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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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I think I've had it with him--am I being unreasonable?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 years has recently decided to work away. He has accepted a permanent job miles away for 5 years. Ever since we first met I made it clear to him that I would not like to be in a relationship where my boyfriend worked away. Up until ...
A. 8 January 2009: This relationship sounds troubled at its core. Have you two ever sat down and worked through the finances together? How do you two communicate otherwise?
Have you stayed with him for your child's sake? Sorry for all the questions but I'm trying to f... (read in full...)
Half of me wants him back and half of me wants to just stay friends, what's wrong with me??
Q. Yesterday down are local my friend said to my ex bf that why dont we get bk together, he replyed saying we get on better as friends but half of me wants him bk and the other wants a friendship, he nows how i feel about him, but then he replyed with ...
A. 7 January 2009: You're getting over a breakup and rejection feels crappy. Lots of people go through this, so you're not alone. Just keep telling yourself that he just wasn't the right guy for you, and remember all the bad bits about the relationship. At least he ... (read in full...)
Does he like me? He's passing by my class to see me...
Q. Hi I really want to know whether this guy likes me. Well this guy began to flirt with me. Staring, smiling. Coming close. Always a smile on his face whenever he would see me. I could notice all these things from my side vision. He would pass b...
A. 7 January 2009: Try to talk to him again, if you can. Be upbeat and cordial. If he doesn't talk to you, or continues to ignore you, just accept that he's not interested. It happens. It's not nice, it doesn't feel good, but it happens.
You could say something like... (read in full...)
How to pop the question about living together?
Q. my girlfriend and I have had a whirlwind relationship! we have fallen in love and everything is great I want to know how I can go about asking her about living together?...
A. 7 January 2009: Honey, if you have to ask strangers how to ask her, it's too early to ask.... sorry, just my opinion. When you get to know each other really well, then you'll know. I think that will be your signal that it's time.
Good luck with the romance!!!... (read in full...)
The World of Hanging Out and Hooking Up
Q. “Women need a reason to have sex. Men just need a place.” Billy Crystal, When Harry Met Sally You. You are smart, you are independent, you are strong. You make your own choices about what you do with your body. When you like a guy...
A. 7 January 2009: Thank you for that thoughtful analysis, Yos. I rather felt the same way, but I couldn't put it as well as you did. I also didn't want to be labeled sexist. ;)
And the article is really eye-opening as well. One statistic that leapt out at me was the ... (read in full...)
The World of Hanging Out and Hooking Up
Q. “Women need a reason to have sex. Men just need a place.” Billy Crystal, When Harry Met Sally You. You are smart, you are independent, you are strong. You make your own choices about what you do with your body. When you like a guy...
A. 7 January 2009: Interesting point that Yos made about the sexual psychology. Yos, does the education also extend to the 'player'/'lover-boy' types, as in, try to keep them from hurting other people? I'm just curious about that. Is there a website perhaps that you ... (read in full...)
Does it sound like he genuinely likes me?
Q. Last week I stayed round my friends in San Fransisco (3 hours away from me) who I had met off the internet 3 years ago, and have always been really flirty and sweet with eachother (we have met up 4 times before) but he's had 2 girlfriends in this ...
A. 7 January 2009: I'm sorry it's taken so long for your question to be answered. Sometimes there are so many in at the same time, they get overlooked.
So, what do I think? I do think it sounds like he likes you. He also sounds like a very tactile guy who likes phys... (read in full...)
I like guy who doesn't talk to me anymore
Q. im 14 and there is this guy who i have known for ages,we have been out before but i dumped him because i over reacted about something, but halloween 2007 i fell out with another friend and now neither of them are talking to me but i want to make ...
A. 7 January 2009: Okay, this is a little hard to understand, so maybe that's why you haven't had any answers. If you write in complete sentences it helps a lot.
You need to talk to them, one-on-one, calmly and with a spirit of reconciliation. I would not push to go o... (read in full...)
Worried about gaining her trust back
Q. hi, i've asked three questions on here already about phone sex. i told my girlfriend and she is goin to stay with me. but i'm worried about gaining her trust back and her families trust too. but i saw on her profile on facebook one of her friends ...
A. 7 January 2009: Sorry this is so late, I see 3 days have passed and I hope you're feeling better now. Sometimes people do things without thinking about the consequences, as you have so painfully discovered.
She is upset with you because you had phone sex with some... (read in full...)
I heard precum doesn't contain sperm-true?
Q. A few days ago my boyfriend and I had sex using the withdrawal method. The next day i took the emergency pill known as Postinor 2. Then on the next night, we both had sex unprotected just for a while, and then got a condom. I'm worried if i could be ...
A. 7 January 2009: Go look at these websites for some information on birth control:
www.plannedparenthood.org
www.webmd.com (type in birth control in the search box)
Watch this video for some information on how pregnancy happens:
http://websrv... (read in full...)
Why has he changed so much?
Q. My ex boyfriend is totally confusing me. When we were dating we had sex and I told him he got a little in me so don't be surprised if I'm pregnant and I told him I found out I was and he thought I was lying so my best friend called him and told him ...
A. 6 January 2009: I would steer clear of him from now on. Whatever is going on in his head, he sounds like an extremely immature young boy and I doubt there's any point in trying to talk to him. I would make sure your parents knew about what he's said about you, so ... (read in full...)
Misunderstood...
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend needs some money for an internet connection, while he is overseas. He tell's me, that since we are in a relationship, that we should be there for each other. Yes, I understand that... but he thinks being there for each oth...
A. 6 January 2009: Here's a website that might be able to help you determine if you are the victim of a scammer: http://www.scamwarners.com/
Please stay safe!... (read in full...)
How can I tell him I'm not interested without being rude?
Q. Firstly i am 29 yrs old.I have been talking to a guy online who is widowed and has a younge child, we have been chatting for about 2 weeks now. He wants to meet up and keeps telling me how much he thinks of me and im just not interested. How do i ...
A. 6 January 2009: Don't be afraid to be rude. Being firm and consistent should get the point across. If it doesn't, then listen to your intuition which is telling you to be scared. Do not feel guilty if you think you are offending him. Why do I say that? Because he's ... (read in full...)
I cry most of the time his indecisiveness is driving me insane.
Q. Please help me end it for good.... I need some emotional support. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 1/2 years. I'm 44 He's 47... I have broken up with him before only to take him back after he begs and makes promises he cannot seem to keep. I have ...
A. 6 January 2009: What do you think you'll be able to handle? I think face to face can be more 'honorable' but only if you think you can manage it. If you think it's better to write it down, then do so. I'm not sure about the email though. Just keep in mind that ... (read in full...)
People's sex education knowledge is horrifying! Why don't people know the basics???
Q. This isn't really a question, it's just something that has shocked me and I would like to hear other people's views. Basically I can't get over the amount of people who don't know about the basics of sex. For instance people who think they can get ...
A. 6 January 2009: I agree that 5 is too young to be talking about explicit sexual details. But it is not too young to be taught what all your body parts are called, their proper names, and certainly not any inappropriate slang terms. It is an age where the child ... (read in full...)
How much does a guy plan to spend on a girl on the first date?
Q. Honestly, I want a guy's opinion on this one! How much does a guy plan to spend on a girl on the first date? And how fancy of a place or settle for a quick bite to eat and not let her super size?!? LOL. Say you both met online (dating site) an...
A. 6 January 2009: Well, it's been a loooooong time since I was single. But a first date? He asked me out? I'd expect somewhere between MacDonalds and a Michelin 3 star. Somewhere not too fancy, but good, maybe some interesting ethnic food? Definitely no fast food ... (read in full...)
What do I do about this guy (he's coming over in 5 minutes!!)? Need your help, quick!
Q. Hey. I'm a common 18 year old girl that has been plunged into the depths of lovesickness! I'm in desperate need of love advice - so please help me if you can! Here's my question... Ever since I was 7, I've really REALLY ...
A. 6 January 2009: Oh, there have been one or two posts by students who were trying to have their homework done for them by the aunts. That's all. I'm not suggesting it's a novel you're writing.
Did you follow up on your previous post?... (read in full...)
What do I do about this guy (he's coming over in 5 minutes!!)? Need your help, quick!
Q. Hey. I'm a common 18 year old girl that has been plunged into the depths of lovesickness! I'm in desperate need of love advice - so please help me if you can! Here's my question... Ever since I was 7, I've really REALLY ...
A. 6 January 2009: If you are a girl… Ø Can you understand what I have done? Would you have done the same?
No. And no.
Ø Do you think Matt still has feelings towards me?
I would expect he's feeling indifferent about you, as he has a girlfriend.
Ø Is what I felt l... (read in full...)
Family movement crisis
Q. im 13 and i moved form a neworleans to bradleyville a microscopis town and i was very much loved in new orleans and since i moved to bradleyville everyone hates me including my mum and sister who are with me but my mom and dad are divorced and i was ...
A. 6 January 2009: I think moving is very hard on anybody and if you had to move all of a sudden, then you didn't have any time to prepare for it. It is very stressful, on you, on your mom, your sister, everybody.
You sound very resentful of the move, and is it poss... (read in full...)
Trouble wearing a condom
Q. Every time i try to wear a condom, i have a hard time with the skin that cover my penis. its the second time i try to wear a condom, the skin wont go the whole way down, which i guess is alright, but when the condom gets to the edge - where the...
A. 6 January 2009: I'm not sure I'm understanding your question, but here's a website I found for you. It has a simple description of the right way to put a condom on, including the uncircumsized version. Hope it helps!
h... (read in full...)
What do I do about this guy (he's coming over in 5 minutes!!)? Need your help, quick!
Q. Hey. I'm a common 18 year old girl that has been plunged into the depths of lovesickness! I'm in desperate need of love advice - so please help me if you can! Here's my question... Ever since I was 7, I've really REALLY ...
A. 6 January 2009: Wow, an 18 year old barrister? Doesn't that take years of study and then exams and licensing?
But didn't you ask this exact same question yesterday?
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-really-need-help-with-this-urgently-before.html
What did ... (read in full...)
If you start taking viagra when you're young will your body become dependant on using it?
Q. If you start taking viagra when you're young will your body become dependant on using it and will the dosage need to increase? ie. will your body become immune to it?...
A. 6 January 2009: I believe Viagra is used as a treatment for erectile dysfunction. There are contraindications to its use, and you have to talk with your doctor about its use for your particular situation. Some medical conditions rule out the use of Viagra, due to ... (read in full...)
Meant to be alone forever...
Q. Are some people meant to be alone and unloved like me? I really do feel the old maid vibe. I have never had boyfriend not even for a week and I never been kissed either. Girls my age are married. Guys can get married to girls even if he knows ...
A. 6 January 2009: I think people who believe they are meant to be alone and unloved will be just that.
I look over at my guy from time to time, and wonder how I wound up with such a generous, caring and basically great guy. I think it was because I try to be thos... (read in full...)
Misunderstood...
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend needs some money for an internet connection, while he is overseas. He tell's me, that since we are in a relationship, that we should be there for each other. Yes, I understand that... but he thinks being there for each oth...
A. 6 January 2009: I think he's manipulating you, actually. He's using childish logic to press home a point. Frankly, it's not worth arguing about. You're not going to give him money for an internet connection. If he is so financially strapped that he cannot afford ... (read in full...)
Why has he changed so much?
Q. My ex boyfriend is totally confusing me. When we were dating we had sex and I told him he got a little in me so don't be surprised if I'm pregnant and I told him I found out I was and he thought I was lying so my best friend called him and told him ...
A. 6 January 2009: Are you pregnant?... (read in full...)
Arguments about anal!
Q. My fiance is always getting sexually frustrated with me and it is always about the same thing -- him wanting to perform anal sex on me!!! I'm not down with that. We've kind of tried before. Last night, we had a slight argument about it. Of course I ...
A. 6 January 2009: Oh honey, this guy is a loser. Sorry, but he is. If you choose to stay with him, you're going to face a lifetime of pressure, and emotional blackmail, and worry about him, because he's already showing his true colors now. His M.O. of ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for her to call me or call her later on and she how she is doing?
Q. Last night my girlfriend got really upset with about something she messed up. Everything prior to the incident was going well. She spazzed out about the whole situation. Once again it has nothing to do with me. (she locked her iphone, and has to pay ...
A. 6 January 2009: I have found that the best advice in this type of situation is to back away from the person and give them time to get over their anger at themselves. If you put yourself in their path, and they are immature, you risk having them take it out on you, ... (read in full...)
Are there certain questions you can ask to see if I guy is true?
Q. Are there certain things you can ask a guy, to test if hes being true and honest and not putting on some fake act? I'm 19 years old, and have had two boyfriends, both who made me believe they were these nice, caring, respectful guys, but in the end,...
A. 6 January 2009: I have one suggestion for you to 'test' the relationship: go traveling together. You'll see how each of you handle new situations and new people and how you cope with the stress together as a unit and as individuals. I've found traveling with ... (read in full...)
I now want out of the relationship. How do I do it?
Q. Started seeing a guy at uni a while back and we're now dating and basically I now want out of the relationship. What happened is this. We got to know each other and maybe rushed in to things a bit quickly. We slept together. That was fine. ...
A. 6 January 2009: Hi, you should indeed be focusing on school now. If you know he is not the one for you now, it would be a nice thing to let him go gently, so he can find that girl who is the one for him.
Just tell him a version of what you've already told us. John... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 6 months just cheated on me on New Years Eve.
Q. My boyfriend of 6 months just cheated on me on New Years Eve. He was out of town for work. The week prior we spent Christmas together with my family and his. The thing is his family is still coming to terms with the fact that he's gay. It was a big ...
A. 6 January 2009: Is he only just out? I mean, has he dated other people?
I have this theory that gay men who come out in their 20s go through a second adolescence, if you will, where they behave like teenagers and basically run through all the bad behavior that most... (read in full...)
Why all the mixed messages from him?
Q. Here is my problem... Colleagues and friends with a Virgoan man for 3 years (him 39 and me 42), occasional mild flirting from him but nothing more since both in relationships. Both our relationships ended (at different times) and friendsh...
A. 6 January 2009: Oh, I hate those relationships that could have been so good, but one party backs out with a lack of grace. Sounds to me that while he likes you, he doesn't luuuuuvvvvv you. It seems that he tried to, but it just didn't click for him. It's ... (read in full...)
I just found out he has feelings for another GUY!!! I'm in shock!
Q. I feel weird posting something on here, but I really don't know what else to do. I had been in an amazing and strong relationship. He is my best friend and knows me better than anyone. It's hard to explain how close we are, or were. I'm a senior ...
A. 6 January 2009: How awful for you to find out that the guy you have feelings for has had feelings for another person, and that person happens to be male! I'm sure it's very confusing and unsettling. Just when you thought things were fine, this has come along to ... (read in full...)
Can I ever trust my wife again or is she just using me?
Q. dear cupid. This is difficult for me to talk about. For the last 3-4 years my wife became very distant and independant. She was also quite secretive about how much she earned or where she was going. Basically I could never take an interest in her....
A. 6 January 2009: She has not resolved her feelings and her actions are showing this, in my opinion. You sound very conflicted also, you love her but are furious with her at the same time. You called her 'stupid woman' in the post. She resents you but needs your ... (read in full...)
I cry most of the time his indecisiveness is driving me insane.
Q. Please help me end it for good.... I need some emotional support. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 1/2 years. I'm 44 He's 47... I have broken up with him before only to take him back after he begs and makes promises he cannot seem to keep. I have ...
A. 6 January 2009: I know it must hurt after 7 years. How could it not? So you can guess how you're going to feel, so get ready for it. Don't dread it, prepare for it, does that make sense? Take back your control. Someone gave me that advice once when I was having ... (read in full...)
People's sex education knowledge is horrifying! Why don't people know the basics???
Q. This isn't really a question, it's just something that has shocked me and I would like to hear other people's views. Basically I can't get over the amount of people who don't know about the basics of sex. For instance people who think they can get ...
A. 6 January 2009: Interesting question, or is it a non-question really? ;)
I too find it very worrying that there does seem to be a general lack of knowledge out there, but do keep in mind that this is a site where people come with problems. It's probably not idea... (read in full...)
I cry most of the time his indecisiveness is driving me insane.
Q. Please help me end it for good.... I need some emotional support. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 1/2 years. I'm 44 He's 47... I have broken up with him before only to take him back after he begs and makes promises he cannot seem to keep. I have ...
A. 6 January 2009: Okay, you do need emotional support!So I'm sending you some mental courage and a whole new outlook on things. I'm encouraging you to grow a relationship spine. This is the part of the body that you're missing now, and it's the lack of it that has ... (read in full...)
I've really blown it this time! Now he knows I'm not as cool as I pretend!
Q. Oh holy cr*p I'm an idiot. Been broken up with the ex for nearly two months (his choice). He wanted me back after a week, but I said we'll wait and see after he comes back from his month and a half trip to Europe. Ok so I'd been doing really well. ...
A. 5 January 2009: It's just a blip. Pretend it didn't happen, carry on as you have been. One little text isn't going to change the actual work you've been doing and the way you've been spending your time. Stay cool and collected from now on, and don't fret about ... (read in full...)
I want to get pregnant and cant!
Q. ok yes i do want to get pregnet and i had unprotected sex all the time i been with my man for 2 years and we never get pregnet i wanna know y i cant get pregnet???????????i had sex just before i got my period can i still get pregnet??????????????...
A. 5 January 2009: This is one for the doctor. If you don't have one, which you should seeing you are sexually active, then get a referral through plannedparenthood.org or your HMO or PPO. A bunch of strangers on the internet cannot give you medical diagnoses.
G... (read in full...)
I don't know how to cope with this
Q. I thought I'd like to update you on my husband and dad situation: (original situation - http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-husband-spends-far-too-much-time-with.html) I don't believe they went for 6 weeks, as I know that what people say and...
A. 5 January 2009: Sorry to be so American about this, but the first stop for me would be the attorney. I would find out what steps I needed to take to protect myself and my children in the event that this is a permanent separation.
Then I would speak with the scho... (read in full...)
Do I take the morning after pill?
Q. i did the stupidest most irresponsible thing ever and messed around with my ex/almost boyfriend again. we are taking some time apart before getting back together so that we dont mess things up the second time around. we hung out today and things got ...
A. 5 January 2009: I think the best one to ask here is a medical professional. Your doctor, and you should have one if you are sexually active, is the go-to person for this.
Don't have a doctor? Find a clinic near you using plannedparenthood.org, or use your medi... (read in full...)
I'm really confused what to do, but I want to start over
Q. I am in a state of confusion, the story is long and very complex but for this purpose I will try to keep it short. Last November my boyfriend and I had been together 5 years when I discovered he had had a one night stand, I was alerted to it and ...
A. 5 January 2009: I would have to agree with rhythmandblues on this one. There are several issues that need to be teased out and examined and as she said, you are too close to it to be able to do this without some help.
The alcohol use (abuse) is a red flag. The chea... (read in full...)
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