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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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We tried a couple swap but he couldnt perform, and now he isnt speaking to me!
Q. A new man I have been dating asked if we could try a swap. A couple swap. I agreed, out of adventure, and because I wasn't in love with him. We have a NSA arrangement, but not just 100% sexual.He talked like I was steady GF, and acted like it wi...
A. 21 December 2009: I feel the need for a shower. I sincerely hope you don't reach out to this guy again--that might indicate he's not the only one who needs therapy, lol.
Hope you managed through the snow okay yourself!... (read in full...)
We tried a couple swap but he couldnt perform, and now he isnt speaking to me!
Q. A new man I have been dating asked if we could try a swap. A couple swap. I agreed, out of adventure, and because I wasn't in love with him. We have a NSA arrangement, but not just 100% sexual.He talked like I was steady GF, and acted like it wi...
A. 6 October 2009: You are wasting precious daylight, time, energy and brain cells on a man who simply isn't worth any of your lifetime allotment of those things. Why would you make his problem into yours? Or allow him to dump it on you?
Raise your right hand, fing... (read in full...)
We tried a couple swap but he couldnt perform, and now he isnt speaking to me!
Q. A new man I have been dating asked if we could try a swap. A couple swap. I agreed, out of adventure, and because I wasn't in love with him. We have a NSA arrangement, but not just 100% sexual.He talked like I was steady GF, and acted like it wi...
A. 5 October 2009: He dumped you via IM? After you tried this swap with him at his request? HA! He's pathetic, a pathetic loser, a cowardly pathetic loser! (I'm hearing the chicken "bawk bawk BAWK" in my head.) I feel kinda sorry for him...he's demonstrated he's not ... (read in full...)
Is this lump something I should be worried about?
Q. Hi Guys. I suppose this isn't really relevant to this site, but I'm hoping someone may have had a similar experience, as the stuff i'm finding on the internet is making me worry. I'm 6 1/2 months pregnant, and have noticed a lump next to my nipple ...
A. 5 October 2009: Ask the doctor. Just think, you've lost nothing but time by having it looked at, and you could lose everything including time if you don't have it checked out. Why take the risk?
Congrats on the baby and good luck!... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I have a UTI
Q. hi, this started about 2 days ago i had a burning feeling when i urinated, it is still going on and i am positive it is a UTI, but now when i pee i noticed some light blood when i wipe and little drops in my urine. i am only 16 and im really scared. ...
A. 2 October 2009: Hi, I don't want to scare you too much, it's probably just a UTI, but blood in the urine is not normal. It is a sign that you need to see a doctor right away. Don't let some small problem that could have been easily treated grow into a massive ... (read in full...)
Cheating-my husband knows, his wife knows, will our relationship go somewhere?
Q. I have been having an affair with a married man for 14 months my sister informed my husband of the affair last year and my husband confronted him but the relationship with my lover continued since then his wife had found texts on his phone from ...
A. 1 October 2009: You should be asking the man, as Eyes points out. My suggestion to you is to figure out if he is interested in building a life together with you, or if he is interested in the thrill of illicit sex and passionate--but short and finite--interludes ... (read in full...)
Jealous of a vibrator. Will she get used to the thicker girth?
Q. This may sound ridiculous but I really cant help feeling like this. When I met my girlfriend she had never had an orgasm with any partner and she believed she couldnt have one. she also said that her previous partner didnt even know or probably ...
A. 27 September 2009: She's only just learned to orgasm. Give her a chance to work things out! I'll bet you've been able to give yourself an orgasm since the age of what, 12? You've got at least a decade of experience under your belt--cut her some slack and stop ... (read in full...)
Am I obliged to look after my mother when she abused me as a child?
Q. So, Do I have any obligation to take care of my aged Mother who was abusive to me? I very rarely have migraines now, but I had them regularly in my childhood and teenage years and later, whenever my parents came to visit. My mother was probably...
A. 27 September 2009: I think venting and whining are very constructive if they help you cope with a difficult situation. It's self-sabotage and delusional thinking that are DEstructive. I don't think you're trying to hurt anybody. You've been deeply hurt, you feel ... (read in full...)
I wish I could hate him and forget about him but it's not happening. Help!
Q. I am miserable. Year and something after a break up. It was long and hard. I love this guy ... I really do and I just cant see myself w anyone else. I tried ... We dont talk ... we dont see each other. I know he is with someone else ... but I h...
A. 25 September 2009: Don't be so quick to say "NO MEDICATION"! Sometimes your brain chemistry gets a little out of whack and you wind up in a cycle that you can't break out of. That's what happened to me. Medication set me free and has given me my life, my joy, my ... (read in full...)
When do you tell your boyfriend he's too controlling?
Q. When do you tell your boyfriend he's too controlling? I wrote earlier but it was far too long. Why do women, who were at one time strong and fierce, allow men to do these things to them: Demanding to see you on webcam while you are i...
A. 23 September 2009: Here are some US resources for you:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/relationships/safe-your-relationship-19917.htm (that has a list of places you can contact for help getting out)
http://www.ndvh.org/
http://www.me... (read in full...)
I'm worried about someone bringing a gun to school? I don't want anyone to get hurt!
Q. My friend might get into a fight tomarrrow.I don't want anything bad to happen. I am worried because the guy my friend might fight might bring a gun to school and I don't want anyone to get hurt....
A. 23 September 2009: Calling the police or telling your parents will be a good decision that you will be proud of for the rest of your life. It's hard now because you don't want to betray your buddy's trust of you--but other people's lives and safety come before that ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about dating again...
Q. Recently divorced, I have started dating again. I have only ever been with my ex husband. After having children, my body has changed a lot and I am worried about dating this new man who has never dated a woman with children. Any advice?...
A. 23 September 2009: Carry yourself as though you are a lovely, desirable, gorgeous woman. No slouching shoulders, good posture, head up. You are so worth it. He'd be lucky to have you as a girlfriend, should be honored to have you as a date. You are a treasure, a ... (read in full...)
Will reverse psychology work to get him back?
Q. Still trying to get the ex back. We got into an argument because i think i rushed into things to quickly and this is what he sent me on a tex message. " I'm not lookig for a relationship and you are, so I think it would be better if we just didn'...
A. 23 September 2009: Okay, right. You're still negotiating with this guy. Stop it. That's right. Stop and TAKE CONTROL BACK. You don't want to be his friend? Fine, end of discussion, don't engage in any more conversations.
I'd have put my little fingers up to his face... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is an alcoholic and I don't know what to do.
Q. My boyfriend is an alcoholic and I don't know what to do. I've tried almost everything and nothing seems to work. He doesn't feel he has a problem. I'm getting more depressed by the day. All we ever do is sit around and he drinks. I love him with ...
A. 23 September 2009: Hi, sorry to hear about your boyfriend. You're not going to like my answer. There is no way to fix this for him. He's got to do it himself. Your choice is whether or not you're going to sit there with him watching him drink, getting more and more ... (read in full...)
Will reverse psychology work to get him back?
Q. Still trying to get the ex back. We got into an argument because i think i rushed into things to quickly and this is what he sent me on a tex message. " I'm not lookig for a relationship and you are, so I think it would be better if we just didn'...
A. 22 September 2009: I'm sorry, I posted my answer, not realizing you had posted 2 follow ups, I only had read the short one.
The guy's a loser. Sorry that you had to become involved with one, but once you wade through the murky pool of hurt, upset, regret and long... (read in full...)
Will reverse psychology work to get him back?
Q. Still trying to get the ex back. We got into an argument because i think i rushed into things to quickly and this is what he sent me on a tex message. " I'm not lookig for a relationship and you are, so I think it would be better if we just didn'...
A. 22 September 2009: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-can-i-get-over-my-ex-girlfriend.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-get-over-your-ex.html
There they are for you to read. ... (read in full...)
Will reverse psychology work to get him back?
Q. Still trying to get the ex back. We got into an argument because i think i rushed into things to quickly and this is what he sent me on a tex message. " I'm not lookig for a relationship and you are, so I think it would be better if we just didn'...
A. 22 September 2009: Your name is 'emotions' so I guess that broadcasts that you feel things very strongly? You also mentioned you rushed into things a bit too fast, so now maybe you're pushing too hard on yourself?
Did you phone any girlfriends? Get someone to come... (read in full...)
Borderline Personality Disorder? It's not a death sentence!
Q. When I was about 13-14 years old, I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. I was also diagnosed with anxious/avoidant personality disorder, but the borderline one is the one I want to focus on in this article. I was only told my ...
A. 22 September 2009: Well, I for one have to say 'brava' to you! A courageous woman, brave and maturing despite some major life challenges. I think we have a lot to learn from you and I hope you continue to share your hard-won wisdom and sensitive perspective with us ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and pregnant, help!
Q. I am 14 pregnant to a 17 year old it was a drunken mistake, i am 1 month gone and not showing yet only small bump no one knows, i have already got morning sickness (i dont know why they call it this i'm sick throughout the day) i cant get rid of i...
A. 22 September 2009: Oh, I like those names! Those were the ones I thought sounded good--names that will serve them well through their lucky little lives.
Thank you, for letting us along for a tiny bit of this amazing journey you've been on, it is a real privilege to h... (read in full...)
I'm cheating on my wife while she is trying to make it work... how can I stop?
Q. Hello, I am a 41 years old and have been married for 25 years. My wife and I were High Schools sweethearts. We have two children on in college and one in high school. I love my wife but really haven't told her that enough over the years. Sex for m...
A. 22 September 2009: Your wife says two conflicting things: it hurts and she feels nothing. She hasn't enjoyed sex in 25 years? Poor thing! Omigod, that's just a long time to have such an unfulfilling sex life.
So her clitoris isn't working? She doesn't lubricate? She ... (read in full...)
I'm worried my PE is stopping me getting a girlfriend....
Q. Hi there, my friends think I'm too fussy when it comes to girls and they keep telling me that it is the reason as to why I've been single for the last 4 years. This is partly true as I have to admit I am fussy but the main reason that I choose t...
A. 22 September 2009: One thing to keep in mind is that if you bring your lover to orgasm first, she'll be so happy and relaxed, she probably won't notice your 'PE'. Then, after you've caught your breath, and you're a bit desensitized, you'll be able to last longer if ... (read in full...)
Is there any way I can climax without having to stimulate myself?
Q. Hey Agony Aunts, Ive been on Dear Cupid many many times before for various reasons, but this is my most person problem and Ive never asked anyone this before, if you could help me that would be great. Im not a very sexually active person, yet...
A. 22 September 2009: I wouldn't worry about "having" to stimulate yourself. If that's what works for you, that's what works for you. If you know how to do it yourself, you can show him how to do it for you. A good lover will want to know how you touch yourself!
W... (read in full...)
Will anyone want me with this virus?
Q. Hi, I am an 18 year old girl who has recently been diagnosed with genital herpes. I have only ever had sex once. This occured when I was very drunk,and even though I didn't want to, I was persueded otherwise. I now feel as though I will never be ...
A. 22 September 2009: You've had some very good advice. I only want to point out one thing: you have to tell the guy you had the one night stand with. He needs to know he's carrying this virus; it's possible he doesn't know, and if he goes on to have sex with future ... (read in full...)
Not cheating but the handwriting is on the wall?
Q. I need clarity, My b/f says he is not cheating but is the writing on the wall? Please PLEASE help!???!!? OK I have posted before but I can't seem to find clarity. My b/f who I have been with for 3 months and I have known him for 2 years. He moved in...
A. 21 September 2009: The bizarre occurences have happened since he moved in with you. It would seem logical to conclude (to risk sounding like Spock) that the events are connected.
I'd be VERY concerned about this. Why did he move in with you, only a month after you ... (read in full...)
Will reverse psychology work to get him back?
Q. Still trying to get the ex back. We got into an argument because i think i rushed into things to quickly and this is what he sent me on a tex message. " I'm not lookig for a relationship and you are, so I think it would be better if we just didn'...
A. 21 September 2009: I'm not sure it's possible to get a guy who doesn't want to be in a relationship INTO a relationship. If he doesn't want a girlfriend, or if he doesn't want you as a girlfriend, and he has said so (in a text, coward), then my advice is to take him ... (read in full...)
Opinions needed, I just don't know what to do...
Q. Ok so this is what happend This girl and I were friends and this guy she had liked and sort of seen for a while and her sister's best friend got together. I kinda told the sister's best friend some stuff that she said that she wouldn't say to ...
A. 21 September 2009: Did you apologize to your friend for spilling her secrets to someone else? A really sincere, heart-felt apology for "sort of" babbling without thinking about what might happen is about the only thing I can think of. Right now, these girls don't ... (read in full...)
Do These Signs Mean He Likes Me?
Q. Hi Am I right are these the signs if A man fancies you Signs he was giving: Staring eye contact corner of his eye on me Looking at me and holding the glance. I wrote to him saying like Am sorry and that..(Long story) and I put 3 dots a...
A. 21 September 2009: Hi, sometimes you just have to have some patience. Like waiting for bread to rise, the pie to finish baking, the tomato to ripen on the plant, you have to let things develop, and not overthink things.
Here are your options:
He doesn't like you... (read in full...)
His skype had strange messages from girls wanting to webcam!
Q. Hey guys, any help would be much appreciated. My boyfriend and I have been going out 2 years. Were currently in a long distance relationship. I logged into his skype account to send a text as I had no credit on mine and he had messages from 2 girls ...
A. 19 September 2009: I get those too! Soooo annoying. I finally went "invisible" on Skype.... (read in full...)
What can I do about my vaginal rash? It's been almost two months and won't budge.
Q. I went overseas in July of this year and ever since then I have had this consistently annoying rash around the entrance to my vagina. That's almost two months now! It started when I got my period a few days after arriving back home and it was ...
A. 18 September 2009: Also look at http://symptoms.webmd.com/symptomchecker
I tried to see what it came up with and I got this list as potential causes:
ctinic keratosis
contact dermatitis
lice
folliculitis
antibiotic use
eczema
blepharitis
cellulitis
chic... (read in full...)
What can I do about my vaginal rash? It's been almost two months and won't budge.
Q. I went overseas in July of this year and ever since then I have had this consistently annoying rash around the entrance to my vagina. That's almost two months now! It started when I got my period a few days after arriving back home and it was ...
A. 18 September 2009: What did your gynecologist say? Did she or he recommend you see a dermatologist?... (read in full...)
How long does sperm live outside the male body?
Q. My girlfriend and I want to have a baby, She is the dominant one in the relationship, however she wants to have the baby. She also does not want to have sex to get pregnant, so we are trying to come up with other ways to get her pregnant. I want ...
A. 18 September 2009: I just want to double-check my facts: this relationship you are in, you are both females, correct?... (read in full...)
How long does sperm live outside the male body?
Q. My girlfriend and I want to have a baby, She is the dominant one in the relationship, however she wants to have the baby. She also does not want to have sex to get pregnant, so we are trying to come up with other ways to get her pregnant. I want ...
A. 18 September 2009: You really should have a discussion with her/your OB/GYN as well as a sperm bank. This is not something to enter into lightly. Finding a male to donate sperm, figuring out if he is disease and hereditary disorder-free, then drafting some sort of ... (read in full...)
Why are girls aged 15-17 still classed as children?
Q. Just wondering, because people seem to be under the impression that anyone under the age of 18 is naive, easily-influenced within relationships and does not know their own mind? I would like to argue that in many cases, this is not true. If you take ...
A. 18 September 2009: Have we ever proposed a DC book club? We could read the same book and have a discussion in the forum.
For me, WH was so hot when I was a teenager. I found myself getting frustrated with them this time around! I clearly have slipped on the roma... (read in full...)
Should I see a doctor?
Q. hey im asking u guys for an answer cause i want to know if what i expeirenced the other night is what everbody is telling me i did. the other night i was at home now b4 i say anything else let me just say i have a very stressful life im a single ...
A. 18 September 2009: http://symptoms.webmd.com/symptomchecker
A tool for getting some ideas as to what it could be. I'd probably want to see a doctor, just to make sure it wasn't something developing that could be easily treated now.
Take care.... (read in full...)
How do I show him he needs to work for our relationship?
Q. WHAT CAN I DO BOUT THIS**LONG ONE**? I'm in a long distance relationship with a really nice dude. When we are face to face we get along extremelly well.Now that we're apart from each other we communicate through IM,email,text,calls. A few weeks ag...
A. 18 September 2009: Hi, the guys I've known and observed don't like to play guessing games, especially one that they know they're going to lose either way. He guesses you're angry at him and then he has to figure out how to grovel enough to make you happy. He doesn't ... (read in full...)
Why are girls aged 15-17 still classed as children?
Q. Just wondering, because people seem to be under the impression that anyone under the age of 18 is naive, easily-influenced within relationships and does not know their own mind? I would like to argue that in many cases, this is not true. If you take ...
A. 18 September 2009: I read it when I was a teenager, then again just recently. Big difference in the experience.
Oldersister, Kate Bush is amazing. That voice. Cool song!... (read in full...)
What did his answer on Facebook mean?
Q. Hi! Ok I am so happy well before I said things that I regret to the boy I like allot and I apologised yesterday and he replied today and said.....haha we all make mistakes..... What should I say back? Does he like me back now? Signs: Sta...
A. 18 September 2009: As I said in my reply PM: Hi! I feel like I came in in the middle of a conversation and completely missed the beginning. ......
It sounds like you're a bit too anxious. Relax. Sit back. Be nice to him. Smile back. Give him time to get to know you.... (read in full...)
Why are girls aged 15-17 still classed as children?
Q. Just wondering, because people seem to be under the impression that anyone under the age of 18 is naive, easily-influenced within relationships and does not know their own mind? I would like to argue that in many cases, this is not true. If you take ...
A. 18 September 2009: Has anyone read "Wuthering Heights"?... (read in full...)
Why are girls aged 15-17 still classed as children?
Q. Just wondering, because people seem to be under the impression that anyone under the age of 18 is naive, easily-influenced within relationships and does not know their own mind? I would like to argue that in many cases, this is not true. If you take ...
A. 18 September 2009: The people who think 15-17 year olds are immature used to be 15-17 year olds themselves. Think about it.
The age of consent laws were put in to prevent sexual exploitation of young girls (or boys) by adults who can manipulate barely post... (read in full...)
How many times can most women climax in a row?
Q. I just got out of a three year relationship with a girl that was not really right for me (there was love, but a great deal of immaturity), but she was really fun to serve in bed. (I mostly gave to her, not the reverse, and we only went to third ...
A. 17 September 2009: It might be more common than you think. And that is ALL I'm going to say about THAT.... (read in full...)
Can a man change his mind about being in a relationship over time?
Q. Is is possible when a guy says that he doesn't want a relationship to change his mind through time?? I have met a guy recently who has said that he is not ready for a relationship but last time we met - we talked lots and he did say that I spoke al...
A. 17 September 2009: You sound like you've got a very good handle on this. I guess we need to rustle up some uncles to answer on this question, as I see you did want some male opinions. Come on, boys, what do you think?... (read in full...)
Help please am I pregnant?
Q. sooooo, me and this guy have been having intercourse for about 2 weeks now, at first he was using the pull out method, which was 12 days ago, and about 4 days ago he didnt pull out at all. Today when I was in my bathroom I noticed just a little ...
A. 17 September 2009: Good luck!!!... (read in full...)
Can a man change his mind about being in a relationship over time?
Q. Is is possible when a guy says that he doesn't want a relationship to change his mind through time?? I have met a guy recently who has said that he is not ready for a relationship but last time we met - we talked lots and he did say that I spoke al...
A. 17 September 2009: I have to say that I agree with Lola and Oldersister. He's told you where he is and what he is and isn't looking for at the moment. If you are fine with a no-strings sexual liaison, then fine. But if you're looking for a boyfriend, he's not the guy ... (read in full...)
Help please am I pregnant?
Q. sooooo, me and this guy have been having intercourse for about 2 weeks now, at first he was using the pull out method, which was 12 days ago, and about 4 days ago he didnt pull out at all. Today when I was in my bathroom I noticed just a little ...
A. 16 September 2009: Sweetie, if you've been having unprotected sex with multiple partners, you are very likely to have an STI. I think you need to go see your gynecologist, have a proper examination and have a long talk with her or him about birth control.
Every time... (read in full...)
Help please am I pregnant?
Q. sooooo, me and this guy have been having intercourse for about 2 weeks now, at first he was using the pull out method, which was 12 days ago, and about 4 days ago he didnt pull out at all. Today when I was in my bathroom I noticed just a little ...
A. 16 September 2009: You've been having intercourse for 2 weeks? And you think that's a long time? It only takes one time to get pregnant. Those little eggs and those little sperm really really want to get together, and they somehow manage to get people to make really ... (read in full...)
Help please am I pregnant?
Q. sooooo, me and this guy have been having intercourse for about 2 weeks now, at first he was using the pull out method, which was 12 days ago, and about 4 days ago he didnt pull out at all. Today when I was in my bathroom I noticed just a little ...
A. 15 September 2009: My favorite tool for explaining how pregnancy occurs:
http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html A bit cheesy, but VERY educational.
Sweetie, the "pull-out" method is a pretty good way to g... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and pregnant, help!
Q. I am 14 pregnant to a 17 year old it was a drunken mistake, i am 1 month gone and not showing yet only small bump no one knows, i have already got morning sickness (i dont know why they call it this i'm sick throughout the day) i cant get rid of i...
A. 14 September 2009: Congratulations to you and I'm bursting with happiness for you and your new family. How perfect, a boy and a girl and a lovely loving mum. You really are an amazing young lady and have a bright wonderful future ahead of you with your newborns.
I... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and pregnant, help!
Q. I am 14 pregnant to a 17 year old it was a drunken mistake, i am 1 month gone and not showing yet only small bump no one knows, i have already got morning sickness (i dont know why they call it this i'm sick throughout the day) i cant get rid of i...
A. 3 September 2009: Sweetie, I don't know, and it would be best if you had a proper medical exam! Here's a tool that can help you. Be sure to tell your mum and ring your doctor to see if you need to go to A and E.
There's a useful number here on this link: http... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and pregnant, help!
Q. I am 14 pregnant to a 17 year old it was a drunken mistake, i am 1 month gone and not showing yet only small bump no one knows, i have already got morning sickness (i dont know why they call it this i'm sick throughout the day) i cant get rid of i...
A. 13 August 2009: Good for you! Getting a job and getting ready for the babies, you are just a little gem, you are! As to your very sweet comment about "Trisha", I'm quite sure you meant to say "Gina" as she has been a true support and friend to you! I say kudos to ... (read in full...)
Am I obliged to look after my mother when she abused me as a child?
Q. So, Do I have any obligation to take care of my aged Mother who was abusive to me? I very rarely have migraines now, but I had them regularly in my childhood and teenage years and later, whenever my parents came to visit. My mother was probably...
A. 13 August 2009: Sorry, I wanted to expand a little on that fund idea. The point of having an outsider--an objective observer--administer the monies is that then it is not you saying "no" to things. It is what is set up and removes any emotional baggage from the ... (read in full...)
Am I obliged to look after my mother when she abused me as a child?
Q. So, Do I have any obligation to take care of my aged Mother who was abusive to me? I very rarely have migraines now, but I had them regularly in my childhood and teenage years and later, whenever my parents came to visit. My mother was probably...
A. 13 August 2009: Absolution. Your mother sounds like a deeply troubled woman and I wouldn't blame you one bit if you never spoke to her again. That being said, you probably can't cut ties with her like that, as it affects more than just you--it involves your sister ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and pregnant, help!
Q. I am 14 pregnant to a 17 year old it was a drunken mistake, i am 1 month gone and not showing yet only small bump no one knows, i have already got morning sickness (i dont know why they call it this i'm sick throughout the day) i cant get rid of i...
A. 25 July 2009: Sounds like you're really coming along nicely! Well done.
Okay, names. I have a question. How do you pronounce Evie-Mai? Is that Ee vee may or ee vee my?
Same with Kai-Lewis. Is that Keye or Kay (rhyming with eye or aye)?
Do you see why I'm aski... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and pregnant, help!
Q. I am 14 pregnant to a 17 year old it was a drunken mistake, i am 1 month gone and not showing yet only small bump no one knows, i have already got morning sickness (i dont know why they call it this i'm sick throughout the day) i cant get rid of i...
A. 21 February 2009: I see you're posting; I'm curious as to what you have done? Have you told anyone? The longer you put it off, the more difficult it will become. I'm sure the people around you know that something is wrong. Why not go ahead and start to get the ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and pregnant, help!
Q. I am 14 pregnant to a 17 year old it was a drunken mistake, i am 1 month gone and not showing yet only small bump no one knows, i have already got morning sickness (i dont know why they call it this i'm sick throughout the day) i cant get rid of i...
A. 20 February 2009: Oh dear, this is not an easy situation to be in, is it? You know that you will have to tell your mother at some point, and waiting will only give you more days of worry. I think you need to be very brave, and tell her.
And I did want to clear some... (read in full...)
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