22 July 2010: In my opinion:
1. You're normal, and size probably doesn't matter. Don't think of it as grotesque - every woman looks somewhat different. It's ok.
2. No, that's normal too. Why resist what's healthy?
3. Do as you wish. Either wait (best), prop... (read in full...)
Why does the creep factor go up the older you get?
Q. Why is it when a young man craves sex, it's just young a man craving sex. But when that young man gets old and craves sex, he suddenly considered a Dirty Old Man, or even a Sex Addict. Someone help me with this. ...
A. 21 July 2010: Well I don't think an older man, still active and able, should necessarily be considered a "sex addict" just for being interested and willing. We do not all go blind or have a sudden drop in desire with age. As long as a woman is of legal age, also ... (read in full...)
What is your "depth"?
Q. OK, so I've been seeing a lot of posts here about guys and their penis size, and the depth of the vagina. It's been my experience that the vagina elongates during sex. I say "experience" from what I've read, and what I feel when I'm having sex (...
A. 21 July 2010: Coming back to agree with others. Certainly, most women would never enjoy 10-pound penises, and a "normal" length of about 5-7 inches and a healthy girth is probably most comfortable. The old adage is, "It's not the size, but what you can do with ... (read in full...)
How can I go on top and make it feel good for both of us?
Q. I not very experienced in sex and dont really know how to go on top and make it feel good for both of us.I cant go that fast either, any tip?...
A. 20 July 2010: Woman-on-top is one of the greatest positions for both partners. The "how-to" part seems rather obvious to me, and I've never known a woman who seemed to have any problem with it. Just get on and ride! You're in control. Enjoy! ... (read in full...)
What is your "depth"?
Q. OK, so I've been seeing a lot of posts here about guys and their penis size, and the depth of the vagina. It's been my experience that the vagina elongates during sex. I say "experience" from what I've read, and what I feel when I'm having sex (...
A. 20 July 2010: A vagina is quite expandable. After all, it can emit babies exceeding 10 pounds. So, what's the problem? ... (read in full...)
My husband wants to work on our marriage but I'm scare of his old habits
Q. Hi there, I have been with my current hubby for 10 years and have a 10 year old son together. During this time he was emotionally and verbally abusive to myself and my other 4 children. 7 months ago I made him leave. During this time he sought ...
A. 20 July 2010: How can anyone here know? All I would offer is that your husband may or may not relapse into his old ways, but men tend not to change long-term. If ever abusive, and he was as you relate, then that trait is likely to fester. ... (read in full...)
Losing faith in ever finding "Mr. Right"
Q. I just broke up with a guy who wanted to get physical too early in our relationship. We've only known each other for five weeks. He was a mommas boy and said he loved me and wanted to be with me forever. I'm losing faith that I'll ever find Mr. ...
A. 19 July 2010: Well, I think there is a lot of missing information here. A person's life experiences, religion (if any), upbringing, desires, morals and so much more can pertain to the situation. As a 62-year-old male, previously married, even recent affairs over ... (read in full...)
My guy is afraid of hurting unborn baby so no sex!
Q. hi all, I'm 25 weeks pregnant and have a little problem. my partner does not want to have sex with me. he says he's frightened of hurting our baby. I've shown him the books that say its okay and even brought it up with my midwife who has said sex...
A. 18 July 2010: In my experience pregnant women do not lose their desires, and heterosexual intercourse is certainly safe at least until the final weeks or so of pregnancy, just perhaps a bit more gentle nearing birth. And either partner can certainly enjoy mutual ... (read in full...)
What exactly is female ejaculation?
Q. An awkward question, so I'll just make it short and simple. I was wondering why do some women squirt, and how does it happen? Is the body trying to lubricate itself or something? ...
A. 17 July 2010: You are unlikely to ever encounter a woman who does this, although it is a physical anomaly for a small percentage of women. ... (read in full...)
I want to give myself and my virginity as a gift for my boyfriends birthday, good idea?
Q. Ok so im 19, never had a boyfriend before, recently met the most amazing guy, he's 30. its a large age difference but we get along amazingly! we haven't had sex yet, although we have touched each other intimately during kissing sessions. he is ...
A. 17 July 2010: Well - as long as you are ready, and desire the man, and feel that it could be a lasting relationship - then why not? There are plenty of reasons to remain chaste, and plenty of reasons to wait for marriage and all, but you are well of age and ... (read in full...)
Is waking him up with a blow job a good idea?
Q. When I stay at my boyfriends house we usually end up staying up until 4am being intimate, cuddling, or talking before he has to go back to his room. (still lives with his parents) This weekend we are both attending a party at a friend of mine's. ...
A. 16 July 2010: Well I've always loved surprise bjs, and it would be considerate of you to also brush, or at least rinse, prior to the post bj make-out session. ... (read in full...)
Why won't she blow me?
Q. i have been with the same girl for 5 years. she is my fiance now. when we first got together, it was crazy. she'd suck me off, swallow, use her boobs, her hands, i'd cum everywhere. now it's like she doesn't want anything but to jus have sex ...
A. 28 June 2010: This could certainly be as "celiaaletta" seems to suggest, i.e. a lack of satisfaction for your woman. A fundamental piece of advice is to "keep the woman happy, and enjoy her appreciation." It's a two-way street, but if you are doing a good job ... (read in full...)
What is a better turn on for men?
Q. is it a better turn on for guys when you moan or run your fingernails down their back during oral sex or just sex?...
A. 28 June 2010: All things in moderation. ... (read in full...)
How do I make a G-spot orgasm happen?
Q. Whenever I have sex with my boyfriend, it starts feeling really good and I get the feeling almost as if I have to pee. I heard this is the step before have a g-spot orgasm, and I was wondering how I could get it to that?...
A. 26 June 2010: Well, it's really not very difficult for a man to provide if he's willing to spend the effort. Check out "double m on G-spot" and on orgasms in the Web site's archives. ... (read in full...)
Help! She's slept with more people than me!
Q. I am 31 years old and have been dating a 29 year old girl for about 2 months. We get on really well and have become quite serious and have discussed marriage etc. I formed the impression she has had quite a few sexual partners (we also slept t...
A. 26 June 2010: I think that I would just give the relationship a lot of time to see if it endures; with no commitments in the near term.... (read in full...)
Is there a device I can use to protect my upper lip when I give him oral?
Q. I love to give my boyfriend oral and receive tremendous satisfaction from pleasing him. I like to swallow his cum, however, it takes about 15 minuets of working him hard and fast to get my (and his) reward. I wrap my top lip over my teeth so I don’t ...
A. 13 June 2010: Well here's the truth from one man's perspective: Once the woman has applied a reasonable amount of oral, and I think that part of the issue here is 'not enough associated hand technique,' then he should possibly release within ten minutes or much ... (read in full...)
Is there a device I can use to protect my upper lip when I give him oral?
Q. I love to give my boyfriend oral and receive tremendous satisfaction from pleasing him. I like to swallow his cum, however, it takes about 15 minuets of working him hard and fast to get my (and his) reward. I wrap my top lip over my teeth so I don’t ...
A. 12 June 2010: Over more than 45 years (I'm now a senior, obviously) I've enjoyed a multitude of oral favors from a number of women, averaging probably 2-3 per week over periods of many years. Favors were most always reciprocal, but none of the women ever reported ... (read in full...)
Is being with 6 men sexually by the age of 30 a lot?
Q. okay so this is a very random curious question. I'm turning 30 and have been with 6 men sexually. Is this a lot for a woman of my age to have been with that many men? Sometimes i wonder and feel bad about my sexual experiences. ...
A. 31 May 2010: Your question: "Is this (six men, sexually) a lot for a woman of my age (30)?"
Not in my opinion. Everyone has their own moral compass, as typically shaped by parents, siblings, friends, upbringing, perhaps religious influence and an array of othe... (read in full...)
Can't give myself an orgasm
Q. Hi, i have 16 years, and i have never had an orgasm. i often masturbate, but every time i do that, i need to stop very quickly, because after few pleasent minutes, it starts to feel very unpleasent, so i can't stand it any more. I'm a bit of woried, ...
A. 29 May 2010: My guess is that it is just unfamiliar territory for you now, thereby somewhat frightening as a new experience, and that you will quite naturally advance to a perfectly comfortable and normal sexual future. In other words, just relax and don't worry ... (read in full...)
My husband loves bj's but I don't like the taste
Q. My husband loves bjs. What guy doesn't right? Well, I hate the taste of sperm, I mean I really hate it, but I adore my husband. I went online to find spermicide free condoms to see if maybe giving him a bj with out tasting it would leave us both ...
A. 27 May 2010: Well I think that "ChristineAvri" is exactly right. Anything short of taking the load is "nowhere near as good for the man." I'll try to explain why . . .
We can surely agree that the climax is the desired goal, for either gender, agreed? A woma... (read in full...)
My husband loves bj's but I don't like the taste
Q. My husband loves bjs. What guy doesn't right? Well, I hate the taste of sperm, I mean I really hate it, but I adore my husband. I went online to find spermicide free condoms to see if maybe giving him a bj with out tasting it would leave us both ...
A. 24 May 2010: There is strong evidence that the introduction of certain foods to a man's diet, notable fruits and fruit drinks, will improve the flavor of his release. Avoiding some indulgences and other foods, particularly in excess, may also be a factor. ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to feel this way after performing oral sex?
Q. im 18 years old and today was the first day i had oral sex. i gave a blow job to my boyfriend. i have never done anything like that before. but now i feel my legs like jello and i wasnt even on my knees. i dont know i just feel really weird and ...
A. 19 May 2010: First of all, make sure you "receive" the pleasure first next time, if you'd like, and I agree this was probably just some passing result from excitement, perhaps. ... (read in full...)
Can you tell if a guy has recently had sex?
Q. How can you tell if a man has recently had sex? I am in a relationship with someone who sometimes has a very strong odor around the tip of his penis. He also has a very reddish on his testicles sometimes? Are these signs of a man recently having ...
A. 19 May 2010: Agreed with most responders - you both need to go get checked out.... (read in full...)
Is he too embarrassed to date me after what happened in bed?
Q. This past weekend (Friday) I hooked up with a guy...sort of. He came back to my place, we spent a lot of time talking, and ended up in bed. He went down on me, and I gave him oral..but he couldn't keep an erection. I thought maybe he wasn't turned ...
A. 19 May 2010: Well, it's up to him, isn't it? In my opinion, you should allow him the initiative to either accept or reject your offer. Anything more would be pandering.... (read in full...)
The Laws of Attraction
Q. The Universal Law of Attraction states that like attracts like; what we think about and feel about the most, at the deepest level of our being, is what we will attract into our lives. This is true, even when we don’t like what the Universe is ...
A. 18 May 2010: Well, I'll just submit that this proposed "Universal Law of Attraction" is flawed. Anything goes. ... (read in full...)
Can't look at each other during sex
Q. hey guys my boyfriend and i hav been together for 4 years when we have sex we dont look at eachother ever!!! he took my verginity.. we do hav great sex.. when hes on top of me or going down on me the pillow goes over my face. when i...
A. 16 May 2010: Well, thinking back over some 45 years since my personal sex life began, I must admit that the issue of "looking at each other" was never much contemplated on my part, nor mentioned by more than a couple of partners. Of course, I've always ... (read in full...)
Is it safe to have sex during periods without using a condom?
Q. hi is it safe to have sex during periods without using a condoms...
A. 15 May 2010: Well in response to some previous responders, I don't think this adult Kuwati male is likely to be impregnated, but he could, in rare circumstances, impregnate a woman while she is menstruating. It's just very unlikely, and if you spend any time ... (read in full...)
A question for the players....
Q. This question is for someone who has been a player or is currently a player.If a player doesn't get sex from a girl or knows that he won't get sex from a girl,would he stay in contact with her.Should the girl be paranoid if he wants to stay in touch ...
A. 12 May 2010: Well, I just always moved on but rarely had to make that decision until recently. lol... (read in full...)
The Laws of Attraction
Q. The Universal Law of Attraction states that like attracts like; what we think about and feel about the most, at the deepest level of our being, is what we will attract into our lives. This is true, even when we don’t like what the Universe is ...
A. 12 May 2010: Okay, but you stated "The Universal Law of Attraction (an apparent absolute?) states that 'like attracts like' (a generalization?)."... (read in full...)
The Laws of Attraction
Q. The Universal Law of Attraction states that like attracts like; what we think about and feel about the most, at the deepest level of our being, is what we will attract into our lives. This is true, even when we don’t like what the Universe is ...
A. 26 April 2010: With all due respect, I must disagree with some of your postulates if you infer that they are "always" or even predominate. Opposites also attract, and sometimes with great intensity. But I certainly concur with your advice to self-analyze and live ... (read in full...)
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