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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Blood drops in my urine, what could this be?
Q. hi this morning i had blood drops in my urine after 3 to 4 drops the urine went clear this happened the whole day i went 8 to 10 time to urine each and every time what could be the reason.please help i am afraid.i havent masturbated for ...
A. 16 June 2010: Did you ever get this treated? This was six months ago, what did the doctor say about this?... (read in full...)
The person I love is in an incestrous relationship... and I'm shocked!
Q. i am in love with a girl in my class we were friends since childhood, shes cute and smart and am totally over her so i wanted to confess to her but when i came to her house(we use to studying maths together) saw her making out savagely with her ...
A. 5 December 2009: It's a real pity that she is not the girl you thought she was, but I am happy that you have finally seen past your desire for her. I hope you can manage to cope with your disappointment. Now that your parents know too, they can help you get over ... (read in full...)
The thought of what my girlfriend does in her sleep keeps me awake
Q. For some reason this is really bothering me. I woke up the other night sleeping next to my girlfriend and i thought she was masturbating. Now i dont know for certain but the reasons i thought this were because the covers were slightly moving,...
A. 3 December 2009: She just may not feel comfortable revealing that private side of herself to you just yet.
And getting back to your original question, why if you don't masturbate would you suddenly have the urge to do it? I go back to my original answer. Some wome... (read in full...)
Blood drops in my urine, what could this be?
Q. hi this morning i had blood drops in my urine after 3 to 4 drops the urine went clear this happened the whole day i went 8 to 10 time to urine each and every time what could be the reason.please help i am afraid.i havent masturbated for ...
A. 3 December 2009: Here's a partial list of what it could be from the webmd.com symptom checker tool: hemophilia, urinary tract infection, kidney infection, bladder cancer, hydronephrosis, polycystic kidney disease, bladder stones, chlamydia, interstitial cystitis, ... (read in full...)
Blood drops in my urine, what could this be?
Q. hi this morning i had blood drops in my urine after 3 to 4 drops the urine went clear this happened the whole day i went 8 to 10 time to urine each and every time what could be the reason.please help i am afraid.i havent masturbated for ...
A. 3 December 2009: I completely second what marriedlady said. This is one of those symptoms that should NEVER be ignored. Your life is too important to waste on being embarassed to go to the doctor. Don't mess around with this--THIS IS SERIOUS!!!!
CALL THE DOCTOR TODA... (read in full...)
Blood drops in my urine, what could this be?
Q. hi this morning i had blood drops in my urine after 3 to 4 drops the urine went clear this happened the whole day i went 8 to 10 time to urine each and every time what could be the reason.please help i am afraid.i havent masturbated for ...
A. 3 December 2009: My dad had blood in his urine and it turned out to be bladder cancer. Blood in your urine is not normal and should be checked out ASAP. His particular kind of bladder cancer at the time had about a 10 year survival rate of 30 percent. Thank goodness ... (read in full...)
My Latin Lover has become a Latin Monster
Q. I am a Canadian woman, late-20’s, and dated an Italian man for just over three years. At first it was magnificent, the hand holding, gentle face touches, dancing in the dark, romantic romantic romantic. We moved in together and it was downhill from ...
A. 3 December 2009: No, it's not the Italian part of him. It's the a***ole part of him. You found an abuser, and the real question for you is why you picked him and what lessons you've learned.
Don't blame it on his being Italian; that would be the wrong conc... (read in full...)
What do I tell him when he asks again if I'm virgin?
Q. A guy i like is not a virgin and he asked me if i was and i just looked at him and turned around.. his friend said oh she gave you the look, i dont really know what that means ? I know he is gonna ask again.. but i dont know what to say .. help ...
A. 3 December 2009: "None of your business" in the flattest, calmest, most impassive way you can manage. Then walk away, don't stand around and feed him your attention. That's what he's going for.... (read in full...)
I am bisexual and I have a crush on another girl
Q. Ok here it goes, I have a massive crush on another girl who is in my drama class. She is gorgeous and wish I could tell her. However I think she is straight, don't talk to her often and don't want to make a big fool of myself if I do tell her and ...
A. 2 December 2009: Keep the crush to yourself and try to get to know her better. Maybe she's not such a wonderful person once you get to know her--often the fantasy of the image is better than the reality.
You don't want to come on to someone who fundamentally is not ... (read in full...)
I cant cope with the idea of my boyfriend living in my pretty little house!
Q. I've been with my commitment-phobiac bf for 3 and a half yers now and we've lived together for 2 years. Now I've bought a house of my own and I really don't want him to move in with me. I tried talking to him about it and he said that once you live...
A. 2 December 2009: If you are getting tired of him and don't want him around, are you quite sure you should even be in the relationship? Or are you just fed up and angry that he hasn't asked you to marry him?
I guess it's big decision time for you. You could try tell... (read in full...)
My OBGYN tells me to dump abusive boyfriend, should I?
Q. Help! My boyfriend says that my vagina does not feel teh same as it did when we began having sex 9 months ago. He refers to it as being loose and accuses me of cheating on him. I have tried kegels (excessively and obsessively) and have been ...
A. 2 December 2009: Is he around your age? That's when the penis starts to shrink. I swear.
http://men.webmd.com/features/life-cycle-of-a-penis
I'd say the problem lies with him. And your OBGYN is correct, this is an abusive thing he's done to you, you say you're d... (read in full...)
Sweet Sixteen and Never Been Kissed
Q. 16 year old girl and has never been kissed?! Why do I feel as if no guy does not like me in a way to want to get to know me? I can grind with a guy and he can get a boner, but no guy wants to get to know me? Why is it that I feel that no guy want...
A. 2 December 2009: Guys your age aren't always the best conversationalists; some can be so focused on themselves, they don't relate well to others who aren't in their immediate social group. Others are very shy still. Don't take it personally. Just be yourself, and ... (read in full...)
I want suggestions for pleasing my man
Q. What do guys like the most? Me and my partner have talked alot but I want ideas of different sex positions....
A. 2 December 2009: I can't speak for the guys, but I would expect your enthusiasm would be very pleasing to him. Here's a site that has tons of positions. (Not safe for work.)
http://www.sexinfo101.com/sexualpositions.shtml
Have fun!... (read in full...)
Sweet Sixteen and Never Been Kissed
Q. 16 year old girl and has never been kissed?! Why do I feel as if no guy does not like me in a way to want to get to know me? I can grind with a guy and he can get a boner, but no guy wants to get to know me? Why is it that I feel that no guy want...
A. 2 December 2009: Stop grinding with them; they think you don't care enough about yourself to wait until you're with someone you truly like. It sounds like you may be trying too hard.
What do you like? What makes you interesting? What makes your heart beast fast... (read in full...)
I don't believe pretty women with breasts make good wives!
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, There's a song that goes "If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife.." Homely women aren't as sought after and they're not as likely to cheat on a husband or boyfriend. It so...
A. 2 December 2009: "It sounds like beauty, marital fidelity and monogamy are mutually exclusive."
In your defense, you're still pretty young. But that is a sweeping generalization of ridiculous proportions. Try not to get too cynical too soon, it's so unat... (read in full...)
Until it stinks!!!
Q. Can anyone tell me why a vagina might smell after sex?...
A. 2 December 2009: I'm assuming you meant with a bad odor. It could be a vaginal infection due to bacteria or yeast. It could be a foreign object inside. http://women.webmd.com/tc/vaginal-problems-topic-overview
Poor hygiene is another possibility. ... (read in full...)
The person I love is in an incestrous relationship... and I'm shocked!
Q. i am in love with a girl in my class we were friends since childhood, shes cute and smart and am totally over her so i wanted to confess to her but when i came to her house(we use to studying maths together) saw her making out savagely with her ...
A. 2 December 2009: I would keep a distance between you for now. You are too emotional about this.... (read in full...)
My husband of four years watches gay porn and denies it! What should I do
Q. I have a real problem! My husband of four years watches gay porn online and denies it. We have two children and I’m 8 months pregnant with our third. I first caught him about two years ago. He refused to admit it! So, I confronted him with ...
A. 2 December 2009: Good question, heartfullalove! That would be helpful in understanding his issue.... (read in full...)
Will the curve and size of my penis cause trouble?
Q. Hi, i'm 16 and soon to loose my virginity with my girlfriend. My penis is 5.9" in length and about 5.6" in girth. My penis also curves up and to the left. Can anyone tell me weather this will be a problem or if there will be any downsides during ...
A. 2 December 2009: You're fine, don't worry about the curve or your size. I've got some reading for you before you do lose your virginity:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/thinking-about-losing-your-virginity.html
http:... (read in full...)
The thought of what my girlfriend does in her sleep keeps me awake
Q. For some reason this is really bothering me. I woke up the other night sleeping next to my girlfriend and i thought she was masturbating. Now i dont know for certain but the reasons i thought this were because the covers were slightly moving,...
A. 2 December 2009: Two things, let's divide them. First, whatever she's doing when she's asleep is simply moving, and has nothing whatsoever to do with you. Should she get upset if you have a wet dream? Don't be childish about this.
Second, masturbation is by defi... (read in full...)
The person I love is in an incestrous relationship... and I'm shocked!
Q. i am in love with a girl in my class we were friends since childhood, shes cute and smart and am totally over her so i wanted to confess to her but when i came to her house(we use to studying maths together) saw her making out savagely with her ...
A. 2 December 2009: You should not put yourself in the middle of this. It is a bad idea. You are trying to fix something that you know nothing about and it will backfire on you. Leave it be.... (read in full...)
I don't want to break up a relationship, but I think he's the one.
Q. A friend of mine and I have known each other for a few years now, we have been interested in one another in the past, but, never at the same time. He has been with his girlfriend for over a year (during which time we didn't talk), but he has shared ...
A. 1 December 2009: I'd tell him that you'd love to date him if he were single, but that you are not going to do anything while he's in a relationship with someone, because that would show a lack of integrity. Then wait and see what he does.
In the meantime, be sure... (read in full...)
My husband of four years watches gay porn and denies it! What should I do
Q. I have a real problem! My husband of four years watches gay porn online and denies it. We have two children and I’m 8 months pregnant with our third. I first caught him about two years ago. He refused to admit it! So, I confronted him with ...
A. 1 December 2009: How's your sex life otherwise? Just fine? Or do you feel something is lacking, do you see a lack of interest in your genitalia, does he make excuses for things?
The gay porn bit is troubling, of course, but moreso is the fact that you guys were actu... (read in full...)
The person I love is in an incestrous relationship... and I'm shocked!
Q. i am in love with a girl in my class we were friends since childhood, shes cute and smart and am totally over her so i wanted to confess to her but when i came to her house(we use to studying maths together) saw her making out savagely with her ...
A. 1 December 2009: I think you need to recognize that this girl has some issues if she is involved romantically with her brother. She may not love you when this ends, if it ever does. She certainly won't thank you for beating up her brother or breaking their bond. ... (read in full...)
The person I love is in an incestrous relationship... and I'm shocked!
Q. i am in love with a girl in my class we were friends since childhood, shes cute and smart and am totally over her so i wanted to confess to her but when i came to her house(we use to studying maths together) saw her making out savagely with her ...
A. 1 December 2009: Stay far far away from this one; you do NOT want to get in the middle of this family situation. You sound very emotional about this, but honestly, this is none of your business, what she does with whom is not your concern.
I don't like that she'... (read in full...)
How can I tell my husband I want to do this myself???
Q. I have been married 18 years to a great man...he's my knight in shinning armor. He's been a great father to my two boys from a previous marriage and our own two boys (yes, 4 boys) but I'm having some issues with him wanting to have access to my ...
A. 1 December 2009: You might just tell him the truth; you'd like having one thing that you are responsible for and don't want to be second-guessed or micromanaged by him. I understand your wishes; he's probably feeling left out and itchy that he can't manage that for ... (read in full...)
NYC or Los Angeles?
Q. Hi I wonder if any of you can help me out here. I am planning a travel with my gf (who lives in Spain) and I would like some advice...we are intending to go to the USA next summer and would like to know what is a better City. New York City or Los ...
A. 1 December 2009: I've been to both and they are very different. One you will have to have transportation to get around (LA), the other you can walk, take the subway or take cabs (NYC).
NYC is very international, lots of people from all over the world, inte... (read in full...)
Not being able to talk to anyone is killing me!
Q. Hello, ok i was out at my local pub last night from 9.30 to 1.30 and did not talk to anyone! I said hello to couple to couple of people but did not actually speak to anyone, yes there was music playing but come on i have been going to this pu...
A. 1 December 2009: Did you ever do any research on Asperger Syndrome? I'm not an expert by any means, but I'm seeing some signs that point to it.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asperger_syndrome
This might explain the dissonance between your perception of your answers,... (read in full...)
What are Herpes?
Q. What are herpies? i have been told that ther some sort of spots that grow after u have sex, does this apply for when u masturbate aswell though?? x...
A. 1 December 2009: Hi, don't have sex until you have all that information. You can catch some nasty things and get pregnant if you aren't properly educated on this.
A good place to start is your gynecologist. I have some links for you to read as a start as well, star... (read in full...)
Condomless threesome and now I'm worried I'm pregnant!
Q. i know this is going to make me sound really bad, and i am really upset about this which is why this is the only confidential thing i could think of for advice, well a month ago i had a threesome with 2 guys, i was really drunk and i know there...
A. 1 December 2009: Contact your gynecologist first thing tomorrow for a thorough check: you need to be examined for STIs as well as take a pregnancy test. After that, if it turns out you are pregnant, then you can figure out how to tell them, and figure out what your ... (read in full...)
Am I unreasonable to ask to see his email.
Q. My spouse has in the recent past had an affair. He hides his income He tells me that it is none of my business. i have no access to, or knowledge of his income. He tells me that it is not my business who he knows or what he does, and that i just ...
A. 30 November 2009: Sorry your husband was a jerk and a liar as well as a cheat. He doesn't deserve you; you will move on and survive. It's important for you to remember that you were NOT going crazy and that your intuition was right on. He tried to make you think the ... (read in full...)
Is it possible that my husband is gay?
Q. I have been married for a year. My husband hasn't slept with me most of that time. We have sex then he gets out of bed and sleeps on the coach. He never comes to bed till it's almost time for me to get up. This just isn't a normal marriage. A ...
A. 30 November 2009: Secretive and defensive, hm. Either he's hiding something or he's deeply embarassed by something. I cannot tell you if he is gay by your post, but you clearly notice something's wrong or different with the way things feel. I'd say intuition is our ... (read in full...)
What might of happened for her to lose interest that fast?
Q. What do i do? I posted a question relating to this issue a few days ago but now i need to konw what i should do now. Heres the situation. Ive liked this girl for a month or two and just recently asked her for her number, which she agr...
A. 30 November 2009: *it's NOT what happened*
(typos, sigh, no spell check would catch that one)... (read in full...)
His size is affecting our relationship. What should I do?
Q. This may not sound as important but it is to me. I dated my former boyfriend for almost 7 months. All was well, especially the sex because he was well endowed. We broke up recently then i met someone else who is incredibly small. He's a great guy ...
A. 30 November 2009: Let him go find a woman who appreciates that he's a great guy with amazing sexual prowess; it doesn't sound like you are the one for him. And for heaven's sake, don't tell him why you need to break up with him. Just let him go gracefully and you can ... (read in full...)
What might of happened for her to lose interest that fast?
Q. What do i do? I posted a question relating to this issue a few days ago but now i need to konw what i should do now. Heres the situation. Ive liked this girl for a month or two and just recently asked her for her number, which she agr...
A. 30 November 2009: I think you're looking at this from the wrong angle; it's now what happened so fast that changed her from seemingly interested in you to backing off completely, it's what allowed her to let her defenses down for an evening. I think it's likely that ... (read in full...)
Unprotected sex with an ex, could I be pregnant?
Q. My ex boyfriend and i just had unprotected sex 3 days ago which was November 28, 2009 the day rite after my period or 2 days after one of the two, im scared because he nutted in me and i know there is a hiqh chance of qetting pregnant ... he ...
A. 30 November 2009: Anytime anyone has unprotected sex, there is a possibility of pregnancy. A 15 year old boy who wants to have sex without a condom is the absolutely WORST sex expert I can think of. He's going to say anything to 'nut' inside you. *shuddering at the ... (read in full...)
He got cum all over my stomach, am I pregnant?
Q. Am i pregnant!!! the other night i gave my boyfriend oral he ejaculated over my stomach about 1 minute later i ran to the toilet rubbed water and soap on me then showered the soap off is ther a possibility that i could be pregnant x...
A. 30 November 2009: Hi, I think it sounds very unlikely that you are pregnant. However, it also sounds like you need some sex education. Before you have any more sexual contact, I think it would be a good idea for you to watch this video and then read the links I'm ... (read in full...)
I am crushing on my math teacher and he found out!
Q. Well fo starter I'm 14 and in Year 9 at the moment. But, I have the most gorgeous and amazing maths teacher ever! I love him so muchan can't keep him out of my head. We have a good laugh together and he is a great teacher. Anyway, A few weeks back...
A. 29 November 2009: We did advise you to do nothing that would get you in trouble. I'm sure you wish you had taken that course now.
Okay, you have to tell your mother the truth. "Mum, I have a crush on my maths teacher. It was such a strong feeling that I actually wrot... (read in full...)
My life has changed for the better for ever but how can I now deal with my friend/ work colleague who I suspect is jealous?
Q. Hello all. I wonder if you might offer me some advice on how to cope / deal with a jealous freind/ work colleague? I recently changed my life, and now have an active , busy life , and am pursuing my interests, goals and hobbies, doing well at wo...
A. 29 November 2009: I think she is going to feel upset almost no matter what you do because you are changing the status quo here. You are no longer fulfilling the role you had settled on with her, because you have changed and shaken off the doldrums.
And of cour... (read in full...)
He says vaginas are gross and doesn't want sex anymore. What can I do to have sex in my marriage?
Q. My husband and I are very much in love, we have been married less than a year and we have been together about three years. Before we got married, sex was great. I was intimate and exciting. I am very much aware that this stage will fade some as ...
A. 25 November 2009: I think madlib is on to something here; what kind of porn is he watching? If he finds vaginas gross then he won't be watching hetero sex stuff.
The other point I want to underline for you is that you can't fix this by yourself. He has to want to t... (read in full...)
Am I in love with my uncle's wife or is this just an obsession?
Q. dear cupid I'm 20 years old and I have a big crush on my uncle's wife she is 32, their marriage is not that great and I hear them argue on the phone a lot ,they have one child together, she has a doughter from a past relationship, my aunt and I ...
A. 24 November 2009: Sounds a bit like an obsession. It's also dangerous to the family for you to do anything about it, other than ignore the feelings. It's your hormones that are doing the thinking right now, time to let your brain in your skull take over and do its ... (read in full...)
I am crushing on my math teacher and he found out!
Q. Well fo starter I'm 14 and in Year 9 at the moment. But, I have the most gorgeous and amazing maths teacher ever! I love him so muchan can't keep him out of my head. We have a good laugh together and he is a great teacher. Anyway, A few weeks back...
A. 24 November 2009: Actually, you have more than one chance in life. Life is about timing and in this case, you are just born too late for him. If he's that attractive, believe me, you are not the first girl to get a crush on her teacher.
It's what you do about it t... (read in full...)
Why does my ex expect me to wait for her?
Q. My ex always wants to hang out, but she is always late, or makes me wait all night (so I cancel other plans) and then blows me off. Why does my ex always expect me to just wait on her?...
A. 24 November 2009: Isn't she your ex for a reason? I'm puzzled you're making plans to hang out with her.
I'll tell you why she expects you to wait for her. Because you already do. You have demonstrated time and time again that you will put up with her behavior. As s... (read in full...)
He wants to drop child support in case his wife finds out!
Q. I had a child with a married man. He has to pay child support and he wants me to drop child support because he doesn't want his wife to find out. He tell's me I need to do the right thing or he'll never see his child again (he only see's once a ...
A. 24 November 2009: This son needs an advocate. I would put it to you that a child might benefit from the absence of a man who believes in emotional blackmail, who apparently is a world-class liar and deceiver to boot. He wouldn't be the best example for a young, ... (read in full...)
Is my level of anxiety normal or not?
Q. Hi everyone, im not sure if anyone is able to help but here goes... I recently passed my driving test and got myself a car. The thing is instead if being thrilled of having my independence im terrified of driving. I mean i was confident ...
A. 24 November 2009: I admire people who drive well in the UK, I really do. Having done it, I understand the anxiety that one could develop just thinking about it. If is becoming an issue, if your worries are intruding on normal daily activities, perhaps you need to ... (read in full...)
How do I get back my 9 inch penis?
Q. When i was a youmg man i was blessed with being well endowed with a 9 inch penis. I had no complaints and lots of complements on its size. A couple weeks ago i overheard my wife over the phone to her phone say that she missed my 9 and thinks it had ...
A. 24 November 2009: http://men.webmd.com/features/life-cycle-of-a-penis
http://men.webmd.com/guide/sex-fact-fiction
My suggestion to you is to ask your wife how you can better please her in bed. Eagerness to please is probably the biggest turn-on in bed for most peo... (read in full...)
My life has changed for the better for ever but how can I now deal with my friend/ work colleague who I suspect is jealous?
Q. Hello all. I wonder if you might offer me some advice on how to cope / deal with a jealous freind/ work colleague? I recently changed my life, and now have an active , busy life , and am pursuing my interests, goals and hobbies, doing well at wo...
A. 19 November 2009: Oh dear, I am sorry to hear that. She's gone off her anti-depressants? Perhaps that accounts for her behavior.
First of all, you need to throw off that mantle of guilt you've acquired.
The following advice is what I think I would do in a situatio... (read in full...)
My life has changed for the better for ever but how can I now deal with my friend/ work colleague who I suspect is jealous?
Q. Hello all. I wonder if you might offer me some advice on how to cope / deal with a jealous freind/ work colleague? I recently changed my life, and now have an active , busy life , and am pursuing my interests, goals and hobbies, doing well at wo...
A. 13 November 2009: I had one more thought for you. When she starts pressing for details, you could say something along the lines of, "Oh, it's a bit rude to talk about oneself all the time, and I'm feeling as though that's all we talk about, me. Let's find other, more ... (read in full...)
My life has changed for the better for ever but how can I now deal with my friend/ work colleague who I suspect is jealous?
Q. Hello all. I wonder if you might offer me some advice on how to cope / deal with a jealous freind/ work colleague? I recently changed my life, and now have an active , busy life , and am pursuing my interests, goals and hobbies, doing well at wo...
A. 13 November 2009: That's a tough position to be in, I have some inkling of what you've managed to do with your life. I would say that you have to regard her as a friend with problems now, and treat her in that way.
I would smile at her a lot, not try to phys... (read in full...)
Am I unreasonable to ask to see his email.
Q. My spouse has in the recent past had an affair. He hides his income He tells me that it is none of my business. i have no access to, or knowledge of his income. He tells me that it is not my business who he knows or what he does, and that i just ...
A. 31 October 2009: When and why did you get married?... (read in full...)
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