This friend is too clingy!
Q. Hi, I have a problem but not exactly a love relationship problem. It's a friendship problem. I have a best friend who is one of the nicest people in the world. She really cares about me and I care about her too. But the thing is, I feel like she is ...
A. 23 August 2018: You are very welcome and know that I am here if you ever need to talk x... (read in full...)
How can I stop being mad at my parents ?
Q. This is a family question not so much a love question. My cousin who I consider to be a sister has fallen ill and is here in this country by herself - her parents abandoned her - I have been named the guardian under hospital records and I have ...
A. 16 August 2018: You are in your thirties and living in a home provided by your parents rent free. Do you pay the bills? For most people they would consider that a massive help from their parents. You should be grateful they have provided you with a roof over your ... (read in full...)
This friend is too clingy!
Q. Hi, I have a problem but not exactly a love relationship problem. It's a friendship problem. I have a best friend who is one of the nicest people in the world. She really cares about me and I care about her too. But the thing is, I feel like she is ...
A. 16 August 2018: It is clear that you both care about each other which is great and very special. However as humans we do need our own space and time to think.
It is not healthy to be glued to each other. It sounds like she might be suffering some confidence issu... (read in full...)
He’s chubby and it turns me off!
Q. So I went for a date with this guy on Monday and it went gd, he's asked me to go to a wine tasting evening after he comes back from holiday with his parents in a fortnight. However, he’s cute (he’s half French and has the accent), has a h...
A. 16 August 2018: No it doesn't make you shallow. You are attracted to a certain type and that is your right. I bet if someone posted it about a muscular personal trainer who they weren't attracted to nobody would call them shallow. You are in to your fitness and he ... (read in full...)
I messed up with my crush, can this be repaired?
Q. I messed up with my crush. can this be repaired? He immediately left and positioned to my right (the coffee machine is on the left). There were two other people standing on the other side (higher managers) and he just stood there next to me not s...
A. 16 August 2018: OP I genuinely think that this man has not a clue what you are on about. It sounds to me like you have a crush and you made yourself believe that he did also. Then you do something minor and you think you have ruined things and you are leaving ... (read in full...)
Could he be gay? Is he not attracted to me?
Q. I am now wondering whether my husband might be attracted to men and not women... My husband and I met online about a year and a half ago, we dated for about a year when he proposed. He was keen on getting married even just a month into dating, whi...
A. 16 August 2018: Why would this make you feel that he is gay? That doesn't make much sense to me unless off course you have saw him looking at male porn or chatting to men?
It does sound like you both rushed in to marriage. You barely knew each other long befo... (read in full...)
How do I change myself so I don’t get cheated on again?
Q. I dated a guy for 2 weeks.And I find him very weird and complicated.Sometimes I even suspect of him having any mental illness.I came from north Indian family.My family is looking groom for me.They arranged this guy to date and see how far things ...
A. 16 August 2018: You dated him for two weeks and you found him weird and complicated so that should tell you that it was not going to work out. If you do not click with someone then he is not the man for you. I think asking a man after two weeks does he see a future ... (read in full...)
I’m looking for practical advice on managing interviews!
Q. I have been looking for a part time job for over a year now and now need one more then ever as I don't have a job anymore due to the café I worked at closing as a result of lease expiry and other issues . I had been quite happy working in a caf...
A. 16 August 2018: Is it possible to contact the last four interviews and thank them for there time and ask them if it is possible the could give you some structured feedback to help you with future interviews. That would be a great start. Then it is important to do ... (read in full...)
How do I find a match? I have herpes!
Q. I'm wanting to start dating in the future and eventually attract a soulmate to share a life with. However,I have herpes (HSV-2); how do I keep myself emotionally safe? This will mean opening emotionally. ...
A. 16 August 2018: You don't need to tell someone straight away. You can get to know them and be more comfortable before it turns sexual and you need to have that conversation. Please remember that this is something a lot of people live with and never have issues with ... (read in full...)
My friend and I are drifting apart!
Q. I haven't seen or been in contact with my friend in over 4 months now , which may not seem a while to some but this is first time I haven't seen her in so long since meeting her about 4 years ago. normally it is just under 2 months when I don't see ...
A. 16 August 2018: This friendship is drifting apart, and yes it is sad but these things happen in life as we get older. My advice would be not to give her a second thought! You don't need to contact her and she is showing you she doesn't need to contact you. ... (read in full...)
How do I get past this abusive false relationship and move on?
Q. I left an emotionally abusive relationship. I thought we were head over heels in love but it was just false. He lead me on and tried to use me financially and to help him with his kids. I fell for it for about 2 months. Tried to work things out but ...
A. 16 August 2018: Well done for leaving the relationship. Some women (and men) never find the strength to do that so you should be super proud of yourself, that is a major achievement on its own and shows that you are a strong person! Please don't be embarrassed. He ... (read in full...)
How to initiate conversations on social media with potential dates?
Q. Okay I'm new to this whole internet dating thing..... if I find a guy on social media who has similar interests and appears single, how do I go about initiating a conversation and how to I turn it to a conversation that asks if he is single and if ...
A. 16 August 2018: I am not sure social media would be the best platform to start messaging random guys. If you want to do online dating then maybe join a site that does just that.... (read in full...)
Toxic sibling or am I too sensitive?
Q. Everyone has always told me that I'm too sensitive and what my brother does is normal sibling behavior. I can be oversensitive, but I'm really weary when my brother comes to visit. Its almost like he has 2 personalities, a nice one and a mean one. A ...
A. 16 August 2018: If everyone tells you that you are too sensitive then maybe you are, but that is who you are at the end of the day and you cannot help it! My brother has called me fat, stupid, ugly ect. I have called him the same back! However we love each other ... (read in full...)
My not going to my sister’s hen do may we’ll end our already strained relationship!
Q. I need some advice about my sister's hen party. I live 4 hours drive from my sister and she has invited me for her hen weekend. I agreed to go several months back. The weekend involves overnight away, spa, drinks, meal out so is going to cost £2...
A. 16 August 2018: I am sure you have someone who can look after the children? At the end of the day you agreed to be her maid of honour so I think you need to make the effort. Back at the start when she asked you, then you should have refused if you felt that you ... (read in full...)
I’m sick to my stomach that he had a lap dance on a stag weekend!
Q. My boyfriend recently went on a stag do to Prague and whilst he was there he went to a strip club and the whole group paid for a lap dance off of 2 dancers. Before he left for Prague, I told him that it would really upset me if he got a lap dance ...
A. 16 August 2018: I totally get why you are upset. I don't think it is about the dance it is more about the fact that he knew how you felt. On my husbands stag party the paid for him to have a dance (no touching) when I heard I felt uneasy and upset. Which really ... (read in full...)
How I am going to do with my the monthly expenses with all these medical debt?
Q. I had an emergency surgery done this year and unfortunately, the medical insurance covered only a small portion of it so I am in debt with medical bills. I did call all the parties and set up a payment plan so at least I am paying it little by ...
A. 16 August 2018: Life gets in the way sometimes and unexpected expenses prop up! Have you spoke to your family to see if they can help in anyway by transferring over some money? If that is not possible I really can only see it working if you take out a student loan. ... (read in full...)
I can't seem to let this attached man go?
Q. I've been the other woman for a year and I now finally ready to leave but I can't seem to get that last bit of strength to send that break up text. Our affair is purely sexual and I want more. I don't find a relationship that is based on sex sat...
A. 16 August 2018: You did do the right thing and time will heal! I hope you have learnt now never to enter in to an affair with a married man, as more times than average it is the other woman that gets hurt. ... (read in full...)
I could see myself having a FWB with this guy but don't know how to approach the whole thing
Q. So I got out of a long term relationship about 2/3 months ago now. I went through a lot of soul searching and i'm feeling better than ever. I'm not completely over my breakup but i've got to a point where I would never get back with my ex now and ...
A. 16 August 2018: Approach it with caution and make sure it is really what you want. You need to be very strong emotionally to enter in to a sex only friendship and not develop some sort of feelings. Usually one person ends up getting really hurt in these situations. ... (read in full...)
We live far apart so why did he tell me not to share things hes told me with anyone?
Q. I've been talking to a guy online for a while now and we get on really well but he lives far away so we are just having fun. He said to me today - if at some point we have to stop talking please don't share some personal things he's shared with me. ...
A. 16 August 2018: Sounds like he wants to be able to trust you! It is his stories he is telling and he wants to share them with you and nobody else! However this is long distance and it does sound like you are both more penpals than anything else.... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have an orgasm this way?
Q. Hey Guys, I'm a virgin. I was wondering if it's normal to have an orgasm just by playing with my nipples... cuz i have a very quick orgasm within just 3 minutes of teasing the nips.I don't even have to stimulate the clit; the work get's done with ...
A. 16 August 2018: You have sensitive nipples so yes it is normal! It works for some and not others, same as sex some women get orgasms and some don't! We are all different and like different things. ... (read in full...)
My parents are so overprotective that its affecting my dating
Q. Hi there, I hope I don't get judged by what I'm about to say. I'm not sure how to feel about this but what I do currently feel is like a mixture of being a little angry and annoyed. I'll try to keep it short. So just before my boyfriend was du...
A. 16 August 2018: You have posted a lot about your parents. You need to accept that this is the way they are, and while you are under there roof they are going to be protective. His mother was not alone she was with her maid, so in fact it was lovely that your ... (read in full...)
I want to meet and talk not be his hook up
Q. I’ve known this guy for nearly two years, we originally met on a night out and we were instantly attracted to each other, however he soon got a girlfriend and we barely stayed in touch and only bumped into each other a few times, the problem is that ...
A. 16 August 2018: Meeting up for a drink might be the wrong thing to do. If you don't want to be a hook up then I would suggest asking him does he want to meet for lunch or go to a movie during the day! Don't go on a night out where drink is involved as it does sound ... (read in full...)
Any advice please I’m pregnant and I feel like he doesn’t care
Q. My boyfriend stemmed to be happy that I was pregnant until I pushed him away and deleted my Facebook and Instagram for a break. He hurt me I had enough I deleted social media so he doesn’t know how I am since we are long distance. He literally knew ...
A. 16 August 2018: He cheated on you and he won't admit to it or take responsibility. If he loved you he would be fighting to win you back and try and regain your trust. This shows how little he thinks of you. He looks at you as weak and you need to try and be strong ... (read in full...)
How do I not get too attached to the new guy I'm seeing?
Q. How do I not get too attached to the new guy I'm seeing? We like all the same things to a spooky degree and we have a lot of chemistry. The only thing is his ex might be pregnant and she won't go to the drs because she is religious. Which I don't ...
A. 16 August 2018: Did he break up with her? Could this be some lie to try and get him back? He cannot force her to go to the doctors but surely her religion wouldn't stop her from being able to do a home pregnancy test? I think you need to talk to him and tell him ... (read in full...)
I’m worried about how I’ll be able to handle things at my new job!
Q. I have a trial for a job at a café/restaurant next week and i'm unsure of whether to do it as ive been asked to hand out menu's to customers and I no this is just something im really bad at talking to people and how do I even say so to someone oh ...
A. 16 August 2018: It might give you the confidence boost that you need. You cannot live your life worrying about these things. Yes you may start the job and realize that it is not for you but at least then you could walk away knowing that you give it your best shot. ... (read in full...)
I'm already cheating on my new boyfriend with an old FWB. How do I stop?
Q. Hey everyone. I'm about to admit to something bad so please don't be too harsh with me here. I have recently got into a new relationship with a man my age. We have been together for just over a month and were dating for about a month before that. I ...
A. 16 August 2018: I think the best thing that you can do is end your relationship. There is no point in saying you will stay committed because you already cant help yourself. Cheating on a partner is soul destroying and can ruin is life forever and his trust in ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my date that I’m bisexual?
Q. I’m a bisexual woman and I need advice on coming out to a guy I’ve been dating for a couple of weeks. I’d like to know if any other bisexual people have advice on how to do it, and how straight people would feel if a date came out to them as ...
A. 16 August 2018: I have plenty of friends are bisexual and I have never knowing them to struggle with this. I cannot see why this would be a big deal for him. Just drop it in to a conversation, just talk about dating and past relationships and just tell him your ... (read in full...)
I'm sitting here alone and pregnant, can I get any advice?
Q. I dated this guy for almost six months during the time I got pregnant.Issues between me and his mom became apparent when she and her daughter begin writting shady comments on my fb page I finally confront both of them and his mom end up call me a ...
A. 16 August 2018: I am so sorry that he is not communicating with you, but I agree you should seek legal advice, if not for yourself then for your unborn baby, you will need every penny for the baby. Good luck.... (read in full...)
He changed his work number after we argued so I can’t call him!
Q. Hello, I'd like some advice on a current situation I have here. My boyfriend is a Uber driver. He has two phones, a personal phone for his family and friends, and a work phone he uses for Uber. I'm the only one that has both phone numbers. When he'...
A. 20 July 2018: I think there might be more to this story than you are telling us. It sounds like he had enough and he went back to keeping his number private. If he is not willing to share it with his family then there must be a reason, and well am guessing the ... (read in full...)
I don’t want my Dad to create a false image of me!
Q. I have problems with my parents... So recently, I got my results from my spring semester and it was pretty good. I scored one of the highest scores in math. And so my dad told my aunt about my scores and knowing my aunt, she'll tell other people. I ...
A. 20 July 2018: He is your Dad and off course he is going to tell people. There is no harm in letting family know your school results. You are the one putting the pressure on yourself. Nobody is perfect and nobody expects you to be perfect. If in the future you ... (read in full...)
My best friend’s sister doesn’t seem to understand that she takes the “joking” too far!
Q. Hi guys.. I have a situation that I need your help and advice on.. I have always got on ok with my best friends sister (she’s 30, I’m 36). But when she has a drink she takes the p*ss out of me. We’ve had like nights out (me, my best friend, his...
A. 20 July 2018: Talk to her, she might take it to far but she probably doesn't realize that she is actually hurting you or causing you anxiety. You just need to be honest with her when she is sober, and if things don't change then you just need to stop hanging out ... (read in full...)
Shall I stop being a gentlemen and be a man?
Q. Just wondering what you guys would think what’s on this girls mind. She is married with 2 kids. She is few years older than me, we work together. She is quiet person, well respected and often hates guys advancing. For example a friend of mine will ...
A. 19 July 2018: I misunderstood your update as your friend got in to a relationship with a girl that he had sex with, so I am sorry about that. I didn't mean to insinuate that you are a bitter person I just got that bit wrong. Still though you are going through a ... (read in full...)
I've tried making the best of a mediocre, rocky married life but now I've met someone who makes me feel good and want to move out with my daughter
Q. I am 34, married for 4 years with 2 daughters, one is daughter is a step daughter. My relationship has been rocky from the start but me being the strong willed i have tried to make it.... On the start, my husband was big headed and we could neve...
A. 19 July 2018: I fail to understand why you would have married him if things where rocky from the start? Even if you are strong willed surely that was warning signs that a marriage wouldn't work if things where already rocky?
It almost sounds like you are both... (read in full...)
Family problems, problems wth my friend, panic attacks, working two jobs and unhappy. Help me get out of my rut
Q. I feel like I'm stuck in a rut and I can't get out! I'm a university student and the most I struggle with is the odd panic attack about dying, but since being back at home they are getting worse and I think it's to do with being back. I'm tryin...
A. 19 July 2018: It sounds like your panick attacks are caused by anxiety. Which can become worse when we are stressed out about different situations. You need to look in to booking yourself with a therapist for CBT treatment and hopefully you can take control off ... (read in full...)
Our sex life used to be magical until his porn use!
Q. Im 43 and my self confidence and 20 yr relationship is suffering more and more with progressive viewing of porn by my partner. We’ve always enjoyed watching it together every once in awhile and I’m willing to spice up our sex life within reason. But ...
A. 19 July 2018: It sounds like he has developed a habit off watching porn and is neglecting you. I know it is easy for me to say not to take it personal, but honestly you shouldn't. Am guessing watching porn is a release for him, men tend to get off more ... (read in full...)
I met him 2 weeks ago and am wondering is this a friendship or a rebound?
Q. I am 25 and have been single for a year now. Two weeks ago, I met a guy at a party who works with a friend of mine. We hit it off and talked nonstop. Later that week we ended up going to another group event together and staying after everyone ...
A. 19 July 2018: While I understand that two months is a short time and the break up is fresh, I still think only he knows when he emotionally left the relationship. I would take things slowly and get to know him. Don't rush in to anything in case you do get hurt. ... (read in full...)
In a financial crisis, who do you give your last dollar to?
Q. At the age of 16 years old I knew I never wanted a man with a child. When I met my husband, he had no children which was a plus. Of course we started off as friends but before we actually got into a serious relationship, he slept with one of his ...
A. 18 July 2018: I do agree with you that he handled the situation really bad. As husband and wife yes use should sit down and discuss finances. I do understand that it is your family as one and that he is earning the most at the moment as you are out if work and ... (read in full...)
I don’t know how to move on! Advice?
Q. I still love him and can’t move on.? We broke up after almost 2 years because I tolerated his abusive behaviour, emotionally and verbally. I broke up because I couldn’t take the nasty words and he said he wished I died. A week later he texts me...
A. 17 July 2018: It is hard when you are still in love with someone, we tend to remember the good times when we miss someone and the bad times go to the back off our mind! You tolerated this man being abusive and that is not okay. The longer someone is abusive the ... (read in full...)
Why did my married ex boyfriend snap just like that? I desperately want him back in my life!
Q. I met a guy at work 9 years ago. We flirted and had fun but he was married. We worked together and once we kissed in his office and ended up having sex. I have never done anything like this before. I was madly in love with him from this first kiss. ...
A. 17 July 2018: It is clear that your love for him is one sided. If he loved you he would have showed it all those years ago, but when it came down to it he ended things. The buzz was probably over for him. It is clear he never saw you as relationship material, you ... (read in full...)
I'm sitting here alone and pregnant, can I get any advice?
Q. I dated this guy for almost six months during the time I got pregnant.Issues between me and his mom became apparent when she and her daughter begin writting shady comments on my fb page I finally confront both of them and his mom end up call me a ...
A. 17 July 2018: What went wrong is you both barely know each other! You dated for six months and you are four months pregnant, that is not enough time to get to know each other and figure out if use have a connection or not. The way his mother spoke to you is ... (read in full...)
I don't see this relationship lasting. How should I tell my boyfriend that I'm extremely annoyed with him?
Q. How should I tell my bf that I was upset? I have been seeing my bf for 6 mths, I didn’t not want to seem like I’m nit picking or anything but a few things are bothering me. He rarely iniates intimacy. His excuse is he’s shy. Surly not after 6 m...
A. 17 July 2018: Personally if I was in your situation I would be annoyed and hurt as well. Although I would do things differently to you. If his son invited you then you should have said to your boyfriend that he invited you and that you would like to come along. ... (read in full...)
In a financial crisis, who do you give your last dollar to?
Q. At the age of 16 years old I knew I never wanted a man with a child. When I met my husband, he had no children which was a plus. Of course we started off as friends but before we actually got into a serious relationship, he slept with one of his ...
A. 16 July 2018: I obviously hit a nerve with you and that was never my intention. I am in no way an arrogant person and if that is what you got from my answer then so be it. If you are going to write to a forum you are going to get a lot off different points of ... (read in full...)
Shall I stop being a gentlemen and be a man?
Q. Just wondering what you guys would think what’s on this girls mind. She is married with 2 kids. She is few years older than me, we work together. She is quiet person, well respected and often hates guys advancing. For example a friend of mine will ...
A. 16 July 2018: You need to take time to get over your ex. It is all still fresh and yes you are hurting, but honestly OP do you think breaking up a marriage will help? Be the reason that two parents split up and there are two children left in the middle? There is ... (read in full...)
In a financial crisis, who do you give your last dollar to?
Q. At the age of 16 years old I knew I never wanted a man with a child. When I met my husband, he had no children which was a plus. Of course we started off as friends but before we actually got into a serious relationship, he slept with one of his ...
A. 13 July 2018: Going back to the start, if she had slept around then I really don't understand why he did not do a paternity test. You cannot go by what her friends say, but in all fairness if there was any doubt he should have done the test, that little girl ... (read in full...)
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