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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Blood drops in my urine, what could this be?
Q. hi this morning i had blood drops in my urine after 3 to 4 drops the urine went clear this happened the whole day i went 8 to 10 time to urine each and every time what could be the reason.please help i am afraid.i havent masturbated for ...
A. 16 June 2010: Did you ever get this treated? This was six months ago, what did the doctor say about this?... (read in full...)
I want to ask a co worker on a date, but have been told its a bad idea
Q. For the last 2 years I have had this crush on this girl from my job and she has had a crush on me as well. Recently she ended her relationship with her long time boyfriend due to some ongoing problems. I really want to date her but I am being told ...
A. 10 December 2009: No, it's not wrong to want to keep some privacy from your best friend. He's not your spouse or a parent, you don't owe him every detail of your life. I'm sorry if his feelings are hurt, but he should be thinking of YOUR feelings, which are growing ... (read in full...)
I want to ask a co worker on a date, but have been told its a bad idea
Q. For the last 2 years I have had this crush on this girl from my job and she has had a crush on me as well. Recently she ended her relationship with her long time boyfriend due to some ongoing problems. I really want to date her but I am being told ...
A. 9 December 2009: No, you shouldn't have to make that decision. Tell him you appreciate his input but that you have done your apprenticeship long enough and are ready for the dating world.
What does this guy do that he's so controlling? I'm curious. And would he be c... (read in full...)
I want to ask a co worker on a date, but have been told its a bad idea
Q. For the last 2 years I have had this crush on this girl from my job and she has had a crush on me as well. Recently she ended her relationship with her long time boyfriend due to some ongoing problems. I really want to date her but I am being told ...
A. 9 December 2009: Why is this guy so invested in your love life? That seems awfully smothering to me. It's your decision, right? So why is he giving you a hard time? Have you picked badly in the past, and this guy is watching out for you?
Just being 'stuck up' does... (read in full...)
Masturbating in her sleep???
Q. Is it possible that my girlfriend just masturbates in her sleep? A few times now I have woken up to the my girlfriend moving her hand quickly under the covers over her vagina. She doesnt sleep fully naked. I have asked her if she was mastur...
A. 9 December 2009: It sounds like you're becoming a bit more self-aware. I expect the answer will become evident if you give it some time. And try not to take it personally, if it is what I suspect, that it is in her sleep.
If it were something she did while cons... (read in full...)
Masturbating in her sleep???
Q. Is it possible that my girlfriend just masturbates in her sleep? A few times now I have woken up to the my girlfriend moving her hand quickly under the covers over her vagina. She doesnt sleep fully naked. I have asked her if she was mastur...
A. 9 December 2009: I would be very surprised if she carried on masturbating knowingly after you asked her about it. If you can't take her word for it, then maybe you do have too deep a trust issue.
Or I could be completely wrong and she is waiting until she thin... (read in full...)
I want to ask a co worker on a date, but have been told its a bad idea
Q. For the last 2 years I have had this crush on this girl from my job and she has had a crush on me as well. Recently she ended her relationship with her long time boyfriend due to some ongoing problems. I really want to date her but I am being told ...
A. 8 December 2009: Is your friend willing to be wrong? I mean, would he be able to give her a chance? Or has he thrown up his walls and will not budge?
At any rate, this is all moot if she doesn't go out on a date with you.
I don't know how much interaction she and ... (read in full...)
Does my girlfriend love or hate me?
Q. umm .. i am a male aged 24 and i have just recently got my first girlfriend at age 23. my girlfriend lives in a forain country at this time. although i have not physically met her i still love her. i have many problams with anxiety and stress t...
A. 8 December 2009: Okay, the thing is that you don't really have a girlfriend here, you have a long distance penpal, if you two have never met. I'm sorry, but what you've got built there is a fantasy in your head. She doesn't respond to you in the same way because she ... (read in full...)
Masturbating in her sleep???
Q. Is it possible that my girlfriend just masturbates in her sleep? A few times now I have woken up to the my girlfriend moving her hand quickly under the covers over her vagina. She doesnt sleep fully naked. I have asked her if she was mastur...
A. 8 December 2009: That's odd, I don't recall ever telling a man he couldn't look at porn if he so chose. Did I sleep-write something?
I've woken up in the middle of having an orgasm; does that mean I've been masturbating? I have no earthly idea, as there was no one ... (read in full...)
What is causing my drug addiction?
Q. Hi! I'm a 23 years old, and very panicked at the moment. I'm addicted to drugs,mainly meth and crack. It started with smoking pot a lot when I was 13. I dropped out from school ,etc. My parents are nice people, they are not doing any drugs ,very ...
A. 8 December 2009: Here's the link for you, based on Ask oldersister's answer: http://portaltools.na.org/portaltools/MeetingLoc/
Good luck to you.... (read in full...)
Is birth control really necessary?
Q. Is birth control really necessary??? I mean hell i dont want to be a babies daddy just yet but i have condoms and we have been together for more than 2 years. I feel like she is just avoiding having sex.. no we havent had sex yet either...
A. 8 December 2009: Sorry if this seems sexist, but being a baby's daddy is whole lot easier than being a baby's mommy. We have the whole pregnancy thing, then there's nursing, then there's the tendency for baby daddies to leave most of the baby tending to the baby ... (read in full...)
How do I prevent these sounds?
Q. I dated this guy for 2 years and we just recently broke up, i had sex with this other guy and we did it doggy-style (my favorite).. everything was great during it but afterwards i queef.. and its really embarissing.. i dont queef durig it. is there ...
A. 8 December 2009: I think it's just what happens in that position. Seriously, why should you be embarrassed? It's his thrusts that are pushing the air into your vagina, so it's technically his fault.
Just find a way to joke about it, while you do the "happy baby... (read in full...)
What can I do for cramps besides pain meds and heating pads?
Q. What do I do for cramps besides taking pain medications and using a heat pad? My period comes tomorrow and I can already tell the cramps will be bad. Also I dont have time in between classes to change my tampon and most of my teachers dont let...
A. 8 December 2009: Start your pain meds NOW, don't wait until tomorrow. Get the heating pad on too. If you can exercise tonight, do it, if there's a treadmill or stairclimber or exercycle in your home or gym--exercise helps lessen the cramps.
As far as leaking, if t... (read in full...)
Who shall I ask to walk me down the aisle?
Q. Im getting married in christmas eve (my birthday) and not many of my family will be attending my dad died when i was 14 and me and some of my family arent really on speaking terms, who shall i ask to walk me down the aisle and will it be a happy day ...
A. 7 December 2009: I went to a great wedding once where the bride walked herself down the aisle. She was a grown woman, her parents had died, so she decided she would give herself away. It worked, from my perspective.
You could ask your mother, if your dad is dead... (read in full...)
Why does she act so weird around me?
Q. ok, Pretty straightforward. There's a girl in one of my classes and I really like her. Problem is, I'm gay and she has a boyfriend. That suprised me, I was dead certain she was gay. The way she walks, talks, sits, dresses, speaks, her non-...
A. 7 December 2009: I think you are making her uncomfortable. She's aware of your scrutiny and it sounds like she's keeping her distance because it bothers her. Does it really matter if she's bi or not? She has a boyfriend and she's shy and you might be making a ... (read in full...)
I've kicked him out after years of emotional abuse, his sleeping all day and watching porn all night. Now he wants to come back.
Q. my husband and i were married for 5 years. he never got his ged or drivers lic. i was injured and out of work for 6 years. since then i've returned to work and began college. he sleeps all day and watches porn all night. i kicked him out after ...
A. 7 December 2009: Think of it this way, you're finally giving him the reason to get on with his life. You can stop being his mother now, he's too old to be a juvenile delinquent, it's time he grew up.
Stay strong. This will be better for the both of you in the long... (read in full...)
Why do my friends always get attention instead of me?
Q. hi aunts x, at dinner time me and my friends hang out but my friends lets call them lisa and fran always! get attention from all our male friends and it makes me feel really left out, i mean ill try to get noticed like taking my jumper off an ...
A. 7 December 2009: What you're doing wrong is taking your jumper off and sticking your chest out thinking that is what is drawing people to your friends. The people you are trying to attract are probably looking at you thinking you have some sort of back problem, and ... (read in full...)
I have no trust in him, he's been flirting with girls on dating sites again.
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for 1 yr a couple of months at the beginning i found out the was on dating sites flirting with girls on the net and i asked him about it he said he wouldn't do it again and now i found out hes been doing it again what ...
A. 7 December 2009: What Emily said. He's had his second chance. boyfriend *poof!* gone.... (read in full...)
I want to ask a co worker on a date, but have been told its a bad idea
Q. For the last 2 years I have had this crush on this girl from my job and she has had a crush on me as well. Recently she ended her relationship with her long time boyfriend due to some ongoing problems. I really want to date her but I am being told ...
A. 7 December 2009: What didn't he like about her?... (read in full...)
I need some tips about sex and erections!
Q. so my girlfriend and i are planning to have sex christmas time. i'm worried about it though cuz lately i havent been getting my usualy 5 and a half erections that are strong, i keep getting like just 5 semi hard. she gets me semi hard by dry humping ...
A. 7 December 2009: You are waaaayyyyy too focused on your performance, and not enough on the expectation of a mutually pleasurable experience. You are not on a stage, you are not being graded by your erection firmness.
Here's something most men have trouble beli... (read in full...)
Is there anyway to get him to want a relationship?
Q. So i went out with this guy once when i was 14 and i have to admit he never left my mind sure, i dated other guys but never forgot about him. He was always there in the back of my mind. Now 17 me and him, having not seen eachother in a long time, ...
A. 7 December 2009: In my experience, when a guy says he doesn't want to be in a relationship, he doesn't want to be in a relationship. Believe him. Don't try to catch him, you'll only break your own heart. The guy is being honest, which is good, so why not believe ... (read in full...)
Two men, one me...
Q. My relationship has been rocky lately, so I met this guy whoms currently in a relationship, we talk on the phone alot, and we have met out alot, we even text each other through out the day, I love the attention that he shows me because my man use to ...
A. 7 December 2009: Why are you trying to fix your relationship by talking with another guy? That's only going to confuse the issue for you. And what do you mean, "do I say let me go" or "just change my number"? Is this other guy stalking you or have you trapped in ... (read in full...)
He's a Momma's boy. And Momma does NOT like me!
Q. I love my boyfriend to death. No one can doubt that. We've been through a lot, he's even saved me from wanting to take my own life. But theres one thing that bugs me about him. He's a Momma's Boy. And his Momma does NOT like me. I'm his first kiss ...
A. 7 December 2009: Instead of casting doubt on his mother, why not try to cultivate her admiration by being a superb person, girlfriend, friend and daughter? I'd also start talking about how much you admire her for..... well, whatever positive attributes you can find. ... (read in full...)
When did she conceive?
Q. My wife was given a gestation period of 6 weeks on the 10th august, when was it likely that she concieved?...
A. 7 December 2009: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gestational_age
It's too confusing for me to figure out; that's the best I can do. It's either from the first day of the woman's last menstrual period (LMP) or from 14 days before conception (fertilization).
I assume y... (read in full...)
Are his feelings when he's drunk his true feelings for me???
Q. ok so i dont know if this guy likes me or not. We are really close friends and when he is drunk he seriously tries it on with me... every time but sober he doesnt act the same way. he bearly talks to me sometimes. The only time we properly chat is ...
A. 6 December 2009: Alcohol lowers inhibitions, and messes with your judgement, so he may be 'trying it on' because he's lost his self-control. It may be that he likes you and only works up enough nerve to do anything about it when he's drunk.
Either way, you woul... (read in full...)
Should I recreate a scene from the "Twilight" book?
Q. When I was in the 6th grade, a school right next to mine was closed down, and some of the students there came to our school. One of these students was Lisa (fake-name). A friend of mine had a crush on Lisa's friend, so a group evolved. We saw each...
A. 6 December 2009: It doesn't really matter how romantic the setting is, if she doesn't like the boy, it won't be romantic to the girl. When I was about your age, I had a boy try to do a romantic kiss thing too, and I was sooooo turned off by it. I wasn't interested ... (read in full...)
He's gave me an STD and he's sleeping with a pregnant girl
Q. I'm 18 and i have recently been having sex with this guy who's 1 yr older than me and found out he gave me chlamydia when i confronted him about it he didn't really seem to be bothered (he knew he had it), worst thing is he was in a relationship ...
A. 6 December 2009: You did the right thing. Try to think of it this way, if you hadn't been tested and found to have chlamydia, this girl might never have known. So in a twisted, weird way, you have done her a favor. You may have prevented the baby being born with ... (read in full...)
The person I love is in an incestrous relationship... and I'm shocked!
Q. i am in love with a girl in my class we were friends since childhood, shes cute and smart and am totally over her so i wanted to confess to her but when i came to her house(we use to studying maths together) saw her making out savagely with her ...
A. 5 December 2009: It's a real pity that she is not the girl you thought she was, but I am happy that you have finally seen past your desire for her. I hope you can manage to cope with your disappointment. Now that your parents know too, they can help you get over ... (read in full...)
I laughed at the wrong moment, now my family are grumpy with me
Q. My family is mad at my fiance and I for laughing at a really inappropriate time and I just want to know if people on here think that they are over-reacting or if we really were being that bad. This might be hard to understand but I'll explain it ...
A. 5 December 2009: I can see the humor in this. The woman with the broken foot and the gash, can she see the humor? Not so much. If you want to keep some family harmony, you'll have to apologize. If you don't care much about what they think, then, by all means, ignore ... (read in full...)
I like him. Do what others think about his looks matter?
Q. Hi guys, I kind of like this boy and some of my friends are telling me that he is ugly but others think he is goodlooking. I am really confused what do you think? http://s934.photobucke...
A. 5 December 2009: How old are you? Are you really in your 20s? Your question sounds more like a young teenager.
You shouldn't date him. You're looking for validation from strangers and relying on your friends to tell you if he's dateable. Once you mature a bit, you ... (read in full...)
My wife cheated and left me twice, and I have a GF who is hurt because I'm still married... what should I do??
Q. Please I need help (tears). I'm shaking and crying writing this letter. Reader....Please take time to read this if you can. I have been married for 16 years. My wife is very controlling and is very jealous of me. A few years ago I was into modeling. ...
A. 5 December 2009: She wanted to leave again and I begged her back because I was scared to be alone.
Needless to say I begged her back again because I didn't want to be alone
I'm just scared to be alone and not have anyone (tears).
"I'm scared to be alone."
Tha... (read in full...)
Does anyone know the fastest way to get in shape?
Q. Does anyone know the fastest way to get in shape?please im desperate,my 25 anniversary is coming up ? I need to get in shape in just a couple months and was wondering if you had any diet and exercise ideas that are cheap and give results? please g...
A. 4 December 2009: First, see your doctor and tell him or her what you would like to do. They can give you some good tips, and can tell you if you are healthy enough for exercise.
Second, start walking. Everywhere. Buy one of those inexpensive pedometers and star... (read in full...)
I was planning to lose virginity to my b/f when my male friend kissed me
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost a year now and feel that we are ready to have sex. We are both virgins and believe that you should only have sex with someone you love. The date was set for last night. He tried to make it really ...
A. 4 December 2009: Frankly, it sounds like you're not emotionally ready for sex yet, as you don't appear to know your own heart in the relationship(s) you are juggling right now. I think it would be wise to wait until you are 100% certain you are with the right guy.
A... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants to have sex with other girls!
Q. Recently my boyfriend told me that he wants to experience having sex with other girls..quick info about us we've been dating for about 6 years now I was 15 he was 16 now (20 and 21) and we were each others first. I knew it would happen but didn't ...
A. 4 December 2009: It sounds like your relationship is heading for some changes now; things are not going to go back to normal from here on out. Even if he decides not to check out sex with other girls "officially", you are not going to trust him while he's gone.
I... (read in full...)
He's gave me an STD and he's sleeping with a pregnant girl
Q. I'm 18 and i have recently been having sex with this guy who's 1 yr older than me and found out he gave me chlamydia when i confronted him about it he didn't really seem to be bothered (he knew he had it), worst thing is he was in a relationship ...
A. 4 December 2009: You absolutely have to tell her. Not to do so could lead to severe consequences for her and the baby.
"....chlamydia may cause premature births (giving birth too early) and the infection can be passed along from the mother to her child during chil... (read in full...)
The night my boyfriend died I found out he had cheated on me, how do I get through this?
Q. My boyfriend died on November 15th, 2009. The night he died, I found out he had cheated on me and had lied to me about several things. How do I get through this? I dont know if I am more angry that he died and left me OR that he lied and cheated. ...
A. 4 December 2009: Woof, what a gut punch you've had. I'm sorry for your double loss.
I am not an expert in grief or grieving, keep that in mind, but I would suggest that you allow yourself to feel the full expression of your anger toward him. Be angry, stomp and scre... (read in full...)
My theory is that all men exaggerate, so most women have no idea what size penis they are having sex with.
Q. may seem like an odd post. My girlfriend keeps going on and on about how massive my penis is. but its not its average. its 6" long and 5.4" girth. She says it all the time and if she holds it in two hands she laughs and says god its massive. ...
A. 4 December 2009: I'm 99.4% sure that 95.6% of men would be unhappy if their lover told them this: "Oh, your penis is sooooooo average! And I should know, coz I've seen hundreds!" or "You're among the higher middle range of average lovers!"
We women pay atte... (read in full...)
My theory is that all men exaggerate, so most women have no idea what size penis they are having sex with.
Q. may seem like an odd post. My girlfriend keeps going on and on about how massive my penis is. but its not its average. its 6" long and 5.4" girth. She says it all the time and if she holds it in two hands she laughs and says god its massive. ...
A. 4 December 2009: I would expect she's been told men are very sensitive about the sizes of their penises and so is making sure you know that she finds it more than adequate. So if she's exaggerating a little, well, god love her, she's doing it because she cares about ... (read in full...)
I want to try a home cure, but am not sure about vinegar
Q. ok i have found out that i have a bladder infection from reading the sympthoms online and i was reading about home cures so it said to drink apple cider vinegar but we have white distilled and im wondering if it is the same thing can i just drink ...
A. 4 December 2009: Bladder infections that aren't properly treated may turn into kidney infctions. I think it is a very foolish person who self-diagnoses on the Internet, especially if this is the first time you've experienced this, and you may wind up much sicker ... (read in full...)
My doctor refuses to prescribe medication for my anxiety
Q. I've suffered from anxiety for like 2 years and my doctor continually refuses to put me on meds. I'm close to being denied my credits at school because of how many absences I've had from freaking out before I go in. I've tried everything to keep ...
A. 4 December 2009: What have you tried? Have you tried yoga yet? There are some great breathing techniques and the meditation aspects of it can be very effective in battling anxiety.
My sister is recovering from treatment for breast cancer and had really debi... (read in full...)
It's been a year but I still miss my ex
Q. My girlfriend and I broke up almost a year ago, we fought a lot, it was a bad break up. To this day I still miss her, I think about her all the time and I constantly think I see her when I'm out. What does this mean? I hated our relationship yet she ...
A. 4 December 2009: You might look upon the relationship like an ex-smoker might look at cigarettes or a recovering alcoholic looks at booze: there was a relationship there, but it was unhealthy and a bad idea.
There was a pretty decent article a while ago on reco... (read in full...)
My mother has banned my boyfriend from visiting because we don't use birth control
Q. Ok so I have been dating my bf for 3 yrs now, since we were both 16. When my mom seen our relationship was getting serious she took me to get birth control pills. The first 2 months I was on them I got really sick and my doctor said I need lower do...
A. 4 December 2009: It sounds like it's time for you to find a place to live. There are other forms of birth control that are not hormonal--not using any is just asking to be called mom. I guess your mother doesn't particularly want to have a grandchild living with her ... (read in full...)
Some insight on rough sex during pregnancy please
Q. Hi and thanks all that reply back to me :) Well I was just wondering what everyones opinion on rough sex is... I'm currently three months pregnant and very time I have sex with my boyfriend I'm sore afterward. Today one of the lips of my vagina i...
A. 4 December 2009: What did your OB/GYN advise you?... (read in full...)
We're back together again but now her family hates me!
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for a little over 3 years now. 8 months ago I cheated on her with an ex girlfriend through a one night stand. She was hurt so in return she cheated on me with a friend. We chose to forgive each other and move ...
A. 4 December 2009: So alcohol has led to two huge mistakes in your life, any others? Where your judgement is so off that you do stupid things, perhaps driving?
Rhythmandblues is correct, hitting the wall or throwing something IS a form of physical intimidation, whet... (read in full...)
The thought of what my girlfriend does in her sleep keeps me awake
Q. For some reason this is really bothering me. I woke up the other night sleeping next to my girlfriend and i thought she was masturbating. Now i dont know for certain but the reasons i thought this were because the covers were slightly moving,...
A. 3 December 2009: She just may not feel comfortable revealing that private side of herself to you just yet.
And getting back to your original question, why if you don't masturbate would you suddenly have the urge to do it? I go back to my original answer. Some wome... (read in full...)
Blood drops in my urine, what could this be?
Q. hi this morning i had blood drops in my urine after 3 to 4 drops the urine went clear this happened the whole day i went 8 to 10 time to urine each and every time what could be the reason.please help i am afraid.i havent masturbated for ...
A. 3 December 2009: Here's a partial list of what it could be from the webmd.com symptom checker tool: hemophilia, urinary tract infection, kidney infection, bladder cancer, hydronephrosis, polycystic kidney disease, bladder stones, chlamydia, interstitial cystitis, ... (read in full...)
Blood drops in my urine, what could this be?
Q. hi this morning i had blood drops in my urine after 3 to 4 drops the urine went clear this happened the whole day i went 8 to 10 time to urine each and every time what could be the reason.please help i am afraid.i havent masturbated for ...
A. 3 December 2009: I completely second what marriedlady said. This is one of those symptoms that should NEVER be ignored. Your life is too important to waste on being embarassed to go to the doctor. Don't mess around with this--THIS IS SERIOUS!!!!
CALL THE DOCTOR TODA... (read in full...)
Blood drops in my urine, what could this be?
Q. hi this morning i had blood drops in my urine after 3 to 4 drops the urine went clear this happened the whole day i went 8 to 10 time to urine each and every time what could be the reason.please help i am afraid.i havent masturbated for ...
A. 3 December 2009: My dad had blood in his urine and it turned out to be bladder cancer. Blood in your urine is not normal and should be checked out ASAP. His particular kind of bladder cancer at the time had about a 10 year survival rate of 30 percent. Thank goodness ... (read in full...)
The person I love is in an incestrous relationship... and I'm shocked!
Q. i am in love with a girl in my class we were friends since childhood, shes cute and smart and am totally over her so i wanted to confess to her but when i came to her house(we use to studying maths together) saw her making out savagely with her ...
A. 2 December 2009: I would keep a distance between you for now. You are too emotional about this.... (read in full...)
The thought of what my girlfriend does in her sleep keeps me awake
Q. For some reason this is really bothering me. I woke up the other night sleeping next to my girlfriend and i thought she was masturbating. Now i dont know for certain but the reasons i thought this were because the covers were slightly moving,...
A. 2 December 2009: Two things, let's divide them. First, whatever she's doing when she's asleep is simply moving, and has nothing whatsoever to do with you. Should she get upset if you have a wet dream? Don't be childish about this.
Second, masturbation is by defi... (read in full...)
The person I love is in an incestrous relationship... and I'm shocked!
Q. i am in love with a girl in my class we were friends since childhood, shes cute and smart and am totally over her so i wanted to confess to her but when i came to her house(we use to studying maths together) saw her making out savagely with her ...
A. 2 December 2009: You should not put yourself in the middle of this. It is a bad idea. You are trying to fix something that you know nothing about and it will backfire on you. Leave it be.... (read in full...)
The person I love is in an incestrous relationship... and I'm shocked!
Q. i am in love with a girl in my class we were friends since childhood, shes cute and smart and am totally over her so i wanted to confess to her but when i came to her house(we use to studying maths together) saw her making out savagely with her ...
A. 1 December 2009: I think you need to recognize that this girl has some issues if she is involved romantically with her brother. She may not love you when this ends, if it ever does. She certainly won't thank you for beating up her brother or breaking their bond. ... (read in full...)
The person I love is in an incestrous relationship... and I'm shocked!
Q. i am in love with a girl in my class we were friends since childhood, shes cute and smart and am totally over her so i wanted to confess to her but when i came to her house(we use to studying maths together) saw her making out savagely with her ...
A. 1 December 2009: Stay far far away from this one; you do NOT want to get in the middle of this family situation. You sound very emotional about this, but honestly, this is none of your business, what she does with whom is not your concern.
I don't like that she'... (read in full...)
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