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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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The Understanding Male Species...or not?
Q. After reading several of the replies submitted by Agony Uncles here on Dear Cupid, I have come to realise, or should I say, believe, that the majority of them are really very sympathetic, kind, loving, caring ~ but most of all understanding. But ...
A. 25 July 2008: Sorry BigSis for highjacking your article.
Q, aren't your one two dangling from the rearview mirror of an ex's Chevrolet?... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant or is it all in my head?
Q. This may sound crazy but I had unprotected sex back in march I didn't have a period in April but I bled in may I didn't bleed in June I bled this month and I've still been feeling pregnant I have abdominal pain headaches cravings sore breasts befo...
A. 25 July 2008: If you need to find a gynecologist nearer to you, go to plannedparenthood.org. There's a search tool there which uses your zip code. Hope this helps.
... (read in full...)
Women, is it looks or height?
Q. Do women in general prefer looks(face,muscles etc...) or height?...
A. 25 July 2008: Personality. With some halfway good looks and an average or so height. ... (read in full...)
Women, is it looks or height?
Q. Do women in general prefer looks(face,muscles etc...) or height?...
A. 25 July 2008: Brains and humor.
Compassion and listening skills.
Integrity and loyalty.
Sexy and attractive.
Smelling good is very important.
Oh, and he treats people he meets with courtesy.
Okay, looks or height? Hmm. How he's perceived depends on the... (read in full...)
I feel as though this was my fault, my friend forced himself on me.
Q. I dont know how to explain this. I dont know if it's my fault... on the 7th July I went to wales, after work, and i got there about 11pm...so after working all day i was tired ect. I was going to see my friend...my best friend...who had...
A. 25 July 2008: Wow, this has just been an amazing and sad story. You realize that you're putting off the inevitable? That you do need counseling and support from a therapist? If you've had to quit your job, then it has affected you greatly.
One other thing. If h... (read in full...)
The girl I like was forced to perform oral sex with a guy... Should I risk trying to date her?
Q. Guys suppose you see this nice college girl you liked, but you heard she was force by a guy she was dating to performed oral sex once,but she ended the dating after that with him. Would you still try to date her or You may fear that the same guy...
A. 24 July 2008: This sounds so much like this question,
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/guys-would-you-date-her-and-kiss-her.html
At this point, I'd probably let her be. She needs time to recover and doesn't need the stress of a relationship with a guy who is m... (read in full...)
The Understanding Male Species...or not?
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A. 24 July 2008: Ah, the Steve Miller Band. Great song. But mind the double entendres, they can trip you up!!!
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9-year relationship ends because "his heart wasn't in it?" Why if I was such a "catch" did he admit that he didn't appreciate me?
Q. I was just dumped after a 9 year relationship. I am having such a hard time getting over it since we still share the same interests ( so i run into him often), the same friends, and we live within walking distance of one another. This guy was my ...
A. 24 July 2008: Hi, I'm sorry to hear that you have suffered from this break up. It's a little bit like a divorce, since you've been together for so long.
It's actually probably best that you two did split up, as you seem to have been moving in different dire... (read in full...)
Poll question for women: do you like oral and would you like your partner more for it?
Q. Do girls like when a guy goes down on them? And would you like your boyfriend more if he did that?...
A. 24 July 2008: Yes. And no, but I'd certainly be very happy.... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin and I need some tips! My boyfriend told me he hates it when the girl just lies there!
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for over a month now, we both want to have sex, but im a virgin and i reli want a bit of advice on how to make it good for him. hes quite experienced. he said that he hates it wen a girl just lies there so i want to ...
A. 24 July 2008: Just one question, do you think he's as worried about pleasing YOU as you are about pleasing him?... (read in full...)
What is a Jack the Lad?
Q. I have recently star6ted seeing a young man and we seem to be getting on well. His sister I get on very well with and she4 confided in me and said I know he is my brother but watch out and dont egt huirt as he has always BEN A AJck Teh Lad. ...
A. 24 July 2008: It probably isn't worth your time trying to dissect the exact variations of the way he has hurt other women. He's a player,and this has been told to you by his sister, no less!!! Not an angry disgruntled ex, nor by a jealous suitor. His SISTER has ... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant or is it all in my head?
Q. This may sound crazy but I had unprotected sex back in march I didn't have a period in April but I bled in may I didn't bleed in June I bled this month and I've still been feeling pregnant I have abdominal pain headaches cravings sore breasts befo...
A. 24 July 2008: Sorry, did you write that you had a positive pregnancy test? And you didn't go see a doctor? What did today's pregnancy test tell you?
You should make an appointment with your GYN now. To double check the results and just make sure there isn't anyt... (read in full...)
Could this have made me pregnant?
Q. im 15 years old and recently did some things with my boyfreind basically he gave himself pleasure then imdiatly afterwards put the same fingers inside of me.since then iv been feeling very peculiar, unusally bloated (fat) and tender nipples. it is ...
A. 24 July 2008: Yes, there is a possibility. Watch this video to get some insight. And it may be time to buy a pregnancy test to check if you are.
http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
If you got ejac... (read in full...)
What is a Jack the Lad?
Q. I have recently star6ted seeing a young man and we seem to be getting on well. His sister I get on very well with and she4 confided in me and said I know he is my brother but watch out and dont egt huirt as he has always BEN A AJck Teh Lad. ...
A. 24 July 2008: She is warning you off him because she has seen this before. She is doing you a favor, and you should pay attention! He is going to hurt you if you get too involved with him.
Take care.... (read in full...)
No matter how we start... it always ends up "doggie style"! Is he losing interest in me?
Q. Hi! Any input here will be appreciated. I've been happily married for 5 years and thought we had a pretty good sex life. The problem is....lately my husband seems overly interested in doggy style sex. No matter how we start, it always ends up with ...
A. 24 July 2008: Hi, it may just be a phase he's going through, and currently finds it very exciting. I expect it'll lose some of its newness soon and there'll be other positions to explore. I'd mix it up a bit with him, if I were you, take charge a bit and YOU get ... (read in full...)
My husband won't have sex with me any more.
Q. My husband won't have sex with me anymore. I'm only 23 and he just turned 28. We have a son who is 3 years old and has been a major challenge for us. In the beginning of our relationship he loved being intimate with me, he'd initiate it all the ...
A. 24 July 2008: Hi, this sounds very sad and frustrating for you. Smiles has laid out the right course to take. I have to add one thing, at the risk of sounding mean. You wrote that you've gained 100 lbs. in all of this stress and fertility treatments. This cannot ... (read in full...)
Can you have an STD if you're a virgin?
Q. Is it possible to have an STD when you're a virgin? Beside crabs and scabies and such. Just curious......
A. 24 July 2008: Please don't trust a bunch of strangers on the internet to give you reliable medical information. How do you know any of us have any true knowledge of STDs?
Yes, you can get an STD with out having had vaginal or anal sex.
HPV (the human papillom... (read in full...)
How do I get my friend back? He doesn't want much to do with me because of his girlfriend.
Q. My best friend(male) of 2 years(Whom I dated for the first year and half) is now dating a woman whom seems to be threatend by me. Without telling much more of the story, we have not had communication for 3 months. I gave him space to develop ...
A. 24 July 2008: Wow, he has been very busy in the 2 years you've known him. You two have dated, and ended that part of the relationship and "I supported him through his divorce( even encouraged him to consider saving marriage), 4 break ups with girlfriends, family ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is away for a couple of months, and I found some suspicious emails from a woman. I don't want to accuse him unnecessarily, what do you think?
Q. Help! My partner of 4 years has taken a couple of months to do a round-the-world trip, following a life dream... he asked me to come, but I knew he needed to do this by himself, and he thanked me for giving him his freedom, and said that he wouldnt ...
A. 24 July 2008: Hey, sounds like you've got your head around this and are thinking logically now. Good news. I hope you two have a very happy reunion and a great future together. Take care and don't forget to invite us to the wedding. ;)... (read in full...)
I need tips on how to do an abortion myself.
Q. okay, so im 14 and about a week ago, i had sex. and we didnt use a condom. but heres the thing, it was in the pool. im affraid to tell my parents that i might be preggo. and i dont want to tell them at all. my bf bought a preggo test, but i have to ...
A. 23 July 2008: Listen to the aunts here. There is no safe way of doing what you are proposing. This is truly dangerous. Look, I know you're scared and I know the last thing you want to have happen is to have your parents find out. But you know what, at some point ... (read in full...)
I made out with another boy and I swear I can't tell my boyfriend. I feel terrible!
Q. hi, well im 14 and i have been going out with my boyfriend for 6 months. i went to a party and i got really drunk. we made out on the beach. this other guy means nothing to me, at all. we both agreed that we shouldn't tell anyone. it will never ...
A. 23 July 2008: Hi, I was 14 once too, and also had too much to drink one night. Kinda makes you feel sick the next day, doesn't it?
Well, you've had what a parent might call a teaching moment. What you've discovered is that alcohol lowers inhibitions and basi... (read in full...)
It's true I embarassed her by getting drunk, but how could she get over me so fast?
Q. I need advice just over 3 weeks ago my ex dumped me I embrassed her at the her prom and got really drunk and she said that she no longer see's me in that way any more but how could she go off me in the space of a few short hours. We were together ...
A. 23 July 2008: Girls like to be able to admire and respect their boyfriends; if your relationship was already rocky, then your behavior at the prom just pushed her over the edge. She probably now has a very negative image of you drunk and misbehaving and cannot ... (read in full...)
Has anyone got pregnant while on their period?
Q. can i ask if anyone has gotten pregnant whilst on their period? me and my boyfriend had sex and he had cum on his finger and then fingered me it was all in the moment and then the day after we had sex and he came in me. only alil bit though do...
A. 23 July 2008: In case you couldn't find your question and the answers, here's the link.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/biology-question---can-you-get-pregnant.html
http:... (read in full...)
What's the best way to leave my rageful husband?
Q. i am 24 and have been married for almost 5 years. things were wonderful for the 5 months before the wedding, but afterward, everything went to chaos. he goes through these frequent periods of what i can only assume to be depression (sinc...
A. 23 July 2008: I'm so happy to hear you're making the plans. I hope things go smoothly and that you're safe soon. Keep us posted.
Best wishes.
xxx... (read in full...)
Is 10 minutes of foreplay enough?
Q. hi everybody, i need your answer for different viewers (men and women) my question is how much time would a girl satisfied of foreplay before getting in? its ok if i take 10 minutes foreplay before getting in? Thanks...
A. 23 July 2008: Uncle Phil is dead on! But the one you should be asking and checking with is her....... (read in full...)
I am developing feelings for my friend with benefits and can't stop because I think he's better than me.
Q. I have this friends and we're friends with benefits. I know its supposed to be no strings attached but I'm starting to develop feelings. I want to stop but I can't control myself around him, I do whatever he wants (besides sex) the way I grew ...
A. 23 July 2008: What you're describing is a kind of sexual assault. He's forcing you, you don't want to do it.
Hon, please call that number I gave you. Have a talk with someone there who DOES think that you matter and is also trained to deal with these thin... (read in full...)
I am developing feelings for my friend with benefits and can't stop because I think he's better than me.
Q. I have this friends and we're friends with benefits. I know its supposed to be no strings attached but I'm starting to develop feelings. I want to stop but I can't control myself around him, I do whatever he wants (besides sex) the way I grew ...
A. 23 July 2008: Why do you feel unwanted?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is away for a couple of months, and I found some suspicious emails from a woman. I don't want to accuse him unnecessarily, what do you think?
Q. Help! My partner of 4 years has taken a couple of months to do a round-the-world trip, following a life dream... he asked me to come, but I knew he needed to do this by himself, and he thanked me for giving him his freedom, and said that he wouldnt ...
A. 23 July 2008: I do feel for you. You are in a very awful and frustrating position here. This trip he's gone on has brought things to a head. He's told you now that you are the love of his life and he wants to be with you forever. But this feels like it falls on ... (read in full...)
The romance is gone, our sex life is strange. How long did the honeymoon period last in YOUR relationship?
Q. Alright...first let me thank in advance the honest answers I may receive in here. I am 29 years old, old-fashion hopeless romantic and it's really frustating that I am still not married...honestly I miss that special someone is my life. Don't take ...
A. 23 July 2008: Hi, I hear your frustration in the relationship. It sounds like you have a certain picture in your head of what a really romantic relationship is like. Hopelessly romantic sounds good, but honestly, isn't really practical in the long run, I think. ... (read in full...)
Biology question - can you get pregnant from this?
Q. can you get pregnant if he fingered you and his finger had cum on it but the morning after you got your period, and then.. while you were on your period u had sex? ...
A. 23 July 2008: Have a look at this weblink. And it's probably a good idea to have your mother take you to see a gynecologist soon. So you can have your questions answered by a medical professional. Take care!
h... (read in full...)
I am developing feelings for my friend with benefits and can't stop because I think he's better than me.
Q. I have this friends and we're friends with benefits. I know its supposed to be no strings attached but I'm starting to develop feelings. I want to stop but I can't control myself around him, I do whatever he wants (besides sex) the way I grew ...
A. 23 July 2008: Is there someone you can talk with about this? It sounds like you're not very happy with your home environment.
You really are too young to deal with the feelings that sexual activity brings. I don't care if you're not having 'sex' which I thin... (read in full...)
My father is visiting from another country and embarrases me!
Q. My father is from another country and is visiting me for the first time. He has never met any of my friends or in-laws etc so it will be the first time. However I am mortified about my father and the fact he embarrasses me constantly and I am so ...
A. 23 July 2008: Eeek, this must be very difficult for you. Your father probably isn't going to change, so you can apologize for him in advance to your in-laws.
Spirit of Iona has some good practical suggestions that I think would be very helpful.
I know you've a... (read in full...)
Do you think my wife is bisexual?
Q. Hi we are couple in our mid 40 and have had our ups and downs. we are currently in a down time and things get tense. we have had a very active sex lfe and tried most things over the past 25 years. my wife has a great body and as always looked ...
A. 23 July 2008: I'd be surprised that she'd tell you if she was really contemplating something like what you're thinking. She'd have kept it to herself, I think. I don't know, I don't know your wife or the way she thinks.
Maybe she was being honest, that it was ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is away for a couple of months, and I found some suspicious emails from a woman. I don't want to accuse him unnecessarily, what do you think?
Q. Help! My partner of 4 years has taken a couple of months to do a round-the-world trip, following a life dream... he asked me to come, but I knew he needed to do this by himself, and he thanked me for giving him his freedom, and said that he wouldnt ...
A. 23 July 2008: The other thing to consider is that you have some hidden anger about this trip that he took. Yes, he invited you, but he really wanted to do this by himself. So maybe even though you were gracious and said 'go' to him, you subconsciously really ... (read in full...)
Is this lad flirting with me? I don't want to lose his friendship.
Q. hi i am really confused cos i really dont know if this lad is flirtin with me or if he is just being friendly. -he doesnt mind physical contact like if i touch him or somethin -he sometimes puts his arm round me. -he wants to sit with me in ...
A. 23 July 2008: It sounds like he's flirting to me, but you have to keep in mind that he has a girlfriend right now. I'd just let things lie, and flirt only a little bit with him. If he really likes you, he'd break up with her and ask to go out with you. Sometimes ... (read in full...)
I want to change our sex schedule...
Q. hi me and my fiance are 15 years apart and having a hard time being satisfied in the bedroom, im 20 and hes 35 i work 4 days a week 9am to 3pm he works 5 to 6 days a week 6am to 5pm hes job is hard and i know he is so tired we have s...
A. 23 July 2008: Why is it that you don't feel you can ask for what you need in bed? Why not tell him that you need more participatory sex?
You could start with a blow job, then climb on top of him and help give him the hint by putting his hands where you'd like... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is away for a couple of months, and I found some suspicious emails from a woman. I don't want to accuse him unnecessarily, what do you think?
Q. Help! My partner of 4 years has taken a couple of months to do a round-the-world trip, following a life dream... he asked me to come, but I knew he needed to do this by himself, and he thanked me for giving him his freedom, and said that he wouldnt ...
A. 23 July 2008: It's interesting that he gave a girl his email address, when he knew you had access to it. His reply sounds like he really isn't that interested in whatever it is she is proposing.
Still, I'd be tempted to do what oldersister has proposed. But you ... (read in full...)
I'm trying to get pregnant. I need some advice.
Q. I want to get pregnant really bad but my tubes is tied but i have read plenty of time that people still got pregnant without the surgery is there anybody who would no what sex moves would help me and what pills to get me and my boyfriend know what ...
A. 22 July 2008: Hi, you really need to talk with your OB/GYN about this. If your tubes are tied, there is no position in the world that will get his sperm to fertilize one of your eggs. The way is blocked. Certainly you understand this?... (read in full...)
Is this oral sex or not?
Q. If a girl kisses the shaft of the penis and not the tip, is that considered as oral sex or not....
A. 22 July 2008: Mouth on genitals=oral sex. Hope this helps.... (read in full...)
My roomate has a girlfriend but he wants sex with me. Is he just using me?
Q. My friend and I have slept together a few times. I talk to this boy everyday. We get along great, trust each other and have not once argued. We tell each other stuff we would not tell anyone else. He just recently started seeing this gir...
A. 22 July 2008: You're confused as to why a guy might like some extra sex? Without any relationship burdens? And available on tap as the girl on the side is his roommate?
Look, he might indeed be a fabulous friend, but he's a cheater to his girlfriend. What does... (read in full...)
Can you masturbate if your hymen hasn't been broken
Q. can you masturbate if your hymen hasnt been broken...
A. 22 July 2008: Yes you can, there's inside and there's outside. As Birdynumnums has pointed out, if you don't insert anything, your hymen will remain intact. And Uncle Phil, be gentle.... (read in full...)
How do I move on if he won't let me go?
Q. I dated my husband for two years and we have been married for one year, so a total of three years off and on, much of which was long distance. During this time he has cheated on me with 2 different women, had an inappropriate relationship with his ...
A. 22 July 2008: His parents are terrified that you'll take their grandchild away and won't let them be part of your daughter's life. Remove that worry from their shoulders. Don't hold the baby as collatoral in this.
Go see that attorney and make sure you unde... (read in full...)
How do I move on if he won't let me go?
Q. I dated my husband for two years and we have been married for one year, so a total of three years off and on, much of which was long distance. During this time he has cheated on me with 2 different women, had an inappropriate relationship with his ...
A. 22 July 2008: What do the people who really really love you and know you two think about him? Your friends and family?... (read in full...)
How do I move on if he won't let me go?
Q. I dated my husband for two years and we have been married for one year, so a total of three years off and on, much of which was long distance. During this time he has cheated on me with 2 different women, had an inappropriate relationship with his ...
A. 22 July 2008: You're very welcome. I'm sorry that I was so negative about him, but I think that you need to get very smart about this. Why do you need to move out? He's the one who is untrustworthy and while I agree with you that divorce isn't something to be ... (read in full...)
How do I move on if he won't let me go?
Q. I dated my husband for two years and we have been married for one year, so a total of three years off and on, much of which was long distance. During this time he has cheated on me with 2 different women, had an inappropriate relationship with his ...
A. 22 July 2008: Okay, if he were my husband, his butt and the rest of him would be recovering from the rough landing he's just had by the forcible ejection he'd just had from me, strong enough to land him in the next county.
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I'm trying to get pregnant. I need some advice.
Q. I want to get pregnant really bad but my tubes is tied but i have read plenty of time that people still got pregnant without the surgery is there anybody who would no what sex moves would help me and what pills to get me and my boyfriend know what ...
A. 22 July 2008: Hi, if you've had a tubal ligation, it seems that this is a procedure that is very difficult to reverse. Once your Fallopian tubes are blocked, there is no way that an egg will be able to encounter any sperm for fertilization to occur.
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What's the best way to leave my rageful husband?
Q. i am 24 and have been married for almost 5 years. things were wonderful for the 5 months before the wedding, but afterward, everything went to chaos. he goes through these frequent periods of what i can only assume to be depression (sinc...
A. 20 July 2008: Hi, this is a terrible situation you're in. Obviously you'll be leaving him one way or the other at this point, so it would be a good idea to have a plan organized. I really don't know if it's in your best interest to wait until September or not. I ... (read in full...)
The Understanding Male Species...or not?
Q. After reading several of the replies submitted by Agony Uncles here on Dear Cupid, I have come to realise, or should I say, believe, that the majority of them are really very sympathetic, kind, loving, caring ~ but most of all understanding. But ...
A. 7 July 2008: Wow! BigSis, you sure know how to attract a crowd! And a fun party it is too, q1605, Diovan, Oldersister, Collaroy, etc... I like the new backbone, it looks great with that tan. So here's hoping that you find the guy that has the whole package; they ... (read in full...)
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