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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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She doesn't want me to see her sick from her chemo treatments!
Q. My gf and I have been friends for 4 years, dating for 14 months now. Shw was recently diagnosed with cancer. She was really open about it at frist telling me about her fears, wanting me to be there for appointments etc. She started chimo ...
A. 24 April 2010: How is your girlfriend doing? I was just wondering about you and her outcome? All the best.... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and pregnant, help!
Q. I am 14 pregnant to a 17 year old it was a drunken mistake, i am 1 month gone and not showing yet only small bump no one knows, i have already got morning sickness (i dont know why they call it this i'm sick throughout the day) i cant get rid of i...
A. 22 September 2009: Oh, I like those names! Those were the ones I thought sounded good--names that will serve them well through their lucky little lives.
Thank you, for letting us along for a tiny bit of this amazing journey you've been on, it is a real privilege to h... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and pregnant, help!
Q. I am 14 pregnant to a 17 year old it was a drunken mistake, i am 1 month gone and not showing yet only small bump no one knows, i have already got morning sickness (i dont know why they call it this i'm sick throughout the day) i cant get rid of i...
A. 14 September 2009: Congratulations to you and I'm bursting with happiness for you and your new family. How perfect, a boy and a girl and a lovely loving mum. You really are an amazing young lady and have a bright wonderful future ahead of you with your newborns.
I... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and pregnant, help!
Q. I am 14 pregnant to a 17 year old it was a drunken mistake, i am 1 month gone and not showing yet only small bump no one knows, i have already got morning sickness (i dont know why they call it this i'm sick throughout the day) i cant get rid of i...
A. 3 September 2009: Sweetie, I don't know, and it would be best if you had a proper medical exam! Here's a tool that can help you. Be sure to tell your mum and ring your doctor to see if you need to go to A and E.
There's a useful number here on this link: http... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and pregnant, help!
Q. I am 14 pregnant to a 17 year old it was a drunken mistake, i am 1 month gone and not showing yet only small bump no one knows, i have already got morning sickness (i dont know why they call it this i'm sick throughout the day) i cant get rid of i...
A. 13 August 2009: Good for you! Getting a job and getting ready for the babies, you are just a little gem, you are! As to your very sweet comment about "Trisha", I'm quite sure you meant to say "Gina" as she has been a true support and friend to you! I say kudos to ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my family I'm pregnant again?
Q. i had my first child at 19 and telling my family was a nightmare so im slightly concerned on how i can make it easier when i tell them this time.i have a new partner now who i have been with for 1 year we are engaged and iv just found out im ...
A. 26 July 2009: If your brother threatens suicide, then he needs professional help ASAP. Do you have the number for suicide prevention hotline near you?
That aside, is the the telling them that you don't know how to accomplish or the fear that something bad will... (read in full...)
How do I cope alone with Involuntary celibacy?
Q. i know what wrong with me now i suffer Involuntary celibacy all my life.its no wondering i have being rejected all the time no matter how nice dress or did n,t it did n,t make difference, because i suffer Involuntary celibacy like i said i was born ...
A. 26 July 2009: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-suffer-from-involuntary-celibacy.html Call your doctor. Please.... (read in full...)
How can I end this abusive relationship safely? And is there any way I can restore the self-esteem he has damaged?
Q. Hey everybody. I don't know what to do. I have recognized that I'm in an abusive relationship. It's a mixture of extreme control/jealousy, verbal abuse, slight physical ("play hitting", has hit me 1 time, threatens to punch/hit me if I dont do somet...
A. 26 July 2009: Thanks, Quirklady! Excellent link. I've bookmarked it for myself.... (read in full...)
He became ill and the relationship fell apart, almost a year on he wants to try again, I'm scared of being hurt
Q. I dated this guy for 3 months a year ago, last summer. He became very ill after about 6 weeks of us being together and was hospitalised for near on a month. I know 3 months isn't very long in terms of relationships, and even though it's likely ...
A. 26 July 2009: I think the way to look at is at what the outcomes of your two or more possible paths would be. If you don't reconnect with him and try again--what happens? You feel regret and loss for the missed opportunity for the rest of your life or do you resi... (read in full...)
Married for 3 years...What's going on? Need female perspective!
Q. Well were to start. I was married for three years.. some of it was a happy time. We seemed to have our problems like every couple. Sometimes when it got to a point where it was a bad fight. She would say somthing about just leaving... and of course ...
A. 26 July 2009: Sorry to hear you're in limbo here. So since you got married, your relationship was deteriorating to the point that she would leave you? What was going on that was so upsetting she would actually move out? It sounds as though you two would then get... (read in full...)
He's so verbally abusive
Q. I'm so confused, me and my boyfriend have a relationship of 5 years. When he gets angry he says really hurtful things like " you bitch, your deaf, you dumb slut" he tells me he has a short fuse and can't controll himself. Last night I had enough a...
A. 26 July 2009: I'm not exactly sure what your question is, but I want you to read this very carefully: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171 and decide if this applies to you.
Hope you find the peace you are look... (read in full...)
How can I end this abusive relationship safely? And is there any way I can restore the self-esteem he has damaged?
Q. Hey everybody. I don't know what to do. I have recognized that I'm in an abusive relationship. It's a mixture of extreme control/jealousy, verbal abuse, slight physical ("play hitting", has hit me 1 time, threatens to punch/hit me if I dont do somet...
A. 26 July 2009: I'm sorry to hear what you've been going through but happy to hear that you're taking steps to protect your mental and physical health. I'm looking for a set of links I had, but in the meantime, here's a list of things to do to detach from him: ... (read in full...)
Will guys mind if I have a weird looking vagina?
Q. This is a little embarrassing, but I'm really worried. I have a really weird looking vagina, like quite long lips that kinda hide my clit, I think it looks weird but no one I've slept with have said anything, but I'm really scared about the way it...
A. 26 July 2009: I found this little helpful aid to the question: "Am I Normal?" You are normal, really and truly.
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/teen-talk/watch/am-normal-behind-fig-leaf-26794.htm
Click on the picture and a little screen will appear above th... (read in full...)
He doesn't get that I BROKE UP with him! Help!
Q. Okay, so I ended it with my boyfriend today, and I don't think he knows I'm serious? :/ He keeps saying love you baby in texts and stuff, when I don't say it back he gets upset, eh I just ended it, why would I say it back? :( It's making it pretty ...
A. 25 July 2009: He sounds as though he has a thick skull or a hearing problem, so I doubt that anything you say would truly hurt him. Just be firm.
"It's over. Stop calling me. It's over. Stop calling me." Then don't take any more of his messages. And turn off ... (read in full...)
Did I smother him? How do I get his interest back?
Q. I have just come out of a long term relationship and have a son but have just started looking at dating, so to play it safe I went on a date with someone I have known a long time (but wasn't close too) we went out had a great time he paid me lots of ...
A. 25 July 2009: I'd just stop texting and leave the next step to him. Maybe something happened to his phone or he's been too busy to reply. Let him have some air and space, keep yourself busy and be bright and cheerful when he contacts you again. If you are likely ... (read in full...)
How can I become a better conversationalist?
Q. i cant hold a long and deep conversation.. for example if im out with a friend i just cant think of something to keep on talking. even if my mates talk i cant think of something to respond with! i can respond basically but i cant make it deep and ...
A. 25 July 2009: You're thinking too much about this and I think you'd have more to say if you weren't having an inner monologue. "I HAVE to think of something deep to say, I MUST look more wise and cool."
What are you passionate about? What do you know a lot abou... (read in full...)
She doesn't want me to see her sick from her chemo treatments!
Q. My gf and I have been friends for 4 years, dating for 14 months now. Shw was recently diagnosed with cancer. She was really open about it at frist telling me about her fears, wanting me to be there for appointments etc. She started chimo ...
A. 25 July 2009: One more thing, you are now technically a co-survivor. That means that you need support too. Sounds dopey, but there it is. Let people help you and support you too, don't put more stress on yourself by trying to solve everything. You can't.
In the ... (read in full...)
She doesn't want me to see her sick from her chemo treatments!
Q. My gf and I have been friends for 4 years, dating for 14 months now. Shw was recently diagnosed with cancer. She was really open about it at frist telling me about her fears, wanting me to be there for appointments etc. She started chimo ...
A. 25 July 2009: Oh you poor dears. I feel for you and your girlfriend, I have a close family member just getting through this process. It is sooo hard on everyone involved, it truly is.
I think the thing to recognize is that this cancer is about her, not about you ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and pregnant, help!
Q. I am 14 pregnant to a 17 year old it was a drunken mistake, i am 1 month gone and not showing yet only small bump no one knows, i have already got morning sickness (i dont know why they call it this i'm sick throughout the day) i cant get rid of i...
A. 25 July 2009: Sounds like you're really coming along nicely! Well done.
Okay, names. I have a question. How do you pronounce Evie-Mai? Is that Ee vee may or ee vee my?
Same with Kai-Lewis. Is that Keye or Kay (rhyming with eye or aye)?
Do you see why I'm aski... (read in full...)
Is it possible to infect someone with gonorrhea if you test negative for it, please help?
Q. HELP!!! Okay here's the story. I went out with this guy for a little while. We had unprotected sex. Within a month of us having sex he finds out he got gonorrhea. I went to a clinic and got tested. The lady told me my test results were going to come ...
A. 25 July 2009: It's hard to believe you can be a statistic until you are! I know you've learned a very hard lesson, so no lectures, just info from me. Here are some websites for you to have, so you can educate yourself on all the STIs that are out there. Being ... (read in full...)
Aunts and uncles: Do you feel defeated? Your answers seem to reflect this!
Q. A lot of advice I see given here counsels the person to just cut their losses when the going gets even a little rough. Its sad and pathetic. Is everyone on this site defeated in one way or another? It seems that way from some of the topics, and ...
A. 24 July 2009: I had been hoping for an actual example of what you considered 'defeatist' and what you would have written instead.
Well, thanks for your slant on things; I'm sure we're all more aware of the importance of not telling people to quit too soon, as i... (read in full...)
Advice to young men about young women
Q. I posted this as an answer to a young man, a virgin, who wanted to know about his young girlfriend, also a virgin... First, I know it's hard to believe but a girl her age may not know her body very well. She may not know what is sexually stimula...
A. 24 July 2009: Yawn. Post a reply when you're not feeling so lazy. ... (read in full...)
Advice to young men about young women
Q. I posted this as an answer to a young man, a virgin, who wanted to know about his young girlfriend, also a virgin... First, I know it's hard to believe but a girl her age may not know her body very well. She may not know what is sexually stimula...
A. 24 July 2009: Here's the original thread: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-long-does-it-take-a-girl-to.html
Someone suggested that I submit the answer as an article, so I did, without too much editing. ... (read in full...)
Advice to young men about young women
Q. I posted this as an answer to a young man, a virgin, who wanted to know about his young girlfriend, also a virgin... First, I know it's hard to believe but a girl her age may not know her body very well. She may not know what is sexually stimula...
A. 24 July 2009: Oh, and I just wonder why you have to be 'anon'? Are you concerned about your statistics? I don't bite, really.... (read in full...)
Advice to young men about young women
Q. I posted this as an answer to a young man, a virgin, who wanted to know about his young girlfriend, also a virgin... First, I know it's hard to believe but a girl her age may not know her body very well. She may not know what is sexually stimula...
A. 24 July 2009: -Wow, to imply that a man parts are easier to understand is fairly naive.
Well, it's a lot harder for some people to find the clitoris than it is to overlook the penis.
-I suggest you don't be talking to young men, because you are missing the ... (read in full...)
Is there a way to ask questions more nicely?
Q. I recently had a problem with my boyfriend. i like talking about our problems to solve them. communication is the key, correct? there's another problem that arises in this, he at times takes forever to answer. i asked him about this as well, he says ...
A. 24 July 2009: Why don't you post a couple of the questions you have for him, and how you've asked them and we'll see if we can't help you find a good way to phrase them.... (read in full...)
Relationship from hell: But I cant leave him!
Q. Here’s my problem: I probably have the relationship from hell, but I can’t break up with this guy, I love him too much. Problems: He takes money from me and says he’ll pay me back, never has. (over all, he’s taken at least £1000 from me.) ...
A. 24 July 2009: Can you tell me what's good about him and your relationship with him? Why you feel love toward him?... (read in full...)
Should I have anal with my boyfriend?
Q. ok i need help cuz my boyfriend wants to have anal but i dont know if i should. i want to know more stuff about anal before i do it. ive heard that it hurts alot and that their might be remains of poo on the condom when your done. then i also heard ...
A. 24 July 2009: KC 100 has given you some great advice. My only other suggestion is that you don't need to go straight to anal intercourse. The thing to remember is that he has an anus too, and it might help him understand what is entailed in anal intercourse if he ... (read in full...)
My Husband wants to dress in satin maid outfits while cleaning the house.
Q. Hi all I was hoping you can help, my husband and Ib have a great sex life and we are both quite openminded. My husband has admitted that he is Bi and has fantasies about being dressed in satin and being a sissy with other men. I know he has a ma...
A. 24 July 2009: You two are the ones who determine what is "too far", it shouldn't fall to a group of strangers to police your private life. If it bothers you, let him know. If it doesn't bother you, what's the harm?
If you're both open-minded and communicate well... (read in full...)
Do I start an affair with my student or keep it stricly professional?
Q. Hi aunty, I have been following your forums for a while..I am 25 yr old female-single teacher,I teach Computers for 12th grade boys school in USA..I often were tight dresses and mini skirts to school, i have a decent figure as I am fitness freak!!! ...
A. 24 July 2009: What's your native language? Because it certainly isn't English. I expect this is a question designed to wind us aunts up and elicit strong opinions, but what the heck, I'll have a go at offering my advice.
When you signed your employment cont... (read in full...)
Aunts and uncles: Do you feel defeated? Your answers seem to reflect this!
Q. A lot of advice I see given here counsels the person to just cut their losses when the going gets even a little rough. Its sad and pathetic. Is everyone on this site defeated in one way or another? It seems that way from some of the topics, and ...
A. 24 July 2009: I'm curious which posts you think were answered in a defeatist manner, and to read what advice you'd have to give them. There must have been at least one trigger question that caused you to write this question/article.... (read in full...)
Why do good looking guys always get girlfriends?
Q. why is it good looking guys always get girlfriends no matter where there are....
A. 24 July 2009: If it's any consolation, I went to college with a guy who looked like an Adonis. Perfect athlete's physique, a beautiful mop of curls, handsome features. He was handsome and boy did he know it. A heartbreaker, that one. Let's call him Matt.
F... (read in full...)
Why do good looking guys always get girlfriends?
Q. why is it good looking guys always get girlfriends no matter where there are....
A. 23 July 2009: Because the universe is unfair. Because life is unfair. But always remember that "goodlooking" is a relative term. What is beautiful to one person might be ugly to another. Some cultures value women who are curvier and fuller figured. Others v... (read in full...)
My BF says if I loved him I would have sex with him
Q. I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 39. he said he loves me and if I loved him I would have sex with him. what should i do?...
A. 23 July 2009: Is it just me, or is someone reading into the female responses only what s/he chooses to see? Very strange. I'll wait until I get more detail from the OP.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is Bi-Polar and has panic attacks and 4 a year old child. Bad mix?
Q. i just split up with my boyfriend, he suffers from panic attacks and is bi-polar, he always does things when i break up with him, like do pills, panic, go out looking for fights, things like that. the problem is, his daughter is staying with him for ...
A. 23 July 2009: Could you make sure the child's mother is aware of this sitution? This isn't time to stand on the sidelines hoping nothing will happen. There is no cosmic 'undo' button. If anything happens to the child, you will regret this for the rest of your ... (read in full...)
My BF says if I loved him I would have sex with him
Q. I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 39. he said he loves me and if I loved him I would have sex with him. what should i do?...
A. 23 July 2009: The question does sound like that of someone who is younger than 19. Also that line of reasoning is very shady for a man of 39. It certainly is manipulative.
How did you two meet? How long have you been boyfriend and girlfriend? Have you met each... (read in full...)
Since having kids my wife is never in the mood for sex
Q. ever since we had a kid three years ago my wife is never in the mood for sex what can i do...
A. 23 July 2009: Has she had any 'me' time for herself? Where she's not just a mom or the housekeeper?
Does she get enough sleep? Does she feel good about herself? Is her health good?
How would you characterize the division of duties? Does she work? Do you work?
I... (read in full...)
Can I take this as a sign of affection that he's into me or do some guys just like to cuddle?
Q. Can I take this as a sign of affection that he's into me or do some guys just like to cuddle? I'm casually seeing this guy and yes we are sleeping together. He likes to cuddle in bed, especially after sex. When I fall asleep he's holding me and when ...
A. 23 July 2009: Sounds lovely. I'd say he certainly feels comfortable with you and that is good. Don't overthink this just yet, enjoy it and keep that mellow relaxed feeling going. I think most men just want to feel comfortable and comforted. The fact he's not ... (read in full...)
Things have gone from bad to worse with my abusive boyfriend
Q. hi! i have a boyfriend and we have been going out for three years now. at start, things were going so well but as time pass by it changes. he started hurting me,physically. and it really hurts me to know that he can do that to me. then, i m...
A. 23 July 2009: I'm sorry to hear that you are in an abusive relationship. Have you family or friends that you can rely on for help and support? Have you said simply to him that his abuse of you makes you unhappy to be intimate with him?
Please read the followin... (read in full...)
If I get pregnant, he says he'll do a runner! What should I do?
Q. i'm 16 and my boyfriend keeps telling me he thinks i'm pregnant. first time was when i felt sick, he said i was pregnant. second was when i started my period a day before, he went mental saying i'm pregnant etc, and loads more sh*t like that. ...
A. 23 July 2009: Why exactly are you with him?... (read in full...)
Do women in relationships still masturbate or have sexual thoughts about other men?
Q. My wife and I were talking the other day and the topic of masturbation came up. When I asked her the question I am positive she fed me with a bullshit answer. So basically I want to take a poll here. The question for any married woman or women ...
A. 23 July 2009: I think only some women complain about it. I don't understand why people think they own someone else's body and thoughts--seems unhealthy to me. ... (read in full...)
Any advice on how to handle myself and my neighbor?
Q. When I moved into my neighborhood, the first woman I met was very friendly and she and her husband were out immediate next-door-neighbors. We became very cordial, and exchanged cards, did samll favors for each other, such as taking in parcels and ...
A. 23 July 2009: Can I live next door to you ladies instead? We can gossip madly about our crazy neighbors without worrying about being stalked or having husbands stolen out from under us.
My advice, which doesn't seem to be needed, you have sorted this out, it to g... (read in full...)
Is what he's begun to say to me an idication that he now sees me as a potential g/f?
Q. Hi I have a male friend, who I am very close to. We talk every day, and I have been attracted to him for a very long time. Recently he has started making little slips in conversation, accidentally saying sexual things, or implying innuendo without...
A. 23 July 2009: It sounds like he does think sexual thoughts about you. But does that mean he'd want you as a girlfriend? I'm not sure. You could try joking back with him, saying in a light manner, "Oh, I don't do anything sexual unless I'm with my boyfriend. Are ... (read in full...)
19 and looking to get my tubes tied
Q. I am currently 19 and looking into getting my tubes tied. I know that this is a risky operation and I can blow my chances of ever having children but I am strongly curious about this option. Does anyone know what the chances are of pregnancy after a ...
A. 23 July 2009: If you want to become pregnant in the future, tubal ligation (getting your tubes tied) is a poor choice. This is from the plannedparenthood.org site:
"Can Sterilization Be Reversed?
"If you are thinking about reversal, sterilization may not be r... (read in full...)
Why am I upset that my ex got married?
Q. i cant understand why this is bothering me my ex fiance got married 6 months ago and hearing it has upset me quite badly. when we were together we were together about 4 years we got engaged and the ring he got me cost 15.99- we were both on goo...
A. 23 July 2009: Hi, I guess you didn't think the answers you got to the previous questions were helpful? Nor did you leave any feedback for the aunts there.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-am-i-so-upset-my-ex-got.html
http://ww... (read in full...)
I gained a baby but lost my period. Is this a problem?
Q. my pregnancy end it a year ago a got a healthy 1 year old baby but up to now i did not get my period back. there is any problem with me? ...
A. 23 July 2009: What explanation did your doctor have? That's who I'd ask if I were you. There might be absolutely nothing wrong. Then again, there might be something wrong, and wouldn't it be better to find out from an expert who has actually examined you?
C... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and pregnant, help!
Q. I am 14 pregnant to a 17 year old it was a drunken mistake, i am 1 month gone and not showing yet only small bump no one knows, i have already got morning sickness (i dont know why they call it this i'm sick throughout the day) i cant get rid of i...
A. 21 February 2009: I see you're posting; I'm curious as to what you have done? Have you told anyone? The longer you put it off, the more difficult it will become. I'm sure the people around you know that something is wrong. Why not go ahead and start to get the ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and pregnant, help!
Q. I am 14 pregnant to a 17 year old it was a drunken mistake, i am 1 month gone and not showing yet only small bump no one knows, i have already got morning sickness (i dont know why they call it this i'm sick throughout the day) i cant get rid of i...
A. 20 February 2009: Oh dear, this is not an easy situation to be in, is it? You know that you will have to tell your mother at some point, and waiting will only give you more days of worry. I think you need to be very brave, and tell her.
And I did want to clear some... (read in full...)
Advice to young men about young women
Q. I posted this as an answer to a young man, a virgin, who wanted to know about his young girlfriend, also a virgin... First, I know it's hard to believe but a girl her age may not know her body very well. She may not know what is sexually stimula...
A. 2 May 2008: Thanks for the nice feedback, everyone. If you have any thoughts to add, thank you Wizard of Waz for your acute observation, please feel free to add helpful comments too! I just wanted to give the young man some perspective from the girl's point of ... (read in full...)
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