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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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I slept with my teacher on impulse, what should I do now?
Q. Thanks for answering this, if it even gets posted! A few days ago whilst staying after school to talk to a teacher we got into a very deep conversation, he was telling me about his wife, we've always been closer than teacher and pupil as he helpe...
A. 24 May 2010: Have you verified for yourself with his wife that he is in an open relationship? Because if he is, then she shouldn't mind knowing.
I sincerely doubt he is telling you the truth.
I have given my advice and it is up to you whether or not to take it.... (read in full...)
I slept with my teacher on impulse, what should I do now?
Q. Thanks for answering this, if it even gets posted! A few days ago whilst staying after school to talk to a teacher we got into a very deep conversation, he was telling me about his wife, we've always been closer than teacher and pupil as he helpe...
A. 20 May 2010: Why are you afraid of seeing someone who can actually help you?
To get over this feeling, you need to start to examine why you got to this point. What is going on in your life that you made this choice? What is your relationship with your fath... (read in full...)
Dreading the upcoming conversation about anal sex!
Q. Hi there, I just read a question where the guy was worried his girlfriend was lying when she said she had never had anal sex before....I'm about to be that girlfriend. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months now and I really really love him. We ...
A. 20 May 2010: My guess is that she doesn't want to do it, as it was a disaster the first time. She's dreading the conversation because it's going to come to this question, "did you ever do it before?" And of course the answer is "yes."
So I ask our poster agai... (read in full...)
Is it too soon to ask him to leave his girlfriend for me?
Q. Okay, so There's this girl (let's call her..Rebecca). So a couple years ago, Rebecca started going out wit hone of my close friends (Tommy), and after a month or two him and I got closer. It eventually lead to us kissing, talking, and touching. Th...
A. 20 May 2010: Ah, but I have been in your shoes. The most glorious guy was dating a girl I knew. He and I were on a weekend leaders' school trip together when I was in 11th grade, we sat next to each other and we got very close, talking about everthing. He was so ... (read in full...)
Dreading the upcoming conversation about anal sex!
Q. Hi there, I just read a question where the guy was worried his girlfriend was lying when she said she had never had anal sex before....I'm about to be that girlfriend. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months now and I really really love him. We ...
A. 20 May 2010: Um, Yos? I have a little question for you. You say you do not recommend lying to him. She says she hated anal sex the one time she tried it. So IF they do have anal sex and it's just as awful for her as the first time, how is she going to pretend ... (read in full...)
Is it too soon to ask him to leave his girlfriend for me?
Q. Okay, so There's this girl (let's call her..Rebecca). So a couple years ago, Rebecca started going out wit hone of my close friends (Tommy), and after a month or two him and I got closer. It eventually lead to us kissing, talking, and touching. Th...
A. 20 May 2010: And how long did you date Tommy after they broke up?... (read in full...)
Is it too soon to ask him to leave his girlfriend for me?
Q. Okay, so There's this girl (let's call her..Rebecca). So a couple years ago, Rebecca started going out wit hone of my close friends (Tommy), and after a month or two him and I got closer. It eventually lead to us kissing, talking, and touching. Th...
A. 20 May 2010: Are you interested in any single guys, or has it only ever been Rebecca's boyfriends?... (read in full...)
I slept with my teacher on impulse, what should I do now?
Q. Thanks for answering this, if it even gets posted! A few days ago whilst staying after school to talk to a teacher we got into a very deep conversation, he was telling me about his wife, we've always been closer than teacher and pupil as he helpe...
A. 19 May 2010: I'm curious, what did you think would happen? Because I don't think you would have slept with him if you hadn't been thinking about it. I think you have built up a fantasy surrounding this guy, and now the cold hard brutal truth is that he is not ... (read in full...)
Dreading the upcoming conversation about anal sex!
Q. Hi there, I just read a question where the guy was worried his girlfriend was lying when she said she had never had anal sex before....I'm about to be that girlfriend. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months now and I really really love him. We ...
A. 19 May 2010: I'm a little unclear on something. Do you want to try anal sex with your boyfriend? Or are you hoping not to?... (read in full...)
He's married but he still wants to sleep with me.
Q. ok...so i have been talking to my ex-boyfriend who is married and he keeps begging me to sleep with him again....apparently he doesnt care that he is married if he still trying to sleep with me. When we were togeher our sex was outstanding....he ...
A. 19 May 2010: There's more to this story, aunts. Here's the link to the new question: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/was-that-my-clue-to-get-out-and.html
... (read in full...)
Was that my clue to get out and find someone who will love me for me unconditionally?
Q. here is another question: i have been in an 10 year relationship. we have one child together. he says every year we are going to get married...never got a ring. not going to happen. he has been married before.. he says my attitude gets in the way ...
A. 19 May 2010: Hi, wasn't this your other post? http://www.dearcupid.org/question/hes-married-but-he-still-wants-to-sleep.html
You have a lot of stuff going on right now, don't you? Why didn't you put all these questions together in one big one so people coul... (read in full...)
I hate my sister. Is this normal?
Q. I think I hate my sister. Is this normal, or should I do something to communicate better with her? She is deaf. And she has a jealousy complex. She always wants to know what I'm doing with my time, and treats me like she thinks she is my mother...
A. 19 May 2010: I would say you probably don't hate your sister. You find her behavior annoying. I wouldn't ever use the words "hate" to describe you feel about someone, that would be my advice.
There's an old saying along the lines of "hate the sin, not the sinn... (read in full...)
I hate my sister. Is this normal?
Q. I think I hate my sister. Is this normal, or should I do something to communicate better with her? She is deaf. And she has a jealousy complex. She always wants to know what I'm doing with my time, and treats me like she thinks she is my mother...
A. 19 May 2010: As for your psychologist, was he talking about something specific when he made that statement? Because while on the whole I would agree with him, the fact of the matter is that we go through life making assumptions and doing things based on those ... (read in full...)
I hate my sister. Is this normal?
Q. I think I hate my sister. Is this normal, or should I do something to communicate better with her? She is deaf. And she has a jealousy complex. She always wants to know what I'm doing with my time, and treats me like she thinks she is my mother...
A. 19 May 2010: My husband and I will share bites of our meals if we are out at a restaurant; we like food and we like to see what the other is enjoying.
My dad, on the other hand, hates to have any of his food touched by anyone.
So it's a personal preferen... (read in full...)
He's married but he still wants to sleep with me.
Q. ok...so i have been talking to my ex-boyfriend who is married and he keeps begging me to sleep with him again....apparently he doesnt care that he is married if he still trying to sleep with me. When we were togeher our sex was outstanding....he ...
A. 19 May 2010: Why did you leave him?... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is shy in bed
Q. My boyfriend of almost three years is really shy when it comes to sex. He wont try anything new, he doesn't like me touching him or doing anything to him. We still have sex but its a case of having a quick kiss, clothes off and thats us having sex. ...
A. 19 May 2010: "Sweetheart, I want to talk to you about our lovemaking. I'm starting to worry that something is wrong. I feel unloved because you don't seem into it like you used to be. I haven't seen your gorgeous body in forever, and I need more time in foreplay ... (read in full...)
He's married but he still wants to sleep with me.
Q. ok...so i have been talking to my ex-boyfriend who is married and he keeps begging me to sleep with him again....apparently he doesnt care that he is married if he still trying to sleep with me. When we were togeher our sex was outstanding....he ...
A. 19 May 2010: No offense, but he sounds like skank. I can appreciate you all had great sex and all that, but the man is married now, he made a commitment to his wife and to suggest this to you makes him sound like a jerk. Sorry, but if I'd heard that from an ex, ... (read in full...)
I stained my sheet three times... is there any chance she'll still want me?
Q. Well... As my screen name states it all. I am dumb. I recently cheated on my wife of 12 years. I regret everything about it. It does get worse it was with three women. I know that this act is insulting and a slap in the face to her. I dont know the...
A. 19 May 2010: Thank you for your service to our country.
May I ask, was the cheating the result of being away for so long? Was it that you had proximity working against you? That your wife was so far away and an available woman presented herself? Three time... (read in full...)
Why do some men cheat on their wives?
Q. I want 2 know why some men cheat on there wifes?...
A. 19 May 2010: I think perhaps q is pointing out that the question could just as easily have been, "Why do some women cheat on their husbands?" Or even more politically correct, "Why do people cheat?"
My guess is the poster is experiencing something that she is s... (read in full...)
Is it too soon to ask him to leave his girlfriend for me?
Q. Okay, so There's this girl (let's call her..Rebecca). So a couple years ago, Rebecca started going out wit hone of my close friends (Tommy), and after a month or two him and I got closer. It eventually lead to us kissing, talking, and touching. Th...
A. 19 May 2010: Jessica, you really don't like Rebecca, do you? This is a repeated pattern for you, and you claim that it's not your fault, that it's the guy chasing you. If this had happened once, I might have given you the benefit of the doubt. But twice? Nope, ... (read in full...)
Attraction killers?
Q. What things do men typically do that kill any attraction a woman may have felt for him?...
A. 19 May 2010: If the poster would like to write an article discussing his theory on how to treat women, he is welcome to submit it. As the thread is no longer providing advice for the poster, it is being closed.... (read in full...)
I hate my sister. Is this normal?
Q. I think I hate my sister. Is this normal, or should I do something to communicate better with her? She is deaf. And she has a jealousy complex. She always wants to know what I'm doing with my time, and treats me like she thinks she is my mother...
A. 19 May 2010: Okay, let me describe what I do with my brother and sister. I call them (we don't live together) and ask how they are doing. What have they been up to? How are they feeling (they've had medical issues)? I ask details about their daily lives because ... (read in full...)
Molested by Mum's boyfriend Continued
Q. i dont know if i was molested or if im just over reacting.. my moms boyfriend is generally too close to me. he continously touches my bum and brushes past my breasts-but i know he does it on purpose. he will like rub all along my thigh with on hand ...
A. 19 May 2010: I agree with CindyCares. Please contact the local rape crisis center for help if you can't talk to any of the people she listed. We're simply not equipped to deal with your situation here.
Best wishes.... (read in full...)
I feel like I deserved to be molested, can anyone help me?
Q. I've been molested, help! I feel like I deserved it for some reason and i blame myself for what he did to me. :( I'm extremely ashamed and embarrassed by this situation, and I'm constantly scared... any help?...
A. 19 May 2010: See, the thing is that what you are feeling is normal following such an incident (or incidents). The victims often don't speak out because they blame themselves. It is important that you speak with someone who has training in this area or you could ... (read in full...)
I feel like I deserved to be molested, can anyone help me?
Q. I've been molested, help! I feel like I deserved it for some reason and i blame myself for what he did to me. :( I'm extremely ashamed and embarrassed by this situation, and I'm constantly scared... any help?...
A. 19 May 2010: Hi, was this your post? http://www.dearcupid.org/question/molested-by-mums-boyfriend-continued.html
You have to tell someone so you can get the help you need. Your mother, your doctor, an aunt, your grandmother, a teacher, the head of your scho... (read in full...)
I hate my sister. Is this normal?
Q. I think I hate my sister. Is this normal, or should I do something to communicate better with her? She is deaf. And she has a jealousy complex. She always wants to know what I'm doing with my time, and treats me like she thinks she is my mother...
A. 19 May 2010: I think we need more information. Please answer the questions Neera asked, it would be helpful. Thank you!... (read in full...)
I like him but my friends and family don't!
Q. me and this guy, were not dating each other, but we hang round loads, and we always kiss and... Basically we act like were going out, but my friends all seem to hate him they say he's a player and all this stuff, but if i like him does it matter wat ...
A. 19 May 2010: I'll tell you something, if you are letting this guy ruin your grades and school reports, you are being very very shortsighted. Your grades and school reports right now, this year and next year and the year after that, may well determine what ... (read in full...)
How can I stop these feelings I have for my teacher?
Q. I really really love my teacher.He came in year 9 as my form tutor and i had him for buisness studies.Now im in year 10 and just have him as a form tutor.When i had family problems we always used to talk.He used to make me laugh so much.But since i ...
A. 18 May 2010: Hey there, despite your flag, I suspect you are in the UK, because you are using terms that aren't commonly used here in the US. So you probably know about the law regarding inappropriate contact between students and teachers there?
You could wind... (read in full...)
Pictures of his ex on his bedroom wall! And porn-type ones with her on his phone and computer!
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for just under 2 months, and when i was over his i noticed on his phone and computer he has porn like pictures of him and his ex and a photo of her on his bedroom wall. so i gave him time to delete them etc. but he didn...
A. 18 May 2010: I have to agree with the ladies here; he's still into her if she's on the wall. In an album tucked away, fine. On the wall after you specifically told him that it bothered you? Not so fine.
And going through her emails on her account? That's seri... (read in full...)
I like him but my friends and family don't!
Q. me and this guy, were not dating each other, but we hang round loads, and we always kiss and... Basically we act like were going out, but my friends all seem to hate him they say he's a player and all this stuff, but if i like him does it matter wat ...
A. 18 May 2010: And how old are you? You are not in the 18-21 age range, I can tell.... (read in full...)
I like him but my friends and family don't!
Q. me and this guy, were not dating each other, but we hang round loads, and we always kiss and... Basically we act like were going out, but my friends all seem to hate him they say he's a player and all this stuff, but if i like him does it matter wat ...
A. 18 May 2010: Generally, the people who love and care for you have your best interests at heart. So they suspect this guy isn't the most honorable or best choice as a boyfriend for you. I would pay attention, I think. If every single one dislikes him, well, ... (read in full...)
Is it safe to have sex in the water?
Q. Me and my girlfriend are going to the beach this Saturday and I wanted to know is it's safe or not to have sex in the water? I am thinking about bringing this idea up to her but I don't know if it is safe or not....
A. 18 May 2010: And if there is sand around, you MUST keep it out of the hoohah. ... (read in full...)
Is it safe to have sex in the water?
Q. Me and my girlfriend are going to the beach this Saturday and I wanted to know is it's safe or not to have sex in the water? I am thinking about bringing this idea up to her but I don't know if it is safe or not....
A. 18 May 2010: Oh dear lord, I just had a flashback to being in the ocean a couple of years ago. My skin started stinging and I got out of the water to see what was going on. I was COVERED with little miniature crab-like creatures just nipping away at my skin. ... (read in full...)
I have a confusing situation, here and I need help as I'm going crazy in my own head!
Q. i'm asking this because i'm just too confused, This girl has loved me for years, she asked me out 3 years ago, and due to my own stupidity and nervousness i turned her down, even though i had really strong feelings for her. subsequently, she...
A. 18 May 2010: Her priority isn't being fair to you; her priority is keeping all her options open. Sometimes people are so self-absorbed that they completely miss the potential harm they are doing to others. In other words, this isn't happening because you are ... (read in full...)
My irregular periods are worrying me, could I be pregnant?
Q. please i really need helpp jan i had unprotected sex w.my ex my period came 2months late march i started in the middle of the month.i lasted 8days i always last 6days but i had unproetced sex again w.my ex during my period sounds gross but ...
A. 18 May 2010: You could buy a test at the drugstore and see what result you get. Follow the instructions on the box as to the timing.
I think it would be a very good idea for you to go see a gynecologist and see if you are experiencing irregular periods due to y... (read in full...)
Is it normal to feel this way after performing oral sex?
Q. im 18 years old and today was the first day i had oral sex. i gave a blow job to my boyfriend. i have never done anything like that before. but now i feel my legs like jello and i wasnt even on my knees. i dont know i just feel really weird and ...
A. 18 May 2010: Perhaps you are breathing in a way that is causing this? Strong emotions, increased heart rate, excitement?
Try breathing into a paper bag for a minute or two and see if you feel better, or put your head between your knees.
You may be feeling ... (read in full...)
Do you think my cousin likes me, or is it all in my head?
Q. I don't really know how to Say this but, I think my first cousin likes me. Since I can remember we've always been "real" close. She's always would come up to me and put her head in my lap or put my arms around her, flirt with me sometimes. It always ...
A. 18 May 2010: For most girls, a male cousin is a 'safe' person to practice flirting with--not someone they really would want to get sexually intimate with. If things get intense, the family considerations become a problem. What if the parents disapprove? In some ... (read in full...)
How can I show him I love him when we have never spoken before?
Q. I am in love with someone but we haven't talked at all how do i show this person that i really love him, what can i do to win him over?...
A. 18 May 2010: First, have a simple conversation with him. He can't fall in love with you until he gets to know you. Right now, you are experiencing a severe crush, strong feelings for him, and as you've never spoken, you really don't know him. You have to get to ... (read in full...)
My b/f is coming home from Afghanistan, how can I tell him I'm not ready for marriage yet?
Q. Hi guys, I am in a long distance relationship, with my bf in afghanistan in the military; i'm nervous that when he gets back he's going to propose to me and i'm not ready. while i feel strongly about him, his coming back will signal our first ti...
A. 18 May 2010: I have to say I'm so happy he's back in one piece and tell him thanks from us here for his service and sacrifices for our country. We appreciate it. And him. Good for you two, congratulations and I hope it all works out beautifully! I love a good ... (read in full...)
What would you think about this if it was your girlfriend and your roommate?
Q. Folks i would need some advice.The one i get from my buddies always involves alcohol :s this is the first time i do this kind of thing but here we go. Found out a couple of days ago thanks to a lost email that my girlfriend of 2 years with whom ...
A. 18 May 2010: Don't beat anyone up, that's not going to help and might land you in prison.
Obviously, she chose an incredibly stupid way of telling you she needs more lovin'. She would like to be closer to you so she shows you by hanging out with your room... (read in full...)
I have a confusing situation, here and I need help as I'm going crazy in my own head!
Q. i'm asking this because i'm just too confused, This girl has loved me for years, she asked me out 3 years ago, and due to my own stupidity and nervousness i turned her down, even though i had really strong feelings for her. subsequently, she...
A. 17 May 2010: Q, you have raised an excellent point. I have to bow to your analysis of the fantasizing. Poster, adjust my answer to reflect this insight from Q. Thank you.... (read in full...)
I have a confusing situation, here and I need help as I'm going crazy in my own head!
Q. i'm asking this because i'm just too confused, This girl has loved me for years, she asked me out 3 years ago, and due to my own stupidity and nervousness i turned her down, even though i had really strong feelings for her. subsequently, she...
A. 17 May 2010: One more thing here. Words are cheap. ACTIONS are what tell you the real story. Judge whether or not she wants you based on her actions, not what she's said to you.
Run down the list of her actions for us. Not the words.... (read in full...)
I have a confusing situation, here and I need help as I'm going crazy in my own head!
Q. i'm asking this because i'm just too confused, This girl has loved me for years, she asked me out 3 years ago, and due to my own stupidity and nervousness i turned her down, even though i had really strong feelings for her. subsequently, she...
A. 17 May 2010: You were definitely plan c, the back up of the backup plan; in case plan a then plan b didn't work out. She's not really THAT into you if she didn't want to get into a relationship and then went radio silence for 2 months. She's into someone else ... (read in full...)
Feeling like I need to make a move...
Q. My question is: How do you make the change in your life that you know you need to do, but always find it is easier to stay where you are. ...
A. 17 May 2010: Wake up each morning and figure out the next teeny tiny step you need to take, that step that leads you closer to making the big change.
I personally would recommend yoga and meditation for you. The meditation serves to make you observe your... (read in full...)
Do you think I successfilly turned off this married man?
Q. My old teacher and i finally started talking about hooking up, especially now that i am graduating in 10 days. i know i shouldnt do this I only told him i liked him. i told him i never had a motive besides to just get that off my chest. in t...
A. 17 May 2010: Yes, it is bullshit to get into your pants.
He didn't respond to the text about you picking up the slack if his wife wasn't doing her job because he is still having sex with his wife and will continue to do so whether or not he 'hooks up' with you.... (read in full...)
Does this prostitute have feelings for me or is she just using me for money?
Q. I have meet a prostitute and enjoy her company immensely, her being a prostitute does not bother me, i am married not happly married, and prefer her company allthough it is on occaisionally, i think she likes me. the only thing when we go out out ...
A. 17 May 2010: Are you planning to end your marriage anyway? If you are so unhappy, you might as well be single so you can start a new romance with someone who is available.
Having exactly zero experience with prostitutes, I can only guess at how you could tell... (read in full...)
Does my fiance have something to hide?
Q. My fiance and I bought a house in July. Turns out, a woman he knew in high school (also friends with her family) lives 1 mile up the road. He hadn't seen her since high school, but when she found out where he lives, she stops to see him. She has ...
A. 17 May 2010: One word. Nanny-cam. Get one of those units that videotapes the nanny to make sure she isn't abusing the baby. It's horrible and sneaky and a real invasion of privacy. But if you are this worried and freaked out, maybe this will either confirm your ... (read in full...)
Teachers: Have you ever had feelings for one of your students?
Q. I would Just like to know how many teachers actually fall a little bit for their students, this question is for male teachers only. Have you ever had a crush/fell for/had thoughts that your student was ever attractive? and has you student ever told ...
A. 17 May 2010: I expect teachers deal with student crushes every day. I found some old links that might help you in your research
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-sent-a-love-letter-to-my-teacher.html
http://ww... (read in full...)
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