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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Am I obliged to look after my mother when she abused me as a child?
Q. So, Do I have any obligation to take care of my aged Mother who was abusive to me? I very rarely have migraines now, but I had them regularly in my childhood and teenage years and later, whenever my parents came to visit. My mother was probably...
A. 27 September 2009: I think venting and whining are very constructive if they help you cope with a difficult situation. It's self-sabotage and delusional thinking that are DEstructive. I don't think you're trying to hurt anybody. You've been deeply hurt, you feel ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and pregnant, help!
Q. I am 14 pregnant to a 17 year old it was a drunken mistake, i am 1 month gone and not showing yet only small bump no one knows, i have already got morning sickness (i dont know why they call it this i'm sick throughout the day) i cant get rid of i...
A. 22 September 2009: Oh, I like those names! Those were the ones I thought sounded good--names that will serve them well through their lucky little lives.
Thank you, for letting us along for a tiny bit of this amazing journey you've been on, it is a real privilege to h... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and pregnant, help!
Q. I am 14 pregnant to a 17 year old it was a drunken mistake, i am 1 month gone and not showing yet only small bump no one knows, i have already got morning sickness (i dont know why they call it this i'm sick throughout the day) i cant get rid of i...
A. 14 September 2009: Congratulations to you and I'm bursting with happiness for you and your new family. How perfect, a boy and a girl and a lovely loving mum. You really are an amazing young lady and have a bright wonderful future ahead of you with your newborns.
I... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and pregnant, help!
Q. I am 14 pregnant to a 17 year old it was a drunken mistake, i am 1 month gone and not showing yet only small bump no one knows, i have already got morning sickness (i dont know why they call it this i'm sick throughout the day) i cant get rid of i...
A. 3 September 2009: Sweetie, I don't know, and it would be best if you had a proper medical exam! Here's a tool that can help you. Be sure to tell your mum and ring your doctor to see if you need to go to A and E.
There's a useful number here on this link: http... (read in full...)
Is underage sex something you agree with?! I want opinions please!
Q. Ive decided to put myself out here after been severely infuriated by some 'adults' on this site who deem it appropriate for CHILDREN to be having sex from as young as 13! do you think its appropriate for a child of this age to be having sex?? they ...
A. 20 August 2009: Age is NOT "just a number"; it is the measure of how many years you have been around and a rough indicator of maturity. There is a HUGE difference between an 8 year old and an 18 year old. What happens in those 10 years is the process of maturing, ... (read in full...)
He's intelligent but judgemental, and resents my independent thinking
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together more than two years. He is willing to do almost anything for me, pick up bits of shopping, help me out if I'm not feeling well, looks after my cat when I'm on vacation, etc. I try to assist him in many ways...
A. 18 August 2009: I saw your plea on the new post. Right, what came to mind when I saw this question is the word "fanatic." I read a great definition of "fanatic" recently: someone who won't change his mind, and who won't change the subject. Sound a bit like your ... (read in full...)
I put alot of effort into this relationship but it is never acknowledged!
Q. Hello, I have been in a relationship with someone I adore for just under a year. Against better judgment I decided to move in with my boyfriend after being given the ultimatum to move in or we stop seeing each other. I feel as though I have pu...
A. 18 August 2009: Have you tried to convey this to him at all? Say "I am not being lazy, nor am I a bitch. And to have you call me that is love-killing."
He sounds awful to me. "Lazy bitch" indeed! That isn't a situation I could tolerate at all, even if I was bein... (read in full...)
Revenge of the ex..what to do to get him gone?
Q. is it possible for my ex to know when im happy? because it seems like he has a radar that goes off when im happy with another man. you see i live in new york and he is from new mexico. i have a boyfriend ish kinda guy. were not techanically together ...
A. 18 August 2009: Next time the ex calls, say "no". No, you can't stay with me, no, you may not borrow my car. No, I don't really want to see you.
I'm afraid I'm with your boyfriend. You did not set the limit, indicate the boundaries to your ex. You rolled right over... (read in full...)
Is it normal to think of the past when you are grieving?
Q. Hoping some of the great people on here can help. It has been a tough summer. I lost two friends, one to lou gherigs disease and one to breast cancer. My mom is deteriorating as well. I thought I was doing ok with it but it seems that I am now ...
A. 18 August 2009: One more thing, have a medical check up just to rule out anything else going on. You may have a little case of depression, you might be anemic, maybe you're going through menopause or perimenopause, your blood chemistry might be out of whack.
C... (read in full...)
Will using a vibrator make it harder for me to orgasm during sex?
Q. okay so i use a back masager or idk but it just vibrates but anyways i use that to have orgasms i put it right on my clit i dont move it around or anything i jus set it there..im just wondering can that make it harder for me to hav an orgasm during ...
A. 18 August 2009: There's a survey that suggests that using a vibrator helps women orgasm even when they are not using it. Go figure. Others worry that using it too much will get you used to the vibrations so that you can't orgasm.
h... (read in full...)
Is underage sex something you agree with?! I want opinions please!
Q. Ive decided to put myself out here after been severely infuriated by some 'adults' on this site who deem it appropriate for CHILDREN to be having sex from as young as 13! do you think its appropriate for a child of this age to be having sex?? they ...
A. 18 August 2009: I am one of the volunteer moderators here.
... (read in full...)
Is it normal to think of the past when you are grieving?
Q. Hoping some of the great people on here can help. It has been a tough summer. I lost two friends, one to lou gherigs disease and one to breast cancer. My mom is deteriorating as well. I thought I was doing ok with it but it seems that I am now ...
A. 18 August 2009: You're completely normal, alas. The feelings of loss you're experiencing call up the memories of previous losses--it can lead to feeling really melancholy. I understand a little of what you're going through, you've got so much to grieve, so maybe ... (read in full...)
Women my age pay me no attention! I only get young girls liking me!
Q. My problem is young girls like me, women my age pay me no attention.Hs age girls flirt with me all the time they tell me im cute, This girl was probably six was just staring at me one day i looked at her and she said i was pretty seriously. ...
A. 18 August 2009: For some reason, this book came to mind. I think it can be found for very little money now: http://www.amazon.com/How-Win-Friends-Influence-People/dp/0671027034/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1250564624&sr=1-1#
(you'll have to copy/paste that enti... (read in full...)
Women my age pay me no attention! I only get young girls liking me!
Q. My problem is young girls like me, women my age pay me no attention.Hs age girls flirt with me all the time they tell me im cute, This girl was probably six was just staring at me one day i looked at her and she said i was pretty seriously. ...
A. 18 August 2009: I'm confused. You have listed rather conflicting observations about women your age and you:
1. They don't pay any attention to you
2. They give you their number when you ask for it
3. They laugh and make jokes about you
4. They tell you you're ... (read in full...)
We can go 2 days without speaking. Is this because he's busy or because he doesn't care?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 months now. Lately, I feel he has been acting distant. He is busy with work and school, so there are times we go 2 weeks without seeing each other, and I am understanding about that. But what frustrates me is that ...
A. 17 August 2009: I sincerely hope you are not sitting around waiting for him to text or call you. You need to take charge of your life and your response to him. This can go two ways, I think. One is that you realize he's just not as involved in the relationship as ... (read in full...)
Is underage sex something you agree with?! I want opinions please!
Q. Ive decided to put myself out here after been severely infuriated by some 'adults' on this site who deem it appropriate for CHILDREN to be having sex from as young as 13! do you think its appropriate for a child of this age to be having sex?? they ...
A. 17 August 2009: This site gets blocked by the 'net nanny' kind of software protection available out there. If parents implemented that kind of monitoring and blocking, we might not have so many underage users here.
I do think teens are very interested in lear... (read in full...)
I don't feel that I am in love with her!
Q. Please help me! I am very confused about my relationship. I am a 23 and my girlfriend is 24 and we have been dating for about a year and 2 months. The problem I have is that I don't feel like I am in love with her. I definitely have love for her and ...
A. 17 August 2009: I think you should recognize that butterflies are a fleeting feeling, and while they are lovely, you're not going to feel them all the time for the rest of your life in a relationship. A few extremely lucky couples might report this happening, but ... (read in full...)
I'd like to hear about women's experience with implants!
Q. My question is about breast implants and confidence. I have very small breasts which appear very far from one another and no matter what I do they will not grow. Even on birth control they haven't changed in size or fullness and it really affects ...
A. 17 August 2009: Tell ya what, a close relative of mine had to have a double mastectomy due to breast cancer. She was an A cup. She decided to reconstruct and wound up as a D cup. While she is somewhat satisfied with the silhouette, she HATES not having real breast ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and pregnant, help!
Q. I am 14 pregnant to a 17 year old it was a drunken mistake, i am 1 month gone and not showing yet only small bump no one knows, i have already got morning sickness (i dont know why they call it this i'm sick throughout the day) i cant get rid of i...
A. 13 August 2009: Good for you! Getting a job and getting ready for the babies, you are just a little gem, you are! As to your very sweet comment about "Trisha", I'm quite sure you meant to say "Gina" as she has been a true support and friend to you! I say kudos to ... (read in full...)
Am I obliged to look after my mother when she abused me as a child?
Q. So, Do I have any obligation to take care of my aged Mother who was abusive to me? I very rarely have migraines now, but I had them regularly in my childhood and teenage years and later, whenever my parents came to visit. My mother was probably...
A. 13 August 2009: Sorry, I wanted to expand a little on that fund idea. The point of having an outsider--an objective observer--administer the monies is that then it is not you saying "no" to things. It is what is set up and removes any emotional baggage from the ... (read in full...)
Am I obliged to look after my mother when she abused me as a child?
Q. So, Do I have any obligation to take care of my aged Mother who was abusive to me? I very rarely have migraines now, but I had them regularly in my childhood and teenage years and later, whenever my parents came to visit. My mother was probably...
A. 13 August 2009: Absolution. Your mother sounds like a deeply troubled woman and I wouldn't blame you one bit if you never spoke to her again. That being said, you probably can't cut ties with her like that, as it affects more than just you--it involves your sister ... (read in full...)
Does the operation for bladder cancer create problems when getting an erection?
Q. i am going to be having an operation for bladder cancer soon i read that sometimes it does affect the dick to get an erection has anyone out there had a bladder cancer operation and had this problem as i just want to know what it would be like and ...
A. 12 August 2009: Here's a very good center that has some good information about this topic. GET SMART!
http://urology.jhu.edu/bladder/... (read in full...)
Does the operation for bladder cancer create problems when getting an erection?
Q. i am going to be having an operation for bladder cancer soon i read that sometimes it does affect the dick to get an erection has anyone out there had a bladder cancer operation and had this problem as i just want to know what it would be like and ...
A. 12 August 2009: I can only quickly weigh in on this topic: I had a close family member go through this and the answer to your question is yes, it can indeed cause a problem with getting erections post surgery. It depends on the extent of the surgery you are facing. ... (read in full...)
Did my girlfiend cheat, or was she raped?
Q. I feel so silly for even asking this on the Internet, but I just need to get some opinions. First of all, I'm 18, and this is my first girlfriend. She is 15. We've been dating for 10 months now. In the 2nd month of dating, we broke up for 2 days, ...
A. 4 August 2009: I think the subject has been sufficiently covered and we are now getting to a debate that probably won't help the poster much. I've asked that this thread be closed. Poster, please ask a new question if you feel you need any more advice or ... (read in full...)
Did my girlfiend cheat, or was she raped?
Q. I feel so silly for even asking this on the Internet, but I just need to get some opinions. First of all, I'm 18, and this is my first girlfriend. She is 15. We've been dating for 10 months now. In the 2nd month of dating, we broke up for 2 days, ...
A. 4 August 2009: I go back to the original question by the poster. I try to read it remembering that this girl was just barely 15, more likely 14 (he'd been dating her for 10 months, this incident happened in month 2) so she was just barely 15. That's fifteen. Not ... (read in full...)
Did my girlfiend cheat, or was she raped?
Q. I feel so silly for even asking this on the Internet, but I just need to get some opinions. First of all, I'm 18, and this is my first girlfriend. She is 15. We've been dating for 10 months now. In the 2nd month of dating, we broke up for 2 days, ...
A. 1 August 2009: Sorry, I should have been more specific with the link I provided earlier:
http://www.rainn.org/get-help/help-a-loved-one
Personally, I would go from the stance that she is innocent until proven guilty.
I wish you well and I hope she gets the hel... (read in full...)
Did my girlfiend cheat, or was she raped?
Q. I feel so silly for even asking this on the Internet, but I just need to get some opinions. First of all, I'm 18, and this is my first girlfriend. She is 15. We've been dating for 10 months now. In the 2nd month of dating, we broke up for 2 days, ...
A. 1 August 2009: Oh, and lest we forget. Age of consent is 17 in Texas. That means, legally, she is not considered competent to give consent to sexual activity for another two years. As q1605 put it, these laws are there to protect the ones who can't protect ... (read in full...)
Did my girlfiend cheat, or was she raped?
Q. I feel so silly for even asking this on the Internet, but I just need to get some opinions. First of all, I'm 18, and this is my first girlfriend. She is 15. We've been dating for 10 months now. In the 2nd month of dating, we broke up for 2 days, ...
A. 1 August 2009: Let's say the default is that everyone has decided she's a cheater. Let's say that she was in fact victimized. She is then victimized a second time. I prefer to start from the default that she is telling the truth; if it's not true, I hope the ... (read in full...)
He put his penis inside me. Am I a virgin?
Q. I was on my summer vacation and I was fooling around with the cutest guy and we got naked and all. He fingered me and one thing led to another and umm he put his penis in my vagina (his penis was maybe 9 cm long, I dunno and I'm a virgin, or at ...
A. 1 August 2009: If you're sexually active, you should see a gynecologist. She or he could tell you if your hymen is intact or not, or if the hymen was even present. Generally, most would agree that penis in vagina means no longer a virgin.
The doctor can also disc... (read in full...)
Did my girlfiend cheat, or was she raped?
Q. I feel so silly for even asking this on the Internet, but I just need to get some opinions. First of all, I'm 18, and this is my first girlfriend. She is 15. We've been dating for 10 months now. In the 2nd month of dating, we broke up for 2 days, ...
A. 31 July 2009: I have to address the men who think that if a woman, no, wait, this is a GIRL, doesn't run to the police the instant the guy slides off her, that she must not have been raped. Or sexually assaulted, if we don't want to use the "R" word here, since ... (read in full...)
Did my girlfiend cheat, or was she raped?
Q. I feel so silly for even asking this on the Internet, but I just need to get some opinions. First of all, I'm 18, and this is my first girlfriend. She is 15. We've been dating for 10 months now. In the 2nd month of dating, we broke up for 2 days, ...
A. 31 July 2009: You know what? She's 15, and she's obviously troubled. She needs some professional help, whatever happened, and it's probably best that you let her go and deal with it, and not add any more interrogations to the pile of troubles she has.
Some wome... (read in full...)
Did my husband text her acknowledging a lunchtime blowjob?
Q. Hi again everyone. Just an update about the 'situation' and more need for help. I am the wife trying to come to terms with the texting husband and discovered more texts on his old phone, one calling her a 'dirty little minx' but none of ...
A. 31 July 2009: Hi, SB, I posted on your previous post too. I'm happy to hear there was some forward progress in the reconciliation of you two. Now, I have to say that I think it is a reasonable answer that he simply cannot remember the details of why he called her ... (read in full...)
How do I handle swimming, without tampons or pads? How does that work?
Q. I am going on holiday in 2weeks and my period is due for the last 5 days of my holiday, and I don't really have a problem with that, but I don't use tampons so I wont be able to swim. Some people have said to me they still go swimming on their ...
A. 31 July 2009: When I started using tampons, I couldn't use the ones with the applicators, I just couldn't figure it out. I used those OB ones, they were easy to learn and felt smaller than the ones with the applicators.
I wouldn't recommend going without tamp... (read in full...)
Question: do women tell their friends everything about their sex lives?
Q. Exactly how much do women talk about their sex lives with their girlfriends? I know that everyone has a different personality and of course that would dictate what they would tell their friends about their privage moments with their significant ...
A. 30 July 2009: The other reason I didn't share details is that I couldn't be certain the other person wouldn't blab things to other people.... (read in full...)
Question: do women tell their friends everything about their sex lives?
Q. Exactly how much do women talk about their sex lives with their girlfriends? I know that everyone has a different personality and of course that would dictate what they would tell their friends about their privage moments with their significant ...
A. 30 July 2009: I don't share details with anyone else. It's between me and him. I will talk about sex in a general way, not with specifics.
When I was younger, hm, nope, I didn't do it then either. It's really not fair to broadcast someone's intimate details with... (read in full...)
Women- what do you do after an unromantic proposal, and Men- why do you do it?
Q. Anyone, who got a proposal of marriage, which wasn't special in anyway and to be honest, very disappointing, but still said yes to it (because you are certain that he is the one)? How do you deal with it? Women, what do you do after the engageme...
A. 30 July 2009: Okay, right. Well, my guy's proposal probably wouldn't qualify as particulary romantic or creative. That being said, I knew he was the one and he knew I was the one. He was very very nervous though, and I appreciate that he managed to get the words ... (read in full...)
He put his penis in me but we didn't have full intercourse. Am I still a virgin?
Q. am i still a virgin? last night me and this boy were making out on his couch i was on top and he took off my pants and my underwear and then his. at first he was just fingering me and stuff then he put his penus in me and like it hurt really bad im ...
A. 30 July 2009: Here are some websites for you to read so that you can educate yourself. That trite old saying, knowledge is power, is very true here. If a guy tells you that douching with Visine will prevent pregnancy, you can tell him where to get off.
h... (read in full...)
He put his penis in me but we didn't have full intercourse. Am I still a virgin?
Q. am i still a virgin? last night me and this boy were making out on his couch i was on top and he took off my pants and my underwear and then his. at first he was just fingering me and stuff then he put his penus in me and like it hurt really bad im ...
A. 30 July 2009: Hi there, no, you're not still a virgin. You had a penis penetrate your vagina and that is the end of your 'virginity'. Now, if you want to pretend this never happened and you are still a virgin, well, that's up to you.
The problem with that kind... (read in full...)
Does Plan B work?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 3 months and having sex for 2. He sometimes asks me if he can just pull out but I've always been too afraid to risk it (because I'm not on any other type of birth control) so we always used a condom. ...
A. 30 July 2009: From the plannedparenthood.org website: "Plan B reduces the risk of pregnancy by 89 percent when started within 72 hours after unprotected intercourse." So yes, it does work most of the time. But there's that pesky 11%, or one in ten, it doesn't ... (read in full...)
Any advice on why she is acting crazy?
Q. What is worse - being cheated on by the man who said he wants to marry you, or having him accidentally break your nose during an argument? I want to be with my girlfriend more than anything in the world but she just doesn't understand me so...
A. 30 July 2009: You're not trying to marry this woman, are you?
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-does-he-want-to-marry-me-if.html... (read in full...)
I look like a circus tent compared to other women! Any weight loss advice?
Q. i am 30 yaer old and i am size 16 and 14 stone. i find it hard to lose weight since i got older, to make things worse where i live there is no gyms,no swimming pool ,no sport shops,i can,t effort personal trainer.i can,t run i have asthmas,i am ...
A. 30 July 2009: Honeypie is so right. I started at 13.6 stone and UK size 18 two years ago. I am now 10.6 stone and UK size 10. I started it by walking. I also watched what I ate. The plate went from 1/3 protein (red meat, pork, chicken), 1/3 veggie, and 1/3 starch ... (read in full...)
Pain in my spine when I masterbate! What is it?
Q. Hi, I have a problem when I masturbate. It may seem a bit strange, but everytime I start masturbating, I get a really sharp pain at the top of my spine and the up the back of my head. It will be a dull ache afterwards but it still hurts. Does anyone ...
A. 30 July 2009: Try running your symptoms through this http://symptoms.webmd.com/symptomchecker
I tried for you and got anything from muscle strain to a spinal tumor.
The NHS have a help line as well, with some symptom checking help.
http://ww... (read in full...)
Am I stupid for letting a few more old texts ruin my marriage?
Q. Hi everyone, Things have taken a huge turn for the worse. We seemed to have smoothed things out I was looking forward to out 32nd anniversary tomorrow and holiday next week. Anyway, my husband had to put his sim in his old phone as his other i...
A. 30 July 2009: Sorry, I keep coming up with things I want to say to you, and I've got one more for you to think about.
It’s like you’ve been notified you have cancer. You haven’t done anything to deserve it, okay maybe you exposed yourself somehow to some... (read in full...)
Messy breakup is leaving me out of pocket!
Q. I just got dumped badly from my girl after 11 years. I am 29. We purchased an appartment 2 years ago and the home loan is in both our names. Her parents gave us $60000 towards the place when we bought it. She now wants to sell and her lawyers sent ...
A. 29 July 2009: I'm sure you want to get back at her because you're hurt and angry; this is not the place to do it. Your loan documents, both for the home and the loan from the parents, should have the legalese in them that covers this kind of split.
You're enti... (read in full...)
Does less foreplay equal better orgasms?
Q. My wife and I a wonderful relationship. She normally reached orgasm very quickly. She says that if we have too much foreplay, she loses the ability to have an orgasm or her orgasm is not very intense even with a vibrator. Is this common? I always ...
A. 29 July 2009: I think Lazy Guy gave the perfect answer here- whose opinion matters here? Look, I think she just may be telling you that too much stimulation can have the opposite effect of what's intended. She may just be getting numb. Let her guide you when it ... (read in full...)
My controlling husband won't except that I don't love him anymore.
Q. I told my husband i don`t love him like i used to,the fact is that i love him but i`m not in love with him.I told him and he don`t accept what i said.We been together for 4 years we have a son 2 years old..i want to end the mariage,he is to ...
A. 29 July 2009: You have an abusive husband, it sounds to me and I have some links for you. First, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (1-800-799-7233). They also have a website http://www.ndvh.org
Someone posted an excellent link a coup... (read in full...)
Am I stupid for letting a few more old texts ruin my marriage?
Q. Hi everyone, Things have taken a huge turn for the worse. We seemed to have smoothed things out I was looking forward to out 32nd anniversary tomorrow and holiday next week. Anyway, my husband had to put his sim in his old phone as his other i...
A. 29 July 2009: Thanks, SB, for that insight, that you are consumed by jealousy and insecurity right now. I think that you know you don't want to be there. Again, I don't know how I'd react in your situation, not having ever been there, so I cannot pretend that I ... (read in full...)
Am I stupid for letting a few more old texts ruin my marriage?
Q. Hi everyone, Things have taken a huge turn for the worse. We seemed to have smoothed things out I was looking forward to out 32nd anniversary tomorrow and holiday next week. Anyway, my husband had to put his sim in his old phone as his other i...
A. 29 July 2009: Hi, I know I’m a bit late to this question, but I have followed some of it and saw that you had some fresh information and a fresh wound. I have spent some time thinking about this situation and I just want to share my thoughts with you. I hope you ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and pregnant, help!
Q. I am 14 pregnant to a 17 year old it was a drunken mistake, i am 1 month gone and not showing yet only small bump no one knows, i have already got morning sickness (i dont know why they call it this i'm sick throughout the day) i cant get rid of i...
A. 25 July 2009: Sounds like you're really coming along nicely! Well done.
Okay, names. I have a question. How do you pronounce Evie-Mai? Is that Ee vee may or ee vee my?
Same with Kai-Lewis. Is that Keye or Kay (rhyming with eye or aye)?
Do you see why I'm aski... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and pregnant, help!
Q. I am 14 pregnant to a 17 year old it was a drunken mistake, i am 1 month gone and not showing yet only small bump no one knows, i have already got morning sickness (i dont know why they call it this i'm sick throughout the day) i cant get rid of i...
A. 21 February 2009: I see you're posting; I'm curious as to what you have done? Have you told anyone? The longer you put it off, the more difficult it will become. I'm sure the people around you know that something is wrong. Why not go ahead and start to get the ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and pregnant, help!
Q. I am 14 pregnant to a 17 year old it was a drunken mistake, i am 1 month gone and not showing yet only small bump no one knows, i have already got morning sickness (i dont know why they call it this i'm sick throughout the day) i cant get rid of i...
A. 20 February 2009: Oh dear, this is not an easy situation to be in, is it? You know that you will have to tell your mother at some point, and waiting will only give you more days of worry. I think you need to be very brave, and tell her.
And I did want to clear some... (read in full...)
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