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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Husband wants me to keep quiet while he works on his substance abuse issues
Q. hereee it goes again, my husband andd i have been arguing and i feel powerless. i cant get him to understan how i feel. he expects me to be silent aboutt my feeling, and endure whatever mistreatment he inflicts with no hard feelings while works on ...
A. 10 November 2009: You're welcome, I'm sorry the meeting was a bust for you. It was a helpful experience for me. I hope the online chat room works out for you!
Take care.... (read in full...)
Can anal sex get you pregnant?
Q. Can you get pregnant if you have sex from the back?...
A. 9 November 2009: Ah, I see where you got the number from. Here are the statistics on getting pregnant when using condoms, correctly and incorrectly:
"Each year, 2 out of 100 women whose partners use condoms will become pregnant if they always use condoms corr... (read in full...)
My period is two weeks late but I've never had sex
Q. Im 15 and started my periods 3 years ago. They have been regular and consistant until this past month where Im currently over two weeks late. Im definately not pregnant as I havent had sex so I know I shouldnt worry but its bothering me. Does anyone ...
A. 9 November 2009: And another one. http://www.plannedparenthood.org/teen-talk/body-mind/teens-menstrual-periods/help-missed-my-period-25241.htm
... (read in full...)
My period is two weeks late but I've never had sex
Q. Im 15 and started my periods 3 years ago. They have been regular and consistant until this past month where Im currently over two weeks late. Im definately not pregnant as I havent had sex so I know I shouldnt worry but its bothering me. Does anyone ...
A. 9 November 2009: And here's the link. (DOH!)
http://www.webmd.com/infertility-and-reproduction/guide/absence-periods... (read in full...)
My period is two weeks late but I've never had sex
Q. Im 15 and started my periods 3 years ago. They have been regular and consistant until this past month where Im currently over two weeks late. Im definately not pregnant as I havent had sex so I know I shouldnt worry but its bothering me. Does anyone ...
A. 9 November 2009: So no semen has been anywhere near your vulva or vagina, correct? Here's a link that has a list of potential causes. 'ffogalilly' pretty well listed them out for you. Anything sound familiar?... (read in full...)
Can anal sex get you pregnant?
Q. Can you get pregnant if you have sex from the back?...
A. 9 November 2009: Where did the one in a million come from? Did you conduct a study?... (read in full...)
Can anal sex get you pregnant?
Q. Can you get pregnant if you have sex from the back?...
A. 9 November 2009: Found some more information:
"MYTH: A girl can’t get pregnant if you have anal sex unprotected because it's the “wrong hole”
"FACT: While it’s true that pregnancy cannot occur from the act of anal sex by itself, an that the risk of pregnanc... (read in full...)
Do you think he really loves me?
Q. i hv bf for 4 months wer both married we go on dating i am confused f he really lovs me bec during our date he nver spend even single cents and if i ddnt tx him he dont hv the initiatve to tx me woud u think he really loves me the way he did but he ...
A. 9 November 2009: This is difficult to understand, but I think you're asking if your boyfriend loves you even though he never spends money on you, never initiates contact and asks you for things that will give him money and power?
If you have to ask, you doubt him ... (read in full...)
Can anal sex get you pregnant?
Q. Can you get pregnant if you have sex from the back?...
A. 9 November 2009: "It is also possible — but less likely — for women to become pregnant through any kind of sex play in which semen, or ejaculate, comes in contact with the vulva. The sperm can travel through the moisture on the vulva into the vagina."
From
http:... (read in full...)
Jet water masturbation..does it break your hymen?
Q. Does water jet masturbation break your hymen? Is that possible? Am I still a virgin if I do it? That's always been very confusing to me. Help?...
A. 9 November 2009: Most people define virginity as the circumstance that a penis has never entered the vagina. Your hymen could be broken through vigorous physical activity such as horseback riding or gymnastics.
If you are directing water into your vagina at such... (read in full...)
What would dramatically increase my chances of conceiving?
Q. Me and my fiance are trying for a baby. But four months down the line, still no luck :-( i'm 21 and he's 30. He's not so much of a healthy eater and survives mostly on junk, but I eat balanced meals and alot of vegetables. Getting to my point, i'm ...
A. 9 November 2009: Have you told your gynecologist you are trying to conceive? I think that's the very best place to start. Here's one link I found for you. http://www.webmd.com/baby/guide/your-pre-pregnancy-to-do-list
Good luck!... (read in full...)
Can anal sex get you pregnant?
Q. Can you get pregnant if you have sex from the back?...
A. 9 November 2009: If sperm get near the vagina, there's a chance of pregnancy. Sorry, but they do kinda know where to swim. If you're going to make statements about birth control, be sure you're correct, or what you write here could wind up with someone pregnant ... (read in full...)
Will she get pregnant even though I wiped the sperm away?
Q. i got spirm on the top of my girlfriends virgina but not in it she used a wipe to get it off straight away will she be pregnant or shouldnt i worry ?...
A. 9 November 2009: http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
You shouldn't worry too much, but there is a possibility she could get pregnant. Sperm are swimmers and if they reach the entrance to the vagina, they... (read in full...)
I lied about my virginty. Can a man feel your hymen?
Q. I am a virgin, but for my own personal reasons I do not want my guy to know. We are having sex for the first time tomorrow night, and I'm afraid he might feel my hymen and know I lied to him. I don't care about the bleeding, since I know that can...
A. 8 November 2009: Here is what can happen when there is deceit involved in any relationship, the party who is lied to generally isn't too happy about it:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/will-the-guy-be-mad-that-you-didnt.html
I hope you aren't regretting your dec... (read in full...)
Will the guy be mad that you didn't tell him that you were a virgin? Or what's the deal?
Q. I'm 20, and i've been talking to this guy for almost a month, and i ended up losing my virginity to him couple days ago, now i'm bleeding non-stop and my stomache hurts.. and i never told him i was a virgin and i feel super bad about it.. and i told ...
A. 8 November 2009: Did you post this question? http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-lied-about-my-virginty--can-a.html
Were you trying to 'snag' the guy by having sex with him? Is this guy a player with no interest in dating someone exclusively?
I think that unless y... (read in full...)
Blood in my semen -- help!
Q. Guys, pls help me. I am 20, i am virgin. Never been in any sexual relationship. The problem is , i musterbate. And when i masterbet yesterday i bled, i bled a few with my sperm. Then again, when i musterbet i bled few hours ago , my ...
A. 7 November 2009: To the anon male who wrote on 6 November 2009: you should get a second opinion. Blood in your semen for 4 years? Did he do screening for prostate or testicular cancers? Take cultures to see if you have an infection?
I'd get a bit aggressive on this... (read in full...)
Husband wants me to keep quiet while he works on his substance abuse issues
Q. hereee it goes again, my husband andd i have been arguing and i feel powerless. i cant get him to understan how i feel. he expects me to be silent aboutt my feeling, and endure whatever mistreatment he inflicts with no hard feelings while works on ...
A. 7 November 2009: You know how they say an alcoholic will finally ask for help when he hits rock bottom? You will finally reach for help when you hit your own rock bottom.
I wish you well.
xxx... (read in full...)
Husband wants me to keep quiet while he works on his substance abuse issues
Q. hereee it goes again, my husband andd i have been arguing and i feel powerless. i cant get him to understan how i feel. he expects me to be silent aboutt my feeling, and endure whatever mistreatment he inflicts with no hard feelings while works on ...
A. 6 November 2009: It sounds like it is truly heartbreaking and frustrating for you. There's no way to fix this without his willingness to get professional help, I think. Until he does, you are stuck in the rollercoaster.
The reason I think you should go to Al-A... (read in full...)
Help I don't understand why girls do this?
Q. i dont understand why some girls if you dont show them your penis then they be it has to be small or tell someone that your penis small when is not...
A. 6 November 2009: Women who are 26-29 years old are asking you this question? That's odd, most girls grow out of that kind of teasing by the time they are 13 or 14. Maybe you need to find better people to hang around with. Good luck!... (read in full...)
Foreskin always retracted, is this normal?
Q. I am not circumcised. I am bit curious to know my condition. My penis' foreskin is always retracted regardless of erect or not. From articles and friends i know that foreskin retracts only when it is erect. Mine was normal i think till i was 17. Is ...
A. 6 November 2009: The person to ask is your doctor; go to a urologist for someone who is specifically trained in male genitalia. In the meantime, here are some links for you: http://men.webmd.com/features/life-cycle-of-a-penis http://www.malehealth.... (read in full...)
Husband wants me to keep quiet while he works on his substance abuse issues
Q. hereee it goes again, my husband andd i have been arguing and i feel powerless. i cant get him to understan how i feel. he expects me to be silent aboutt my feeling, and endure whatever mistreatment he inflicts with no hard feelings while works on ...
A. 6 November 2009: Have you gone to an Al-Anon meeting? I think you need the support and there are people there who have "been there/done that" with what you are facing right now. That would be my recommendation. Alcoholics who do not want to get help--you can't fi... (read in full...)
My first cousin got me pregnant!
Q. I need advice... I did something extremely stupid one night after one too many and it resulted in my pregnancy. The complicated issue here is that the father is also my first cousin he is my fathers nephew (hes my aunts son). After more...
A. 6 November 2009: I will add one final thought, from http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Incest#Between_adult_cousins "Marriages and sexual relationships between cousins are viewed differently in many cultures, in both law and religion. In most countries, marriage between ... (read in full...)
My first cousin got me pregnant!
Q. I need advice... I did something extremely stupid one night after one too many and it resulted in my pregnancy. The complicated issue here is that the father is also my first cousin he is my fathers nephew (hes my aunts son). After more...
A. 6 November 2009: And with that post from "marriedlady", this question is being closed until such time as the original poster, who seems to have stopped providing followups, sends me a PM to have it opened again so she can post again on it.
... (read in full...)
Twice I had unprotected sex. Am I pregnant?
Q. help! ok soo me and my boyfriend broke up a few days ago. but just last weekend, i slept over and we had unprotected sex twice that night and again in the morning. i usually get my period from the 10th to the 12th of each month. its the 5th now. soo ...
A. 6 November 2009: I'm suggesting you are playing helpless here. You can figure out ways to sleep with your boyfriend, to hide what you're doing from your mother--she knows you're having sex but that it's not protected is kind of a key point, don't you think?--but you ... (read in full...)
How can he not like sex and prefer masturbating?
Q. I am in a relationship with someone, but the thing is, he doesn't like sex. We've had it before, but he says he gets bored and it doesn't interest him/ doesn't feel as good as masturbating. "Why should i do in a vagina, what i can do with my hand?" ...
A. 6 November 2009: It sounds as though for him, sex is all about HIS wants. He obviously cannot find fulfillment in 'ordinary' sexual activity; he needs the fetish or his own hand. I'd guess you've got it as good as it's going to get for him. Why he wouldn't care ... (read in full...)
I'm running out of reasons not to start a sexual relationship with my cousin!
Q. My cousin wants to restart our sexual relationship, should I give in? My cousin and i have always been very close. He is my best friend and has been all my life. But we are more than that. It started when we were teens and we realized that we liked ...
A. 6 November 2009: In the rest of the world, apparently there is no taboo against cousins dating; that's been established, so we don't need to start that debate here. That's a note of warning to aunts who post here, by the way. What you are presenting here seems to be ... (read in full...)
My b/f makes me feel complexed about my body, I used to be happy about it!
Q. When I'm watching movies with my boyfriend he is always pointing out which girls have better breasts or stomachs than me. If there is a topless scene he will immediately turn to me and tell me things like, "her's are much bigger than yours, they're ...
A. 6 November 2009: Have you tried simply telling him to stop? Without being snippy?... (read in full...)
Twice I had unprotected sex. Am I pregnant?
Q. help! ok soo me and my boyfriend broke up a few days ago. but just last weekend, i slept over and we had unprotected sex twice that night and again in the morning. i usually get my period from the 10th to the 12th of each month. its the 5th now. soo ...
A. 6 November 2009: So the guy who put his penis in you without a condom, with whom you actually spent the night, he would be angry? And he would blow off child support too? I don't think he has a choice. Nor do you. If you spent the night with him, how does your ... (read in full...)
Falling for my husband's cousin!
Q. I am married to a wonderful person.I was having a very normal life until my husband's cousin's brother joined us for a vacation. He slowly started talking to me about his love life and lot more about his personal life but we both never crossed the ...
A. 6 November 2009: Wow, you've got a bad case of a crush going on here. You say you're happy in your marriage? How long have you been married, do you have children, are there things that are missing from the marriage? The thing about crushes is that it takes you back... (read in full...)
Permanently dehydrated...
Q. Ok well this isnt really relationshippy, but i need help. I'm pernamently dehydrated, and i have some sort of mental block in me that makes me hate to drink. i refuse to drink tap water and am allergic to most juices, and i can only drink from small ...
A. 6 November 2009: You need professional help. Possibly an IV and hospitalization will help hydrate you.
Do not mess around. GET HELP NOW!!!!... (read in full...)
How can I forget the emotional abuse?
Q. i met this guy off the internet 9 years ago. we chatted online and e-mailed each other for about a year. he would say sweet romantic things to me, and i thought he loved me. we went on a date, and had an argument about money. he stood me up for our ...
A. 6 November 2009: I get calls where I answer and no one is there. I have callerID and it just shows as "unavailable". This happens once in a while. My sister has had a fax machine call her every single day at 5 pm since she moved into her new house. She hasn't ... (read in full...)
What is wrong with teacher/student relatonships?
Q. what's the big taboo with student teacher relationships? I know there's all this stuff about peadophillia, but why does it HAVE to be reported? And does anyone know how teachers react, like what do they say to a student who has just admitted...
A. 5 November 2009: Because the teacher is in a position of authority, so the student may not feel comfortable saying "no". Because the student may be trying to bribe the teacher with sex for a good grade. Because every man who fancies sleeping with underage girls ... (read in full...)
Drunken mistake won't leave me alone...
Q. This guy i did stuff with while drunk keeps trying to contact me through facebook, but he was just a DISGUSTING mistake and I really don't want to have anything to do with him... How can I reject him without seeming like a bit of a b****?...
A. 5 November 2009: If you have to have contact with him, I personally love to use the passive tense to get out of any further entanglement.
"It's not possible." "That's not an option." "It's just not going to work." "Alas, that's not something that will happen." Conv... (read in full...)
Could my two friends be having a secret affair?
Q. I'm not sure why I'm writing this but here goes. At college, I know this girl and to me it looks like this girl likes other girls. I know this sounds stupid but I'm not sure if it's in my head or if it's true. This girl (the main one-lets call her ...
A. 5 November 2009: You're feeling very left out. I HATE that feeling! It used to happen to me too where two friends would kind of favor each other over me. I would feel so miserable and unhappy. Now, years later, I still keep in touch with those women and they are no ... (read in full...)
I might want more... Eventually
Q. hey. Well straight to the point. I've been talkin dirty over the net to this guy i've known for quite a long time. We've been good mates for a couple of years now. So, We're planning to get down and dirty, sometime soon in the future. But i ac...
A. 5 November 2009: I think the way you find out is that you withdraw from the situation. You need to tell him what you're going to do and why and that will pretty much plunk the ball into his court. Then you'll see where you really stand with him. I don't think you're ... (read in full...)
Could my two friends be having a secret affair?
Q. I'm not sure why I'm writing this but here goes. At college, I know this girl and to me it looks like this girl likes other girls. I know this sounds stupid but I'm not sure if it's in my head or if it's true. This girl (the main one-lets call her ...
A. 5 November 2009: Ah, so you're jealous. And upset that you're not in the know IF they are indeed involved. That makes things a little clearer.
Life is not fair. People do not always like you back in the way you like them. Your best friend may wind up snagging the ... (read in full...)
2 questions: My little brother searches for porn and I don't have my period yet!
Q. [MODERATOR NOTE: The same (13 year-old) poster has presented two questions, which has been combined into one post.] ok my little brother is on youtube serching on sex and i know cause i checked the search on my laptop what shold i do??? Also, why...
A. 5 November 2009: I like the parental control idea, that's easy to put in. Ask your mom or dad to do it if you don't know how.
Every girl is different and so your timing may be different from your friends. Don't let them get you down. The ones who have it secr... (read in full...)
Can you get a urinary tract infection from anal sex?
Q. Can u get a uranary track infection from anal sex?...
A. 5 November 2009: You mean in the penis that is penetrating the rectum? Yes, you can get an infection in the penis. Condoms are strongly recommended by all health care workers to prevent spread of bacteria, viruses and fungal organisms from one party to another.
h... (read in full...)
Friend & I become very involved and now his g/f is upset. Should I try to intervene?
Q. Hi I'm in a strange problem.I'm a happily married woman immensely in love with her husband but was somewhere lonely.my husband switched his job to a foreign country and i had to stay here for one year. soon after reaching there, he got busy and had ...
A. 5 November 2009: You're trying to find a way to stay connected to this man by 'helping'. I think anything you'd say to him now would only hurt her and their relationship further.
You've made a choice to commit to your husband now, I suggest you turn your atte... (read in full...)
I've been grilling my wife for two years and I need the truth!
Q. 36 years ago I noticed a guy's name on my gf's calender. As I had just a few days prior got back from the military I asked about it and she said he was just a person who came over to the apartment house where she lived to play cards. She lived with ...
A. 5 November 2009: I have an idea. Let's try a little role-reversal. Let's see how well you can convey your wife's position here. Write what you think might be going through her head as you are quizzing her on this.... (read in full...)
How can I show my ex-friend I am happy without him?
Q. So I have an ex-friend who I kinda dislike. But today I felt upset because he was with other people and I felt lonely and like I had nobody. I do have my own friends but I feel alone too sometimes. I want to show him that I'm happy with not being ...
A. 5 November 2009: If he's a perv and annoying, why on earth would you care what he thinks about you? You should care more about what the mud under you shoes thinks!... (read in full...)
I've been grilling my wife for two years and I need the truth!
Q. 36 years ago I noticed a guy's name on my gf's calender. As I had just a few days prior got back from the military I asked about it and she said he was just a person who came over to the apartment house where she lived to play cards. She lived with ...
A. 5 November 2009: Right, you're starting to sound like one of those interrogators or inquisitors (remember the Spanish Inquisition?) where they would continue to torture their prisoners until they confessed to what the questioner wanted to hear.
You have to make... (read in full...)
Is it normal to prefer sex during the first days of menstruation?
Q. I am curious. My wife tells me that she is most interested in Sex about the 3rd or 4th day of her period. Is this quite normal?...
A. 5 November 2009: I think it's probably quite common. Who knows what the hormones get up to inside all our bodies?... (read in full...)
How can I show my ex-friend I am happy without him?
Q. So I have an ex-friend who I kinda dislike. But today I felt upset because he was with other people and I felt lonely and like I had nobody. I do have my own friends but I feel alone too sometimes. I want to show him that I'm happy with not being ...
A. 5 November 2009: Honestly, the best thing you can do is to get engrossed in your own interests and become completely unaware of his presence. Your little insecurities are niggling away at you and digging little holes and making you feel wobbly. Everytime you have ... (read in full...)
I've been grilling my wife for two years and I need the truth!
Q. 36 years ago I noticed a guy's name on my gf's calender. As I had just a few days prior got back from the military I asked about it and she said he was just a person who came over to the apartment house where she lived to play cards. She lived with ...
A. 5 November 2009: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-would-not-have-married-her-had-i.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/retroactive-jealousy--how-do-i-overcome-it.html
http://www.dearcupid.... (read in full...)
I've been grilling my wife for two years and I need the truth!
Q. 36 years ago I noticed a guy's name on my gf's calender. As I had just a few days prior got back from the military I asked about it and she said he was just a person who came over to the apartment house where she lived to play cards. She lived with ...
A. 5 November 2009: I think this is called retroactive jealousy and I'm pretty sure he doesn't want to have this feeling for his wife. I would suggest that you contact via PM two uncles here: one is "Yos", the other is "Troubledtoomuch". They often write on this topic ... (read in full...)
Could my two friends be having a secret affair?
Q. I'm not sure why I'm writing this but here goes. At college, I know this girl and to me it looks like this girl likes other girls. I know this sounds stupid but I'm not sure if it's in my head or if it's true. This girl (the main one-lets call her ...
A. 5 November 2009: Why do you think what two people who behave as friends do in private--IF they do anything in private, the evidence is flimsy--why do you think what happens behind closed doors between consenting adults has anything at all to do with you? If you don'... (read in full...)
I lied about my virginty. Can a man feel your hymen?
Q. I am a virgin, but for my own personal reasons I do not want my guy to know. We are having sex for the first time tomorrow night, and I'm afraid he might feel my hymen and know I lied to him. I don't care about the bleeding, since I know that can...
A. 4 November 2009: One more thought, it is rather inconsiderate of you not to reveal you are a virgin to him. What if he thinks you are more experienced than you are and hurts you? He deserves to have that information. You may cause him to have guilt for something he ... (read in full...)
I lied about my virginty. Can a man feel your hymen?
Q. I am a virgin, but for my own personal reasons I do not want my guy to know. We are having sex for the first time tomorrow night, and I'm afraid he might feel my hymen and know I lied to him. I don't care about the bleeding, since I know that can...
A. 4 November 2009: Well, can you feel your hymen?... (read in full...)
My first cousin got me pregnant!
Q. I need advice... I did something extremely stupid one night after one too many and it resulted in my pregnancy. The complicated issue here is that the father is also my first cousin he is my fathers nephew (hes my aunts son). After more...
A. 3 November 2009: And I want to add one more thing; I'm sure we are all keeping in mind that as there are many cousin relationships and many many offspring from these, right? Because if we are not sensitive to this fact, we might be suggesting that the offspring of ... (read in full...)
My first cousin got me pregnant!
Q. I need advice... I did something extremely stupid one night after one too many and it resulted in my pregnancy. The complicated issue here is that the father is also my first cousin he is my fathers nephew (hes my aunts son). After more...
A. 3 November 2009: Ladies. Gentlemen. Please remember that we are here to advise the poster and not engage in flame wars. Ahem.
Right, poster, I think you need to make an appointment ASAP with your doctor.
You have choices that you have to make, and soon. I would su... (read in full...)
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