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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.

I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman

If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)

Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle

All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.

"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama

"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay

"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain

I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html

http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/

So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.

“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.

The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.

If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.

http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html

If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.

You have my permission to say “no.”

If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.

There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’

Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.

Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.

Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.

I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.

I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html

More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm

I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171

Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.

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I'm 14 and pregnant, help!

Q. I am 14 pregnant to a 17 year old it was a drunken mistake, i am 1 month gone and not showing yet only small bump no one knows, i have already got morning sickness (i dont know why they call it this i'm sick throughout the day) i cant get rid of i...

A. 22 September 2009: Oh, I like those names! Those were the ones I thought sounded good--names that will serve them well through their lucky little lives. Thank you, for letting us along for a tiny bit of this amazing journey you've been on, it is a real privilege to h... (read in full...)

I'm 14 and pregnant, help!

A. 14 September 2009: Congratulations to you and I'm bursting with happiness for you and your new family. How perfect, a boy and a girl and a lovely loving mum. You really are an amazing young lady and have a bright wonderful future ahead of you with your newborns. I... (read in full...)

I'm 14 and pregnant, help!

A. 3 September 2009: Sweetie, I don't know, and it would be best if you had a proper medical exam! Here's a tool that can help you. Be sure to tell your mum and ring your doctor to see if you need to go to A and E. There's a useful number here on this link: http... (read in full...)

I'm 14 and pregnant, help!

A. 13 August 2009: Good for you! Getting a job and getting ready for the babies, you are just a little gem, you are! As to your very sweet comment about "Trisha", I'm quite sure you meant to say "Gina" as she has been a true support and friend to you! I say kudos to ... (read in full...)

I'm 14 and pregnant, help!

A. 25 July 2009: Sounds like you're really coming along nicely! Well done. Okay, names. I have a question. How do you pronounce Evie-Mai? Is that Ee vee may or ee vee my? Same with Kai-Lewis. Is that Keye or Kay (rhyming with eye or aye)? Do you see why I'm aski... (read in full...)

I think she's cheating as she's alot wider down there than she used to be...

Q. i think my girlfriend may be having sex with some one else. she is a lot wider down there than what she used to be, i have been seeing her for a year know and i dont fit aswell as i used to. am i write in thinking this way. can some one help me out ...

A. 27 February 2009: Does anyone ever really know that their partner is unfaithful? I think strong relationships are built on trust and respect. If there is a lack of trust, we have to examine the reason for that. Previous history of cheating, suspicious behavior, those ... (read in full...)

He cannot handle any emotions and I am the one who suffers for it

Q. He gets angry over things I dont cause and then turns it around and says I caused it. He then overthinks the event and talks to all his older women friends he is 53 they are 65-70. I feel that they are enabling his abusive behavior since they ...

A. 26 February 2009: I think you have hit the nail on the head: if he will not take responsibility for his actions, how can the relationship move on? His jealousy doesn't cause him to be abusive, HE is abusive, let's put the blame where it lies. I think if you are wave... (read in full...)

Does this mean I could still be pregnant?

Q. Ok so on february 16th, my boyfriend and i had unprotected sex. On february 18th i took the morning after pill. And now today i just got my period. It is right on schedule, neither early or late. Does this mean that i still might be pregnant...

A. 26 February 2009: It's unlikely you're pregnant, but for future reference, you might find this video very educational: http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html If you haven't been to a gynecologist yet, it'... (read in full...)

I think she's cheating as she's alot wider down there than she used to be...

A. 25 February 2009: Are you sure you're not shrinking? Look, if your girlfriend is the same age as you, she may be entering or is in menopause. As women age, their pelvic muscles may weaken, and that may be causing the change you refer to as being 'wider.' Let's face... (read in full...)

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A. 25 February 2009: I'm not quite clear who decided to break up: was it you or was it him? You said he left, but does that mean he left after you told him you couldn't get past this? I'm a little confused on this point. Anyway, it's certainly a very painful and trau... (read in full...)

Lack of oral

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A. 25 February 2009: Sexually incompatible; he won't 'assist' you in any way to have your own pleasure; he won't discuss it; he won't go to the doctor; he is indifferent to your distress about this. Hmmm. I have a couple of thoughts for you. He's a selfish pig. Or he h... (read in full...)

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Q. after I had sex I had really bad cramps in ma lower stomache for 2 days I might be pregnant but the cramps went away already...what was the bad cramps for...was it just part of pregnancy or what...

A. 25 February 2009: You might find some accurate medical advice here: www.webmd.com. It's probably a good idea to ask your doctor about this, especially if you think you are pregnant. Might as well start things off on a healthy note. And are you the one who hates ... (read in full...)

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Q. I've been dating a great guy for about 5 months. In the beginning, kissing alone would get me all hot and bothered. When we finally did have sex, it was fantastic. Now that the relationship has progressed and I've learned more about him (nothi...

A. 25 February 2009: The crazy woohoo honeymoon-esque period does eventually end in almost every single relationship. I think it generally takes a bit longer than 5 months for it to fizzle, and in your case, actually it's done more than that, it's reaching "call the ... (read in full...)

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A. 24 February 2009: Drop the subject for now, after you gently tell her that if and when she wants to talk about it, you're ready to listen to her. Otherwise, just leave it be. Not everyone enjoys or tolerates anal sex, and she may be in that group. If she does talk... (read in full...)

Are all men forgetful? Or do they just not care?

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A. 24 February 2009: If you have expectations about the day, it's a really good idea to let him know. Otherwise, you're blindsiding him if you get miffed or angry or hurt that he didn't remember or even notice. And that's not playing nice with his feelings. Personally, ... (read in full...)

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A. 24 February 2009: Could you give us some more information about him so we can help you better? How old is he, where does he live and how did you two meet? Have you spoken with him on the phone at all? And what did your parents say about this when you told them... (read in full...)

He's older and knows I have a boyfriend, how can I show him I'm not interested?

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A. 24 February 2009: Hi, you're welcome. The thing to keep in mind is that you need to be very clear to him that you do not welcome this behavior at all. Also notice that I used "I feel..." "I need you to...." "I am..." language, rather than "You are doing..." "You... (read in full...)

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A. 24 February 2009: Look at it this way, if he wasn't attracted to you, he wouldn't have bothered to go out and get the Viagra. I think the fact that he has means he wants to please you. If I were you, I would let him know how much he means to me and love him all the ... (read in full...)

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A. 24 February 2009: I'm guessing that the same dynamic is happening with your partner that seems to be happening here. People tell you to lighten up, it could be much worse, but you know that it's illegal and are having trouble coming to grips with this. How is it you ... (read in full...)

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A. 24 February 2009: I found you a very respected source for medical information: http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/retrograde-ejaculation/DS00913 And another one I don't know much about, but seems to have some interesting information: http://in... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is in his 20's and when he orgasms he doesn't ejaculate.

A. 24 February 2009: He might have a condition called retrograde ejaculation, where the semen backs into the bladder during orgasm and is then expelled when he urinates. If you want to get pregnant, you and he are going to have to discuss this with a specialist. Here ... (read in full...)

Opinions about men going off sex?

Q. I just read an article "Why men don't want sex anymore" at http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/woman/sexandlove/article2220901.ece?OTC-RSS and ATTR=Sex+And+Love In summery it sort of surmises that some men go off sex because they feel mispla...

A. 24 February 2009: Ah, the Sun, that bastion of balanced, accurate, fair coverage! I'm sure it wins Pulizter prizes for the quality of its journalism. Anyway, I took a quick peek at the Mens Health Forum, one of the sources cited at the beginning of the article. You ... (read in full...)

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A. 24 February 2009: I think I would go for that meeting up; obviously taking the precautions you mentioned. I think it's reasonable to see if there's any connection in a face-to-face meeting and you don't have to sleep with him, after all! You sound very hesitant and ... (read in full...)

Do you think I have anything to worry about or if I should just be patient??

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A. 24 February 2009: Just be patient for now, you've shown that you're interested and the ball is in his court. If you seem overly to see him again, it might put him off. So tell your friends that you did meet up with him and that you thought he was fun to be with. If ... (read in full...)

Help please... I don't know where I stand with him...

Q. I met someone on holiday who is a bit older then me like 12 years older and sort of has a girlfriend I know bad idea, anyway it was just a friendship thing at first but I really started to like him and well he likes me too. So back in UK and n...

A. 24 February 2009: Whoa there! What's the rush, what's the worry here? You've met a new man, that's good, he had a girlfriend, that's bad. He's broken up with her, that's good, but you don't know if that is for certain, that's bad. So you're having talks that are not ... (read in full...)

What do I do to get her to want me back?

Q. The only way she's going to want me back is if she feels like she's losing me. How do i do that? We've been apart for 4 months and she doesnt' want to date me, but wants to remain friends and talk/catch up etc. Up until a month ago she would say ...

A. 24 February 2009: So you want her back? Okay, you have to change tactics a little bit. Do start dating other people. Bright, interesting, fun to be with girls are the ones you want to be with now. Or at least, even if the girls you date aren't all of those things, ... (read in full...)

Why do I feel like this and what does it mean?

Q. recently i broke up with my boyfriend. we were moving, like, halfway across the world, but i dont think it would have gone anywhere because although there was love there was nothing else. when i came home, i made a new friend. a girl. i have nev...

A. 24 February 2009: Hi, hon, your question is a little difficult to understand, which is probably why you're not getting many answers. So you had to move away from your boyfriend and still feel an ache in your heart for him. And you have a new girl friend (two words, ... (read in full...)

I want to grow old with her but our sex life is problematic and she is not receptive to any change, help?

Q. Hi, I'm a 34yr old guy dating a 31 yr old lady. I'm not all that experienced however I have been around the block. The girl I am seeing is all that I've ever wanted and more and couldn't be happier but this is not so when were in bed. She is not e...

A. 24 February 2009: Hi, I hate to do this to you but I remembered a thread that I answered a little while back that may help you think about some of the issues she may be facing. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-have-some-major-issues-with-our-sex.html It sounded ... (read in full...)

I'm having real trouble with speaking properly.

Q. Hi, I'm having real trouble with speaking properly. Whenever I want to say something, it's like I can't get the words out or fumble the sentence and use bad grammar. Also, I talk in a high pitched voice- how do I speak calmly and clearly? Help! ...

A. 23 February 2009: Practice, practice, practice. Record yourself reading and just having a conversation (get permission from the other person, of course). One thing I've learned is that if I tip my head down, as if I'm looking down at the ground, the timbre of of my ... (read in full...)

He's thinks I've been unfaithful to him because my vagina seems stretched!

Q. I have been with my boyfriend for one year, faithful the entire time. Even before we became serious, I was not with anyone else (he was). He has also spent the past few months attacking my past and telling me the most hurtful things about the ...

A. 23 February 2009: I don't like to hear that you are frightened to tell what has happened with your test. You do see that he's abusive, don't you? I think it would be a good idea to contact your doctor's office and ask to speak with the nurse practioner or phys... (read in full...)

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A. 23 February 2009: Hi, good for you for asking that your boyfriend be tested. I think asking him to undergo a swab or a blood test is a little price for what he's asking you to risk. So stick to your guns here! If he can't tolerate a swab, for heaven's sake, are you ... (read in full...)

I need help in asking a girl out.

Q. I am 17 and I have liked this girl for a real long time... anyway I have never been able to muster the guts to do anything, I think she does know that I like her but I am not sure. Does anyone know what I should do?...

A. 23 February 2009: Okay, so you know most of her friends, it's a small school, so everyone knows everyone else. Right, then my advice would be to start saying "hello" to her every time you see her. Just a nice, ordinary, common "hello"--nothing fancy. And be sure to ... (read in full...)

I need help in asking a girl out.

A. 22 February 2009: Can you simply ask her a question about school or a class or something like that? It doesn't have to be anything earth-shattering, just a comment or question on something that's happening. You could work up to it by waving at her when you see her, ... (read in full...)

Different ways to please my partner?

Q. right I really need some help. Everything I do sexually to pleasure my girlfriend doesn't work. It has worked for other girls but it doesn't with her. i've gone down on her, fingered her, had sex with her, she says she can feel it but she doesnt ...

A. 21 February 2009: The aunt "DoubleM" has written many answers that may be of some help to you. You can type his name into the search box up on the top along with 'orgasm' and you should get some Q/A threads that may help you with her. The trouble is that she does... (read in full...)

Are there any programs that can help a disabled full-time single mom own a home

Q. I am single mother of 2 sons who was newly declared disabled. I've worked as an R.N. for 18 yrs until medical conditions prevent me from working. My ultimate dream is to own a small new home. Can anyone tell me of any programs the US govt. or any ...

A. 21 February 2009: Artistry has given you great advice. Here's another organization to explore: http://www.habitat.org/intl/na/218.aspx Type in your zip code and that will lead you to the local affiliate. You could also contact a mortgage loan officer for guidance... (read in full...)

I'm 14 and pregnant, help!

A. 21 February 2009: I see you're posting; I'm curious as to what you have done? Have you told anyone? The longer you put it off, the more difficult it will become. I'm sure the people around you know that something is wrong. Why not go ahead and start to get the ... (read in full...)

My wife was offended by my comment about her sexuality, how can I take it back?

Q. I have insulted my wife by calling her basic to describe her sexually. She was highly offened. She said i destroyed her confidence and self worth. I did not attempt to correct it and now 6 days later after a talk last night she wants to separate. ...

A. 20 February 2009: Ouch. That does sound very bad. If she's not even willing to discuss it with you, there's very little you can do. But you will kick yourself if you don't try, I think. I don't know. Are you prepared to try even if it doesn't succeed? You have a lot ... (read in full...)

I'm 14 and pregnant, help!

A. 20 February 2009: Oh dear, this is not an easy situation to be in, is it? You know that you will have to tell your mother at some point, and waiting will only give you more days of worry. I think you need to be very brave, and tell her. And I did want to clear some... (read in full...)

What is his game plan??

Q. Help. I met a guy over the internet who lives in NSW. I live in Perth. We seemed to get along really well. He then started sending me pics of his lower private parts and wanted to know what I was wearing etc and wanted intimate pics of me. At first ...

A. 20 February 2009: Did you happen to read the advice you got on this thread you started? http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-am-feeling-very-hurt-upset-and-anxious.html I think that your feelings for this man are based on a lie. I expect his game plan is to keep s... (read in full...)

Masturbation and pregnancy?

Q. my bf told its not good for girls to mastrbate because it will give them problems later in pregnancy. is this true? thank you...

A. 20 February 2009: I don't think what he told you is accurate. I think that he might be listening to old wives' tales or simply has some bad information. The one who can answer this question is your doctor. Here's a link for you to read some medically reviewed ... (read in full...)

Why did he have to come back and hurt me all over again?

Q. He accused me Of cheating when i wasn’t.. he didn’t contact me till 2months now and he calls me today and i told him 2 call me bk cos i was out.. he called me back and asked about my BF and said i don’t know. and he said hes not tryna get ...

A. 20 February 2009: Okay, it's pretty clear that he's a jerk. And generally, jerks cannot be rehabilitated so that they behave like ordinary nice human beings in relationships. He must have been having some sort of low ego point so he decided to call you to make ... (read in full...)

Three weeks late after using protection?

Q. My boyfriend and i are both 15 and have only been dating for 1 1/2 months. we've had sex and we used condoms everytime but i am three weeks late. i've taken 3 pregnancy test and two said negative but the third was deffective. he already knows that i ...

A. 20 February 2009: I guess if you have been having sex, then you need to realize that there can be consequences that may not be what you planned. This happens to adults as well. So if you are old enough to be having sex, then you are old enough to take the ... (read in full...)

Possible for me to have another miscarriage due to the last one?

Q. I had a miscarriage in 08 I may be pregnant now.is it possible for me to have another miscarriage due to the last one? I really don't want to lose my baby again...

A. 20 February 2009: What a great question to ask your OB/GYN! I found a link for you that may help when you go to see her/him. http://www.webmd.com/baby/pregnancy-miscarriage There was a relevant Q/A for you on that: "Can I Get Pregnant Following a Miscarriage? "Y... (read in full...)

I'm 14 and don't want anything to do with sex!

Q. Ok I'm 14 and don't want any thing to do with any thing even related to sex is that good or is there something wrong? Like I even think masturbating is a waste of time plz give me your advice! ...

A. 20 February 2009: I used to feel that way about golf too, when I was a teenager. You're fine, don't worry. All things in their time....... (read in full...)

Lack of oral

A. 20 February 2009: It sounds to me that you are sexually incompatible with your guy. The lack of interest in your pleasure is a problem, as from what you write, he doesn't particularly care one way or the other. You have to decide now, you've given him a year to 'imp... (read in full...)

My wife was offended by my comment about her sexuality, how can I take it back?

A. 19 February 2009: Sounds like a plan. I can't wait to hear how it goes. Remember, you two are a team, and you just need to focus on building that up again. Try to let your anger wash out of you; just accept that you are in the situation you are in and that you can ... (read in full...)

My wife was offended by my comment about her sexuality, how can I take it back?

A. 19 February 2009: Whew, okay, thank you for your followup. It just wasn't computing for me, but now with the additional detail, we have a better idea about what is happening and what could be going through her head. I'll offer up more of my thoughts and suggestions ... (read in full...)

My wife was offended by my comment about her sexuality, how can I take it back?

A. 19 February 2009: Okay, a woman doesn't ask for a separation after just one comment like the idiotic one you made; there is much much more there than you have shared with us. Either you have chosen to focus on this one comment as the thing that needs 'fixing' or you ... (read in full...)