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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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How do you understand mixed messages?
Q. Ok, I need some advice. What is it about guys? Can you not just say what you want?! How do you interpret and understand all the mixed messages and tell if a guy really likes you or not. Are we just friends, do you want more? Why cant guys jus...
A. 16 June 2010: I think his actions say that for whatever reason, he's not prepared to date you at this time. I think in light of this, if I were you, I wouldn't let myself get set up for disappointment by him. I think it would be better for you to go do some ... (read in full...)
My brother in law wont stop pursuing me.
Q. My brother in law won't quit calling me texting me and facebooking me. We almost had sex one time and my sister walked in, no I don't want anything to do with him, but he woint leave me alone. I haven't answered anything from him, because I wouldn't ...
A. 16 June 2010: Better yet, give your phone to your sister and let her handle the next text. I like that idea better.... (read in full...)
My brother in law wont stop pursuing me.
Q. My brother in law won't quit calling me texting me and facebooking me. We almost had sex one time and my sister walked in, no I don't want anything to do with him, but he woint leave me alone. I haven't answered anything from him, because I wouldn't ...
A. 16 June 2010: Are you serious? Is it that difficult for you to figure out?
Block him on FB, block his number on your phone. Or change your number if that's too hard for you to figure out, and delete your FB account if you can't figure that out either. So easy... (read in full...)
The married man I am having an affair with is cheating on me!
Q. im having an affair to a married man and we are now six years, the problem is he's having a fling relationship to another woman, how can i stop him on this kind of habit i feel so hurt and jealous..what will i do for him should i leave him but i ...
A. 16 June 2010: Wow. Six years, when you could have been with a guy who would be faithful just to you. A guy who wasn't already cheating on his wife? Wow.
If you leave him now, you won't be writing back here a year from now, saying that it's seven years that you'... (read in full...)
Is she lying about her "size" preferences?
Q. OK, I'm having a major issue with something that I know is terribly immature, but I can't help it. I am dealing with the "her ex is bigger" syndrome (his 9 to my 6), and I am OK with myself and my abilities, but I can't understand the mixed signals ...
A. 16 June 2010: I'll tell you what. There is NOTHING sexy about a man with a 6" penis who is feeling inadequate and needs reassurance that he's a good lover.
There is EVERYTHING sexy about a man with a 6" penis who feels hot and loves making love and who give... (read in full...)
My vagina has this smell which is making me uncomfortable..
Q. i have this ugly bad smell at my vagina, dont know why but i have it. I shower atleast 2 times a day when i have my period sometimes more, even if i take a bath. After intercourse i shower before intercourse i shower after intercourse the smell is ...
A. 16 June 2010: You can find a free or low-cost clinic by contacting http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-center/womens-health-services-26176.htm
You shouldn't let this go, there may be an infection which could harm your fertility. If you're trying to get preg... (read in full...)
I want to be treated like an adult!
Q. Okay I'm about 15 and if there's any adults out there that can help me out that'd be great. Me and my boyfriend had a really rough start because my parents didn't let me see him cause hey didn't like him nd it was really hard seeing eachother cause ...
A. 16 June 2010: I'm still waiting to see if you can manage to write a question in your mother's voice; can you imagine her side of your relationship? THAT'S the day you will be an adult. When you can see things from that other side. Until then, you'll be a ... (read in full...)
My friend is pregnant and only 17!
Q. A friend of mine just found out she's pregnant (17), and doesn't know what to do.... Suggestions anyone? I told her that there is no right or wrong answer. =S...
A. 16 June 2010: I think the first thing she should do is tell her parents. She needs more support than she may realize right now and I think her parents, who would be the people who love her more than anyone else in the entire world, would be good people to have ... (read in full...)
Why do parents get so crazy about sexual stuff with us teens?
Q. Why do parents get so crazy about sexual stuff with us teens? If we are protected then let us learn and realize the real world of a relationship. I think if the parent lets the kids do stuff it gives the kid responsibilty and helps them realize what ...
A. 16 June 2010: Because there are repercussions and consequences to sex that you don't fully appreciate or realize. It's one of those things that you'll understand when your teenager starts having sex herself, I think.
When you start feeling frustrated with your... (read in full...)
My fiance wants a threesome!
Q. My fiance wants a threesome, with another female. I'm a little uneasy about it, but I said I'd agree as long as I also got a threesome with another male. This way it would be fair. Now, I am bisexual. My fiance, we'll call him Bob for the sake of ...
A. 16 June 2010: You are 16-17? And worried about all the repercussions of a threesome? Frankly, it sounds like you aren't really ready for the potential consequences. It's probably a bad idea to go through with it, there will be too much emotional collateral ... (read in full...)
I want to be treated like an adult!
Q. Okay I'm about 15 and if there's any adults out there that can help me out that'd be great. Me and my boyfriend had a really rough start because my parents didn't let me see him cause hey didn't like him nd it was really hard seeing eachother cause ...
A. 16 June 2010: Is this the boyfriend who gets jealous and angry if you hang out with you friends? And the same boyfriend who has told you that your breasts will grow if your nipples are sucked?
Maybe when your boyfriend isn't acting so immature, you'll look more... (read in full...)
My boyfriend gets jealous when I make plans with my friends!
Q. I'm 15 and me and my bf have been dating 8 months. Wehave a strong relationship but he gets alllll mad and jealous if I talk to other boys as friends? Also he gets mad when I have plans with my friends like a girls night out. He always says well I ...
A. 16 June 2010: Your boyfriend is immature and insecure--not uncommon at his age but it's really not healthy for you to be controlled by a jealous boyfriend.
You SHOULD be hanging out with your friends, you SHOULD be maintaining all your relationships, not just... (read in full...)
Can this make my breasts bigger?
Q. When my boyfriend sucks my nipples does it make boobs grow bigger?...
A. 16 June 2010: Good lord, if that were true, imagine the bra sizes women would need to buy as their boobs grew! Year one 32A, year two 34B, year three 36C, year four 38D, year five 40DD, and on up.
Now, at your age, you still have many years of maturing and grow... (read in full...)
Almost had sex with my brother in law and my sister caught us!!
Q. What do I do, me and brother in law almost had sex and my sister walked in and saw us, now my family hates hates us!...
A. 15 June 2010: I was completely serious about the counseling. Go see a therapist, maybe this will show that you feel remorse and are looking to understand why you engaged in this act of betrayal. "It wasn't planned and wasn't wanted" isn't congruent with what you ... (read in full...)
Almost had sex with my brother in law and my sister caught us!!
Q. What do I do, me and brother in law almost had sex and my sister walked in and saw us, now my family hates hates us!...
A. 14 June 2010: Grovel. And get counseling. Beyond that, I don't know what you can do to fix things.... (read in full...)
Could I have gotten an STD?
Q. Last Saturday night I met a cute guy at a club. We danced and drank until closing and I got pretty buzzed. He offered me a ride home and when we got in his car, I went down on him. I never did that to a strange guy before and when he finished I ...
A. 14 June 2010: It is possible to contract an STD from oral sex, the thing is that people don't often use safe sex practices when performing oral sex.
Apparently, HPV is being transmitted now through oral sex, and as a result, there are more and more cases of t... (read in full...)
Does no sex = no relationship?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together 10 years. She is 47, I am 36. When we first met (as is usual) we had sex frequently. Within a year of my moving in, sex became less frequent and slightly painful for her. She went to her doctor and I was...
A. 14 June 2010: I think you've made the right decision for yourself, and honestly, for her. You couldn't have continued the way you were as the resentment and unhappiness would have continued to build on your side.
It's unfortunate that she will never know the joys... (read in full...)
My wife lied to me about her sexual past until 12 years later...
Q. my wife lied too me about her sexual past before we got married, she told me only one partner, too find out 12 year later she slept with four other men when she was a teenager. but she did come out and tell me because it was bothering her for so ...
A. 13 June 2010: Please read everything that http://www.dearcupid.org/people/yos has written on this subject. I know it's difficult and you are upset by the new information about her past. I would also suggest you PM 'Yos' and ask him for some specific insight as ... (read in full...)
How are our metabolisms so different when we are twins?
Q. I have a twin brother. Although we are not identical, people have a lot of trouble tellng the difference between us. We were both same height, look the smae, have the same build and weight the same. We went to different universities. Du...
A. 12 June 2010: I know a set of fraternal twins who look a bit alike, they looked a lot alike when they were little, but now one is 4" taller and weighs about 40 lbs more. They are both healthy young men, in good physical shape. They just are maturing at different ... (read in full...)
Husband wants to attend ex-father-in-law's funeral!
Q. My husband wants to attend the funeral of his ex-father in law. I feel very strongly that he should not. He wasn't particularly close to him but says he should do it out of respect. I would feel very uncomfortable going with him as I have met most...
A. 11 June 2010: I think I'm understanding the situation a little more. I see your antennae are quivering, that's why you are so attuned to the slight whiff of a hint of being called a bitch. Which I did not. You are defensive, having been badly hurt by people who ... (read in full...)
How do I avoid getting hit on when I have a boyfriend?
Q. So, it doesn't happen often, but sometimes guys come up to me when I'm in a public place like a coffee shop or park by myself. Usually I'm reading a book or something but that doesn't really stop them from trying to talk to me. No one has ever ...
A. 10 June 2010: You know what? You are too concerned with being a nice person. You are being approached because the guys do want to get to know you but it is perfectly reasonable to throw in the boyfriend line from the getgo.
"Hi, thanks for asking, I have to tell... (read in full...)
How do you understand mixed messages?
Q. Ok, I need some advice. What is it about guys? Can you not just say what you want?! How do you interpret and understand all the mixed messages and tell if a guy really likes you or not. Are we just friends, do you want more? Why cant guys jus...
A. 10 June 2010: Now, hold on there missy. Let's get the male brains engaged in this before we hoist the white flag. Please tell us what he says/does and how you have responded, before we totally give this up.
He's said he cares for you? Actually said those word... (read in full...)
How do you understand mixed messages?
Q. Ok, I need some advice. What is it about guys? Can you not just say what you want?! How do you interpret and understand all the mixed messages and tell if a guy really likes you or not. Are we just friends, do you want more? Why cant guys jus...
A. 10 June 2010: I think a 'mixed message' is pretty much a message that he's not into you enough to be clear about liking you. Ergo, he doesn't like you enough to make it clear he likes you, ergo he doesn't like you. Is that clear?
One of the other aunts used this... (read in full...)
Helpful ideas on how to get wife to give me oral?
Q. My wife refuses to give me a blowjob and will not even really open up healthy dialog about it. Now before anyone replies to this post here is some background. -I DO go down on her (cunnilingus) to completion and she has multiple organisms. It ...
A. 10 June 2010: Thank you for the followup. So you actually broke up with her based on the lack of oral sex from her? And she said 'give her time' and you decided to be the 'bigger person' and 'overlook' it. So she knew it could be a deal-breaker for you--and was, ... (read in full...)
Husband wants to attend ex-father-in-law's funeral!
Q. My husband wants to attend the funeral of his ex-father in law. I feel very strongly that he should not. He wasn't particularly close to him but says he should do it out of respect. I would feel very uncomfortable going with him as I have met most...
A. 10 June 2010: Thank you for the followup. You know, I think you are actually trying to control him, more than you realize. If he wants to go, for whatever reason, isn't he entitled to decide for himself, without you second-guessing him?
Yes, there are other ways... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 10 June 2010: Kama, you're welcome. I hope things work out for you. All the best.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend isn't ready for sex!
Q. We've been together for 6 months now, but my girlfriend still isn't ready for sex. I've been patient, and respected her opinion, but my patience is running thin. The problem is that she wants me to pleasure her, I do it, but she never reciprocates ...
A. 10 June 2010: "Sweetheart, I find you very beautiful, sexy and attractive, but I can't continue this. It makes me very physically uncomfortable. It also makes me feel that you are more of a taker than a giver, as your actions don't match your words. I find you ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend isn't ready for sex!
Q. We've been together for 6 months now, but my girlfriend still isn't ready for sex. I've been patient, and respected her opinion, but my patience is running thin. The problem is that she wants me to pleasure her, I do it, but she never reciprocates ...
A. 10 June 2010: Wait. She wants to wait for sex, but is initiating sexual activity with you? Asking you to do stuff but she then just lies back and does nothing?
... (read in full...)
Husband wants to attend ex-father-in-law's funeral!
Q. My husband wants to attend the funeral of his ex-father in law. I feel very strongly that he should not. He wasn't particularly close to him but says he should do it out of respect. I would feel very uncomfortable going with him as I have met most...
A. 10 June 2010: You are objecting to your husband going to the funeral of his grandchildren's grandfather? He may have been given the 'all-clear' by his children not to attend but that doesn't mean they don't want him there.
He might have a new family in you but ... (read in full...)
Helpful ideas on how to get wife to give me oral?
Q. My wife refuses to give me a blowjob and will not even really open up healthy dialog about it. Now before anyone replies to this post here is some background. -I DO go down on her (cunnilingus) to completion and she has multiple organisms. It ...
A. 10 June 2010: I too am curious as to how the pre-marital discussions of sex went.... (read in full...)
Helpful ideas on how to get wife to give me oral?
Q. My wife refuses to give me a blowjob and will not even really open up healthy dialog about it. Now before anyone replies to this post here is some background. -I DO go down on her (cunnilingus) to completion and she has multiple organisms. It ...
A. 10 June 2010: Hoo boy. My point is that you don't need to say anything. She knows. The point is that you have to stop talking and listen to her, without judging, without busily formulating a counterargument in your head while she is talking. You are spending way ... (read in full...)
Helpful ideas on how to get wife to give me oral?
Q. My wife refuses to give me a blowjob and will not even really open up healthy dialog about it. Now before anyone replies to this post here is some background. -I DO go down on her (cunnilingus) to completion and she has multiple organisms. It ...
A. 10 June 2010: All joking aside, see, the thing is that we women tend to internalize negative messages. What's that joke's message? It's that women can't win in the sexual respect sweepstakes. Damned if you do, damned if you don't.
The more I think about this... (read in full...)
Helpful ideas on how to get wife to give me oral?
Q. My wife refuses to give me a blowjob and will not even really open up healthy dialog about it. Now before anyone replies to this post here is some background. -I DO go down on her (cunnilingus) to completion and she has multiple organisms. It ...
A. 10 June 2010: This has nothing to do with logic. You can analyze this ten ways till Sunday but it won't change the fact that she doesn't want to do it. You can rationalize, scrutinize, hypothesize, supersize but it's not going to make her want to give you oral ... (read in full...)
Is he getting sprung?
Q. Okay so my bf always wants me to give him head I give him head more then we have sex, he say's he loves they way I do it, Is he getting sprung????...
A. 9 June 2010: I don't even know what that means.
If you feel your sexual relationship is unbalanced, maybe you need to have a talk with him about how you are feeling about it. Is he being lazy and not making sure you are pleasured too? Do you feel as though you ... (read in full...)
Why wont my husband accept I just don't enjoy anal?
Q. My husband is obsessed with anal sex. We've had it twice. He refused to use any lubricant and it hurt very badly. I told him that I'm not interested in doing it again. I only did it with him because I felt pressured. His female boss is ...
A. 9 June 2010: What is his explanation for making you do things you don't want to do?... (read in full...)
How do I make the right decision? I have to choose between my boyfriend and caring for my mother
Q. I hope you guys can help... At the end of last year I had started living with my boyfriend of 5 years in New Zealand (he moved out there a year prior to me to get established) but then my Mum got cancer. I told my boyfriend that I wanted to come ...
A. 9 June 2010: You had this conversation with him the day your mother came from from hospital? Oh no, no, no, no, dear. You are emotionally and physically exhausted, and in no condition to make life decisions at this point in time. Nor is he. He should not be ... (read in full...)
Should I join this man I have just met on his bike tour?
Q. A few days ago I met this awesome American guy who was in my city for a few days on a ciclying tour. Nothing happened, not even a kiss, nor hand holding, nothing at all. Just a lot of flirting and some compliments. We just chatted away and basically ...
A. 9 June 2010: Did he invite you to join the tour?... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: I know I'm late to the question and I'm sorry that I don't have more time to read and absorb all the posts to add my own thoughts. However, I think I can safely say that I wouldn't add much to this other than to point you toward an Aunt here named ... (read in full...)
I found a tool to free myself...could it help you too?
Q. I have recently made a discovery. I’m not sure what you could call it really. A technique? A tool? Whatever it may be, I am in amazement. It is really helping me. I have no idea where it has come from, this idea. It just popped into my mind the ...
A. 4 June 2010: LOVE IT!!! Thank you for sharing this. Great tool! I'll be using it, for sure. ... (read in full...)
How high of a risk is pulling out?
Q. How high of a risk is it having sex with out a condom but not cuming in her and I wipped it off be for I put it in her ...
A. 4 June 2010: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control/withdrawal-pull-out-method-4218.htm
Over the course of a year using the method you describe, 27 out of 100 women will get pregnant. If you are a baseball player, how's .270 as a batt... (read in full...)
Why won't she tell me her real number of sexual partners if she loves me?
Q. I am involved in my first relationship since divorcing my wife of 20 years. I have been in it for 9 months, and it has been wonderful. However, there was an instance a month into our relationship where I caught her in a bit of a lie and it made me ...
A. 3 June 2010: This is a lose-lose for her.
Let's say her number is 27. What happens then?... (read in full...)
Can I keep what happened with my brother in law from my husband?
Q. I am in a situation that I would have never in a million years believed that I could be in. I have never been unfaithful to anyone - ever. I think that trust and honesty are two of the most important things in a successful relationship and...
A. 3 June 2010: When the OP returns for a followup, she is free to PM me so I can notify admin to reopen the question. Thanks!... (read in full...)
All I've ever done is stand by him but I cant take any more of his behaviour!
Q. me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 years now, he is a bit controlling if i ever say im going out for a bit he will accuse me of cheating on him, so in the end i end up not going out, it has now come to the stage that i will not feel ...
A. 3 June 2010: You have been sucked into the awful world of an abusive man. You can't fix him by changing your behavior; that's not what's driving him. What drives him is the need to control you and he will continue to do so no matter how docile and obedient and ... (read in full...)
Does no sex = no relationship?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together 10 years. She is 47, I am 36. When we first met (as is usual) we had sex frequently. Within a year of my moving in, sex became less frequent and slightly painful for her. She went to her doctor and I was...
A. 20 April 2010: So you're looking at another 35 years of involuntary celibacy? Eek, I see your issue.
I do agree with the peri-menopausal assessment; hormones can be a problem and she should be examined and tested very carefully by someone with expertise in this... (read in full...)
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