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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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I lied about my virginty. Can a man feel your hymen?
Q. I am a virgin, but for my own personal reasons I do not want my guy to know. We are having sex for the first time tomorrow night, and I'm afraid he might feel my hymen and know I lied to him. I don't care about the bleeding, since I know that can...
A. 8 November 2009: Here is what can happen when there is deceit involved in any relationship, the party who is lied to generally isn't too happy about it:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/will-the-guy-be-mad-that-you-didnt.html
I hope you aren't regretting your dec... (read in full...)
Could my two friends be having a secret affair?
Q. I'm not sure why I'm writing this but here goes. At college, I know this girl and to me it looks like this girl likes other girls. I know this sounds stupid but I'm not sure if it's in my head or if it's true. This girl (the main one-lets call her ...
A. 5 November 2009: You're feeling very left out. I HATE that feeling! It used to happen to me too where two friends would kind of favor each other over me. I would feel so miserable and unhappy. Now, years later, I still keep in touch with those women and they are no ... (read in full...)
Could my two friends be having a secret affair?
Q. I'm not sure why I'm writing this but here goes. At college, I know this girl and to me it looks like this girl likes other girls. I know this sounds stupid but I'm not sure if it's in my head or if it's true. This girl (the main one-lets call her ...
A. 5 November 2009: Ah, so you're jealous. And upset that you're not in the know IF they are indeed involved. That makes things a little clearer.
Life is not fair. People do not always like you back in the way you like them. Your best friend may wind up snagging the ... (read in full...)
I've been grilling my wife for two years and I need the truth!
Q. 36 years ago I noticed a guy's name on my gf's calender. As I had just a few days prior got back from the military I asked about it and she said he was just a person who came over to the apartment house where she lived to play cards. She lived with ...
A. 5 November 2009: I have an idea. Let's try a little role-reversal. Let's see how well you can convey your wife's position here. Write what you think might be going through her head as you are quizzing her on this.... (read in full...)
How can I show my ex-friend I am happy without him?
Q. So I have an ex-friend who I kinda dislike. But today I felt upset because he was with other people and I felt lonely and like I had nobody. I do have my own friends but I feel alone too sometimes. I want to show him that I'm happy with not being ...
A. 5 November 2009: If he's a perv and annoying, why on earth would you care what he thinks about you? You should care more about what the mud under you shoes thinks!... (read in full...)
I've been grilling my wife for two years and I need the truth!
Q. 36 years ago I noticed a guy's name on my gf's calender. As I had just a few days prior got back from the military I asked about it and she said he was just a person who came over to the apartment house where she lived to play cards. She lived with ...
A. 5 November 2009: Right, you're starting to sound like one of those interrogators or inquisitors (remember the Spanish Inquisition?) where they would continue to torture their prisoners until they confessed to what the questioner wanted to hear.
You have to make... (read in full...)
How can I show my ex-friend I am happy without him?
Q. So I have an ex-friend who I kinda dislike. But today I felt upset because he was with other people and I felt lonely and like I had nobody. I do have my own friends but I feel alone too sometimes. I want to show him that I'm happy with not being ...
A. 5 November 2009: Honestly, the best thing you can do is to get engrossed in your own interests and become completely unaware of his presence. Your little insecurities are niggling away at you and digging little holes and making you feel wobbly. Everytime you have ... (read in full...)
I've been grilling my wife for two years and I need the truth!
Q. 36 years ago I noticed a guy's name on my gf's calender. As I had just a few days prior got back from the military I asked about it and she said he was just a person who came over to the apartment house where she lived to play cards. She lived with ...
A. 5 November 2009: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-would-not-have-married-her-had-i.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/retroactive-jealousy--how-do-i-overcome-it.html
http://www.dearcupid.... (read in full...)
I've been grilling my wife for two years and I need the truth!
Q. 36 years ago I noticed a guy's name on my gf's calender. As I had just a few days prior got back from the military I asked about it and she said he was just a person who came over to the apartment house where she lived to play cards. She lived with ...
A. 5 November 2009: I think this is called retroactive jealousy and I'm pretty sure he doesn't want to have this feeling for his wife. I would suggest that you contact via PM two uncles here: one is "Yos", the other is "Troubledtoomuch". They often write on this topic ... (read in full...)
Do you have to have relationships to know your sexuality?
Q. I have always considered myself as straight. I guess I didnt really think about it too much. I still had my doubts that I could be gay. Now I am having strong feeligns for a girl at school. These have lasted for a year. I have sexual and romantic ...
A. 5 November 2009: Hi, I saw your post and I know I'm not an expert in this area, but I wanted to let you know that I think what you're going through is common. Lots of people have had feelings like you describe. How it turns out is anyone's guess. I think the key is ... (read in full...)
My teen pregnancy inspired my 12 year old sister to get pregnant. What do I do?
Q. I'm 17 and pregnant, and I keep telling my family about how much I love it, and it inspired my 12 year old sister to get pregnant. What should we do?...
A. 5 November 2009: Have you talked to your parents? ... (read in full...)
I'm having trust issues over the porn and text messages to a dominatrix!
Q. HELP!! I am Having TRUST ISSUES due to Porn Sites I found my BF visiting!!!!!!!!! Its been almost a month since I have confronted him with what I found...including text mesages to an AD he answered about wanting to b dressed and dominated! I bel...
A. 5 November 2009: Please do get tested. I know he promises up and down but he's trying to minimize the damage now and I would err on the side of caution for yourself. I remembered another website I've seen posted for people in your situation: ... (read in full...)
He never feels sex!
Q. hi i want to know about my boyfriend, he never feels sex.when ever i try to seduce or if i come naked in front of him he is not aroused.i tried everything kissing hugging but he doesn't fell anything and his little boy is not erecting even after se...
A. 5 November 2009: This question has been checked out and is valid, let's help her out, people.
I think I'd be worried that he had a medical problem, an attraction problem, or possibly a mental health issue.
Medical problem like diabetes may cause erectile dysfunct... (read in full...)
Am I headed towards divorce or is this normal?
Q. My 2nd husband, no kids, and I are living different lives with very different lives. He seems semi-concerned (probable to guilt to my daily affairs and i s'pose i to his) I am flirting back to men who flirt with me in a semi-(im)proper manner, he ...
A. 5 November 2009: Sounds like the big "D" to me if neither of you seem to be working together or particularly concerned about the other's happiness or well-being.
Why did you get married? Do you care enough about him to try to make it work? Figure that out, then try ... (read in full...)
Read this email message and tell me what you think!
Q. I found a message in my husband's email. It was from the owner of a company he has done some work for (who is a male), and he has an email address at that company i just became aware of. He has been hiding all of this from me. The message ...
A. 5 November 2009: Wow. What a red flag. That is NOT how guys joke around with each other. Your instincts are correct, there is something wrong here.
If I were you, I'd do some more digging and figure out what has been going on, get some evidence together, then conf... (read in full...)
How can I make the guilt of cheating in a past relationship go away?
Q. 3 years ago, I was in a long term relationship. she gave up everything for me, friends, family, just to be with me. We lived together for years, but I developed feelings for another woman and began an affair. I hate myself for what I did to this ...
A. 5 November 2009: Look back at that as the younger you, and forgive that younger, immature, selfish you. Then don't go do it again.... (read in full...)
How do I tell this guy that I am not interested in him and I have a boyfriend?
Q. i have just been asked out by this guy i really like and have said yes, but i have a dilema and this may sound really vain and the truth is im really not, i know that i am not that great looking and that people fall for my personality not that i am ...
A. 5 November 2009: "Oh, thank you for thinking enough of me to ask me out! That's so sweet! I wish I could give you a positive answer for this but I'm afraid I am taken. It's not going to happen between us because I think of you as a brother and that's all. I hate to ... (read in full...)
Am I selfish for wanting to go abroad, or is he selfish for wanting me to stay?
Q. I don't know who is right in this situation !.Me and this guy i used to be with have been together on and off for a few years. We haven't become very serious, such as moving in together, having kids, or doing many sexual things.He has said in the ...
A. 5 November 2009: The more you tell us about him, the less I like the chances of you two as a couple. First of all, he sounds like an immature, rather vindictive guy. Maybe he'll get better with age, but I doubt it. Second, you owe him nothing, you didn't make him ... (read in full...)
Could my two friends be having a secret affair?
Q. I'm not sure why I'm writing this but here goes. At college, I know this girl and to me it looks like this girl likes other girls. I know this sounds stupid but I'm not sure if it's in my head or if it's true. This girl (the main one-lets call her ...
A. 5 November 2009: Why do you think what two people who behave as friends do in private--IF they do anything in private, the evidence is flimsy--why do you think what happens behind closed doors between consenting adults has anything at all to do with you? If you don'... (read in full...)
What are the "three bases" people refer to with making out or sex?
Q. ok so i feel really dumb for not already knowing this but what are the 3 bases? i mean i feel that i rally should know but for some reason i dont and i think its just cause when i was younger i just kept telling myself i will know later and now i ...
A. 5 November 2009: When I was a teenager, first base was kissing, second base was anything above the waist, third base was anything except intercourse below the waist and home was intercourse. I believe that's all changed now.... (read in full...)
Can a smaller penis look bigger from a different person's perspective?
Q. Hi i am about 18 years of age, and I have a question on measurement in penis sizes. When i put the ruler next to my penis it shows me that i am 8 inches. Now the problem is, when i was in MMA the men had to take showers when the session was over. I ...
A. 5 November 2009: Did you mean "sledge" and not "sludge"? "Sludge" is muddy industrial pollution.... Anyway, I digress.
What does it matter what the other guy's penis size is? Is your girlfriend out there measuring other penises to see how you stack up?
This ... (read in full...)
I want help to get over my inhibitions about performing oral on a man.
Q. Okay, I've never givin a blow job, and im kinda nervous on it cause well i think its kinda nasty to put ur mouth on the guys dick, if u think about it.....anyways i want to but im to shy, and idk how to get over it, i mean part of me wants to but ...
A. 5 November 2009: You can find plenty of information on the mechanics. You seem to be looking for the pschological coping tips. I heard a great one years ago. Imagine that the man you love has been shrunk to penis-size. Now imagine that it's the little man you are ... (read in full...)
I'm having trust issues over the porn and text messages to a dominatrix!
Q. HELP!! I am Having TRUST ISSUES due to Porn Sites I found my BF visiting!!!!!!!!! Its been almost a month since I have confronted him with what I found...including text mesages to an AD he answered about wanting to b dressed and dominated! I bel...
A. 5 November 2009: I have to chime in here now, there's enough here to be concerned for yourself... a fem bottom is a man who is slim and has a girlish ass, as opposed to a muscular bottom.
A few things, okay? Get yourself to the doctors and make him go as well. Get ... (read in full...)
When we did it it, he didn't get his thing all the way in. Could I still be pregnant?
Q. Im 13 right now and im so scared about if im pregnate...i know i shoudnt of had sex and i know i should have used a condom, but i didnt think of it....it has been almost 12 weeks and i dont physicaly feel different but i cant get this out of my he...
A. 5 November 2009: It's possible, maybe not very likely, but possible. I think you need to tell your mother so you can have her help you now. You're going to need to get a pregnancy test (from a drugstore) and see the doctor so you can be checked over and make sure ... (read in full...)
I am concerned my friend needs help, but won't let me help her!
Q. I am having friend problems. My family and I moved away and I’m now 30 minutes away from my friends. My friend “Abby” started hanging out with her co-workers and likes this guy at her work- this guy is a total player (he asked out every girl at the ...
A. 5 November 2009: I think it's time to recognize that some friendships, like marriages, just reach the point where there's no option but to let it die a natural death.
You've tried to be a good friend to her and she's not interested in your support (I expect she perc... (read in full...)
Should I apologize to her on the phone for trying to apologize in a letter?
Q. Thanks for all help in advance. I finally managed to apologize to the girl I've been going after, albeit through a letter delivered by someone else. It said something along the lines of "Sorry for being a coward and a fool by having others give ...
A. 5 November 2009: You've got it bad, don't you? Oh dear.
Sweetie, I have news for you, very few girls actually enjoy having a secret admirer who seems a bit 'off'. And the way you're approaching this whole thing is off. It makes you look like a big goofy chic... (read in full...)
Am I selfish for wanting to go abroad, or is he selfish for wanting me to stay?
Q. I don't know who is right in this situation !.Me and this guy i used to be with have been together on and off for a few years. We haven't become very serious, such as moving in together, having kids, or doing many sexual things.He has said in the ...
A. 5 November 2009: "When we are together, he is loving and caring,but when we aren't together he is vicious.He has said some horrible things.I know jobs are important, but he is important to me too, although i don't like his temper or the way he puts me down, but i ... (read in full...)
I have a full life, but worry that I may not find love. Are there others out there like me?
Q. Hello all, I am an attractive, and very young looking 41 year old woman.I never meet men around my own age, as they always think I am too young for them, and do not approach me, and the guys I do meet are never really settled, or they are unsuita...
A. 5 November 2009: Human male, you have no idea how many times I've read someone else's great advice and thought "I wish I'd written that. Now SHE (or HE) got it right. I missed it!" The thing that makes DearCupid so interesting and potentially so valuable is that you ... (read in full...)
He gets a real bad pain in his stomach when we have sex!
Q. Ok so il just cut straight to the chase when me and my boyfriend have sex he gets a real bad pain in his stomach. he has been to the doctors about this and they gave him tablets but they didnt really work. I just want to know has anyone expierienced ...
A. 5 November 2009: A hernia? An abscess? Neurological damage? We don't know enough to tell you and if we give you advice, we could wind up making things worse for him.
He needs to go back to his doctor. Pain is your body's way of letting you know something's wron... (read in full...)
I have a full life, but worry that I may not find love. Are there others out there like me?
Q. Hello all, I am an attractive, and very young looking 41 year old woman.I never meet men around my own age, as they always think I am too young for them, and do not approach me, and the guys I do meet are never really settled, or they are unsuita...
A. 5 November 2009: I have no idea if this applies to you at all, but I'm just going to throw it out there and see if it might help you think about this
I have a friend who is late 40s, she's never had a boyfriend for longer than a year. She's attractive, has had a va... (read in full...)
How do I tell him it's okay to unhook my bra?
Q. Hi, I'm 15 and so is my boyfriend. We makeout at second base all the time. Everytime he puts his hands under my shirt he tries to unhook my bra, but then he how can I tell him it's ok to unhook my bra and play with my boobs? ...
A. 4 November 2009: If you can't just say, "it's okay to unhook my bra," are you sure you're really ready to do this? You realize you're going to be reminded that you're still underage and may not be fully matured enough to make good decisions.... Good luck.... (read in full...)
Why does he feel the need to be in contact with her when he knows how I feel about this?
Q. My husband and i have been married about 9 months. we dated two years before we got married. Throughout our relationship when we were younger i dealt with him contacting his ex's. We were not completely exclusive, I was hardly out of highscho...
A. 4 November 2009: You know, I think you do have the right to be upset. The thing is that he may not realize that you are still angry with him and don't trust her motives at all. Why is he rewarding her by continuing to stay in contact with her? She has set ... (read in full...)
He says it's over... is it? Somebody please help.
Q. Me and my boyfreind split up on friday i havent always been a jealous person when we first was going out he was going with his ex 4 3 yr and he split up with her and i ended up getting with him at our christmas party we wo going out 2 week then i ...
A. 4 November 2009: Hi, it's a little hard to read the question without knowing where the commas and periods are supposed to go, so if I misunderstood something, chalk it up to that.
Right, you were just starting to look at rings then you argued with him over him want... (read in full...)
Family: Where does your priorities lie?
Q. Wife Question to husband Who do you see as our family? Husband Answer to wife You and the two kids of course Wife to husband No one else? Husband to wife No. No one else Husband to wife Who do you see as our family? Wife to ...
A. 4 November 2009: My guess is that the husband in this case is really upset that he comes in third in his wife's priority rankings. I'd have to say I would be too.
Now, his wife might be wondering why her husband doesn't see his mother and father as part of his fami... (read in full...)
How can I make our first time together a Crazy, Passionate event?
Q. Ok, new girlfriend, new start, mindlessly love her, we are both very close with each other and enjoy each other's company. We've been together for a month and a half, we've both been in sexual relationships before, and i'd like to have a passionate ...
A. 4 November 2009: Honestly? If she's crazy about you too, she's going to be nervous, so the best thing you can do is make sure you're in a great place--make her feel safe and secure and love her up!
I would ease up on some of this self-induced pressure you've put ... (read in full...)
Is he being nasty, joking as friends, or flirting?
Q. Ok, I'm mega uuber confused. I work with this guy in a busy shop right, and I kinda sorta fancy him lol. The thing is, when we're at work, he does talk to me, but it's just friendly talk, talk about work collegues, what we've got to do for the day, ...
A. 4 November 2009: I'd call him on it, if it's bugging you. Hairy chest, my adz...
"Peter, what happens to you on MSN, you get all goofy and say the most outrageous things? You can only 'lol' and 'j/k' yourself out of a couple of these instances; too many and hone... (read in full...)
It feels as though my wife isn't interested in fixing our marriage.
Q. Hi everyone My wife and i have been seperated for about 10 weeks now, of which the first 6 i moved out. i had no other option but to come home in the end. we have been getting on now for atleast 8 weeks with laughter, conversation, fu...
A. 4 November 2009: So you went into a separation because of one drunk argument? I think there must be more to this story than you are sharing with us. She is furious with you and is not letting you back in until she's decided you have paid enough. Whatever did you say ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend took advantage of me while I suffered alcohol poisoning!
Q. Alright well, i'll try to explain this the best way i can. On halloween, last saturday, i went to a party with about.. 6 people. one of which included my boyfriend. We obviously were drinking since it was halloween and just for fun, you ...
A. 4 November 2009: You have to tell your parents. I read your question and there are just so many things wrong in there that I cannot advise you anything else right now. You are far too young to be drinking, you are with people who have access to alcohol and ... (read in full...)
How can I overcome irritation when she doesn't call as promised?
Q. Women not returning calls. I would like some advice on what do when a lady promises to call even though she knows she won't call. I have a friend who is a girl. Whenever she has an academic need she bombards my phone with calls. In fact one day ...
A. 4 November 2009: She sounds like a selfish person to me. Why would you be interested in a self-centered energy vampire?
Let it slide and just ignore her, is my advice. You can't change her behavior (obviously); you can only change your reaction to her. If you want... (read in full...)
Does my close friend like me back?
Q. Over the last few months I've started to really like one of my closest male friends. I've known him for a year and we lived together in halls at Uni. We have a little group of friends, us and a couple of others, who hang out together a lot. We ...
A. 4 November 2009: What's the harm in dreaming? Seriously, unless it is causing you mental distress or upsetting your life, what's wrong with a little unrequited love?
Well, let's see. How do you know he fancies you? He's got a girlfriend, technically, so he can'... (read in full...)
14 year old girl scared about sex with her 15 year old boyfriend
Q. my boyfriend is 15 and he wants to have sex with me but i don't know if i want to remain abstinent or have sex with he says he's ready when i'm ready but i don't think thats true and he might dump me i'm scared though that it will hurt and i will be ...
A. 4 November 2009: No, you're definitely not ready for sex. Read satindesire's article. Please don't do something you'll have to regret for the next 60-70 years.
Take care!... (read in full...)
I lied about my virginty. Can a man feel your hymen?
Q. I am a virgin, but for my own personal reasons I do not want my guy to know. We are having sex for the first time tomorrow night, and I'm afraid he might feel my hymen and know I lied to him. I don't care about the bleeding, since I know that can...
A. 4 November 2009: One more thought, it is rather inconsiderate of you not to reveal you are a virgin to him. What if he thinks you are more experienced than you are and hurts you? He deserves to have that information. You may cause him to have guilt for something he ... (read in full...)
I have butterflies for no reason. What's wrong?
Q. i am gettin butterflies in my stomach for noo reason every now and again an di dont know why can someone tell me why please thankyou x i know i sound realli dumb but my friend has tpold me she experienced dis wen she was pregnant :-( please help ...
A. 4 November 2009: I know people who experience anxiety frequently. Have a discussion with your doctor about this as this can be helped.
If you're concerned that you're pregnant, buy a test, read and follow the instructions, then you'll know.
Being anxious is more ... (read in full...)
They say I am pretty but fat. Should I be offended?
Q. Okay soo. Im 13 and i am over weight. please dont comment giving me tips on how to lose weight or on how to be healthier, im offended enough. i have low self asteem when it comes to my body, i have a stunning face but my body just isnt right, and ...
A. 4 November 2009: Any followups to add from the question asker?... (read in full...)
My good friend wants to see my penis. Should I show her?
Q. i have a realy good friend and she ask me to show her my penis i dont know if should show her but at the same time i dont know why she want to see it can someone help me with this...
A. 4 November 2009: How old are you?... (read in full...)
Does my close friend like me back?
Q. Over the last few months I've started to really like one of my closest male friends. I've known him for a year and we lived together in halls at Uni. We have a little group of friends, us and a couple of others, who hang out together a lot. We ...
A. 4 November 2009: Sorry, your question was overlooked probably because it was in a flood of other questions. I hope I can help a little.
The thing to keep in mind is that he is officially in a relationship. I think that some harmless flirting is fine, but be care... (read in full...)
I somehow feel that he likes me, yet isnt interested in a serious relationship. Please advise.
Q. I am in a stable relationship with a guy who loves me truly. We live in different cities and since last year I started to take liking for a colleague of mine. We talk to each other about work and personal stuff every single day. For the last 1 year ...
A. 4 November 2009: Sorry that your question seems to have come in during a very busy time, and was overlooked. I hope this answer will help you.
I would say that your statement that your relationship is "stable" isn't painting the true picture. You say this guy love... (read in full...)
I lied about my virginty. Can a man feel your hymen?
Q. I am a virgin, but for my own personal reasons I do not want my guy to know. We are having sex for the first time tomorrow night, and I'm afraid he might feel my hymen and know I lied to him. I don't care about the bleeding, since I know that can...
A. 4 November 2009: Well, can you feel your hymen?... (read in full...)
They say I am pretty but fat. Should I be offended?
Q. Okay soo. Im 13 and i am over weight. please dont comment giving me tips on how to lose weight or on how to be healthier, im offended enough. i have low self asteem when it comes to my body, i have a stunning face but my body just isnt right, and ...
A. 4 November 2009: Before I can answer this question, I want to know what your height and weight actually are. Thanks!... (read in full...)
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