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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Obsessing over this guy... help!
Q. This extends on from another question. The boy, let's call him Connor again, has been a big crush of mine since 7th year. He first made me realise I had feelings for other guys, he is the definition of perfect, I try each day to think of a fault...
A. 2 July 2009: A place to go for help: http://www.slaauk.org/
Good luck!... (read in full...)
Obsessing over this guy... help!
Q. This extends on from another question. The boy, let's call him Connor again, has been a big crush of mine since 7th year. He first made me realise I had feelings for other guys, he is the definition of perfect, I try each day to think of a fault...
A. 2 July 2009: Too scared? Of what? That you might actually let go of the obsession? Is it possible that this obsession is a subconscious defense mechanism to deflect the real worry? The real worry being coming out.
Definitely time to see the doctor, I think. ... (read in full...)
Do these comments seem like another woman is flirting with me???
Q. I am female, 40 years old, and on a neighborhood tennis team. I am madly attracted to the female coach who is about my age. Sometimes I think she is attracted to me. But sometimes I don't think so and that it's all in my head. Take this conv...
A. 2 July 2009: I'm with satindesire, I don't see any flirting here. She paid you a compliment. Coaches are supposed to encourage their students/team members, so I wouldn't read anything more than that into it.
Just relax and enjoy tennis. If she is interested at a... (read in full...)
How am I going to tell my family I'm pregnant at 14???
Q. I'm 14, I'll be 15 in 3 days and i believe i am 4 or 5 weeks pregnant. My boyfriend is 16 he will be 17 in about a month.HE is completly happy about the pregnancy. he wants a kid.He has a job.I am Scared! I will NOT give up my kid. Will NOT have a ...
A. 2 July 2009: So your mother has been through this herself, if she had a baby at 15. Don't you think she would have some understanding of what you're going through? I think the fear of their reaction is probably more dire than how they really will react.
T... (read in full...)
Obsessing over this guy... help!
Q. This extends on from another question. The boy, let's call him Connor again, has been a big crush of mine since 7th year. He first made me realise I had feelings for other guys, he is the definition of perfect, I try each day to think of a fault...
A. 2 July 2009: What steps have you taken to try to derail this obsessive thinking? Or do you just succumb to it? Has anything else in your life changed? Have there been any upheavals or losses?
This is out of my league, I think. Please read this wikipedia arti... (read in full...)
Can pre cum make you pregnant?
Q. What if a male produces a lot of precum, and he only inserts half of the head of the penis into the vagina... is there any chance that she is pregnant? or what if he has precum on his fingers and inserts his fingers into the vagina...?...
A. 1 July 2009: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
Our poster is 16-17. Can any of our uncles here say with 100% perfect certainty that they could pull out without ANY semen at all entering... (read in full...)
Why is he telling people that I'm an atheist?
Q. I am not a religious person but I do have a high focus on my spiritual health. This guy, I really like him and he likes me too, we get along great, the only thing recently we somehow got to talking about God he's a Christian, I'm not. I totally ...
A. 1 July 2009: Give him "A History of God" by Karen Armstrong as a goodbye gift. But read it first yourself, if you haven't already!
And what he said ("you know you're wrong") and the fact that he can't or worse, chooses not to, understand your point of view, make... (read in full...)
Obsessing over this guy... help!
Q. This extends on from another question. The boy, let's call him Connor again, has been a big crush of mine since 7th year. He first made me realise I had feelings for other guys, he is the definition of perfect, I try each day to think of a fault...
A. 1 July 2009: Are you still in school? Do you work? What other interests (besides Connor) do you have?... (read in full...)
Obsessing over this guy... help!
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A. 1 July 2009: What have you tried so far? Have you talked with anybody about this, a friend, a family member, anyone? When was the last time you saw your doctor?... (read in full...)
Can pre cum make you pregnant?
Q. What if a male produces a lot of precum, and he only inserts half of the head of the penis into the vagina... is there any chance that she is pregnant? or what if he has precum on his fingers and inserts his fingers into the vagina...?...
A. 1 July 2009: http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html... (read in full...)
I can't finish without my vibrator -- is this a problem?
Q. So all my life I had trouble orgasming. I didn't have my first until I was 21 and bought myself my first vibrator (though I'd tried with hands without success). My boyfriend is freaking amazing in bed and I have never been so turned on by anyone, ...
A. 1 July 2009: You're normal, it's not a problem, enjoy yourself and trust him!
http://men.webmd.com/features/6-sex-mistakes-men-make
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Wife doesn't want me to go down on her any more
Q. I really loved cunnilingus, in fact I enjoyed it more than receiving oral sex, and for many years it was an important part of our lovemaking, but my wife went off it a long time ago. She thinks she's "dirty" down there. I haven't even seen her ...
A. 1 July 2009: Hmmm. If she really loved it, why would she go off it so finally? That doesn't make sense to me.
My strategy to deal with this would be to initiate a very intimate talk about this, NOT in bed. I'd find a way to ask her about ALL her thoughts abou... (read in full...)
After 5 weeks together he needs space. Should I wait for him or move on?
Q. I started dating a guy 5 weeks ago.he was going out with a girl on and off for nearly ten years, they broke up nearly 8 months ago. he lives across the road from me also. we spend the first few weeks together stayin up for hours chatting. got on so ...
A. 1 July 2009: You have only been dating him for 5 weeks, and it seems to me you both rushed things a bit. Talking about the future and kids in an abstract way isn't a bad thing to do, just to make sure you're both on the same wavelength. You wouldn't want to get ... (read in full...)
Why is he telling people that I'm an atheist?
Q. I am not a religious person but I do have a high focus on my spiritual health. This guy, I really like him and he likes me too, we get along great, the only thing recently we somehow got to talking about God he's a Christian, I'm not. I totally ...
A. 1 July 2009: [side note: Samii, with all due respect, just because a person doesn't follow an organized religion doesn't make them an atheist.] An atheist is someone who doesn't believe there is a 'higher power' or god. The poster just doesn't believe in the ... (read in full...)
Is G-spot stimulation the only way to get a real orgasm?
Q. I've always wondered when girls say they've never orgasmed through masturbation or sex. Does it mean they haven't orgasmed through clitoral stimulation? Or G-spot? I'm just confused 'cause I can easily orgasm through clitoral stimulation by m...
A. 30 June 2009: The clit is analogous to the penis in males: it's formed from the same starting cells in the embryo. As for the famed G-spot, there isn't a definite consensus among the experts. Some think it is a discrete area within the vagina, others are of the ... (read in full...)
Assertive dating techniques - jump at opportunities to define what is acceptable
Q. Hi.. so im generally good with the confidence and self esteem thing - but lately im paying more attention to it, as i go after high quality game... Scenario: recently i went on a date, left her alone the next day (i have a life/etc) - nex...
A. 30 June 2009: "High quality game"? Hm. What is it that attracted you to her in the first place? Why did you ask her out?
As to what happened, there are a couple of possibilities that I came up with:
she fell asleep on the couch, woke up at 3 and left the FB m... (read in full...)
Could the fact that he's circumsized be preventing us from having a baby?
Q. my boyfriend is 24 yrs old, he has been circumsized since he was aba 10. we have been trying to have a baby for 1 yr and a half but nothin is happing. can it be because he is circumsized coz i have had my self cheked out and my eggs are all fine. i ...
A. 29 June 2009: No, it shouldn't have anything to do with fertility at all. Why was he circumsized rather late in his life? At age ten? There may be some underlying medical issue that needs to be dealt with; so get him to the doctor too, it's not just you that ... (read in full...)
He's hot-headed... how do I talk to him without the fighting?
Q. My fiance and i are starting to fight everyday. our sex life is fantastic and we are very much in love but he is very hot headed and jealous. I'm usually calm untill he says something smart then i get accused of being snappy. I don't know how to f...
A. 29 June 2009: To continue on Samantha's theme of rules for discussing/fighting fair, here are some thoughts from me:
One of the most difficult things in any relationship is deciding how you agree to disagree. By that I mean you need to establish set rules for ... (read in full...)
Question about "the rod" contraceptive implant...
Q. Ok, so ive just have the contraceptive implant or "the rod" put in. My question is do you have to wait until after your period before having unprotected sex? or can i just wait for a week? (the time it takes for the implant to kick in) Thanks...
A. 27 June 2009: "If you get the implant during the first five days of your period, you are protected against pregnancy immediately. Otherwise, you need to use some form of backup birth control — like a condom, female condom, diaphragm, sponge, or emergency ... (read in full...)
Parenting and etiquette advice please!
Q. My daughter is having her 5th birthday party next week, and I am taking her to see a stage play. The tickets are not that expensive, but there is some travel. what I was wondering was if I want to invite her friend, am if I responsible to buy the ...
A. 26 June 2009: Could you say something like this:
"Hi Bev, it's Carly's birthday next week, and we're going to a play that's a bit of a hike. I don't know if you have any interest in joining us, but we'd love to have the company if you do. The thing that made me a... (read in full...)
Is it really internet love and should I push my boundaries and send him a naked picture of me?
Q. well i met this boy online and we have been going out for like almost 8 months now hes 17 and im 15 and i really think i love him and says he loves me to. we talk on the phone evernight and text each other constantly he has never forced me into doi...
A. 26 June 2009: If you don't do it and he does leave you, then you are better off without him. I think it is illegal to possess or share child pornography, and you are still technically legally a child, I think, in the UK.
h... (read in full...)
When things don't fit her, what do I do?
Q. Ok well now i have a new question . My wife has taken a turn in our relationship. First of all she is a bit overweight.(AND THAT DONT BOTHER ME) So yesterday she calls me from work and tells me that she is at this department store. And im im like ...
A. 26 June 2009: If she's anything like I was, she has a picture in her head about how she looks--and it doesn't match reality. The buying of sexy underwear is a way of denying that she's heavy (to herself, of course). She's trying to make herself feel better and it ... (read in full...)
DO men like to be woken up to a blow job?
Q. My friend said she gave her boyfriend a blow job in the morning just as he was about to wake up but she didn't tell me about his reaction and I was too scared to ask because he might think I was being too nosey. Is it annoying to be woken up to a ...
A. 26 June 2009: Well, if Mr. "Unsanitary" posts, I'll have to copy "I will not answer any questions before my morning coffee" to my clipboard in preparation! I knew I should have added a percentage like you did, TTM. I blame lack of caffeine. ... (read in full...)
I thought we would marry but she has moved 1/2 way across the country!
Q. So after 5 years and many ups and downs, she decides she would marry me. She says that after 2 failed marriages that lasted a total of 25 years she is scared.We got into a heated argument recently and she left. I recently talked to her and told she ...
A. 26 June 2009: From the information you've given us, it sounds to me like she needs to deal with her own issues before you'll have a stable relationship with her. I suppose there's always a chance, and you keep the dialogue going between you.
Has she seen a ther... (read in full...)
My world is crashing down on me... he's registered on a sex site but I'm am afraid to break up with him because of my financial situation
Q. I am devastated! My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. We have been having relationship/financial problems for sometime. I just lost my job and cannot maintain household without his income. I am 3 months behind on my ...
A. 26 June 2009: You allow yourself a few minutes to cry, to sob, to really let it all out. Then you pull yourself together, and start planning. Don't let yourself be made helpless by shock or anger. Plan plan plan, then execute the plan. Go do what you know you ... (read in full...)
DO men like to be woken up to a blow job?
Q. My friend said she gave her boyfriend a blow job in the morning just as he was about to wake up but she didn't tell me about his reaction and I was too scared to ask because he might think I was being too nosey. Is it annoying to be woken up to a ...
A. 26 June 2009: Are you kidding? If any man complains about this here, I'll copy/paste 100 times: "I will not answer any questions before my morning coffee" in the Forums.... (read in full...)
7 years apart. I didn't know, why did he do that to me?
Q. We're both in college and we liked each other, he found out i was older than him before I found out he is that much younger....so we kinda talked at the end of the quarter, he was not looking at me when he asked me how old i am, then i told him and ...
A. 26 June 2009: When I was 17, I was pretty self-absorbed and self-conscious. I could barely see past the end of my own little nose, let alone examine the effect my actions were having on others. He's a male 17 year old, and with all due respect to our male aunts ... (read in full...)
Why are men so into you one minute and run away the next?
Q. I really need some honest feedback here, especially from the men out there. I seem to have this pattern in my life which completely confounds and confuses me and I really need to find out why it keeps happening. I am beautiful, smart, sexy, kin...
A. 25 June 2009: A friend of mine is a beautiful, intelligent, fit and tech savvy woman who hasn't had a boyfriend in 9 years. She's getting desperate and that is all that emanates from her right now. Desperation. She's also one of the lousiest listeners I have ever ... (read in full...)
What should I do? Leave him because he's an asshole with anger problems?
Q. I've been with this guy for 9months and Its been ups and downs from the 5th month. When we use to go out he would stare at females and not hear a word I said. I finally got him to understand but it didn't last long. My b-day weekend we went out ...
A. 23 June 2009: Hugs to you. I know it's hard but you will thank yourself someday. And always remember, Aunt Tisha told you that you deserve to be treated like a princess, not a doormat. You work on that now--why did you let yourself be a doormat? Figure out why ... (read in full...)
I've never had an issue with my body until my boyfriend started making comments about my weight!
Q. I'm 5ft8 and a size 12-14 which ive always thought is pretty normal. My bodies in proportion and ive never really had an issue with it. Until i got with my boyfriend and now am sexually active, i was before but only little flings, ive never been ...
A. 22 June 2009: One more thought for you on the negative consequence choice; save up some lovely little barb/jokes of your own. If he says something like he did to the shop clerk, "If she doesn't fit into it, I'll starve her." Say to the shop clerk something that ... (read in full...)
I've never had an issue with my body until my boyfriend started making comments about my weight!
Q. I'm 5ft8 and a size 12-14 which ive always thought is pretty normal. My bodies in proportion and ive never really had an issue with it. Until i got with my boyfriend and now am sexually active, i was before but only little flings, ive never been ...
A. 22 June 2009: You've had some good advice; my tactic would be behavior modification. Reward the desired behaviors and ignore or give negative consequences to the unwanted behavior. Don't blindside him, though, let him know very lovingly but firmly that you really ... (read in full...)
What should I do? Leave him because he's an asshole with anger problems?
Q. I've been with this guy for 9months and Its been ups and downs from the 5th month. When we use to go out he would stare at females and not hear a word I said. I finally got him to understand but it didn't last long. My b-day weekend we went out ...
A. 20 June 2009: Run while you can, while you still have some spirit and feelings left! Just because he hasn't cheated on you (that you know of) doesn't make him the right guy for you. He sounds like a selfish creep to me. I had a friend who told me she would dress ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend lets her big dogs roam everywhere in the house and I don't feel comfortable with this
Q. My girlfriend is a total animal lover she has grown up all her life with many pets. Throughout the years she has added many different types of pets to her family. I’m not as much as an animal lover as she is, but I don’t mind all the different ty...
A. 20 June 2009: Oh, this one is a difference of opinion on the status of the dog in the family. Your girlfriend's default position seems to be that they are equal members of the family, if they are allowed up on the couches and beds. I can understand that, having a ... (read in full...)
My brother is driving me crazy with the way he's behaving! How do I get him to stop?
Q. My roommate/brother (long story) likes to walk in on my girlfriend of 3 years and me when we make love. My girl doesn't like it so talked to my brother but he keeps doing it. Anyway he went too far a few days ago. My girlfriend came over to my place ...
A. 20 June 2009: Is your brother mentally ill? Does he have a drug or alcohol abuse problem? What you've described is irrational behavior and I would suggest that you tell him you will speak with him AFTER he has initiated some sort of medical/professional ... (read in full...)
What does semen/cum taste like?
Q. I was wondering, my bf and i have been going out for almost a year and i really wanna "spice" things up for us, so i've decided i would give him a blowjob. My concern is when he cums what does it taste like? what does cum/semen taste like?...
A. 20 June 2009: You realize that you're underage for this activity, right? My suggestion is to wait a bit until you are older and less worried about a very basic question here. Asking this question tells me you haven't come into contact with his semen, otherwise ... (read in full...)
How can I get her to like him? How do I deal with being in a relationship which she doesn't approve of?
Q. I am 20 years old, just started going out with my bf who is 25. However, my mum doesnt really seem to approve. Its not because of the age gap though. I think its more to do with a few other things. My mum can be pretty judgemental and she assumes ...
A. 20 June 2009: I'm with Oldersister on this. What she said 100%.
In defense of your mom on this "superficial" thing; making a judgement about somebody because of the way they look happens all the time. Very few people see someone and then meet them without form... (read in full...)
My boyfriend looks down on "housewives" and it really bothers me!
Q. My bf looks down upon 'housewives'. This really upsets me because my mum is a 'housewife', as she doesnt work, she chose to give up a career and stay at home and dedicate herself 100% to our family and our house. I cant explain how much I appreciate ...
A. 20 June 2009: Thanks for connecting the dots here. You've got two sides of the same coin with this pair of questions. This one and question two here: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-can-i-get-her-to-like-him.html
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My boyfriend looks down on "housewives" and it really bothers me!
Q. My bf looks down upon 'housewives'. This really upsets me because my mum is a 'housewife', as she doesnt work, she chose to give up a career and stay at home and dedicate herself 100% to our family and our house. I cant explain how much I appreciate ...
A. 20 June 2009: How long have you two been dating? Have you discussed what would happen "if"? If you got married. If you had children. Or you can discuss general thoughts about life. Housewives are active productive members of society; they just don't get the ... (read in full...)
How can I get her to like him? How do I deal with being in a relationship which she doesn't approve of?
Q. I am 20 years old, just started going out with my bf who is 25. However, my mum doesnt really seem to approve. Its not because of the age gap though. I think its more to do with a few other things. My mum can be pretty judgemental and she assumes ...
A. 20 June 2009: Hi, did you post this question too? http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-boyfriend-looks-down-on-housewives-and-it.html
I ask because it seems to me that the two questions would be related. He doesn't like her, she doesn't like him. What's the orig... (read in full...)
My boyfriend looks down on "housewives" and it really bothers me!
Q. My bf looks down upon 'housewives'. This really upsets me because my mum is a 'housewife', as she doesnt work, she chose to give up a career and stay at home and dedicate herself 100% to our family and our house. I cant explain how much I appreciate ...
A. 20 June 2009: I think a huge part of a successful relationship is a mutual respect for each other. Mutual admiration is nice too, but respect is essential. That means respecting the person, respecting their family and the choices they have made.
This judg... (read in full...)
What can I do? I'm in a sexless marriage!
Q. I have been in a sexless marriage for about 4 years. My wife is a recovering alcoholic which means she has loads of behavior problems.There is no part of our relationship working at the moment. I want us to go to get help but she will not go. Where ...
A. 18 June 2009: I don't have much to offer you as an answer. I lost a good friend to this disease and let me tell you, it stinks. I think you have to decide to make sure that YOU are healthy and only then can you cope with the partner's problem.
If she will not ... (read in full...)
Rainwater, sperm and pregnancy!
Q. REVISED: I got a question from my friend here. my friend with his girl was messing around. Using his left hand, he fingers his girlfriend and he while masturbaiting on the right, using his right hand. then my friend came and put his semen and sp...
A. 17 June 2009: Look, I'm sure it's very worrying. But he'll find out in a short time if she is. Even if we tell you that there is a 99.94 percent probability that she is NOT pregnant, it sounds to me that he will worry about that little 0.06 percent probability ... (read in full...)
Rainwater, sperm and pregnancy!
Q. REVISED: I got a question from my friend here. my friend with his girl was messing around. Using his left hand, he fingers his girlfriend and he while masturbaiting on the right, using his right hand. then my friend came and put his semen and sp...
A. 15 June 2009: Here are some places to start your research. (Ask oldersister is correct; people don't have time to do this kind of statistical analysis.)
http:... (read in full...)
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