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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Sex and your virginity.
Q. Hello, I want to ask... that if a women has a sexual relationship for the first time and she does not bleed, does that means that she WASN'T a virgin to begin with???...
A. 15 January 2009: No, it just means her hymen didn't tear, either because it was already ruptured due to physical activity or because it wasn't large to begin with.
Not all women bleed their first time.
Take care.... (read in full...)
He shagged like a porn star in his affair!
Q. My husband and I have been married for 14 years, with 2 kids. He is 40 I am 37. For a long time (possibly always) our love life has not been right. He is very highly sexed, and would want to make love every day, and several times a day if ...
A. 15 January 2009: This is a very difficult question to answer. Clearly, you want to make the marriage work, if you are willing to stick around and want to get counseling.
My take on him from what you write is that he think the world revolves around him, and he revo... (read in full...)
Stoned, raped and now pregnant...
Q. I have a weird question. I was partying with a guy a while back and we preceded to get very stoned with a joint he had. I was pretty tired but he wanted to party. He started to kiss me and I said I had a boyfriend. He kept on till I slapped the ...
A. 14 January 2009: This is a troubling post; I am very sorry to hear what has happened. I think that you should reach out to one of the rape crisis centers that can help you cope with this situation. You could look for the local rape crisis center in your local phone ... (read in full...)
What must I do to keep him?
Q. i'm a gay guy, aged 23 and i fell in love with this guy, aged 36. i really, genuinely love this guy and would do anything for him. however, he is the type that looks around, not only to other guys but women also. last weekend he broke up with me and ...
A. 14 January 2009: You need to recognize that you are responsible for your happiness, not anybody else, including him. Of course things are not going to be the same, you have attempted to control him through emotional blackmail. He is feeling manipulated and probably ... (read in full...)
Why do guys boast about there so called girfriends to other people?
Q. Why do guys boast about there so called girfriends to other people? I know what you say he's proud of her, just others girls don't want to listen to them because it's hurtful. This girl could like him and he goes boasting about he might in 4 ...
A. 14 January 2009: Yes, people have hassles and sorrows and worries. The choice is whether they dominate your life or not.
I guess that you are pushing people away, like me. I'm sorry for that. I hope you find your path to happiness. Just follow the signs that we'v... (read in full...)
Why do guys boast about there so called girfriends to other people?
Q. Why do guys boast about there so called girfriends to other people? I know what you say he's proud of her, just others girls don't want to listen to them because it's hurtful. This girl could like him and he goes boasting about he might in 4 ...
A. 14 January 2009: Willow, I see that you are embarassed. I wonder if we all told you about all our rejections, if that would truly make you feel better. Because I doubt that even if we listed all the things that we had done wrong or had happen to us all our lives, ... (read in full...)
Why can't my b/f make me have an orgasm?
Q. i am 21 and i have had sex with a few guys in my life and 1 is my boyfriend now.and out of all them.i have never had an orgasm..and me and my boyfriend have sex about 2 times a weak.dont get me wrong it feels good in me.but i can never get there..i ...
A. 13 January 2009: Honey, there's nothing wrong with you. About 2/3 of women do not reach orgasm by penetrative sex alone; so you're in the majority. It's not your fault, it's not his fault. It's just how things are.
Now there are ways to help you achieve this whil... (read in full...)
Any good ways to make friends when your 40 plus?
Q. Just a few years ago I experienced a great loss in my life, my younger sister suddenly passed away. She was more like a best friend and my best hangout buddy. These days are so hard to deal with being without her. I have an older sister, but we h...
A. 13 January 2009: Hi, I'm very sorry to hear about your loss, that's very sad.
So the tough thing about making new friends is that you're going to have to put some effort into it. That means calling people and after you've made some friends, organizing acti... (read in full...)
Why do guys boast about there so called girfriends to other people?
Q. Why do guys boast about there so called girfriends to other people? I know what you say he's proud of her, just others girls don't want to listen to them because it's hurtful. This girl could like him and he goes boasting about he might in 4 ...
A. 12 January 2009: And how is that decision coming along? Would you like to talk about it? Please try to speak to me directly as you can. Say, "Tisha, I am deciding what to do because I am not sure of ....." or something along those lines.
And Willow, you're not drin... (read in full...)
He says we're not together because we don't make love, so he is free to meet anyone else!!
Q. Couldn't sleep last night- snowy, wide-awake anxiety. Now am half-dead at work. Dismal thoughts. I can't bear it. My boyfriend of many years of togetherness now will not call himself my boyfriend, he says he loves me, and even outside observers have ...
A. 12 January 2009: My reaction to your question is to tell you to stop sleeping with him! Stop being one half of a pseudo-couple; remove yourself from the situation. Take control of your life back. You're letting him decide that you give all your attention to him, and ... (read in full...)
Why do guys boast about there so called girfriends to other people?
Q. Why do guys boast about there so called girfriends to other people? I know what you say he's proud of her, just others girls don't want to listen to them because it's hurtful. This girl could like him and he goes boasting about he might in 4 ...
A. 12 January 2009: Willow, big problems are solved by taking small steps. And the small steps must be taken...
Are you able to carry on a conversation?... (read in full...)
I'm having health problems and the doctors say its just stress!
Q. I am really annoyed and seriously at my wits end. I have been having some medical symptoms and have now been to THREE different doctors now who have all fobbed me off and sent me away saying my symptoms are stress related or something of this nature ...
A. 12 January 2009: Here is a tool that might help you with your quest:
http://symptoms.webmd.com/symptomchecker
I think you should start keeping a daily diary and note down exactly what kind of symptom you are experiencing and when. This will help you in a discussi... (read in full...)
My male friend left me standing on a dark corner at 3am!
Q. one of my guy mates (we have been seeing each other on and off and hes been really confusing me) well last night we were walking to his house and he said "wait two minutes" and LEFT me standing in a dark street corner :( he NEVER came back. i ran...
A. 11 January 2009: He's not a best friend. Best friends do not do those things. You might think you're his friend, but he doesn't feel the same way about you, as he obviously demonstrated.
Me, personally, would avoid speaking to him and would certainly never go anyw... (read in full...)
My b/f never has time for me!
Q. My boyfriend is never home. Whenever he is he is catching on sleep, playing video games, or gathering things so he can go back out again. He says he's either helping friends do stuff to their cars of he's hanging out with friends? But like every ...
A. 11 January 2009: It sounds to me that he's managed to get away with doing the bare minimum to keep you around. The thing about ultimatums, threatening to leave, is that they are only effective if you actually intend to carry them out. He knows that you're not going ... (read in full...)
Got back together with ex, realize I don't love him--now what?
Q. I've known my boyfriend a long time. We dated before, it didn't work out, we didn't see each other for a couple of years. We ended up back in touch and he was very keen for us to try again at a relationship. I was happy single, I wasn't sure ...
A. 11 January 2009: You take him up on his offer of friendship if it doesn't work out. It isn't working out, you two are at different places in your life, it's no one's fault, it just is what it is. This is the attitude you need to carry, so you have to try to remain ... (read in full...)
Why do guys boast about there so called girfriends to other people?
Q. Why do guys boast about there so called girfriends to other people? I know what you say he's proud of her, just others girls don't want to listen to them because it's hurtful. This girl could like him and he goes boasting about he might in 4 ...
A. 11 January 2009: You've mentioned those things before. Can you read my answers okay? Do I need to write shorter sentences?
You see no light in your life because you are only looking back. Look at me and talk to me today. That is living in the present.
I get the ... (read in full...)
My mother died and I am not mourning...
Q. I was not brought up by my white scottish mother. I was abandoned as a baby as she left me with my Jamaican father. I met my mother when I was about 30. We had 15 years but she lived 120 miles away so I did not see her often. From what she...
A. 11 January 2009: You sound like you turned out pretty well. I would give thanks to the woman who gave birth to you. I think that being able to make contact with her was a good thing for you as it gave you some closure. It sounds as though she lived a rather sad and ... (read in full...)
Is liking him just enough...?
Q. Hi I am so confused, this guy I've met is 8 years older than me with 3 ex gf's, with a child to each. He is a very emotional person, doesn't like the single life, he gets lonely often and becomes very down. We have met a few times and hes...
A. 11 January 2009: It's all what "he wants", he wants this, he wants that. What do YOU want? What do you deserve?
And why does he have 3 exgirlfriends with a child to each? He obviously wasn't single when he was with them, so if he hates single life so much, why the ... (read in full...)
Why do guys boast about there so called girfriends to other people?
Q. Why do guys boast about there so called girfriends to other people? I know what you say he's proud of her, just others girls don't want to listen to them because it's hurtful. This girl could like him and he goes boasting about he might in 4 ...
A. 10 January 2009: Willow, I would guess that shop work would be very difficult for someone with dyslexia. Did you ever look up famous dyslexics? It's very interesting.
http://www.dyslexia.tv/snapshots/index.htm
Do you have anything to say about the nod?
And is Wi... (read in full...)
Should I pay off the $1500 she is after?
Q. About a month ago my long term partner of two years told me she "loved me but was not in love with me" and called the whole thing off. This was the day after thanksgiving where we had been planning next years christmas trip and also firming up ...
A. 10 January 2009: Morally, she's the one who made the choices and she needs to own up to her own choices and part of that choice is this consequence. I think she should honor her commitments and pay for what she agreed to in the first place. You don't tell someone ... (read in full...)
Jealousy wrecked my last relationship, I don't want it to wreck this one too.
Q. Hey, my gf is Bi. She's still a virgin and so am I, cause of the simple fact that she is adament about not losing her virginity till she's 18. Nothing I'm goanna push though. She just recently broke up with her gf, I guess it was a relationship of ...
A. 10 January 2009: Sorry, I just want to be sure I've got this straight. Your girlfriend has an ex girlfriend who she hangs around with, kisses, cuddles and engages in sexual activity with? She spends more time with this ex than with you?
I'm afraid to report that... (read in full...)
Why do guys boast about there so called girfriends to other people?
Q. Why do guys boast about there so called girfriends to other people? I know what you say he's proud of her, just others girls don't want to listen to them because it's hurtful. This girl could like him and he goes boasting about he might in 4 ...
A. 10 January 2009: Can I make up a nickname for you? Would you mind if I called you, oh I don't know, how about Willow?
I know from all your posts and this one too that the past has been basically crap for you. You are unhappy with where you are in life, you're stuc... (read in full...)
Why do guys boast about there so called girfriends to other people?
Q. Why do guys boast about there so called girfriends to other people? I know what you say he's proud of her, just others girls don't want to listen to them because it's hurtful. This girl could like him and he goes boasting about he might in 4 ...
A. 10 January 2009: There's a book by M. Scott Peck (The Road Less Traveled). The very first sentence of the first chapter is this.
"Life is difficult."
He then goes on to say, "This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths. It is a great truth because on... (read in full...)
My girlfriends mad that I didn't do anything for our "monthsary".
Q. My girlfriend was upset with me because I didn't do anything out of the ordinary for our monthsary (monthsary is a different month but same day we became official). She also doesn't do anything out of the ordinary for our monthsary, so I don't ...
A. 10 January 2009: I told my husband about this question, I guess because the term "monthsary" intrigued me.
He told me to tell you to break up with her. I'm paraphrasing here, so bear with me if I get this wrong. Right, so he said to break up with her now. She's goin... (read in full...)
Does my man have a crazy opinion or is it true?
Q. Hi all I have a question that I'm very Intrigued about. I've been dating my man for over a year now and recently we had a discussion about cheating. In his opinion most people will cheat in any relationship especially men. He accepted that no...
A. 10 January 2009: It sounds like your guy is capable of talking a dog off a meat truck, if he can convince you that the desire to cheat is equivalent to being unable to stop oneself from cheating.
These are two different things. I accept you don't have any desi... (read in full...)
Why do guys boast about there so called girfriends to other people?
Q. Why do guys boast about there so called girfriends to other people? I know what you say he's proud of her, just others girls don't want to listen to them because it's hurtful. This girl could like him and he goes boasting about he might in 4 ...
A. 9 January 2009: What I am seeing is a woman who has been unhappy a very long time. Things that happen to her and in the world do not bring her joy. The learning disability made school difficult for you, and most people do not have the patience to deal with it. Your ... (read in full...)
Why do guys boast about there so called girfriends to other people?
Q. Why do guys boast about there so called girfriends to other people? I know what you say he's proud of her, just others girls don't want to listen to them because it's hurtful. This girl could like him and he goes boasting about he might in 4 ...
A. 9 January 2009: Because, my dear, you are the key to your own question. I just wanted to get an idea of how life was for you and if there was anything else in your persona that people would notice.
Do not think I am trying to drive you away, because I am not, but ... (read in full...)
Why do guys boast about there so called girfriends to other people?
Q. Why do guys boast about there so called girfriends to other people? I know what you say he's proud of her, just others girls don't want to listen to them because it's hurtful. This girl could like him and he goes boasting about he might in 4 ...
A. 9 January 2009: I wasn't sure if being locked inside the classroom and tying the shoe with a strap and a buckle were at the same time, that's all. I can get things wrong sometimes, you know.
So your first two emotions that you remember feeling are frustrat... (read in full...)
Why do guys boast about there so called girfriends to other people?
Q. Why do guys boast about there so called girfriends to other people? I know what you say he's proud of her, just others girls don't want to listen to them because it's hurtful. This girl could like him and he goes boasting about he might in 4 ...
A. 9 January 2009: How did you feel, being trapped like that? And how did you feel with tying the shoes? (Did I understand that last sentence correctly? Tell me if I got it wrong.)
... (read in full...)
Why do guys boast about there so called girfriends to other people?
Q. Why do guys boast about there so called girfriends to other people? I know what you say he's proud of her, just others girls don't want to listen to them because it's hurtful. This girl could like him and he goes boasting about he might in 4 ...
A. 9 January 2009: What is your very first memory, the very first time you remember something. And what was the feeling?... (read in full...)
Why do guys boast about there so called girfriends to other people?
Q. Why do guys boast about there so called girfriends to other people? I know what you say he's proud of her, just others girls don't want to listen to them because it's hurtful. This girl could like him and he goes boasting about he might in 4 ...
A. 9 January 2009: When you were a little girl, did you feel happy?... (read in full...)
Why do guys boast about there so called girfriends to other people?
Q. Why do guys boast about there so called girfriends to other people? I know what you say he's proud of her, just others girls don't want to listen to them because it's hurtful. This girl could like him and he goes boasting about he might in 4 ...
A. 9 January 2009: Thank you so much for responding! That was very helpful.
Okay, so you live at home and unfortunately cannot find a job. And you have dyslexia, which makes reading and writing very difficult. That's why you had to repeat exams and schoolwork. Do you ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a sex change
Q. Yesterday my wife told me she wants a sex change. I was completely shocked by the revelation. I asked her to repeat what she had just said, and she said that she'd suppressed it ever since she was a girl. She said she'd known she wanted to be a b...
A. 9 January 2009: One link:
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/TransFamilyCouples/... (read in full...)
My wife wants a sex change
Q. Yesterday my wife told me she wants a sex change. I was completely shocked by the revelation. I asked her to repeat what she had just said, and she said that she'd suppressed it ever since she was a girl. She said she'd known she wanted to be a b...
A. 9 January 2009: Good grief! I'd be flat on the floor, curled into a little ball!
She's way out ahead of you, and you have quite a bit of catching up time. First, I think that you have every right to ask for some time to adjust before she does anything new in the ... (read in full...)
Why do guys boast about there so called girfriends to other people?
Q. Why do guys boast about there so called girfriends to other people? I know what you say he's proud of her, just others girls don't want to listen to them because it's hurtful. This girl could like him and he goes boasting about he might in 4 ...
A. 9 January 2009: Okay, I think the original poster followed up? The note to me, about rejection 100% of the time.
Okay, tough advice from me is about to follow. I am not trying to be mean, I am trying to help you, please bear that in mind.
Einstein said once tha... (read in full...)
Should I break up with her or should I forgive her again?
Q. hallo, I'm kind of confused. I have a gal for four years now and it seems each year, she has an affair and call me lucky but I always find out about it. well, now it's a couple of weeks into the year and I happen to have the password to her email ...
A. 9 January 2009: If the trust is shattered, there's no point in going on. I can see how your life with her is going to go. Every year, a new fling. Is that really what you want?... (read in full...)
Why do guys boast about there so called girfriends to other people?
Q. Why do guys boast about there so called girfriends to other people? I know what you say he's proud of her, just others girls don't want to listen to them because it's hurtful. This girl could like him and he goes boasting about he might in 4 ...
A. 9 January 2009: Perhaps you might suggest to the fellow in question that you would like to talk about other things. I get the sense from the question that you really like him, but he does not like you back in the same way. In your shoes, I would probably steer ... (read in full...)
What does foreplay really mean?
Q. I have read that size doesn't matter and stuff and that foreplay is very important. What actually does foreplay mean? And why doesn't penis size matter? I have a 5.5 inch penis when erected and 5 girth.... Is that good to satisfy a women? I'm also a ...
A. 9 January 2009: I see you need some basic sex education, which is a good thing to have. I have a link for you to read; it has some diagrams which explain the anatomy and good information about sexuality. Please try to read it all the way through so you don't miss ... (read in full...)
Girls Girls Girls please help
Q. Question to girls, do you find guys that wear tight pants attractive??? I'm not talking about the super emo tight pants but something that hugs the body at least??? And why do you find it attractive???...
A. 8 January 2009: I have to go with the majority here, especially TasteofIndia (that was a great little rant!) about disliking really tight pants. They make the male models in the ads look like junkies and in real life, they don't do thing one for me, except provoke ... (read in full...)
Locking eyes during sex?
Q. Just curious...so, I read in an article of Cosmopolitan that if a guy locks eyes with you during sex, even just for a few seconds, it means that he wants more than just a physical connection with you. Do you all think that is true or is that a bunch ...
A. 8 January 2009: I wouldn't use Cosmopolitan as a definitive guide to life... it's certainly entertaining but let's face it, it is a lot of air-brushing. It's like using porn as an educational tool; a bad idea because it's designed to feed fantasy and sell things, ... (read in full...)
I think I've had it with him--am I being unreasonable?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 years has recently decided to work away. He has accepted a permanent job miles away for 5 years. Ever since we first met I made it clear to him that I would not like to be in a relationship where my boyfriend worked away. Up until ...
A. 8 January 2009: This relationship sounds troubled at its core. Have you two ever sat down and worked through the finances together? How do you two communicate otherwise?
Have you stayed with him for your child's sake? Sorry for all the questions but I'm trying to f... (read in full...)
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