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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Dazed and confused! I can't advance in my LDR due to family problems.
Q. So, here I am once again, reaching out to my fellow Aunts! I need some magic words that will make everything better, and I know that's unrealistic. Never the less, I need something from you guys! Any suggestions or words of encouragement will be ...
A. 7 March 2009: Britt, I'm so happy to hear that things are proceeding in a positive direction. Yay! And you just illustrated the importance of good communication, with your boyfriend and you parents. That's so good to hear.
All the best!... (read in full...)
I'm worried he might be a paedo!
Q. Help. I'm 15, and recently been talking to this guy. He's really sweet, but he's 20. I'm worried he might be a peado, but he has already said he does not want to see me until I'm 16, and he'll wait to be with me until I'm ready. He explained h...
A. 6 March 2009: I think that is probably for the best, if you stop talking to him. Have you told your parents about him yet?... (read in full...)
Is it normal that I'm 17 and wanting a baby?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend a while now, and we've never used protection whilst having sex. We did to start with, then on two occasions neither of us had any, so we decided to do it without. Now this has become a regular thing, and protection ...
A. 6 March 2009: Why do you want it to be positive? Maybe you want to have a baby to tie your boyfriend to you forever. Perhaps you are feeling the need to have something to take care of. Maybe your hormones outweigh your common sense?
I have to ask you this, now ... (read in full...)
Need help getting home..anyone have good directions?
Q. Two and a half years ago I moved to WA state with my husband to be, who has now turned in to my ex-husband to be since he turned out to be an abusive a-hole. He does not want to get help with his issues since he thinks he does not have any, but was ...
A. 5 March 2009: You can download Google Earth and plot that way. Seattle, WA to Bethesda, MD showed for me as 2753 miles and one day seventeen hours total time (that's driving continuously, of course).
Another idea is to spend the $55 or so to join AAA, they have... (read in full...)
I'm worried he might be a paedo!
Q. Help. I'm 15, and recently been talking to this guy. He's really sweet, but he's 20. I'm worried he might be a peado, but he has already said he does not want to see me until I'm 16, and he'll wait to be with me until I'm ready. He explained h...
A. 5 March 2009: If your intuition is telling you something is off, there's something wrong about the situation. Trust your fear to let you know when to run!
This organization is based in the US, so it's not much help to you, but maybe reading through it will give... (read in full...)
I know he needs help..he's got real issues, but I love him
Q. iv been married three times, i have 4 kids. all my husbands abused me. over a year ago i met a lovely guy through the paper. he was lovely, in time tho, he got real jelous, i couldnt speak to males, old male friends id known for years, couldnt call, ...
A. 5 March 2009: Hi, pinkie, I found your answer to another older question which gives a great deal of background on your situation.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/-whats-the-point-in-having-kids-if.html (It's the most recent answer to that question)
I am now v... (read in full...)
I know he needs help..he's got real issues, but I love him
Q. iv been married three times, i have 4 kids. all my husbands abused me. over a year ago i met a lovely guy through the paper. he was lovely, in time tho, he got real jelous, i couldnt speak to males, old male friends id known for years, couldnt call, ...
A. 5 March 2009: This man is a danger to your children and you. The bad far outweighs any good. I'm sorry, I'm sure you want him to be lovely all the time, but the fact is that he is not. Don't live in the "I wish he would...." fantasy. Look at the reality. You've ... (read in full...)
We are really nervous. What is the cause of strange symptoms after sex?
Q. So I've had unprotected sex with my girlfriend about 2 weeks ago and i finished inside of her. She has not had sex before that for a while. After that night i had sex with her again but she said when i went all the way inside of her she had pain ...
A. 5 March 2009: I've got some more possiblities for you:
Urinary tract infection (if left untreated my lead to bladder then kidney infection)
Kidney infection
Urithritis
Bladder cancer
Bladder stones
Candidiasis
Cervicitis
Chlamydia
Gonorrhea
Hydrone... (read in full...)
We are really nervous. What is the cause of strange symptoms after sex?
Q. So I've had unprotected sex with my girlfriend about 2 weeks ago and i finished inside of her. She has not had sex before that for a while. After that night i had sex with her again but she said when i went all the way inside of her she had pain ...
A. 5 March 2009: With all due respect, the ONLY way you'll know what is going on inside her body is if she is examined by a doctor. That is the sensible and responsible course of action.
Some possibilities are: ectopic pregnancy (this is life-threatening if not caug... (read in full...)
Dazed and confused! I can't advance in my LDR due to family problems.
Q. So, here I am once again, reaching out to my fellow Aunts! I need some magic words that will make everything better, and I know that's unrealistic. Never the less, I need something from you guys! Any suggestions or words of encouragement will be ...
A. 5 March 2009: Sorry to hear of your family medical situation and how it's affecting your plans. I understand a little of what you're going through, as I'm dealing with some family medical issues myself.
First of all, make sure you are taking care of YOU. Eat ... (read in full...)
Pig headed man! Never wants to admit that he is wrong!
Q. When I get hurt by him which is not intentional he tends to look at only his side of the story. I usually dont even get a chance to explain. He justs gets upset and goes into the cave sometimes for weeks which really hurts me. Then we get back and ...
A. 5 March 2009: Hi, sorry to hear that. I have to ask why you didn't take damluvaam's advice to just let it lie for the time being. Keep yourself distracted with other activities. I think you are too emotionally close and raw to really be able to analyze things at ... (read in full...)
We are really nervous. What is the cause of strange symptoms after sex?
Q. So I've had unprotected sex with my girlfriend about 2 weeks ago and i finished inside of her. She has not had sex before that for a while. After that night i had sex with her again but she said when i went all the way inside of her she had pain ...
A. 5 March 2009: It's a good idea for her to see her doctor. Pain is your body's way of saying "something's wrong here". Don't ignore it!
She should be seeing her gynecologist anyway, if she's sexually active. There's a vaccination to prevent some HPV (human papi... (read in full...)
I think I'm ready, but how can I make sure that I will not regret it?
Q. I was completely ready for sex just a little while ago. My boyfriend of 6 months is 17. I'm turning 15, but I was completely ready to have sex with him a little while ago. We had a good talk and decided it was time, I love him, but I feel like ...
A. 5 March 2009: It sounds funny to write this to you, but you'll know you're ready when you don't have to ask this question anymore. When it is the right decision for you. Here's a new article written for people in your position:
h... (read in full...)
Never had orgasm during sex
Q. I have been with my lovley boyfriend for around a year and half and we've moved in and everything is almost perfect- however I have never "came" when we have sex. I am really worried this isn't normal. I can come when I am masterbating with a ...
A. 5 March 2009: You're normal. Most women do NOT reach orgasm with vaginal penetration alone. It's not him, it's not you, it's how the anatomy works. Twenty five percent of women do reach orgasm through sexual intercourse. Are there ways to get there? Yes, if you ... (read in full...)
Interested in an older woman... how can I find out more about her past sex life?
Q. I have been friends with an older woman for a while now. I am interested in moving out of the friendship zone and become lovers with her. How should I let her know this? Any tips for telling her this? She is what I call a “beautiful” woma...
A. 4 March 2009: How to let her know you're interested in her as more than a friend? Ask her out on a proper date, a romantic restaurant, a picnic that you prepare, a show followed by a late supper. Whatever you choose, make it obvious it is a date-date, not a ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I could ever trust her again...
Q. I recently broke up with my girlfriend of a year. I caught her in several lies involving an ex boyfriend. She felt the need to hang out with him behind my back and tell me she was going elsewhere. Each time she told me she lied to me because she ...
A. 4 March 2009: What would she have to change for you to believe her? What would she have to do to 'fix' things? Was she seeing her ex the entire time you were together or was it a new development? And how long were they broken up before you got together with her? ... (read in full...)
I'm worried he might be a paedo!
Q. Help. I'm 15, and recently been talking to this guy. He's really sweet, but he's 20. I'm worried he might be a peado, but he has already said he does not want to see me until I'm 16, and he'll wait to be with me until I'm ready. He explained h...
A. 4 March 2009: Ask him to introduce himself to your parents and get their take on him. My mom drove me nuts sometimes, but she could generally spot a loser when I was dating one....... (read in full...)
Very few opportunities to have sex, and she usually doesn't take advantage of them!
Q. So heres the stuation. Both my girlfriend and I live at home with our parents so we don't get to have sex often. Its not a big deal to me, but I do have a problem with when we have the chance we don't take advantage of it. Not because of me, but ...
A. 4 March 2009: Tell us about her pleasure in this. How does she reach orgasm? The reason I ask is because I think we have two possibilities here: one is that she doesn't like sex because of something that happened to her in the past--an assault, abuse, an ... (read in full...)
Is it normal that I'm 17 and wanting a baby?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend a while now, and we've never used protection whilst having sex. We did to start with, then on two occasions neither of us had any, so we decided to do it without. Now this has become a regular thing, and protection ...
A. 4 March 2009: Maybe you don't really want to go on to University? Maybe you're hoping something will come along and rearrange your future for you, so you don't have to make any decisions? I'm concerned for you that you don't seem to be thinking in terms of what ... (read in full...)
He takes offence when I don't swallow his cum.
Q. I tried really hard to talk to my boyfriend about him cumming in my mouth, because he loves the thought, but whenever he has in the past, I've had to stop myself gagging. I don't think it's the taste, but kind of the gooey texture.. I just don't ...
A. 4 March 2009: You know, I answered this question over a year ago, lol. I wonder how things went? She was willing enough to give him oral sex, she just didn't want him to come in her mouth. Isn't that a good enough compromise?... (read in full...)
I found another woman's panties in my boyfriend's glove compartment!!!!
Q. I was driving with my boyfriend to his apartment. I stopped at the durg store to buy some condoms but when I got back to his car I found someones elses panties! He knows they must of been there before but how could I not see them??? Then worst of ...
A. 3 March 2009: I know this won't be much help right now, but someday, you'll be able to tell this story to your friends and laugh at what an idiot he was. THIS is a classic.
I'm sorry you have to find out he's an jerk, but better now than later. It'll be ente... (read in full...)
Pains in gallbladder.
Q. So this morning I started to have pains in the center of my abdomen like in below the heart and 3 inches above the stomach. It was so excruciating and my dad said he though it was probably my gallbladder getting back at me for eating a lot of fried ...
A. 3 March 2009: "Call your doctor right away if you have sudden or bad pain in your belly or chest and you are not sure what is causing it."
GO TO THE DOCTOR!!!!!... (read in full...)
Pains in gallbladder.
Q. So this morning I started to have pains in the center of my abdomen like in below the heart and 3 inches above the stomach. It was so excruciating and my dad said he though it was probably my gallbladder getting back at me for eating a lot of fried ...
A. 3 March 2009: I typed your symptoms in here: http://symptoms.webmd.com/symptomchecker and it came back with "If you are experiencing severe abdominal pain, please seek medical attention promptly."
Is there any particular reason you want to take chances with your... (read in full...)
Guy 1? guy 2?
Q. I seem to have got into a bit of a sticky situation. This may sound odd but I already know what I need to do. It's just not what I want to do.. Me and Boyfriend of a year and a half broke up in November 08. He was the love of my life, and yes I ...
A. 3 March 2009: As long as you are being honest with them and yourself, you have nothing to feel guilty about. He will get over it, eventually.
Staying in the relationship if you wanted out would only postpone the inevitable. Nowhere with guy number 2 did I hear... (read in full...)
Pig headed man! Never wants to admit that he is wrong!
Q. When I get hurt by him which is not intentional he tends to look at only his side of the story. I usually dont even get a chance to explain. He justs gets upset and goes into the cave sometimes for weeks which really hurts me. Then we get back and ...
A. 3 March 2009: Hey, good luck! Remember that you are a team; you're not on opposing sides. Go in with that attitude, 'we're in this together,' and loads of patience, and you'll be fine. Let us know how it goes, I know I'd like to hear about it!
And damluvaam made... (read in full...)
Can you suggest ways of slowing him down and suggesting he does more foreplay? Any examples of foreplay?
Q. I wish my boyfriend would try more foreplay when we are in bed. Can you suggest ways of slowing him down and suggesting he does more foreplay? What are some foreplay things we can do? Is suggesting that he lick my body with his tongue a good id...
A. 3 March 2009: "Honey, what is the rush? I'm glad you are so turned that you want to race through things. I do not want to race through things, however, because it takes me longer to get all excited. Let's fool around some more. I mean, you want me to be happy ... (read in full...)
Pig headed man! Never wants to admit that he is wrong!
Q. When I get hurt by him which is not intentional he tends to look at only his side of the story. I usually dont even get a chance to explain. He justs gets upset and goes into the cave sometimes for weeks which really hurts me. Then we get back and ...
A. 3 March 2009: Good answer by damluvaam! He very nicely gave a male POV that explains what's happening in your guy's head.
So, you've discovered that the way things have been handled make both of you miserable. He goes in to the cave, you build up rese... (read in full...)
Guy 1? guy 2?
Q. I seem to have got into a bit of a sticky situation. This may sound odd but I already know what I need to do. It's just not what I want to do.. Me and Boyfriend of a year and a half broke up in November 08. He was the love of my life, and yes I ...
A. 3 March 2009: Thanks for the followup! That helps a lot. So basically guy number 1 was a relationship based in the bedroom, not out and about in the world? And he broke up with you because you wanted more, to be treated as a girlfriend and not just a bedfellow? ... (read in full...)
Guy 1? guy 2?
Q. I seem to have got into a bit of a sticky situation. This may sound odd but I already know what I need to do. It's just not what I want to do.. Me and Boyfriend of a year and a half broke up in November 08. He was the love of my life, and yes I ...
A. 3 March 2009: I think you have a third option, and I believe it might be a good one for you right now, until you can get your priorities sorted out.
You can tell guy number 2 that you aren't ready to be in a relationship with him (which is true), that you're feel... (read in full...)
Unprotected sex and now pregnancy concerns..best time to check?
Q. my boyfriend and me just had sex yesterday and we didnt use a condom . stupid i know and he promises to use one from now on and he used the pull out method o.o but he just took it out in time because he went everywhere and im afraid im pregnant ...
A. 3 March 2009: You still have time to take Plan B, which is emergency contraception. Don't wait, the effectiveness drops with time. It's only given up until 72 hours after unprotected sex. Go see your pharmacist or family doctor for assistance in getting it. (Plan ... (read in full...)
Maybe his equipment is faulty... or does he just not know how to use it properly?
Q. Regarding the issue of penis size, people always say that it's not the size that matters but how you use it. How else can a guy use it aside from plain old boring penetration? What are some techniques other than changing positions? I ...
A. 3 March 2009: Hi, I think you're being too harsh on your boyfriend. There's a lot of mythology surrounding clitoral vs. vaginal orgasms. I think Freud is one of the guys who suggested that a clitoral orgasm is somehow not as good as a vaginal one. Many studies ... (read in full...)
Does masturbating stunt the growth of your penis?
Q. Oh man!! I feel so embarrassed asking this question... I feel so sorry for myself.. but does masturbating stunt the growth of your penis?? I'm 14 and 5.5 inch when it's hard and have been really self conscious lately about my size, will it ever ...
A. 3 March 2009: You are just fine; perfect for most women when you're old enough. Don't worry!
And read this: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/on-penis-size-debunking-the-myths.html
And tell the girl who told you the tale about wanking off that lying about ma... (read in full...)
Should I continue on these pills?
Q. I need some advice. I have been dating a guy for some time now. He's 38 and I am 20. I am also a teacher and I am ready to have a child. The problem is I have problems ovulating and my doctor puts me on fertility drugs - which I am taking now. H...
A. 3 March 2009: Hi, it is a bit confusing understanding your situation with your partner. He lives in another country. When you first began talking about having a child, what did he say? Was he on board with this, fully and with no reservations expressed at the ... (read in full...)
After using a spermicide is it safe to have oral sex?
Q. This may be a dumb question but it's important to us, so here goes. Me and my boyfriend use Encare spermicide inserts along with condoms. We're wondering is it safe for him to do oral on me after having sex, or would it be harmful if the chemicals ...
A. 2 March 2009: Read the package insert. I believe the warnings specifically state: "Do not take orally." (I googled "encare spermicide insert product information" (without the quotation marks) and found many pharmacies had specific information about them.
I woul... (read in full...)
Weird pain in vagina
Q. okay first off i had a colposcopy done about two weeks ago. the thing is they won't tell me what's going on. All the doctor said was that i need to get a pap smear every three months. they were unable to do a biopsy because i am pregnant. I'm ...
A. 2 March 2009: Okay, you have GOT to talk to your doctor. Write a list of questions, get the nurse or the assistant on the phone and ASK them. Don't take "no" for an answer. You must be persistent. They are the ones who know what it going on with you, your doctor ... (read in full...)
I know I need to own up but it is going to ruin everything!
Q. My boyfriend who is working abroad asked me to to go out and visit him for a holiday so we started planning and for some stupid reason thats when I stared lying. As the weeks passed I daren't tell my parents about the holiday (I have never travelled ...
A. 2 March 2009: Good girl! You're already planning, that's good. I agree that you should get support in this, so if you think your sister will be helpful, get her on board! (I know I would feel the same about my sister too.)
So then you do have to tell your boyf... (read in full...)
I'm not good enough to be with but he says he can't be without me! Is he at it?
Q. Basically me and mt partner of three years split up a few months ago and I still see him on the odd occasion and sometimes end up sleeping with each other, but I'm still deeply in love with him, he is sort of seeing someone else and it's breaking me ...
A. 2 March 2009: Yes, I think you're kidding yourself. Watch his actions, don't listen to his words. He's moving on, he's got a new girl. He may have feelings for you but they are not enough to keep him with you. You deserve someone's full attention, not to be a ... (read in full...)
How can my husband and the rest of the employees deal with their weird boss?
Q. I posted my problem originally here: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-husbands-boss-is-making-increasingly-weird-demands.html I can give you some more info on the context of the situation. My husband works for a firm that distributes computi...
A. 2 March 2009: Has this boss had a medical exam recently? I mean, his bizarre behavior sounds like he's got a brain tumor or something.
Is this boss married? Has anyone spoken to his wife?
Look, the only thing I can suggest is that your husband and his fellow e... (read in full...)
I know I need to own up but it is going to ruin everything!
Q. My boyfriend who is working abroad asked me to to go out and visit him for a holiday so we started planning and for some stupid reason thats when I stared lying. As the weeks passed I daren't tell my parents about the holiday (I have never travelled ...
A. 2 March 2009: I wasn't suggesting that you are consciously angry with your boyfriend; I'm suggesting that you are subconsciously feeling angry or abandoned by him. Your conscious mind has tried to rationalize that he did the right thing, but to your inner child ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has anorexia. How do I help her?
Q. Hello guys, I've got a big issue here. I don't have a clue how to deal with it, my girlfriend and I have been together for 8 months now, we had a break once and she kind of cheated on me then, Anyway I got over that part, she really needed me...
A. 2 March 2009: It is probably time for tough love. She needs professional help, and it is not a sign of failure to ask for it. In fact, it is a sign of great strength to acknowledge when a problem is larger than oneself. The failure is the one who DOESN'T ask for ... (read in full...)
I know I need to own up but it is going to ruin everything!
Q. My boyfriend who is working abroad asked me to to go out and visit him for a holiday so we started planning and for some stupid reason thats when I stared lying. As the weeks passed I daren't tell my parents about the holiday (I have never travelled ...
A. 2 March 2009: Okay. Right. It's time to come clean with EVERYONE. Tell him that you haven't booked the flights because you haven't dealt with your parents yet and because you are very nervous of flying by yourself. Tell your parents that you are seeing him and ... (read in full...)
How good is Spermicide?
Q. Which spermicide works the best and what are the chances of it not working properly? (Never used it before). My girlfriend likes to make love without condoms because we feel closer that way but we also would not like a baby so I am wondering just ...
A. 2 March 2009: Spermicide can be used on its own, which I guess is better than no birth control at all, but it is more effective if used with a barrier method. She could consider using a diaphragm or cervical cap with the spermicide. It is designed for use with ... (read in full...)
How can you have this typeof relationship & not talk about the problems?
Q. i got a bit jealous and got mad. I apologoized to him. My jealousy was uncalled for but we had just been back toghether after a 2 month seperation, so my trusting him still needed reassurance. He told me it was disrpectful to him that I did not ...
A. 2 March 2009: Frankly, you both sound like you are very touchy and sensitive. There's a lot of hurt floating around here, isn't there? Perhaps it's a good idea to let the tempers settle down for a bit before you talk. Leave a message for him saying that you both ... (read in full...)
Is she more confused then me? What gives...
Q. About 2 weeks ago my wife out of no where says she wants a divorce. We have been together eight years and although tings have been very rough at times we have always made it through. We are still good friends and still live together at the moment ...
A. 2 March 2009: She sounds very confused. I would be confused in your situation too, if I were trying to understand a partner who was all over the map.
The fact she's dating someone else already? And she only told you two weeks ago that things were so bad she want... (read in full...)
He takes offence when I don't swallow his cum.
Q. I tried really hard to talk to my boyfriend about him cumming in my mouth, because he loves the thought, but whenever he has in the past, I've had to stop myself gagging. I don't think it's the taste, but kind of the gooey texture.. I just don't ...
A. 18 February 2008: Throw up once after he comes, making sure you make lots of gagging noises; he'll never ask you again.... (read in full...)
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