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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Am I sick for doing what I'm doing?
Q. My friends and me were goofing around one day near some trees in a backyard. We noticed a hole in a bend of the tree trunk and joked how it looked like a butt hole. My friend put his finger in the hole and said it felt gooey. We all did and it f...
A. 9 February 2010: The thing is, your semen is comprised of stuff that will be attractive to insects and flies and other critters. I remember Georgia having some really big beetles called palmetto bugs. So eventually, at twice a day, that tree will have enough gunk in ... (read in full...)
Am I sick for doing what I'm doing?
Q. My friends and me were goofing around one day near some trees in a backyard. We noticed a hole in a bend of the tree trunk and joked how it looked like a butt hole. My friend put his finger in the hole and said it felt gooey. We all did and it f...
A. 9 February 2010: You said you 'cannot seem to stop'. Are we reaching obsessional status with this tree? Is it this particular tree? Or is it that you have discovered the joys of masturbation?... (read in full...)
I found condoms in his jacket but they're NOT ours!!!
Q. So me and my boyfriend been together for 3 year we have a real rocky past but for the last 4 months I feel like we have really connected. Until I found condoms in is jackets. They're not ours so I confronted him about it and he gave me stupid ...
A. 8 February 2010: What are you afraid of?... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant when you have a period?
Q. hii, i know most people call it dirty, but can you get pregnant if your on your period?,...
A. 8 February 2010: I love this video, it's a bit goofy but it gives good information:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0lTYVMgNnrU
It's unlikely, but possible, to get pregnant as you describe. The sperm can live inside you for many days. Play it safe.... (read in full...)
When it comes to nudity and porn my boyfriend has double standards
Q. I think my boyfriend has double stanards. He likes watching porn and even though he's not addicted, he'll defend his porn use until he dies! Well, I don't like him looking at other women. I don't like thinking he gets pleasure from others. I know ...
A. 8 February 2010: Your boyfriend is a controlling person. He wants to control your behavior and police your thoughts, while feeling free to do whatever he likes. The thing that caught my eye was that he gets angry with you if someone else looks at you. Like you said, ... (read in full...)
I love him to pieces, but he treats me like I'm worthless...
Q. Hi guys, I hope you can give me some insight on how to deal with this. I absolutely adore my boyfriend to pieces, but he's stopped making me feel good. we used to be SO close it was sickening. A year later and hes just... blah! He doesn't ...
A. 8 February 2010: This lazy, ungrateful, selfish, distant, uncommunicative slob is everything you want? Really?
He is what he is. You won't be able to change him, as it seems pretty clear he doesn't care much what you think of him. Take him as he is, or leave. I know... (read in full...)
I'm fine when I'm alone but seeing my ex and his new girlfriend on facebook is killing me!
Q. Ok so i have a problem, im totally happy until i hear about my ex doing something or read it on facebook. His mom and I are friends on facebook and today she posted that the family and she even mentioned his new girlfriends name were going sledd...
A. 8 February 2010: Sorry you're still struggling to cope after the break up. You are spending a lot of time working out his motivations and feelings and I think you are putting too much of your self-worth into this now. People do move on after breakups and I think ... (read in full...)
How do I know if the sex was good or not?
Q. So I had sex with this guy last night. It was totally a one night stand and I'm not expecting anything out of it. I was just wondering, how do i know if he liked it or if I was bad? I wasn't laying there like a dead fish and when i gave him head he ...
A. 8 February 2010: The basic problem is that you don't know this guy well enough to understand him. Short of asking him directly, I don't see any way to read his mind.
Is it that you want to know if you're good in bed in general, or were you hoping for more with him,... (read in full...)
I'm in love with her but she doesn't see me that way, what do I do?
Q. theres this girl at my school who im friends with and also who i love. last weekend i final worked up the courage to ask if she had a boy friend and if she wanted one. she answered no she doesnt have a boyfriend and she doesnt really want one. ...
A. 8 February 2010: You got way out ahead of yourself there. You ask her on a date first, before asking if she wants a boyfriend. How would she know if she'd like you as a boyfriend? That's a pretty big step, and you hadn't proven yourself to be a good date yet.
Y... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has an anger problem and I'm worried about my unborn child
Q. im pregnant and worried about by boyfriends anger. been to the doctor as he has hit me in the stomach and i am worried bout hurting my baby. my friends say i should leave him! i don't know what to do. please help ...
A. 7 February 2010: So let's do the math, 50 to 100 times a year, he goes off his head?
How many times does it take for him to potentially harm you or your baby?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has an anger problem and I'm worried about my unborn child
Q. im pregnant and worried about by boyfriends anger. been to the doctor as he has hit me in the stomach and i am worried bout hurting my baby. my friends say i should leave him! i don't know what to do. please help ...
A. 7 February 2010: So whenever he drinks he goes out of his head. So he is very likely to do something very bad while drunk, hurt you or the baby or worse, and it would be explained away, "oh, he was drunk." Is that okay with you? I don't think so, because you wrote ... (read in full...)
Am I sick for doing what I'm doing?
Q. My friends and me were goofing around one day near some trees in a backyard. We noticed a hole in a bend of the tree trunk and joked how it looked like a butt hole. My friend put his finger in the hole and said it felt gooey. We all did and it f...
A. 6 February 2010: This is definitely in the manual, miamine and it is a memorable entry!
Poster, you see the issue with what you've written. You are going to get no end of grief when you get found out, and believe me, someone is going to spot this. It may wind up a... (read in full...)
My sister physically attacked me when I am 7 months pregnant!
Q. Im 7 months pregnant I still live at home with my parents and sister and lastnight I had a row with my sister and she physically attacked me. My parents are standing up for my sister saying that ' I shouldnt hide behind my pregnancy as a way of ...
A. 6 February 2010: Why can't you stay with friends? It would only be for 3 weeks, right? That doesn't seem like very long. If a friend of mine was in distress, I would help her out for that time.
Obviously your family history is very troubled and this one inci... (read in full...)
The last thing I want is babies but that's all he wants!
Q. Hi, Im 27 and been with my boyfriend for 5 years now. About 2 years ago the topic of children has come up and i am 110% sure i never want to have them-i dont like children and i made it very clear to him. He however wants children and being the on...
A. 6 February 2010: Hey, I'm past the age of child-bearing now, and I am not sorry that we don't have children. Parenthood isn't for everyone, and if you are clear that you don't want children, then you shouldn't put yourself in a position where you will be fending off ... (read in full...)
I have a FWB relationship with my best friend, but I want more
Q. I'm in a FWB relationship. Now let me be honest, it isn't a casual acquaintance, he's my very best friend and we hang out almost daily, call to say goodnight, share a bed etc even when we are not having sex. Recently I've been thinking that un...
A. 6 February 2010: "Hey, you're a great friend and I really care about you. I'm ending the 'with benefits' part of our relationship because I realize now that I'm not going to be able to keep my feelings out of it. I know you'll understand because you're a great guy. ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and we want to have a baby
Q. People are telling me i'm Crazy ! Im 15 and planning to have a baby ? My boyfriend and i been together for about 1 year and Two Months. He tells me he Loves me and he will never Leave me.We been having intercourse since we meet. Now we both want to ...
A. 6 February 2010: Did you read my question to you? On this other thread you started? http://www.dearcupid.org/question/15-with-a-planned-pregnancy.html
I don't think you have really thought this all the way through. My suggestion is that you get a puppy first, for ... (read in full...)
I don't like my father's inappropriate behaviour! Should I be worried?
Q. I think my father is acting really weird. I've never been too close to him and whenever he wanted to kiss or hug me like my mother does, i silently rejected him because I didn't like it. That made him angry and we started to argue about unimportant ...
A. 6 February 2010: It sounds as though your dad isn't trying to abuse you, and it's good that you as a family have had a talk about it. I agree with Angzw's assessment that he is probably trying to feel close to you, but it is making you uncomfortable.
My dad and I hu... (read in full...)
He fancies me, he fancies me not ...........
Q. Well, this is quite a simple question. All i need to know is this. Does this man fancy me. I've been looking at this from every single angle i can think of, and i come back to yes, he does. But the thing is. He is not like some men. The story is t...
A. 6 February 2010: You say you've never fancied him. But now you think you might? Because he showed you this advert or because you've taken another look and have re-evaluated his potential as a date for you? He could have some sort of social problem where he can't ... (read in full...)
Am I sick for doing what I'm doing?
Q. My friends and me were goofing around one day near some trees in a backyard. We noticed a hole in a bend of the tree trunk and joked how it looked like a butt hole. My friend put his finger in the hole and said it felt gooey. We all did and it f...
A. 6 February 2010: It was a mistreemeanor, not a felmony.... (read in full...)
15 with a planned pregnancy!
Q. Im 15 and Pregent , Me and my boyfriend started haveing sex unprotected for about 2 month but i never i got pregent , Until One day we Both decided to Plan on haveing a Baby. Three weeks ago after he cummed inside of me . I took Three pregencey test ...
A. 6 February 2010: I think you are jealous of your brother and his baby and that you are trying to recapture your mother's attention. I also think it's a sign that you're not ready to be a mother, if you don't know how to talk to your own mother.
What does the word... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has an anger problem and I'm worried about my unborn child
Q. im pregnant and worried about by boyfriends anger. been to the doctor as he has hit me in the stomach and i am worried bout hurting my baby. my friends say i should leave him! i don't know what to do. please help ...
A. 6 February 2010: I'm still waiting for an answer...... (read in full...)
Am I sick for doing what I'm doing?
Q. My friends and me were goofing around one day near some trees in a backyard. We noticed a hole in a bend of the tree trunk and joked how it looked like a butt hole. My friend put his finger in the hole and said it felt gooey. We all did and it f...
A. 6 February 2010: If you can't stop, well, yeah, you might be sick.
What's in charge of your life, your brain, or your penis? Think about it. If you answer wrong, you might be sentenced to answering questions here at DearCupid for the next five to ten years.... (read in full...)
I am hurting so bad and all he shows is anger
Q. About a month ago I posted a question about trying to fix my relationship. I was having a hard time fixing it by myself and he was putting forth no effort and I left him (changed my number, blocked him from internet communications). He would show up ...
A. 6 February 2010: This man is a crybaby, an idiot or a liar. Perhaps all three. Honestly, you are wasting time trying to analyze him. He sincerely is not worth your effort.
Your feelings may be real and sincere, but he's a mess. I would worry for you that you spen... (read in full...)
He said we'd grown apart, but I can't move on! Can I get him back?
Q. (I'm a 22y/o, male) I split up with my boyfriend (20y/o) three weeks ago, we'd been apart for a few months because of his university but made the effort to see each other often. He said we'd grown apart and he didn't want to be in a long term ...
A. 6 February 2010: It can happen, that people get back with their exes.
Let's look at this from the practical sense, he said you'd grown apart and you said you had little else other than this relationship. This tells me that basically you were expecting him to be y... (read in full...)
I don't like my father's inappropriate behaviour! Should I be worried?
Q. I think my father is acting really weird. I've never been too close to him and whenever he wanted to kiss or hug me like my mother does, i silently rejected him because I didn't like it. That made him angry and we started to argue about unimportant ...
A. 6 February 2010: What does your mother say about this? Is she aware of your distrust of his motives?... (read in full...)
The girl I love thinks I am a cheat!
Q. Hi, i am 23 age boy who have a complicated life with my girl. anyone have idea please please tell me. I saw a girl who's looking good, homely character and i fall in love with her. She is the girl who is friend of my girl friend. And actually i s...
A. 5 February 2010: There is a large cultural difference in the way you and your friends get to know a girl, fall in love and marry her than the way we do here, so keep in mind my advice might not be particularly helpful.
Why is it that you are in love with Angel? How ... (read in full...)
Do I break up with her before or after valentines day?
Q. After much difficult deliberation, I think it is time I break up with my girlfriend. Or, at the very least, have a much needed "state of the union" conversation that will quite likely end in our breaking up. We've been living together for alm...
A. 5 February 2010: I think it's best to get it over with as soon as you can. Your heart won't be in any Valentine's day festivities and she's going to know something's wrong anyway. I don't see any reason to wait. The timing might be better, but then Valentine's is ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has an anger problem and I'm worried about my unborn child
Q. im pregnant and worried about by boyfriends anger. been to the doctor as he has hit me in the stomach and i am worried bout hurting my baby. my friends say i should leave him! i don't know what to do. please help ...
A. 5 February 2010: How often is he drunk?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has an anger problem and I'm worried about my unborn child
Q. im pregnant and worried about by boyfriends anger. been to the doctor as he has hit me in the stomach and i am worried bout hurting my baby. my friends say i should leave him! i don't know what to do. please help ...
A. 5 February 2010: Hi, I think you should talk to people who are experienced in helping people in your situation. You are feeling threatened and scared by this man and I think you should contact this organization right now, at this number: Womens Aid-The premier ... (read in full...)
He lied to get me into bed, & now I am constantly reminded of this
Q. i am struglling very hard to get over a bad relationship. I slept with a guy who has a gf becuase he fed me promises of us being together but he never left her but still he was contacting me.I have tried really hard to distance myself from him but ...
A. 5 February 2010: Okay, I'm not judging you here, I'm wondering if you have created some of this drama yourself because you are subconsciously trying to distract yourself from another stressor. I'm guessing that school is challenging you now? How have you been doing ... (read in full...)
My relationship seems a little one sided...
Q. I have been dating my girlfriend for about a year and a half now, things have been going great for the most part. I love her a lot, she loves me, but I feel like she doesn't always take mine or my family's feelings into consideration. We rarely...
A. 5 February 2010: "Sweeheart, there's something I want to discuss with you and I hope we can work on this together. Sometimes when I want to discuss problems with the family, I feel that you seem to shut me out and refuse to discuss it. It's frustrating me to feel ... (read in full...)
Should I try and start a relationship with him despite the age difference making it illegal?
Q. This is something I really need help with. I'm only 15 and I'm very interested in a 21 year old. Yes, I completely understand it's illegal but do laws bury my feelings for someone? No. We've yet to begin a relationship but we've already had sex. Now ...
A. 5 February 2010: Oh dear. You want him so badly that you have already missed his first lie. You haven't begun a relationship yet you've had sex, and he's told you that it's because you need to get to know each other better? Oh dear, you have already fallen for a ... (read in full...)
I have been diagnosed and prescibed medication for mental illness but am concerned about side effects
Q. i have been living with depression for 10 years it is the point where my daily funcioning is almost non existent no memory, concentration, i cant even make a decision and everything is big deal to me i am paranoid about people and analize every ...
A. 5 February 2010: I am always struck at how quickly people will say "don't take those pills!" when it comes to mental health, but wouldn't DREAM of telling a diabetic not to take her insulin or someone with high blood pressure not to take his pills. There's a stigma ... (read in full...)
I waited 3 months for a dinner reservation in a top restaurant and my bf has just cancelled out. Is it ok to take another man to not miss out on the dining experience?
Q. A while back I booked a table at the supposedly best restaurant in the UK and it took me 3 months and a cancellation to get in. My b/f has known about it for weeks and how excited I am about it. Today he texts me to say that the mother of his child ...
A. 3 February 2010: Were you expecting your boyfriend to pay for the meal? And are you expecting that this other gentleman will pay for you?
I'd say you would be acting a bit petty if you go to this restaurant with a man who keeps asking you out: you'll be lead... (read in full...)
Are we damaging my cervix?
Q. Is it dangerous if my partner repeatedly hits my cervix during intercourse? its uncomfortable and sometimes painful, but the good makes up for the bad. i'm just worrying that we are doing some damage. i don't bleed and it only aches a little bit ...
A. 3 February 2010: Let's think your question through here. You have asked non-medical people if you are doing some sort of injury to your cervix. Suppose we say, 'no, no, you're just fine' because we don't know any better. Let's say you keep doing what you're doing, ... (read in full...)
Am I just their cook and cleaner?
Q. I have been with this man for three years taking care of his teenage son, cooking, cleaning, helping feed and so on, with the understanding when he turned eighteen this man and i would be alone. now i find he's going to be underfoot till who knows ...
A. 2 February 2010: What does "this man" say about the situation? You certainly sound angry and upset and fed up; have you communicated that to both of them?
Perhaps it's time for a house meeting, discuss the cleaning/cooking/bills situation with everyone who live... (read in full...)
Would a man forego the SuperBowl for a first date with an attractive, successful woman?
Q. I met a man that is very charming. He lives out of town. He seems to say all the right things. He claims he had tickets to the SuperBowl in Miami this weekend but would rather come out and visit me and will cancel his plans. My questions is to the ...
A. 2 February 2010: I'm sure you are wonderful and smashing and he wants to spend time with you. But the Super Bowl? To have tickets to the Super Bowl and not go? Wow.
It sounds to me as though you are a bit dubious about his truthfulness and suspect that he may just... (read in full...)
Married and bi. I want my wife to watch me have m2m relations, how can I convince her?
Q. Hey hi im a married male and im bi and i want her to watch me have sex with anouther guy but she says no any ideas how to get her to say yes or should i keep just having m2m sex behind her back?...
A. 30 January 2010: When you married her, did you promise that you would only have sex with her?... (read in full...)
We have unprotected sex a lot, but I don't fall pregnant
Q. I'm 18 years old and my boyfriend and I have sex a lot and he doesn't pull out. He never does. But I still don't get pregnant. and I don't take birth control or anything. Is this something I should worry about?...
A. 28 January 2010: It's possible you have an infection with no symptoms and that has caused you to be infertile. I think the best person to ask this question is your gynecologist when you are being examined. You should tell the doctor the bit about unprotected sex for ... (read in full...)
Is my husband secretly gay or bi?
Q. Is My Husband Secretly Gay? He watches gay man on man porn only? He watches gay mini-series and soaps like Jon Paul and Craig and Craig Dean? He fully admits to loathing having sex with me, and sometimes we go months without sex because s...
A. 19 January 2010: He might be living a lie, but that doesn't mean you have to. If this marriage isn't working on this most fundamental level--he wants a 'friends' relationship with you?--then it's not really a marriage, is it?
I think you already know the answer to t... (read in full...)
How should I tell him I want to move back home?
Q. So after a long few weeks of thought and depression, I have come to the decision that after have moving 1,000 miles to be with my long distance boyfriend I want to move back home. Only problem is that I am horribly conflicted. I am still completely ...
A. 19 January 2010: I'm sorry for the situation you find yourself in; it sounds very sad and unhappy. It's certainly lopsided, if you give in and make all the sacrifices all the time.
I would be astonished if he wasn't aware that you are unhappy. So when you tell him ... (read in full...)
Everything was good, how did it go wrong?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for a couple of months and we have the same likes in almost everything we like the same football team, we are both compatable in sex we like the same music and even the same candy if i wasent wrong i thought we are ...
A. 17 January 2010: He found out you weren't the perfect woman, that you were willing to cheat. This will have damaged his trust in you, as many people believe that once you cheat, you will always be a cheater. This isn't necessarily so, but it may be what he believes. ... (read in full...)
How can I strike up a decent conversation with my teacher who I adore?
Q. Ok I havent written on here before and I have tried a few times but every time I write something it doesnt sound right so I never publish anything. Basically, I think I am in love with my teacher and have been for a few years. I will not go into det...
A. 17 January 2010: A while back, an uncle on here advised a guy who was really shy but wanted to get to know a girl better to go talk to everyone he met. Like the cashier at the store, the driver on the bus, just basically treat everyone he met as though he needed to ... (read in full...)
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added them and they have added *isha-1!
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