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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Why is it so unfair? Why do I get treated so badly?
Q. does any thinks this is unfair?? guys reject me and hate me all the time.The guys who reject me always find a NEW girlfriend and NEW JOB even if a few months! but me i get nothing only yet another broken and cold rejection and only good things...
A. 22 December 2008: I'm guessing you don't like the advice you're getting here, that's why you don't respond other than rehashing the same thought over and over again. When you can get yourself out of that rut, reread what we've written and have a good think about it. ... (read in full...)
Why is it so unfair? Why do I get treated so badly?
Q. does any thinks this is unfair?? guys reject me and hate me all the time.The guys who reject me always find a NEW girlfriend and NEW JOB even if a few months! but me i get nothing only yet another broken and cold rejection and only good things...
A. 22 December 2008: Accept that he's a jerk, and not the one for you. We all kiss a few frogs before finding a decent guy. What I would encourage you to do is let go of this anger toward him. It is poisoning you for other relationships. You are not growing as a person ... (read in full...)
I just really need to talk to my ex from 15 years ago.
Q. I have a 5 kids and recently split with husband. My ex is from 15 years ago. We were engaged etc. I left him not because I didn't love him or he love me that's for sure. It was because of a bad habit he had that I thought me leaving him might make ...
A. 22 December 2008: I think we're probably all misunderstanding each other. You want suggestions on how to contact him without blowing up his marriage. We are suggesting to you to not do that, to instead figure out why you feel this compelling need to know how he is ... (read in full...)
Confused - Pregnant wife, in love with another?
Q. My wife is pregnant after many years of trying (together over 10 years). We have not been getting on for some time, but tried to work through the issues and kept trying to get pregnant.... This year one of my close female friends and I admitted our ...
A. 22 December 2008: Thank you for your followup. My default position, barring other information, is to try to help people save the marriage. There are times when this simply is not possible, and I acknowledge that.
I have few more questions. What issues are you and ... (read in full...)
A letter to my ex: your thoughts?
Q. For background please see: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-is-my-exgirlfriends-intentions-here.html I'd appreciate your thoughts on this letter. (Sorry for the length). J, I have been thinking about how I feel of late, and there is ...
A. 22 December 2008: That looks good to me. You've managed to explain your side of things nicely, and you don't give her much room to force friendship on you.
Sorry about your first love. It hurts like hell right now, but 20 years from now, you'll only feel some warm... (read in full...)
He's nice and all, but I am just not all that into him.
Q. Okay, first of all i'll point out that I KNOW i've done something stupid, just so nobody else has to point it out. At the beginning of last year I started seeing a guy I really liked. It went on for 8 months, a few bumps along the way. We decided ...
A. 22 December 2008: Oh, forgot to tell you, you're not the first person to be in this situation, lots of people have rebound relationships, so don't beat yourself up too much about having put yourself there.
Now you just have to extract yourself with as much grace and ... (read in full...)
He's nice and all, but I am just not all that into him.
Q. Okay, first of all i'll point out that I KNOW i've done something stupid, just so nobody else has to point it out. At the beginning of last year I started seeing a guy I really liked. It went on for 8 months, a few bumps along the way. We decided ...
A. 22 December 2008: You're going to upset him sooner or later. It might as well be sooner, because if you carry on like this, he's going to work it out for himself. You can't fake feelings like these for very long.
Tell him that you think he's a great guy, but you don'... (read in full...)
I just really need to talk to my ex from 15 years ago.
Q. I have a 5 kids and recently split with husband. My ex is from 15 years ago. We were engaged etc. I left him not because I didn't love him or he love me that's for sure. It was because of a bad habit he had that I thought me leaving him might make ...
A. 22 December 2008: It must have been one hell of a bad habit for you to leave him and marry another man, if there was so much love between you.
Look, you AND he have made your own lives now, for better or for worse. I understand he may have been a suitable life part... (read in full...)
Confused - Pregnant wife, in love with another?
Q. My wife is pregnant after many years of trying (together over 10 years). We have not been getting on for some time, but tried to work through the issues and kept trying to get pregnant.... This year one of my close female friends and I admitted our ...
A. 22 December 2008: How were you trying to work through the issues? On your own, or with some professional help? And who was it that wanted to have a child? Both of you, or was one person driving that decision?
Look, by fathering a child, you essentially made a comm... (read in full...)
Why is it so unfair? Why do I get treated so badly?
Q. does any thinks this is unfair?? guys reject me and hate me all the time.The guys who reject me always find a NEW girlfriend and NEW JOB even if a few months! but me i get nothing only yet another broken and cold rejection and only good things...
A. 22 December 2008: You do realize that the only one who can help you move on is YOU? He has nothing to do with this now; it's been two years and he's gotten on with things.
You are obsessing over him and his treatment of you because you don't really want to face thin... (read in full...)
A letter to my ex: your thoughts?
Q. For background please see: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-is-my-exgirlfriends-intentions-here.html I'd appreciate your thoughts on this letter. (Sorry for the length). J, I have been thinking about how I feel of late, and there is ...
A. 22 December 2008: I like your letter. I had to read it a couple of times, as I'm sure she would do, in order to fully grasp what you were trying to say. But I think you wrote it very well.
I have one change I'd like to make to your first paragraph:
"I have been thi... (read in full...)
I wrote to my father in law telling him what I thought of him and his girlfriend. Was I right to do this?
Q. my brother in law has been thrown out of his home by his girlfriend because of his laziness. My husband's family (his 3 sisters) are financially well off and have space in their houses. We are poor and have no room. My father in law has a large ...
A. 22 December 2008: It would be helpful to know what you said to them. I understand your frustration, but sometimes it's better for a wife/girlfriend to turn a blind eye to a family's dysfunctional antics, because it's almost guaranteed that even if they are at each ... (read in full...)
How can I tell if online porn sites are legit?
Q. I have some serious questions about online porn. There is this one site that I would love to buy some from but I'm worried it could cause some future problems. How can I tell if they are legit. I mean in college I saw one of their porn videos that I ...
A. 22 December 2008: I think there's a good website review service at janesguide.com.
There, another woman heard from. ;)... (read in full...)
It will be a lonely Christmas if my sisters BF has to come to dinner.
Q. I have been really looking forward to xmas but now im feeling depressed. The plan was to go to my mums for lunch like i do most years, the only difference being this year my sister has moved out and now lives with my mum and she has invited her boyf...
A. 19 December 2008: Diplomacy is what is called for here. That's where people who don't really like each other or have much in common sit and talk about items of mutual interest without firing any warheads at each other. It's excruciating for some, but generally only ... (read in full...)
I LOVE my wife but I'm not IN LOVE with here any more.
Q. Dear All, I have been with my wife for close to 18 years now. A lot has transpired during out relationship. We have had the good and the bad as most do. However I have had the brunt of most of the bad. During our time together she has had numerous...
A. 19 December 2008: Okay, this one is way out of my league. I did some googling and found these sites on borderline personality disorder, which I'm sure you've looked at already. I didn't proceed with googling bipolar because it seems that someone who is borderline ... (read in full...)
How can I meet men outside of college?
Q. How can I meet men outside of college? Not for hook-ups! So I don't want to hear about bars. I am also very wary of online dating. ...
A. 19 December 2008: You are simply not going to get any better advice than what daletom just wrote. Wow. That was awesome.... (read in full...)
How can I meet men outside of college?
Q. How can I meet men outside of college? Not for hook-ups! So I don't want to hear about bars. I am also very wary of online dating. ...
A. 19 December 2008: Through friends and family, tell them you're interesting in meeting new men, don't keep that a secret! Take classes in things you like but that men might also like, scuba diving, skeet shooting, wine tasting. Go to the gym. Take up a sport like ... (read in full...)
Should I pursue things with my teacher?
Q. I know what all your replies will be with this question, 'oooh finish it now, or he'll lose his job' or 'you'll both get hurt and left with nothing' but listen to my story anyway. Basically, i'm 16. I go to a private school in the north of the cou...
A. 19 December 2008: 16, 46
26, 56
36, 66
46, 76
Look, I don't have anything against age-gap relationships. I just hate when they start in school, where there is an imbalanced relationship to begin with, as one of the pair is in a position of power and authority, a... (read in full...)
Will his puppy lose its sight?
Q. Hi you lot, Need some advice really. My son has a lovely new little puppy. He let his mate look after it for him while he was at work, and the friend took the puppy round to his mate who has 3 cats. To cut a long story short, the puppy got attack...
A. 19 December 2008: Oh, sweetie, I'm so sorry to hear that!!! How dreadful to have that happen, and to a young puppy too. Okay, it may be that you cannot save that eye. You might consider a different vet, I know they are expensive, but hopefully there is insurance? I ... (read in full...)
She is extremely depressed, I became emotionally drained due to our problems... HELP.
Q. To whom may have advice, Let me begin with some background information I met my girlfriend (who I have been dating for over four years) in college. The first year was amazing (the first time I ever though about marriage) but after that it was a ...
A. 19 December 2008: Sorry for taking so long to get back to you; I've been off the site due to personal family circumstances.
Okay, you sound desperate, and I'm sorry for that. You're right, you cannot marry her if things don't change, and I think you do have good reas... (read in full...)
I LOVE my wife but I'm not IN LOVE with here any more.
Q. Dear All, I have been with my wife for close to 18 years now. A lot has transpired during out relationship. We have had the good and the bad as most do. However I have had the brunt of most of the bad. During our time together she has had numerous...
A. 19 December 2008: Your marriage deserves 100% effort from both of you. My guess is that she's been putting in about 10%, just the bare minimum to keep you from walking out. You may have been giving it 100% at first, but now you're down to her level too, right? Why ... (read in full...)
If I leave, could I be leaving the love of my life? Or if he is the love of my life, should I have realised that by now?
Q. I am currently living with my man of 4 years. We have signed for a lease of one year. Thing is, i feel guilty, i am always feeling unsure about our relationship, as to whether or not we are best as just friends. He is so lovely to me, and ...
A. 19 December 2008: This is hard to deal with, isn't it, losing that physical desire for your partner. I get the sense that he's not taking care of himself as well as he could be. Eating fatty food and only going to the gym when you push him to.
Does he know that you'... (read in full...)
What does a DNA test have to do with having hepatitis?
Q. I went for hepatitis test about two months ago and was found positive. My doctor said another test will be carried on along with DNA test. I wonder what DNA has to do with this. Secondly my husband is proving difficult to go for the test this has ...
A. 9 December 2008: I'm sorry to hear of your diagnosis. There are many types of hepatitis and it is very important that you know which type you have. Please go to Webmd.com and search for "hepatitis", this will lead you to information about the various types.
It soun... (read in full...)
My rational side tells me to run away from my married boss, but my emotions say something else!
Q. i am 18 years old and i am absolutly head over heels in love with my 30 year old boss, and yes, the feeling is mutual. the problem is he is married with two young children. now, the rational side of me is telling me to run away from this...
A. 9 December 2008: It's actually pretty simple. Hard as it may be to do, make a rule of dating only single guys. If this guy wants to date you, then he'll have to be single. This means he'd have to leave his wife and children to be with you. I'm not saying it can't ... (read in full...)
Why are white men always falling for white women and not me, the Puerto Rican?
Q. Hello dear cupiders, I am puerto rican. shoulder length cruley brown hair/ very tan skin/ reg. brown eyes/ short/ I believe I'm attractive I give myself a 7 1/2 out of 10. I am attracted primary to 'white' men. (Not that I'm racist or anyth...
A. 9 December 2008: Hi, have you ever considered the idea that there might be an guy of Asian heritage who thinks you're gorgeous and wants to date you? Or maybe an African-American? You probably don't give them much of a chance because they aren't your type. Do you ... (read in full...)
What are the chances this relationship will turn into marriage??
Q. My friend is 14 and her boyfriend is 19. what are the chances that they will continue dating/have feelings for each other long enough to get married (at the earliest when she turns 18)? They have been dating about a year if that matters. ...
A. 9 December 2008: I'm with emporess here. I think of all the people I knew in high school, call it 800 total. I think there were maybe 5 marriages from that. Do the math. It's not impossible, it's just unlikely. People change a lot between the ages of 14 and 24, more ... (read in full...)
My wife is an automechanic and it's embarrassing!
Q. My wife is an auto mechanic and she also fixes everything around the house. It's kind of embarrassing because my friends always tease me about it. Like once we when on a rode trip with our friends and the car broke down. My wife repair it on 30 ...
A. 9 December 2008: Leave your friends behind the next time the car breaks down, and find some new ones. If it was their car, send them a bill for the labor. I think about $200 should cover that. Of course, parts are extra, don't forget to add that cost too.
The reas... (read in full...)
Long distances relationships, can they really work?
Q. So do they really work? I mean think about it. To have a good relationship where you might see each other once a week, or maybe once a month, can it work? Depends on how faithful each of the people are. But if you have two people leading s...
A. 9 December 2008: Yes, they can work! I was in one for two years, and I married my guy too. It was work, it was difficult, it required trust and boy, was it fun to see him! Ours was 800 miles, by the way, we had to fly to see one another. It helped that we both ... (read in full...)
My best friend and her sister have said some things about my mother that have really hurt me!
Q. I had a best friend,whom i met in 1976.She lives in Tennessee with her sister and brother-in law. My mother passed this year in March.About a day later,my good friends'sister started to email me,with harsh statements about my mother.It hurt me even ...
A. 9 December 2008: I think that you should talk with your best friend about how what's happened has hurt you. You won't be able to move past this until you find out why it happened. Maybe her sister has some sort of problem? She emails while drunk and doesn't remember ... (read in full...)
Is my lust for a teacher unhealthy and should I talk to someone about it?
Q. So I’m kind of anxious because I truly feel that I’m beginning to have an emotional attachment to my English teacher. He was my teacher last year, and he's my AP teacher this year. When I speak to him, I accidentally stare into his eyes, appearing ...
A. 9 December 2008: I'm going to assume that you're the student. Don't tell him anything about how you feel. That will backfire on you and you will be mortified.
I think that you are actually falling in love with the idea of being an English teacher, that your drea... (read in full...)
Do I tell her now (1 1/2 months later) I accept the breakup or just move on and accept on my own?
Q. Hi all. I have a question for everyone. I'm a 36 year old male who is trying to accept the end of a 2 year relationship. At first I tried to hold on to this relationship and did a bit of begging and pleading for her not to go. Then we tried ...
A. 9 December 2008: It sounds like you need to have that famous thing, closure. It does sound like for her, this is truly over. I woud say 'no contact' sounds like the right thing for you, but I'm getting a feeling that you would like to leave one last, good impression ... (read in full...)
Any fans of Harry Potter?
Q. One of the questions that I answered on Dear Cupid just sparked my curiousity. I was wondering if any of the other aunts and uncles are fans of the Harry Potter series? Not everyone is a fan of course, but please humor me, because I'm curious....
A. 8 December 2008: Oh, the yoht. Not the buot, nor the boay, but the yoht. Got it now.
And galleons are ships, aren't they? And doubloons are coins?
Ow!!! My brain hurts now. Must be time for that vino.... (read in full...)
Is it possible to turn gay or is he just confused?
Q. Hi, My husband as recently landed the bombshell on me that he is gay. We have been married for 8 years and have two children together. I don't know what to do or think. Is it possible to turn gay? I know as a fact that he dated women before me and h...
A. 8 December 2008: I don't think people suddenly turn gay. I think he may have been lying to himself, hiding his true orientation, and trying to stay within societal norms. It certainly is a bombshell, so try to keep focused on a couple of things.
It is not your faul... (read in full...)
Where is that male G-spot that I read so much about?
Q. Hi! So here I am, all grown up and feeling so sexually mature. Love to have sex with my bf, and love to try everything I feel like. But I just don't know this really important thing... and never really thought about it...WHERE IS THAT G SPOT I read ...
A. 8 December 2008: Maybe this will help?
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prostate
I think the male gspot is the area in the anus where the prostate lies next to.
That's all I've got for you, maybe another aunt or uncle can help you out.... (read in full...)
Any fans of Harry Potter?
Q. One of the questions that I answered on Dear Cupid just sparked my curiousity. I was wondering if any of the other aunts and uncles are fans of the Harry Potter series? Not everyone is a fan of course, but please humor me, because I'm curious....
A. 8 December 2008: Yot? ... (read in full...)
Any fans of Harry Potter?
Q. One of the questions that I answered on Dear Cupid just sparked my curiousity. I was wondering if any of the other aunts and uncles are fans of the Harry Potter series? Not everyone is a fan of course, but please humor me, because I'm curious....
A. 8 December 2008: Right, it's beer at Gryffindor and champagne at Ravenclaw, so that leaves cocktails and wine for Slytherin and Hufflepuff. Non-alcoholic beverages at all houses, of course. We'll need food to go with it all, so call the caterers and order up our ... (read in full...)
Any fans of Harry Potter?
Q. One of the questions that I answered on Dear Cupid just sparked my curiousity. I was wondering if any of the other aunts and uncles are fans of the Harry Potter series? Not everyone is a fan of course, but please humor me, because I'm curious....
A. 8 December 2008: Eyes, this one takes only a minute or so, only about 7 questions max. Go ahead... http://harrypotter.warnerbros.com/web/hogwarts/sortinghat/sorting_hat.jsp... (read in full...)
Any fans of Harry Potter?
Q. One of the questions that I answered on Dear Cupid just sparked my curiousity. I was wondering if any of the other aunts and uncles are fans of the Harry Potter series? Not everyone is a fan of course, but please humor me, because I'm curious....
A. 8 December 2008: Sheesh, all these suitcases being packed and the moving men tripping over each other on that mysterious staircase as we all change houses.... my head is spinning.
And Eyes, ahem, which house did our various little quizzes put you into? I think it's... (read in full...)
Why do people moan during sex?
Q. Hi...just a question about sex. Do people involuntary moan during sex? Is the thought of being turned on so much that it's completely impossible to resist doing so? And when do people usually moan during it?...
A. 8 December 2008: Could someone open a window? It's kinda warm in here....... (read in full...)
Is my period normal?
Q. hiiyyaahh ! i am 13 sorry for being so graphic when i am on my period , the blood that comes out is like stringy and sticky is this normal ? thanks x babe xxxxxxxx ...
A. 8 December 2008: Yes, it's normal. And keep in mind that what is coming out of you isn't blood per se, but menstrual fluid, the lining that was prepared on the uterus for that elusive fertilized egg, sloughing off because it wasn't needed. So you're not really ... (read in full...)
I am not the only one who thinks that it is degrading to discuss your sexual experiences with your partner/husband?
Q. Hello everyone! I've got a question for the ladies here: do you tell your partners that you masturbate? What is their attitude? Is this topic off limits? The reason for me asking is oh my gosh here we come - my mother has gone through my thing...
A. 8 December 2008: One more thought for you, don't get into an argument with your mother about this anymore. Just tell her that you've listened to everything she said and can appreciate her point of view. Thank her for being such a concerned parent and then give her a ... (read in full...)
I am not the only one who thinks that it is degrading to discuss your sexual experiences with your partner/husband?
Q. Hello everyone! I've got a question for the ladies here: do you tell your partners that you masturbate? What is their attitude? Is this topic off limits? The reason for me asking is oh my gosh here we come - my mother has gone through my thing...
A. 8 December 2008: Actually, I think you are safe in telling your mother that what you do in your own bedroom (or kitchen, or lounge, or bathroom) is absolutely none of her business. You're an adult, you have made your own choices, thank you very much, they are ... (read in full...)
How do I get over emotional abuse when he blames me for his depression?
Q. I really really need help. I was with my boyfriend for one month when he slipped into a state of depression - for six months. Almost two weeks ago he claimed to have felt like he 'snapped' out of it and I was hesitant to let myself trust tha...
A. 8 December 2008: Oh, honey, he's not depressed, he's abusive. He's blaming you for his own problems and you're letting him do that. What you've described of his behavior is not that of a depressed man, it's one with an anger management problem and what's more, this ... (read in full...)
I need help decoding a man!
Q. Ok.. So theres this boy, he is 22 and i am 19. We have known each other for about 2 yrs now. I need advice, he is soo confusing. We have been on and off for those 2 yrs. He has told me he really likes me and i have told him too. Once we had like 5 ...
A. 8 December 2008: He hasn't grown up yet, and he lacks empathy for you. He simply doesn't realize the impact his behavior is having on you. My guess is also that he hasn't much of a clue what he wants, oher than perhaps some no-strings sex from time to time, so be ... (read in full...)
Why do people moan during sex?
Q. Hi...just a question about sex. Do people involuntary moan during sex? Is the thought of being turned on so much that it's completely impossible to resist doing so? And when do people usually moan during it?...
A. 8 December 2008: Uncle Phil, sometimes I simply can't restrain myself. It's a character flaw. ... (read in full...)
Why do people moan during sex?
Q. Hi...just a question about sex. Do people involuntary moan during sex? Is the thought of being turned on so much that it's completely impossible to resist doing so? And when do people usually moan during it?...
A. 8 December 2008: People make noise during sex usually because things feel powerfully stimulating in a good way. Generally, if someone has "let go", that is, just turned off the rational part of the brain and just feels sensations, and they make noises like moaning, ... (read in full...)
She is extremely depressed, I became emotionally drained due to our problems... HELP.
Q. To whom may have advice, Let me begin with some background information I met my girlfriend (who I have been dating for over four years) in college. The first year was amazing (the first time I ever though about marriage) but after that it was a ...
A. 8 December 2008: I'm happy to hear you're going to talk to members of her family. I think that one of the things that is holding her back is that she hasn't admitted to herself there's a problem. There's this huge stigma attached to anyone who admits they have a ... (read in full...)
Any fans of Harry Potter?
Q. One of the questions that I answered on Dear Cupid just sparked my curiousity. I was wondering if any of the other aunts and uncles are fans of the Harry Potter series? Not everyone is a fan of course, but please humor me, because I'm curious....
A. 8 December 2008: Oh, that reminds me, time to go pluck the hairs off my upper lip.... haahahahhaaaahaha!!!... (read in full...)
Any fans of Harry Potter?
Q. One of the questions that I answered on Dear Cupid just sparked my curiousity. I was wondering if any of the other aunts and uncles are fans of the Harry Potter series? Not everyone is a fan of course, but please humor me, because I'm curious....
A. 8 December 2008: And Bugs, I didn't see your answer before I posted mine!!! Another Dumbledore? I wonder if we need to take the test again, and change answers to check that it has some variability? I mean, who's not going to choose 'loyal' when asked?... (read in full...)
Any fans of Harry Potter?
Q. One of the questions that I answered on Dear Cupid just sparked my curiousity. I was wondering if any of the other aunts and uncles are fans of the Harry Potter series? Not everyone is a fan of course, but please humor me, because I'm curious....
A. 8 December 2008: Hahaha, Oldersister, that's an interesting test too. I got Professor Dumbledore too. He's the head of Hogwarts, the Wizard academy. He may be an old man, but he's got some great powers and he runs the school, after all. I'm not really sure there are ... (read in full...)
Any fans of Harry Potter?
Q. One of the questions that I answered on Dear Cupid just sparked my curiousity. I was wondering if any of the other aunts and uncles are fans of the Harry Potter series? Not everyone is a fan of course, but please humor me, because I'm curious....
A. 8 December 2008: I just went to the official harrypotter.com site and applied for admission to Hogwarts. You can take a very short sorting test. I did it and was put in Ravenclaw.
Here's the link:
http:... (read in full...)
Any fans of Harry Potter?
Q. One of the questions that I answered on Dear Cupid just sparked my curiousity. I was wondering if any of the other aunts and uncles are fans of the Harry Potter series? Not everyone is a fan of course, but please humor me, because I'm curious....
A. 8 December 2008: *Flinging my cape into the Huffenpuff common room* I get the top bunk!!!
Oldersister, I'm a bit jealous that you're in Gryffindor, as it sounds like the coolest one. And can I come over to Ravenclaw, as those two scores were so close? I'd love to h... (read in full...)
She is extremely depressed, I became emotionally drained due to our problems... HELP.
Q. To whom may have advice, Let me begin with some background information I met my girlfriend (who I have been dating for over four years) in college. The first year was amazing (the first time I ever though about marriage) but after that it was a ...
A. 8 December 2008: Wow, you are carrying a huge burden. She needs help, but is expecting you to fix her problems for her. This is not realistic thinking, and you have to realize that she is not processing things from a rational point of view.
No, not all rela... (read in full...)
Any fans of Harry Potter?
Q. One of the questions that I answered on Dear Cupid just sparked my curiousity. I was wondering if any of the other aunts and uncles are fans of the Harry Potter series? Not everyone is a fan of course, but please humor me, because I'm curious....
A. 8 December 2008: I simply couldn't resist this thread, too many fun aunts here. I haven't read the books but does going to the movies count?
I tested as 85 Hufflepuff and second at 83 is Ravenclaw. I like the sound of all of them, well maybe not Slytherin, too much... (read in full...)
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