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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Am I stupid for letting a few more old texts ruin my marriage?
Q. Hi everyone, Things have taken a huge turn for the worse. We seemed to have smoothed things out I was looking forward to out 32nd anniversary tomorrow and holiday next week. Anyway, my husband had to put his sim in his old phone as his other i...
A. 30 July 2009: Sorry, I keep coming up with things I want to say to you, and I've got one more for you to think about.
It’s like you’ve been notified you have cancer. You haven’t done anything to deserve it, okay maybe you exposed yourself somehow to some... (read in full...)
My controlling husband won't except that I don't love him anymore.
Q. I told my husband i don`t love him like i used to,the fact is that i love him but i`m not in love with him.I told him and he don`t accept what i said.We been together for 4 years we have a son 2 years old..i want to end the mariage,he is to ...
A. 29 July 2009: You have an abusive husband, it sounds to me and I have some links for you. First, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (1-800-799-7233). They also have a website http://www.ndvh.org
Someone posted an excellent link a coup... (read in full...)
I need an unbiased opinion. There's a lack of passion in our marriage due to her illness.
Q. I have been married for 8 years. When we started dating (12 years ago), we had a great time. She was not as passionate or as romantic as I was but I was able to look that over because she had many other great qualities that I was attracted to. ...
A. 29 July 2009: I don't think you are shallow at all; I think you are confronting an untenable situation with no evident win-win solution to it. I have no earthly idea how this would affect me if it were to develop this way, so I cannot possibly judge you. I can ... (read in full...)
Am I stupid for letting a few more old texts ruin my marriage?
Q. Hi everyone, Things have taken a huge turn for the worse. We seemed to have smoothed things out I was looking forward to out 32nd anniversary tomorrow and holiday next week. Anyway, my husband had to put his sim in his old phone as his other i...
A. 29 July 2009: Thanks, SB, for that insight, that you are consumed by jealousy and insecurity right now. I think that you know you don't want to be there. Again, I don't know how I'd react in your situation, not having ever been there, so I cannot pretend that I ... (read in full...)
Am I stupid for letting a few more old texts ruin my marriage?
Q. Hi everyone, Things have taken a huge turn for the worse. We seemed to have smoothed things out I was looking forward to out 32nd anniversary tomorrow and holiday next week. Anyway, my husband had to put his sim in his old phone as his other i...
A. 29 July 2009: Hi, I know I’m a bit late to this question, but I have followed some of it and saw that you had some fresh information and a fresh wound. I have spent some time thinking about this situation and I just want to share my thoughts with you. I hope you ... (read in full...)
Poop problem!
Q. Recently I haven't done anything different as far as I know but whenever I go to the toilet for a poop my anus tears a little on the outside and a littl bit of blood is produced and it's quite painful. Anyone have any idea what could be the cause of ...
A. 29 July 2009: Sounds a bit like hemorrhoids to me. http://www.webmd.com/a-to-z-guides/hemorrhoids-topic-overview
Probably best to be seen by a doctor to make sure it isn't something more serious. Why take chances with your health?
Take care!... (read in full...)
I think his ex has some kind of hold on him!
Q. Hi There I have a problem. My boyfriend of 2 years has been telling me approximately every 2 months now for the year that he doesn't love me or we are not commpatible or he is confused about his feelings. We are in this stage right now where ...
A. 29 July 2009: I hope things turn out for you. If you feel the need for more input, please feel free to post an update, or start with a fresh question so more aunts can respond then.
Take care.... (read in full...)
I think his ex has some kind of hold on him!
Q. Hi There I have a problem. My boyfriend of 2 years has been telling me approximately every 2 months now for the year that he doesn't love me or we are not commpatible or he is confused about his feelings. We are in this stage right now where ...
A. 29 July 2009: You're not bothering me. I choose to be here and answer questions. It's funny, you made me smile about the girlfriends/intruding comment: I'm on the uncomfortably close to 50 side of 40. So at least I have that in common with your girlfriends.
S... (read in full...)
Is she giving me a signal that she wants me?
Q. Ok my first question so here we go... I got out of a bad relationship about six months ago and since then I started chatting to a girl I have known for many years well she rang me on Wednesday night from tesco and I said I fancyed some lemon ...
A. 29 July 2009: Have a wonderful time and I hope things work out for you! Nice to hear a happy ending!... (read in full...)
This whole year with him has been trying! What's going on?
Q. I need help with some advice from some wise people. The relationship im in now is going sour atleast from my view it is. Its almost been a year and In the beginning my bf wasn't as bad as he is now. He cared about how I felt when he acted a way I ...
A. 29 July 2009: What's good about this relationship? He sounds appalling. Are you scared of him, with that anger problem?
Look, you start as you mean to go on. He's decided he should be in control--whatever that means. Are you sure your personality won't wilt and ... (read in full...)
I think his ex has some kind of hold on him!
Q. Hi There I have a problem. My boyfriend of 2 years has been telling me approximately every 2 months now for the year that he doesn't love me or we are not commpatible or he is confused about his feelings. We are in this stage right now where ...
A. 29 July 2009: Thank you for the follow up! That helps get a clearer picture.
First of all, don't make any decisions in the heat of anger--it may feel good to DO something, anything, but hold off until you are feeling calmer and think logically. For me, that... (read in full...)
I need an unbiased opinion. There's a lack of passion in our marriage due to her illness.
Q. I have been married for 8 years. When we started dating (12 years ago), we had a great time. She was not as passionate or as romantic as I was but I was able to look that over because she had many other great qualities that I was attracted to. ...
A. 28 July 2009: Thanks for the followup. I have a feeling that you've already reached an internal decision and are trying to work out if it's going to make you look as bad as you think it will.
I think you're feeling incredibly guilty already for what this is goin... (read in full...)
Problems with pornography!
Q. I have got a problem. Last thing I would ever have expected, but there you go… Pornography. Yeah-yeah, you’ve heard it all before, right… But listen. About 6 month ago I find porn on my married-for-a-long-time husband's computer. I try not to over ...
A. 28 July 2009: Seek counseling. You've described a problem that is causing problems with your marriage and sex life, problems with your daily life, and you are hiding it from him.
Same as if you'd asked about a drug problem, or a drinking problem, or another addi... (read in full...)
Which should I believe, his action or words?
Q. My ex insisted to see me recently and won't stop bugging me until I said yes, I will talk to him. On the phone he sounded like he was going to cry. When I saw him, he said he prayed so hard I would agree to see him which i did. He looked shy and w...
A. 28 July 2009: He dumped you by text? Yikes, that's an immature or cowardly act there.
Okay, I've read your question and follow up several times and I think I have a handle on this and a possible explanation and solution for you. I think. I could be wrong, this... (read in full...)
I think his ex has some kind of hold on him!
Q. Hi There I have a problem. My boyfriend of 2 years has been telling me approximately every 2 months now for the year that he doesn't love me or we are not commpatible or he is confused about his feelings. We are in this stage right now where ...
A. 28 July 2009: I agree, it IS crazy. He gets ill to the point of vomiting if you two are going to be intimate? He withdraws from you emotionally every two months? Oh, boy, I wish there was some magical way to make this all right, but I simply do not know of any.
H... (read in full...)
My teacher tried to have sex with me. Please help... I don't know what to do.
Q. There is a teacher at my school who I have always got along well with, in a purely friend-like way. You know what it's like when you meet someone completely 'on your wavelength' e.g. same sense of humour, confindent in each others company, but this ...
A. 28 July 2009: He IS like that. He did it and yes, he does need to be reported, so that he can get the help he needs and so that some other poor girl doesn't get hurt as well. If everyone keeps this a secret, he'll only cause more damage. If he can't remember ... (read in full...)
He can't come!
Q. well my boy friend an i been togather for one month now an fron the time we net we been haveing sex every day an he never come not one time for the hold month we been have ing sex befor to be togather i have not had ...
A. 28 July 2009: Hi, I'm sorry that your sex life is suffering; this must be upsetting for both of you.
I think the very first thing for him to do is to see his doctor. There may be a simple reason for this problem and it would safer for him to be checked out firs... (read in full...)
Help its my first time today!
Q. okay..today is the day i have sex with my boyfriend and i'm scared because i don't know what to do with him and he wants me to be on top and i don't know anything about sex and he does not want to be on top of me because he is going to be tried and ...
A. 28 July 2009: First, read all the notes from the aunts who've answered your question here. Then read these links, (copy/paste as needed) and finally, please do us the courtesy of letting us know why it HAS to be today? What is up with that?
h... (read in full...)
What does he mean by saying they have a great 'personality'?
Q. Hi Everyone I would like to know: My husband (been married almost 10 y) always says the same thing... What does it mean?When he sees a naked woman, on TV or in the newspaper or in a magazine, he looks her up and down, and says: she looks like s...
A. 28 July 2009: Just laugh at him and say, "Yeah, I heard silicone does wonders for a girl's personality. It removes IQ points and makes them fall for fat, balding, aging men. I'm sure she has a GREAT personality." That's basically a longer way to say, "In your ... (read in full...)
Is he lying about watching porn?
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for a while now, and think that i have caught him for the second time watching porn. The first time, i caught him in the action, however, the second time, i looked at his computer history and found some recent ...
A. 28 July 2009: Hi xAx, I know you're very unhappy with him right now, but just take a little while to think this through and decide if your concern is based on a personal moral/ethics base or if you're unhappy about the porn because it makes you feel insecure. If ... (read in full...)
I need an unbiased opinion. There's a lack of passion in our marriage due to her illness.
Q. I have been married for 8 years. When we started dating (12 years ago), we had a great time. She was not as passionate or as romantic as I was but I was able to look that over because she had many other great qualities that I was attracted to. ...
A. 28 July 2009: You are in a very tough situation. Thank you for saying you would never cheat on her, that's a good thing. I guess you're just so sad and frustrated and lonely right now that you just needed to vent and to hear what people had to say?
I just don'... (read in full...)
Should I confront her about this or not?
Q. Hello there, Ive been dating my girlfriend for over a year now. Lately im getting more worried that she doesnt love me like she did. First of all we did not have sex yet, she is 16 and i am 18. But lately her sex drive has been lower than usual...
A. 28 July 2009: I don't think you have a choice. You will have to talk with her at some point. The thing you do have a choice about is HOW you ask her and how you talk about it.
The change in intimacy would be concerning to me too, it's a change and not for the ... (read in full...)
Is she giving me a signal that she wants me?
Q. Ok my first question so here we go... I got out of a bad relationship about six months ago and since then I started chatting to a girl I have known for many years well she rang me on Wednesday night from tesco and I said I fancyed some lemon ...
A. 28 July 2009: You know what I think you should do? Ask this girl out on a proper date. Take her to dinner or to hear live music or go dancing or whatever it is you both like to do. That is, do this if you think you'd like to get to know her better.
If the ques... (read in full...)
My sister's been very disrespectful and I resent my mother for her reaction!
Q. I dont even know where to start.....I'am worried that i might be heading for unhapinness for ever. ok so this is the deal. I am 22 with alot on my shoulders, not because i have to but because i choose to. i have 2 jobs. so this sat i came home very ...
A. 28 July 2009: I have nothing but respect for you and your commitment to your family and work ethic. You deserve good things in life, not disrespect. May I ask have you calmed down now? And do you feel better or are you still very angry?... (read in full...)
Missed two pills! Was I fertile when we had sex?
Q. me and my bf had sex last week and i am on the pill and i missed two days of it and i took one on the day but i dont know whether i was fertile he pulled himself out before him... and i am scared he cummed in side me i am due on my period in a week ...
A. 27 July 2009: I did some research for you and it turns out it matters what kind of pill you are taking. If you're on the combination pill, with both estrogen and progestin, there's a chart on the link I'm going to give you that tells you what you need to do ... (read in full...)
Help - I've had limited experience, and I'm attracted to an older woman.
Q. I'm 24 and attracted to a 36 year old woman. just recently moved to a new city. We were introduced by a mutual friend. She is incredibly attractive, went to an ivy league college, and has an amazing journalism career. We went to the movies the other ...
A. 27 July 2009: Oh no, Daniel! Don't ask Q questions like that! We'll NEVER get him off this thread! And thank you for the nice compliments *fluffs pink lifejacket and checks for black lipstick on teeth*, here's to youth, age, wisdom, and fun! *clinks wineglass* ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a lump but he wont go to the doctor!
Q. Hello Everyone, My byfriend is 29 and he has a lump on his testicals (inside his scrotum not on the outside) and he tells me it has been there for a good few years. Its nothing you could feel froma general play but he showed me where it was the...
A. 27 July 2009: Good luck! Good for you too. I think this now is a question of making him actually make the appointment. Can you do this for him? I mean, the NHS site said to make an appointment within 36 hours. That's not days, weeks or years. That's hours. ... (read in full...)
Am I being too sensitive when I expect my boyfriend of one year to invite me to family events?
Q. Am I being too sensitive when I expect my boyfriend of one year to invite me to family events? I have met some family members and he has met some of mine, so I don't understand why he does not invite me to cookouts, dinners, etc when he is with his ...
A. 27 July 2009: Okay, this is going to sound weird, but I didn't meet my now-husband's sister until AFTER we were engaged at the age of 34. Seriously. And I only met his family a couple of times.
My guy is a compartmentalizer. That means work goes over here, fami... (read in full...)
Help - I've had limited experience, and I'm attracted to an older woman.
Q. I'm 24 and attracted to a 36 year old woman. just recently moved to a new city. We were introduced by a mutual friend. She is incredibly attractive, went to an ivy league college, and has an amazing journalism career. We went to the movies the other ...
A. 27 July 2009: Wah! No fair, I want the bigger cookie! WAHHHHH!
Sorry, Solidus, every so often, some of us aunts feel the need to hijack a thread for our own entertainment. Well, q1605 attempts that with every thread, but this time, we've joined him. Hope you don'... (read in full...)
What will happen to my boyfriend if I get pregnant?
Q. Ok..I am 14 and I have a 17 year old boyfriend..and all last week I was over his house and half of the time while I was there we had unprotected sex but everytime he is about to "bust" he take it out for awhile and we start again, while we were ...
A. 27 July 2009: So why do you choose to have unprotected sex with him? Do you have hopes and dreams for your future? Are you an intelligent individual? ... (read in full...)
My sister's been very disrespectful and I resent my mother for her reaction!
Q. I dont even know where to start.....I'am worried that i might be heading for unhapinness for ever. ok so this is the deal. I am 22 with alot on my shoulders, not because i have to but because i choose to. i have 2 jobs. so this sat i came home very ...
A. 27 July 2009: This can't have been the very first time your sister was mean and disrespectful to you. The hurt you are expressing sounds as though you've been building it for years. I think what you've been hoping is that your mother will for once, take sides. ... (read in full...)
Help - I've had limited experience, and I'm attracted to an older woman.
Q. I'm 24 and attracted to a 36 year old woman. just recently moved to a new city. We were introduced by a mutual friend. She is incredibly attractive, went to an ivy league college, and has an amazing journalism career. We went to the movies the other ...
A. 27 July 2009: Oh, and thanks, Daniel, for that nice comment! And to Eyes too, listen to the youngster Daniel! He knows a thing or two, despite his tender age. ;)... (read in full...)
Help - I've had limited experience, and I'm attracted to an older woman.
Q. I'm 24 and attracted to a 36 year old woman. just recently moved to a new city. We were introduced by a mutual friend. She is incredibly attractive, went to an ivy league college, and has an amazing journalism career. We went to the movies the other ...
A. 27 July 2009: I would be thrilled to be as young as 36 again! That's prime time for many women. Best shape, best career, best health... she's YOUNG. You're all making her out to be old but that's relative to our Solidus here, who is what, 24? He's young, yes, but ... (read in full...)
Help - I've had limited experience, and I'm attracted to an older woman.
Q. I'm 24 and attracted to a 36 year old woman. just recently moved to a new city. We were introduced by a mutual friend. She is incredibly attractive, went to an ivy league college, and has an amazing journalism career. We went to the movies the other ...
A. 27 July 2009: I realize I am late to this discussion by the high school lockers, but I have a little nugget of advice I want to offer.
She sees you as a little kid right now because you are treating her as an older woman. She doesn't want to be considered an olde... (read in full...)
Why does he want to marry me if he treats me so badly?
Q. I have been dating a man for about a year and a half. He has had a very tough year due to unemployment and has become very discouraged in just about every aspect of his Life. In order to try and provide what I can for solidarity to the relations...
A. 27 July 2009: There are red flags waving in front of you. "Look out! Problem ahead! Look out!" It's good that you are paying attention.
Look, he's got some issues, I don't know what they are, I don't know if they can be addressed and corrected, but calling the ... (read in full...)
What DearCupid means to me
Q. I wanted to take the time to say a bit about how Dear Cupid has had a positive impact on my life. Well, I first joined this site in April. I had some free time on my hands, as I had to give up my demanding college course so I could focus on r...
A. 27 July 2009: *wiping tears* Wow, that's an amazing and moving testimonial. Also a story of personal triumph, what a wonderful thing to have conquered your anorexia.
I know you do good work here and help people more than they realize!
Well done, you. Hugs.... (read in full...)
When would I have conceived and when is the best time to take pregnancy test?
Q. I know this isn't a relationship question (MY APOLOGYS!), but I don't know much on pregnancy, by the way I am eighteen years old. I last had my period of June 28th for about four days. After the four days I had unprotected sex about three time...
A. 27 July 2009: Actually pregnancy occurs when the fertilized egg is implanted in the uterus. Sperm and egg meeting up is just fertilization of the egg. Once this complex of cells is implanted, that's when the hormones that can be detected by a pregnancy test start ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a lump but he wont go to the doctor!
Q. Hello Everyone, My byfriend is 29 and he has a lump on his testicals (inside his scrotum not on the outside) and he tells me it has been there for a good few years. Its nothing you could feel froma general play but he showed me where it was the...
A. 27 July 2009: Okay, don't panic, but honestly, your boyfriend needs to get seen by a doctor PRONTO.
I ran the NHS mens sexual health symptom checker with what you've described, and it said to get an appointment with the GP within 36 hours. I am not kidd... (read in full...)
He's too thoughtful and considerate to his family! But it's not mutual!
Q. i don't know where to start... I am married with kids. my husband is like a little puppet or puppy whenever things concern his family. he loves them too much he is too thoughtful and considerate when it comes to them. the thing is it is not ...
A. 27 July 2009: Unfortunately, they are his family and he has the right to be thoughtful and considerate and remember their birthdays if he would like. Honestly, it doesn't have anything to do with you. I would let him handle birthday remembrances and other ... (read in full...)
How do I break the link with this married man?
Q. I'm 40 something married for 14 years and very much hopelessly in love with another man. I noticed him for the first time 3 years ago. Before then he was completely invisible to me in social settings with my husband. We collided while traveling to a ...
A. 26 July 2009: Personally, if a married man were interested in me, and I in him [this is hypothetical, of course, so take that with a grain of salt], I think I would wait for him to be single before doing any 'exploring' of feelings with him.
Let's play it out,... (read in full...)
Why do I bleed heavily during sex?
Q. I am a 39 year old female. I love sex, but sometimes I start to bleed heavily during sex, Why does this happen. It is so embarrassing and I need to know if there is something I can do to stop it from happening? Any advise is appreciated. ...
A. 26 July 2009: Um, I ran this through the symptom checker tool at webmd.com. Not to be dramatic or anything, but one of the possible causes of vaginal bleeding is ectopic pregnancy. Usually it's associated with pelvic pain as well. That's life-threatening. Go see ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my family I'm pregnant again?
Q. i had my first child at 19 and telling my family was a nightmare so im slightly concerned on how i can make it easier when i tell them this time.i have a new partner now who i have been with for 1 year we are engaged and iv just found out im ...
A. 26 July 2009: If your brother threatens suicide, then he needs professional help ASAP. Do you have the number for suicide prevention hotline near you?
That aside, is the the telling them that you don't know how to accomplish or the fear that something bad will... (read in full...)
How do I break the link with this married man?
Q. I'm 40 something married for 14 years and very much hopelessly in love with another man. I noticed him for the first time 3 years ago. Before then he was completely invisible to me in social settings with my husband. We collided while traveling to a ...
A. 22 July 2009: It seems to me that you are doing the right thing. I personally think you can choose to do this by phone, and it might be a good idea, if you feel helpless in his presence. Certainly not by text or email!
Why did I use the words "the right thin... (read in full...)
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