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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Am I unreasonable to ask to see his email.
Q. My spouse has in the recent past had an affair. He hides his income He tells me that it is none of my business. i have no access to, or knowledge of his income. He tells me that it is not my business who he knows or what he does, and that i just ...
A. 30 November 2009: Sorry your husband was a jerk and a liar as well as a cheat. He doesn't deserve you; you will move on and survive. It's important for you to remember that you were NOT going crazy and that your intuition was right on. He tried to make you think the ... (read in full...)
I lied about my virginty. Can a man feel your hymen?
Q. I am a virgin, but for my own personal reasons I do not want my guy to know. We are having sex for the first time tomorrow night, and I'm afraid he might feel my hymen and know I lied to him. I don't care about the bleeding, since I know that can...
A. 8 November 2009: Here is what can happen when there is deceit involved in any relationship, the party who is lied to generally isn't too happy about it:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/will-the-guy-be-mad-that-you-didnt.html
I hope you aren't regretting your dec... (read in full...)
My first cousin got me pregnant!
Q. I need advice... I did something extremely stupid one night after one too many and it resulted in my pregnancy. The complicated issue here is that the father is also my first cousin he is my fathers nephew (hes my aunts son). After more...
A. 6 November 2009: I will add one final thought, from http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Incest#Between_adult_cousins "Marriages and sexual relationships between cousins are viewed differently in many cultures, in both law and religion. In most countries, marriage between ... (read in full...)
My first cousin got me pregnant!
Q. I need advice... I did something extremely stupid one night after one too many and it resulted in my pregnancy. The complicated issue here is that the father is also my first cousin he is my fathers nephew (hes my aunts son). After more...
A. 6 November 2009: And with that post from "marriedlady", this question is being closed until such time as the original poster, who seems to have stopped providing followups, sends me a PM to have it opened again so she can post again on it.
... (read in full...)
I lied about my virginty. Can a man feel your hymen?
Q. I am a virgin, but for my own personal reasons I do not want my guy to know. We are having sex for the first time tomorrow night, and I'm afraid he might feel my hymen and know I lied to him. I don't care about the bleeding, since I know that can...
A. 4 November 2009: One more thought, it is rather inconsiderate of you not to reveal you are a virgin to him. What if he thinks you are more experienced than you are and hurts you? He deserves to have that information. You may cause him to have guilt for something he ... (read in full...)
They say I am pretty but fat. Should I be offended?
Q. Okay soo. Im 13 and i am over weight. please dont comment giving me tips on how to lose weight or on how to be healthier, im offended enough. i have low self asteem when it comes to my body, i have a stunning face but my body just isnt right, and ...
A. 4 November 2009: Any followups to add from the question asker?... (read in full...)
I somehow feel that he likes me, yet isnt interested in a serious relationship. Please advise.
Q. I am in a stable relationship with a guy who loves me truly. We live in different cities and since last year I started to take liking for a colleague of mine. We talk to each other about work and personal stuff every single day. For the last 1 year ...
A. 4 November 2009: Sorry that your question seems to have come in during a very busy time, and was overlooked. I hope this answer will help you.
I would say that your statement that your relationship is "stable" isn't painting the true picture. You say this guy love... (read in full...)
How can I make her like me again...?
Q. I think I'm in love with this girl... problem is, she has a boyfriend. We dated about two months ago, but we broke up... until' she got together with him, we just remained good friends. I told her, tonight, that I was planning on asking her to get ...
A. 4 November 2009: Sorry it took so long to get your question answered! Things got very busy here, and everyone must have been out trick-or-treating, or at least answering the door for them!
So you are encountering that age-old problem, liking someone who is invo... (read in full...)
Is it just a friend thing or does he really like me?
Q. Okay I have recently been busy and tired and was too nervous to say hi to my crush but during those days that happend he had been talking to my best girl friend and when i didnt say hi to him he asked my best friend if i was mad at him or if i was ...
A. 4 November 2009: Sorry that your question seems to have gotten swallowed in the pile of so many. I'll do my best to answer it.
How old are you? You sound younger than 18-21.
Okay, first thing, remember that the best person to represent you is YOU. Don't make you... (read in full...)
Is he being clingy or am I just not used to a guy like this?
Q. Im loosing patience with my guy of 6 months. I was the one head over heels for him and had to step back cuz he was not ready. well now he is ready, askin me to move in for the last 3 months and i dont the feel the same as i did. He calls me allot...
A. 4 November 2009: Sorry for the long wait to get your question answered. Sometimes they fall through the cracks if a whole bunch of questions come up in a short period of time.
To answer your question, yes, he is being clingy. He may be insecure, he may be jeal... (read in full...)
What should I do if something happens between us?
Q. I feel so weird talking about this. Here's the back story: My ex (we'll call him seymour)and I were best friends. We started dating when I was a senior in high school and he was still a junior. I fell for him and well let's just say it didn't e...
A. 4 November 2009: Sorry, I just found your question and wanted to answer!
So my advice is to NOT get intoxicated. It's a bad idea for a couple of reasons. One, the obvious one, is that you're technically underage. That means if something bad happens, the people who ... (read in full...)
My brother asked me to look at his because to judge its size
Q. My older brother asked me if I could look at his erect penis and tell him what I thought about its size. I know he is really self conscious about it and I just wanted to help him out. I've seen his dick before when we were really young. But never ...
A. 4 November 2009: Are you serious? You WANT to look at your brother's penis when he's sexually aroused?
There are boundaries you should be respecting for yourself, for your boyfriend and for your brother.
You don't need to see anything. Tell him to stop watching... (read in full...)
Must a woman orgasm to conceive?
Q. Should my wife have an orgasm to become pregnant or is it enough that my sperm goes inside through the vagina during intercourse?...
A. 4 November 2009: Women do not have to have an orgasm to conceive, however, folk wisdom suggests that it can help, by guiding the sperm past the cervix with the muscle contractions. Here's one site I found that has some reasonable information: ... (read in full...)
While I love the way things are, I want room for more in the future.
Q. Ok here goes I'll try to be brief. Im 39 divorced with two childen in a relatioship with a divorced guy no kids who lives an hour away. Weve been together over 2 years having broke up several months back as he had never said he loved me and didnt ...
A. 4 November 2009: Ah, yes, the developing relationship. Look, you decide what your timetable is for commitment, in the meantime, as you aren't actually in a committed relationship, do you think that he'd be okay with it if you saw other men? So that you're not ... (read in full...)
I lied about my virginty. Can a man feel your hymen?
Q. I am a virgin, but for my own personal reasons I do not want my guy to know. We are having sex for the first time tomorrow night, and I'm afraid he might feel my hymen and know I lied to him. I don't care about the bleeding, since I know that can...
A. 4 November 2009: Well, can you feel your hymen?... (read in full...)
They say I am pretty but fat. Should I be offended?
Q. Okay soo. Im 13 and i am over weight. please dont comment giving me tips on how to lose weight or on how to be healthier, im offended enough. i have low self asteem when it comes to my body, i have a stunning face but my body just isnt right, and ...
A. 4 November 2009: Before I can answer this question, I want to know what your height and weight actually are. Thanks!... (read in full...)
What was SO HOT while we were drunk wasn't the same when we were sober!
Q. So im 14, and he is 18. I met him at my friends party and we made-out that night. We talked every weekend after that and he always asked me if i wanted to chill and i would always be busy or he would but it would mostly be me. Then, on halloween i ...
A. 4 November 2009: I'm happy I was able to help. Love seriously STINKS sometimes. The person you think is great isn't interested, while the guy who is goofy and sooooo not attractive keeps asking you out. It gets better. Well, sort of. Even people in their retirement ... (read in full...)
She is 30 and he is 74. Is he actually interested in her mind?
Q. He is 74. She's 30. First of all, let's say he is a thin, very attractive, elderly man. It may seem gross to some people, but she says she is actually attracted to him. It may be weird to some, but she said something about him is fascinating to h...
A. 4 November 2009: Sorry, did I read the man was married? Too bad, he sounds like such an awesome catch besides that. NOT!
My guess is that he's auditioning mistresses around the world. Fine if she wants to be part of a stable, but I think a successful inde... (read in full...)
What was SO HOT while we were drunk wasn't the same when we were sober!
Q. So im 14, and he is 18. I met him at my friends party and we made-out that night. We talked every weekend after that and he always asked me if i wanted to chill and i would always be busy or he would but it would mostly be me. Then, on halloween i ...
A. 4 November 2009: It was awkward because he realized that you weren't going to be an easy lay--you actually want to talk! And you didn't have sex even though you were drunk.
You're getting this straight from someone who has been there: this is not going to end well... (read in full...)
Double trouble!!!
Q. I've been dating a guy for a year, I was his first girlfriend, first everything basically. He's the most amazing guy I've ever dated. We've stuck by each other through loss, fights with friends, unemployment, and other situations. It made things ...
A. 3 November 2009: Your subconscious is sabotaging your relationship with your boyfriend because you don't really want to be in it. You are setting the situation up so that you don't have to be the one to break up. You don't want to do it or think about doing it, so ... (read in full...)
My first cousin got me pregnant!
Q. I need advice... I did something extremely stupid one night after one too many and it resulted in my pregnancy. The complicated issue here is that the father is also my first cousin he is my fathers nephew (hes my aunts son). After more...
A. 3 November 2009: And I want to add one more thing; I'm sure we are all keeping in mind that as there are many cousin relationships and many many offspring from these, right? Because if we are not sensitive to this fact, we might be suggesting that the offspring of ... (read in full...)
My first cousin got me pregnant!
Q. I need advice... I did something extremely stupid one night after one too many and it resulted in my pregnancy. The complicated issue here is that the father is also my first cousin he is my fathers nephew (hes my aunts son). After more...
A. 3 November 2009: Ladies. Gentlemen. Please remember that we are here to advise the poster and not engage in flame wars. Ahem.
Right, poster, I think you need to make an appointment ASAP with your doctor.
You have choices that you have to make, and soon. I would su... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is icy cold and won't even cuddle!
Q. Hello aunts! I am 21, have a girlfriend for 2 years and I love her more than my life. I am in deep heart ache these days recieving each romance restriction from my girlfriend every other day. 1st of all, she is never willing to go on a date with me. ...
A. 3 November 2009: Are you sure she thinks of you as a boyfriend? She sounds like she treats you as a platonic friend.
I don't know the culture there well enough to advise you, but I think you two might have very different ideas as to what a boyfriend/girlfriend rela... (read in full...)
We're great friends..but how do I tell her I have fallen in love with her?
Q. i hae been seeing this woman for about 2 years and i do not know how to tell her that i have fallen in love with her.all this time we have been great friends we share the good and bad times together. we have had small dates like going to the movi...
A. 3 November 2009: You could try the classic way of sort of sneaking up on the declaration: 'I just love spending time with you.' 'I just love your laugh.' 'I love the way you make me feel.' 'I love your good heart.' Say 'I love' this thing about her or that thing. ... (read in full...)
Is there anyway I can get her to like me more than him... or am I out of luck?
Q. I'm 14, female, and bi. I like a girl who is around my age, female, and recently came out to me telling me she was bi also. Yesterday she found out a guy in one of our classes likes her, and she likes him back. (She didn't tell me that I guessed) I ...
A. 3 November 2009: I can't think of any way for you to behave that will make her like you more. I think you just have to be true to yourself, be a good person, a loyal friend, and honest with everyone. You're still young, there's still plenty of time in the school ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has rejected me sexually for over 18 months...
Q. For well over a year my gf has been cold towards me. Some of this I explained in my earlier question - not allowing me to say I love you or express my feelings to her etc. Also she as rejected me sexually for nearly 18 months. At the start she used ...
A. 2 November 2009: Hi, I only have time for a quick answer, so I apologize.
Divide this into three areas: her mental health, your mental health and the health of the relationship as a whole. The organism cannot be healthy if a part of it is ill; she clearly has an i... (read in full...)
Should privacy still be allowed even although you're married?
Q. My spouse and I are at odd ends! I want to know if it is wrong of me to not give my spouse my email password. I have been told time and again that when you are married your not allowed to have personal email's or anything that is not disclosed. My ...
A. 31 October 2009: When and why did you get married?... (read in full...)
Am I unreasonable to ask to see his email.
Q. My spouse has in the recent past had an affair. He hides his income He tells me that it is none of my business. i have no access to, or knowledge of his income. He tells me that it is not my business who he knows or what he does, and that i just ...
A. 31 October 2009: When and why did you get married?... (read in full...)
If you can afford me 2
Q. This is for women to answer, since men can't know the answer, unless they got it from a woman already. A woman who used to be a prostitute (so I figure she was low self esteem), told me all men who pay for dates are paying for sex/relations...
A. 31 October 2009: Does this mean when my girlfriend treats for lunch, she's paying for my friendship? Or is she expecting *gasp* sex later on? Seriously, if a guy I dated had ever implied or suggested that because he was paying for the date, I was expected to 'put ... (read in full...)
I have fantasies about giant women!
Q. I'm not sure how else I can say this. I have a foot fetish, but on top of that, also deal with macrophilia, where I have fantasies of giantess. The problem is, I get extremely aroused by the thought of being eaten by a giant woman, or stepp...
A. 30 October 2009: I had to look this one up and there seems to be a dearth of information on this fetish. I have to say it's not entirely clear what your question is. Do you need help finding a therapist to try to work on the issues preventing you from enjoying a ... (read in full...)
Is he using his son to cross the line?
Q. Well thing between be and my boyfriend are going good now but he is moving out of his apartment this friday with no where to go. He's goal is to find a new place but hasn't yet. Until then he wanted to stay at he's sisters house whom he had lived ...
A. 30 October 2009: I think he needs a place to say and has very few options. What are you doing to help him find a place? Or are you just vetoing the ones he manages to find?
If he just needs a place to stay temporarily until he finds a new place, I don't see what... (read in full...)
To cheat or not to cheat? Can mongamy really exist?
Q. Monogamy - can it REALLY exist - or is it natural to struggle with this? I'm asking this question because it seems like everyone cheats. On a marriage, in a relationship, etc. And if they don't it's usually because they "don't want to hurt" th...
A. 29 October 2009: I agree with quiet-echo. For me, monogamy is not a struggle. Do I find other men attractive? Yes. Would I cheat on my husband? No. Why? Because I committed to him and I couldn't live with myself if I did. It's not that I fear being found out. I ... (read in full...)
Is it true that men like women with a few more curves?
Q. My b/f and I have both gained about 25 pounds since becoming involved with each other 4 years ago. (What can I say, we both love to cook, eat and drink). But I've decided enough is enough and started watching my calories and making time to work out ...
A. 29 October 2009: He hasn't actually said he hated your body 20 lbs lighter has he? If he didn't like it then, he wouldn't have started the relationship with you. It may be that you are showing a great deal of distress at being heavier and he's trying to tell you ... (read in full...)
Is sex overrated?
Q. As the scrren name may suggest i have done a lot of things in my short life, however there is one important thing i am yet to do , and yes , it is to lose my virginity . I am purely writing this looking for honest answers to the question, that is ...
A. 27 October 2009: It can be a pretty amazing feeling. As with anything, overuse of superlatives may set up expectations that can never be attained.
One of the problems you're going to have in researching this is that you're approaching it from the logical part of y... (read in full...)
Is sex overrated?
Q. As the scrren name may suggest i have done a lot of things in my short life, however there is one important thing i am yet to do , and yes , it is to lose my virginity . I am purely writing this looking for honest answers to the question, that is ...
A. 27 October 2009: It's really not possible to answer that question unless we know what your expectations of sex would be. What do you think it's cracked up to be?... (read in full...)
My husband cheated on me again while I was pregnant. Should I take him back?
Q. Hi there. I'm currently 9 months pregnant with my 3rd child. Around the 8th month of pregnancy I found out that my husband of almost 9 yrs was cheating on me with someone from another state (he's in the military and travels a lot). It sta...
A. 27 October 2009: I'm sorry you have to go through this trauma at what should be a happy time for you. Congratulations on your imminent arrival.
I think it sounds like you have a good handle on things. You are not being hysterical or irrational, despite your ange... (read in full...)
Can someone contract diseases such as HIV and others during kissing?
Q. Hi Cupid,I asked question here before and i got a reasonable answer. I appreciate that. my question is, can somebody contact diseases like HIV and others during kissing? it confused me sometimes. i don't know how to kiss and i want to try that. ...
A. 27 October 2009: Here are some good links on sexually transmitted diseases:
http://www.webmd.com/sexual-conditions/tc/exposure-to-sexually-transmitted-diseases-topic-overview
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/stds-hiv-safer-sex-101.htm
http://ww... (read in full...)
Sex hurt me way too much! What can I do?
Q. hello(: I'm 15 years old and have been talking to a guy for over a year. He made it "official" a week ago. We tried having sex but it hurt way too much i could not handle the pain. I felt really bad because i told him i was ready. But i just wann...
A. 27 October 2009: I think your body is telling you it's not ready for sex yet. I wish I could get across to you how backwards your statement here is: "I felt really bad because I told him is was ready." YOU shouldn't be feeling bad about not being ready. HE should be ... (read in full...)
Please suggest a solution to this! He knows I care about him, he must care about me too, if he keeps in touch, right?
Q. Here I go again. My x bf has been texting me he says we will be "forever friends" but he is living with a woman he met and started seeing when my mother was dying and I couldnt/wouldnt devote 100% of my time to him. He wants to meet up with me ...
A. 27 October 2009: Chippy, Chippy, Chippy. No no no no no. Do you have no perspective on this? When you read this as an outsider might, do you not see that you look like a woman with no self-esteem? Despite your financial and career success, you tolerated being ... (read in full...)
We had an affair together and he ended it. Why is he still calling?
Q. Please can I havw advice on how is is acting, should I give up on him. Met a guy, liked him, he got married, we then had affair for many years, he kept promising to leave the wife etc. He said he would get a place for us never did, was still li...
A. 27 October 2009: What is going on is that he doesn't love you. He likes you well enough to sleep with you, but he doesn't care about you enough to actually plan a life with you. You're the back up girlfriend, the one who evidently is content with words, not deeds.
P... (read in full...)
I am cramping long after my period ended. Please Help!
Q. i started my period on 12oct 2009,an finished on 17oct 2009.its weird because i usally have it for 4-5days. On the 25 oct i started getting cramps and every time i eat a meal i get diarria.and its 26oct today and im still getting them on an ...
A. 27 October 2009: Sabah, you posted about having had 3 abortions, the last one being 10 weeks ago? You need to see your doctor. This could be a simple stomach bug, or it could be something more serious. Here is a website for you to find help through the NHS:
h... (read in full...)
What is so gross about breast feeding?
Q. Why do other girls give me looks when i say im breast feeding my baby? why does people think its gross? i mean thats way babys are ment to be feed. i think with it being flu season and babys die from the flu it would be selfish for me not to breast ...
A. 27 October 2009: Some people have very limited imaginations and cannot picture themselves in certain situations. This may just be such a far-off concept for them that they can't get their minds around it.
Ignore the negativity, their turn will come when they have... (read in full...)
Where can we have sex without being interrupted?
Q. Ok so I'm losing my virginity to one of my guy-friends really soon, but i don't know when yet.....i'm really nervous, and i dont know what i need to expect, because i literally know nothing about sex....i don't want to get down on the bed with a guy ...
A. 27 October 2009: Wow, it sounds like it's going to be magical.
Sorry, that was snarky. Reading your post, all I could think of was "this girl is so not ready." You want to do this with a guy-friend. You know literally nothing about sex. You're terrified of gett... (read in full...)
I'm about to be bankrupt and homeless due to him. Should I take something from him? And tell people what's happened?
Q. Hello Have a question I urgently need answering. I am at the end of a pretty terrible 11 year relationship with a guy. He is goodlooking, very talented, intelligent, and can be amusing. He also had a really bad childhood where he got abandone...
A. 27 October 2009: I would recommend you visit a solicitor to see if there is any legal remedy for the situation you find yourself in. Bring in all your financial documents and any correspondence between you and this man as it might help.
I agree with Old Guy that... (read in full...)
Is a woman's worth tied to her breast size?
Q. I have many issues with my body. I hate having small breasts, because men may accept small ones, but secretly they all want big! My boyfriend masturbates to big chested women. Also I don't have all the time in the world to exercise, sure I...
A. 27 October 2009: You are missing the point here. Code Warrior was illustrating a point. If you didn't want other people's input, then what are you doing on an advice site? I'm really curious why the only feedback you've given is to tell a very good aunt/uncle here ... (read in full...)
Is a woman's worth tied to her breast size?
Q. I have many issues with my body. I hate having small breasts, because men may accept small ones, but secretly they all want big! My boyfriend masturbates to big chested women. Also I don't have all the time in the world to exercise, sure I...
A. 27 October 2009: I'm sorry, is that a response from our poster? You just told Code Warrior that because he's a guy, you're not interested in reading his advice? Is that right?
If that is the case, then this isn't about your breasts at all. If you won't read a man'... (read in full...)
I can't stop thinking about my mom sexually
Q. My parents got divorced 13 years ago, and so i was forced to live at my mums during the week and my dads at the weekends. About 8 years ago, i needed to get a glass from the cupboard, but my mum was standing on the worktop in the way cleaning the ...
A. 26 October 2009: That's a cop-out answer. They would not lock you up, unless you'd committed a criminal act. Have you committed a criminal act? Or do you just have this very inappropriate obsession?
Have you tried hypnosis? Acupuncture? The rubberband (elastic band... (read in full...)
Is a woman's worth tied to her breast size?
Q. I have many issues with my body. I hate having small breasts, because men may accept small ones, but secretly they all want big! My boyfriend masturbates to big chested women. Also I don't have all the time in the world to exercise, sure I...
A. 26 October 2009: Okay, I promised myself I wasn't going to do this, but I can't help myself.
One of the reasons your question caught my eye was the 'breast size' bit. Look, my younger sister is having her final implants done tomorrow. Yep, she's enlisting in the ... (read in full...)
Is a woman's worth tied to her breast size?
Q. I have many issues with my body. I hate having small breasts, because men may accept small ones, but secretly they all want big! My boyfriend masturbates to big chested women. Also I don't have all the time in the world to exercise, sure I...
A. 26 October 2009: You're not really damning the entire male species based on your boyfriend, some cranially-challenged knuckleheads in class, and what some idiots write in a porn forum, I hope. You're generalizing to the extreme and allowing it to feed the "poor me ... (read in full...)
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