Shall I stop being a gentlemen and be a man?
Q. Just wondering what you guys would think what’s on this girls mind. She is married with 2 kids. She is few years older than me, we work together. She is quiet person, well respected and often hates guys advancing. For example a friend of mine will ...
A. 19 July 2018: I misunderstood your update as your friend got in to a relationship with a girl that he had sex with, so I am sorry about that. I didn't mean to insinuate that you are a bitter person I just got that bit wrong. Still though you are going through a ... (read in full...)
In a financial crisis, who do you give your last dollar to?
Q. At the age of 16 years old I knew I never wanted a man with a child. When I met my husband, he had no children which was a plus. Of course we started off as friends but before we actually got into a serious relationship, he slept with one of his ...
A. 18 July 2018: I do agree with you that he handled the situation really bad. As husband and wife yes use should sit down and discuss finances. I do understand that it is your family as one and that he is earning the most at the moment as you are out if work and ... (read in full...)
In a financial crisis, who do you give your last dollar to?
Q. At the age of 16 years old I knew I never wanted a man with a child. When I met my husband, he had no children which was a plus. Of course we started off as friends but before we actually got into a serious relationship, he slept with one of his ...
A. 16 July 2018: I obviously hit a nerve with you and that was never my intention. I am in no way an arrogant person and if that is what you got from my answer then so be it. If you are going to write to a forum you are going to get a lot off different points of ... (read in full...)
I overheard my wife saying that her ex was the best sex she'd ever had and now my ego is shattered!
Q. So my ego has been devastated and I really don’t know how to handle this. Turns out I’m not the best sex my wife has ever had. Any advice is appreciated. About a week ago my wife had one of her friends at our house for some drinks. After ha...
A. 16 July 2018: Anonymous reader not only does your comment seem low, it is also bullying and offensive! It also sounds like you are being spiteful and jealous against this woman! Looks are only skin deep and fade, but your comments are ugly which says a lot about ... (read in full...)
Everyone tells us moving in together after 2 months of dating is too soon!
Q. What's the consensus for knowing when you're ready to move in with someone? My boyfriend and I have only been dating for a little over 2 months, but we see each other every day (we work at the same company), spend hours/weekends at a time togeth...
A. 16 July 2018: I might be biased but no I don't think it is a terrible idea. Look worst case scenario is it doesn't work out and you both move home again. Just because you are moving in together doesn't mean its a life time commitment. I wouldn't recommend buying ... (read in full...)
How do I move on and am I to blame?
Q. I'm just in despair right now. I absolutely love this site and it's helped me in times of need for so long now, so here goes. I've recently broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years. We lived together for two years in his family house (his famil...
A. 16 July 2018: Off course you need support it is difficult coming out of a long term relationship. You are mending a broken heart while adjusting to a new life. It is okay to be sad, but at some point you need to accept it is over and delete him from your life. No ... (read in full...)
Her depression is getting in the way of our love!
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for 9 years, and we are both in love with each others. We shared alot of great times together and i can't imagine my life without her. I was her first boyfriend, and she never dated anyone because she doesn't trust men, ...
A. 16 July 2018: Her mental illness is not your problem no, but you do love her and therefore I wouldn't throw away a relationship because of it. It is tough having a mental illness, and however hard it is on you, you can bet it is much worse for her. Nine years is ... (read in full...)
I decided that I wouldn’t text him again but he keeps checking out my social media posts! Any advice?
Q. It's like a one sided love at 1st sight, but idk , am into someone , am obsessed with him as hell .. we were chatting for more than a year then we met , well he kissed me it was soft coz I didn't want to especially that was our 1st meeting then we ...
A. 16 July 2018: OP he wants a girl to have sex with and you want a relationship. There is nothing to be confused about here, don't mistake his looks for romance they are more than likely looks to try and get you to have sex with him. Him looking at your stories and ... (read in full...)
My best friend is dating my younger sister!
Q. my best freind has started going out with my little sister (20) and im realy jelouse about it. some back story, me and my best freind we'll call him Tim, we're both 27 and have been mates for about 26 years. anyway about six months back my l...
A. 16 July 2018: I am assuming that if you have knowing him all your life then your sister has knowing him as well. Your sister done the mature thing talking to you about it and you gave her your blessing so I think now you need to put your own feelings to one side. ... (read in full...)
What does he want? Is there something here or just a sexual relationship?
Q. Going back about 4-5 months ago, I met a guy one night out at a bar. We are 5 years age difference, I'm 22 and he's 27. We immediately slept together that night. We kind of clicked quite well and he got my number, stayed in contact with me and we ...
A. 16 July 2018: Things haven't really progressed in the five or six months that you have been seeing each other so that is a big red flag to begin with. I think if he was interested in a relationship it would have came up by now. The only way you are going to know ... (read in full...)
Shall I stop being a gentlemen and be a man?
Q. Just wondering what you guys would think what’s on this girls mind. She is married with 2 kids. She is few years older than me, we work together. She is quiet person, well respected and often hates guys advancing. For example a friend of mine will ...
A. 16 July 2018: You need to take time to get over your ex. It is all still fresh and yes you are hurting, but honestly OP do you think breaking up a marriage will help? Be the reason that two parents split up and there are two children left in the middle? There is ... (read in full...)
After years of neglect, my teeth need dental care! Is this how I go about it?
Q. Hi guys... I think this is more for support as well as advice. I've been on before about this topic but a new angle this time. So I've now got a boyfriend and one major issue I had was I hate my teeth. It's because of years of neglect ...
A. 13 July 2018: Well done on taking the first step, that should be something to be very proud off! I remember your previous post on here! I am the same I have a fear of the dentist. But you are doing the right thing. You have taken the first step. When you go for a ... (read in full...)
This confusing guy is sending mixed signals!
Q. So I met this guy off a gay dating app. We had tremendously good sex. As he left my house he told me he "really wanted" to see me again. He lives in a different city and for a hook up from an app, it was brave of him to say that. I asked him when he ...
A. 13 July 2018: I don't think he is playing games with you at all. I think he is just being friendly and treating you as a hook up. You both did meet on a hook up site so I wouldn't expect much more than this.
If he was interested he would make more off an effo... (read in full...)
In a financial crisis, who do you give your last dollar to?
Q. At the age of 16 years old I knew I never wanted a man with a child. When I met my husband, he had no children which was a plus. Of course we started off as friends but before we actually got into a serious relationship, he slept with one of his ...
A. 13 July 2018: Going back to the start, if she had slept around then I really don't understand why he did not do a paternity test. You cannot go by what her friends say, but in all fairness if there was any doubt he should have done the test, that little girl ... (read in full...)
Why couldn’t he understand that I needed his emotional support that day?
Q. Monday was a sad day for me. I lost my job and broke up with my boyfriend of 4 yrs. Although I'm not too worried about being able to find another job, it still is not a happy event to be let go... I called my boyfriend and he sounded shocked ...
A. 12 July 2018: Sorry about loosing your job, I understand how frustrating that can be. Hopefully with luck you will find a much better job soon, just keep applying and keep your spirits up.
Now on to your ex relationship. Well if after four years he cannot g... (read in full...)
Is my way of orgasming normal? And was it normal to start so young?
Q. When i was 8 years old, I've literally been having an orgasm and i didn't even knew what orgasm is. I would get it when ever i squeeze my legs together, and i would feel pleasure and relaxed feeling, i also feel pressure down there when i do it. ...
A. 12 July 2018: The answer to your question is yes it is completely normal! It does sound young at eight years old yes, but if you look in to it babies as young as one masturbate!! It can be soothing for them or something that they do out of sheer boredom. Now ... (read in full...)
My ex is poisoning my children against me and interfering in my visitation with them!
Q. Just a quick question about my ex and my children. I had to take my ex to court in order to see my children. I have a good arrangement now and I love having my children. However I always set up really good weekends when I have them, prope...
A. 12 July 2018: I do honestly feel awful for you, it sounds like she is bitter you have moved on and unfortunately she is using the children against you. Totally unfair and every mother (or father) should put there children before there own feelings and ... (read in full...)
Advice on changing appearance and health please!
Q. I really want to change myself , I don't mean drastically I just mean in terms of appearance and they way I am . I like my hair but ive always had the same hairstyle really and want ideas of what sort of hairstyle to get or how to just not overthink ...
A. 12 July 2018: Your appearance and weight isn't who you are as a person and well it doesn't make us any less sad or happy. If you ask someone who you feel has it all I bet they have there own issues and insecurities. We are never happy with what we look like, we ... (read in full...)
I’m still sad and upset by how I was treated in primary school!
Q. I was always left out in my friendship group at school and this was years ago now but it always upsets me , I look back and think they probably didn't even know they were leaving me out or did not know I was upset as we were all young and at primary ...
A. 12 July 2018: You need to stop looking at your primary school photos and focus on the past. All you are going to do is keep feeling sad if you think back to them. You where all children and children can be cruel and they might do or say things to each other that ... (read in full...)
I overheard my wife saying that her ex was the best sex she'd ever had and now my ego is shattered!
Q. So my ego has been devastated and I really don’t know how to handle this. Turns out I’m not the best sex my wife has ever had. Any advice is appreciated. About a week ago my wife had one of her friends at our house for some drinks. After ha...
A. 12 July 2018: Talk to your wife, if you don't you will end up holding on to all this resentment and it will show in the marriage weather you want it to or not, so please sit down and tell her how you are feeling. Communication is important in a marriage and you ... (read in full...)
I feel stuck because of his lodger! What do I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I in early 60s, have been together 5 years, but nothing is moving on because he has a female lodger in her 40s been there 25 years! Pays little rent, no household bills and keeps dogs. She wont move out, we gave her 6 months notice, ...
A. 11 July 2018: No you are not going mad, he is the one that doesn't seem to appreciate you or your relationship, I really hope you can find your happy ending.... (read in full...)
I overheard my wife saying that her ex was the best sex she'd ever had and now my ego is shattered!
Q. So my ego has been devastated and I really don’t know how to handle this. Turns out I’m not the best sex my wife has ever had. Any advice is appreciated. About a week ago my wife had one of her friends at our house for some drinks. After ha...
A. 11 July 2018: What would you rather, be the best sex that she ever had or have a loving committed marriage and the whole package? You say you wanted to leave them alone so they could have there girlie chat yet you still listened in even when they where ... (read in full...)
Please help me with my questions on infertility..
Q. This question is for anyone who has struggled with infertility. How was your relationship (marriage or otherwise) affected by it? Did you undergo fertility treatments (successful or otherwise), adopt, or just choose to remain child-free? Also, for ...
A. 11 July 2018: Hi OP, I have not started trying for a family yet so I have no issues that I know off so can't offer much in the way of help. However for what it is worth I wish you well in the future. When it comes to infertility issues I have saw first hand how ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is going away on vacation for two weeks!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 8 months and we have an amazing relationship. In a few weeks he’s going away with his family to his family’s house in Europe for 2 weeks. I know this sounds pathetic, but I’m genuinely upset that he’s ...
A. 11 July 2018: Yes you are! I am guessing this is your first relationship and your first true love? It is okay to feel sad and miss him while he is gone, but it is also extremely healthy in a relationship to have time apart and to miss each other. For the two ... (read in full...)
How can someone get out of a rut?
Q. I can’t seem to unlock or shake the code to happiness and I wanted to know how? I would not say I am depressed since I have been to a therapist and I have been prescribed meds which have not worked. I sit around and worry worry- or fantasize about ...
A. 11 July 2018: We all find happiness through different things, you just need to figure out what it is you want and how to get it! When you went to the therapist did you talk to them about how you are feeling? The medication helps with depression it doesn't however ... (read in full...)
What would you do in my situation? Travel first or settle down now, travel in retirement?
Q. I have been in a relationship with a man for a year. I'm pretty happy with this guy. We've had ups and downs, but overall things are good between us. We love each other. We have a holiday booked together and are planning to move in together. Howeve...
A. 10 July 2018: OP you sound like a very smart lady who has her head screwed on tight! From reading your post I can see how much travelling means to you, he is a home bird but you are the opposite. It might not seem a huge issue at the moment as use have only been ... (read in full...)
I'm married he's married why can't I just walk away?
Q. I am married and have been with a married man for 4 and a half years. He has continually asked me to marry him, sent me houses online and tells me that we are ‘one’ and meant to be . I have asked him to leave and be with me and he says he is not ...
A. 10 July 2018: All I got from your post is 'me me me poor me'. There is no compassion or guilt there for your husband or his wife which explains to me what kind of person you are. He asked you to marry him? Please, you are both already married so how on earth does ... (read in full...)
I think I'm a great catch so why don't more guys go after me?
Q. I’m in my early 20’s and I’ve been single for a few months now, and I’m having a hard time figuring out why guys don’t really approach me when I go out nor message me. Even on dating apps like Tinder, I don’t have as many guys as I’d like try to ...
A. 10 July 2018: Well considering you have only been single a few months you are not giving yourself much of a chance. I mean what is it you are looking for? Lots of dates? Hook ups? A relationship? Give yourself a chance at being single and enjoy life, you dont ... (read in full...)
I don’t understand why people don’t want to be friends with me!
Q. Sometimes i just feel that i can't find a friend with the same interests or at least someone i enjoy their accompany. I've had a best friend for 11 years and now she moved out of country, its been 2 years since she moved out and I've going some ...
A. 10 July 2018: It is hard when your best friend leaves to start there next chapter in life. But look at it this way you had a best friend for 11 years not many people can say that! I am sure even though she has moved away you can both still talk to each other. You ... (read in full...)
Not sure I feel the same as my ex he wants to try again
Q. An ex recently got back in touch with me after 7 months. He wanted to see me so i agreed and went to his . We talked about stuff and they way he was saying things and what he was saying is he wants to start again . When we were in a relationship ...
A. 10 July 2018: You cannot force feelings for someone. You both clearly want different things and it sounds like he is more in to you than you are him. Don't just settle for someone and hope for the best. You ended the relationship for some reason so I think you ... (read in full...)
Is oral sex just this amazing?
Q. I have been with my fiancee for 9 years I'm 31 she's 29. Last night she allowed me to go down on her for the first time. It was the first oral experience for both of us, by that I mean her receiving and me giving. My question is, is it normal for me ...
A. 10 July 2018: Different strokes for different folks!! I have met men who love giving oral sex they find everything about it amazing, and I have also met men who don't mind doing it but they aren't as invested and I have also met men who hate everything about it ... (read in full...)
Can someone my age fall in love with a guy?
Q. I had prostate cancer and had my prostate removed making sex imposable now that I am single I am interested in men and women turn me off I am 68 can someone my age fall in love with a guy ...
A. 10 July 2018: Age doesn't matter when it comes to love and wanting to be loved. However why do you feel you are attracted to men now? Is it a case that it was a side of you that you never explored or is it you are worried you cannot 'perform' for a female ... (read in full...)
Sex hurts!!
Q. Okay so I started dating this guy a while back and recently we decided to have sex. The first time it was bad, it didn't want to go in, when it went in it didn't go in all the way and it hurt really bad and I ended up bleeding. So we waited a while ...
A. 10 July 2018: Do you feel aroused enough when with him? Are you using lubrication? It could be something simple like that or it could be something else, you should go to your doctor to be on the safe side to make sure there are no health reasons for it. ... (read in full...)
I don't want to ruin my future with this guy by not making the right choice. What should I do?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year but we've known each other for three years as we met at university. He is starting a masters degree this year, whereas I've decided to go straight into employment. His masters is at a university over ...
A. 10 July 2018: You need to make the decision for yourself. While it is okay to listen to your friends family and boyfriend and take on board what they are saying, don't allow them to influence your decision. You need to take some time and think about it. What is ... (read in full...)
My ex treats his present girlfriend so much better than he ever treated me!
Q. I dated a guy on and off for 3 years. I’m pretty sure he is a Narcissist by everything I’ve read and researched. I’m really trying to get over him and move on. I’m really hurt by how he is treating his new girlfriend. It’s seems like she is ...
A. 10 July 2018: Honestly it is not your problem it is his! You done the right thing ending it if you where not happy. Yes I can imagine it will hurt seeing him make an effort with someone else, he could be doing this to hurt you further and 'show' you that he is ... (read in full...)
Why do I have a strong gut feeling that there's something going on between my boyfriend and his ex?
Q. During the first 2 years of being with my BF, he was still in touch with his ex stringing her along, not telling her that he was in a relationship with me. When I found out how he lied about not being in contact with her, I was very upset. Since ...
A. 10 July 2018: It is simple really you don't trust him! Reading your responses and giving his past I totally get why you wouldn't trust him! He cannot say no to his ex which says a lot more about him than it does her. He knows how this is effecting you but he is ... (read in full...)
He’s ignoring me all of a sudden! How do I react?
Q. I’m 27 from UK and recently reconnected with my ex from 7 years ago who I broke up with. We had an amazing couple of days together rekindling and we’ve been very romantic since. Awkward part - he lives in America right now for work. He has men...
A. 10 July 2018: I can see where he is coming from, at the end of the day you broke up with him, you decided to rekindle with him you where planning a visit then you backed out and expected him to visit you. I honestly don't think it is a good idea wanting a ... (read in full...)
I'm wasting the prime of my life. What should I do?
Q. Hello all, I've been in a rut for 8 years now and can't shift it. I'm alive but not living I guess. I have no drive or ambition. I can't remember the last time I thought yes I really wanna do this. Problem is I don't know what I want nothing ...
A. 10 July 2018: It sounds like you are certainly in a rut. You have tried medication but that won't work unless you get the proper help and support also. Have you spoke to anyone professionally?
The best thing to do is start with one thing at a time. Personal... (read in full...)
I feel stuck because of his lodger! What do I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I in early 60s, have been together 5 years, but nothing is moving on because he has a female lodger in her 40s been there 25 years! Pays little rent, no household bills and keeps dogs. She wont move out, we gave her 6 months notice, ...
A. 10 July 2018: OP I don't mean to be rude, so please do not take this the wrong way, but after five years together if you feel you have self respect then you should have this addressed much sooner. Five years is not rushing anything. I honestly would be ... (read in full...)
I have had an extremely stifled upbringing but I want to break free by going to a college of my choice. How do I convince my authoritarian parents?
Q. In our family, it has always just been assumed that we'd all go to college. I've never been the best student, but I've basically been average. I liked "electives" the best and I got the best grades in music and Spanish. Actually, I won the John ...
A. 10 July 2018: I can totally see that how your parents are treating you is wrong, they are being over protective and controlling and it is not going to change any time soon. However they cannot stop you from working, you are an adult! There was a time where I ... (read in full...)
Crush confusion
Q. My crush is a friend of mine and we hangout a bit outside of school like at the park, and I told him I like someone new cuz he knew my previous crush as for we has the same one cuz hes bi and now he wont stop asking me who I like is this somewhat of ...
A. 10 July 2018: You are at an age now where crushes will happen a lot! If you really like him then I think you should tell him, the worst that can happen is that he says he doesn't feel the same, and yes it might hurt you but at least then you know the truth.... (read in full...)
Online dating isn't working for me
Q. I have a question regarding online dating. Why is it that I am getting stood up so much? I have been on a few dating apps for 6 months and have only successfully been on one date. I find a common pattern when I get a conversation started. I get her ...
A. 10 July 2018: More than likely you are not doing anything wrong. A lot of people use dating sites as a place to talk to people and get to know them, maybe out of boredom. I know that a lot of girls back out nearer the time because they have issues within ... (read in full...)
My ex is poisoning my children against me and interfering in my visitation with them!
Q. Just a quick question about my ex and my children. I had to take my ex to court in order to see my children. I have a good arrangement now and I love having my children. However I always set up really good weekends when I have them, prope...
A. 10 July 2018: Oh I really hate it when parents use there children as weapons. She is a selfish human who is putting her own feelings ahead of the children's! I also agree that you should revisit the court order and have some mediation this cannot go on.
I can ... (read in full...)
I feel stuck because of his lodger! What do I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I in early 60s, have been together 5 years, but nothing is moving on because he has a female lodger in her 40s been there 25 years! Pays little rent, no household bills and keeps dogs. She wont move out, we gave her 6 months notice, ...
A. 7 July 2018: Op he doesn’t love you, if he did then he would understand your point of view and he would ask her to leave. It sounds like he wants her there. What do you get from this relationship other than nice trips and him pushing your wheelchair? Does he ... (read in full...)
I have had an extremely stifled upbringing but I want to break free by going to a college of my choice. How do I convince my authoritarian parents?
Q. In our family, it has always just been assumed that we'd all go to college. I've never been the best student, but I've basically been average. I liked "electives" the best and I got the best grades in music and Spanish. Actually, I won the John ...
A. 28 June 2018: I went to college and made my own decisions from the age of 17. Now I did not have strict parents and I had my own privacy but the difference with me is I funded myself to go to college. If you want your parents to fund your education then you ... (read in full...)
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