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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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I'm really confused what to do, but I want to start over
Q. I am in a state of confusion, the story is long and very complex but for this purpose I will try to keep it short. Last November my boyfriend and I had been together 5 years when I discovered he had had a one night stand, I was alerted to it and ...
A. 5 January 2009: I would have to agree with rhythmandblues on this one. There are several issues that need to be teased out and examined and as she said, you are too close to it to be able to do this without some help.
The alcohol use (abuse) is a red flag. The chea... (read in full...)
Can I still get pregnant?
Q. ok here is my problem well i had unprotected sex about two weeks ago so i got my period 5 days late i thou i was pregnet but i got my period.......but the day before i got it i had sex agian and he came inside can i still get pregnet???????????????...
A. 5 January 2009: Yes, you can get pregnant when you have unprotected sex. All the fiddling around with the dates doesn't really mean that much. Sperm survive for quite a while inside a woman's vagina. Apparently, there's even a place for them to wait before heading ... (read in full...)
Female curious about animal sex
Q. my friend has a male dog he's about 3 yrs old. she's been curious about having sex with animals is it ever sinces she was 9. is it alright for her to do it with out getting Any Std's? ...
A. 5 January 2009: I've found a website where your friend can pose this question:
http://www.spca.com/
I think you've probably had all the answers you're going to get here. In my opinion, it is animal abuse.
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I'm doing a senior project about advice... Any help would be appreciated.
Q. Hey I'm Hillary, I'm on here because I'm doing a senior project about advice and I heard of this site from a friend and thought that it would be a good idea to get me started. I'm trying to help people out and get their feedback to write my paper. ...
A. 5 January 2009: Interesting project! The type of advice asked for most often? I don't know if this is scientific enough for your purposes, but the moderators 'tag' each question with categories. If you look at the right hand column on the main page, you'll see a ... (read in full...)
Need help to get over him, I don't want my daughter to witness us always fighting!
Q. I desperately need help trying to get over someone I love dearly. I oftentimes question myself as to why I even still love him after all the hurt and pain that he has caused me. I have been with him for 4 years. We have a beautiful daughter who is 1 ...
A. 28 December 2008: You know, your daughter will still have both her parents. They just won't be living together, and that will be healthier for you and her in the long run. He's obviously a slow learner, as he's brought home an STD not just once, but twice. And he ... (read in full...)
Do you think he respects me? Should I send the topless photo?
Q. My boyfriend said that if i dont send him a braless picture from ma neck to waist he wont go on o2 unlimited on his mobile so he can text me as many times as he wants. I said no and he said so everything you said you will do with me i.e. pleasure n ...
A. 28 December 2008: He's lost the prive\ilege of having you as a girlfriend as far as I'm concerned. He may be a charming guy on the surface but he's a user and will only wind up asking for more and more and more until finally you'll be feeling awful about the whole ... (read in full...)
Should I alert him to what his girlfriend is doing (prostituting)?
Q. My ex and I broke up over 2.5 years ago. I got over him pretty quickly and am now happily married. The problem is, his "new" girlfriend is an insecure piece of trash and has been cyber stalking me for the past two years. She would send me hateful ...
A. 28 December 2008: Yuck, she sounds awful. You know, while it sounds really tempting to let him know about her revenue-enhancing activites *ahem*, I think it will only lead to further involvement with her and him. If he couldn't keep your confidential information ... (read in full...)
Can women and men just be friends?
Q. does anyone think men and women can just be friends?...
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How to pleasure a girl without having sex?
Q. Whats the best way to give a girl pleasure WITHOUT having sex?...
A. 24 December 2008: Oh, I know about Monica and the blue dress. But he didn't have to step down as president. ... (read in full...)
How to pleasure a girl without having sex?
Q. Whats the best way to give a girl pleasure WITHOUT having sex?...
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Hope you didn't bet it all in Jeopardy, because you'd be going home empty handed! ;D... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to not like Christmas?
Q. I am a Catholic but I do not like Christmas. Christmas for me is way too stressful. I hate shopping espeically during the holidays but I still have to buy presents for people. Parking, the crowds and everthing else. Than there is the cooking o...
A. 23 December 2008: It's not Christmas you dislike; it's all the other stuff in the season. The food preparation, the shopping and the gift giving don't really have anything to do with the original meaning of Christmas. (Well, maybe the wise men brought gifts so.... ... (read in full...)
Will my sister get over what happened at her wedding?
Q. I went to my sister’s (who’s very controlling and stubborn) wedding and my girlfriend join me as well. Even though my sister and gf don’t get along that well. Everyone kept saying my gf is going up stage the bride and her dress left a little ...
A. 23 December 2008: You couldn't manage to be on time for one of the most important days in your sister's life? I'd be pretty torqued with you too. I'd probably eventually forgive you, but can no one in this family show some class? And your girlfriend's manners leave a ... (read in full...)
Men: the ideal body size for a woman?
Q. Just was wondering do men really like woman that are skinny or do they like woman with some meat on there bones? Whats the ideal body size of a woman that men think is sexy....
A. 23 December 2008: I expect that the ideal body size is all in the eye of the beholder, so every man will have a different ideal. Some like tall, some short, some like fuller figures, some like slimmer, some like muscles, some like slender.
As long as your body is h... (read in full...)
What would guys rather have--babe or library type girl?
Q. are guys attracted to nice ,quiet ,shy ,innocent ,genuine ,safe,plain looking girls? would guys find girls like this boring because i am like this i am passed over for the babes who are loud,dress sexy and who are party girls. i want...
A. 23 December 2008: Why are you overlooking the "nice ,quiet ,shy ,innocent ,genuine ,safe, plain looking guys?" They're out there too, only they don't get noticed because of the "cute,tall,sporty,competitve,cheeky,forward,spiteful,over confident,full of the ... (read in full...)
How to pleasure a girl without having sex?
Q. Whats the best way to give a girl pleasure WITHOUT having sex?...
A. 22 December 2008: JohnDoe, then you've missed our point here. We knew what he was asking, but he was answered by what we women find pleasurable... work it out! ;)... (read in full...)
He said he has to 'hook up' with another girl in order to be with me? Is he right?
Q. okay i am in desperate need of help. I fell madly in love with my current boyfriend almost two years ago in high school. we first became friends, and on my birthday he asked to be his girlfriend. i was the happiest girl alive for months, it was ...
A. 22 December 2008: He's a mess. Don't let him turn YOU into a mess too. No man is worth being treated like this. Once you realize this, you'll be fine. Remember, his bad side is probably more important to learn about than his good side. Living with someone's good side ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my brother's horrid girlfriend?
Q. I think my brothers girlfriend is horrid to him. they were together for 5 months when she came to live with us in my mum n dads house, and id just had my baby at the time. she didnt have a job or any income, and didnt pay board to my mum, but she ...
A. 22 December 2008: Eeek, what an awful situation to be in. Is there any possiblity that you can move out on your own? If not, try to do the cleaning outside their door, using the vacuum cleaner, first thing at about 7 AM, every morning. If she gets satisfaction from ... (read in full...)
Sleepover party in big hall!
Q. A massive group of my friends may be having a big sleepover/party in a big hall, the guy I really like is going, what can I do to make sure he likes me, rather than this bitch that always hangs around him. I used to be best friends with her but she ...
A. 22 December 2008: You can only be yourself. If he likes you for that, well and good. If he doesn't, his loss. If you try to make her look bad, well, those things have a way of backfiring. Just be serene and try not to talk about her at all. Horrible people generally ... (read in full...)
My husband wont give up either his mistress or me
Q. My husband and I got married at an early age. We have 5 siblings. My husband is a good provider the only problem with him is he has another woman with kid already. I;m trying to talk to him to settle his problem. I asked him too choose whether I or ...
A. 22 December 2008: If the siblings you refer to are your and his children, then he is financially responsible for them. I do not know anything about separation or divorce in the Phillippines, so my suggestion is that you contact a lawyer so that you understand your ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to tempt the friendship...
Q. i have a bisexual guy best friend. he says im amazing but doesnt want to tempt the friendship..even tho he used to have a massive crush on me he sends me mixed signals..for example on friday we went for lunch then out that night ..he came ove...
A. 22 December 2008: He sounds very confused and it would probably be better just to keep him as a friend for now, as he sounds like he'd treat you like a yo-yo if you were his girlfriend. He can still be a special person to you, even if you aren't dating. And try to be ... (read in full...)
Why is it so unfair? Why do I get treated so badly?
Q. does any thinks this is unfair?? guys reject me and hate me all the time.The guys who reject me always find a NEW girlfriend and NEW JOB even if a few months! but me i get nothing only yet another broken and cold rejection and only good things...
A. 22 December 2008: I'm guessing you don't like the advice you're getting here, that's why you don't respond other than rehashing the same thought over and over again. When you can get yourself out of that rut, reread what we've written and have a good think about it. ... (read in full...)
How to pleasure a girl without having sex?
Q. Whats the best way to give a girl pleasure WITHOUT having sex?...
A. 22 December 2008: Some massage oil and an ice bucket.... (read in full...)
Hang in there or let her go?
Q. I am in love. I once told her I liked her but it was not reciprical. Its now been a while since then, and we are now getting to know each other little by little. Though it is taking a while, only few months at a time that I get to see her. She knows ...
A. 22 December 2008: It's a lovely emotion, love, and wonderful when it's reciprocated but so hurtful when it's not. I think you should just continue to be her friend but let her approach you most of the time. Also, I think you should try to spend less time with her and ... (read in full...)
She's saying random, mean things to me...
Q. There is a Korean girl I have liked for three years. she didn't want to be my friend at first because her friends didn't like me out of gossip, but somehow me and this girl became best friends she doesn't like me enough to be my girl friend, she was ...
A. 22 December 2008: You've done what you can now, all you can do is let her go be by herself and give her a chance to miss you. Something may have happened at home that upset her, and do not let go of the fact that there are cultural differences between you two. Some ... (read in full...)
How do I stop my friend from loving this guy?
Q. one of my best friends recently told me that she is falling in love with a yr 13 guy at our school. she wants to tell him but she thinks he sorta knows already. their in the same house. the problem is she cant tell many people because there is this ...
A. 22 December 2008: Some people have to learn things the hard way. It sounds like your friend might be one of them. Let her make her mistakes, be there to hand her Kleenex when it all blows up and try to refrain from saying "I told you so." But you do get to say it ... (read in full...)
How to pleasure a girl without having sex?
Q. Whats the best way to give a girl pleasure WITHOUT having sex?...
A. 22 December 2008: Oooh oooh, I've got another one!
Tell her she looks beautiful even with no makeup on.... (read in full...)
How to pleasure a girl without having sex?
Q. Whats the best way to give a girl pleasure WITHOUT having sex?...
A. 22 December 2008: A box of fine chocolates, a foot rub and you do the dishes.... (read in full...)
He said he has to 'hook up' with another girl in order to be with me? Is he right?
Q. okay i am in desperate need of help. I fell madly in love with my current boyfriend almost two years ago in high school. we first became friends, and on my birthday he asked to be his girlfriend. i was the happiest girl alive for months, it was ...
A. 22 December 2008: There are many posts here from men who are haunted by their girlfriends' or wives' pasts. I think it is a very difficult emotion to deal with and causes a lot of problems in the relationship. What seems off to me is his insistence that hooking up ... (read in full...)
Where did I go wrong and why do I feel regret?
Q. Anybody, somebody, please provide your input for my situation. I feel stupid, but I need sincere words from someone to tell me where I did wrong or if I am doing the right thing. I met this guy over a chat room, who I felt deeply emotionally. We'...
A. 22 December 2008: Wow, you're going through a very difficult time. I know you already feel awful about what's happened and I don't want to pile any more hurt onto you.
So I'll try to sum up. You got involved with a man who was still married and who had other wome... (read in full...)
Why is it so unfair? Why do I get treated so badly?
Q. does any thinks this is unfair?? guys reject me and hate me all the time.The guys who reject me always find a NEW girlfriend and NEW JOB even if a few months! but me i get nothing only yet another broken and cold rejection and only good things...
A. 22 December 2008: Accept that he's a jerk, and not the one for you. We all kiss a few frogs before finding a decent guy. What I would encourage you to do is let go of this anger toward him. It is poisoning you for other relationships. You are not growing as a person ... (read in full...)
In love with best friend what to do?
Q. Lemme give you the the back story (cause I needs to purge it): I've been friends with W for about 3 years now. The sexual tension between us has always been heavy, but he is masterful at giving mixed signals (not to mention a man whore) so I never ...
A. 22 December 2008: Yikes, there is already a lot of drama in this relationship. It sounds like he's moved on, at least he seems to have found a girlfriend, right? And I expect you're a little angry with yourself for losing control of the situation.
I don't know, this... (read in full...)
He ignores me and makes me unhappy
Q. i am dating this guy. he said he is too busy with work to have time for a serious relationship. anytime i visit him, he doesnt write or call to know if i got home okay. not only that he doesnt write at all for 3weeks. after the 3 weeks i write him ...
A. 22 December 2008: If you are pregnant, you do need to tell him, as he is responsible for the child as well as you. If you are not pregnant but want to scare him, please do not do this.
Have you seen a doctor and taken a pregnancy test to confirm that you are preg... (read in full...)
How can I figure out if he's straight?
Q. to make things clear, i am a bisexual thirteen year old. i like a guy, but he likes my ex girlfriend. i completely hate my ex. (i told her that im bi, and made her promise not to tell, and only a few people know it. and she did. she told ALOT of...
A. 22 December 2008: It's always tricky to try to date someone who has dated your ex, no matter what gender all the parties are. I think you should just lie low for now, and give yourself some time to observe people. Eventually, you'll figure out if he's straight or ... (read in full...)
He told he dad we have sex and now the dad doesn't like me so much
Q. A few weeks ago me and my boyfriend had sex for the first time (We were both virgins btw). when my period was due, it didn't come and I thought a was pregnant because I also had a few other symptoms. It was a silly thought because we used a condom ...
A. 22 December 2008: When you say that they can totally trust you from now on, what exactly do you mean?
You recognize correctly that they are disappointed and angry, and it's directed at you and your boyfriend, and also at themselves, because they now think that they... (read in full...)
Why are some girls treated like jerks and others like queens?
Q. why do some guys treated some girls like dirt and others like queens? What's the difference? why do they hurt some girls feelings and not others. boys sensible answers no jerk like remarks needed!...
A. 22 December 2008: Some girls do not allow themselves to be treated poorly, so boys cannot hurt them. This means that they seem to be treated as if they were queens. They can tell if a boy is a jerk or untrustworthy or immature or lacks character, so they do not let ... (read in full...)
I just really need to talk to my ex from 15 years ago.
Q. I have a 5 kids and recently split with husband. My ex is from 15 years ago. We were engaged etc. I left him not because I didn't love him or he love me that's for sure. It was because of a bad habit he had that I thought me leaving him might make ...
A. 22 December 2008: I think we're probably all misunderstanding each other. You want suggestions on how to contact him without blowing up his marriage. We are suggesting to you to not do that, to instead figure out why you feel this compelling need to know how he is ... (read in full...)
Confused - Pregnant wife, in love with another?
Q. My wife is pregnant after many years of trying (together over 10 years). We have not been getting on for some time, but tried to work through the issues and kept trying to get pregnant.... This year one of my close female friends and I admitted our ...
A. 22 December 2008: Thank you for your followup. My default position, barring other information, is to try to help people save the marriage. There are times when this simply is not possible, and I acknowledge that.
I have few more questions. What issues are you and ... (read in full...)
I can't be intimate with my boyfriend
Q. Why do I feel like this? I've been with my boyfriend a couple of months. I recently went to the doctor who said I was seriously stressed out (about various issues in my life) and has referred me for counseling. I'm not eating, sleeping, and feel...
A. 22 December 2008: If this guy is going to dump you completely because you need some help with your mental state from counseling, he's kind of a shallow person.
So do as Ginalolabridga suggests, and give counseling a chance. Tell him that you are suffering from depr... (read in full...)
A letter to my ex: your thoughts?
Q. For background please see: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-is-my-exgirlfriends-intentions-here.html I'd appreciate your thoughts on this letter. (Sorry for the length). J, I have been thinking about how I feel of late, and there is ...
A. 22 December 2008: That looks good to me. You've managed to explain your side of things nicely, and you don't give her much room to force friendship on you.
Sorry about your first love. It hurts like hell right now, but 20 years from now, you'll only feel some warm... (read in full...)
He's nice and all, but I am just not all that into him.
Q. Okay, first of all i'll point out that I KNOW i've done something stupid, just so nobody else has to point it out. At the beginning of last year I started seeing a guy I really liked. It went on for 8 months, a few bumps along the way. We decided ...
A. 22 December 2008: Oh, forgot to tell you, you're not the first person to be in this situation, lots of people have rebound relationships, so don't beat yourself up too much about having put yourself there.
Now you just have to extract yourself with as much grace and ... (read in full...)
He's nice and all, but I am just not all that into him.
Q. Okay, first of all i'll point out that I KNOW i've done something stupid, just so nobody else has to point it out. At the beginning of last year I started seeing a guy I really liked. It went on for 8 months, a few bumps along the way. We decided ...
A. 22 December 2008: You're going to upset him sooner or later. It might as well be sooner, because if you carry on like this, he's going to work it out for himself. You can't fake feelings like these for very long.
Tell him that you think he's a great guy, but you don'... (read in full...)
I just really need to talk to my ex from 15 years ago.
Q. I have a 5 kids and recently split with husband. My ex is from 15 years ago. We were engaged etc. I left him not because I didn't love him or he love me that's for sure. It was because of a bad habit he had that I thought me leaving him might make ...
A. 22 December 2008: It must have been one hell of a bad habit for you to leave him and marry another man, if there was so much love between you.
Look, you AND he have made your own lives now, for better or for worse. I understand he may have been a suitable life part... (read in full...)
Confused - Pregnant wife, in love with another?
Q. My wife is pregnant after many years of trying (together over 10 years). We have not been getting on for some time, but tried to work through the issues and kept trying to get pregnant.... This year one of my close female friends and I admitted our ...
A. 22 December 2008: How were you trying to work through the issues? On your own, or with some professional help? And who was it that wanted to have a child? Both of you, or was one person driving that decision?
Look, by fathering a child, you essentially made a comm... (read in full...)
Why is it so unfair? Why do I get treated so badly?
Q. does any thinks this is unfair?? guys reject me and hate me all the time.The guys who reject me always find a NEW girlfriend and NEW JOB even if a few months! but me i get nothing only yet another broken and cold rejection and only good things...
A. 22 December 2008: You do realize that the only one who can help you move on is YOU? He has nothing to do with this now; it's been two years and he's gotten on with things.
You are obsessing over him and his treatment of you because you don't really want to face thin... (read in full...)
A letter to my ex: your thoughts?
Q. For background please see: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-is-my-exgirlfriends-intentions-here.html I'd appreciate your thoughts on this letter. (Sorry for the length). J, I have been thinking about how I feel of late, and there is ...
A. 22 December 2008: I like your letter. I had to read it a couple of times, as I'm sure she would do, in order to fully grasp what you were trying to say. But I think you wrote it very well.
I have one change I'd like to make to your first paragraph:
"I have been thi... (read in full...)
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added them and they have added *isha-1!
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