How do I stop being so insecure about my boyfriend’s last relationship?
Q. Hello all.. So I’ll get right to it. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 months now, officially 3 months. I actually met him a year ago at my job. I sold cars and he was a customer of mine but he ended up buying a car from a competitor. But ...
A. 14 June 2018: There is no magic wand that you can wave and that fear will go away. Off course it is weird for him his friend going on a date with his ex. It would be strange if he didn't find it weird. He has history with his ex and that is never going to change. ... (read in full...)
How do I end this pathetic relationship without him turning it all around on me?
Q. Hi I’ve been in a relationship for 6 years we have a 3 year old daughter together the relationship is pathetic between us there’s no affection he sleeps on the sofa does everything to avoid spending time with us it’s always me doing everything for ...
A. 11 June 2018: I hope that you are okay and you will feel much better in time, I am happy to hear that you are putting yourself first. ... (read in full...)
How do I stop being so insecure about my boyfriend’s last relationship?
Q. Hello all.. So I’ll get right to it. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 months now, officially 3 months. I actually met him a year ago at my job. I sold cars and he was a customer of mine but he ended up buying a car from a competitor. But ...
A. 11 June 2018: I've had boyfriends who have lied and cheated on me in the past, but guess what that doesn't mean everyone will! I trust my husband and it wouldn't be fair to judge him on other peoples mistakes.
They always say a person who is insecure will end ... (read in full...)
Love triangle--why is he good to her and pushes me away when I am the one who is always there for him?
Q. Ok here it goes. I have been seeing this guy now off and on for almost 3 yrs. But he treats me so horrible. There is another women involved. I'm the one that is always there for him no matter what. But now he is in jail and the first time I bail him ...
A. 11 June 2018: You cannot buy his love. Honestly he is using you because you are allowing it. You need to nip this in the bud now and realize that you can do so much better for yourself. ... (read in full...)
How can I deal with this colleague
Q. How can I deal with this coworker Whatever opinion I have I have seen this coworker disagree and have opinions on. We were at at work outing and I was talking about a guy being arrested in a local pharmacy - he then asked me where I grew up ...
A. 8 June 2018: Just try and keep out of his way as much as possible. Talk to him in regards to work when you need to but remember that just because you work together it doesn't mean you need to be friends or have personal conversations with him. He is only making ... (read in full...)
Have you ever felt perplexed by a person's disinterest towards you?
Q. To keep it short, I've been having sex with this guy for almost 2 years. I'm fine that it's not a relationship. Things have been good, but there is one thing that's been on my mind. Firstly, yes, we always talk before sex, he'll sometimes tak...
A. 7 June 2018: I've never had experience with this, but honestly I am not sure how you can still be happy being in this situation with him. If it was me I wouldn't be able to do it, it would eat away at me as a person to know that I am giving sex to someone who ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend often tells me small lies, how do I get him to stop?
Q. Been tigether 2 years and the past 6 months my boyfriend has the tendancy to change his stories often and its getting to a point where Im always get upset and angry and then we end up in a big argument. Theyre usually small pointless ones, but if he ...
A. 7 June 2018: Do you often give him a hard time about his past? It could be that he is scared of always having an argument with you over small things that don't even matter to him. Maybe you should cut him some slack. If it does get to much for you then maybe he ... (read in full...)
My partner doesn't know how to parent our child
Q. Hi I’m in a relationship for 5 years we have a 3 year old daughter I have started a new job 8 months ago so now my partner has to bath our daughter and put her to bed something which he had never done till I started this new job due to changing my ...
A. 7 June 2018: There is nothing you can do to force him to be a good dad, reading this and your other post it is clear you don't want to be with him any more. If he cannot cope with your daughter then you need to be strong and be the best parent that you can be. ... (read in full...)
How do I end this pathetic relationship without him turning it all around on me?
Q. Hi I’ve been in a relationship for 6 years we have a 3 year old daughter together the relationship is pathetic between us there’s no affection he sleeps on the sofa does everything to avoid spending time with us it’s always me doing everything for ...
A. 7 June 2018: Off course he will try and turn it around on you, and he will probably believe it as well. If we asked him his side it would be very different. But none of that matters. What matters here is you are not happy with him any more. So the best thing to ... (read in full...)
Everyone around me seems to want to sabotage me.
Q. Hello, this is less a romantic question and more of a coping question. Due to some mistakes I’ve made and struggles I keep having, I had to move into a homeless shelter. I’m going to call it The Haven and I want to make it clear that any names and ...
A. 7 June 2018: Honey am sure not everyone wants to sabotage you. You made a mistake by living with Andrew, but there is no point beating yourself up now. You don't need to defend yourself to anyone. The best thing you can do now is get rid of him from your life. ... (read in full...)
I care for her no matter what our status but I want to be with her! How do I tell her?
Q. Met a girl a few months ago; she had a boyfriend then. I did too, we started developing romantic feelings for each other, acknowledged them and tried to move on by solely being friends. There was sexual tension regardless, and we kept harping on it ...
A. 5 June 2018: I don't think you will ever be happy just being friends with her if truth be told. That is not me getting at you, it is simply a fact. Friends don't have sex and there are feelings involved here.
I think you should be honest with her about how you ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is stingy, what should I do?
Q. I have been dating this guy for 8 months now and he doesn't get me anything, he doesn't buy me gifts, he doesn't give me money when am in need,and whenever I complain to him about it he always complain that he doesn't have money but yet he always ...
A. 5 June 2018: A relationship works both ways, so do you show him your love? You need to remember that love and money are very different. I love my husband and I would never expect a penny from him. If you break up with him because he doesn't give you money or buy ... (read in full...)
How to deal with breakups when you suffer from anxiety
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for several years. We love each other very much but probably aren't the best match for each other. I would like to consider breaking up, but I have anxiety and it makes everything difficult 10x harder. I'm scared of ...
A. 31 May 2018: I take medication for Anxiety and Depression it doesn't make me any less stronger than you are. Personally I think medication and therapy will help long term. But that is only my opinion. You should look in to CBT in your area, you need professional ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wont spend quality time with me
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been in a relationship with this guy for a little over 2 years now. We both just recently graduated high school. We have always been the couple everyone said will last forever and the couple everyone looked at as perfect. Lately ...
A. 31 May 2018: You both got in to a relationship when you where quite young and sometimes people naturally drift apart as they grow up. Has he got a legit reason for not wanting to spend time with you? What are his responsibilities that is keeping him away from ... (read in full...)
Am I playing myself for a fool with this older guy?
Q. My boyfriend is 8 years older than me. I met him in early February while he was non exclusively dating a 21 year old .I met him in a little store near my house and one thing Led to another and now we are a couple. When i first initially met him he ...
A. 28 May 2018: Its clear to see you have made your mind up and that you are not interested in advice giving to you. I hope you don't end up getting hurt. ... (read in full...)
Is this just a great friendship or does he have a crush?
Q. Ok, so this is a bit complicated. We are two cross cultural couples- my husband and I are Asian while the other couple is European. We used to live in the same country but we returned to our own after a couple of years. During our time there, ...
A. 24 May 2018: What do I think? Well from reading your post I think he is being friendly and caring and thinks highly of both you and your husband. However I think that you want something more to happen with him and that you are going down a dangerous path. I am ... (read in full...)
Me vs his ex, is his behavior a red flag?
Q. To keep it short, my bf was showing me some pictures of him, and when he was going through different albums I happen to see an album cover which had the picture of his ex wife,besides this picture they send text messages to each other/communicate on ...
A. 24 May 2018: You need to talk to him about how you are feeling. Have you been together long? Does the ex know that you even exist? If you are not comfortable then you need to be honest with him. Relationships are based on trust and communication and you really ... (read in full...)
Sister didn't invite me to her birthday but instead asked me to watch her kids. Advise please.
Q. Sister didn't invite me to her birthday but instead asked me to watch her kids. Advise please. So recently, i got a text from my sister asking me if i could mind her kids on a Saturday night for her birthday (which at the time was about 6 weeks aw...
A. 24 May 2018: Well if who ever is organizing it in there own home then I would completely understand why she wouldn't want to go and invite people. Obviously her friend is organizing this as a way to celebrate her birthday and well at the end of the day it is her ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is extremely shy, but can put on fake confidence which is starting to worry me
Q. I don't get my boyfriend lately. After being together for nearly 2 years, i feel that I don't really know who he is sometimes. When we first met until about a year, he was VERY insecure, very shy. The type that would hunch over while walking. And ...
A. 24 May 2018: Who are you to judge him and say what he is doing is fake. Just because it is new and different to what you have saw before does not mean it is fake. He may be gaining more confidence and yes people can go from one extreme to the other. It doesn't ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's over-friendly encounter with his ex has me worried
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for over a month. He broke up with his ex in January not sure the reason why. I met him in February and by the third week of March we were a couple. Today while in the store with my boyfriend we saw his ex. S...
A. 24 May 2018: Your story seems to change every time you make a new post. I thought you had decided to finish with him? ... (read in full...)
We never have alone time. Is he taking me forgranted?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 months. He has two kids and so do I. I always find someone to watch my kids when he comes home. He works on the road. The problem is he never takes me out. He has family that can watch his kids. He never does. ...
A. 24 May 2018: I think you need to talk to him about this. I am not sure if he is taking you for granted or not, he might just enjoy spending time in the house with you, plus if he doesn't see his children often then off course he is going to want to make the most ... (read in full...)
I'm constantly worried my boyfriend has/will cheat on me and I'm going insane thinking what on earth happened while he was on that cruise without me
Q. My boyfriend went on a cruise ship with his (male) friends last week. I expected it to be hard. I was a bit moody during the first day he was there, but the remaining 6 days I felt fine about the fact that he was having fun. He kept in touch wi...
A. 24 May 2018: Honestly it is not okay to invite someone to your home then leave them to go party with the boys and hook up with another girl. If that was me I would have walked there and then and not entered in to a relationship with him. However you allowed him ... (read in full...)
I just learnt that my girlfriend was sexually abused by her stepfather and his friend but I can't seem to move past this information
Q. I’ve been dating this amazing girl for two years. We took our relationship very slow because we both had been in long term relationships that ended badly. Our relationship is close to perfect we’ve actually talked marriage recently. We were talking ...
A. 24 May 2018: I totally understand how you are feeling. It almost makes sex feel uncomfortable for you and that you are causing her to remember things that she chooses to forget. However being raped and having sex is two complete different things. She has had ... (read in full...)
Why does this COO treat me in such a manner? Why not just fire me?
Q. I've recently decided to quit my job. I'm torn because I truly love my job... I just don't love the management team at my company. My direct boss, the COO of the company is a poor manager. Basically she micro manages and enjoys putting me down. He...
A. 23 May 2018: If you are unhappy at work then the best thing to do for yourself is to quit. It does seem unprofessional of her to email a reply back where I assume other people can see the email if she is cc'd in to it. I do happen to agree though that you should ... (read in full...)
Will our views on careers cause problems down the road?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 years and I have a huge disconnect regarding our careers. He wants a short term job with a lot of flexibility.. basically it means no benefits, pay as you work, no pay when you don't work kind of job. I want stability, good ...
A. 23 May 2018: Personally I don't think you should allow it to upset you. I mean it is his life and his choice what he wants to do for a living. However it is also your choice which job to take. Take what job suits you more and not what your boyfriend would do. ... (read in full...)
My youngest children have fallen out with my oldest child!
Q. I have 3 children who are now young adults and 2 of them have fallen out with their eldest sibling. I have tried for almost a year now to get them to talk and they’re all willing to talk to each other as long as the other party says sorry first. ...
A. 21 May 2018: I think you should call them all to meet at your home and sit them down. Explain to them how it has made you feel loosing your brother and how short life is. Then leave it up to them as they are all adults as you said. You can then leave them to ... (read in full...)
How can I adapt better to what my career will be? How can I make this better for myself?
Q. Not a relationship question more of a general life question and how to cope with the working routine. I’m 29 years old, graduated college with a BS in the Health Sciences and have been working in my field for about 8 months now. I love my job and ...
A. 21 May 2018: We all need money to pay the bills, but I am interested to know do you work 7 days a week? How many hours do you work weekly? You should work to live, not live to work. You need to enjoy your life as well. Surely with only eating one meal a day you ... (read in full...)
Why am I having dreams about his ex?
Q. I had a dream of a bull chasing me to the edge of a river and when it was about to hit me I close my eyes and on opening I am at my boyfriends house and her ex is seated on the chair. So I ignore and go straight to the bedroom to drop my bag then I ...
A. 21 May 2018: Its great to hear that you trust him but do you feel insecure about yourself? Dreams can happen for no reason at all or it could be that you have some confidence issues with yourself or you are unhappy about something. Either way don't over analyse ... (read in full...)
I don’t feel a spark with her but I still had sex with her!
Q. Me and this girl broke up a while ago, after about a month she came over to play some video games and chat. It was getting real late and she was getting tired so I offered her to stay the night. During that we began cuddling and making out and it ...
A. 21 May 2018: You really need to tell her clearly that you are not interested in her sexually or romantically. She needs to know where she stands because it sounds like she has feelings for you and well if she keeps trying she is going to keep getting hurt. It is ... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any tips on mental health?
Q. Hello aunts I realize this is not a relationship question but I have been diagnosed with ocd/ rumination (excessive) to the point where I get horrible tension headaches and panick. I am a prisoner of my mind and I go and recheck things and ...
A. 21 May 2018: I agree with honeypie, you really should look in to CBT. There are sure to be plenty of therapists that specialize in this area and will help you learn to control your OCD. It won't be easy but it will be better than feeling like you are drugged up ... (read in full...)
If I’ve fallen for him and my parents don’t approve of me being with someone, what do I do?
Q. I met my friend when we were both just 10 years old. We kept in contact for years but were never close.. we just always make sure to wish each other on birthdays and chat to catch up and see how we’re both doing. But just last year in September, we ...
A. 21 May 2018: Your parents need to let go off the apron strings a little. You need to remember that you are an adult now and you are fit to make your own decisions and you should also let your parents know that in a kind way as well. It can be difficult for ... (read in full...)
Am I playing myself for a fool with this older guy?
Q. My boyfriend is 8 years older than me. I met him in early February while he was non exclusively dating a 21 year old .I met him in a little store near my house and one thing Led to another and now we are a couple. When i first initially met him he ...
A. 21 May 2018: Because he is acting like a child who cannot get what he wants. Because she respects her parents wishes he is spitting his dummy. If he wanted to be with you then he would not be talking to her all the time and writing to her saying he misses her. ... (read in full...)
Am I playing myself for a fool with this older guy?
Q. My boyfriend is 8 years older than me. I met him in early February while he was non exclusively dating a 21 year old .I met him in a little store near my house and one thing Led to another and now we are a couple. When i first initially met him he ...
A. 18 May 2018: I will say the same to you this time as I did last time, he still has feelings for the ex and if he is not prepared to cut ties with her then he is not over her and he is not putting you first. Never be someone's second choice, you deserve better ... (read in full...)
My 16 year old daughter wants to spend time with these older men! What do I do?
Q. My 16 year old daughter has recently made some new friends. At first I let them come round to our house only. My issue is they are in their late 20's. They talk about music as my daughter plays guitar. But now she has been wanting to go see their ...
A. 17 May 2018: You are aware off what a parents job is aren't you? She is not your friend she is your daughter, I think you have tried hard to have her as a friend and not guide her as a mother should. Now that she is growing up and searching for her own life you ... (read in full...)
Why does it seem like my boyfriend is stringing along his ex ?
Q. My boyfriend is 31 his ex is 21 and I’m 23 , my current boyfriend of two months left a girl he was dating in February to be with me. He told me he complained to her about standing up to her family and she never did it and how her family didn’t even ...
A. 17 May 2018: I don't think you should allow your boyfriend to treat you this way. He is the one that is disrespecting you and well you are allowing it. ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to be in love and committed to a man, whereas developing only sexual interest in others?
Q. I will turn 30 next month and my life's in a big mess. I've a good career, a loving would-be husband (getting married in early fall this year). We've been together for 11 years. You're wondering where's the messy part? Well, the sex between ...
A. 16 May 2018: Honestly I think you need to make a decision. I believe sex is an important part of a marriage and if you are not happy now then it is only going to get worse in time. You cannot marry someone just because you love them, I mean marriage is more than ... (read in full...)
do I look gay, or is it just a good way to attract attention from women?
Q. 25 year old self professed hipster here. Not really a macho alpha dude but I do work out. I am still on the slim side though. I am definitely not gay. I was in a relationship with a girl for 3 years during college but have been single for 2 years. ...
A. 16 May 2018: I hope the date went well.... (read in full...)
Wife's teasing wearing leotards has gotten out of hand
Q. I asked wife to start wearing shiny leotards around the house; she has a great body and this got me very excited. She really got into it and asked me to buy more and more on ebay; of course I got tighter and more revealing ones. She eventually ...
A. 15 May 2018: Can you not remove the tights to have sex? I don't understand why it would stop, is it a case that she doesn't want to have sex with you any more and she is just teasing you?
You need to ask her why she has condoms in her purse, do you think sh... (read in full...)
Should I tell my parents I am sexually active?
Q. Okay, I’m 17 and I just lost my virginity about a week ago. My parents don’t know and I’ve had a few of my closest friends tell me that I need to tell my parents. The thing is, I’m terrified that they won’t let me talk to my boyfriend or be with him ...
A. 15 May 2018: I was the same age as you and no I didn't tell my parents. You need to make sure though you have someone to talk to about practicing safe sex and make sure that you don't take any risks. ... (read in full...)
At what age would young couples move in together?
Q. Hello. I am 21 years old and already wanting to settle with my boyfriend. We have made plans in the future to settle and live together as in get an apartment and eventually a house. I am in university full time and seeking part time jobs. We both ...
A. 15 May 2018: You are not being irrational and well he is not wrong either. At the moment it looks like you both just want different things. I moved out of home at 17, but I didn't move in with my now husband until I was 24. Everyone is different and it depends ... (read in full...)
My ex is hanging around me and my new boyfriend and its causing problems
Q. Hello there! I wanted to ask advice about the current situation I'm in. A couple of months ago, I broke up with my ex, whom I'll refer to as M. We had gone out for a while. but during the relationship, M didn't spend any time with me, always chose ...
A. 14 May 2018: If you like S then you need to cut M out of your life. You need to tell him that you cannot be friends and avoid him. I mean how would you feel if it was an ex of s' asking for deodorant and stroking his fingers? If you want the new relationship to ... (read in full...)
Why did he invite me, then say nothing about me going with him?
Q. I’ve been seeing a guy for almost 4 mths. I’ve met his friends but not yet his family. From what he has said they know about me and he’s tried to introduce us before, however that was about 2 mths ago, which I felt to soon. He has met some of my f...
A. 11 May 2018: Stop worrying about his feelings and be honest with yourself and him. Ask yourself what you want from him. Also communication is a huge part of a relationship so you should talk to him and ask him why he uninvited you. My guess is it is to soon for ... (read in full...)
Will the intimacy return? Do other new parents feel this way?
Q. Okay, to put a little background into this for better understanding, my wife and I have 2 kids. One was born at the end of January this year, but with the way I am, I don't handle the infant stage very well. I have quite the temper and crying ...
A. 11 May 2018: Are you seeking professional help for your depression? If not then I think you should seek medical advice. Also if you have a temper and can't handle children then why on earth did you decide to have two? I can understand why your wife doesn't want ... (read in full...)
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