Leaving a married man is more painful than staying
Q. So I ended my A over a month ago. I felt like a huge weight was lighted off my shoulders that I finally off the roller coster ride of emotions. I started wanting more than he can give He would always make excuses to come to my place go to your p...
A. 24 August 2018: So you are happy to take a man away from his children? How on earth do you sleep at night. I have no advice to people like you other than even if his wife leaves him he won't truly ever want you and that is something you need to live with.... (read in full...)
Our male co-worker is too friendly with my girlfriend
Q. Hey so i work with my gf and we have this male coworker who is engaged. but he is always giving my gf a little gift like once a month. it could be some bread he baked or the last thing was a pack of paper clips with a note saying he hopes this ...
A. 24 August 2018: Honestly it sounds to me like he is just a nice guy. It doesn't appear like he is being flirty with her or expecting anything from her. Maybe he sees her as a good friend and is thoughtful? Am not sure I can only go with what you have wrote, but ... (read in full...)
Leaving a married man is more painful than staying
Q. So I ended my A over a month ago. I felt like a huge weight was lighted off my shoulders that I finally off the roller coster ride of emotions. I started wanting more than he can give He would always make excuses to come to my place go to your p...
A. 24 August 2018: Why on earth would you enter in to an affair with a married man? Have you any idea the pain cheating can cause to a person? I sure hope there are no children involved.
Off course he would make excuses you where his bit on the side he wasn't goin... (read in full...)
After 2 months away my boyfriend wants us to take a break
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months and he just got back from being away for 2 months on a family vacation. Ever since he got back, things have not felt the same. Everything was pretty much really awkward. So, we talked and at first we...
A. 24 August 2018: Sweetie you are quite young and I am assuming so is your boyfriend therefore two months apart at your age really does make a huge difference to the relationship. It is hard to build a strong enough connection in four months for it to last two months ... (read in full...)
I've been taking stock of my life since my ex and I broke up
Q. I am in mid twenties from India. This is gonna be a very long post please bear with me . I am an introvert and solitary reaper kind of personality. I hardly have or made friends. Currently I have very small circle of friends with whom I am in const...
A. 24 August 2018: It appears that you crave attention. I honestly think you should seek some medical advice about your habits and talk to a professional who can help you understand why you do it and give you techniques on how to stop.... (read in full...)
Should I ask why he blocked me?
Q. I met a guy online at the end of last year. When we met he was in the process of trying to move back to london and had been offered a job. The job offer fell through and he didn’t end up moving to london. We still stayed in touch but not in a lon...
A. 24 August 2018: No I think messaging him is a terrible idea. I mean he blocked you for some reason and you may never know but he choose to end this friendship so I guess you just need to accept that. Maybe he met someone and she doesn't appreciate him chatting to ... (read in full...)
I just can’t shake the feeling that he’ll be benefiting from me!
Q. Hey, so I have a dilemma! My boyfriend of 6 months is due to move in soon, I'm very happy and so is he, we adore each other. I have my own place which is owned by family, I don't pay any rent, my grandmother pays for the service charge whic...
A. 24 August 2018: Yes it sounds like you have lived very comfotably and you are lucky that you have such a generous family that you can 'benefit' from.
Yes your boyfriend would also be benefitting from your family if he moves in. I wouldn't say directly from you ... (read in full...)
I’m fed up with my life, how do I change this?
Q. Before i say my problem please dont mention the doctor i already know and that is in hand. Im feeling stuck in life everyone around me is moving on with life and i feel like mine is going nowhere. I make myself go out and try things and meet new ...
A. 24 August 2018: You have hit a rocky patch and you are just feeling down and bored in life. It happens to the best off us.
At least you get out and meet new people, but when is the last time you actually had fun? Laughed until it hurt, tried something new or done... (read in full...)
My profile was on a dating app...
Q. I have a long term partner of many years , with whom I'm really happy. About a year ago we were chatting in bed about dating in general, and how hard it must be to meet someone suitable, etc.We'd just been watching one of our favorite TV programs...
A. 24 August 2018: You contradicted yourself first off she will remember then nope she wont remember which is it? I don't understand why she would forget? If you are telling the truth I would explain it to your girlfriend before she hears it from someone else. Don't ... (read in full...)
I’m not a sex doll with a bottomless purse and no needs of my own!
Q. I've been with my bf for 3 and a half years. Recently we are not getting along. I had a great job but I found out they were going to replace me so I quit. I tried to find a new job and I couldn't find one for 2 months. Which meant my partner had to ...
A. 24 August 2018: Did it actually come from management that they where going to replace you or was it rumours? Did you try talking to them and asking them what your options where?
It can be difficult to find new work, but two months is actually not bad going so you ... (read in full...)
I'm about to move in with my boyfriend, but worry he might change his mind.
Q. Hi all, So I’ve been with my new boyfriend for nearly 6 months, it’s all going brilliantly, he’s everything I’ve wanted and we get on so well, I’m 28, he’s 30. He’s been with a lot of girls for one night stands and his longest relationship is ...
A. 24 August 2018: That is life, nobody can guarantee anything. He is being open and honest with you and that is all you can expect really. I think you are overthinking it and worrying to much. You say you have been hurt before, I bet most people have. Relationships ... (read in full...)
He sucks! Why am I not good enough?
Q. Hi! I’ve been married to my husband for 7 years now. Prior to him I had a couple long term relationships that ended on “good” terms, by that I mean it wasn’t a bad break up. Kinda like we knew it was done when it was done. Anyway:... I’ve never been ...
A. 24 August 2018: If from the very start he went out off his way to flirt with all your friends and kiss his friend in front off you why on earth did you end up getting married to him? It appears this is who he has been throughout the whole relationship, so did you ... (read in full...)
How do I get closure after he broke up with me?
Q. I have been dating this guy for about a month now and we did make it official. We hang out on weekends because of our schedules, but haven’t seen each other the past 3 weeks. We made plans to hang out, but he ended up falling asleep and we didn't ...
A. 24 August 2018: I think you are over thinking the fact that you need closure. I mean if you where dating for 3 or 4 years I could understand why you would want to know what happened. But after only a couple off weeks it sounds like it was not going to happen. If ... (read in full...)
Why do I like guys?
Q. Why do I like guys? I'm sorry. I just wish my life was simpler, you know? I know I like girls, but guys are constantly in the back of my mind no matter how much I try to ignore it. I just want to break free from it. No matter what, I still find guys ...
A. 24 August 2018: You are still young and you are still trying to figure out what you want from a relationship! There is nothing wrong with being bisexual and really nothing to feel guilty about. Don't label yourself, think off it as a positive you have the pick off ... (read in full...)
Does my wife really believe we need this money this bad?
Q. I'll try to keep it short. My wife picked up a small second job cleaning/taking care of an elderly man (80's) 20 hours a week. She heard of this guy through a customer at her waitressing job. Guy is paying her $20 an hour under the table. Pr...
A. 23 August 2018: As a married woman I don't think I would hack this job, more so to do with things from my past. However it sounds like your wife wants to make a quick buck from this man, and she probably likes the attention.
Do I think something has happened? No n... (read in full...)
Did I just get used for sex?
Q. So I've known this guy for a while and last week our texts turned sexual and he said do I want to meet with him. So we met we were kissing, we held hands we had a good time. Then he asked if I wanted to have sex with him I said I couldn't because I ...
A. 23 August 2018: Honestly it does sound like he only wanted one thing, even though you knew him for months, if he wanted something more he wouldn't have asked for sex on the first date and he would have made more off an effort with you. I guess time will tell if he ... (read in full...)
After 28 years of marriage I just feel sad.
Q. M Y husband and I have been married for 28years. We have 3 children. We had our own cleaning business which went bankrupt. Whilst working in our family business I also had a 4 day a week external job. He now has a casual care taker job. He works ...
A. 23 August 2018: Honestly to me it sounds like he is more friends with you than a husband. The intimacy is gone and he is basically house sharing with you. Him saying so casually who will tell the kids speaks for itself! He knows you both are not the same as use ... (read in full...)
This friend is too clingy!
Q. Hi, I have a problem but not exactly a love relationship problem. It's a friendship problem. I have a best friend who is one of the nicest people in the world. She really cares about me and I care about her too. But the thing is, I feel like she is ...
A. 23 August 2018: You are very welcome and know that I am here if you ever need to talk x... (read in full...)
He has a gambling problem and sneaks around. I’m pregnant and wondering if I should just leave him now?
Q. My husband and i are newly married for a year. I just know that he has a very bad personality and character. He lied a lot before since i know him but i brushed it off just because i love him. Now we are married i just know that he has gambling ...
A. 23 August 2018: Sweetie you must be very unhappy as you have wrote to us a lot! Everyone keeps telling you to leave him time and time again but off course that is your choice! I know it is hard but he does not love you, if he did he would not treat you like this. ... (read in full...)
He keeps asking for nude pictures!
Q. Hi everyone. I'm in a 2yrs long distance relationship with this guy never met him, although the time I would have met him wasn't convenient because of my exams and he traveled back bcos of work. we chat everyday, he tells me he loves me n can't wait ...
A. 23 August 2018: You don't even know this man in real life, you are basically in a relationship with your phone. You know it is wrong what he is doing so why are you continuing to talk to him? You don't know this man at all, and it sounds like he is just wanting ... (read in full...)
I am neglected and forgotten by family and friends! How do I accept this?
Q. I've had a very difficult childhood, i suffered from physical and emotional abuse by my dad, I've been bullied, people always made fun of me and the way i am by calling me a weirdo (because i was doing art that represented my feelings). I've lost ...
A. 23 August 2018: I can only imagine how tough this is for you. They do not deserve your love. I think you need to concentrate on your husband and your child who I am sure love you very much. Also maybe you could start looking at his family as your own. I am glad you ... (read in full...)
Should I continue to try this relationship or end it early? She's great but I find myself wanting more
Q. I'm a 36 year old working professional and have been with my girlfriend for a little over a year, she's 24 and had just graduated college and recently gotten a job (a decent one too). Like any relationships, at the beginning it was all sweet he...
A. 23 August 2018: It doesn't sound like this relationship is going anywhere at all. My advice would be to end it. If you don't even like receiving a message from her then it is clear you are already out of this relationship. Age can make a difference and it sounds ... (read in full...)
Would it be weird to message him on Facebook?
Q. Hi all I would be grateful if you could offer me some advice about a guy that I like. I like this guy called Tom and he knows my cousin. I’m not sure if I should approach him. You see I don't want to tell my cousin that I like Tom as my cou...
A. 23 August 2018: I don't think it is a huge age gap and if he knows who you are from your cousin then I don't think it would cause any harm to message him. Go for it and see how you get on, but don't overthink it or you will drive yourself crazy.... (read in full...)
How does someone go about meeting other bi-curious people?
Q. I am a 40 something woman who is interested in exploring my bi-curiosity. I have had a couple drunken make outs with girlfriends when I was in my twenties but no other experiences to speak of. I am divorced and dating a man but my desire to have a ...
A. 23 August 2018: Have you spoke to your partner about this and is he okay with you exploring that side? In hindsight you would be cheating so I think you need to discuss this with him.
As a starting point maybe you could try internet dating for a while and see if a... (read in full...)
Any chance he likes me despite having a girlfriend?
Q. Hi, I was involved with this guy, we were something like friends with benefits..but i fell in love with him..then he decide to change a job and left the country, which i was very sad about, but i couldn't do anything about it.. During the nex...
A. 18 August 2018: It sounds like you both started out on a sexual relationship. Which he was happy to up and leave because thats all it was to him....sex! You where sad but that was because you caught feelings.
He was talking to you in this other country beca... (read in full...)
My girlfriend lied about her sexual past. How do I trust her?
Q. I have been dating this girl for four years now and have asked about past relationships with guys in the beginning of our relationship . She had told me that she slept with three guys, two boyfriends and a friend, when telling me about her ...
A. 17 August 2018: Why would you ask her about her past sexual life? That is none of your business! It might be okay to go in to how many partners they have had ect, but the details really is none of your business and I really don't understand why you would want to ... (read in full...)
Do females feel it is important to work when married?
Q. Do you females feel like it’s important to work when married? My gf has only managed part time job, and few years later we are low on money and still not living together. She lost the job and now found another part because no one will accept her ...
A. 17 August 2018: I am curious as to why you feel nobody would employ her? At the end of the day she is an adult who should be able to look after herself. Does she make a real effort with jobs? I mean like applying daily to jobs, visiting job centres. She really ... (read in full...)
She likes slaps and I like kisses. We have a baby girl but I don’t see how this will work!
Q. More than a year ago, I started dating a girl who I was exactly smitten by but wanted to see how things would progress. I was introduced to her via a friend so I really wanted to see where things would go. During the first few weeks, we got on ...
A. 17 August 2018: It sounds like back at the beginning you are making out that she is the one that wanted you and you did not want her. In this case you should have ended it there and then!
Even getting to know each other you say she made you feel unworthy, so why ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend's son's father suddenly wants to stay for a few days
Q. I have had a serious relationship with my gf for over 3 years but we do not live together. She is has had two children by other fathers but has been very honest about her past. The eldest boy who is 20 was looked after his father for about 4 years ...
A. 17 August 2018: I am glad it has worked out for you and you feel more comfortable now.... (read in full...)
My husband lies and the trust is gone.
Q. I just recently found out that my husband has been in touch with an old girlfriend .. email.. and had sent her $200 for her birthday and $400 last Christmas .. and he refuses to put my name on his bank account... I saw all of this on his email .. ...
A. 16 August 2018: Did you read the emails? Did they explain why he was sending her money for presents? If that was my husband I would be deeply hurt. I am not sure I would be able to forgive him. When you get married your money becomes as one, so he spent your money ... (read in full...)
How long after hooking up do I wait before texting him?
Q. I went out with a guy I've known for a while but we started talking differently recently so last night we hooked up and one thing led to another. He said he would be busy this week with work and he suggested we maybe hook up on Sunday. So how long ...
A. 16 August 2018: He asked for another hook up which means he sees you as someone he can have sex with now and again! If he was genuinely interested in more he wouldn't be suggesting a hook up he would be wanting to take you out on a date! If you wanted something ... (read in full...)
Why is my ex reaching out again?
Q. My ex boyfriend and I dated in school only for a month when he suddenly broke it off. I was really hurt because I have deep feelings for him and we talked about our future a lot even though it was short lived. He ended up apologizing for his ...
A. 16 August 2018: You where both in school and very young when you got together for that month. Am sure it was special and maybe even your first love, but I think you now need to close that chapter off your life and move on! He apologized for breaking up with you so ... (read in full...)
My body turned him off ... he preferred to watch porn.
Q. I split up with my boyfriend of 10 years a few months ago and he's really effected my self esteem. He said quite hurtful things about my body, I'm just looking for some opinions from guys about what kind of imperfections would really put you off. ...
A. 16 August 2018: You lasted ten years with someone who put you down? Or was it he just said these things out of spite when you broke up? I am not a guy but I would like to offer my opinion anyway.
Okay so you are happy with your lower half which is great, I find... (read in full...)
Two guys and I'm confused about which one to pick
Q. Hi guys! I am starting to date again after the end of my 6-year relationship that ended last year. This has never been a problem of mine before, but I am currently seeing two guys. Guy 1: 10 years older (35), is decently successful in h...
A. 16 August 2018: Its nice to see that you have came out of your relationship from the other side and you are now ready to settle with someone else!
But honestly I dont think either of these men are the right one for you! Remember there are more options out ther... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's sexual past worries me
Q. Im currently dating this man whose been sexually active since a very young age. Well at first he didn't tell me about it, everything was going awesome, until we got too comfortable and he decided to share some personal things about him. He told me ...
A. 16 August 2018: Nobody goes in to there sexual history when they first start dating, but he obviously trusted you when he opened up to you. However you seem to be worrying about yourself here, have you been a support for him? You do realize that he has been a ... (read in full...)
Relationship rock and a hard place
Q. I am currently in a relationship which is less than a year old. I love this girl a lot and even waited around for a couple of years while she was with someone else. She dumped the other guy as she was cheated on, she then she wanted to give us a try ...
A. 16 August 2018: How can you love her a lot? Her ex boyfriend cheated on her, that must have broke her heart and made her loose some trust in humanity. The poor girl. It sounds like you wanted what you couldn't have as she was in a relationship, and now that you ... (read in full...)
Should I confront him about this or should I let it go if we talk normally again?
Q. So I have been a little upset this week, because my boyfriend of 7 months, which is older than me (he is 46) I am 30, has not text me this whole week, on Tuesday he just send me a video through Whatsapp, I rather a ''Hi my love'', not a video. ...
A. 16 August 2018: Has he rang you through the week? Or saw you through the week? Or was it simply no contact at all? Him sending videos is obviously his way off saying hello.
Maybe he thinks they will make you smile and maybe he is not a good texter. I don't unde... (read in full...)
My husband lied and said he no longer watches porn. He still does why does he lie about it?
Q. My husband told me he was going to give up watching porn. But he is still watching it and now lying about it. I know this because he uses my laptop while I go to work and today when I go to the URL to type in YouTub... well then YouPor... comes pops ...
A. 16 August 2018: Sounds like he has a problem with it and he is lying to keep the peace. Is it effecting your sex life? It is horrible to know that your husband is lying to you and I think you just need to tell him how it is making you feel. It is almost like he ... (read in full...)
What is it with guys and porn? He has me!
Q. I'm in a long term relationship, we're both in our mid twenties. We live together and both work from home so we spend a lot of time together. My bf watches porn while i'm in the shower. We have sex twice a month since I stopped initiating. I k...
A. 16 August 2018: You say its a long term relationship? Has it always been like this with little sex or is it simply getting worse?
Twice a month is not very often, is it because he watches porn? Does he ever turn to you and initiate it or is it always you?
It is... (read in full...)
If he can’t make time for me, is there any point in this relationship?
Q. I have been in a relationship with a man for 3 months now. He has a child from a previous relationship who is 1year old. He has the child most of the weekend and works all week, as do I. We have very little time to spend with one another and I don’t ...
A. 16 August 2018: I agree that he should put his son first, so if his weekends are tied up with that then that is something you need to accept.
However he has entered in to a relationship with you so he should be making some effort. If he simply does not give you ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend's son's father suddenly wants to stay for a few days
Q. I have had a serious relationship with my gf for over 3 years but we do not live together. She is has had two children by other fathers but has been very honest about her past. The eldest boy who is 20 was looked after his father for about 4 years ...
A. 16 August 2018: While I think that after three years you should trust her, I do understand where you are coming from. The photos she posted don't mean much as am sure there was a time when she was close to his mother so she may be feeling sad that she has died.
H... (read in full...)
How can I stop being mad at my parents ?
Q. This is a family question not so much a love question. My cousin who I consider to be a sister has fallen ill and is here in this country by herself - her parents abandoned her - I have been named the guardian under hospital records and I have ...
A. 16 August 2018: You are in your thirties and living in a home provided by your parents rent free. Do you pay the bills? For most people they would consider that a massive help from their parents. You should be grateful they have provided you with a roof over your ... (read in full...)
This friend is too clingy!
Q. Hi, I have a problem but not exactly a love relationship problem. It's a friendship problem. I have a best friend who is one of the nicest people in the world. She really cares about me and I care about her too. But the thing is, I feel like she is ...
A. 16 August 2018: It is clear that you both care about each other which is great and very special. However as humans we do need our own space and time to think.
It is not healthy to be glued to each other. It sounds like she might be suffering some confidence issu... (read in full...)
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