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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Is she more confused then me? What gives...
Q. About 2 weeks ago my wife out of no where says she wants a divorce. We have been together eight years and although tings have been very rough at times we have always made it through. We are still good friends and still live together at the moment ...
A. 2 March 2009: She sounds very confused. I would be confused in your situation too, if I were trying to understand a partner who was all over the map.
The fact she's dating someone else already? And she only told you two weeks ago that things were so bad she want... (read in full...)
Does this mean my wife has desires for someone else?
Q. My wife of 8 years says to me, "I just don't feel the same for you as I did when we married". Does this mean that she has desires for someone else?...
A. 2 March 2009: Does this mean she has feelings for someone else? Not necessarily. What it does mean is that she doesn't feel the same way about you.
Don't take your eyes off the ball here and get distracted by imagining things. You need to talk with her about YOUR... (read in full...)
Does he care about what happened to me in my past or does he just want to score?
Q. This is really weird for me to say or ask about so please bear with me. I'm 20 and have a boyfriend the same age, I've been with him for like 2 months. We never had sex and I told him I'm not ready, I'm a virgin he is not. We just make out, h...
A. 2 March 2009: Okay, this guy has a hearing problem. So you need to help him with that. "NO!" means no. I think it's possible he also has a compassion problem, in that he can't understand your point of view, he can only push forward. Some guys believe that it's up ... (read in full...)
How do you let go of someone that love & care for so much?
Q. How do you let go of someone who you care for so much and love? I think I need to break up with my bf because he can be very disrespectful towards me, especially when he has been drinking. But the thing is, he can be the best bf I have ever had ...
A. 2 March 2009: You've had excellent advice, so I'm only speaking to the last comment in your follow up: If he promises to change, just say, "Good for you! I'm sure your next girlfriend will appreciate that. No one likes to be disrespected, so if you can get that ... (read in full...)
She doesn't seem to be happy with me any more... should I just let her go?
Q. Hi there to all of you aunt's out there. Well the story went like this, me and my g/f made love 2 days ago and I completely undressed her that time (but I forgot to tell her earlier that I want to have a regular day with her next time I come over...
A. 2 March 2009: Tomas has given such excellent advice I don't really have much more to offer you.
I can only say that her feelings are HER problem, she has to own them and not blame you for her own insecurities. She sounds very immature to me, and that prob... (read in full...)
Been out a few times, didn't work out..confused!
Q. Hi, im only 14 and i dont care if people say 'your too young to be in love'. I am. I am really confused about me and this boy. We have been out a few times, and they didnt work out. We still both love eachother, but we are scared to try it again. He ...
A. 2 March 2009: Could you be more specific about how "things didn't work out?" Those words are in the passive tense, which usually means that someone is trying to avoid assigning 'blame', which I would call responsibility. What didn't work? Who did what to whom? ... (read in full...)
He doesn't know whether he wants to be with me or his ex!!!
Q. Almost three weeks ago, my boyfriend decided that he needed time because he was confused about wanting to be with me or his ex girlfriend. I told him that I would give him time, and that is what I did. I started no contact and for almost three ...
A. 2 March 2009: Hi, bobbu, it sounds to me that you did the right thing for yourself. If he's so confused and ambivalent about his ex after all this time, I'll bet he continues being so. He was trying to keep you on a string in case things didn't work out with her, ... (read in full...)
How can guys be so sleazy?
Q. There are these two guys who are like best friends that I know. They both sleep around and when we went to a party once, one of them was having sex with a random girl and his friend joined him after a while and they "double teamed" her. The guys ...
A. 2 March 2009: One of my measures of a person's character is finding out what he or she is proud of. What is it that they think they're really good at, or what do they like to do? Your description of what they think is a proud moment speaks volumes about them.
W... (read in full...)
I'm so sick of guessing what is going on with him!
Q. I know this man loves me his friends tell me. They say he really loves you but you should move on. What does that mean. I know he is afraid of trusting when in a relationship. He says he loves me in many ways but why doesnt he just say he loves ...
A. 2 March 2009: It sounds like you're banging your head against a wall. Him being the wall. The thing that intrigues me is that his friends have told you to move on. If they are his close friends, then they know something you don't. Either they know his past, which ... (read in full...)
How far does the penis have to be in, in order to get pregnant?
Q. Me and my boyfriend had unprotected sex a couple of hours ago, (the worst idea we've ever had) but when he comed he didn't fully pull out but he wasn't anywhere near totally in, it was as he pulled out he did. What are the chances of becoming ...
A. 2 March 2009: Here's a video for your sex education: http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
You've had some good advice here. Please be sensible from now on! I hope things turn out well for you. Take... (read in full...)
Bad pussy!!!!
Q. Hi I noticed something that never happens to me before and I need some help. After I have my period, my pussy really smells terrible. I didn't tell my husband because I'm ashamed of it. I've no idea why and only happens twice now. Once my period is ...
A. 2 March 2009: Bad smells are a way of our body telling us that we need to see a doctor! You might have a hidden infection that is causing the foul odor. Best to get it checked out. It may be nothing, but then you can ask her (or him) for some safe ways to stay ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend just doesn't seem that into me sometimes...
Q. My boyfriend just doesn't seem interested sometimes, and it really hurts because I'm really into him, but sometimes I feel like he doesn't want me any more? I don't want to lose him, but what do O do :(??...
A. 2 March 2009: My experience is that guys don't like clingy girls. They like girls who are confident and independent. So if I were you I'd be very busy with my friends and school and after-school activities. Give him a chance to miss you, be a little unavailable ... (read in full...)
I filed charges against my wife because she pulled a knife on me
Q. a month ago my wife was arrested for domestic violence against me her husband She had threatened me with a knife during an argument over finances. The incident lasted 5 minutes and she calmed down immediately I was angry and called 911 ...
A. 2 March 2009: I would advise that you get a lawyer. I think that a domestic violence charge cannot be withdrawn by the plaintiff after the defendant has been arrested and charged. This is to prevent abused spouses from being intimidated into dropping charges--the ... (read in full...)
Is this diet safe?
Q. This is the new diet I want to try... One day eat 200 cals, the next 400, the next 600, and then 200 again and repeat the 3 day cycle over and over again. Also, to do half an hour of exercise 3 times a week. Will I lose weight by this and how much...
A. 2 March 2009: Here are all your answers from yesterday:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-this-really-a-size-zero-diet-.html
Possible side effects of rapid weight loss are: gallstones, dehydration, malnutrition, electrolyte imbalance, headaches, irritabi... (read in full...)
Is this really a size zero diet?
Q. If I do a 2-4-6 diet, for example, one day fast, the next day eat 200 cals, the next day 400 cals, the next 600 cals, and then the next fast again, and go round in this cycle would it be possible to get to size zero? With only doing small exersise, ...
A. 28 February 2009: You've had some great advice. I just wanted to emphasize that if you try this diet, you will actually wind up GAINING weight. Why? Because the calorie amounts you listed are a starvation level. The body recognizes this, and goes into starvation ... (read in full...)
Is 32 years... old???
Q. Is 32 old? In people's eyes and in comparison to some still in their 20's?...
A. 28 February 2009: Willow, when was the last time you saw your GP?... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and really want a baby! I'm depressed!
Q. hiyyahh help me i realy want a baby and i'm 13 all my mates are sick of me twisting about it i feel depressed because i want one that bad i crave it ive saved money up and thought it through the only thing i dont want to tell my perants i k...
A. 27 February 2009: See, the problem with that is if he gets you pregnant, that's pretty much proof that he had sex with you. That's illegal at your age. So then he'd be likely to get in some major legal trouble and wind up on the sex offenders registry. Honey, some ... (read in full...)
Could sex be used as a way to celebrate friendship?
Q. I have been working as an English teacher here in Poland. In about a month I am going to leave Poland and return to my home country. My issue involves two women. One woman is also an English teacher at the same language school that I teach at....
A. 27 February 2009: Martini, just to clarify for you. I didn't use the words "degrading" or "disrespectable". I did say that I would lose respect for him; perhaps a very subtle difference but I try to choose my words carefully. I said incredulity, which means I ... (read in full...)
Should I give the green light to my friend to have sex with my mom?
Q. Hello… My friend wants to have sex with my mum. They are both single. i care for them both and want them to be happy. I know my mum thinks my friend is cute. My friend said that he has liked her since we both were in high school. She is in her 4...
A. 27 February 2009: Um, one teensy question. You say your mom thinks your friend is cute. That is a long way from saying that she wants to sleep with him. A looooong way. Have you actually sat down and talked with your mom, and asked her if she wants to bed your ... (read in full...)
I'm in a sexless marriage wanting more
Q. I'm in a sexless marriage now for over a year--irregular for 3 years prior to that. counseling hasn't seemed to help. I've been seriously thinking of a "friends with benefits" type of relationship rather than an outright affair and would like to ...
A. 27 February 2009: "Other than the intimacy," you're merely roommates now. I understand your frustration; years with out physical closeness let alone lovemaking must be very cold and lonely years. I don't blame you one bit for seeking a solution to this emptiness ... (read in full...)
Is 32 years... old???
Q. Is 32 old? In people's eyes and in comparison to some still in their 20's?...
A. 27 February 2009: I'd love to be 32 again. It's young to me. I guess it feels old to you, though. I'm going to guess that it doesn't matter how many people tell you it's young, or that age is relative, you've decided it's old.
To a 10 year old, it's old. To a 48 year... (read in full...)
I want to break up but I'm afraid of what he'll say about me
Q. hello dear cupid friends francy is back on track again............ lol... well i have a problem with my current boyfriend , we have been dating for a year and two months now...... the thing is ,he once cheated on me with a girl in the same town as ...
A. 27 February 2009: Hold your head high, and if he starts saying bad things about you, simply say scornfully "Oh, he doesn't take rejection very well. I'm afraid his poor little feelings are hurt, so he's saying silly things to make himself feel better." Then laugh, ... (read in full...)
Wondering if the guy I'm seeing is also seeing hookers...
Q. Wondering if the guy I'm seeing is also seeing hookers.. I found dozens and dozens of emails in his account going back and forth with hookers on Craigslist.He travels a lot, and most of the cities he was in, he seemed to correspond with the hookers ...
A. 27 February 2009: Uh huh. Right. So he's traveling for business, gets bored, and then emails hookers, then talks to them on the phone. Just because he's bored in his hotel room. I would think some guys would order up the pay-per-view porn film and have a wank if they ... (read in full...)
Could sex be used as a way to celebrate friendship?
Q. I have been working as an English teacher here in Poland. In about a month I am going to leave Poland and return to my home country. My issue involves two women. One woman is also an English teacher at the same language school that I teach at....
A. 27 February 2009: It is an interesting line: sex as celebration of friendship. I think though, that if either one of them had been interested in having a one-night stand with you (which essentially what this is), they would have let you know already. I'm trying to ... (read in full...)
I think she's cheating as she's alot wider down there than she used to be...
Q. i think my girlfriend may be having sex with some one else. she is a lot wider down there than what she used to be, i have been seeing her for a year know and i dont fit aswell as i used to. am i write in thinking this way. can some one help me out ...
A. 27 February 2009: Does anyone ever really know that their partner is unfaithful? I think strong relationships are built on trust and respect. If there is a lack of trust, we have to examine the reason for that. Previous history of cheating, suspicious behavior, those ... (read in full...)
He wants to go on a trip without me and I don't feel comfortable about it!
Q. Dear Cupid, I have just 6 months ago taken my husband back after a few years apart. We separated somewhat ammicably after he started seeing another woman (which only lasted a few months). It was hard but I got over it and we became friends a...
A. 27 February 2009: No, you are not being unreasonable. As far as I know, Greek Islands have hotels, unless things have changed drastically since I've been there? And there are many private guest houses, goodness, you can't get off a ferry there without seeing people ... (read in full...)
Wearing previous engagement ring
Q. My girlfriend insists on wearing previous engagement rings -- yes, she has a few of them -- when we go out together. When I introduced her to my family, my sister took me aside and asked if I had something to tell her ... of course she drew the ...
A. 27 February 2009: Thanks for the follow up. I would grant her the first one, from her dead fiance, on the right hand ring finger, or any other finger but the left ring finger. The other ones, well, I guess they are hers now, but I still question what's going through ... (read in full...)
Could she be pregnant from dry humping
Q. Ok, me and my girl friend were dry humping. When I came, the seamon went through my pants(like over the waist part thing). And it got onto her tights, and onto her panties as well. She went to the bathroom and removed the tights and underwear af...
A. 27 February 2009: I found you a link which may help answer your question:
http://www.parents.com/getting-pregnant/how-to/signs-pregnancy/13-signs-you-may-be-pregnant/
Also look at http://www.webmd.com/baby/guide/pregnancy-am-i-pregnant
I think buying a test would b... (read in full...)
Could she be pregnant even with us using a condom?
Q. hi to all of you out there. well me and my g/f had sex on the 24th and we used a brand new condom and i came inside her with the condom on my penis. could she be pregnant even thought the condom didnt break or it didnt have any leakage. this morning ...
A. 27 February 2009: It's unlikely that a fertilized egg (the pre-embryo) would have implanted that quickly. It takes a little while for it to travel and implant and start the hormonal changes. There is a pill called Plan B that can be taken in the case of contraception ... (read in full...)
My question is what we can do to make the sex somewhat enjoyable and special for the both of us?
Q. Hi, I'm 16 and a sophomore in highschool. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year. I think it's safe to say that we're very much in love. He's my bestfriend first and then my boyfriend. I can tell him anything. We haven't had sex yet. ...
A. 27 February 2009: You should work up to it with no timetable or schedule in mind. Lots of foreplay, you should be as aroused as possible--if you're not, then don't try, that's when it will hurt. When a woman is really aroused, her vagina will kind of balloon inwards, ... (read in full...)
My question is what we can do to make the sex somewhat enjoyable and special for the both of us?
Q. Hi, I'm 16 and a sophomore in highschool. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year. I think it's safe to say that we're very much in love. He's my bestfriend first and then my boyfriend. I can tell him anything. We haven't had sex yet. ...
A. 26 February 2009: Remember that he could get in trouble if you are below age of consent. It varies by state, so make sure you have all the facts there. There's no point in getting him on the sex offender's registry if you're not quite ready. Lecture over.
Right, I ha... (read in full...)
How soon is too soon to propose?
Q. Hi Auntys and Uncles I really need your opinions advice on this.. To put it simply I want your opinions on how soon into a relationship is too early to propose? The complicated bit is my divorce from my my ex is not yet final(will be in 5wks) a...
A. 26 February 2009: Now I understand why you wanted to get engaged; you need the reassurance that he loves you too. I think with that realization, you can sit back and enjoy the courtship and the budding relationship without stressing over a firm commitment at this ... (read in full...)
I can't figure out my ex's purpose
Q. My ex broke up with me in a text message and wouldn't call me to discuss it until I called her. Then she promised another call that never came. Finally I emailed her asking for closure and she gave it to me, saying she'd want nothing more than for ...
A. 26 February 2009: She broke up with you by TEXT????? And you're still speaking to her??????
She's either a coward or selfish bitch. But a true coward wouldn't be able to ask you for help after she dumped you by text. A bitch would break up by text, and would stil... (read in full...)
Wearing previous engagement ring
Q. My girlfriend insists on wearing previous engagement rings -- yes, she has a few of them -- when we go out together. When I introduced her to my family, my sister took me aside and asked if I had something to tell her ... of course she drew the ...
A. 26 February 2009: Emily, now THAT is brilliant. Great idea! Poster, what she said.... (read in full...)
How soon is too soon to propose?
Q. Hi Auntys and Uncles I really need your opinions advice on this.. To put it simply I want your opinions on how soon into a relationship is too early to propose? The complicated bit is my divorce from my my ex is not yet final(will be in 5wks) a...
A. 26 February 2009: Why not just tell him that you love him and hope you'll never be apart from him? This notion of having to get engaged to let the world know your feelings seems like it would be made by an insecure or immature person.
You're both technically stil... (read in full...)
Wearing previous engagement ring
Q. My girlfriend insists on wearing previous engagement rings -- yes, she has a few of them -- when we go out together. When I introduced her to my family, my sister took me aside and asked if I had something to tell her ... of course she drew the ...
A. 26 February 2009: Oh, forgot to add, I think most sensible women would return an engagement ring if it didn't work out. The fact that she has so many and has kept them? Hmmmm.... (read in full...)
Wearing previous engagement ring
Q. My girlfriend insists on wearing previous engagement rings -- yes, she has a few of them -- when we go out together. When I introduced her to my family, my sister took me aside and asked if I had something to tell her ... of course she drew the ...
A. 26 February 2009: I think she's the one who is out of line here. Are you quite sure she's not wearing them to torque you up? Tell her that you took a poll of an anonymous group of women and they virtually unanimously agreed that she was being obtuse about this. Yes, ... (read in full...)
My husband is "gay for pay"?
Q. Earlier this week I came home from work and found my husband in the living room on the floor writhing with another guy. The windows were blacked out. I asked him what the hell he was doing, and he was brazen enough to say he was making guy-on-gu...
A. 26 February 2009: Ha! He has an interesting way of earning extra income. Funny, he didn't seem to take into consideration the risks to YOUR health and well-being. He didn't seem to understand that if YOU catch an STD that leads to cancer or AIDS, he's deprived your ... (read in full...)
On penis size, debunking the myths
Q. Usually, it's women who have worries about our appearance. We usually wonder if this is too big, if this is too small, too short, too tall, etc. We usually get the same answer: "It's the inside that counts". And it's true, albeit hard to believe. I ...
A. 26 February 2009: *applauding* A very good article and I think that I will direct any future "is my penis size okay?" questions straight here. Thank you very much for this!
And just to add something that is painfully obvious to us women but often seems to be over... (read in full...)
What do women 'really' want?
Q. I've come to the realisation that when women talk about they want in men, the words cannot be trusted 100% - sure they may be some truth in what they say but not entirely or either not at all. Actions and behaviour prove the opposite. Women ten...
A. 26 February 2009: With all due respect, at your tender age of 18-21, I sincerely doubt that you have had much experience with a wide range of people, so your perspective might be limited to a set group of women of a certain age and maturity level. Sweeping ... (read in full...)
He cannot handle any emotions and I am the one who suffers for it
Q. He gets angry over things I dont cause and then turns it around and says I caused it. He then overthinks the event and talks to all his older women friends he is 53 they are 65-70. I feel that they are enabling his abusive behavior since they ...
A. 26 February 2009: I think you have hit the nail on the head: if he will not take responsibility for his actions, how can the relationship move on? His jealousy doesn't cause him to be abusive, HE is abusive, let's put the blame where it lies.
I think if you are wave... (read in full...)
I think she's cheating as she's alot wider down there than she used to be...
Q. i think my girlfriend may be having sex with some one else. she is a lot wider down there than what she used to be, i have been seeing her for a year know and i dont fit aswell as i used to. am i write in thinking this way. can some one help me out ...
A. 25 February 2009: Are you sure you're not shrinking? Look, if your girlfriend is the same age as you, she may be entering or is in menopause. As women age, their pelvic muscles may weaken, and that may be causing the change you refer to as being 'wider.'
Let's face... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and really want a baby! I'm depressed!
Q. hiyyahh help me i realy want a baby and i'm 13 all my mates are sick of me twisting about it i feel depressed because i want one that bad i crave it ive saved money up and thought it through the only thing i dont want to tell my perants i k...
A. 19 February 2009: If you say that you need a baby to feel complete, then you aren't really wanting to be a mother, you want something that will love you back unconditionally. I know that you are feeling this very deeply and I know that it matters a lot to you right ... (read in full...)
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