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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Are these signs that she likes me?
Q. Here's a girl that I liked, and for months, she's showed me those signs: -she giggles and laughs at me (even at things I say which are not hilarious) -she gave me a thumbs-up twice two separate times just before exams started -she would some...
A. 17 July 2009: I think at this point, you could say something like, "you are so funny. I really enjoy talking to you. Would you like to hang out and maybe even go out on a date? Like this weekend?"
You won't ever know for sure if she likes you if one of you does... (read in full...)
Will I end up an old maid?
Q. the only guy who has ever liked in my entire life said he is moving to america with his girlfriend is that big thing .he never said how long he stay in america?only one line i am moving to america with my girlfriend to USA and no more and bye . ...
A. 10 July 2009: For those aunts interested in the history here, I've got a link for you to read:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-do-guys-boast-about-there-so-called.html... (read in full...)
Will I end up an old maid?
Q. the only guy who has ever liked in my entire life said he is moving to america with his girlfriend is that big thing .he never said how long he stay in america?only one line i am moving to america with my girlfriend to USA and no more and bye . ...
A. 9 July 2009: My mistake, Willow has just told me that she is NOT dyslexic. I apologize, Willow, I thought you had told me that you were a while back when we were discussing this same topic, about your situation. I must have not remembered correctly, perhaps it's ... (read in full...)
Will I end up an old maid?
Q. the only guy who has ever liked in my entire life said he is moving to america with his girlfriend is that big thing .he never said how long he stay in america?only one line i am moving to america with my girlfriend to USA and no more and bye . ...
A. 9 July 2009: Well, that is what Willow herself told me, and I don't see any reason not to believe her there. But then I have no experience in that arena, Eyes.... (read in full...)
Will I end up an old maid?
Q. the only guy who has ever liked in my entire life said he is moving to america with his girlfriend is that big thing .he never said how long he stay in america?only one line i am moving to america with my girlfriend to USA and no more and bye . ...
A. 9 July 2009: Willow, I don't think it can hurt at all to let people know that you are dyslexic, which is one of the challenges you face in life. Just so people understand why the letters sometimes are jumbled around in the words.... (read in full...)
Will I end up an old maid?
Q. the only guy who has ever liked in my entire life said he is moving to america with his girlfriend is that big thing .he never said how long he stay in america?only one line i am moving to america with my girlfriend to USA and no more and bye . ...
A. 9 July 2009: What I find very odd is that she never actually answers any of our questions. Well she did once for me, but then quit and wound up in exactly the same place, obviously. Instead, we wind up at "you just don't understand." But I don't see her trying ... (read in full...)
I made a big fat stupid mistake and I'm scared my boyfriend will end things with me!
Q. Hi there Could really use some advice here. I was seeing a guy for a few weeks after Christmas but it was only casual. He left to work abroad for a few months and i met another guy who happened to be in the same crowd as the first guy (i.e they al...
A. 9 July 2009: It might help if you told him you stopped drinking, since you obviously cannot control yourself when you do. Just a thought.... (read in full...)
Will I end up an old maid?
Q. the only guy who has ever liked in my entire life said he is moving to america with his girlfriend is that big thing .he never said how long he stay in america?only one line i am moving to america with my girlfriend to USA and no more and bye . ...
A. 9 July 2009: We are having an interesting little set of PMs back and forth, Eyes. The basic thing is that no one (including me) can understand how she feels. Which I will grant. Feelings are individual, after all. But what you do with them and how you throw them ... (read in full...)
I prefer to sit and cry for hours, is this some kind of depression or split personality disorder?
Q. Hello. I'm just having a hard time to smile these past few days. Though I found this site to be very worthwhile I still feel like there's something I lack of. Something I need. It's been months since I've started living alone. My life had been one ...
A. 9 July 2009: Hey, you sound like me a while back. Depressed, happy to help other people out, but unable to help yourself. Do as Ask oldersister suggests and get yourself to the the doctor for an examination. That's what I did and it has completely transformed me ... (read in full...)
Will I end up an old maid?
Q. the only guy who has ever liked in my entire life said he is moving to america with his girlfriend is that big thing .he never said how long he stay in america?only one line i am moving to america with my girlfriend to USA and no more and bye . ...
A. 9 July 2009: Once she can understand that the change has to happen from within herself, that's when she can move forward. But right now, that negativity, anger and hate is keeping anyone who might be a friend far away from Willow. (That's my nickname for her, ... (read in full...)
Are these signs that she likes me?
Q. Here's a girl that I liked, and for months, she's showed me those signs: -she giggles and laughs at me (even at things I say which are not hilarious) -she gave me a thumbs-up twice two separate times just before exams started -she would some...
A. 9 July 2009: She sounds painfully shy or you might intimidate her in real life, thus she finds it easier to 'chat' online. Why don't you try to talk to her again in real life? Or is it that you've only got the internet as a way to reach her?
I'm not conv... (read in full...)
Implant side effect, is this one normal?
Q. Ok just to ask, i recently had the contraceptive implant and ive noticed a lot of reviews sayin woman have gained weight. however i seem to have the reverse to this, i havent lost any weight yet as ive only had it in around 3weeks, but ive TOTALLY ...
A. 9 July 2009: This link said that "change in appetite" is one of the potential side effects: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control/birth-control-implant-implanon-4243.htm
You might want to keep this link bookmarked in case you run into othe... (read in full...)
How do I define when is it too young or too old to have sex?
Q. is 15 young to have sex ? i was just wondering what are peaple views on 15 years olds having sex is it too young or an alright age? i would just really like to know what peaple think about it ! thakns ! x...
A. 9 July 2009: I think that teenagers' bodies are often well-developed and that the physical development gets out ahead of their emotional development.
Sex is an amazing part of human relationships and can be truly special as well as physically plea... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I cheated
Q. heyyy i'm 19 and I have a boyfriend of a year who I absolutely LOVEE!! I couldnt imagine my life with out him... but something happened about a week ago that I just can't get off of my conscience. I was at a party and I accidentally hooked up with a ...
A. 9 July 2009: What would you want him to do if the roles were reversed? Would you want to know he'd deliberately hooked up with another girl to get revenge on you? Isn't that the point of revenge, to make the other person miserable?
One more question: were you ... (read in full...)
She's only 15 and I have feelings for her, is it wrong?
Q. I really need someone elses imput on this situation.I have feelings for a girl I know. The problem is Im 18 and she is only 15. Most people would probably wonder why an 18 year old would want anything to do with a 15 year old. Im not a pedophile or ...
A. 9 July 2009: You can't control your feelings. But you can control your actions, and my guess is that's what you're really struggling with. Technically, legally, she is a minor. And having inappropriate contact with a minor can land you in a lot of trouble, with ... (read in full...)
Why is he now so cold?
Q. [Mod note: this seems to be a continuation from an earlier question, but there was no link provided.] the guy i was telling you did go out exterme amount of girls he country lad living in the city .when i meet first he wss so nice ,war...
A. 9 July 2009: Willow? My lost and unhappy Willow? You are still worried about this guy who you said "no" to seven years ago? Hon, you've got an obsessive thought pattern problem. You cannot seem to change this negativity, where you repeat and rehash and worry ... (read in full...)
I want to propose to her, Harry Potter style, but how?
Q. Hi! My girlfriend and I have been together for a while now (five years), since she was 19 and I was 21. And I just want to know of a nice, decent place I can propose to her at. We're both Americans still living in America with the common goal of m...
A. 9 July 2009: Guys, they live in the US, not the UK (yet)! So where do you live? Can you give us some help here? You have less than 3 hours to set the stage. Maybe that's an idea? Get some theatrical friends to help you by enacting a scene from the book.
Or get ... (read in full...)
I constantly feel the need to urinate!
Q. I know this isnt a relationship question, but my parents are gone until tomorrow and I need some help. Today I woke up and I went to use the bathroom, after I felt alot of discomfort after that lasted about ten seconds. It almost felt like the st...
A. 8 July 2009: http://symptoms.webmd.com/symptomchecker is the link to that symptom checker at webmd. It sounds like you may have a urinary tract infection (UTI), you'll need some antibiotics if this is the case. Ask to see your doctor and in the meantime, drink ... (read in full...)
I don't want to use birth control and don't want her to get pregnant
Q. when is it ok for me to cum inside my girl???wit no pill and no condoms.. and please dont tell me to use a condom cuz its not the same and i dont want to hear .make her take pills.. ...
A. 7 July 2009: "when is it ok for me to cum inside my girl???wit no pill and no condoms.."
To answer your question precisely, it is okay to cum inside your girl wit[h] no pill and no condoms when you're willing to become a parent and after you're both checked out ... (read in full...)
I'm forcing myself to throw up because I want to be a model
Q. My boyfriend is freaking out cause he caught me making myself throw up (been doing this for a week). I mean I'm 18 so I'm legally adult and its not like I'm killing myself. But he nags at me because "hurting" myself and he doesn't want to be like ...
A. 6 July 2009: From the Wikipedia article on Bulimia:
Effects
These cycles often involve rapid and out-of-control eating, which may stop when the bulimic is interrupted by another person or the stomach hurts from overextension, followed by self-induced... (read in full...)
I'm forcing myself to throw up because I want to be a model
Q. My boyfriend is freaking out cause he caught me making myself throw up (been doing this for a week). I mean I'm 18 so I'm legally adult and its not like I'm killing myself. But he nags at me because "hurting" myself and he doesn't want to be like ...
A. 6 July 2009: So if you were drinking so much you were passing out routinely, would your boyfriend have a good reason to freak out? Especially if his sister had been an alcoholic for 2 years? Would that make sense to you?
"Should I drop the weight?" is not a ques... (read in full...)
I lost my voice. How do I get it back?
Q. I lost my voice its been gone for a few days .. I haven't ate or drank anything weird or have strained my vocal cords .. My voice is just gone how do I get it back.. I need a few tips an tricks to help it come back...
A. 6 July 2009: I don't have any tricks for getting your voice back. Maybe it would be a good idea to see a doctor. You might have an infection or a growth on your vocal cords, and you don't want to mess around with that!
h... (read in full...)
I'm getting married and she wants to be my secret love affair!
Q. first and foremost, i am straight,engaged to a beautiful man whom i have shared my life with for the past 4 years. 2 years ago, i met this really attractive woman at a party, she is my friend's cousin and because she is working in the same line and ...
A. 6 July 2009: If your fiance doesn't know about your attraction to another woman, then you are lying by omission. He's the one who should get to decide if wants to marry a woman who is in love with another woman, and is so confused by it, she has to ask strangers ... (read in full...)
My life is a wreck! I'm in love with my husband's brother...
Q. Not sure what to do or how to move on from this? I've been married to a wonderful man for almost 3 years, together for 6. We have 3 beautiful kids. Problem is, I've been in love with his brother for a long time now. He is also married and we have ...
A. 6 July 2009: You do realize that your question is going to attract a lot of angry responses, don't you? So if you are sincerely looking for a way to come to terms with the end of the affair, please answer this question for me: why did you marry your husband ... (read in full...)
How do I break my hymen?
Q. I've just finished school and I've not really had any boyfriends yet (I'm a virgin because I never liked the few boys that asked me out, and the ones i did like never asked me out/messed me around and were never that seriously into me) I'm hopin...
A. 3 July 2009: I think the easiest way is to ask your GYN. She can examine you, and show you where it is or where it was!... (read in full...)
Boyfriend that drinks too much!
Q. I am crazy about my boyfriend but he drinks too much. have told him I dont want to be around him when he drinks because he is really unpleasant and he always argues with me. we had a row a few days ago because he was drunk now he ignoring me and ...
A. 3 July 2009: This is going to sound harsh on him but unless he recognizes that he has a problem, he's not going to change. And if I were you and you had a chance to leave him before getting too entangled, I would leap at it, knowing what I know now.
I lost a ve... (read in full...)
Orgasm, sexuality, and urine pain: can anyone help answer these questions I have?
Q. Recently i have this feeling where i need to go for a wee all the time but when i dont pass urine, but when i do it stings alot, so much!! what is it? im a woman, with a boyfriend of nearly 2 years who i am totally in love with, thing is, in sex, ...
A. 2 July 2009: First part of the question: Go see your doctor. Sounds like a bladder infection to me, but then I'm not an expert.
Second part of the question: What does he say when you tell him what you would like, and that you're not satisfied? Does he know... (read in full...)
Homosexuality versus Christianity
Q. So i wanted to know. Like eversince 15yrs i started finding women attractive and for some reason at age 5 me and my best friend had some lesbo interaction. I dont know what it is but some women just have an affect on me and i end up liking them. Now ...
A. 2 July 2009: Okay, the original question has been overlooked in the debate now. Can we keep our eye on the original poster, please?... (read in full...)
I think I have limerence and want to get over him, what can I do?!
Q. Dealing with limerence. I have already posted 2 questions and this extends on from them. After listening to the agony aunts so far, I believe I have limerence, which is like an extreme love over someone, another boy. If you check wikipedia,...
A. 2 July 2009: A place to go for help: http://www.slaauk.org/ Good luck!... (read in full...)
Obsessing over this guy... help!
Q. This extends on from another question. The boy, let's call him Connor again, has been a big crush of mine since 7th year. He first made me realise I had feelings for other guys, he is the definition of perfect, I try each day to think of a fault...
A. 2 July 2009: A place to go for help: http://www.slaauk.org/
Good luck!... (read in full...)
I'm on the Pill but we don't use condoms, could I still get pregnant?
Q. hey i'm sophie, 16 right so i've been on the pill for nearly 6 months now and everytime me and my fiancé have sex we don't use a condom. Can i still get pregnant? i'm slightly worried. please help....
A. 2 July 2009: Here's another reason to use protection: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/genital-wartshow-do-i-know-i-dont-have.html
Keep in mind though, that condoms only reduce your risk of contracting an STI, they don't eliminate it entirely. So be very care... (read in full...)
I think I have limerence and want to get over him, what can I do?!
Q. Dealing with limerence. I have already posted 2 questions and this extends on from them. After listening to the agony aunts so far, I believe I have limerence, which is like an extreme love over someone, another boy. If you check wikipedia,...
A. 2 July 2009: Cut contact with him. Stop thinking about him. Start up some new hobbies. Make some new friends, reconnect with your old ones. Talk to your parents.
If you start thinking about him, stop and replace those thoughts with something else. Every time... (read in full...)
Genital warts..how do I know I don't have the virus?
Q. my boyfriend of 4 months told me he got genital warts and he thinks i gave it to him hes the only guy ive had unpertected sex with and im confused on how i could have gave it to him.... do i have hpv already? but i dont have any warts at all i ...
A. 2 July 2009: First of all, calm down, you'll be able to think and plan when your head is clear. You'll be fine.
Okay, let's separate the two issues. One is who gave what to whom. Leave that for the time being.
The real issue, and the one that needs attentio... (read in full...)
I think I have limerence and want to get over him, what can I do?!
Q. Dealing with limerence. I have already posted 2 questions and this extends on from them. After listening to the agony aunts so far, I believe I have limerence, which is like an extreme love over someone, another boy. If you check wikipedia,...
A. 2 July 2009: Sweetie, professional help is what is called for here. You've asked this question many times now and have had a lot of advice. I think the next step is talking to your parents and revealing your struggle to them--or asking them to get you some ... (read in full...)
We're trying to plan a wedding around 2 relatives and its not working!
Q. Hello everyone! Firstly, sorry this is so long, but please read on. I would be really grateful for some advice here. My fiance and I have been planning to get married next summer, however I recently found out that my grandfather is seriously ill, ...
A. 2 July 2009: Oooh, rock and hard place. This isn't going to get solved without someone sacrificing, I'm afraid. The first real test of your relationship, I guess?
First, let me challenge your acknowledgement of your future mother-in-law's cancer treatment and ... (read in full...)
Homosexuality versus Christianity
Q. So i wanted to know. Like eversince 15yrs i started finding women attractive and for some reason at age 5 me and my best friend had some lesbo interaction. I dont know what it is but some women just have an affect on me and i end up liking them. Now ...
A. 2 July 2009: Someone posted this link on another site and I thought it made for interesting reading:
http://1stholistic.com/Reading/liv_letter-from-god.htm
Makes you think about things.
I for one, do not think that you are flawed. You are yourself, un... (read in full...)
Is he telling the truth about this trip? Does he really HAVE to go with her or is he just using me?
Q. Ok I have had a crush on this guy I have worked with for 8 years. I was married and he was in a long term relationship for those 8 years but I always had these feelings I couldn't ignore, but being married, I did ignore them and quite honestly I ...
A. 2 July 2009: I'm not sure I could believe a guy saying he HAD to go on vacation with his soon-to-be-ex-girlfriend. If he really didn't want to be with her, faking it for another 2 months seems a bit excessive to me. I'm with you, it sounds like bull.
This is o... (read in full...)
She is having the best of both worlds and I am letting it happen!
Q. Well here is the problem. I have been in a serious relationship for 10 years now. Just started going to church. My girlfriend then starts to talking to a preacher who is 28 years old. He has no job and still lives at home with his parents and has ...
A. 2 July 2009: It's a very perplexing question you've asked. One detail I have to ask: have you talked with her about this? Or is it just happening without any discussion?
It's not a secret to you that she's seeing him as well, right? So why not flat out ask her,... (read in full...)
This baby was planned, I just need help finding a clinic or a shelter.
Q. Well im 17 and i am 5 weeks pregnant. I cant tell my mom and im afraid she might kick me out. This was planned and im not getting rid of my baby. I just need help. Do any1 know a place i can go 2 get check ups w/o an adult or a shelter i can go 2 in ...
A. 2 July 2009: I'm a bit worried about your planning, if you hadn't taken into account the fact that you'd need pre-natal care. Time for a plan, isn't it?
Okay, start here: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/pregnancy-4250.htm
There's a search t... (read in full...)
Obsessing over this guy... help!
Q. This extends on from another question. The boy, let's call him Connor again, has been a big crush of mine since 7th year. He first made me realise I had feelings for other guys, he is the definition of perfect, I try each day to think of a fault...
A. 2 July 2009: Too scared? Of what? That you might actually let go of the obsession? Is it possible that this obsession is a subconscious defense mechanism to deflect the real worry? The real worry being coming out.
Definitely time to see the doctor, I think. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of over one year constantly calls me a whore and accuses me of sleeping with coworkers when I have work meetings.
Q. My boyfriend of over one year constantly calls me a whore and accuses me of sleeping with coworkers when I have work meetings. I have never, in my short 26 years been unfaithful, I have been cheated on and I know that pain. I have been making...
A. 2 July 2009: If any man EVER called me a whore, that would have been the last time he ever saw me. Period. And the controlling behavior? The lack of trust? The underwear check? This man has issues. I sincerely doubt that you can change him.
I fear for your self... (read in full...)
He has stopped talking to me and I don't know why... What should I do? I still like him.
Q. This is a really long question... Especially from a kentucky girl like me.. But please answer becuase I am soo heart broken over this :-( Ok, so here it goes - I met this one girl named Dawn and she introduced me to her guy friend, Beckson....
A. 2 July 2009: Ouch. That hurts. He's definitely not interested, and he actually told your friend he thought you were crazy. Not good.
Honestly, I don't know why he abruptly changed. Maybe he just didn't feel it with you and is too much of a coward or a jerk to l... (read in full...)
Do these comments seem like another woman is flirting with me???
Q. I am female, 40 years old, and on a neighborhood tennis team. I am madly attracted to the female coach who is about my age. Sometimes I think she is attracted to me. But sometimes I don't think so and that it's all in my head. Take this conv...
A. 2 July 2009: I'm with satindesire, I don't see any flirting here. She paid you a compliment. Coaches are supposed to encourage their students/team members, so I wouldn't read anything more than that into it.
Just relax and enjoy tennis. If she is interested at a... (read in full...)
Obsessing over this guy... help!
Q. This extends on from another question. The boy, let's call him Connor again, has been a big crush of mine since 7th year. He first made me realise I had feelings for other guys, he is the definition of perfect, I try each day to think of a fault...
A. 2 July 2009: What steps have you taken to try to derail this obsessive thinking? Or do you just succumb to it? Has anything else in your life changed? Have there been any upheavals or losses?
This is out of my league, I think. Please read this wikipedia arti... (read in full...)
Obsessing over this guy... help!
Q. This extends on from another question. The boy, let's call him Connor again, has been a big crush of mine since 7th year. He first made me realise I had feelings for other guys, he is the definition of perfect, I try each day to think of a fault...
A. 1 July 2009: Are you still in school? Do you work? What other interests (besides Connor) do you have?... (read in full...)
Obsessing over this guy... help!
Q. This extends on from another question. The boy, let's call him Connor again, has been a big crush of mine since 7th year. He first made me realise I had feelings for other guys, he is the definition of perfect, I try each day to think of a fault...
A. 1 July 2009: What have you tried so far? Have you talked with anybody about this, a friend, a family member, anyone? When was the last time you saw your doctor?... (read in full...)
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