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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Rainwater, sperm and pregnancy!
Q. REVISED: I got a question from my friend here. my friend with his girl was messing around. Using his left hand, he fingers his girlfriend and he while masturbaiting on the right, using his right hand. then my friend came and put his semen and sp...
A. 17 June 2009: Look, I'm sure it's very worrying. But he'll find out in a short time if she is. Even if we tell you that there is a 99.94 percent probability that she is NOT pregnant, it sounds to me that he will worry about that little 0.06 percent probability ... (read in full...)
Rainwater, sperm and pregnancy!
Q. REVISED: I got a question from my friend here. my friend with his girl was messing around. Using his left hand, he fingers his girlfriend and he while masturbaiting on the right, using his right hand. then my friend came and put his semen and sp...
A. 15 June 2009: Here are some places to start your research. (Ask oldersister is correct; people don't have time to do this kind of statistical analysis.)
http:... (read in full...)
Does the condom fully protect her?
Q. If I cum inside my girlfriend while I'm wearing a condom, does any semen leak into her vagina? Because I'm really just cumming into the condom but I don't know if it like overflowed or something. Thanks....
A. 12 June 2009: And just to add a little more light reading to your stack, please familiarize yourself with this information:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
It may help prevent you becoming... (read in full...)
Is it right that american girls do oral sex easily ?
Q. I am french, so please excuse my english which is not very good. I have heard that in USA, american girls do oral sex (blowjobs) easily, it's not a big thing for them. To make love with them may be hard, but to be sucked may be easy. Is that...
A. 4 June 2009: You know, this question made me remember something about my travels in Europe back when I was in my 20s. I remember thinking that guys in certain countries were absolute jerks. To me, their brains seemed to be between their legs, and they seemed to ... (read in full...)
Stuck and don't know what to do now... any advice?
Q. hi, i recently told a guy i fancied him by email then then after a few days we had a convo on msn that went like this: (23:02) {xW!LL.EV!Ex}: heya (23:02) -: hi (23:03) {xW!LL.EV!Ex}: ta 4 the email (23:04) {xW!LL.EV!Ex}: u going 2 the qui...
A. 4 June 2009: I think it's time to close this thread; as the poster is not receiving the answers she seems to be looking for, and things seem to be getting a little testy. There's no need for that. Good luck on your quest!... (read in full...)
Deflecting his unwanted attention...I'm at a loss!
Q. Okay, here goes. Last summer I helped with job training for a group of people from outside agencies (it's a program we do at my work.) As was supposed to happen, they all went on to work other places. I had given my phone number to the whole gro...
A. 4 June 2009: Okay, you do need to be prepared to go to HR with this. Don't make the mistake of trying to be nice and winding up in a situation where you have to leave.
You have to be very plain and blunt with him. Hinting isn't working.
"I am starting to feel ... (read in full...)
Should I lose my virginity tomorrow? Please answer ASAP!
Q. I am soooo confused please can you help me asap!! before tomorrow if you can i am 15 and i am a virgin and i like this boy alot and he want to take my virginity really baaaad but i think thats all he wants to do but im not sure. hes 16 and has ha...
A. 4 June 2009: Icelordess is so right. So calm down, relax, you don't have to do anything at all. What on earth is the rush?
Right. You say you are confused. So let's take a look at the immediate situation and then what the outcome of what your choice(s) migh... (read in full...)
My mom has skin cancer, so do I, having a hard time coping. any suggestions to help?
Q. hey i need some advice from people ... i am only 15 and i am a carer. mi mum has skin cancer and i look after her all the time as shes always! in hospital .. recently i hav found out i have the same thing, im not alloud in the sun at all. i h...
A. 3 June 2009: Please do check those sites; there are people there that can be of practical assistance to you, as ArmyMedic and RifRaf suggested. Here, all we can offer are words.
I know you're very brave and are trying to cope and help your mum as best you can.... (read in full...)
Now that I'm pregnant he wants to have sex all the time and is getting aggressive about it
Q. alright so im 17 years old and my boyfriend is 28 years old. we have been together for a year and a half. the thing is he used to work at my school as a security guard. he left my school about 6 months ago to move onto another job. we met through ...
A. 3 June 2009: Here the links as promised:
National Domestic Violence Hotline.
Phone 1-800-799-SAFE (1-800-799-7233).
Website http://www.ndvh.org
Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network
Phone 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)
Website http://www.rainn.org
... (read in full...)
Now that I'm pregnant he wants to have sex all the time and is getting aggressive about it
Q. alright so im 17 years old and my boyfriend is 28 years old. we have been together for a year and a half. the thing is he used to work at my school as a security guard. he left my school about 6 months ago to move onto another job. we met through ...
A. 3 June 2009: You can tell your parents. It's just that it's going to be hard to start the conversation. Think this through. You are pregnant. You are going to start showing. Your parents are going to find out sooner or later. Tell them now, and this will give ... (read in full...)
How do you spot girls like this and not have to wait so long to have sex?
Q. Hi I've been dating this girl for about 3 months now. She has consistently told me she wants to wait for sex. The first time I attempted was very early on, about the third date, when she told me she wants to wait at least another month or two. I ...
A. 3 June 2009: So the first time you told her that physical connection is important to you is when you broke up with her? Look, you may be a very physical guy who does need to express affection sexually. But in order to have a healthy relationship with another ... (read in full...)
7 month anniversary..sexy pictures?
Q. okkay so me and my long distace boyfriend have been together for 6 months our 7 month annevirserry is coming up soon and i dont know what to do for him! i cant send him any thing in the mail because i dont know i send him something and get it back. ...
A. 3 June 2009: Wait a sec, you don't know his physical address? You mail something to him and it is returned to you? What does the post office mark on the package or letter? There should be a reason for return indicated on the front of the envelope. I would be ... (read in full...)
Is it right that american girls do oral sex easily ?
Q. I am french, so please excuse my english which is not very good. I have heard that in USA, american girls do oral sex (blowjobs) easily, it's not a big thing for them. To make love with them may be hard, but to be sucked may be easy. Is that...
A. 3 June 2009: Actually, before we pillory this young man for asking a question about sex on a sex and dating site, he does have some foundation for the question. In the news here, reports from respected news sources indicate that oral sex is considered not really ... (read in full...)
When should I tell him? Before we meet, or in person?
Q. Hi, I have asked a couple of questions before and want to thank firsthand for the good answers. I met this guy by accident, over the phone, it was a work related conversation that led to talk about us and exchange phone numbers. I called him a co...
A. 3 June 2009: Thank you for the followup. If he's seen your pictures, then why would he leap to the worst case scenario? I think your friends do have a point, that you are actually expecting the worst. You're dropping hints there's something that you need to tell ... (read in full...)
Do I have a chance with this 40 year old bachelor? Or is he too set in his ways?
Q. I play bowls each week with 2 guys who are mates. They are both 40, never married and not had girlfriends for at least 10 years. They seem to be terrified of dating women. They are attractive and I have noticed women come on to them but it seems to ...
A. 3 June 2009: Why do you like the one guy? What makes him appealing to you? Maybe you could try to work out what kind of women he finds attractive. But I am kind of thinking what the first poster mentioned as a possibility. Are they a couple? If you've got a ... (read in full...)
I'm not invited on holiday as my boyfriend says "It's a lads thing!"
Q. Hi my boyfriend and I have been together for 3.5 years. He normally goes away with the "lads" on holidays without me. When he goes he usually doesnt contact me very often and we usually would be have alot of contact during the day normally. He's ...
A. 3 June 2009: Hi, thank you for the follow up. I think you do have reason to expect to go away on holiday together. You said he's self-employed, so he can take time off when he wants. I know this is a tougher economy so maybe he's feeling the pinch, but still... ... (read in full...)
I think I have had a miscarriage... Help!
Q. I shall just cut a VERY long story short, I have been taking birth control and I think I may have been pregnant. I just started taking birth control a couple of weeks and I had some light brown spotting and since I woke up today, I have had lots of ...
A. 3 June 2009: http://www.nhsdirect.nhs.uk/zone.aspx?zonename=Health_Zone
Please contact them as soon as you can. There's no point in risking your health because you don't want to be a bother to someone! In my experience, not dealing with it right away causes more... (read in full...)
When should I tell him? Before we meet, or in person?
Q. Hi, I have asked a couple of questions before and want to thank firsthand for the good answers. I met this guy by accident, over the phone, it was a work related conversation that led to talk about us and exchange phone numbers. I called him a co...
A. 3 June 2009: You can like someone as being a wonderful person but not be physically attracted to them. It happens all the time to both genders. It's not a nice thing when it happens, but attraction is a tricky thing. I knew a guy who was smart, successful but ... (read in full...)
I'm not invited on holiday as my boyfriend says "It's a lads thing!"
Q. Hi my boyfriend and I have been together for 3.5 years. He normally goes away with the "lads" on holidays without me. When he goes he usually doesnt contact me very often and we usually would be have alot of contact during the day normally. He's ...
A. 3 June 2009: I guess I have a question for you about how much time he spends with the lads now without you. If the answer is, "not very much", then maybe he does need that time to be a "lad", for just 2 weeks out of 52. If the answer is, "he goes out with them ... (read in full...)
I don't want to feel like a cheat!
Q. I DON'T WANT TO FEEL LIKE A CHEAT! I am visiting my LDR boyfriend who I love dearly this weekend. As coincedence has it - there is another guy who I know from the same town who I havn't seen for ages but he desperately wants to meet up with me. Ther...
A. 3 June 2009: Does your boyfriend know you're meeting this guy? Maybe you're feeling guilty because of the "ifs". If only I wasn't with my new wonderful boyfriend. If only he had been single at the same time I was. If only we had said how we felt about each other ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling guilty and afraid I'm going to start an affair! But I can't bear the thought of never seeing him again!
Q. Hi Just looking for some friendly advice... Im 18 and have left school officially, still in school for study time until next week. Like many other posters on this site, there is this teacher I am interested in; and so on, you get the picture...
A. 2 June 2009: No one said life was going to be easy. (Boy, when did I become my mother? Egads.) Sorry, let me try to put the situation in another frame for you, perhaps it'll give you a wider perspective.
Welcome to the wonderful world of wanting something that... (read in full...)
I'm getting so frustrated. What can we do to get pregnant?
Q. My fiance and I have been in an relationship for a little over 5 years, and we have been trying to have a baby for a year now and nothing happened. He keeps asking me if I'm pregnant and why I'm not pregnant yet. I'm scared it might be me because he ...
A. 2 June 2009: Your first stop is to see your gyn and make sure all's well with you. If your fiance asks again after this why you're not pregnant, tell him you checked out fine, it's now his turn to visit the doctor. I think kings in olden days had the royal ... (read in full...)
Anyone else ever experience this? One of my fallopian tubes is blocked and I wish to become pregnant
Q. I was tested a couple of years ago and I was informed that one of my fallopian tubes are blocked. I am 32 in a relationship with a wonderful man and wish to get pregnant. I really wanted to go the natural route as oppose to invitro or tubular ...
A. 3 April 2009: I know someone who had one ovary removed in her 20s. She went on to have two children. I haven't quizzed my other friends as to their potential fertility.
As long as you have one functioning ovary with an unblocked Fallopian tube, and no other issu... (read in full...)
Protection always used but could she be pregnant?
Q. I am 16 I have had sex with my girl a lot of times with protection I never go without protection.None of the condoms broke each time I did it I just wanna kno could she be pregnant?...
A. 1 April 2009: It is a possibility, as damluvaam points out, none of them are 100% effective (though tubal ligation and vasectomy seem to give the very best results). Sounds like you could use some reliable information about birth control. Start here:
h... (read in full...)
How long does sperm stay alive?
Q. Ok, I need to know the real answer to my question.. I keep hearing different things and I'm unsure. If a couple uses the pull-out method (cum in your belly and around the vajina). You go to the restroom and wipe but it goes in and around your vaji...
A. 1 April 2009: Statistically, about 30 women out of 100 will get pregnant using the 'pull-out' method of contraception over the course of a year. I think that's a batting average of .300, and that's considered really good in baseball. It's not so great if you ... (read in full...)
He doesn't satisfy me like I do him... How can I tell him to try harder?
Q. When I have sex with my man, I always give him oral but he only touches me down there and never gives me oral. I don't want to ask for it, because he might not want to do it, and I don't want him to do anything he's not comfortable with but it d...
A. 25 March 2009: Can you just talk with him when you two are not in bed? Have a calm, loving conversation about sex in general and then about how sex is in specific for you? Tell him about how wonderful it feels when he does -----. Say that you are feeling a bit ... (read in full...)
I need opinions here... Is it true...?
Q. Is it true that egg whites are safe to use as lube for sex and can they help you to get pregnant?...
A. 24 March 2009: That is really a good question for your gynecologist. I'm pretty sure that she or he will have some opinion on its safety and efficacy for lube and for conceiving. I googled it and see that it is a folk remedy for getting pregnant. But honestly, I'd ... (read in full...)
Husband wants me to have family in room when I give birth...im not so keen..
Q. Hi, im preganant and baby due in august. Me and my husband are both thrilled but theres 1 aspect im not happy with.... I am having a hospital birth and so far a vaginal birth which is all good but my husband wants his parents and possibly som...
A. 24 March 2009: Who are the selfish ones? The ones insisting that they be present during what is essentially one of a woman's most important moments? Or the one who has some modicum of privacy and would like to keep it from being a circus?
Tell your husband that... (read in full...)
My b/f touches me in intimate places whenever he feels like it! Normal?
Q. Hello there, My boyfriend of 7 years likes to come up to me and touch my breasts and private area whenever he feels like. When I tried to tell him stop because I am in the middle of something, he would ask me if I would be happier if he di...
A. 24 March 2009: You can be happy that he finds you attractive. You are more than justified in asking him to respect your reasonable wishes. I personally think it's rude and a sign that he lacks some understanding of your feelings. Why do his urges to touch override ... (read in full...)
Road trip, bereavement and cancer advice wanted
Q. Dear Cupids, At last my question for you all :D. Very soon i am of to America on holiday with my friend and his wife. We are going to be road tripping around LA – Phoenix – Flagstaff – Vegas areas. However, it isn’t just a holiday, there a...
A. 21 March 2009: Pepper and I make a great team! We have some fun songs already. "Butt wag!" "Coffee spray!" "Nasal spray!" (Sorry, inside jokes.) I'm pretty sure you'll be just fine. You're trying to be perfect for people who are in pain--bereaved or diagnosed with ... (read in full...)
Should I let my b/f go? I still love him very much
Q. I'm going to be really honest. I had been with my bf for 3 years. All of our relationship, I introduced my bf to my family and friend but my bf never introduce me to any of his friends or family except only to his son, 6 yr old. He got divorce once. ...
A. 20 March 2009: Hi, jdo, I see your dilemma. You love him and want him back, but he is angry with you and wants to see if there is someone better out there. Star and troubledtoomuch have given you great advice. I wanted to focus on something you said early on; and ... (read in full...)
Coil problems!
Q. Hiya, I think I might be pregnant... I've had a coil for the last two and half years. Oover the last couple of months every time me and my partner have sex I have been having pains very deep pains inside... we decided to take things a bit slower and ...
A. 20 March 2009: Absolutely see your doctor soonest if not earlier!
From plannedparenthood.org: "Tell your health care provider immediately if you
find the length of the string ends to be shorter or longer than they were at first, when you feel for them with yo... (read in full...)
Small red spots on penis?
Q. i have like small red spot like sores on the head of my penis. anyone have any idea what it is? i'm confuse and dont want to have to go to the doctor because i'm so embarased. thanks...
A. 19 March 2009: There are a few things it could be. Scabies, contact dermatitis, HPV, herpes... just to name some of them. There's no reason NOT to go to the doctor, being embarassed now is NOTHING how you could be embarassed if you let it get worse and than have ... (read in full...)
Caught b/f masturbating..wonder if he does it all the time?
Q. Hi, hopefully I can get some advice. Last week I caught my boyfriend masterbating. I had always assumed that he did it because pretty much everyone does, but I was really offended that he would do it when I was right in the other room. I tried ...
A. 19 March 2009: Hi, I think you might be overthinking this whole thing. He's not masturbating ALL the time, right? So let it go. I think sometimes people in relationships get the sense that they own the other person's body and all of its sexual expression. It's ... (read in full...)
Why won't he take my clothes off or touch me?
Q. i like this guy, ihave been the one to ask him to have sex when we do it he won't tkake my cloth off, he will alwys do it from the back and won't evene take my underwear off. he won't touch my body, he ...
A. 19 March 2009: It certainly doesn't sound like lovemaking to me. It reads more like you are servicing his needs. I know you like him, but are you really sure he likes you? Because it doesn't sound like he does to me. Generally, sex between two people who like each ... (read in full...)
Am I crazy for thinking his behavior is not normal?
Q. I don't know if it is just me but my gut is really telling me differently. My husband of 10 years works in an all woman environment. It really didn't bother me at first till one of the women started calling him uncontrollably. I spoke with him about ...
A. 19 March 2009: It doesn't sound normal that he becomes a raving lunatic when you want to discuss this with him. Is this the only time he's been a raving lunatic? Or are there other triggers for him?
I would not approach her or her husband; it might just make you ... (read in full...)
I don't know what to consider this? Sexual assault?
Q. I'm trying to figure out what happened. There is a bar that i frequently go to and yesterday, St. Patrick's Day I met one of my friends up there for a little celebration. We began bar hopping on the strip and i we both ended back up at the bar we...
A. 19 March 2009: http://www.rainn.org/get-information/types-of-sexual-assault/drug-facilitated-assault
This might help you in your decision. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Could use a shoulder to lean on
Q. First of all..... Holy shit. Where to begin... I left my job for another in another overseas. My fiancee ( almost 6 years together) had wanted us to end up there eventually... Sacrifices had to be made in order to achieve this. Let m...
A. 19 March 2009: Wow. So in less than 2 months she finds another guy she wants to boink already? And she has figured out a very creative way to blame you for this? Wow. That is chutzpah. That is really chutzpah.
(My favorite definition of chutzpah is that it is the ... (read in full...)
I don't know what to consider this? Sexual assault?
Q. I'm trying to figure out what happened. There is a bar that i frequently go to and yesterday, St. Patrick's Day I met one of my friends up there for a little celebration. We began bar hopping on the strip and i we both ended back up at the bar we...
A. 19 March 2009: I think the rule is that if you are so drunk that you are incoherent, that you are not capable of consent. Therefore, it is a sexual assault. Whether or not you remember isn't the issue; it's that you were not in a position to say "no" if you were ... (read in full...)
My wife's past...
Q. During the 8 years of my marriage my wife filtered out all sorts of sexual things that she did or happened to her. After years of dealing with them (nightmares and flashbacks) I finally seemed to come to terms with them. I had real problems because ...
A. 19 March 2009: Okay, you both are in pain. And you both need help. I don't understand why some people have such traumatic reactions to their partner's pasts, but they do, and those emotions are real. You can't help how you're feeling. What you can do is ... (read in full...)
Dating tips for being in a backwards town
Q. I am currently attending a small boarding school with a rigorous curriculum that consumes most of my life. Coming from a class just shy of 50 students there is not much of a dating pool. I am about to graduate and go home for the summer before I ...
A. 19 March 2009: My brother had the most amazing luck with meeting girls at your age because he was a lifeguard at the local pool. There were all ages of people too, and he got to know a lot of them. Do you have a summer job lined up?
Just talk to everyone you meet... (read in full...)
Questions the doctor will ask me...
Q. Hello, I'm 16 and I'm going to have the contraceptive implant today, my mum suggested this but she thinks I'm a virgin. I know my doctor will ask if I'm sexually active and I was wondering will I get into trouble with the law if I tell my doctor I ...
A. 18 March 2009: Implants seem to be very effective in preventing pregnancy. At least this one is: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control/birth-control-implant-implanon-4243.htm
In comparison with other forms of birth control:
http:... (read in full...)
Road trip, bereavement and cancer advice wanted
Q. Dear Cupids, At last my question for you all :D. Very soon i am of to America on holiday with my friend and his wife. We are going to be road tripping around LA – Phoenix – Flagstaff – Vegas areas. However, it isn’t just a holiday, there a...
A. 17 March 2009: Hi Star, wow, that's quite a road trip you have planned there. All you need is the Border Police and some extraterrestrials and you can sell it to Hollywood.
Now, seriously, the two things you are asking about, how to deal with someone who has lost... (read in full...)
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