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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Does no sex = no relationship?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together 10 years. She is 47, I am 36. When we first met (as is usual) we had sex frequently. Within a year of my moving in, sex became less frequent and slightly painful for her. She went to her doctor and I was...
A. 14 June 2010: I think you've made the right decision for yourself, and honestly, for her. You couldn't have continued the way you were as the resentment and unhappiness would have continued to build on your side.
It's unfortunate that she will never know the joys... (read in full...)
My boyfriend went out with this girl, and said it wasn't a date, but it sure sounds like a date!
Q. So uhm, I had recently broken up with my bf because i was having this strange feeling that he was flirting with his crush, who, by the way, is less pretty, smart, talented and appealing than i am. So i would get really mad whenever id think about ...
A. 22 April 2010: Good for you. Well done. First step. Now you get to grieve the end of the relationship which might not be too much fun, but at least you'll be moving forward. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Had sex with a co-worker, should I tell my fiance
Q. My fiance has been in jail going on three months now, his date to be released is May 28th. I love this man with all my heart and soul. We have been through so much with his probation officer and his time. I was able to see him twice a week and talk ...
A. 22 April 2010: Thank you for letting us know. As you seem to have resolved the issue and are finding further answers unhelpful, this question is being closed. Poster, PM me if you would like that to be changed. Good luck to you in the future.... (read in full...)
Had sex with a co-worker, should I tell my fiance
Q. My fiance has been in jail going on three months now, his date to be released is May 28th. I love this man with all my heart and soul. We have been through so much with his probation officer and his time. I was able to see him twice a week and talk ...
A. 22 April 2010: Actually, we do need to know more about him. Is he mentally stable? Why is it that he re-offended? Why did he get caught?
I applaud you for your loyalty to him. But are you throwing pearls before swine, as the saying goes?
You seem to be able to ... (read in full...)
Had sex with a co-worker, should I tell my fiance
Q. My fiance has been in jail going on three months now, his date to be released is May 28th. I love this man with all my heart and soul. We have been through so much with his probation officer and his time. I was able to see him twice a week and talk ...
A. 22 April 2010: Q spotted the question in my answer, which was "can he handle the truth?" We don't know him. You do. So you have to tell us about him. You didn't answer my question. Do you feel able to talk about your feelings with this man?... (read in full...)
Teacher avoiding me like the plague
Q. ...Okay im confused. Suddenly one of my teachers that i talked to all day almost each day is avoiding me like the plague...I know it, its obvious. He wouldnt talk to me anymore. He just nodded to me and hurry and walk away, when I called his name. ...
A. 22 April 2010: Another possibility is that he's had some bad personal news. Someone close to him may be very ill; he may have some bad medical news himself. Someone he cares for may have died. There are all kinds of personal tragedies and situations that could ... (read in full...)
Teacher avoiding me like the plague
Q. ...Okay im confused. Suddenly one of my teachers that i talked to all day almost each day is avoiding me like the plague...I know it, its obvious. He wouldnt talk to me anymore. He just nodded to me and hurry and walk away, when I called his name. ...
A. 22 April 2010: Perhaps he's been told his job is on the line. His career, his livelihood, all about to go away. He'll have to go find a new job, probably not in teaching and he's probably still paying his student loans back.
This guy is in a no-win situation with... (read in full...)
Had sex with a co-worker, should I tell my fiance
Q. My fiance has been in jail going on three months now, his date to be released is May 28th. I love this man with all my heart and soul. We have been through so much with his probation officer and his time. I was able to see him twice a week and talk ...
A. 22 April 2010: You were angry at your boyfriend for his third violation of a non-aggressive but sexual offense. He gave in to his desires and lust. So I think you have a reasonable defense, you gave in to your desires and anger. He should be able to understand ... (read in full...)
How do I achieve a sexy, flawless body, minus the fake boobs?
Q. Okay I know this is weird to ask, But I want advice on something pretty wild. Okay, I've noticed that in movies,adult, magazine,etc. That women have some beautiful bodies, I want to know how to come about it. Not the working out or big breas...
A. 22 April 2010: I think they do a lot of body makeup and careful lighting. For a very funny take on this, read this blog:
http://www.cracked.com/article_18392_6-reasons-homemade-porn-worse-idea-than-you-think.html
After you stop laughing, you'll realize that por... (read in full...)
He's trying to talk me into a threesome
Q. I need some advice on something girls an guys... me an my boyfriend been together for 3 years we have a 8 month old baby together and he has been asking me to have a 3 some with another girl! I don't what to do I feel it can ruin our relationship ...
A. 22 April 2010: Hi there, didn't you ask this question too? http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-just-want-to-spice-things-up.html
I think you need some help in communicating with each other. A relationship counselor should be your next call, especially if you are ... (read in full...)
I just want to spice things up
Q. I been wanting to spice my relationship up with my boyfriend. I bought a couple of lingerie outfits but everytime I say I want to get dressed up for you he just says WHY ... I ask what man wouldn't want that he just says he dosent so how do I get ...
A. 22 April 2010: Is this why you're trying to spice things up? Because he wants a threesome?
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/hes-trying-to-talk-me-into-a-threesome.html
Sounds like you two need to do some honest communicating. Perhaps a relationship counselo... (read in full...)
Is it the right thing to do to warn a partner we might not look so great when naked?
Q. I think as we get older, we become a bit less selfish. But even though that is a good thing, it is a shame that we start to put on a bit of weight. Then when we strip naked before having sex, we have to warn the other person that we might not look ...
A. 21 April 2010: To our poster, Bruce Lee, I am glad to hear that you weren't referring to her. I see that you have a sense of humor and I hope it's clear that I am not making fun of you, that I am enjoying sharing a joke with you?
I wanted to be absolutely clea... (read in full...)
Is it the right thing to do to warn a partner we might not look so great when naked?
Q. I think as we get older, we become a bit less selfish. But even though that is a good thing, it is a shame that we start to put on a bit of weight. Then when we strip naked before having sex, we have to warn the other person that we might not look ...
A. 21 April 2010: EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEENNNNNGGGGGK. bzzzzzzzzzzz
No, I'm sorry, that answer is incorrect! We have deducted one hundred acts of sexual intercourse from your future life.
Thank you for playing.
Next?... (read in full...)
Is it the right thing to do to warn a partner we might not look so great when naked?
Q. I think as we get older, we become a bit less selfish. But even though that is a good thing, it is a shame that we start to put on a bit of weight. Then when we strip naked before having sex, we have to warn the other person that we might not look ...
A. 21 April 2010: Do NOT, under ANY circumstances, EVER EVER tell a woman she could stand to lose some weight, if you want to have sex with her. Write that one down.
And remember that the truth is powerful stuff and should be used sparingly. Too much of it can kill... (read in full...)
Why do guys always stare at me?
Q. Everywhere I go, guys always stare at me, or beep their car horns, or try and chat me up and wolf whistle at me. I can't even walk my dog or go get a pint of milk from the corner shop without getting oggled. I dress appropriately, for example...
A. 21 April 2010: That used to happen to me all the time. Now, not so much. :(
You can develop an ice queen persona if you choose to, that might help in deflecting unwanted attention.
The last time I had that kind of ogling and attention, turns out I had tucked t... (read in full...)
Girlfriend has stopped giving oral...
Q. Hi Ive been with my girlfriend 2 years now, things are good and we are planning to move in together in the next few weeks. In the bedroom though i have a real issue, oral. At the start, she gave oral regularly (2 or 3 times a week) and sa...
A. 21 April 2010: I was exaggerating about the head-pushing and hair pulling to make a point; I should have been clearer about that. Giving a blowjob is a very vulnerable position to be in, and if she's feeling at all like she's being used, she's going to balk at ... (read in full...)
Is it the right thing to do to warn a partner we might not look so great when naked?
Q. I think as we get older, we become a bit less selfish. But even though that is a good thing, it is a shame that we start to put on a bit of weight. Then when we strip naked before having sex, we have to warn the other person that we might not look ...
A. 21 April 2010: In these situations, think positive. Don't draw attention to the negatives, because if you do, that's what will be focused on.
"I feel great. You feel great. Isn't this nice?" rather than "I know I'm fat, I hate being fat, I hate my body right now.... (read in full...)
She said I was telling her "I love you" too much, I was too obsessed and too soft! What does this mean?
Q. Dear readers, i’m wih my gf practecly 11 months.And last 2 weeks it’s been a bit difficult, we’ve been arguing each day for nothing.I’ve tried to give her space it worked for a couple of days, bu tthen it began again.her motives were too much ...
A. 21 April 2010: I take it to mean that you were too smothering of her, you were like a great big lump, begging for reassurance and love over and over again. That is tiring, not sexy and makes you look like a great big needy child.
She wants you to have some inde... (read in full...)
How do I deal with her inconsiderate smoking?
Q. Hi everyone. My girlfriend arrived three days ago, and she is irritating the hell out of me. I'm highly allergic to cigarette smoke, and she insists on smoking on my apartment. Everything in here smells like smoke, and I'm now having a hard time ...
A. 21 April 2010: What did she say when you told her you are allergic to smoke and dislike the smell intensely?... (read in full...)
Girlfriend has stopped giving oral...
Q. Hi Ive been with my girlfriend 2 years now, things are good and we are planning to move in together in the next few weeks. In the bedroom though i have a real issue, oral. At the start, she gave oral regularly (2 or 3 times a week) and sa...
A. 21 April 2010: Great answer by rambini; I just want to add that she shouldn't be using ONLY her mouth. She should be using her mouth supplemented by her hands, so her mouth isn't wide open and stretched like she's undergoing some awful procedure at the dentist's ... (read in full...)
29 and never been kissed!
Q. can you help me please in the 3rd time i have treid to post question.i need some one help. i never got my first kiss and would like some help please. 1)how do i get a guy to kiss me is any i can do it. 2)how is done?like what do you do? ...
A. 21 April 2010: 1)how do i get a guy to kiss me is any i can do it.
To get a guy to kiss you, first you should get to know him. Establish a relationship. Do you have any friends? If you don't, perhaps it is time to figure out how to make some.
2)how is done?like... (read in full...)
I'm worried I might have set my standards too high and I will never meet anyone who is right for me!
Q. Hello, I hope you guys can help. I am almost 25 and a virgin. I can't quite find anyone who is good enough to a) have sex with b) have a REAL relationship with. It's just that I feel as if I have waited for the right guy but all the m...
A. 21 April 2010: Sorry, just read this: "I never want to have sex with more than one person and of course if my partner/husband died I would remain celibate!"
Okay, that's extreme. Naive, a little puzzling and a lot sad. Don't forget that life is unfair. You may ... (read in full...)
I'm worried I might have set my standards too high and I will never meet anyone who is right for me!
Q. Hello, I hope you guys can help. I am almost 25 and a virgin. I can't quite find anyone who is good enough to a) have sex with b) have a REAL relationship with. It's just that I feel as if I have waited for the right guy but all the m...
A. 21 April 2010: "Nice, intelligent man. Good hygiene. Good sense of morals and and strong set of core values. Has had dates and even the odd gf but not been in love or had sex. Likes animals and reading. Quiet. Does not like to drink too much. Don't mind a ... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend likes another guy more than just friends.
Q. Dear readers, i’m with my girl friend a logn time –maybe 3 years, and everything wen well sinc from october she went to study in another city, and this will happen till mai.At the beggining it ws hard, and we were happing,only the last 10 days we ...
A. 21 April 2010: I'm happy to hear that she is reaching out to you! You have to give her space to breathe, give her time to miss you and relax. She loves you, she doesn't want to be your entire world, if that makes sense.
You're not being cold to her, you are givi... (read in full...)
Met a nice guy and we hit it off, but I have a few worries...
Q. I was out in town the other night and met this really nice guy in a club. We seemed to get on pretty well and exchanged numbers. Since that night we have been texting neach other everyday and he has asked me to meet up with him when I get back ...
A. 20 April 2010: Hi, my sister met her husband in a bar and they've been married for close to 10 years and have 2 children. It can happen. You just have to be smart about it and make sure you aren't blinded by a crush.
I think you shouldn't lie to your parents, just... (read in full...)
Should I write my crush a letter expressing how I feel?
Q. I have had a thing for my teacher for a while now, but he doesn't teach me and never has he just works at my school.. I don't want advise on how to get him or anything like that but I just want to know peoples opinions on me writing him a letter ...
A. 20 April 2010: Writing that letter and giving it to him could cost him his career.
Your feelings are your feelings, I'm not going to tell you that you're not experiencing them. But I will tell you that expressing those feelings would be a very selfish act on your... (read in full...)
No sex before marriage please!
Q. Hi I'm 20 and the opposite person it's between 25-27 years old I would like to ask for some advice. I have a boyfriend he really loves me cares about me and likes having sex. I feel the same way too and I think we're meant to be together but I ...
A. 20 April 2010: So you ARE having sex already? But you don't really want to have sex without benefit of marriage? Is that right?
He doesn't want to discuss it but enjoys the sex.
Hm. I guess you want him to ask you to marry him but he doesn't even want to discuss ... (read in full...)
Am I doing the right thing or not?
Q. Am I doing the right thing or not? My boyfriend and I have been together about 15 months. He is so great in every aspect but one: we fight a lot, and when we fight he becomes someone I barely recognise. At the beginning of our relationship, it ...
A. 20 April 2010: Does he perceive that he has a problem? Is he willing to work with you on this?
If yes, then there are counselors that could help you two learn to fight in a productive way. In any relationship, there is going to be some disagreement or conf... (read in full...)
My boyfriend went out with this girl, and said it wasn't a date, but it sure sounds like a date!
Q. So uhm, I had recently broken up with my bf because i was having this strange feeling that he was flirting with his crush, who, by the way, is less pretty, smart, talented and appealing than i am. So i would get really mad whenever id think about ...
A. 20 April 2010: You are allowing him to play with your emotions. Take control back. "He won't let me move on."
What would I say to that? "Tough t*tty. Sorry, dude, it's over, we had a chance but it is now over." Then ACT like it, and move on. Read q1605's answ... (read in full...)
We lost our babies..but he's so fragile emotionally. Should we grieve over this apart or together?
Q. Hi I recently lost my twin baby girls at 23 weeks. I got pregnant after a one night stand. I am confused because I feel like the babies connected us. But he is not emotionally strong. And tries to support me. But it doesnt seem to work. Because w...
A. 20 April 2010: Grief is a funny thing. It doesn't follow any rules and you can't force yourself into feeling better or taking shortcuts to get past it. I guess I'm saying don't blame yourself for what you're feeling, don't blame him for what he's feeling.
A sad,... (read in full...)
Does no sex = no relationship?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together 10 years. She is 47, I am 36. When we first met (as is usual) we had sex frequently. Within a year of my moving in, sex became less frequent and slightly painful for her. She went to her doctor and I was...
A. 20 April 2010: So you're looking at another 35 years of involuntary celibacy? Eek, I see your issue.
I do agree with the peri-menopausal assessment; hormones can be a problem and she should be examined and tested very carefully by someone with expertise in this... (read in full...)
I'm worried I might have set my standards too high and I will never meet anyone who is right for me!
Q. Hello, I hope you guys can help. I am almost 25 and a virgin. I can't quite find anyone who is good enough to a) have sex with b) have a REAL relationship with. It's just that I feel as if I have waited for the right guy but all the m...
A. 20 April 2010: I would venture to say that most people's experience is that when they have found 'the one', everyone in the past kind of fades into insignificance. You don't spend your time looking back comparing exes with the current love. The exes are history, ... (read in full...)
Should I give into my desire to cheat? Or try my best to push it away?
Q. I really need some help. We have been married one year. I love this woman with all my heart. While we were still dating though. My then girlfriend, now wife, took a trip home to visit her family. They live two states away. While she was over the...
A. 20 April 2010: By all means, go contact an ex and have lunch with her. That will settle that particular score, if you are really into an eye for an eye kind of retribution. Personally, I think you are expressing rather immature thought patterns, this is the kind ... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend likes another guy more than just friends.
Q. Dear readers, i’m with my girl friend a logn time –maybe 3 years, and everything wen well sinc from october she went to study in another city, and this will happen till mai.At the beggining it ws hard, and we were happing,only the last 10 days we ...
A. 20 April 2010: Hi Luter, I have had a chance to read your followup. In rereading your question, I see that she returns in May, is that correct? So you only have one month to go, before she is back?
I think you are doing your best to manage your anxiety about this... (read in full...)
He delays our marriage and makes me ask Dad to repay his education loans!
Q. i and a person have been in a relationship for 10 years (both emotionally and physically). now i am 29 and he is 30 years old.we were from the same town but studied in different cities till 2007.in 2007 we both were in bangalore till 2009 may.we ...
A. 20 April 2010: He sounds as though he has no intention of marrying you. If he wanted to, he would have found a way. This family does not sound like one you want to be tied to for the rest of your life. They take money from your family? Really? I don't see any ... (read in full...)
I'm worried I might have set my standards too high and I will never meet anyone who is right for me!
Q. Hello, I hope you guys can help. I am almost 25 and a virgin. I can't quite find anyone who is good enough to a) have sex with b) have a REAL relationship with. It's just that I feel as if I have waited for the right guy but all the m...
A. 20 April 2010: It's funny. You actually think the second person is diminished and I see it exactly the opposite. The person who you choose to be with, stay with, is the one who is put above all others. Any previous person is just a distant memory, and in a way, ... (read in full...)
I'm worried I might have set my standards too high and I will never meet anyone who is right for me!
Q. Hello, I hope you guys can help. I am almost 25 and a virgin. I can't quite find anyone who is good enough to a) have sex with b) have a REAL relationship with. It's just that I feel as if I have waited for the right guy but all the m...
A. 19 April 2010: I'm wondering why you're so angry at people who have had previous relationships that you cannot bear the thought of being with them. Or is it more like a phobia, a phobia of touching or being sexual with someone who has had previous sexual contact. ... (read in full...)
Pregnant at 16 and very scared, plus to make things worse my boyfriend does drugs!
Q. [Moderator's Note: 2 questions from the same poster have been merged together] Hey, i found out i was pregnant about 5 months ago and im 16. i wanted to get rid of it because im too young to be thinking of starting a family but im too far gone to ...
A. 19 April 2010: The UK, so here are a whole list of organizations that can help you. You're feeling alone, you keep saying you are scared, so in order to get help and NOT feel alone you need to reach out to someone. Otherwise you're just sitting there saying "help ... (read in full...)
Pregnant at 16 and very scared, plus to make things worse my boyfriend does drugs!
Q. [Moderator's Note: 2 questions from the same poster have been merged together] Hey, i found out i was pregnant about 5 months ago and im 16. i wanted to get rid of it because im too young to be thinking of starting a family but im too far gone to ...
A. 19 April 2010: There are organizations that provide shelter and support for people at risk. Non-profit, non-government, volunteer groups. Which country are you in? ... (read in full...)
Pregnant at 16 and very scared, plus to make things worse my boyfriend does drugs!
Q. [Moderator's Note: 2 questions from the same poster have been merged together] Hey, i found out i was pregnant about 5 months ago and im 16. i wanted to get rid of it because im too young to be thinking of starting a family but im too far gone to ...
A. 19 April 2010: You are going to get kicked out by your mother one way or another, so you might as well plan for it then.
Which country are you in? So we can find social services that can help you.... (read in full...)
Pregnant at 16 and very scared, plus to make things worse my boyfriend does drugs!
Q. [Moderator's Note: 2 questions from the same poster have been merged together] Hey, i found out i was pregnant about 5 months ago and im 16. i wanted to get rid of it because im too young to be thinking of starting a family but im too far gone to ...
A. 19 April 2010: You can't make your boyfriend cut down on drugs; he has to be put into treatment for drug abuse.
I think when you have the conversation with your mother about your pregnancy, you'll have to tell his parents at some point as well.
I think telling ... (read in full...)
Pregnant at 16 and very scared, plus to make things worse my boyfriend does drugs!
Q. [Moderator's Note: 2 questions from the same poster have been merged together] Hey, i found out i was pregnant about 5 months ago and im 16. i wanted to get rid of it because im too young to be thinking of starting a family but im too far gone to ...
A. 19 April 2010: You have to tell your mother, if you think about it, you really don't have any choice. You're going to start showing eventually and things will be much much worse if you have to tell her that there's going to be a baby in 2 months. If you tell her ... (read in full...)
Terrible pain when trying to finger myself
Q. I'm a virgin 16 year old girl and when I try to finger my vagina I can't because IT HURTS A LOT.I can't even stick my entire finger in my vagina,I have tried but I can't,I have been trying to finger my vagina since I was 12 years old(when I ...
A. 19 April 2010: Your gynecologist can help you understand this issue.
I'm not suggesting you have this issue, but it might be useful to read about vaginismus. My suggestion to you is that you are now freaking out about it and nothing you are doing is helping you ... (read in full...)
One night stand last night
Q. Hi, Was wondering if anyone has any thoughts/advice. I am currently living by myself and my boyfriend of 4 years has moved away for work. In the last month a guy at work (not same department) and I have been texting and emailing. He has a longter...
A. 18 April 2010: Hi, thank you for your follow up. It sounds like you've started analyzing things properly and are on some kind of path to figuring it out.
I know about self-destructive acts because I have been guilty of them in my past. Things seem like a good idea... (read in full...)
One night stand last night
Q. Hi, Was wondering if anyone has any thoughts/advice. I am currently living by myself and my boyfriend of 4 years has moved away for work. In the last month a guy at work (not same department) and I have been texting and emailing. He has a longter...
A. 17 April 2010: It's possible his libido was doing his thinking for him, and now that there's no fascination or mystery of sex with a different woman--that famous 'variety' that men are reputed to desire--his other head has begun thinking. Maybe he's started to ... (read in full...)
My fantasies, wont somebody support it?
Q. I have lot of fantasies, many wild fantasies, but I enjoy it. I tell this to my wife too and she does not complain. Some of my fantasies involve me with some of my close female relatives. Having a threesome or foursome including me and my wife wit...
A. 17 April 2010: If my husband told me he was fantasizing about his female relatives, I would freak out. I would think there is something wrong with him, and would wonder if he had the potential for being an abuser. There's a strong taboo against incest and I'm no ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my solicitor's daughter!
Q. I have the biggest problem ever !!! Who could be the worst person to fall in love with?? Your solicitors daughter maybe ! Oh please someone help... this really isnt good... and whats worse, my solicitor is trying to get me work at the same place h...
A. 16 April 2010: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/thinking-too-much-of-this-other-girlhelp.html
My answer to both your questions is there. Take care!... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my solicitor's daughter!
Q. I have the biggest problem ever !!! Who could be the worst person to fall in love with?? Your solicitors daughter maybe ! Oh please someone help... this really isnt good... and whats worse, my solicitor is trying to get me work at the same place h...
A. 16 April 2010: How old are you? And how is it that you know this solicitor?... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend likes another guy more than just friends.
Q. Dear readers, i’m with my girl friend a logn time –maybe 3 years, and everything wen well sinc from october she went to study in another city, and this will happen till mai.At the beggining it ws hard, and we were happing,only the last 10 days we ...
A. 3 April 2010: Okay, Luter, the picture is clearer for me now. I think you do not have to worry very much. A little is okay, too much is unnecessary and will damage your relationship with her. She sounds to me as though she is telling the truth. She didn't have to ... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend likes another guy more than just friends.
Q. Dear readers, i’m with my girl friend a logn time –maybe 3 years, and everything wen well sinc from october she went to study in another city, and this will happen till mai.At the beggining it ws hard, and we were happing,only the last 10 days we ...
A. 2 April 2010: Hi Luter, thank you for your follow up answer; it was not too long at all, in fact having more detail is helpful. I am so happy to hear that you two have had a good discussion about this and I think I understand a little bit more.
The fear lies... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend likes another guy more than just friends.
Q. Dear readers, i’m with my girl friend a logn time –maybe 3 years, and everything wen well sinc from october she went to study in another city, and this will happen till mai.At the beggining it ws hard, and we were happing,only the last 10 days we ...
A. 2 April 2010: Hi Luter, sorry your question seems to have been overlooked. Sometimes many questions come in all at once and people don't see them. I will try to do my best to answer your questio.
It's possible she has developed a crush on this boy, and has some... (read in full...)
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