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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Road trip, bereavement and cancer advice wanted
Q. Dear Cupids, At last my question for you all :D. Very soon i am of to America on holiday with my friend and his wife. We are going to be road tripping around LA – Phoenix – Flagstaff – Vegas areas. However, it isn’t just a holiday, there a...
A. 21 March 2009: Pepper and I make a great team! We have some fun songs already. "Butt wag!" "Coffee spray!" "Nasal spray!" (Sorry, inside jokes.) I'm pretty sure you'll be just fine. You're trying to be perfect for people who are in pain--bereaved or diagnosed with ... (read in full...)
Questions the doctor will ask me...
Q. Hello, I'm 16 and I'm going to have the contraceptive implant today, my mum suggested this but she thinks I'm a virgin. I know my doctor will ask if I'm sexually active and I was wondering will I get into trouble with the law if I tell my doctor I ...
A. 18 March 2009: Implants seem to be very effective in preventing pregnancy. At least this one is: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control/birth-control-implant-implanon-4243.htm
In comparison with other forms of birth control:
http:... (read in full...)
What can I do to make my husband understand that this is my problem and happened before I met him?
Q. Hi I am going to make this short as possible about 20 yrs ago I made the biggest mistake of my life I slept with my sisters boyfriend who later became her husband. I didnt tell anyone, but he did he told her and she confronted me and I denied i...
A. 18 March 2009: One thing to remember is that your sister is the one who doesn't deserve to be hurt. She's done nothing wrong (I hope) and this conflict between you and your husband and between you and the brother-in-law has nothing to do with her. I think you have ... (read in full...)
My pregnant girlfriend left me
Q. Ok here is my situation. My pregnant girlfriend has left me and is claiming that I verbally and sexually abused her. We had been together 8 months and she was 2 months pregnant when she left. She is 24 and I am 34. She has a four year old son from a ...
A. 18 March 2009: Hi John, sorry, your answers don't come up as follow ups, so unless we check back here, we miss that you've posted.
So you've had your first meeting with the counselor. How did it go? I hope it was useful for you.
Have you had any contact with her... (read in full...)
Road trip, bereavement and cancer advice wanted
Q. Dear Cupids, At last my question for you all :D. Very soon i am of to America on holiday with my friend and his wife. We are going to be road tripping around LA – Phoenix – Flagstaff – Vegas areas. However, it isn’t just a holiday, there a...
A. 17 March 2009: Hi Star, wow, that's quite a road trip you have planned there. All you need is the Border Police and some extraterrestrials and you can sell it to Hollywood.
Now, seriously, the two things you are asking about, how to deal with someone who has lost... (read in full...)
Lumps on my neck & tattoo a few months ago..related?
Q. Hello there, Recently I have been noticing little lumps on my neck around the sides, just below my ear and back of nect etc. I've noticed them for about 2 wks now and was getting a bit concerned. Today a big lump come up on my neck and it w...
A. 17 March 2009: Sounds like a furuncle (not the kind uncles we have here at DearCupid, of course!), also known as a boil.
As it sounds painful and possibly infected, do take Gina's advice and contact your doctor or go to the A and E if it is truly painful.
http:... (read in full...)
G/f depressed because she's obese
Q. My girlfriend is depressed because she’s obese. She’s tried quite a lot of diets but nothing seems to work as she gives up after a couple of weeks. Generally I’d say she eats about the same amount that I do and if anything I’m underweight. What can ...
A. 17 March 2009: Good tips from other aunts here, so I just want to mention that there are certain medical conditions that can cause obesity. It's a small percentage (most people just eat too much) but it's worth having her checked out. One of the causes is ... (read in full...)
Pain free & free of charge way to make penis bigger
Q. Hey iam 17 and I have a smal penis and I was jst basicly asking if anyone knows a pain free and free of charge way to enlarge a penis because I have no confidence iam afraid to show my gf and we have been dating for a year So pls someone help...
A. 17 March 2009: I don't know of any way to enlarge a penis except for surgery, sorry. But what you can enlarge is your self-esteem. Please read this article which tries to explain a woman's perspective on the importance (or lack of importance) of penis size.
h... (read in full...)
She's emotionally taking advantage of me
Q. OK, i love my girlfriend. but i have an ongoing source of frustration. background: we've been dating for 2 years, she moved to my state to be with me, we talk about marriage maybe next year....issue: if i express a need, it becomes a "complex" for ...
A. 17 March 2009: You two are building resentments up and not communicating effectively at all. This has to be quick because I have to run but I'll try to get the points across.
I know a bit of what she's feeling, the move to be with him. You give up everything and ... (read in full...)
She's very stubborn and doesn't know what she wants, meanwhile I am in so much pain!
Q. Hello Everyone. I'm not in a good place right now, and could really do with some help and advice. Basically, I met my girlfriend about one year ago and we fell in love so fast, we were practically inseparable. All was perfect throughout the s...
A. 17 March 2009: Break ups are devastating, aren't they? I have a few things I want to put out there for you to think about, to get some perspective on this.
First of all, falling in love is such a wonderful giddy experience; you become one unit and even if ther... (read in full...)
Do you think he's just trying to be friendly and have a laugh,or should I be concerned?
Q. Hi, I'm not sure whether to be flattered or scared. I recently got talking to a man who I haven't seen for a long time. I met him once when I was younger and we recently got talking again as we found each other online. He said he was flattered ...
A. 17 March 2009: You know what I would do in your situation? I'd try to decide how his wife would react to the way he's been chatting with you. Would she be okay with it?
Your intuition is telling you something's not right here. You know that he's crossed some invi... (read in full...)
I'm wondering what kind of person my boyfriend is.
Q. I've been seeing this man for the past 4 months. He's a professional, intelligent, funny and very caring. It was supposed to be a casual meeting which turned into a one night stand which turned into a relationship. i met him through the inte...
A. 17 March 2009: 1) Sounds like he already is possessive. The odd thing to me is that technically, he is in no position to be, as he is married.
2) From what you've written about him, his character traits seem to be lying, sneakiness, cheating on his wife, mult... (read in full...)
Mild depression?
Q. I'm sure I'm being melodramtic but I feel as though I'm suffering with mild symtoms of depression but I am too scared to go talk to a doctor about this as I wouldn't know what to say and I'd just feel a bit silly, if you understand me? I live aw...
A. 16 March 2009: You know what? I think all those symptoms you mentioned do warrant a visit to your GP. Not necessarily because you think you are depressed, but because you've experienced changes in your body, dizziness, back pains and headaches. Who knows, it could ... (read in full...)
Too early?
Q. I was due for my period on the 14th. Is it too early to take a pregnancy test?...
A. 16 March 2009: I love this video. I learned a lot from it and it might explain things a lot better than me typing out this sentence: the fertilized egg has to implant in the uterus before any hormones that signal pregnancy are released and therefore can be ... (read in full...)
Sperm filled fingers!
Q. I am just wondering this is really weird for me to even have to ask.. I started my period on the 1st of March yesterday was the 15th.. me and the boyfriend where having sex and well I ended up with quite a bit of sperm on my fingers. Instead of ...
A. 16 March 2009: Sperm do not die on contact with oxygen. If they did, there would be no sperm banks. If semen remains at body temperature and moist, the sperm remain viable for quite some time.
Please watch this video for a great explanation of how pregnanc... (read in full...)
I love to have sex all day and all night
Q. Hi, I'm 19 years old and i have a problem. I love to have sex...all day and night. I tend to scare many girls off...... at first they tend to like it and then get annoyed by it and they just end up leaving me. what different can i do to keep the...
A. 16 March 2009: Think of the adorable puppy who is just the cutest thing; he's so cuddly and soft and sweet and you just want to be with him all the time. But then he turns into the dreaded Leg Humper. (He also is not trained and chews the furniture and pees on the ... (read in full...)
What are the chances I'm pregnant?
Q. Well I'm 15, and on Thursday I had the implant put in. I am still taking my pill every day, but on Saturday I had sex twice without a condom. What are the chances I'm pregnant? I don't think they are very high but I'm still kinda worried... Please I ...
A. 15 March 2009: Here's research you can do yourself at plannedparenthood.org:
"How Effective Are Birth Control Pills?
"Effectiveness is an important and common concern when choosing a birth control method. Birth control pills are very effective. Combinat... (read in full...)
My husband hits me and I'm not sure what to do
Q. I have a huge issue i have been married now for almost 3 years and im 23years old but my husband just turned 28, he is a cop and i am a student i was with him when he had to go to police academy and stuck by him in thick and thin but im starting to ...
A. 14 March 2009: Hi, I see you've had lots of advice already. I think the point about him being abusive to future children is a good one too.
There's a great discussion of an abuser's patterns of behavior in this link:
http:... (read in full...)
Will this make sex easier? Or more painful?
Q. Hey, I've been going out with my current boyfriend for nearly half a year now, and lately we've been discussing having sex. I love him so much and i'd be willing to give my virginity to him, i just worry, will it hurt? he was fingering me the...
A. 12 March 2009: Read this article for some help.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/thinking-about-losing-your-virginity.html
I don't know if it will help or not, everyone is individual. Just be sure that you aren't doing something you're not quite ready for; you... (read in full...)
I can't get over my teacher! I'm obsessed with him
Q. I can't get over my teacher. You just don't know... I always dream about him! He won't get out of my head. It's hard for me to listen to him teach when all I do is stare at him. It's hard to concentrate when I'm doing my work in his class becaus...
A. 11 March 2009: Here's some research material for the essay: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Limerence
Perhaps we're judging you too harshly. Perhaps it is a condition that needs some attention?... (read in full...)
I can't get over my teacher! I'm obsessed with him
Q. I can't get over my teacher. You just don't know... I always dream about him! He won't get out of my head. It's hard for me to listen to him teach when all I do is stare at him. It's hard to concentrate when I'm doing my work in his class becaus...
A. 11 March 2009: Hey, tell you what. Instead of you telling us what we CAN'T say to you because you're not interested in hearing anything from anybody, why don't you write an essay.
One of my observations of 14 year old girls is that they don't think things thro... (read in full...)
More important? Your happines & life? Or your kids?
Q. I have been married for about 13 years now. I have two daughters which I love so much. I am an honest, hardworking husband and try to be the best father that I can. I hug my kids daily, tell them I love them, sit with them on the couch and watch ...
A. 11 March 2009: What an awful situation to be in. You must be at the end of your rope.
I have a couple of thoughts for you: Get into marriage counseling with or without her. You make the appointment convenient for her to attend, tell her about it and go even if s... (read in full...)
Drunken one night stand? Or emotional affair without sex?
Q. Do you consider a drunken one night stand to be 'better' or worse than a longstanding emotional affair without sex?...
A. 11 March 2009: Is the drunken one-night stand with unattached, available, single people? If so, then the long-term emotional affair is definitely worse.
If they both involve people who are elsewhere committed, then they're both bad. Why should we have to weig... (read in full...)
300 calories weekdays, 3000 cals weekend. Will I lose weight?
Q. heyx i am on this new diet where i eat 300 calories and do half and hour exersize everyday. though one day a week, i eat 3000 calories, just so i can go out and have fun and EAT once in a while!! would i lose weight from this diet? (I want to lose ...
A. 11 March 2009: Sweetie, you've posted many many times on this question. Crash diets don't work. Starvation/binge diets don't work. They are DANGEROUS to your health.
Talk to your doctor and get a sensible plan. If you'd been eating sensibly and doing some exer... (read in full...)
I'm scared that what happened to me before might happen again!
Q. rite ok im not sayin this to get attention or sympathy!..i was sexually assualted and attempted rape on me a few years back! by my ex bf.. my new bf who i been with for almost two years wouldn dream of doin anythin to hurt me. but he started takin...
A. 11 March 2009: Hi hon, sorry, your question seems to have been overlooked! I will try to answer as best I can here.
I think you've got trust issue due to the sexual assault by your ex, with is completely understandable.
I think you don't want to make the mistake ... (read in full...)
My pregnant girlfriend left me
Q. Ok here is my situation. My pregnant girlfriend has left me and is claiming that I verbally and sexually abused her. We had been together 8 months and she was 2 months pregnant when she left. She is 24 and I am 34. She has a four year old son from a ...
A. 10 March 2009: John, sorry I haven't been able to followup for a few days here. I just wanted to say that I thought Tomas's advice was brilliant. I wish I could be as articulate as he manages to be.
So she has made some contact, which is good. She still does... (read in full...)
Can you still be pregnant even if you have your period?
Q. Is it possible to still be pregnant if you have your period? or can it be different for different women?...
A. 8 March 2009: http://www.babycenter.com/404_can-you-be-pregnant-and-still-get-your-period_7102.bc
AskEve has a good point, I think, which is that there may be bleeding associated with implantation of the egg into the uterus. And apparently, there can be some ... (read in full...)
Am I a candidate for becoming a lesbian?
Q. Sometimes I spend 10 or 15 minutes standing naked before my full length door mirror admiring my beautiful body. I have shapely tits with perky nipples, a sexy ass, a flat stomach, shaplely legs with pretty little feet. It seems to me that I have a ...
A. 8 March 2009: No, you're an autosexual. Take care!... (read in full...)
Do women actually enjoy being "fingered"?
Q. I've never really liked the word "fingering"... but is being fingered something that women actually enjoy, or is there a special way to do it other than just shoving your fingers in...? I'm just curious really... ...
A. 8 March 2009: I'm not crazy about the word either, but I guess it does involves fingers, so it is somewhat descriptive.
I'm sorry but I'm taking a shortcut, but rather than repeating myself, please read this thread. And I suggest you spend a little time read... (read in full...)
My pregnant girlfriend left me
Q. Ok here is my situation. My pregnant girlfriend has left me and is claiming that I verbally and sexually abused her. We had been together 8 months and she was 2 months pregnant when she left. She is 24 and I am 34. She has a four year old son from a ...
A. 8 March 2009: I don't know quite what to say here, John. I have a feeling that your behavior was more toward abusive than caring here in some situations. I think your perception of how thing were going in the relationship were clearly different from hers.
L... (read in full...)
Dazed and confused! I can't advance in my LDR due to family problems.
Q. So, here I am once again, reaching out to my fellow Aunts! I need some magic words that will make everything better, and I know that's unrealistic. Never the less, I need something from you guys! Any suggestions or words of encouragement will be ...
A. 7 March 2009: Britt, I'm so happy to hear that things are proceeding in a positive direction. Yay! And you just illustrated the importance of good communication, with your boyfriend and you parents. That's so good to hear.
All the best!... (read in full...)
Why is my mum acting this way?
Q. It's not really a relationship question but any help would be great! I've been going out with my boyfriend for 8 months and I've never had such a deep relationship or been this close to anyone before. We see each other about every other day and on ...
A. 6 March 2009: I expect she has come to the realization that closeness + alone time = potential for sexual activity. I also would guess that she's trying to protect you from possibly making a mistake without coming right out and telling you she doesn't trust you ... (read in full...)
I don't feel I'm near ready to have sex yet... what will I do?
Q. I am underage for haveing sex be me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 months now and I told him if we get any time alone on him birthday we can do but the thing is.. that it's the first time for both of us and I don't know what to do and ...
A. 6 March 2009: Well, before you do ANYTHING, you need to get some education, some knowledge about sex, anatomy, birth control, STIs and pregnancy. This is very important, otherwise you may make choices that will cause you problems in the future. So first thing is ... (read in full...)
I'm worried he might be a paedo!
Q. Help. I'm 15, and recently been talking to this guy. He's really sweet, but he's 20. I'm worried he might be a peado, but he has already said he does not want to see me until I'm 16, and he'll wait to be with me until I'm ready. He explained h...
A. 6 March 2009: I think that is probably for the best, if you stop talking to him. Have you told your parents about him yet?... (read in full...)
Do women, once they reach 40 become less interested in their partners and is there something more I can do to help her get her mojo back?
Q. Hi, I have been with my wife for 20 years. We have been in and out of the ruts over time and each time climbing out has taught us somEthing new about ourselves and each other. My wife turned 40 a while ago and now she has no intrest in me sexually. ...
A. 6 March 2009: Get her to the doctor for a full exam. She may have depression, she may have a hormonal imbalance (not producing enough estrogen or testosterone--yes, women produce small amounts of testosterone), there could be a physical reason. Intercourse might ... (read in full...)
Is it normal that I'm 17 and wanting a baby?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend a while now, and we've never used protection whilst having sex. We did to start with, then on two occasions neither of us had any, so we decided to do it without. Now this has become a regular thing, and protection ...
A. 6 March 2009: Why do you want it to be positive? Maybe you want to have a baby to tie your boyfriend to you forever. Perhaps you are feeling the need to have something to take care of. Maybe your hormones outweigh your common sense?
I have to ask you this, now ... (read in full...)
Help, I might be pregnant!
Q. Ok so ive had sex about 4 times three with condom 1 without. I know it was wrong not to use one but we did anyways im not going to explain why i didnt use one. :What is the chances of me getting pregnant if I didnt go off but he did... :We dont ...
A. 6 March 2009: Your homework assignments:
http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
http://ww... (read in full...)
Problem with getting wet since I'm on the pill - I'm embarassed to buy a lubrificant though!
Q. Hello everyone : ) I have a problem getting wet especially since I've been on the pill. I want to buy lube but I'm embarassed. I'm 18 btw any advice?...
A. 5 March 2009: Take yourself into the drug store. Over by the pharmacy, there should be a whole section of birth control, the male condom, the female condom, and also lubrication choices there. Slink up to the rack that has the KY stuff and look it over quickly. ... (read in full...)
I'm 17 and stressing that I could be preganant. We used protection but my period is really light.
Q. hi im 17 and maybe stressing over nothing but i had protected sex approx 5 days before i got my periods but since i got them they have being very light,could i be pregnant?help!...
A. 5 March 2009: If you had protected sex, then it is unlikely that you are pregnant. It is more likely that you are experiencing lighter or heavier periods as a function of your age. Changes in weight, diet, stress levels, any number of things can cause your ... (read in full...)
Ladies: Poll about size
Q. Ok ladies I have been in a discussion with my girlfriend and many other females the age old question here goes . DOES SIZE MATTER ? IS IT THE LENGTH ? IS IT THE GIRTH ? IS IT BOTH ? I am just asking. Please do not assume i am a...
A. 5 March 2009: That's funny! One of our aunts just wrote a great article on this very topic. Here's the link: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/on-penis-size-debunking-the-myths.html
You'll find my answer to this question on that thread. It is difficult for men ... (read in full...)
We broke up, I'm pregnant and very uncertain about the future
Q. Me and my boyfriend moved in together, we fought a lot though. Well the last time we fought it was over myspace, I know stupid, his friend said she wrote something to me and I never got it, he believed her over me when I said that I did not receive ...
A. 5 March 2009: He's financially responsible for his child. I think it's time for to plan for the baby. From what you've written, it sounds like you're going to be planning by yourself. I agree with damluvaam that someone needs to grow up here, and unfortunately, ... (read in full...)
Need help getting home..anyone have good directions?
Q. Two and a half years ago I moved to WA state with my husband to be, who has now turned in to my ex-husband to be since he turned out to be an abusive a-hole. He does not want to get help with his issues since he thinks he does not have any, but was ...
A. 5 March 2009: You can download Google Earth and plot that way. Seattle, WA to Bethesda, MD showed for me as 2753 miles and one day seventeen hours total time (that's driving continuously, of course).
Another idea is to spend the $55 or so to join AAA, they have... (read in full...)
I'm worried he might be a paedo!
Q. Help. I'm 15, and recently been talking to this guy. He's really sweet, but he's 20. I'm worried he might be a peado, but he has already said he does not want to see me until I'm 16, and he'll wait to be with me until I'm ready. He explained h...
A. 5 March 2009: If your intuition is telling you something is off, there's something wrong about the situation. Trust your fear to let you know when to run!
This organization is based in the US, so it's not much help to you, but maybe reading through it will give... (read in full...)
Dazed and confused! I can't advance in my LDR due to family problems.
Q. So, here I am once again, reaching out to my fellow Aunts! I need some magic words that will make everything better, and I know that's unrealistic. Never the less, I need something from you guys! Any suggestions or words of encouragement will be ...
A. 5 March 2009: Sorry to hear of your family medical situation and how it's affecting your plans. I understand a little of what you're going through, as I'm dealing with some family medical issues myself.
First of all, make sure you are taking care of YOU. Eat ... (read in full...)
I'm worried he might be a paedo!
Q. Help. I'm 15, and recently been talking to this guy. He's really sweet, but he's 20. I'm worried he might be a peado, but he has already said he does not want to see me until I'm 16, and he'll wait to be with me until I'm ready. He explained h...
A. 4 March 2009: Ask him to introduce himself to your parents and get their take on him. My mom drove me nuts sometimes, but she could generally spot a loser when I was dating one....... (read in full...)
Is it normal that I'm 17 and wanting a baby?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend a while now, and we've never used protection whilst having sex. We did to start with, then on two occasions neither of us had any, so we decided to do it without. Now this has become a regular thing, and protection ...
A. 4 March 2009: Maybe you don't really want to go on to University? Maybe you're hoping something will come along and rearrange your future for you, so you don't have to make any decisions? I'm concerned for you that you don't seem to be thinking in terms of what ... (read in full...)
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