Brother got support, I got torn down?
Q. When growing my dad was hard on both of us. When my brother got lectures, it was more of "I know you can do better". My lectures consisted of getting completely torn down, getting told I'd be obese (5'5, 135 pounds, no weight issues ever), that I ...
A. 5 September 2018: Your Dad is abusive. There is no excuse ever to treat your children like that. It will have lasting effects. I think you should maybe seek some therapy so that you can deal with these issues and see that you are not what he said you are. Off course ... (read in full...)
After I broke up with my ex I began seeing one of his friends
Q. Rite long story... me and my ex where together for 6 years. 1 little boy age 4. we split just about a year ago and it was a nasty split after we broke up i started seeing his friend to which after months he fell in love with me. i know i hurt ...
A. 5 September 2018: The relationship ended for a reason. Okay so it might not have been the best decision getting with his friend, but at the end of the day you where both single so you technically didn't do anything wrong. Unless off course you got with his friend to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has depression and acts like he wants nothing to do with me
Q. My bf and I have known each other for about 11 years. We have been living together for the last 4 or 5 years. When we first started dating, we were both just happy and excited to be together...really enjoyed each others company. He used to ...
A. 5 September 2018: It is difficult dealing with depression both for him and you. But if he is not willing to help himself then it is not fair on you and your daughter. He should really have stuck with taking the pills for a month, he wouldn't have got hooked on them ... (read in full...)
I've lost interest in my fiance but feel guilty about dumping him
Q. Hi I’ve been with my fiancé for just over 5 years we’ve had our problems due to his lack of affection amongst other things the main problem is that he won’t talk through any problems we have he walks out with his dog I say communication is the key ...
A. 29 August 2018: You should end it. You are not responsible for him. Yes he had a tough start in life but that is not your problem I am sure he wouldn't want you to stay with him out of pity. Just pull the band aid off and end things. He is an adult don't allow him ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend contacts my mum instead of me
Q. After my previous post where me and my boyfriend have been on break for 3 weeks after a big row over one of my flaws..I ended up in A and E yesterday after an accident in work..my mother text him to let him know and he rung her right away. What's ...
A. 29 August 2018: Yes you will only push him away again. He is talking to your mother because you are both on a break but he still cares. I am assuming your post was the one where he wanted a break because you are insecure and paranoid? If that is the case jumping in ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is attracted to another woman
Q. My boyfriend is sexually attracted to another girl they used to be like best friends she was my best friend but after she asked him to lie to me he stopped talking to her it’s been more than a year since he doesn’t talk with her but he is still at...
A. 29 August 2018: Okay so he stopped talking to her for you, which was his choice and clearly what he wanted.
But as you said this was over a year ago and he mentions to you he is attracted to her? Why would your boyfriend want you to know that? Is he purposely tryi... (read in full...)
I don't know what to say. I just feel lost and alone.
Q. My relationship is ending. I feel like I'm losing my best friend, my person. I know I should "man up" but the grief is overwhelming right now. A 7+ year relationship is ending and I don't see any way that I can ever move on. The woman I fell...
A. 29 August 2018: Honestly for what it is worth I think this is the best decision that you can make accepting that it is over for good. I know it has been a long time, but it is not normal to keep breaking up in a relationship, it is clear that you want to be with ... (read in full...)
How do I stop creeping him out?
Q. I met a guy at college over four years ago now ,he was 18 and I was 17 which is quite a long time ago but only feels like a year ago .When I first met him I was not interested in getting to know him because I did not find him attractive and he ...
A. 29 August 2018: You should leave him alone. He is being mean because you have made him feel like you are stalking him. No matter what you say now he is still going to feel that way. This is not going to be fixed. You need to accept now that the damage is done and ... (read in full...)
I often worry when people don't respond quickly enough
Q. I often get worried when I don't receive a reply from someone and I know this may seem silly as not everyone is able to reply or they might be busy. there's one friend in particular that I try to not text or contact because I get worried if she does...
A. 29 August 2018: This friend you are talking about, does she make the effort towards you? Does she come across as wanting to be your friend also?
The thing is if you message someone a lot then you might come across as clingy and that will make someone fall away from... (read in full...)
I don't feel guilty for cheating
Q. Things with my bf have been Rocky for a while. We've been together nearly 4 years. We hardly sleep together, we never go to restaurants, we argue alot but when I've suggested we break up he gets teapot upset and says things like without you I will ...
A. 29 August 2018: What an excuse, nobody is ever pushed by someone else to cheat, that was your decision and your choice, and you are the one that cheated! If you wanted out off the relationship then you end it, just because your boyfriend doesn't agree does not mean ... (read in full...)
My ex has suddenly vanished again
Q. I have a general question. I am a gay female. I was in my last relationship for 3 years. We started off as really close friends that eventually developed into a relationship over the course of time. She is the one that broke it off with me and come ...
A. 29 August 2018: Exes can never be friends! I don't think it is healthy for you even to be in contact with her. She is an ex for a reason, and yes you may have been good friends but you also ended up in a relationship and once that ends you can never really get the ... (read in full...)
My partner betrayed me by breaking our swinging rules
Q. Me and my partner tried swinging it was his idea. Before I drank alcahol I told him what I was and was not ok with and that he should respect my wishes. He said ok. I got drunk and he broke all the rules (sex and kissing) I had discussed with h...
A. 29 August 2018: You should end it, it is clear that you both want different things. You want a relationship, he wants a swinging partner! It really is as simple as that, you are not compatible. You made it clear you did not want him with someone else but he still ... (read in full...)
5 years with my partner but don't know if I want to spend the rest of my life with him
Q. I’ve been with my partner for five years now and I honestly do love him. However recently I’ve started thinking that I don’t know if I want to spend the rest of my life with him. We currently live together but I’ve been wanting to move house for ...
A. 27 August 2018: It sounds like you love him but you are no longer in love with him! If you are having doubts then I think you need to talk to him about it. You are still quite young so am guessing you where both very young getting together and well people change. ... (read in full...)
I have caught my husband in so many lies regarding his female coworker. Is it wrong for me to ask him to stay away from her?
Q. Hello, My husband has been lying to me for the past few months, all lies have involved his coworker. He has lied to me about calling her, dropping her off at home, going to hang out with her at her house, buying her gifts, including an exp...
A. 27 August 2018: Honestly you could try telling him to stay away from her but I doubt he would listen to you. He is already lying to you, so that shows he has no respect for you, and on top off that he uses your depression as an excuse, that is disgusting, what a ... (read in full...)
11 years together and partner cant say anything nice about me?
Q. This may seem really trivial, but I just wondered what people thought. My partner doesn't do romance well and although he says he loves me, that's about it. Doesn't really say I'm pretty or anything like that. I'm the kind of person that need...
A. 27 August 2018: I would imagine you both got together very young if you have been together 11 year and you are still in your twenties.
Look it is who he is, and you cannot change him! Maybe him telling you that he loves you is all that he can give. It is not his ... (read in full...)
I like my friend's brother and I think he likes me too
Q. Hi. I have a problem and i would really like other people's opinion about this. I started liking a boy because i was thinking he was liking me too and he had his sister in his class then we became friends with her too and now we're really close. I...
A. 27 August 2018: Just because you are friends it doesn't mean you need to tell her everything. It is not a betrayal your entitled to your own private life as well. I guess now you just need to get over him.... (read in full...)
Are most people this uncomfortable seeing their exes?
Q. Today we were going to go to a supermarket and my boyfriend did not want to go inside at all because his exes mom was in there. It made me feel like he wasn’t over that person because he always makes sure that person isn’t there If we are to sto...
A. 27 August 2018: He explained it to you at the start so this is something you need to accept. He has his reasons to feel uncomfortable so I don't understand why you would want him to be uncomfortable just so it makes you feel better?
It could be worse he could be w... (read in full...)
He wants to return to his home country but I don't want to join him
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years. Things have been good but we're trying to think more seriously about our future together. He's from another country and originally wanted to move back there to start a life. For a litt...
A. 27 August 2018: I guess it is a tough one because you thought you would move with him so in his head he probably felt that you would both end up settling in his home land. However it is okay to change your mind, it is a huge step.
Your family is obviously impo... (read in full...)
What is my ex playing at?
Q. A couple of years ago I was seeing a guy whilst at University but he really messed me around and we constantly had an up and down on and off relationship. I then blocked him when I finished Uni which was over a year ago and didn't think of him much ...
A. 27 August 2018: The worst thing you could have done was contact him, it is not fair to your boyfriend either you reaching out to your ex. He messed you around when you where both together and he is doing the same now! In fact you just played right in to his hands ... (read in full...)
His mother is undergoing chemo and he doesn't have much time for me
Q. I have been friends with my boyfriend for 5 years and we always knew we had feelings for each other but it was not the right time. we have been a couple for the past 4 months. and I drive an hour to go see him few days a week because it is easier ...
A. 27 August 2018: He is going through a tough time at the moment, so I understand why you wouldn't be at the top off his list. His mother is fighting cancer and he is doing everything he can to help her. I think you need to give him some space. I get that you don't ... (read in full...)
My will be joining another couple for a threesome
Q. So let me start by saying my wife and I have been married for 8 years an are blessed/ deeply in love. So last night we had a couple over for cocktails, I was at work when they arrived and when I got there my wife was already buzzed and was acting v...
A. 27 August 2018: She told you she was going to cheat on you? Wow it sounds like your wife has no respect for you or your marriage whatsoever.
Before you met is one thing, but she is now a married woman! The way she told you amazes me. Marriage is about comm... (read in full...)
Someone I thought was a best friend just chose someone else to be his best man
Q. I’m left at the minute and don’t really have a best friend. I grew up in a different county until I was 13. I made a lot of friends at a school from an early age and I have always been active and interested in sports. I make friends easily a...
A. 27 August 2018: Why are you now left without a friend? I think the term 'best friend' is over rated. I honestly feel you can have one friend or five friends. As long as you are close then that is all that matters. I can understand you being disappointed but just ... (read in full...)
My paranoia has driven us apart
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. Sadly I have a problem which I've had for a few years, Where I suffer with paranoia. This has affected our relationship greatly, and has pushed us apart. We've now been on break (his idea) for now 3 ...
A. 27 August 2018: I get why paranoia would effect the relationship, you probably drive yourself crazy and drive him crazy at the same time. You need to work at it to get to the bottom off why you feel like this, if you don't you will never be able to have a ... (read in full...)
I feel like I am forcing myself on him.
Q. Im in a long distance relationship that would be three years in November. My boyfriend has been in school abroad, he’s graduated now and is back home.Sometimes things are great, sometimes they are not. So I thought that now that he’s back, and ...
A. 27 August 2018: I remember you writing in before about this issue. He is not making an effort so why should you. Have you actually met him? If this is the same OP as the last one then if I recall you haven't actually met in real life. I think you know that you are ... (read in full...)
He'll do anything .... except come fishin'
Q. My family are a big fishing family (both my side and my husband's family loves fishing). We tried to teach our children to love fishing. We have three children and three grandchildren. Our youngest son, Justin, is 33 years old and he hates fis...
A. 27 August 2018: Justin is a grown man, why on earth would you want him to do something that he hates? You need to accept that fishing is not for him and leave him to it. Maybe you could organize a family vacation that does not require fishing if you would like the ... (read in full...)
Lack of sex is causing me to feel unloved and unwanted. I'm a newlywed!
Q. I need direction and I am so lost. My newly wed husband and I dated almost a year before we married. Engaged for only 3 months I thought this is what I have waited so long for. after the first night of our honeymoon I had this gut feeling something ...
A. 27 August 2018: Honestly I think you both rushed in to marriage. What was it like dating for the year? Did he show you any love or affection and then just change or was he always this distant? Also why have you given up your job family and friends? Did you need to ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my fiance I'm not a virgin. I don't want her to know who I had sex with
Q. My cousin and I, when we were in are early teens, made an extremely stupid choice and had sex with each other. We are the same age and at the time, we both enjoyed it. We lost our virginity to each other. Now as an adult, I realize how stupid it ...
A. 27 August 2018: You should be honest with her and tell her you are not a virgin but you don't need to tell her anything else, if she asks who it was simply say it was a girl you knew when you where younger and it was a mistake and leave it at that.... (read in full...)
I'm interested in a girl who has a boyfriend. Do I drop a hint that I'm single?
Q. I split up with my long term partner because I wasn't sure how I felt and it didn't feel right anymore. I'm in no rush to get into a relationship again but there is a girl who I have an interest in. I think there is a connection between us as I'...
A. 27 August 2018: Honestly I don't think it would be a wise move saying anything to her, she is in a relationship and to be honest that is just really disrespectful to her boyfriend. If she was single then fair enough. I think you should spend some time alone to work ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's mother doesn't like me
Q. I have been in a relationship for a year and a month only to turn out that my boyfriend’s mother doesn’t like me, gets disrespectful with me and tells the other family members shit bout me which isn’t true, when all I’ve been to all of them is ...
A. 27 August 2018: Have a word with his mother alone and tell her how upset you are that she doesn't like you. Ask her why she feels that way and explain to her how much you love her son and how you want to be part off the family. If she is still being nasty to you ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid that having a transgender friend means he's stringing me along
Q. I am in a long distance relationship for a year and a half planning to move in with him. I’m pregnant. My boyfriend is very handsome cares a lot about his appearance. Well I put kisses baby and he put kisses mami then a transgender guy from his...
A. 27 August 2018: What on earth would make you think that he is living a double life??... (read in full...)
I like my friend's brother and I think he likes me too
Q. Hi. I have a problem and i would really like other people's opinion about this. I started liking a boy because i was thinking he was liking me too and he had his sister in his class then we became friends with her too and now we're really close. I...
A. 27 August 2018: The thing is asking his sister to ask him is something that you would see in the playground, the best way would have been to simply write a message and ask him would he like to meet up for lunch or a cup of coffee. Telling his sister is one thing ... (read in full...)
I like my friend's brother and I think he likes me too
Q. Hi. I have a problem and i would really like other people's opinion about this. I started liking a boy because i was thinking he was liking me too and he had his sister in his class then we became friends with her too and now we're really close. I...
A. 25 August 2018: I think that you developed a crush on him and that you may like him more than he does. As women we over think everything and he probably doesn't even know you are thinking half off these things.
Making eye contact is normal enough, it doesn't mean... (read in full...)
How do I fix my girlfriend's attitude about her appearance?
Q. My girlfriend has a folder on her phone that consists of a lot of pictures of beautiful girls. I asked her about it and she said that these girls are pretty and she likes the inspiration because she wants to look like that one day. We're both onl...
A. 24 August 2018: You don't. This is how she feels and if she wants to go down that route then that is her choice. We all have things that motivate us in life and this is that for her. She has expressed she doesn't feel ugly, which is good. However she wants to ... (read in full...)
Turnng 30 and getting itchy feet about passionless relationship
Q. Hi, I don't know what to do or how to feel. I have lived at home with my parents until not long ago. I was always a good kid and studied hard and didn't go out partying. I've bought a house and moved in with my partner of 10 years. I have bee...
A. 24 August 2018: I think you hit the nail on the head straight away. You never went out, you lived at home and you didn't really experience going out partying and well just having fun as a teenager or young adult.
You also got in to a relationship quite young as w... (read in full...)
My husband's driving triggers my panic attacks
Q. I suffer from anxiety, and i have been married for 7 years now. I constantly have an argument with my husband whenever he is driving. I have severe fear from driving (specially highways), and i always argue with my husband if he just slightly gets ...
A. 24 August 2018: Are you on any medication for your anxiety disorder? Arguing with your husband while he is driving is honestly just going to distract him more.
It is not his fault if a car gets close to you, so I don't think it helps taking it out on him. I do u... (read in full...)
His ex hates me because he dumped her two weeks before dating me
Q. So to explain the situation a bit better Ive been best friends with an American man for about 12.5 years now, I lived in Ireland and we met online and started as penpals , we have emailed nearly every day for 12 years and always rang each other and ...
A. 24 August 2018: What he done to that women is disgusting! He used her and that is a horrible thing to do to any person. Even though it was only three months, am sure it still hurt her very much.
However she does sound crazy and she has no right threatening you ... (read in full...)
Leaving a married man is more painful than staying
Q. So I ended my A over a month ago. I felt like a huge weight was lighted off my shoulders that I finally off the roller coster ride of emotions. I started wanting more than he can give He would always make excuses to come to my place go to your p...
A. 24 August 2018: So you are happy to take a man away from his children? How on earth do you sleep at night. I have no advice to people like you other than even if his wife leaves him he won't truly ever want you and that is something you need to live with.... (read in full...)
My brother owes me money!
Q. Okay, I'm not sure if this is the right place for this but here goes. I'm really needing some sound advice here because I really feel myself at the point of no return and I don't know what to do or want to fall out with anyone. My little broth...
A. 24 August 2018: You just need to be brutally honest with him as he is taking advantage. Sit him down and tell him the trouble he has left you in. Come up with some arrangement and if he doesn't stick to it then it is time to find a new flat mate. Also tell him if ... (read in full...)
They look so happy on their photos and get so many likes on them and I can't help feeling like I despise them both
Q. My ex and I broke up at the start of February after 5 years together. We shared a house, was talking about getting engaged and starting a family etc but I left. I realised I wanted to fulfill my dream of getting a degree which he didn't approve of. ...
A. 24 August 2018: You block him on instagram and remember why you left in the first place. You cannot say they where both waiting until you where out off the picture because you are the one that ended things to chase your dreams, while its obvious he wants to have a ... (read in full...)
The guy I've been seeing just asked about a threesome with my friend
Q. A guy I've been seeing for not long was talking to me tonight and he pulled up a pic on my social media and asked if it was my friend in the pic. I said yes and he said she looks familiar. He then a few sentences later was asking if I wanted a...
A. 24 August 2018: Yes run for the hills and don't look back. He is not looking for a serious relationship with you.... (read in full...)
Our male co-worker is too friendly with my girlfriend
Q. Hey so i work with my gf and we have this male coworker who is engaged. but he is always giving my gf a little gift like once a month. it could be some bread he baked or the last thing was a pack of paper clips with a note saying he hopes this ...
A. 24 August 2018: Honestly it sounds to me like he is just a nice guy. It doesn't appear like he is being flirty with her or expecting anything from her. Maybe he sees her as a good friend and is thoughtful? Am not sure I can only go with what you have wrote, but ... (read in full...)
Leaving a married man is more painful than staying
Q. So I ended my A over a month ago. I felt like a huge weight was lighted off my shoulders that I finally off the roller coster ride of emotions. I started wanting more than he can give He would always make excuses to come to my place go to your p...
A. 24 August 2018: Why on earth would you enter in to an affair with a married man? Have you any idea the pain cheating can cause to a person? I sure hope there are no children involved.
Off course he would make excuses you where his bit on the side he wasn't goin... (read in full...)
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