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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.

I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman

If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)

Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle

All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.

"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama

"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay

"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain

I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html

http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/

So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.

“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.

The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.

If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.

http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html

If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.

You have my permission to say “no.”

If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.

There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’

Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.

Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.

Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.

I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.

I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html

More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm

I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171

Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.

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She is extremely depressed, I became emotionally drained due to our problems... HELP.

Q. To whom may have advice, Let me begin with some background information I met my girlfriend (who I have been dating for over four years) in college. The first year was amazing (the first time I ever though about marriage) but after that it was a ...

A. 19 December 2008: Sorry for taking so long to get back to you; I've been off the site due to personal family circumstances. Okay, you sound desperate, and I'm sorry for that. You're right, you cannot marry her if things don't change, and I think you do have good reas... (read in full...)

Any fans of Harry Potter?

Q. One of the questions that I answered on Dear Cupid just sparked my curiousity. I was wondering if any of the other aunts and uncles are fans of the Harry Potter series? Not everyone is a fan of course, but please humor me, because I'm curious....

A. 8 December 2008: Oh, the yoht. Not the buot, nor the boay, but the yoht. Got it now. And galleons are ships, aren't they? And doubloons are coins? Ow!!! My brain hurts now. Must be time for that vino.... (read in full...)

Any fans of Harry Potter?

A. 8 December 2008: Yot? ... (read in full...)

Any fans of Harry Potter?

A. 8 December 2008: Right, it's beer at Gryffindor and champagne at Ravenclaw, so that leaves cocktails and wine for Slytherin and Hufflepuff. Non-alcoholic beverages at all houses, of course. We'll need food to go with it all, so call the caterers and order up our ... (read in full...)

Any fans of Harry Potter?

A. 8 December 2008: Eyes, this one takes only a minute or so, only about 7 questions max. Go ahead... http://harrypotter.warnerbros.com/web/hogwarts/sortinghat/sorting_hat.jsp... (read in full...)

Any fans of Harry Potter?

A. 8 December 2008: Sheesh, all these suitcases being packed and the moving men tripping over each other on that mysterious staircase as we all change houses.... my head is spinning. And Eyes, ahem, which house did our various little quizzes put you into? I think it's... (read in full...)

She is extremely depressed, I became emotionally drained due to our problems... HELP.

A. 8 December 2008: I'm happy to hear you're going to talk to members of her family. I think that one of the things that is holding her back is that she hasn't admitted to herself there's a problem. There's this huge stigma attached to anyone who admits they have a ... (read in full...)

Any fans of Harry Potter?

A. 8 December 2008: Oh, that reminds me, time to go pluck the hairs off my upper lip.... haahahahhaaaahaha!!!... (read in full...)

Revenge tips for me to hurt a guy's feelings.

Q. hi I wanted a boyfriend all my life since I was 18 years and now I am 30 and I have never been asked out once and a lot of the guys I liked rejected me for someone who they find more sexually attractive than me. After all the rejection and hu...

A. 8 December 2008: Have you ever read some of the posts from the men who get dumped badly? They hurt too, and they suffer. If you want to hear about a man suffering from a bad breakup, why not do it vicariously, rather than inflicting pain on another human for no ... (read in full...)

Any fans of Harry Potter?

A. 8 December 2008: And Bugs, I didn't see your answer before I posted mine!!! Another Dumbledore? I wonder if we need to take the test again, and change answers to check that it has some variability? I mean, who's not going to choose 'loyal' when asked?... (read in full...)

Any fans of Harry Potter?

A. 8 December 2008: Hahaha, Oldersister, that's an interesting test too. I got Professor Dumbledore too. He's the head of Hogwarts, the Wizard academy. He may be an old man, but he's got some great powers and he runs the school, after all. I'm not really sure there are ... (read in full...)

Any fans of Harry Potter?

A. 8 December 2008: I just went to the official harrypotter.com site and applied for admission to Hogwarts. You can take a very short sorting test. I did it and was put in Ravenclaw. Here's the link: http:... (read in full...)

Any fans of Harry Potter?

A. 8 December 2008: *Flinging my cape into the Huffenpuff common room* I get the top bunk!!! Oldersister, I'm a bit jealous that you're in Gryffindor, as it sounds like the coolest one. And can I come over to Ravenclaw, as those two scores were so close? I'd love to h... (read in full...)

Are you a tall girl and self conscious?

Q. No need to be! I can relate. I am almost 18 years old and 6'1"! When I was in middle school, I absolutely hated it, and if you are one of those girls, there's no need to hate your body or your height! I have found that many young tall girls are v...

A. 8 December 2008: Hey, how's the weather up there? No, seriously, a nice little article to boost up those tall girls who are feeling low. (I'm just full of pun like these, I can stop anytime I want. Yeah, right.) I'm on the shorter end of the spectrum, and I can seco... (read in full...)

WHY do men cheat on women???

Q. I want to first say a big thanks to all the house members here, I think my problem is really getting to be solved soon.. My girl is now at the point of forgiving me, but still one more thing to get solved, I sent mail that I cheated on my girl, now ...

A. 8 December 2008: You have to answer this question for yourself, you know. You say you have no reason for cheating on her. Well, what was your motivation then? I mean what was it that had you with another woman? If you don't know what led you to cheating, how do you ... (read in full...)

How can I find out if she's cheating on me?

Q. I think my girlfriend is cheating on me she tells me she doesn't want sex as much because we are not all about that, I ask her what she's doing quite a lot and she says "why do you always need to know what I'm doing?" I've asked her quite a few ti...

A. 8 December 2008: Has it occurred to you that she might be telling the truth? That she's not cheating on you and that you are getting overly paranoid about it? Women's libidos can vary with age, medical condition, having conditions such as depresson, excess stre... (read in full...)

Boy names that mean miracle or or something along those lines?

Q. Hello everyone! So, my wife is pregnant. We are trying to choose a boys name that would mean "miracle" as if this child is born, it truely would be because of the high chances of a misscarriage happening. We have a girl name already, but yeah... ...

A. 8 December 2008: There's a webtool I found for you at this link. You type in the meaning and it comes back with names in all kinds of languages. It's fun! Here are some suggested from the word "gift": Cedro, Dervin or Dervon, Donatello, Donzel, Doren, Elon,... (read in full...)

She is extremely depressed, I became emotionally drained due to our problems... HELP.

A. 8 December 2008: Wow, you are carrying a huge burden. She needs help, but is expecting you to fix her problems for her. This is not realistic thinking, and you have to realize that she is not processing things from a rational point of view. No, not all rela... (read in full...)

He wanted to cum in my eye!!!

Q. I was having sex with a guy I've been seeing for a while the other night, when he said he wanted to do something. He didn't want to say what but I made him tell me and he said he wanted to come in my eye! I thought it was a joke at first so I ...

A. 8 December 2008: Eyes!!!!! You have to warn people before you zing off one-liners like that. Having to change one's trousers right after one puts them on is simply not okay. Tell your boyfriend, or is it just a guy friend, that some things have to stay in the fant... (read in full...)

Any fans of Harry Potter?

A. 8 December 2008: I simply couldn't resist this thread, too many fun aunts here. I haven't read the books but does going to the movies count? I tested as 85 Hufflepuff and second at 83 is Ravenclaw. I like the sound of all of them, well maybe not Slytherin, too much... (read in full...)

He's below average in the looks department....

Q. Me and my bestfriend have been friends for many years. Over these years, he's always loved me in a way more than friends and has asked me on several occasions to be together with him. Over the years, he's really grown and matured and I find myself ...

A. 7 December 2008: No, I don't think you're being stupid. You're being honest, which is good. Physical chemistry is part of a romantic relationship, not the ONLY part, but it is important. That being said, are you neutral on his looks or is he truly unappealing to y... (read in full...)

I am afraid to try any more because I'll end up rejected anyway?

Q. hi i see so many girls my age and younger then me with boyfreinds and i missed out all along the way because i was getting rejected.by guys who had girlfreinds in the past and know how to get girlfreinds and kow how to kiss and know how to get what ...

A. 7 December 2008: Do you have any good girlfriends? Any close friends whose opinion you value and who you can trust? I think it's time that you sit yourself down and assess why you are where you are. Ask your girlfriends what your strong points are and where you ... (read in full...)

How long does it usually take for a woman to orgasm?

Q. Me and my boyfriend have known eachother for 3 and a half years now, all through high school. We started going out last Valentines day, (Feb. 14, 2008) and have been having sex since the end of march. Our sex life is absolutely fantastic, as well as ...

A. 7 December 2008: Hi, you're normal, something like two-thirds to three-quarters of women do not reach orgasm through vaginal penetration alone. Don't feel bad, don't feel guilty, don't feel pressured; it just is what it is for many of us. It doesn't mean you should ... (read in full...)

After ALL my sacrifices for her, she doesn't care! I have wasted 9 years. Please advise.

Q. Hi. I'm a British guy who was divorced after a long term relationship. I'm from a South Asian background. I posted up my details on a matrimonial site as I was 31 at the time and needed to find a companion. Altho many many girls were interested, I ...

A. 7 December 2008: "I cant just write off two houses ... those are the fruits of my decades of hard-work. WHy should I give THEM up too?" Good question. One to ask that lawyer. If you can't stand up to your wife, maybe a hired shark can do it for you. You're blaming ... (read in full...)

After ALL my sacrifices for her, she doesn't care! I have wasted 9 years. Please advise.

A. 6 December 2008: You have GOT to go see an attorney about this. You need help with both your residency status and potential divorce proceedings. You need someone who knows the systems inside and out in order to maximize whatever good you can extract out of this ... (read in full...)

I am still attracted to her as much as when we were young, could my weight be the problem?

Q. i am a 50 yr. old male and my wife is 56 we got married when i was 17 and she was 23 she was and is still a very beautiful woman she looks to be in her 30s insted of 56 i have gained a few pounds over the years she as always is very tiny 120 at 5ft ...

A. 6 December 2008: I hope that if you've married as long as you two have been that you could feel comfortable asking her this question in a nonconfrontational way. You've had some good theories as to what might be happening with your wife to diminish her sex drive. ... (read in full...)

Can she get pregnant if I ejaculate on her vulva?

Q. I've been having sex with my girlfriend just recently. 98% of the time i have wore a condom. but me and my girlfriend prefer to not use them. is there a chance she can get pregnant if i ejaculate on the outside of her virgina. (on her virgina, not ...

A. 6 December 2008: Yes, it is possible for her to get pregnant in the way you described. Watch this for some sex education: http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html Please don't put her at the risk for an u... (read in full...)

I have a boyfriend for 9 months but a crush on my best friend, What should I do!?

Q. I'm currently a freshman in college who commutes back and forth to school. My senior year in February I started dating this guy. I'm 18 and hes 20. It has now been 9 months we have been going out. I lost my virginity to him and he has became super ...

A. 5 December 2008: I'm sorry, this is going to be a short message, I have to leave soon. You should not allow yourself to be emotionally blackmailed into staying in a relationship that you don't wish to be in. You're still young, you have many responsibilities with... (read in full...)

Should I have responded to a love letter I received from this guy in my office?

Q. Hey there! A guy at work from a different department passed me a note recently telling me how he felt about me (i.e. positive stuff!) and that because he has suddenly realised that I'm actually seeing someone else in the office he has decided that ...

A. 5 December 2008: Hey, you're welcome. I hate anonymous admirers, I had one too years ago and it was most unwelcome. I kept getting these tokens, like boxes of chocolates, and no one would confess to being the secret admirer, and most of the guys were married, to ... (read in full...)

Can my school fax four transcripts to different schools?

Q. I plan on transferring to another college for the spring but I am not sure exactly what college I want to go to. I haven't spoken with an advisor yet because I want to have my mind made up. Is it possible that they can fax my transcript to four ...

A. 5 December 2008: I don't see any reason why you can't talk to your advisor before your mind is made up. That's what advisors are for, to help you make decisions and facilitate the process. I expect schools all over the place fax transcripts all the time. Just ask ... (read in full...)

Am I wrong for being mad at him?

Q. My boyfriend and I have just made 4 months yesterday. We didn't get to spend much time together like we planned because he had to go to his step father's graduation and I had school all day. Last month on our 3 months we didn't spend much time ...

A. 5 December 2008: I think you may be putting too much emphasis on the anniversary dates. They are important, but so are the other things in life, like school, and graduations, and doctors appointments and all those events that can keep people from being with the ones ... (read in full...)

Should I have responded to a love letter I received from this guy in my office?

A. 5 December 2008: Hi, I'm with Artistry on this one. Did you and the letter-writer have anything other than a work friendship? Did you date at all? If you didn't date at all and there was nothing from your end toward him but a cordial professional relationship, then... (read in full...)

Could I be pregnant?

Q. I am not sure what to do. My periods are never regular and I haven't had one this month yet. I am having all the symptoms of my period though just nothing yet. My boyfriend and I have had unprotected sex recently. Could I be pregnant?...

A. 5 December 2008: Yes, you could be pregnant. Having unprotected sex tends to lead to that, you know. ;) Buy a pregnancy test and follow the instructions on the box. I believe there are some very reliable tests on the market. There is a timing issue, in that a fert... (read in full...)

Opinions about perfume!

Q. Hi, This isn't a problem or anything but I want peoples opinion. What kind of perfume do guys like more? (girls can answer too) Fruity, floral, or more musky?? (any specific perfume would be helpful too :D ) thanks...

A. 5 December 2008: And whoa nelly! the right scents can make you appear up to 12 pounds lighter to the sniffer!!! http://www.smellandtaste.org/index.cfm?action=research.perceived Floral and spice being the ones that worked that way in men who found those scents p... (read in full...)

Opinions about perfume!

A. 5 December 2008: If you want to increase penile blood flow, ahem, it turns out that the combined scents of lavender and pumpkin pie were the most effective in a research study. Who woulda guessed it? Data is here: http:... (read in full...)

Opinions about perfume!

A. 5 December 2008: I heard somewhere that the most attractive scent on a woman for a man is vanilla, or at least most men found it alluring. I'll see if I can find the research data. Ysatis was my choice for years. I've also loved Anais Anais, and used to wear Opiu... (read in full...)

Drama!!

Q. MY Fiance And I Have Been Dating For Little Over a year and we have major issues with his ex( daughters mother) interfering. sitting outside my house, following me around to the beauty salon, calling me, taking me to court for harassment, suing me, ...

A. 5 December 2008: I think you should consult an attorney and see if you can do as Emily says, get a restraining order. You might also discuss with the attorney the possibility of getting her in trouble with the court for filing frivolous lawsuits. I also ques... (read in full...)

Rejection all the time...

Q. I don't like guys any more because they always reject me and it's really unfair. I am shy, quiet, nervous around guys, I have a weight problem, I'm short, not goodlooking just plain with a fat face. I have so much bad luck with them I don't want ...

A. 5 December 2008: Hi, emporessmystique and the other aunts have given you some good tips. You sound very angry and bitter. If you are exuding those emotions when you go out in the world, you are turning people off before they even get to meet you. Non-verbal comm... (read in full...)

33 and never had an orgasm!

Q. I am in need of knowing what I am doing wrong here. I have never had an orgasm and for some reason when he is rubbing the "spot" it tickles like hell. I want to but I guess I cant. I'm 33 years old and never had one, that's crazy, that's with having ...

A. 5 December 2008: Have you tried a vibrator, by any chance? That can be a help to get you to see what one feels like. Then you can have a lot of fun finding out how to have one with the two of you!... (read in full...)

I want a baby, but I don't know what my parents would say!

Q. hi the thing is im 18 my boyfriend is 21 i have been with him for 3years and i really want a baby with him i understand the responsibility issue and not just the cute baby side. me and him would but we're both worried about what my mum and dad would ...

A. 5 December 2008: I think you've had some excellent advice already. I second Petina1's comment that you should have your 'nest' all set up for the baby before you contemplate this. If you're living with your parents, well, then I think that's presumptuous of you to a... (read in full...)

Is it wrong of me to want to have fun before I settle down?

Q. I told my girlfriend that I think relationships at my age are more to do with fun rather than love and she got really upset. I do love her but I don't want a serious relationship just yet. I'm only 17. I've been going out with her for over a year ...

A. 5 December 2008: First of all, stop beating yourself up for having these feelings. You are right, you're only 17 and you have lots of things to experience. When the time is right, and you're ready, you will know. Trust me on this. Second, don't stop being hone... (read in full...)

I'm afraid to have sex.

Q. hey i am 14 years old and i am really afriad to have sex because i am afriad that i will get cought and plus im agfraid that it is gonna hurt really bad.and that people is gonna call me a slut,whore (ect)but most of all ...my friend is 14 and she is ...

A. 5 December 2008: The other aunts have given you good answers on the sex thing. Were you asking what to do about your pregnant girlfriend? First of all, you are not responsible for her pregnancy or her problems, but you can be supportive of her. Has she told her ... (read in full...)

Is fantasizing about other guys tantamount to being unfaithful?

Q. Ladies! Imagine you were in a faithful relationship when a dashing, debonair, handsome, lean and lithe, sensitive, passionate, caring, tall, good looking, cute man with nice buns, nice smile, deep voice, great shoulders (and what's more he thinks ...

A. 5 December 2008: OOOOOOH!!! I want that guy to make a pass at me! It would be great for my ego. Of course I would squash his hopes like a bug, but I would feel hot for the rest of the day. And what's in my head at any time is no one's business but my own, unless I'm ... (read in full...)

The Nice Guy

Q. I remember being a kid and watching those corny teen movies like “Can’t Hardly Wait” and I recall thinking that the nice guy always gets the girl and believing that is how it really is. But as I got older I came to learn that Hollywood is full of ...

A. 4 December 2008: I'm sorry you're so young and sound so bitter. I married my nice guy, so there's happy endings there. Well, at least for me, you'd have to ask him if he thinks that was a happy ending. ;) Look, you obviously are meeting rather shallow girls. Are ... (read in full...)

I'm confused about discharge, is this normal?

Q. Hey, I have been reading alot on here about a problem with discharge and im a bit confused. I just wondered if you are supposed to stop getting discharge after you have started your periods, or if it is at least supposed to happeen less often unles...

A. 4 December 2008: You're normal. Discharge is a way that your innards keep themselves healthy. As long as the discharge isn't really odd in color and doesn't have a foul odor, you're likely perfectly fine. Any signs of change, foul odor, rash, itching, etc., see your ... (read in full...)

How do I convince people I don't have an eating disorder?

Q. Everybody always says that I'm too skinny and are always trying to get me to eat more, but I don't think I'm too skinny. My boyfriend tells everyone that i'm healthy and my family tells them too but they still don't believe them. I'm a 1...

A. 4 December 2008: What does the doctor say about this? If you're six months pregnant and weigh 8 stone, the baby is in trouble. I think if you haven't seen the doctor, you need to do so straightaway. ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend and I have the perfect relationship.. except I'm wondering if he might be abusive.

Q. Okay, this is really hard for me to ask, and I really need some outside advice and opinions. My boyfriend and I are pretty much the ideal couple. I'm not just saying that, we really are. We would never lie to each other, we are best friends, we...

A. 4 December 2008: Here's the number to call, you can just call and ask your question of a trained counselor there and see what she or he thinks. 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).... (read in full...)

My boyfriend and I have the perfect relationship.. except I'm wondering if he might be abusive.

A. 4 December 2008: Here's one for starters: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/relationships/safe-your-relationship-19917.htm For the benefit of our readers, I'll put the pertinent paragraphs below: --------------------- PHYSICAL SAFETY In healt... (read in full...)

My boyfriend and I have the perfect relationship.. except I'm wondering if he might be abusive.

A. 4 December 2008: Whoops! I accidently pressed the add button. Sorry for that. Cut off mid-sentence. His upbringing. The fact of the matter is that he can't control himself. He knows it's wrong, he knows you don't like it, so why does he continue to do it? It's not... (read in full...)

My boyfriend and I have the perfect relationship.. except I'm wondering if he might be abusive.

A. 4 December 2008: Tricky one. You do love him but his behavior sometimes makes you uncomfortable and in fact he does seem to be threatening you. I'm not sure what to advise you, but I think your gut is telling you that something is wrong here, despite the perf... (read in full...)