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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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I'm 14 and pregnant, help!
Q. I am 14 pregnant to a 17 year old it was a drunken mistake, i am 1 month gone and not showing yet only small bump no one knows, i have already got morning sickness (i dont know why they call it this i'm sick throughout the day) i cant get rid of i...
A. 22 September 2009: Oh, I like those names! Those were the ones I thought sounded good--names that will serve them well through their lucky little lives.
Thank you, for letting us along for a tiny bit of this amazing journey you've been on, it is a real privilege to h... (read in full...)
Can a man change his mind about being in a relationship over time?
Q. Is is possible when a guy says that he doesn't want a relationship to change his mind through time?? I have met a guy recently who has said that he is not ready for a relationship but last time we met - we talked lots and he did say that I spoke al...
A. 17 September 2009: You sound like you've got a very good handle on this. I guess we need to rustle up some uncles to answer on this question, as I see you did want some male opinions. Come on, boys, what do you think?... (read in full...)
Help please am I pregnant?
Q. sooooo, me and this guy have been having intercourse for about 2 weeks now, at first he was using the pull out method, which was 12 days ago, and about 4 days ago he didnt pull out at all. Today when I was in my bathroom I noticed just a little ...
A. 17 September 2009: Good luck!!!... (read in full...)
My mom gave my boyfriend my underwear!
Q. I have been struggling with this for a few weeks now, since I started college. To start... let me just say that I have an overbearing, overprotective helicopter mother. One of my guy friends call her "mama Sikorsky". Two weeks before I left fo...
A. 17 September 2009: Does she raise and breed dogs, by any chance? I'm sorry, but you have got some great material for an article, if not a book. "mama Sikorsky"? Brilliant!
You are simply going to have to recognize that you have nothing to be embarassed about. It's... (read in full...)
Can a man change his mind about being in a relationship over time?
Q. Is is possible when a guy says that he doesn't want a relationship to change his mind through time?? I have met a guy recently who has said that he is not ready for a relationship but last time we met - we talked lots and he did say that I spoke al...
A. 17 September 2009: I have to say that I agree with Lola and Oldersister. He's told you where he is and what he is and isn't looking for at the moment. If you are fine with a no-strings sexual liaison, then fine. But if you're looking for a boyfriend, he's not the guy ... (read in full...)
Is this normal when rimming?
Q. hey guys =] recently me and my fella starting messing around rimming each other, using flavoured lubes n licking 'em off. But everytime im going to go do it to him, he'll run off to the loo and return a few mins later (im pretty sure hes havi...
A. 17 September 2009: Waiting for the avatar, there, q! Fluff balls. Ha!... (read in full...)
Sex is extremely painful for me. What can I do?
Q. Sex is painful for me. I've been to the doctor, and she can't find anything wrong with me, although it was very painful when she put anything inside me. She said it's probably all in my head. I don't think anybody gets how frustrating hearing that ...
A. 17 September 2009: Your doctor sounds dreadful. "It's all in your head." I think you do need to find another doctor, ASAP. And do some research on "vaginismus"--I don't know if this is your issue, but the fact you sound so fearful about seeing a doctor suggests you do ... (read in full...)
Could my pubic hair be off-putting to guys, even though it's tidy?
Q. I have pubic hair insecurities. I am an attractive 23year old girl who is confident with my body, however I am afraid that my pubic hair could be unattractive! I know this sounds dumb, but how important is it to a guy? I wax my bikini line to k...
A. 17 September 2009: Does anybody read the dates on the questions? This one is 4 years old! I'd be surprised if she's still reading this after all these years.... (read in full...)
Am I shallow for not wanting to date her again?
Q. Hey all, well Im a little bit ashamed of myself writing this. I think I may be a shallow guy and i never thought it before. My sister set me up on a blind date. I was dubious anyway but went along. When the Lady showed up I knew straight away th...
A. 17 September 2009: You're only a skunk if you were rude to her about it. It doesn't sound like you were. She didn't do it for you, it's not her fault and it's not yours. It just is what it is. Forgive yourself, and don't let your sister make you out to be a bad guy ... (read in full...)
Is she leading me on?
Q. In the start of a new high school year, a girl in my Foreign Language class instantly attracts my attention. I'm a pretty zany kind of guy, so when we had classwork to do (our teacher allows us to work with anyone we wish), I went around the class...
A. 17 September 2009: She's smiling at you. You're reading too much into it right now. If she puts her hand on your heinie and gives it a squeeze or goes in for a kiss or flashes you, then she's leading you on.
She may be a zany girl herself, with a sunny disp... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he talk to me anymore?
Q. why don't talk to me anymore and i think he has dumped me. he never talk's or texts me the last time we talked was the 2nd of september and everything was fine then we spoke about the new house and getting married but now nothing. and i have found ...
A. 17 September 2009: Sounds like you found a phony, someone who has to make things up in order to look more appealing and attractive to people. He hasn't contacted you because the house of cards is falling down. And six children? Good grief, is he the father of all ... (read in full...)
I faked an orgasm and pulled out after only a minute. Is there a chance she will be pregnant?
Q. My girlfriend and me had sex last night. We were both a little drunk, but we made the use of the tow condoms we had. About 20 minutes after sex, she gets a little excited, and asks me to put it inside her. Even though I was in the state I was, I ...
A. 17 September 2009: Sounds like you've got it all handled. Good job, and be sure to be supportive and remember SHE'S the one who has to take drugs because of this. She asked for it, true, but her consequence is much worse than yours.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
Seriously guys, why can't I get girls to show any interest in me? Please help me Cupid!
Q. Hi there, I'm writing to ask your advice on a problem that has remained unsolved for me since I was about 17. I'm 30 now! It's a pretty straightforward problem: I can't get a girlfrind, girls just don't seem to be interested in me. See? I told ...
A. 17 September 2009: Hi, your resume is certainly impressive enough. But, and I'm trying to be as nice and diplomatic as possible, and I know I'm going to fail here, but my dear, you are boring.
You just put me to sleep.
Yes, you've got all this going for you, but zzzz... (read in full...)
I think my wife is looking to replace me with this girl
Q. Okay, this is a very long drawn out story, but I don't know who I can talk to about it. And I think I need some advice from someone with a really open mind. First off, I've been with my wife for 10 years and she is undoubtedly (along with my k...
A. 16 September 2009: This one hurts my head, this is a really convoluted story and I just can't do the he said/she said, he did/she did, he didn't/she didn't analysis. It's trying to clean up the mess of the outhouse exploding when in reality, you should be looking for ... (read in full...)
What are the laws on underage sex in Maine, USA?
Q. I recently posted a question about me having sex for the first time the weekend after this upcoming weekend. Im 14 and my girlfriend is 13 and she lost her virginity last year. I posted this question on a few other sites like this one but most of ...
A. 16 September 2009: You don't know this guy, do you?
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/got-my-girlfriend-pregnant-what-can-the-police.html... (read in full...)
I never get into relationships because I don't have my driver's license yet!
Q. I'm a 16 year old guy who is good with girls, but i never get into relationships because i don't have my drivers license yet. For the longest time ive been afraid to go on dates because that would mean i would need to be driven by my mom. I'm ...
A. 16 September 2009: Lola, the public transit system in the US is vastly different than the extensive, busy and well-run (for the most part) system you have there in the UK. I say this from first hand experience. If our poster is out in the wilds of suburbia, he is very ... (read in full...)
Help please am I pregnant?
Q. sooooo, me and this guy have been having intercourse for about 2 weeks now, at first he was using the pull out method, which was 12 days ago, and about 4 days ago he didnt pull out at all. Today when I was in my bathroom I noticed just a little ...
A. 16 September 2009: Sweetie, if you've been having unprotected sex with multiple partners, you are very likely to have an STI. I think you need to go see your gynecologist, have a proper examination and have a long talk with her or him about birth control.
Every time... (read in full...)
I want to meet her but she seems happy with our online relationship
Q. Hey guys, My girlfriend and I have been in an online relationship for 9 months, we've not met in real life yet, and she told me this Sunday she has a family party, and jokingly said I should come to it. In response to that I said "I could very ea...
A. 16 September 2009: When I was 15 going on 16, I could barely decide what to wear to school the next day. Come to think of it, I still have a problem with outfit selection. Never mind.
Rob, this girl is in the middle of her teenage years. I know you're not far out of t... (read in full...)
I want to meet her but she seems happy with our online relationship
Q. Hey guys, My girlfriend and I have been in an online relationship for 9 months, we've not met in real life yet, and she told me this Sunday she has a family party, and jokingly said I should come to it. In response to that I said "I could very ea...
A. 16 September 2009: I had one more terrible thought. Sorry, but I have to ask. Could it be a love scam?
http://www.scamwarners.com/forum/viewtopic.php?f=13&t=25 (you'll have to copy/paste that entire link, the hyperlink gets messed up by the "?")... (read in full...)
I want to meet her but she seems happy with our online relationship
Q. Hey guys, My girlfriend and I have been in an online relationship for 9 months, we've not met in real life yet, and she told me this Sunday she has a family party, and jokingly said I should come to it. In response to that I said "I could very ea...
A. 16 September 2009: How old is your girlfriend? Is it possible no one in her family knows about this online relationship?
I am from the generation pre-internet, pre-cellphone, pre-fax. We actually used carbon paper on manual typewriters when I was writing my high scho... (read in full...)
I need a steady but she's not reliable, do I keep looking?
Q. I have been seeing a 40 year old mother of 1 6 year old (girl)... I am 58... we have a great time together, seldom as it is... we met last year... I left her for florida for 5 months, came back and called her. Her schedule is crazy, work, child, e...
A. 16 September 2009: For her, you're not a necessity. Her child and her job come first, as they should. If you want to go from luxury to necessity, you're going to have to become an asset, not a time liability for her. She doesn't need another demand on her time, she ... (read in full...)
Risk of STDs from masturbation?
Q. hi im back with another question about trying to avoid stds/aids i was just wondering about me being sexualy active with myself like masturbation and was wondering if that gives you a bigger risk of geting a std and yes i know that condoms help ...
A. 16 September 2009: Here's a good resource for you. I applaud your desire to become better informed!
http://www.webmd.com/sexual-conditions/guide/sexual-health-stds... (read in full...)
In your opinion whats the best birth control method?
Q. Okay so I am an 18 year old female i have never been on birth control before and was wondering if any one knew how to determine which form is the best for you any suggestions? I was thinking of trying the patch but don't know if its effective or not ...
A. 16 September 2009: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
That's a start for you; you really should discuss this with your gynecologist. She or he will know your individual situation and if there are ... (read in full...)
I adore my girlfriend but she is pushing me away
Q. hi. i have a slight delema.Me and my girl friend are 15 and we've been going out for a month now.i absolutely adore her. And she says she loves me and thinks about me all the time. But she doesnt show it.We just hug and/or a quick kiss. Nothing ...
A. 16 September 2009: She may like you a lot, but just doesn't feel comfortable yet with all the lovey dovey stuff. Unfortunately, you can't make someone love you. It can also be a bit offputting to a girl to feel like she's getting pawed at when she's not prepared for ... (read in full...)
Help please am I pregnant?
Q. sooooo, me and this guy have been having intercourse for about 2 weeks now, at first he was using the pull out method, which was 12 days ago, and about 4 days ago he didnt pull out at all. Today when I was in my bathroom I noticed just a little ...
A. 16 September 2009: You've been having intercourse for 2 weeks? And you think that's a long time? It only takes one time to get pregnant. Those little eggs and those little sperm really really want to get together, and they somehow manage to get people to make really ... (read in full...)
My mum has early stage alzheimers, and her partner isnt coping. I don't live close, what can I do?
Q. I wonder if anyone can offer me some advice?...i found out 15 months ago that my mum is in early stages of alzheimers, she is only 60 so as you can imagine it came as a massive blow to all the family. Myself and my brothers and sister have all move...
A. 16 September 2009: Sorry I don't have any direct experience that can help you. I've found a set of links for you, if you haven't explored it yet, it might be of some use to you:
http://www.nhs.uk/livewell/goingintocare/Pages/Goingintocarehome.aspx
http:... (read in full...)
Are these symptoms of pregnancy? I am too scared to go to the doctors
Q. I'm 16, my boyfriend is 18, we have been together for 2 years and the condom split 2 weeks ago, my period is due in 9 days, I have; headaches cramping but no bleeding nausea more clear discharge than normal (no smell or irritation) mood sw...
A. 15 September 2009: Sweetie, we can't tell you if you are pregnant. You have to work up the nerve to go take the pregnancy test. What are your choices? Think this through logically.
A. You can wait, and be afraid and sit there and worry worry worry worry. Even... (read in full...)
15 and pregnant. I don't want to tell my dad as he doesn't know I have been seeing anyone.
Q. I'm pregnant and the guy wants me to keep it however he is 18 and I know it is illegal. I also don't want to tell my parents about it. The father and I have always talked about starting a life together once I leave school and have kids but he wants ...
A. 15 September 2009: This isn't the same girl who thinks she's pregnant by her boyfriend's brother, is it? Because if it is, you have a whole lot of issues and you need some adult help. You need it anyway, honestly, you do. You're not doing a very good job managing your ... (read in full...)
Is this normal when rimming?
Q. hey guys =] recently me and my fella starting messing around rimming each other, using flavoured lubes n licking 'em off. But everytime im going to go do it to him, he'll run off to the loo and return a few mins later (im pretty sure hes havi...
A. 15 September 2009: Whether this little bout of intestinal distress is related directly to the lack of hygiene and your ingestion of fecal bacteria, none of us can tell you. As nightingale and the others have mentioned, there are very good reasons why people are told ... (read in full...)
Help please am I pregnant?
Q. sooooo, me and this guy have been having intercourse for about 2 weeks now, at first he was using the pull out method, which was 12 days ago, and about 4 days ago he didnt pull out at all. Today when I was in my bathroom I noticed just a little ...
A. 15 September 2009: My favorite tool for explaining how pregnancy occurs:
http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html A bit cheesy, but VERY educational.
Sweetie, the "pull-out" method is a pretty good way to g... (read in full...)
My long term partener is in love with another woman!
Q. my boyfriend and i have been living together for 13 years. we never married because it didnt seem necessary or fit our lifestyle. he is a great man and i love him very much. he has always been there for me and he is my best friend. we've had our ...
A. 15 September 2009: I think the sensible thing to do is to make and execute the plans you'd need to in order to move on. Why would I say that? Well, you've basically told him you're willing to wait around for him, no matter how long it takes him to come to his senses ... (read in full...)
Size does matter to me! Should I just be honest and tell him?
Q. Dear Cupid,I met this guy last September(2008),and we dated for about 3 months.The first time we got intimate with each other was kinda weird for me.It was unexpected yet great.He performed oral sex on me,he is the pleaser type guy.I was enjoying it ...
A. 15 September 2009: Let him go; you're not turned on by him, and it would be a great pity to let this man spend his life trying to please a woman who doesn't find him attractive. There are plenty of women out there who would be thrilled to have him and he deserves to ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and pregnant, help!
Q. I am 14 pregnant to a 17 year old it was a drunken mistake, i am 1 month gone and not showing yet only small bump no one knows, i have already got morning sickness (i dont know why they call it this i'm sick throughout the day) i cant get rid of i...
A. 14 September 2009: Congratulations to you and I'm bursting with happiness for you and your new family. How perfect, a boy and a girl and a lovely loving mum. You really are an amazing young lady and have a bright wonderful future ahead of you with your newborns.
I... (read in full...)
We had an affair, he's divorcing his wife but what will others think of us?
Q. In Jan 2009 I moved across Canada to do my student teaching practicum in a small town. for the most part most of the other tacherswere really nice to me and I made alot of great friends. With in a few months of teaaching I started having an affiar ...
A. 3 September 2009: The time to have thought about this problem was when you started the affair. I guess all you can do is hold your head up, be as gracious as possible to everyone and hope for the best. It may take some time but eventually people will accept you, if ... (read in full...)
My wife's new work 'friends' are making inappropriate suggestions
Q. My wife and I don't have a problem with us, but we're not sure how to handle her new friends. My wife and I got married very young, 1 year after high school. She stayed home and we have 3 kids, now she started going to work to help pay for our...
A. 3 September 2009: She's letting these women get to her. Instead, she should be looking at them as though they had two heads. As Collaroy said, just tell them that the topic of her sex life is off-limits.
People can only make you feel bad if you give them perm... (read in full...)
The psychiatrist recommeded meds, but my mom's against it
Q. i saw this psychyatrist because i was flunking out of grade 10 and my parents wanted to know what is wrong with me. bnasically im just depressed all the time and she wanted me to put me on meds but i said no and now months later im not any better. ...
A. 3 September 2009: Before people dismiss antidepressants out of hand, let me do my little testimonial. My GP, not a psychiatrist, did an assessment of me and put me on one. I had clinical depression. I was 40 lbs. overweight, unhappy, not able to focus on projects, ... (read in full...)
Unsure if I'm pregnant, do my symptoms suggest that I am?
Q. hey well lets cut to the point if i am pregnant i will be four weeks, i am due on my period today it aint showed up yet but theres still time. the other night for about half an hour i had a pain down below that felt like someone was stabbing...
A. 3 September 2009: I think there is a symptom checker here. I'm sorry, I'm not a medical expert. The test and your doctor are your best bets here.
http://www.nhs.uk/NHSDirect/Pages/nhsdlanding.aspx
Good luck!... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and pregnant, help!
Q. I am 14 pregnant to a 17 year old it was a drunken mistake, i am 1 month gone and not showing yet only small bump no one knows, i have already got morning sickness (i dont know why they call it this i'm sick throughout the day) i cant get rid of i...
A. 3 September 2009: Sweetie, I don't know, and it would be best if you had a proper medical exam! Here's a tool that can help you. Be sure to tell your mum and ring your doctor to see if you need to go to A and E.
There's a useful number here on this link: http... (read in full...)
Update on text cheating husband...
Q. Hi everyone, This is an update on the situation with my text cheating husband which I posted about a few times. We have recently returned from a cruise which was completely marred by 'her' and spent nearly every day arguing because I kept b...
A. 2 September 2009: Scrambled brain, hi again. You are clearly have a great deal of trouble with this situation.
You continue your pattern of thought without being able to break it. You don't trust your husband (I don't blame you) and everything you do with him is colo... (read in full...)
How do husbands/wives of actors/actresses deal with this jealousy?
Q. Help Help Help. I think I might be overreacting, but then sometimes I think I'm not and I should feel jealous. My wife is a pre-school teacher, and an opportunity for a Kindergarten position came up (at more than twice the salary), but my wife and ...
A. 2 September 2009: Psst, anon poster. Look at the date of the original question. Whatever happened, it's nearly a year ago. Double check the dates before you get too wound up.... (read in full...)
I don't feel like I fit in anywhere
Q. I thank all who answer here. This may be a hard question to answer but here goes. Most of my life I feel like I do not fit in anywhere. I am fairly self confident, have fairly good social skills but I process things differently than other people and ...
A. 2 September 2009: I did the Myers Briggs test too, so I know what the term "INFP" means. For those of you who don't know, the Myers Briggs personality profile divides people into 16 groups (4 personality areas with 2 choices each).
Here's a link that talks about INFP... (read in full...)
My heart doesn't flutter anymore for him
Q. Hiya, I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 11 months now, and i'm not sure how i feel about him anymore. We had a bad year as i've had an emotional year due to a house i was living in being terrible with awful people in it, and also my ...
A. 2 September 2009: You've been through some stressful times and it sounds like you are very emotionally fragile. You said you had a breakdown? Well, first relationship or not, that's not something people have a whole lot of experience in coping with. I assume you were ... (read in full...)
Crazy about my sister-in-law!
Q. I am crazy about my sister-in-law and have been for over 30 years. I have told her and tried to stop my affection but to no avail. Since her husband died 4 years ago it has got much worse. She says she has no desire for me but I don't beleive her ...
A. 2 September 2009: Why would you want to destroy her family? That's not love, that's selfishness. This is a fantasy about YOU and it sounds as though she doesn't buy into it. YOU'RE the one with the problem.
If you can't manage your actions, then you are not real... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and pregnant, help!
Q. I am 14 pregnant to a 17 year old it was a drunken mistake, i am 1 month gone and not showing yet only small bump no one knows, i have already got morning sickness (i dont know why they call it this i'm sick throughout the day) i cant get rid of i...
A. 13 August 2009: Good for you! Getting a job and getting ready for the babies, you are just a little gem, you are! As to your very sweet comment about "Trisha", I'm quite sure you meant to say "Gina" as she has been a true support and friend to you! I say kudos to ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and pregnant, help!
Q. I am 14 pregnant to a 17 year old it was a drunken mistake, i am 1 month gone and not showing yet only small bump no one knows, i have already got morning sickness (i dont know why they call it this i'm sick throughout the day) i cant get rid of i...
A. 25 July 2009: Sounds like you're really coming along nicely! Well done.
Okay, names. I have a question. How do you pronounce Evie-Mai? Is that Ee vee may or ee vee my?
Same with Kai-Lewis. Is that Keye or Kay (rhyming with eye or aye)?
Do you see why I'm aski... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and pregnant, help!
Q. I am 14 pregnant to a 17 year old it was a drunken mistake, i am 1 month gone and not showing yet only small bump no one knows, i have already got morning sickness (i dont know why they call it this i'm sick throughout the day) i cant get rid of i...
A. 21 February 2009: I see you're posting; I'm curious as to what you have done? Have you told anyone? The longer you put it off, the more difficult it will become. I'm sure the people around you know that something is wrong. Why not go ahead and start to get the ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and pregnant, help!
Q. I am 14 pregnant to a 17 year old it was a drunken mistake, i am 1 month gone and not showing yet only small bump no one knows, i have already got morning sickness (i dont know why they call it this i'm sick throughout the day) i cant get rid of i...
A. 20 February 2009: Oh dear, this is not an easy situation to be in, is it? You know that you will have to tell your mother at some point, and waiting will only give you more days of worry. I think you need to be very brave, and tell her.
And I did want to clear some... (read in full...)
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