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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.
Q. Two months ago I started dating a woman who is six months into a separation and is getting divorced. She has 3 young children (I have not met the children). Yesterday she said she is not ready for a relationship. She has too much "stuff" to take ...
A. 26 August 2008: So she never called you or took you up on the offer you extended. And she completely ignored the 'kisses' comment. If she were interested, you have given her every opportunity to respond in that way. She is not responding either to your sexual ... (read in full...)
I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.
Q. Two months ago I started dating a woman who is six months into a separation and is getting divorced. She has 3 young children (I have not met the children). Yesterday she said she is not ready for a relationship. She has too much "stuff" to take ...
A. 26 August 2008: Joey, thanks for the updates. My take on this situation is that she simply isn't that interested in pursuing a relationship with you. You gave her several chances at a date--she basically said her September was booked and that next week wasn't good ... (read in full...)
I think I'm in love with someone older than me!
Q. Hi my name is Katie and well I like this guy who is 5 years older than I am. I think that he likes me too but he seems to act differently when he is around his family than when he is alone. See, I think that the reason I am even attracted to him ...
A. 31 July 2008: I agree wholeheartedly with what Artistry said here. It's a que sera, sera situation.
I wouldn't spend too much time trying to analyze his actions or try to figure out what he's thinking. He's a guy, and they are often difficult for us women to unde... (read in full...)
I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.
Q. Two months ago I started dating a woman who is six months into a separation and is getting divorced. She has 3 young children (I have not met the children). Yesterday she said she is not ready for a relationship. She has too much "stuff" to take ...
A. 31 July 2008: Hi, Joey, thanks for the followup. I just wanted to try to have you get a wider perspective on your situation, rather than obsess over little decisions. By spending a lot of time fretting about the little decisions, you are avoiding the larger ... (read in full...)
What should I do since my parents don't trust me and my BF sleeping in the same room?
Q. me and my new bf have been dating for a month and my parents still don't trust him sleeping in the same bed as me even if they are in the same room. what should i do since my parents don't trust me.please help...
A. 30 July 2008: You can use condoms until you turn 18, at which time you'll be able to take yourself to the doctor's. Did you tell your doctor that you are sexually active?
You can also visit this website to see if you can find a clinic on your own.
http:... (read in full...)
I don't want to hurt my wonderful fiance, but I don't want this amazing, loving affair to end.
Q. In Love with two people! I'm 35. Fiancé 32, Lover 21! I can't believe I have let myself get into this situation, I have a really nice Fiancé, 2 kids aged 2 and 5 we don’t argue, we still have Sex a few times a week. My problem is this a year a...
A. 30 July 2008: I agree that the three courses as laid out by female anon are the only realistic paths here.
Our poster has to decide, obviously this situation cannot continue without discovery at some point. What I find really angering about the situation is that... (read in full...)
My three friends and I would like four cute names of party drinks, to be placed on our school jerseys, please help us?
Q. So this isnt a love or sex question but its something that i could really use your help on. My school has these jerseys that the junior and senior girls get and you get to put what ever you want on the back of them like it can say what ever you want ...
A. 30 July 2008: I am sorry that we had some innocent fun with your question. May I point out, at the risk of sounding like a disapproving aunt, that you wanted names of party drinks, and that you liked to 'partyy'... That you found other names chosen by other girls ... (read in full...)
I love her and care for her, but I feel like I'm being suffocated; I tried telling her this before, but she burst into tears.
Q. I have always sucked at this part and am not sure what to do... I'm 31 and have been dating a girl for about 15 months now. She's also 31, very nice, and we share a great deal in common. There have been some issues since the beginning of our...
A. 29 July 2008: Thanks for the follow up! I'm sorry to be so negative about this, but it just didn't sound right to me.
And please don't try to keep her as a friend, she might misinterpret this as suggesting there is still hope.
Just tell her that it's not work... (read in full...)
My three friends and I would like four cute names of party drinks, to be placed on our school jerseys, please help us?
Q. So this isnt a love or sex question but its something that i could really use your help on. My school has these jerseys that the junior and senior girls get and you get to put what ever you want on the back of them like it can say what ever you want ...
A. 29 July 2008: We could also suggest the women who made all of this possible for us in the first place!
Susan B.
Emily
Emmeline
Sylvia
Suffragettes....... (read in full...)
My three friends and I would like four cute names of party drinks, to be placed on our school jerseys, please help us?
Q. So this isnt a love or sex question but its something that i could really use your help on. My school has these jerseys that the junior and senior girls get and you get to put what ever you want on the back of them like it can say what ever you want ...
A. 29 July 2008: Oldersister, how about the Four Horsewomen of the sports field? They ride out when there's an injury?
Dementia, Morticia, Embalmia, and Putrefactia!
... (read in full...)
My husband's male friend is at our home, almost every other weekend, our sexual acts have changed, could my husband be cheating on me with his male friend?
Q. My husband has a best friend that he hangs out with all of the time. He has recently gotten to the point where he goes outside to talk with him. I came home one day on my lunch break and when his friend called he was speaking in codes, and finally ...
A. 29 July 2008: Obviously, this relationship is making you uncomfortable and you have formed some doubts in your mind. You need to think about what it is exactly that has set off your 'spidey-sense' here. Is the combination of things, or was there some incident ... (read in full...)
I love her and care for her, but I feel like I'm being suffocated; I tried telling her this before, but she burst into tears.
Q. I have always sucked at this part and am not sure what to do... I'm 31 and have been dating a girl for about 15 months now. She's also 31, very nice, and we share a great deal in common. There have been some issues since the beginning of our...
A. 29 July 2008: Survey says, don't cave any more. She now knows that tears will manipulate her and change your mind, and they have worked not once, not twice, but THREE times!
This really doesn't sound like a viable relationship long-term to me for several reas... (read in full...)
She has me soo worried! Is My Mom going to sell the condo out from under us?
Q. My mother bought a condo a few years ago, which my fincee and I now live in, we give her the money for the mortgage (which is in her name) since we live here. Anyway, recently we've had some money issues, the car keeps breaking down, and Shaun ha...
A. 29 July 2008: Whoops, I beg your pardon for assuming this was a dead issue.
Sounds like you and your mother have a very toxic relationship, yet you stay entwined with each other.
At this point, with the housing situation the way it is, I expect there are many... (read in full...)
I am a very messed up kid, and I feel really stuck.
Q. I am a very messed up kid. I think I was abused a while back by my brother. He used to kiss me and sort of hump me with my clothes on. I couldn't tell my mum coz i love my bro but he was really horrible and once he got drunk and was really scary...
A. 29 July 2008: Um, did you try calling the number I gave you? The Childline number? You can talk to them, and I think it would be a good idea. You've put a lot of responsibility on your shoulders and it's a lot to ask of any 12 year old. Give them a call and let ... (read in full...)
We constantly fight, I am losing interest, he blames me for almost everything, it's getting on my nerves, we are to move in together, what do I do?
Q. I can't stop fighting with my boyfriend. We've always fought, at least once every other day, for the entire time we've been together. And I mean that, even before we were boyfriend and girlfriend, we were fighting. So now we've been togethe...
A. 29 July 2008: Whoa, girl. Take a deep breath. Now relax.
Right, you've been fighting virtually continuously with your boyfriend, every day you have a fight? Are we talking little couple spats that get resolved inside 5 minutes, or are these the same old, same... (read in full...)
I fought with his ex. Will I ever hear from him again?
Q. This is a guy who chased me for a year only for me to find out he was still sleeping with someone who was suppose to be his ex. then he supposedly told her it was over but would still stay down her house on the weekend end it drove me crazy. so i ...
A. 29 July 2008: Why on earth did you fight with the woman? It was the guy here who you should be angry with and talking to. This is irrational thinking on your part, and you need to start thinking logically about this.
Read what Artistry has said very care... (read in full...)
I don't want to hurt my wonderful fiance, but I don't want this amazing, loving affair to end.
Q. In Love with two people! I'm 35. Fiancé 32, Lover 21! I can't believe I have let myself get into this situation, I have a really nice Fiancé, 2 kids aged 2 and 5 we don’t argue, we still have Sex a few times a week. My problem is this a year a...
A. 29 July 2008: In the immortal words of John McEnroe, you have GOT to be kidding! Which head are you thinking with?
Look, I'm sure your lovely, caring, wonderful, so connected-to-you 21 year old girlfriend would be perfectly happy to take one of the children away... (read in full...)
She has me soo worried! Is My Mom going to sell the condo out from under us?
Q. My mother bought a condo a few years ago, which my fincee and I now live in, we give her the money for the mortgage (which is in her name) since we live here. Anyway, recently we've had some money issues, the car keeps breaking down, and Shaun ha...
A. 29 July 2008: Pssst! Hey guys! Look at the original date of the question. January 2007, they've resolved whatever they're going to by now....
I wonder how this one got resurrected?... (read in full...)
I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.
Q. Two months ago I started dating a woman who is six months into a separation and is getting divorced. She has 3 young children (I have not met the children). Yesterday she said she is not ready for a relationship. She has too much "stuff" to take ...
A. 29 July 2008: Hi, JoeyBBB,
I've read this thread and just wanted to add my thoughts to the aunts who have already given you so much great advice.
To my mind, you are spending too much time focusing on card vs. gift, lunch vs. coffee, those are all little d... (read in full...)
I get a lot of sleep, but I'm always tired, how do I get my mom to take me to the doctor?
Q. this isn't about love or sex or any relationships.. But I still need some help.. I sleep A LOT and I'm not sure whats wrong with me, my mom wont let me go to the doctor or anything to get checked because she just thinks it's the way I sleep...
A. 29 July 2008: StudentofLife, heehee, I think the word you were looking for is mononucleosis... menopause is the time of life when a woman stops having periods... and mononucleosis is a viral disease, which causes high fever, swollen glands, a severe sore throat ... (read in full...)
I feel like the man in the relationship. And I hate it!
Q. I have been married for two years. At first, my husband couldnt keep his hands off me, but then life changed. Reality if you like. Work, baby, health etc. I work in a high powered, stressful job. Out early. Get home very late. My husband got m...
A. 29 July 2008: Sorry, I meant to answer this question yesterday.
Your frustration and unhappiness comes through loud and clear, and I know it's difficult to be in this situation. You sound stressed from work as well.
I think that you need to step waaay back fro... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got another girl pregnant months before we got together. How do I deal?
Q. I am kinda in a bind here. My boyfriend got two girls pregnent before we met heres the gist of it. I met this guy online and he started coming down to see me every week. We got real close and eventually moved in together after several months. Before ...
A. 29 July 2008: Hi, Karra, what a mess your boyfriend seems to have found himself in. Has he been using condoms at all?
Anyway, you two haven't really known each other that long, from the sound of it, and you moved in together fairly soon, if it was only afte... (read in full...)
Is asking my boyfriend for oral sex unfair?
Q. I am a virgin, which my boyfriend knows, but we have had anal. There are a lot of reasons I don't want to have sex with him that I won't include here. But one thing is that he's small in that department (I can't imagine that I would honestly feel ...
A. 29 July 2008: I'm sorry, I'm just a bit confused by one sentence you wrote, 'because he's smaller, I don't like giving him head.' ???? I don't understand why you would find giving him oral sex distasteful because of his size? Giving oral sex generally is done to ... (read in full...)
My husband is rude and grumpy and freaks out if I talk to my family or friends. Please help!
Q. I'm 28 years old and have been married for 6 years now. I don't know what to do, I'm depressed and need help with my marriage. My husband can be rude and grumpy a lot of time with me, he's only nice to me when he wants sex. He also doesn't ...
A. 28 July 2008: Hi, your situation doesn't sound very good to me. Have you tried just talking to him about this in a calm way? How does he respond? When was the last time you saw your friends or family?
I don't like the sound of this. He does sound like a very cont... (read in full...)
Does this story sound believable? I was told he was in a wreck.
Q. Hey everyone Recently I got a text message from my ex boyfriends phone saying he was in a wreck and this was his cousin megan and she asked if i still dated him. I didnt answer because my phone was on silent and another one came in and it said wel...
A. 28 July 2008: Well, that doesn't sound very good. Your parents don't like him? Generally something's happened for that to be the case.
You don't have to tell them you've been talking to him. Just tell them that you heard a rumor that he'd been in a wreck and even... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is in another country with another guy... and she gets mad at me when I go to concerts without her.
Q. Alright, I've been with my girlfriend for1 year and 9 months now, and it's going great, but theres just one thing that bugs me naturally. She is currently away in a few different countries with a new male friend who she met at a meeting for the ...
A. 28 July 2008: You know, I don't blame you at all for being jealous of this other guy who gets to hang out with your girlfriend and visit new countries and go do fun new things. I think your feelings are perfectly understandable. There's not a lot you can do about ... (read in full...)
I am a very messed up kid, and I feel really stuck.
Q. I am a very messed up kid. I think I was abused a while back by my brother. He used to kiss me and sort of hump me with my clothes on. I couldn't tell my mum coz i love my bro but he was really horrible and once he got drunk and was really scary...
A. 28 July 2008: Hi, sorry to hear of the situation you're in, it sounds like you have no one to turn to talk about it. As ChiRaven suggested, is there a teacher or a counselor at school that you could confide in?
I have another resource for you that might help too.... (read in full...)
Does this story sound believable? I was told he was in a wreck.
Q. Hey everyone Recently I got a text message from my ex boyfriends phone saying he was in a wreck and this was his cousin megan and she asked if i still dated him. I didnt answer because my phone was on silent and another one came in and it said wel...
A. 28 July 2008: Hi, it all sounds a bit odd to me. Why don't you just call his parents, and ask them how he's doing. You can tell them that you heard he was in a wreck, and just wanted to be sure he was okay. Or get your parents to call his parents. That way, ... (read in full...)
I cheated numerous times since my wife told me the truth about her sexual past, in hope I would feel better. I feel worse and still angry. Help!
Q. I am seriously troubled with my wifes past and am so frusterated at the idea of living the rest of my life in anger. It is really depressing. She was my first girl friend and my only other sexual experience before her was a very humiliat...
A. 28 July 2008: Hi, I'm not going to tackle this question directly other than to suggest to our poster that you either PM 'troubledtoomuch' or 'yos' with your situation; they've been through this and have worked it out in their own ways. You could also search ... (read in full...)
We've had a complicated over cautious relationship - what do I do now?
Q. Hi, the more opinions the better please, this one has me stumped! I started seeing a guy around mid April, we were boyfriend/girlfriend but keeping it quite casual as I'd just come ut of a long relationshipo and he's often busy with work and is ...
A. 28 July 2008: Hi, thanks for the follow up. I really am glad to know that my answer helped. I have to tell you that THE most important thing in any relationship is the ability to communicate. And that is talking and LISTENING and trying to understand what the ... (read in full...)
I think I'm in love with someone older than me!
Q. Hi my name is Katie and well I like this guy who is 5 years older than I am. I think that he likes me too but he seems to act differently when he is around his family than when he is alone. See, I think that the reason I am even attracted to him ...
A. 28 July 2008: Hi Katie, thanks for the follow up. Wow, that IS a problem. He told his mother that he was uncomfortable with you 'always' being in the restaurant, AND that he has a big crush on a girl his own age?
Well, maybe he is feeling uncomfortable beca... (read in full...)
Do I have PID? Please help me!
Q. please help me i dont have insurance and i was reading another question on here and it was talking about PID and some smytpoms are bleeding and other things and i bleed very lightly once in a while between periods but mainly bout 1 week b4 i start ...
A. 26 July 2008: Go to this website and they will help you find low cost or possibly free gynecological care.
www.plannedparenthood.org
Hope you get the care you need!... (read in full...)
The Understanding Male Species...or not?
Q. After reading several of the replies submitted by Agony Uncles here on Dear Cupid, I have come to realise, or should I say, believe, that the majority of them are really very sympathetic, kind, loving, caring ~ but most of all understanding. But ...
A. 25 July 2008: Sorry BigSis for highjacking your article.
Q, aren't your one two dangling from the rearview mirror of an ex's Chevrolet?... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant or is it all in my head?
Q. This may sound crazy but I had unprotected sex back in march I didn't have a period in April but I bled in may I didn't bleed in June I bled this month and I've still been feeling pregnant I have abdominal pain headaches cravings sore breasts befo...
A. 25 July 2008: If you need to find a gynecologist nearer to you, go to plannedparenthood.org. There's a search tool there which uses your zip code. Hope this helps.
... (read in full...)
What should I do since my parents don't trust me and my BF sleeping in the same room?
Q. me and my new bf have been dating for a month and my parents still don't trust him sleeping in the same bed as me even if they are in the same room. what should i do since my parents don't trust me.please help...
A. 25 July 2008: Interesting way to repay their trust.
Just tell them that you need to see a gynecologist because you are now sexually active. You should see if the vaccine for preventing some HPV strains is something that would be a good idea for you too.
Take ... (read in full...)
Is there someone out there for everyone? What if they live in another country?
Q. Hello. I'm 25, English and never had a proper girlfriend. I'm also a virgin. The truth is nobody wants me. People say you'll meet someone but I know I won't. I know this question gets asked more times but I would like some help. The problem is I ...
A. 25 July 2008: Wow, you certainly got a lot more feedback since I've checked in here. Sounds like things are looking a bit more positive? Excellent. Work on your strengths, you have quite a few!
I'm not qualified to tell a 20-something young British man what to w... (read in full...)
How do you tell a telemarketer that you are interested in male enhancement issues, and find out if you both are bi?
Q. is it possible to convey to an email telemarketer that you would welcome further correspondence with them about male enhancement issues, and find out if you are both oriented toward a bi persuasion?...
A. 25 July 2008: I expect you will only be added to more email 'marketers' lists; I prefer to call them spammers.
This guy must have looked good in his photo, eh? I'm pretty sure that you're being drawn in by a very interesting 'marketing campaign.'
Reali... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant even if he pulled out before he came? The condom rolled down!
Q. I have a question, the other day my bf and I were havin sex and right when he pulled out b4 he came he notice that the condom broke and rolled all down to shaft of his penis, so doent that mean I can be pregnant even if he pulled out b4 he came? ...
A. 25 July 2008: Hi, sorry to hear that. You must be very worried. It might be a good idea to call your doctor and ask this question, he or she will have the best options for you to consider.
Here's a website that covers all the pertinent questions you may have... (read in full...)
Am I crazy and sick for thinking my boyfriend is getting off with my kid's underwear?
Q. Hello I am very disturbed right now and need to get some feed back. Maybe I am crazy. I have been dating this guy for almost three years. Certain times I get the feeling that he has a sick sexual side. Besides the fact that we have major issues a...
A. 25 July 2008: One more thought, your flag says you're in the USA. Have you had a look at this website, just to doublecheck his name?
The Department of Justice Website:
http://www.nsopr.gov/
Watch out for the popups on the following one.
http://www.fa... (read in full...)
Any sex advice for a larger lady?
Q. I'm very overweight and not very "attractive" but I've met a fella who accepts me as I am. We're now having regular intercourse for the first time in my life.To be honest I'm just glad to feel wanted and satisfy a man's needs in bed.Look...
A. 25 July 2008: Hey, congrats on the new guy! Have a lot of fun exploring each other.
Okay, first off, have you ever had an orgasm? Don't be afraid to admit that you have not, it is very common for women in your age bracket and even older never to have expe... (read in full...)
He went soft for a brief period during unprotected sex.. then he said it felt like he hadn't come.
Q. Hey guys, Ok, so here it is. My partner and I had unpretected sex last night and usualy we use the "pull out method' which i know is risky blah blah blah not looking for a lecture on that. But last night, he said during sex for a very brief peri...
A. 25 July 2008: I know what you mean about feeling like a kid again in sex ed class. But I learned things from the video too, and I thought I was fairly well-educated about this subject! So I'm glad it helped.
Take care.
And please do reconsider unprotec... (read in full...)
He went soft for a brief period during unprotected sex.. then he said it felt like he hadn't come.
Q. Hey guys, Ok, so here it is. My partner and I had unpretected sex last night and usualy we use the "pull out method' which i know is risky blah blah blah not looking for a lecture on that. But last night, he said during sex for a very brief peri...
A. 25 July 2008: I can't answer the going soft part of the question, but I think I can help with the earlier detection of pregnancy one. If the egg is fertilized in the fallopian tubes, it takes a couple of days for it to then move down into the uterus and implant ... (read in full...)
Tempted by a married man, what should I do?
Q. Hi Everyone! Any help with this situation would be muchly appreciated! For years I have liked this guy who is 16yrs older than me and married =(, i tried my best to forget about him, but everytime i saw him it was back to square one. One day ...
A. 25 July 2008: Hi, I'm glad to hear that you did not agree to have an affair with him, for a number of reasons. First is that you had some thought for his wife, I hope, as she would be very hurt if she ever found out. Second, as you know he's not going to leave ... (read in full...)
40 years old!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Q. Sorry i dont need help just want to share!!! I have had a wonderful day!!!!...
A. 25 July 2008: Hey, happy big day, may I guess you can now tell people that your age is like your eyesight? Twenty-twenty?
Welcome to the club!!!
xxx... (read in full...)
Am I crazy and sick for thinking my boyfriend is getting off with my kid's underwear?
Q. Hello I am very disturbed right now and need to get some feed back. Maybe I am crazy. I have been dating this guy for almost three years. Certain times I get the feeling that he has a sick sexual side. Besides the fact that we have major issues a...
A. 25 July 2008: Your intuition is letting you know that something is a little off here. Look, I'm not going to get into your sex life or his masturbation thing; I'd be more concerned if I were you about your daughter. How old is she (you don't actually need to ... (read in full...)
Women, is it looks or height?
Q. Do women in general prefer looks(face,muscles etc...) or height?...
A. 25 July 2008: Personality. With some halfway good looks and an average or so height. ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and I'm in love with a 19 year old...what should I do?
Q. ok i'm 13 and i'm in love with this 19 year old guy and he really loves me for me. but he is scared to ask me out because of the age different. but he wants no sex or anything. he doesn't even mind people seeing us together. should we go out or not? ...
A. 25 July 2008: Honey, if something feels wrong about the situation, then tell him that you can't see him. My mother gave me one of the greatest gifts when I was your age. She told me I could blame all kinds of things on her when I didn't want to do something. I ... (read in full...)
Women, is it looks or height?
Q. Do women in general prefer looks(face,muscles etc...) or height?...
A. 25 July 2008: Brains and humor.
Compassion and listening skills.
Integrity and loyalty.
Sexy and attractive.
Smelling good is very important.
Oh, and he treats people he meets with courtesy.
Okay, looks or height? Hmm. How he's perceived depends on the... (read in full...)
The Understanding Male Species...or not?
Q. After reading several of the replies submitted by Agony Uncles here on Dear Cupid, I have come to realise, or should I say, believe, that the majority of them are really very sympathetic, kind, loving, caring ~ but most of all understanding. But ...
A. 24 July 2008: Ah, the Steve Miller Band. Great song. But mind the double entendres, they can trip you up!!!
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Could I be pregnant or is it all in my head?
Q. This may sound crazy but I had unprotected sex back in march I didn't have a period in April but I bled in may I didn't bleed in June I bled this month and I've still been feeling pregnant I have abdominal pain headaches cravings sore breasts befo...
A. 24 July 2008: Sorry, did you write that you had a positive pregnancy test? And you didn't go see a doctor? What did today's pregnancy test tell you?
You should make an appointment with your GYN now. To double check the results and just make sure there isn't anyt... (read in full...)
We've had a complicated over cautious relationship - what do I do now?
Q. Hi, the more opinions the better please, this one has me stumped! I started seeing a guy around mid April, we were boyfriend/girlfriend but keeping it quite casual as I'd just come ut of a long relationshipo and he's often busy with work and is ...
A. 22 July 2008: Hey, I'm guilty of being over 40, but I'm not sure that advanced age also conveys wisdom. ;)
Your question was a little confusing, to be honest, but tell me if I've got the gist. You've been dating this man exclusively since mid-April, so about two ... (read in full...)
Is there someone out there for everyone? What if they live in another country?
Q. Hello. I'm 25, English and never had a proper girlfriend. I'm also a virgin. The truth is nobody wants me. People say you'll meet someone but I know I won't. I know this question gets asked more times but I would like some help. The problem is I ...
A. 22 July 2008: Sorry, I've just realized that I haven't responded to you since your update.
Musical
Intelligent
Handy with cars
Look, you need to work on the self-confidence thing here. You are doomed the minute you walk out your door because you are projecti... (read in full...)
Is there someone out there for everyone? What if they live in another country?
Q. Hello. I'm 25, English and never had a proper girlfriend. I'm also a virgin. The truth is nobody wants me. People say you'll meet someone but I know I won't. I know this question gets asked more times but I would like some help. The problem is I ...
A. 20 July 2008: Keep going, you've got a good list started.
Good listener
Loyal
Not selfish
Intelligent
Let's get another one.
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I think I'm in love with someone older than me!
Q. Hi my name is Katie and well I like this guy who is 5 years older than I am. I think that he likes me too but he seems to act differently when he is around his family than when he is alone. See, I think that the reason I am even attracted to him ...
A. 20 July 2008: Well, it is easier to get to know someone if you do talk with them from time to time. And I think that you're totally right about the way you'd handle things if you were asked to a baseball game. I have to tell you, though, that baseball games ... (read in full...)
Is there someone out there for everyone? What if they live in another country?
Q. Hello. I'm 25, English and never had a proper girlfriend. I'm also a virgin. The truth is nobody wants me. People say you'll meet someone but I know I won't. I know this question gets asked more times but I would like some help. The problem is I ...
A. 20 July 2008: Wow, you are definitely stuck in some negative thoughts here. You have presented a very thorough list of why finding someone isn't going to work in your town.
May I ask you a rather personal question? And I am not trying to be mean or nasty he... (read in full...)
I think I'm in love with someone older than me!
Q. Hi my name is Katie and well I like this guy who is 5 years older than I am. I think that he likes me too but he seems to act differently when he is around his family than when he is alone. See, I think that the reason I am even attracted to him ...
A. 18 July 2008: Well, that sounds good. I guess the best thing you can do is just be yourself, and try to continue to be the kind of girl people can admire. Then time will tell; if you were meant to be together, it will happen. But don't let yourself ignore other ... (read in full...)
I think I'm in love with someone older than me!
Q. Hi my name is Katie and well I like this guy who is 5 years older than I am. I think that he likes me too but he seems to act differently when he is around his family than when he is alone. See, I think that the reason I am even attracted to him ...
A. 17 July 2008: Hi, he sounds very nice to me, I could see why you'd like to make sure you have a chance at a relationship with him when you're older. Hhhmmmm, I would probably try to continue to be his friend. Does he know that you like him in that special way?
I... (read in full...)
The Understanding Male Species...or not?
Q. After reading several of the replies submitted by Agony Uncles here on Dear Cupid, I have come to realise, or should I say, believe, that the majority of them are really very sympathetic, kind, loving, caring ~ but most of all understanding. But ...
A. 7 July 2008: Wow! BigSis, you sure know how to attract a crowd! And a fun party it is too, q1605, Diovan, Oldersister, Collaroy, etc... I like the new backbone, it looks great with that tan. So here's hoping that you find the guy that has the whole package; they ... (read in full...)
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