Will the intimacy return? Do other new parents feel this way?
Q. Okay, to put a little background into this for better understanding, my wife and I have 2 kids. One was born at the end of January this year, but with the way I am, I don't handle the infant stage very well. I have quite the temper and crying ...
A. 11 May 2018: Are you seeking professional help for your depression? If not then I think you should seek medical advice. Also if you have a temper and can't handle children then why on earth did you decide to have two? I can understand why your wife doesn't want ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and his ex are "best friends" and keep saying that they love each other!
Q. My boyfriends ex is starting to make me have uneasy. Feelings. They were only married two years and had no children together. She did bring a two year old little girl into the marriage. They fought all the time and she wanted out and filed for ...
A. 11 May 2018: You are right why not set up a meeting so you can see what she is like and see if you get the feeling she is more than friends with him.
I do understand why this would make you uneasy, I would be the same. I also think it is important to be open... (read in full...)
I love him but I'm tired of being a mistress and I'm tired of the whole situation
Q. Hi, Aunts! I've been involved in a relationship with a married man since the last two years which developed on the very basis of his lies towards me. In the beginning, he kept me telling that he was single until I found out a few months later (I'...
A. 9 May 2018: Yes of course you have made the right choice. He is always going to choose his wife over you and fill you with excuses as to why he cannot leave. When she found out that was his perfect chance to leave if he wanted to, but he doesn't, he still wants ... (read in full...)
Why do men never seen interested in me?
Q. I am 22 and I am about to graduate college this fall. I have never dated anyone or had a boyfriend. I am never asked out, approached, and I am almost never hit on by men. I have tried joining some organizations on campus to get to know a few gu...
A. 9 May 2018: What has your weight got to do with it? You do know some guys prefer larger girls and some slimmer? Body shape should not have anything to do with it. Maybe you are missing something I suggest talking to a close friend and asking them for advice, ... (read in full...)
How do I distance myself from my toxic siblings?
Q. Okay so, it all began about a year ago. I've been having issues with both my elder and younger sisters. Before my younger sister came along, my elder and I were super close. Atleast we were, about a year ago. Now my you get sister is 12, an...
A. 9 May 2018: Talk to your parents and tell them what is happening. Remember your parents are there for a reason so be open and honest with them. Are you over 18? If so then you are legally an adult and you can report them for violence if they are physically ... (read in full...)
Insensitive, rude, pushy student is getting me in trouble for not wanting to be his friend
Q. I have a problem where something that happened in my personal life has spilled over into work-study (at college) and it's gotten me into trouble. I'm especially in trouble because I refuse to apologize and kiss the butt of the person I really don't ...
A. 9 May 2018: 'Sorry, Autism is no excuse for poor social skills and I told him so.'
You do understand what Autism is don't you? It is not an excuse for poor social skills. It is probably judgmental comments like that which has made people side with the boy with... (read in full...)
How do I deal with pregnancy envy?
Q. How do people deal with pregnancy envy?Im a single women and my last serious relationship ended last year. During my relationship with my ex we talked about children and he always said he felt we weren’t ready but he did want to try within t...
A. 4 May 2018: Your future sister in law needs to realize that the world does not revolve around her. She is not the only person that can have a child in the family, and it shouldn't be about lime light it should be about two new babies coming in to the family. ... (read in full...)
Why is my co-worker taking care of his female friend after she just had a baby? Does he like her?
Q. Hello there, I am 32 years old and my coworker is 41 years old. We starred to talk around January only at work then we found out that we live 8 minutes away from each other. Our days off rotate and march 16th him and I set the date to go to lunch an...
A. 4 May 2018: Honestly I think you are over thinking this situation way to much and worrying over nothing. They are adult men and if they get offended by words so easily let them sort it out themselves. You are right you should not get involved. ... (read in full...)
What’s the worst that could happen? He doesn’t want the threesome and I think it’s a bad idea too but I still want it!
Q. Sorry, this is very personal and embarrasing and long so you can stop reading if you’re offended by threesomes or anything taboo. Me and my boyfriend have been together for over two years amd we have lived together since 6 months together and we’r...
A. 3 May 2018: No your behavior is not sick. But if you love your boyfriend and you see a future with him then you need to stay away from this girl and not introduce her in to your relationship. Porn is very different to actually cheating on your partner. It is ... (read in full...)
I pretended to be another woman and my fiancé told “her” he was single!
Q. My partner of 3 years has asked for my hand in marriage. At this point there are issues that make me unsure if I want to make this lifetime commitment with him,the big one being trust issues. He has cheated on me several times. Upon discove ering ...
A. 3 May 2018: If he is in a circle of friends who all cheat on there partners and he also guards his phone well then I personally would never be able to commit myself to him. Cheating is a very hard thing to get over, and building the trust takes time. But it is ... (read in full...)
We've split up,he wants me to move out.
Q. Hi Dear Cupid. I have been in a relationship for three and a half years and my partner split up with me once more and said we are done and that we can still be friends....does friends work? We still live together, are sleeping separately and ...
A. 2 May 2018: I honestly don't think meeting him for dinner or hanging out with him is the smartest thing to do at the moment. He has just ended the relationship, you need time alone to process this and to heal. Hanging around with him is just going to make it ... (read in full...)
I offered an adult student help, now he constantly contacts me.
Q. I would like to preface my question by saying that this isn't exactly a "relationship" question, but I am reaching out for advice because I know that some of you are really qualified to give advice about interactions with people, in general. I te...
A. 2 May 2018: If you honestly think that he is capable of following you to another country then change your phone number, block him from being able to contact you and if you want to move back to your home country then don't tell him where you are going. He does ... (read in full...)
My marriage in in crisis because I've decided my wife is too skinny and her boobs aren't big enough.
Q. Hi everyone, Thank you so much for reading this. I am genuinely looking for advice regarding my marriage which is in a state of crisis right now. I will keep it as short as possible. TL;DR: I met my wife in an online relationship. We got marr...
A. 2 May 2018: In all honesty I think you should go and see a therapist. You obviously have issues objectifying women and you should talk about those issues with a professional. I honestly don't understand why you would marry her if you did not find her ... (read in full...)
Dating an older guy. One year on he still hasn't said he loves me
Q. I have been seeing a man 24 years older than me for about a year. He's never told me he loves me. He says I mean the world to him and that he loves being around me. He looks at me "moony eyed", sometimes he just holds me and looks at me. He is ...
A. 1 May 2018: When you say seeing a man, do you mean you are in a relationship with him or that it is casual? A year is a long time so I think you should sit down and talk with him and ask him does he see a future.
There is a huge age gap between you both, am g... (read in full...)
Break up - No contact method or turn up at his house to get him back?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for 4 months and officially been his girlfriend for 2 of those months. In a moment of stupidity and because I let my overthinking get the best of me I tweeted "I'm single". I would have never acted on those words and I even ...
A. 1 May 2018: I am really confused as to why you would write a tweet saying you are single when you are not. If he says that he does not want to be with you now because of this then you need to listen to what he is saying. For someone in there late twenties this ... (read in full...)
My family want me to continue dating this really nice guy but I feel no attraction towards him
Q. I'm dating the most amazing, nice guy but I don't feel any physical attraction towards him. I'm confused because I haven't met someone so nice in a long time. I don't want to miss out..but then I don't want to settle. What do I do? I feel pressure ...
A. 30 April 2018: You say that he is nice so then don't lead him on. If you are not attracted to him physically then it sounds like he is not the man for you. ... (read in full...)
Should I gave up or wait more time to approach my ex
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend one month ago, the reason of the break up was an accumulation of many reasons and things he did. He is 25 and I am 35 years, we had up and down relationship , with great moments and bad moments. I give him a lot, I r...
A. 27 April 2018: You now need to leave him alone. You cannot fix him and make him a better person, he needs to do that for himself, and if he wants to be a drug dealer then that is what he will do.
You need to stop listening to your consultant and start acce... (read in full...)
Married man damaging my reputation.
Q. Previous Post: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-want-out-of-this-relationship-with-a.html About a month ago I ended an affair with a married man that I was having. We texted and called daily and we slept together on the weekend but I told it ...
A. 26 April 2018: There really is not a lot you can do now as the damage is done. The best thing to do is to block him on social media and ignore him. He has obviously developed feelings for you and that is why he has told his wife. However what he done was plain ... (read in full...)
We've split up,he wants me to move out.
Q. Hi Dear Cupid. I have been in a relationship for three and a half years and my partner split up with me once more and said we are done and that we can still be friends....does friends work? We still live together, are sleeping separately and ...
A. 26 April 2018: Hi Jess,
The kindest thing that you can do for yourself is move out. It is only prolonging the pain living together. You still love him and you can't go from being in a relationship and in love to being platonic friends when you still have deep feel... (read in full...)
My confidence is shot, I know I'm better off but I want him to realise it.
Q. My ex of 8 years dumped me 4 months ago, he was and still is an alcoholic and takes heroin and crack and blues and pregabs plus antidepressants ( bought of the streets) I tried helping him and loved him so much , in the past year before the break up ...
A. 26 April 2018: Then live for your son. You know deep down he is not the right man for you. Do you really want to be with an addict? To have an addict around your son? Not only that but he treated you terribly. You need to gain confidence and realize that you ... (read in full...)
Why did my ex give his friend my number?
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, i broke up in July last year (2017) with my boyfriend (I’ll call him M) i loved very much because i felt he had fallen out of love with me and two weeks later, he got a new girlfriend (I know because i came back to him so we could ...
A. 26 April 2018: If you like D then maybe go on a few dates with him and see how you get on. Personally I would avoid him as I think he is to close to your ex and that it could get awkward if you both got in to a relationship. But that is just what I would do ... (read in full...)
I think I am having a mid life crisis ... or something.
Q. I think I'm having a mid life crisis or something. I'm 30, cohabiting with my long term boyfriend (nearly 6 years). Just about to move into our first house purchased together. I hate my job. I'm on medication for depression and anxiety (the latter ...
A. 25 April 2018: You have not hit mid life yet I hope, I assume you have just hit a bad patch. Lets talk about your work, if you hate it then why not try and find another job? The medication you are on is probably causing you not to have a sex drive, it is a very ... (read in full...)
I offered an adult student help, now he constantly contacts me.
Q. I would like to preface my question by saying that this isn't exactly a "relationship" question, but I am reaching out for advice because I know that some of you are really qualified to give advice about interactions with people, in general. I te...
A. 25 April 2018: If you have so much anger then why do you not move back to your own country? At least then you might be much happier. ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I’m gay before moving in or not say anything?
Q. I've never had many guy friends but I've become a bit closer to a guy I knew since about college but only starI've never had many male friends but I've become a bit closer to a guy I knew since about college but only started getting friendly with ...
A. 25 April 2018: If you feel unsafe by revealing your sexuality then that is nobodies business but your own. Do what is best for you. It makes me sad to hear that in 2018 people are still scared to tell others there sexuality. You deserve to be happy and to live ... (read in full...)
Did I do the right thing, I think he is still involved with his children's mother.
Q. I was seeing a man who lives with his 18 year month twin boys and he still lives with his kids mother.He told me they have broken up but staying together for financial reasons for now. Well he wouldn't see me outside working hours so I calle...
A. 24 April 2018: It sounds like for whatever reason he was trying to keep you a secret. It doesn't sound like he is ready to date anyone and he is spending all his time with his children and their mother at the moment. I wouldn't date him unless he was in a separate ... (read in full...)
He said he loved me but then he dumped me out of the blue! Do I just walk away and forget it all?
Q. Hi Everyone I have a really big dilemma and don’t know what to do. Long story short. I was seeing this guy for a little over 2 months. Things were going amazing, we got along well, we wanted the same things out of life, we had many of the same ...
A. 20 April 2018: It is great that his friends have made an effort with you, but they probably just want to see him happy. His friends have probably saw him going through the divorce and want to see him move on. But they also know he moves to quick with things. If ... (read in full...)
We're both single now and he's invited me on an adventure... is he interested?
Q. I can't believe I'm 30 years old and asking this question, but my social skills are not the greatest so here goes. Tl;dr "does he like me?" A few years ago I met this guy in passing at an event I basically strayed into while out walking around. ...
A. 19 April 2018: Honestly I think you are trying to run before you can walk! Slow down! From reading what you have wrote it does sound like he is interested. So the only advice I can give you is to go and enjoy yourself. See how you both get on and take it from ... (read in full...)
He said he loved me but then he dumped me out of the blue! Do I just walk away and forget it all?
Q. Hi Everyone I have a really big dilemma and don’t know what to do. Long story short. I was seeing this guy for a little over 2 months. Things were going amazing, we got along well, we wanted the same things out of life, we had many of the same ...
A. 19 April 2018: Honestly I think the best thing that you can do for yourself in this situation is to walk away. If you don't do it now then you will only drag this out and keep getting hurt. It has been two months and it is clear that he is not ready to get in to a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend, I and his so called lesbian friend who's slept with him, fancies him and doesn't like me. What do I do?
Q. Been seeing a guy for 7months now. Started off casually, us both not looking for a relationship, but it naturally progressed into one that we both are enjoying. We have had to redefine and communicate a lot about what our needs and expectations are ...
A. 19 April 2018: It sounds like those two have unresolved issues. I can understand you are not worried about loosing him, it does seem that he sees her as a friend, but I also think he might love her as a friend and not want to loose her from his life. She on the ... (read in full...)
What can I do to make my Facebook account more respectable so that my boyfriend doesn't take things the wrong way?
Q. Hello. After a few years of being single minus one short relationship last year, I've found someone I want to get serious with. We've been dating a few months now and I've put a lot of thought into the type of partner I want to be. I've no problem ...
A. 19 April 2018: Honestly? I think you are worrying way to much about this. Just because you are in a relationship doesn't mean people cannot call you beautiful or sexy. If it bothers you that much then don't have people you don't know on social media, and if your ... (read in full...)
Why is my co-worker taking care of his female friend after she just had a baby? Does he like her?
Q. Hello there, I am 32 years old and my coworker is 41 years old. We starred to talk around January only at work then we found out that we live 8 minutes away from each other. Our days off rotate and march 16th him and I set the date to go to lunch an...
A. 19 April 2018: It could be possible that the babies father is out working and well he is very close to his friend so he is helping out. It really is impossible for me or anybody else to say if he has stronger feelings for his friend or not. I can understand why ... (read in full...)
A guy I was seeing went quiet on me, he says he is following legal advise.
Q. Im just wondering what are peoples thoughts. I was seeing a guy who went quiet on me we had been seeing each other for 6 month. i heard from him a handful of times in 2 month and didnt get to see him . I didnt sit about waiting for him i got on with ...
A. 19 April 2018: Well OP I am glad that you ended it and saw that you deserve more than to messed around like this. Am sorry but there is no excuse not to let you know what is happening. He doesn't need social media to phone you and let you know what is going on or ... (read in full...)
I'm back with my ex but sometimes he is not enthusiastic!
Q. My ex and I were together for 2.5 years. I ended the relationship about a year ago due to his immature habits (gambling and binge drinking on weekends). After the break up we tried working on things but ultimately not enough time had passed and ...
A. 18 April 2018: It sounds like he is not sure what he wants at the moment. Spending time together is good but you both need to communicate as well. You need to tell him how you feel and ask him where he sees the future going? Tell him you need to know what he ... (read in full...)
His piercing means no kissing for 10 weeks.
Q. My boyfriend got a new lip piercing last week and said that we can't kiss for the six week healing period, which I am happily enforcing because his healing is my priority and I don't want to hinder that process in any way. Coincidentally at the end ...
A. 18 April 2018: Kissing probably didn't even pop in to his head before he got the piercing. I do think you are over thinking things. Just enjoy doing other things together and the weeks will fly in. ... (read in full...)
I'm not shy but I shake when public speaking.
Q. I have a problem with speaking to people. Sometimes it’s a new girl who is looking at my school, sometimes it happens when I am writing the answer to a question on the board in front of everyone at school, sometimes it happens during a presentation ...
A. 18 April 2018: There is nothing wrong with you at all, you just have stage fright! Believe me it is very common, even people who are not generally shy can get cases of this.
If you find it is happening when you are talking publicly try practicing in front of a mi... (read in full...)
Sex seems like something he's trying to get over and done with and going through the motions!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years now and we are really happy together. He works away a fair bit and I travel frequently so we have regular LDR stints of maybe a couple of weeks or longer (up to 2 or more months). The distance isn't an issue ...
A. 17 April 2018: I doubt it has anything to do with him not being attracted to you, and more that he is insecure now within himself. If you are both in a relationship then you both need to be able to communicate openly about these kind of issues. You need to be able ... (read in full...)
Is it possible that his feelings toward her changed to a sister-like situation?
Q. I am now in the 2nd year of long-distance-relationship with my 60-year-old partner with the same experience of having relationship or marriage in the past before we met each other in office. Certainly we adore each other and always try our best to ...
A. 17 April 2018: In reality yes people can still love a person but not be in love with them any more. Maybe comparing her to a sister is quite strange as they where in a relationship, however he lost his feelings so he ended it.
Why are you insecure about hi... (read in full...)
My boyfriend can't stay hard!
Q. My boyfriend can't stay hard. The first time me and my boyfriend got intimate physically he avoided intercourse and satisfied me in other ways. However, after multiply attempts to have intercourse he eventually told me that he has a problem doing it...
A. 17 April 2018: Has he went to the doctor about this? That should be his first step so he can have tests done. I am glad you are not seeing it as personal and he is able to talk to you about it, but he does need to get professional help. ... (read in full...)
I am in the wrong for talking to my married coworker as a friend?
Q. I am in the wrong for talking to my married coworker as a friend? Hello aunts I want to preference that I would never commit adultery - simply I don’t want the karma and believe in it . Long story short the colleague that hired me is 44 I’m 32 ...
A. 17 April 2018: If the friendship was with a woman would you be asking the same question? I am not sure what you are worried about. You have no feelings or you are not attracted to him, or are you worried that he has feelings for you? Or is he simply just being a ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to lead such separate lives, but still have a relatively strong relationship?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for over 3 years now and we lived together for 2.5 of those years. We met through working together until I left the company 5 months of us dating (separate reasons, not related to our relationship). Anyway, I've n...
A. 17 April 2018: You say you have only noticed this recently, is there a reason for that? Has something changed recently that has sparked your concerns? You say you have mentioned it to him but things never change, what does he usually say when you mention it to ... (read in full...)
Is his message to me a cry for help?
Q. It's not that we talked much, but we were friends, well acquaintances at least. Anyway, it's been years since we've talked. We were in college like 9-10 years ago, but friends on social media. Anyway, out of the blue, he randomly sends me a message ...
A. 17 April 2018: That is a very random message to receive I would probably think the worst as well. I would simply reply and ask him how he is and if everything is okay? ... (read in full...)
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