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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Guys would you marry a girl who was forced to do oral sex in her past?
Q. Guys would you marry a girl who was forced to do oral sex in her past?...
A. 19 February 2009: Thank you for the follow up. If you have known about this for several years and before you two became intimate, but the thought of it is so distressing to you, then I really do believe that you would benefit from some counseling. I am worried for ... (read in full...)
Guys would you marry a girl who was forced to do oral sex in her past?
Q. Guys would you marry a girl who was forced to do oral sex in her past?...
A. 18 February 2009: Here are some links to questions that sound VERY similar (you might find the advice there useful too):
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/the-girl-i-like-was-forced-to-perform.html
http:... (read in full...)
Call me a bitch or a whore but you know I'm right.
Q. I really laid it on thick with this guy who already had a girlfriend. I even made made him cheat on his girlfriend by having sex with him while they were together. They were together for two years and broke up two months ago after she caught us ...
A. 18 February 2009: I think rhythmandblues nailed it. And to answer your question, why do you have to suffer? I think you are experiencing the blowback of just a teensy tiny smidge of the suffering you have engendered. So think about this, the relationships you ... (read in full...)
The bad times never seem to stop! Does anyone else have this experience?
Q. Hello,I wonder what would most of you say about this problem. Now, I can't go into long detales, as it would be very long story, so I won't . But I just try to tell ,what is the general thing. I"m a realistic, mostly logical person, I think....
A. 18 February 2009: I don't really have an answer for you, just my thoughts on this. My family has been going through a rough time with a whole host of medical issues. I won't bore you with the details either, but suffice it to say that it's getting to feel like the ... (read in full...)
How to win back your ex boyfriend, how to save your relationship, Fench behavioural method
Q. I found a book on the internet that has taught me a lot (a french behavioural method written by a french woman), particularly how to behave in order to win back my ex, to save my relationship ; I applied that behavioural method to the letter and I ...
A. 18 February 2009: I would be interested to know if you have any financial interest in this book or any relation to its author? Also, it would be a much better article if you actually discussed a bit about the cause the break up and what you did specifically to bring ... (read in full...)
Guys would you marry a girl who was forced to do oral sex in her past?
Q. Guys would you marry a girl who was forced to do oral sex in her past?...
A. 18 February 2009: If you are asking this question, then clearly it is an issue for you. Perhaps you could benefit from some counseling yourself; I trust that she has had some to help her come to terms with what happened to her. It would not be fair on her to punish ... (read in full...)
15 and wanting a baby!
Q. I'm 15 years old, and my boyfriend and I have been trying to have a baby for three months. My boyfriend is 18, and we both have agreed we're ready. We already live together. I don't have to worry about dropping out because I do online schoolin...
A. 18 February 2009: Right. *Ahem* ATTENTION ALL WHO WISH TO COMMENT ON THIS POST: (sorry for shouting but I want to make sure that this message gets through)
There is no need for name-calling or abusive language on this thread, or any other here on DearCupid. I have... (read in full...)
Been seeing him for 11 years and just found out he got married 2 years ago... NOT TO ME!!!
Q. I have been in a relationship for eleven years and found out last year that my boyfriend is married two years ago and was stilling with me. When I confronted him he denied it. I did not stop until he could not deny any more but he is still seeing ...
A. 18 February 2009: Okay, the only way I can figure out how he could have gotten married without you noticing is that you are (or were) in a long distance relationship. Otherwise, you'd be hanging out with his friends too, and would have met his family and all the ... (read in full...)
15 and wanting a baby!
Q. I'm 15 years old, and my boyfriend and I have been trying to have a baby for three months. My boyfriend is 18, and we both have agreed we're ready. We already live together. I don't have to worry about dropping out because I do online schoolin...
A. 18 February 2009: If you come onto an advice website announcing that you are planning to have a baby that apparently your father is going to support, you are going to get some feedback from adults who have a whole lot of life experience. If you expected anything ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my controlling bf or try again with my ex who is very similar to me?
Q. The reason I'm confused is that my present boyfriend is a bit close minded and strict sometimes because he doesnt like to give me my space. he would like to spend all the time with me doing things his way. I'm the type of girl that likes to go ...
A. 17 February 2009: Hi, I hate to be the one to tell you, but you are dating an abuser-in-the-making. This is the kind of behavior that can escalate into wife-beating. An aunt posted a link to this article once and I think you should read it VERY carefully:
h... (read in full...)
How can I walk away from my best friend, my married BF?
Q. I'm a single mom of two children.. I've been seeing a married man for almost 3 years. I used to be ok with the relationship, because it was not like most "affairs"..he just had two women that he shared equally. Now things have come to a stand ...
A. 17 February 2009: Here's an article that was written a while back; I don't know if it will help but maybe it will give you some perspective on grieving the end of a relationship.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-get-over-your-ex.html
I think it might he... (read in full...)
Is it fun to take pictures? (Why not)
Q. Is it fun to take pictures? (a minor rant) Ok this is something that might seem obvious. We live in a digital age where everything has a camera. Quiet often people think its fun to take pictures of yourself or partners in various poses ranging fr...
A. 17 February 2009: I like the rant! It is extremely sensible to advise people to think before making choices with digital media.... it's a whole new era and who knows what consequences may ensue from a drunken picture taking escapade or a love story turned into a ... (read in full...)
Ejaculating too quickly. Help!
Q. We have been married for 4 months. Somehow my wife does not feel satisfied. She told me after I enquired several times, that I may be ejaculating prematurely, that is, our sex is for very short period. How can I solve this problem. Please advise....
A. 17 February 2009: May I ask if you have spent any time in trying to pleasure her before you start intercourse? Only about one-third of all women actually achieve orgasm through penetrative sex alone (intercourse); the other two-thirds need some stimulation of their ... (read in full...)
I'm worried that she might not open up much any more because she's trying to find this new found strength within her.
Q. Okay I need some help for this somewhat complicated issue. The condensed version of this is that I my girlfriend and I got in a fight and I told her I needed to take some time to think about things and clear my head because of something she did (she ...
A. 17 February 2009: A couple of thoughts for you... Problem A will only be a problem if she is punishing you in some way for the separation you asked for. You've mentioned a couple of things about her that are of concern to me. First is that you are her ONLY support ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to keep communication without feeling pain or disappointment?
Q. Since the man I was dating the last year wasn't taking our relationship seriously I don't call him any more and I have told him that I see him as a friend from now and in the future. Although these aren't my real feelings I pretend that I don't have ...
A. 16 February 2009: Unless you're a really good actress, it might be a good idea to limit contact with him until such time as your feelings truly have faded to one of merely friendship. Right now, it sounds as though it hurts you too much to have communication with ... (read in full...)
My latest boyfriend refuses to lick me clean after sex!
Q. My latest boyfriend refuses to lick me clean after sex, is it too much to ask? It's his mess after all? All my previous boyfriend's were happy to do it....
A. 16 February 2009: Use a condom, problem solved. I trust that you have been checked for STDs if you have had previous boyfriends, and I expect he's likely had previous girlfriends too, so it's a good idea for him to see his doctor as well.
Once you two are both deem... (read in full...)
He was all sweetness one minute then the next says he's not IN love with me...
Q. Dear cupid, I wrote you a month ago. My boyfriend said he loved me but is not in love with me. I stayed with him for a month after that. He said his feelings might change. I don't know what happened, he was so nice and sweet and then one day he s...
A. 16 February 2009: That is a struggle you're going through, it must be very tough on you. If he calls, what should you do? If I were in your shoes, I would want to find out what had changed in his head to make him tell you that he was not 'in love' with you; this is ... (read in full...)
I was unfaithful but never had sex. My wife doesn't believe me, how can I get her back?
Q. Me and my Wife of 2 1/2 years just recently separated. I was unfaithful more than once and twice with the same female. No sex whatsoever was involved at anytime, but she doesn't believe me. I'm sure I wouldn't either if I were in her place. I also ...
A. 11 February 2009: I'm not entirely clear what you think you mean by being unfaithful. Having sex isn't the issue here; you called SINGLES hotlines. You were "unfaithful" in some way. That means you pretended you were single, that means you WANTED to be single and ... (read in full...)
Would you date a girl with this sexual past?
Q. She is perfect in looks for you, perfect in personality for you! She is 21 years old (just imagine that is the perfect age for you lol), KNOW 100% she would never cheat on you, EVERYTHING is perfect for you. But..... She lost her virginity at 14...
A. 11 February 2009: You know what? She might be perfect for you in looks and personality, but YOU don't sound perfect for HER. She might be better off with a guy who isn't going to hold her past against her. Do the magnanimous thing and let her go to find the man who ... (read in full...)
I want to deal with our constant arguing and settle down, I just don't know how?
Q. I've dated my girlfriend for the past five years. They've been really great in a lot of ways and she's made me very happy and I like to think that I've made her very happy too... But in the past six months, my wires have been very frayed. You see,...
A. 11 February 2009: Woof. This sounds like you are sick of the rollercoaster of emotions that she seems to bring to the relationship. Now then, please don't mind my asking, but you've been dating her for five years, right? And it's only been in the last six months that ... (read in full...)
Fiance's family is mess! Worried about the reception
Q. I'm getting married soon. And I have a dilema. My fiances family are..a mess. I'm no snob. We both come from the same urban neighborhood. But his family is one of a kind. His fathers always drunk or high. His mother is crazy, certified crazy. I ...
A. 8 February 2009: Okay, eek, not a great thing to have to worry about, it's supposed to be the happiest day of your life. Have you already booked the venue and time?
If not, a couple of suggestions:
Have the wedding and reception early in the day, morning to midmo... (read in full...)
I'm stressing out! Am I having an orgasm or not?
Q. Hey guys, This is kind of a personal question, and i wonder if anyone else has the same experiences or not. Since i was about twelve (five years ago) i have been rubbing my clitoris and believing that i have been making myself have an orgas...
A. 5 February 2009: It sounds like an orgasm to me, the telltale sign being the contractions followed by the "don't touch" feeling. DoubleM has given you a very good technique for your guy to try. The thing is that this should be fun. If you feel that you HAVE to have ... (read in full...)
DearCupid had over one million people visit the site in January!
Q. I have just peeped at our visitor figures for January 2009, the month just gone, and I'm excited to see that DearCupid passed 1,000,000 (yes, one MILLION!) unique visitors/month for the first time. According to Google Analytics we had 1,040,812 ...
A. 1 February 2009: Andrew, that is a milestone to celebrate. A huge thank you to the aunts and uncles of the early days who put in long hours and devotion to keep the site going. Another thank you to the question askers for revealing a bit of their lives so that the ... (read in full...)
How will I know if I'm having real labor pains?
Q. how will i know if i am having true labour pains instead of braxton hicks contractions??...
A. 29 January 2009: Sweetie, if you are the 13-15 year old girl who asked about fever and strep throat, you really do need to see your doctor to ask these questions. Do please make a list of all your questions.
From the webmd.com website: "Your health care prov... (read in full...)
Will being sick with a fever and strep throat hurt my baby?
Q. Will being sick with a fever and strep throat harm my baby? i am about 7 months pregnant.?? what can i take to feel better faster?...
A. 29 January 2009: If you're pregnant, give your doctor a call and ask him/her or the nurse practitioner this question. If you don't have a doctor, you can find one by going to plannedparenthood.org.
Don't take medical advice from strangers on the internet; this is n... (read in full...)
Help me to not have sex with this guy who just wants to get in my pants!
Q. So i really need advice because i dont kno if i should lose my virginity right now to this guy..he gets his license in 4 days. only 4 DAYS! and thats how much time i have left to decide because that is when he gets his license. and when he does, he ...
A. 29 January 2009: I have to tell you that the way you put it, that he's going to get his license and then he's going to have sex, sounds like the least romantic proposal I've heard in a long time. "Honey, I'm going to get the tires rotated, and then I'd like a blow ... (read in full...)
What do you think? Is he still interested?
Q. I have just started seeing somebody and last weekend he went to visit friends, which is grand, he text to say he was going and then nothing. I text him worried that he didn't make it there or back and got no reply so i rang and also got no reply. ...
A. 29 January 2009: If he texted you to tell you he had no credit to text you any more, couldn't he have sent you a longer text and said a bit more than that? I hate to tell you that it's not sounding good to me right at this moment, because I'm afraid you're going to ... (read in full...)
Husband wants me to have implants because he's embarrassed of me
Q. what would you do and how would you feel if your husband wanted you to get implants because he was embarrassd to be seen with you in public ...
A. 19 January 2009: How would implants solve his problem? What, you're too small? That's not something to be embarassed about, it's just how you're built.
Seriously, what is he really asking?... (read in full...)
13, unprotected sex with b/f
Q. im 13 an i have had sex with my boyfriend.. it was unprotected and nobody in my family knows im sexually active.. im scared incase im pregnent or have catched anything.. i jus dont know what to do.. hes telling me its going to be alright.. but i ...
A. 19 January 2009: The NHS run a helpline that you can call with this kind of concern:
Talk to NHS Direct on 0845 4647
Textphone users can call 0845 606 4647
NHS Direct operates a 24-hour health advice and information service, providing confidential information ... (read in full...)
Are we moving too fast? If so, what am I supposed to do?
Q. Hello, I've been to this website many times for advice and help with girlfriend issues. Just wanted to thank everybody for the great help and support. An issue arose today with me and my Girlfriend. We have been going strong for several months n...
A. 19 January 2009: I think that maybe this is a cue that it's time for another talk with her. I would say that you not ask her for the list of what she's comfortable with; that's not how she's been looking at this, I think.
She's probably generally feeling a bit worr... (read in full...)
Herpes???
Q. Well I was having sex with my girlfriend and I did something stupid, I kissed her when I had a coldsore and then I asked her to give me oral and she did it then we had sex. She bit me while giving me oral and the next day I found a red spot along ...
A. 19 January 2009: It's probably a good time to see your doctor. It would be a good idea to make sure that you've not contracted anything, and if you have, you need to be able to tell her, so she can protect her health too.
Look at plannedparenthood.org and webm... (read in full...)
Why do people put their dogs before their own life?
Q. is it normal for someone to give up the chance of a holiday because they have to look after a fudging dog? my friends and i are trying to book a holiday, but one of them is being very difficult because she can't possibly leave her dog with someone...
A. 19 January 2009: It sounds like she has something else going on if she can't socialize or enjoy time with friends. The dog is an excuse, masking the deeper issue. If they didn't have a dog, she'd have to come up with something else.
I think a possible reason migh... (read in full...)
Can men hold their cum in??????
Q. I have several questions because I asked my friend and it was totally confusing what he said. So if a guy cums while in intercourse, you can get pregnant right? So how long do you have to take birth control or is there anything else ? Also, ...
A. 19 January 2009: A little bit of a reality check too: http://www.webmd.com/sex/news/20080311/1-in-4-teen-girls-infected-with-an-std
It's really kind of scary that so many girls could get an STD and not even know it. It's like a major epidemic and girls go on and ... (read in full...)
I feel as if I'm making all the sacrifices here...
Q. I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4 months, we want to move in together. I'm willing to move away and take my 3 kids with me. My eldest doesn't want to go, she's 15, which would mean me going without her. This is a big sacrifice ...
A. 19 January 2009: Here's a really comprehensive look at Hepatitis C: http://www.webmd.com/hepatitis/hepc-guide/default.htm
Sorry if this information is redundant and you know all about this already; I'm just concerned that you take care of yourself as well as not ... (read in full...)
Can men hold their cum in??????
Q. I have several questions because I asked my friend and it was totally confusing what he said. So if a guy cums while in intercourse, you can get pregnant right? So how long do you have to take birth control or is there anything else ? Also, ...
A. 19 January 2009: I'm not entirely clear on what it is you are asking, but I think you need to be working from a position of knowledge and not relying on what your boyfriend thinks might be okay or possibly probably shouldn't not cause a potential pregnancy. (See, ... (read in full...)
I feel as if I'm making all the sacrifices here...
Q. I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4 months, we want to move in together. I'm willing to move away and take my 3 kids with me. My eldest doesn't want to go, she's 15, which would mean me going without her. This is a big sacrifice ...
A. 19 January 2009: I'm not sure what the rush to move in together is. You've only known him for 4 months, and that's really not enough time to truly know him. Your children deserve a stable home and are entitled to complete their school year, at the very least.
Y... (read in full...)
I'm up at my dad's and BORED!
Q. I feel really depressed, I am on holidays at my dad's and the only kids I know up here are two girls who when we first met, got along really well but now I feel they only talk to me when they have to because they are friends of the family. I took a ...
A. 16 January 2009: Sorry to hear you're feeling so depressed. Look, you don't seem to know anybody and you only have 3 weeks to go till you leave. So why not do a project for your Dad? A make yourself useful kind of project, like painting a room or the porch or ... (read in full...)
If I'm supposed to get pregnant it will happen no matter what
Q. Im not sure if it is just 17 year old logic or what, but my mom is putting me on birth control, because she doesnt want me to get pregnant before I am ready. I have had a pregnancy scare before, but the test said I wasnt pregnant and life went on. ...
A. 16 January 2009: For your edification, the effectiveness of several common birth control methods (from the plannedparenthood.org website):
Of every 100 women whose partners use withdrawal, 4 will become pregnant each year if they always do it correctly.
Of eve... (read in full...)
If I'm supposed to get pregnant it will happen no matter what
Q. Im not sure if it is just 17 year old logic or what, but my mom is putting me on birth control, because she doesnt want me to get pregnant before I am ready. I have had a pregnancy scare before, but the test said I wasnt pregnant and life went on. ...
A. 16 January 2009: Does that mean that you don't wear seatbelts? And you don't wear a bicycle helmet? That the brakes on your car are for emergency use only?
That you don't brush your teeth, because if you get a cavity or gingivitis is a matter of happenstance? Eith... (read in full...)
My husband told me that most men don't like to give oral and he does it only because I like it.
Q. I have been married to my husband for seven years. I have told him exactly what I would like when it comes to oral sex. More often than not, he doesn't do it. He told me the other night that most men don't like to give oral and he does it only ...
A. 15 January 2009: Ouch. Does he know how upset you are? I'm curious to know if he's tried to backpedal and soften his words and explain what he meant, or if he's just left you to recover from the blow.
Because no doubt, this IS a blow! What was the context in whic... (read in full...)
Toning up lower abs
Q. what is the best way to tone up the lowers abs? ...
A. 15 January 2009: Pilates has a whole series of exercises targeting the core muscles. Look for a class or a DVD to get the specific instructions. They are too complicated to list here. I find they work very well.
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I don't feel that "spark" any more between us.
Q. I'm engaged to a great guy. Treats me better than I feel I deserve sometimes. We've been together for 5 years. We met when I was 19 he was 21. He had been engaged to a girl he had dated sense high school. She cheated on him and they broke up. Not ...
A. 15 January 2009: Hi, you are in a bad spot, aren't you? I'm not going to tell you what to do, but I am going to offer my observations based on your information; do what you will with them.
You'e 24, you're young, but not too young to contemplate the big step of marr... (read in full...)
Sex and your virginity.
Q. Hello, I want to ask... that if a women has a sexual relationship for the first time and she does not bleed, does that means that she WASN'T a virgin to begin with???...
A. 15 January 2009: No, it just means her hymen didn't tear, either because it was already ruptured due to physical activity or because it wasn't large to begin with.
Not all women bleed their first time.
Take care.... (read in full...)
| *isha-1's friends
These are mutual friends, so *isha-1 has
added them and they have added *isha-1!
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![[?]BitterSweetFinale;[?] agony aunt](/avatars/7bb1e9ea-6c2f-43b8-a4f7-0635b7eff08c.png){kind=small}
