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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Crazy about my sister-in-law!
Q. I am crazy about my sister-in-law and have been for over 30 years. I have told her and tried to stop my affection but to no avail. Since her husband died 4 years ago it has got much worse. She says she has no desire for me but I don't beleive her ...
A. 2 September 2009: Why would you want to destroy her family? That's not love, that's selfishness. This is a fantasy about YOU and it sounds as though she doesn't buy into it. YOU'RE the one with the problem.
If you can't manage your actions, then you are not real... (read in full...)
He hates my daughter, I hate his porn, but he does have his good aspects!
Q. I have a real problem!!..I separated from husband of 17 yrs approx 5yrs ago..i then did the 'wild child thing!!' for approx 3 yrs ie. did one night stands etc.. but eventually settled down to just living on my own with my 2 girls and doing 'what was ...
A. 2 September 2009: I agree with GinsengMeow here, you have used some very extreme phrasing to describe your feelings.
The thing that strikes me is that you've lived together for 18 months and you don't seem to have found a way to communicate and compromise on the issu... (read in full...)
He won't give me an orgasm because my semen smells too strongly
Q. Hi. I'm a 22-year-old gay guy, and I have an extremely difficult decision to make. My partner and I are on the verge of breaking up. The reason for our break-up has to do with our sex life. For the two-and-a-half years we've been together, my ...
A. 1 September 2009: If he's never pleasured you to the point of orgasm, how the hell does he know what your semen smells or tastes like? That doesn't make sense, unless you lie there and finish yourself while he looks on?
Sounds completely one-sided to me. It's all ... (read in full...)
Please tell me to go see a doctor immediately..
Q. Hey, another probable. This is kinda embaressing. Emmmm, today i have noticed after going to the loo, that the water was all bright red!!! This has never happened before. Lately its been difficult going to the loo. Well not diffficult, more...
A. 27 August 2009: I have no idea if they are related; I'm not a trained medical professional. What I do know, though, is that if you have blood where there's not supposed to be any and you are abusing painkillers that may have an impact on your blood and circulation, ... (read in full...)
Do I accept his brutal honesty? Or get out?
Q. So a couple of days ago was my 2nd anniversary with my boyfriend. It's been an odd two years - mostly happy moments but with a couple of major unhappy ones. I'll give the full history and this might be long: We had a happy relationship for...
A. 27 August 2009: Don't go there, Q.
I personally would have left this guy. I would have given him one, maybe two, chances to decide if he really loved me. The second time he told me he wasn't certain.... I'm outta there. Why? Because I'm wasting my time with a g... (read in full...)
Please tell me to go see a doctor immediately..
Q. Hey, another probable. This is kinda embaressing. Emmmm, today i have noticed after going to the loo, that the water was all bright red!!! This has never happened before. Lately its been difficult going to the loo. Well not diffficult, more...
A. 27 August 2009: Unless you are on your period and it is menstrual fluid, blood in the toilet is a sign you need to see a doctor ASAP. Like, tomorrow.
Don't mess around with your health. You should also tell the doctor about these other issues too:
http:... (read in full...)
I am 18, she is 13, can we get engaged?
Q. i like a girl in Mansfield but she love me will it be ok to get engaged to her, they are 13 years and i am 18 years old ? ...
A. 27 August 2009: Celtic tiger and Fatherly Advice have given you brilliant answers. I just wanted to point out that ALL of us answering have been teenagers. We ALL went through puberty and we ALL have some idea about what level of maturity teenagers are capable of. ... (read in full...)
Is it possible?
Q. Is it possible to cum without feeling it?...
A. 27 August 2009: This question reminds me about the old question: if a tree falls in the woods, and no one is around to hear it, does it make any sound?
If you mean, can you ejaculate without feeling it? I have no idea. Best to dress the little man for success: wear... (read in full...)
Why is taking longer for my girlfriend to climax?
Q. This is a post mark to is my girlfriend a player. When we first started dating when we have sex she would climax within 15 minutes, orally sometimes within 5. After December it became the time double and she became to incorporate a vibrator into ...
A. 27 August 2009: I hate to suggest this, but perhaps she was faking it at first? And then as things progressed, she realized that if she was going to enjoy sex, she was going to need the vibrator? Many women do, they're not 'broken' or flawed; it's just how they're ... (read in full...)
Is there any way to make my penis smaller?
Q. I have a situation that requires your expert advice. I have tried other online advice and have never been taking seriously. I have an abnormally large penis and it is causing physical and emotional issues for me and my wife. To begin, my flaccid ...
A. 26 August 2009: See your urologist for your options; your wife should discuss her medical issues with her doctor as well. I think it's a bit odd that you think strangers on the internet could give you better advice than your doctors.
... (read in full...)
What's the worst that can happen if I don't treat my yeast infection?
Q. what's the worst that can happen if i don't treat my yeast infection?...
A. 26 August 2009: How do you know it's a yeast infection?
From webmd.com:
"When to go call the doctor
"For healthy children and adults, if you try a medication and it fails or symptoms worsen, then consult your doctor. All people with weakened immune systems s... (read in full...)
When I turn 18 and I'm going to risk losing my family by leaving with my step-brother, who I'm in love in. What do you think?
Q. Ok I'm 15 years old. I'll be 16 in a few weeks. I have this step brother who i'm madly in love with. And he feels the same way about me. We've both been liking eachother since we were 13 and we can't seem to stop. In the summer of 2007 my mother and ...
A. 24 August 2009: I think it sounds like you have very strong feelings about him. You also have lots of time to plan.
I think the best strategy would be to study really hard, get excellent grades and do the extracurricular work needed to get you both into a grea... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and feel like I'm breaking down looking after everyone else!
Q. im 14 and my mum suffers from depression everyonce in awhile she has a breakdown and says she wants to kill herself and cries everyday, she is like this at the moment and my sister has a boyfriend right now so is not helping me to look after her ...
A. 24 August 2009: Oh sweetie, you shouldn't be in this position of having to look after everyone else, that's not your job! You should be busy growing up and learning about yourself and enjoying your childhood before all the pressures of adult life come piling on top ... (read in full...)
I don't totally trust the pill and don't want my boyfriend to wear a condom!
Q. Hi everyone, I wrote a while back with a question about the pill. Now I really do not know what to do. Basically I'm worrying a lot that the pill won't work and I will get pregnant whilst using it. I just cannot trust it no matter how hard I try. ...
A. 24 August 2009: In the equation you're looking at, on the one side, we have you getting pregnant. That's pretty big. On the other side, we have him having to wear a condom. Yes, there's less sensation, yes, it is a sacrifice. But it is not nearly on the same level ... (read in full...)
She's slept with 5 guys in 1 1/2 years, should I be with her?
Q. Okay so like a year ago i got really close to this girl, we made out alot and for a moment things almost went all the way. i recently started speaking to her again and i still feels this sexual attraction we had back then, im not sure if she does...
A. 24 August 2009: Our poster is not asking if he should date her, he is thinking of pursuing a FWB relationship--should he see her as a friend with sex on the side? That's the question.
I have to say that a guy that wants a FWB relationship isn't really in a posi... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant with his child and hes verbally abusive
Q. hi My husband and i was going thru tuff time, i thought that it was over, so i made the biggest mistake by cheating on him.he decide to patch thing upwith me and move on,so 8 months later i told my sitter what happen so she use that against me, i ...
A. 22 August 2009: I'm sorry I don't have time to write a longer answer, but I wanted to give you a link to an article here that may have some good links to help you figure your way out:
h... (read in full...)
I'm scared! How can he fit inside me if he is so big? His sexual past also bothers me.
Q. My boyfriend has slept with 71 girls. And i have slept with only 2 boys. We have together for nearly 6 months and we feel we are ready to sleep together. However Im scared at the fact he has slept with 71 girls and way more experienced than me and ...
A. 21 August 2009: How old is he? And as he's had sex with 71 girls, he should know by now how to be gentle. He should know about making sure that you are lubricated and aroused and ready for penetration. Why would he think there will be a lot of blood? Has that ... (read in full...)
I thought when she turned 30 sex would be better... it's worse, emotionless... Advice?
Q. I have been married for just over 9 years. My wife is my best friend and we are still madly in love, so much so it’s almost embarrassing. HOWEVER, sex is still a bit of a mystery. As time goes on, she slowly gives me hints of what she ...
A. 21 August 2009: This is going to sound overly dramatic, but have you ever considered the notion that she's actually a closet lesbian? That's she's been hiding or trying to quash a sexual preference for women? I ask because of the way you describe her as NEVER ... (read in full...)
I can't pee!
Q. i woke up this morning as usual an i went to the bathroom an found i couldnt pee ? im on my period and im dieing to go to pee but i physically cant im not even getting a burning sensation becasue im not even lucky enough to get a drop of pee out ...
A. 21 August 2009: To your GP or A&E now. Do not wait. I ran your symptoms through the NHS symptom checker, and got this:
"Make an appointment to see your GP.
You need make an urgent appointment to see your GP immediately.
If you cannot get to your GP, go to A... (read in full...)
Could the gunk on the comforter be semen? How can I get it tested?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have found white, milky hard gunk all over my comforter. I suspect my spouse and cleaning lady had oral sex. You see my spouse and I have had no sex of any kind -not even oral sex for 3 years or more. When he drinks alcohol, he ...
A. 21 August 2009: A comforter is a duvet, a bedspread, FYI. Poster, have you had a chance to think about our input?... (read in full...)
I want to break up with him, I feel trapped, he's clingy but I've never done this before!
Q. I think I need to break up with my boyfriend but I don't know how. I've never done it before. I've been thinking about it for some time but when we're together he is so lovely and kind and would do anything for me. Sometimes I think it can work if ...
A. 21 August 2009: There comes a time in life when you have to do something that is very uncomfortable and will lead to a lot of drama and unhappiness. You've reached that point, you sound like you are done with this relationship. I'm sorry for him that it's going to ... (read in full...)
Could the gunk on the comforter be semen? How can I get it tested?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have found white, milky hard gunk all over my comforter. I suspect my spouse and cleaning lady had oral sex. You see my spouse and I have had no sex of any kind -not even oral sex for 3 years or more. When he drinks alcohol, he ...
A. 21 August 2009: I think there are tests you can buy to do an at-home mini forensic assay on the gunk. Googling "home testing for semen" leads to quite a few sites selling such kits.
The problem is the gunk could well be semen, but was produced by masturbation, not ... (read in full...)
What do I do when my daughters are being sexually molested!
Q. i dont know what to do when a father is sexually molesting my two daughters. [Moderator note: more information would be helpful for the aunts to give advice.]...
A. 21 August 2009: Very scary post, I hope you'll get the help you need. I have a link for you. There's a number you can call too for a referral to a local center.
http://centers.rainn.org/
RAINN is the rape, abuse, and incest national network, and serves as a coordi... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any experience dating an Italian man?
Q. I am a 26 year old and dating a 29 year old Italian man. Does anyone have experience with Italians? Are the stereotypes of the men actually a reality in most cases? The relationship is not yet to a point of where I can't emotionally get ...
A. 20 August 2009: Red flag, absolutely. This is controlling behavior and you are not going to be able to convince him to trust you. The problem lies in HIM, not in you. Get out with your self-esteem intact. I don't care how lovely he is the other 80% of the time; the ... (read in full...)
Is underage sex something you agree with?! I want opinions please!
Q. Ive decided to put myself out here after been severely infuriated by some 'adults' on this site who deem it appropriate for CHILDREN to be having sex from as young as 13! do you think its appropriate for a child of this age to be having sex?? they ...
A. 20 August 2009: Age is NOT "just a number"; it is the measure of how many years you have been around and a rough indicator of maturity. There is a HUGE difference between an 8 year old and an 18 year old. What happens in those 10 years is the process of maturing, ... (read in full...)
What are the chances of being pregnant if he came inside of me 3 times?
Q. what are the chances of me being pregnant if the guy came inside me 3times? ...
A. 20 August 2009: Here's a chart that might help.
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
It tells you how many pregnancies per 100 women per year occur by various birth control methods. Withdraw... (read in full...)
What are the chances of being pregnant if he came inside of me 3 times?
Q. what are the chances of me being pregnant if the guy came inside me 3times? ...
A. 20 August 2009: Well, they certainly are higher than zero. Assuming this was completely unprotected sex, I believe younger couples have a higher rate of fecundity than couples in their 40s. I read somewhere that the fecundity rate for a couple in their 20s is 25% ... (read in full...)
How can I get rid of her insecurities and strenghten our relationship?
Q. Hi there, I have been with my girlfriend now for ten months - we have all the makings of a great relationship - we have mutual trust, care about eachother, have shared interests, same morals, differences which interest each other, sexual ...
A. 20 August 2009: She's got to solve this herself; you can't do this for her. At least she's acknowledged that she has an issue with worrying, that's a good first step.
I am close to someone who is a huge worrier. She worries about things that may not ever happ... (read in full...)
Is ultimatum the wisest thing I can do for myself?
Q. Met this guy for over a month. I play hard to get, he creeps under my skin really smoothly. I set boundaries, he runs on all fours after me. He drives a long way to see me whenever i can squeeze 30mins with him. We have great chemistry, our minds ...
A. 20 August 2009: Rhythmandblues gave you such a great answer, I hate to follow her. I can only add a couple of thoughts. One is, this man has done this before. No one is that smooth and that persuasive without a little bit of practice.
I'm wondering if he isn'... (read in full...)
Everytime I have sex it hurts and I get a brown discharge, what is this?
Q. ok so me and my boyfriend has been together for quite a while now and we have started having sex quite regular but the problem is everytime we have sex i am left in quite abit off pain and a browny discharge happens :S.. the very first time we...
A. 20 August 2009: This is a better link for you, based on your country flag: http://www.selfhelpguide.nhs.uk/
Don't mess around with this, it could be something simple that if not treated, leads to big problems. Doctor! That link I just gave you should guide you.... (read in full...)
Everytime I have sex it hurts and I get a brown discharge, what is this?
Q. ok so me and my boyfriend has been together for quite a while now and we have started having sex quite regular but the problem is everytime we have sex i am left in quite abit off pain and a browny discharge happens :S.. the very first time we...
A. 20 August 2009: Get to your doctor, please. A little look at the webmd.com symptom checker tool gives these as possible causes of what you describe:
pelvic inflammatory disease, vaginal yeast infection, candidiasis, cervicitis, chlamydia, vaginitis, dysp... (read in full...)
How do you feel about lending your partner money? My guy asked for £1,000 and I said no!
Q. My boyfriend of eight months has asked me to lend him £1000. He says he needs it to pay his landlord. He's generally an honest person but this came out of the blue and its a lot of money. I'd be happy to lend smaller amounts, but I'm currently ...
A. 19 August 2009: I agree with everyone's good advice so far. Tell him that you said you'd lend him the money because you care about him, but upon doing an assessment of your finances and the fact that you are unemployed, the cold hard fact is that you simply do not ... (read in full...)
I want to walk away from my cheating husband!
Q. I am a 30yrold female I have been married for 7rs and have a 7yr daughter. I want a divorce from my 37yrold husband who has had a baby boy which is 6yrs old now and repeatly is cheating on me with the same girl, what shall i do? I do not trust him ...
A. 19 August 2009: Have you made an appointment with a divorce attorney? They would be your best guide to ending the marriage.
If you would like to try to save the marriage, I would expect that you both would need to go into marriage counseling to see if it can be s... (read in full...)
I'm horny all the time yet I'm too nervous to have sex!
Q. Why am i so horny yet im to nervous to have sex is that normal? i have had opportunities and there's always strippers but i always get too nervous. When ever im out i will see women and there so sexy especially in summer they look amazing. I ...
A. 19 August 2009: Your standards for women are based on whether they compare with porn stars or starlets in a video? You do realize that you're basing your judgement of women entirely on their appearance, and worse, on a fantasy some guy in Southern California came ... (read in full...)
Ten years have passed and I still feel the betrayal!
Q. i was kissing my boyfriend of 4 yrs when he told me that he's getting married next month with her ex- girlfriend. it happened 10 yrs ago but till now i still feel the betrayal. never have a boyfriend since then. how can i move on.......
A. 19 August 2009: You've been stuck on this for ten years? Oh my goodness, you are right, you do need to move on. What have you tried so far?
How about counseling, did you try that? Have you been seen by a doctor and had a thorough checkup? Do you know if you suff... (read in full...)
4 years and 2 kids isn't enough for him to marry me?
Q. ok, im not sure where t start, i have been with this guy for 4 years and we have 2 kids together. i love this man with everything i have. well we live in his home town and my home town is 1200 miles away where all my family and friends live. i dont ...
A. 19 August 2009: Sorry to hear of your problems with your boyfriend. I agree that he sounds as though he has some issues. I'm worried for you that he is so domineering and treats you so badly.
Please take a look at this checklist: http... (read in full...)
Rough sex didnt hurt me so now my boyfriend thinks I have slept with other people!
Q. My boyfriend and i had very rough sex the other day and it didnt hurt at all.. Basically he wanted me 2 scream ive only ever had sex with him, we've been together two years and been doing it for about a year and a half. Its upsetting him that it ...
A. 19 August 2009: He's upset because he didn't hurt you? He's angry because you didn't scream? Honey, that is wrong on so many levels. A bunch of labels for him come to mind. Sadist. Abuser. Ignoramus. Immature. Dangerous.
Unless you have masochistic tendencies and ... (read in full...)
My husband has not called me after an argument more than a week ago
Q. I left the house after an argument with my husband 10 days ago. He does not have an easy temper. I sent him an email with the demands of no more drinking and a couple others. It has been one and a half week and he has not answered my one email ...
A. 19 August 2009: I'm not sure you can fix the drinking problem. HE has to want to fix it, and it sounds like he doesn't want to. You might want to check this website out: http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/S17web.html
There should be someone locally who can help you ... (read in full...)
Are looks really that important?
Q. To sum the whole problem up, everyone thinks and says my boyfriend is ugly. We're in a long distance relationship, therefore most of my friends haven't even seen him closely, but when they see his pics they all start screaming at me about how ugly ...
A. 19 August 2009: I had a thought reading your question, people don't think you should be dating this guy, right? So the reason given from what you've written, is that EVERYONE around you thinks he's ugly and you shouldn't be dating him.
I find it hard to beli... (read in full...)
Do I have to meet a thoughtless colleague of my husband's on his retirement party?
Q. My husband has been a wonderful provider for myself and our two children. He has always worked hard, and I have stayed home with the children, moving countries when necessary to follow his career. He was successful in becoming the head of one of ...
A. 19 August 2009: I don't blame you one tiny bit for not wanting to meet the flaming a**h***. I'm sure there are business reasons for the timing and the way it was done, blah blah blah.
The point is that it has affected YOU and your husband on the most fund... (read in full...)
He's intelligent but judgemental, and resents my independent thinking
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together more than two years. He is willing to do almost anything for me, pick up bits of shopping, help me out if I'm not feeling well, looks after my cat when I'm on vacation, etc. I try to assist him in many ways...
A. 18 August 2009: I saw your plea on the new post. Right, what came to mind when I saw this question is the word "fanatic." I read a great definition of "fanatic" recently: someone who won't change his mind, and who won't change the subject. Sound a bit like your ... (read in full...)
Is underage sex something you agree with?! I want opinions please!
Q. Ive decided to put myself out here after been severely infuriated by some 'adults' on this site who deem it appropriate for CHILDREN to be having sex from as young as 13! do you think its appropriate for a child of this age to be having sex?? they ...
A. 18 August 2009: I am one of the volunteer moderators here.
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Is underage sex something you agree with?! I want opinions please!
Q. Ive decided to put myself out here after been severely infuriated by some 'adults' on this site who deem it appropriate for CHILDREN to be having sex from as young as 13! do you think its appropriate for a child of this age to be having sex?? they ...
A. 17 August 2009: This site gets blocked by the 'net nanny' kind of software protection available out there. If parents implemented that kind of monitoring and blocking, we might not have so many underage users here.
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