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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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I accidentally told my husband's family that he abused me and now everythings messed up, how can I fix this?
Q. Hi. My husband recently has gotten a little physcally abusive, and has forced blow jobs on my a couple of times when he was drunk.. I guess I wanted to get it off my chest, but I was just going to deal with it. I already forgave him. But then las...
A. 11 July 2010: "i was yelling and crying for someone.. ANYONE to help me"
Sweetheart. This has gone on long enough. Tell your parents and his parents. Don't try to solve this by yourself. You can't.
Get the professional help you need now. Because you need it ... (read in full...)
I accidentally told my husband's family that he abused me and now everythings messed up, how can I fix this?
Q. Hi. My husband recently has gotten a little physcally abusive, and has forced blow jobs on my a couple of times when he was drunk.. I guess I wanted to get it off my chest, but I was just going to deal with it. I already forgave him. But then las...
A. 4 July 2010: I sincerely wish you well, happy and healthy future for you. I am concerned that you think simply making up your mind will change things--you have a great deal of work to do to process the bad stuff that's happened in your life and this coping ... (read in full...)
I accidentally told my husband's family that he abused me and now everythings messed up, how can I fix this?
Q. Hi. My husband recently has gotten a little physcally abusive, and has forced blow jobs on my a couple of times when he was drunk.. I guess I wanted to get it off my chest, but I was just going to deal with it. I already forgave him. But then las...
A. 4 July 2010: That must be very hard for you. That's not a nice feeling to have to feel. :(... (read in full...)
I accidentally told my husband's family that he abused me and now everythings messed up, how can I fix this?
Q. Hi. My husband recently has gotten a little physcally abusive, and has forced blow jobs on my a couple of times when he was drunk.. I guess I wanted to get it off my chest, but I was just going to deal with it. I already forgave him. But then las...
A. 3 July 2010: Okay, I wondered what the session was like for you. I guess you were okay? And he was... what, accepting?
Knowing how you feel is a big thing. Not many people do, I think. I do yoga, and there's a part of the practice where you just kind of chec... (read in full...)
I accidentally told my husband's family that he abused me and now everythings messed up, how can I fix this?
Q. Hi. My husband recently has gotten a little physcally abusive, and has forced blow jobs on my a couple of times when he was drunk.. I guess I wanted to get it off my chest, but I was just going to deal with it. I already forgave him. But then las...
A. 2 July 2010: It's good to hear that you both went to the appointment. You sound very carefully neutral on this. Are your feelings all over the place or are you happy, sad, upset? And how is your husband taking this. He can't be too happy and I would imagine ... (read in full...)
Something new in our D/S play
Q. I am a 30 year old married woman. Point blank, my husband and I are in a D/s relationship with him being the top and he spanks me whenever I have done wrong. Recently, he was spanking me when I was laying naked on the bed. I began to wiggle ...
A. 1 July 2010: Sounds like he's added bondage to the mix. Why don't you discuss it with him?... (read in full...)
Why do I have these feelings for another man when I was so sure I loved my fiance?
Q. I have been with my fiance for two years, yes fiance, I was so sure I loved him more then anything and when Im with him hes all I care about, but when Im gone from him and one of my friends(male) comes around and drops hints he likes me...I feel the ...
A. 1 July 2010: It sounds to me as though it's dawning on you that your fiance isn't the right man for you. Be honest about that and break up with him before you launch into an affair with the new man.
Just because you've been with someone for many years does... (read in full...)
Should I tell him about my STD?
Q. Soo I have this nasty ass ex boyfriend i've dated for 3 years and we had sex maybe a month ago. I heard he was sleeping around and sure enough he gave me clamidia. I took the z pack a week an half ago. Now i have a boyfriend and i don't know ...
A. 1 July 2010: Oh, forgot to add something, that little last line of yours? "I'm not telling him the truth because it might scare him off." That's probably what someone else said at some point, and that is precisely why you wound up with an STD. There's a ... (read in full...)
I feel so betrayed and it's damaged my relationship. How do I handle this?
Q. I don't know if anyone could help me or advise me with this, but i'm in an akward situation and I feel really helpless as to what to do. A while ago, I confided in someone whom I thought I could completely trust. I had a very personal embarresing ...
A. 1 July 2010: The thing that happens when you tell one-half of a couple is that you risk the other half knowing. It's just how closely some couples communicate that they don't distinguish between "his" and "hers"; there is only "ours" and that includes ... (read in full...)
Is there a solution to all of this?
Q. I'vr been engaged to a wonderful lady for about 18 months, she is going through menapaue and grew in an alcoholic home. She is the most demanding ,controlling person i've ever met. We aren't speaking right now and our engagment might be over, all ...
A. 1 July 2010: She's angry with you that you went to a meeting to learn how to cope with her? She sounds as though she is deep in denial and perhaps it is for the best that you continue to go to the meetings but end the engagement officially for now. You can't ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him about my STD?
Q. Soo I have this nasty ass ex boyfriend i've dated for 3 years and we had sex maybe a month ago. I heard he was sleeping around and sure enough he gave me clamidia. I took the z pack a week an half ago. Now i have a boyfriend and i don't know ...
A. 1 July 2010: You should go to the doctor to be sure you're rid of the infection. From the plannedparenthood.org website: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/stds-hiv-safer-sex/chlamydia-4266.htm
"If you are treated for chlamydia, or any other sexu... (read in full...)
I accidentally told my husband's family that he abused me and now everythings messed up, how can I fix this?
Q. Hi. My husband recently has gotten a little physcally abusive, and has forced blow jobs on my a couple of times when he was drunk.. I guess I wanted to get it off my chest, but I was just going to deal with it. I already forgave him. But then las...
A. 1 July 2010: I'm thinking of you today as you go to your appointment. I hope you're doing well.... (read in full...)
B/f went through my cell phone messages and thought I was cheating
Q. Last night I forgot my cell phone in my boyfriend's car and while he was driving back to return it to me, he went through my test messages. To keep it short, he found some messages that made him think that I was cheating on him in the early stages ...
A. 30 June 2010: I sincerely hope he wasn't the guy next to me with his head looking at the cell phone and not the road. That really is dangerous.
I guess I would be a bit upset too, at the unwarranted invasion of privacy, but if there's nothing to hide, then no h... (read in full...)
Do you tell partners your real number of past lovers if they ask?
Q. Another poll for you ladies: Do you tell partners your real number of past lovers if they ask? If not, how far off are you? A) Yes, I tell them my real number if they ask B) I tell them my number of "real" boyfriends or relationships, bu...
A. 30 June 2010: I think the best strategy would be for the guy to be honest. "Jill, it's been great getting to know you and I'd really like to move things to the next level but I have something I need you to understand. I'm a guy who doesn't indulge in casual sex, ... (read in full...)
How long does it take for genital warts to show up?
Q. If you have beed exposed to genital warts which i have (i knew he had them and it doesnt bother me because i love him but i still have to face the fact that i could have them) how long does it take to show up if you do have it and if you dont have ...
A. 30 June 2010: You HAVE to be seen by a doctor. Genital warts are caused by one of a group of viruses called the human papilloma viruses (HPV). Herpes is a separate and different set of viruses caused by Herpes simplex virus. VERY different and VERY important you ... (read in full...)
I accidentally told my husband's family that he abused me and now everythings messed up, how can I fix this?
Q. Hi. My husband recently has gotten a little physcally abusive, and has forced blow jobs on my a couple of times when he was drunk.. I guess I wanted to get it off my chest, but I was just going to deal with it. I already forgave him. But then las...
A. 30 June 2010: I did see your post about when you drink. :/
A lot of "anyone else" actually don't drink much at all. And most don't drink till they can't remember what they say. That's drinking to excess. I know there's a youth culture that likes to 'party' and ... (read in full...)
I accidentally told my husband's family that he abused me and now everythings messed up, how can I fix this?
Q. Hi. My husband recently has gotten a little physcally abusive, and has forced blow jobs on my a couple of times when he was drunk.. I guess I wanted to get it off my chest, but I was just going to deal with it. I already forgave him. But then las...
A. 29 June 2010: Oh that's good news. I'm thinking about you and hope it is a good start for you. ... (read in full...)
I accidentally told my husband's family that he abused me and now everythings messed up, how can I fix this?
Q. Hi. My husband recently has gotten a little physcally abusive, and has forced blow jobs on my a couple of times when he was drunk.. I guess I wanted to get it off my chest, but I was just going to deal with it. I already forgave him. But then las...
A. 29 June 2010: Q understood my point. Which is that under the influence, you tell people what's bothering you. Like the comment to your in-laws, which then has triggered this set of events. Or that last message which so clearly showed the battered-wife thinking ... (read in full...)
I accidentally told my husband's family that he abused me and now everythings messed up, how can I fix this?
Q. Hi. My husband recently has gotten a little physcally abusive, and has forced blow jobs on my a couple of times when he was drunk.. I guess I wanted to get it off my chest, but I was just going to deal with it. I already forgave him. But then las...
A. 29 June 2010: "Maybe I don't think it's a big deal because my brother raped me when I was in fifth grade, I've been kidnapped, illegally put up for adopted, then physically and emotionally abused by my adoptive father. It's like.. this is just how it's supposed ... (read in full...)
I accidentally told my husband's family that he abused me and now everythings messed up, how can I fix this?
Q. Hi. My husband recently has gotten a little physcally abusive, and has forced blow jobs on my a couple of times when he was drunk.. I guess I wanted to get it off my chest, but I was just going to deal with it. I already forgave him. But then las...
A. 29 June 2010: Where is the baby when both of you are drinking?... (read in full...)
What is a good quote for a tattoo - to show I have overcome depression?
Q. I suffered from severe depression in the past and want to get a tattoo to show that I have overcome it. I want to get a quote. does anyone have any suggestions...
A. 29 June 2010: "I AM."... (read in full...)
I accidentally told my husband's family that he abused me and now everythings messed up, how can I fix this?
Q. Hi. My husband recently has gotten a little physcally abusive, and has forced blow jobs on my a couple of times when he was drunk.. I guess I wanted to get it off my chest, but I was just going to deal with it. I already forgave him. But then las...
A. 29 June 2010: That's it, Q got it. This last post was indeed by a battered woman. It's time to start the healing now.... (read in full...)
I accidentally told my husband's family that he abused me and now everythings messed up, how can I fix this?
Q. Hi. My husband recently has gotten a little physcally abusive, and has forced blow jobs on my a couple of times when he was drunk.. I guess I wanted to get it off my chest, but I was just going to deal with it. I already forgave him. But then las...
A. 29 June 2010: You've absorbed the painful and wrong lessons of your childhood and you are playing them out in this skewed thinking.
Call that number, tomorrow, first thing.... (read in full...)
I accidentally told my husband's family that he abused me and now everythings messed up, how can I fix this?
Q. Hi. My husband recently has gotten a little physcally abusive, and has forced blow jobs on my a couple of times when he was drunk.. I guess I wanted to get it off my chest, but I was just going to deal with it. I already forgave him. But then las...
A. 29 June 2010: There's what has to change. Right there. You blame yourself. That's just wrong and the fact that you can't see that means you need the help you are trying to fight off.... (read in full...)
I accidentally told my husband's family that he abused me and now everythings messed up, how can I fix this?
Q. Hi. My husband recently has gotten a little physcally abusive, and has forced blow jobs on my a couple of times when he was drunk.. I guess I wanted to get it off my chest, but I was just going to deal with it. I already forgave him. But then las...
A. 29 June 2010: Wait, he was deployed? He was in combat? There are lots of people who come back different, there's no shame in that. They just didn't realize that things were bad that way.
Sweetheart, you are caught up in the very early stages of this. You have... (read in full...)
I accidentally told my husband's family that he abused me and now everythings messed up, how can I fix this?
Q. Hi. My husband recently has gotten a little physcally abusive, and has forced blow jobs on my a couple of times when he was drunk.. I guess I wanted to get it off my chest, but I was just going to deal with it. I already forgave him. But then las...
A. 29 June 2010: Do you think their motives are bad? Do you think their hearts are in the wrong place? Or are you feeling bad and just want them to go away and leave you in peace?
Only the 'peace' is with a guy who roughed you up, forced oral sex and verbally abus... (read in full...)
I accidentally told my husband's family that he abused me and now everythings messed up, how can I fix this?
Q. Hi. My husband recently has gotten a little physcally abusive, and has forced blow jobs on my a couple of times when he was drunk.. I guess I wanted to get it off my chest, but I was just going to deal with it. I already forgave him. But then las...
A. 29 June 2010: I think Q is right. They are concerned and the only way they know how to check on you is to see you.
The thing is out of the bottle, you can't put it back, alas. It IS uncharted waters. You are going to have to take it one small day at a time... (read in full...)
Any men on DC who don't like porn?
Q. *OP's Original Title* Are there any men on DC who don't watch porn? Or never have? If so, why not? Ii'd like a tally please. I've only ever met one man who doesn't. ...
A. 29 June 2010: *cough*
Just checking to make sure everything is good in this neck of the woods?... (read in full...)
He doesn't appear to respect the fact that I don't like anal sex!
Q. just recently me and my bf have been having an aguement concerning anal sex. he absolutely loves it which i appreciate, however its just not my thing. it makes me really uncomfortable and i dont enjoy it. on a couple of occasions when he has asked ...
A. 28 June 2010: If you are really and truly sincere about getting him to shut up about anal sex, you have to do something really serious that will completely get his attention and teach him a big lesson.
The next time he brings it up, whining, and you say no, the ... (read in full...)
I know that men look at porn so why does he claim not to? I'm not the jealous type.
Q. Why do guys lie about watching porn? My boyfriend and I have been together for several years and at the beginning of our relationship would look at it together quite a lot, usually just for fun (i.e. trying to find the weirdest stuff we could) but ...
A. 28 June 2010: I think the notion that all men watch porn is probably an overreaching and inaccurate statement. So unless you have some compelling evidence to the contrary, I would tend to believe the guy.
Is it possible that things are going so well that you are ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend hates my best friend!
Q. I have a friend who's 26 years old and likes to hang out with girls who are nearly 10 years his junior (i.e., girls who are still in high school). Aside from this oddity, he's a great guy. My girlfriend, however, is starting to have problems with ...
A. 28 June 2010: You don't find it a bit, um, pathetic that he dates high school girls? You're a dozen years older than the oldest HS senior--do you have much in common with them?
So let's look at your friend here, from your girlfriend's perspective. What does she ... (read in full...)
What do girls really look for in a man. (honest views only)
Q. Can I ask a question to the girls in this site and be completly honest. "What do you really lok for in a guy" I always see answers like good listener caring faithfull not cocky class good career prospects But never does "good looks" ev...
A. 28 June 2010: Would you want to date the female counterpart of you?
I think CindyCares has brought up an excellent point, which is that the girls who aren't beautiful and spectacular are often overlooked by everyone. Have you asked out any homely girls rece... (read in full...)
I have caught my girl cheating three times!
Q. my girl has been cheating on me, i have caught her more than three time now, she saying that she will not do it again but she keep liyimg to me , im fed up ,what do i do? [Mod note: text was edited for clarity. I hope I got it right.]...
A. 28 June 2010: If it were me, the relationship would have been over at cheat number two. Well, actually, cheat number one, depending on the cheat motivation.
What do you do? You go find another girl who doesn't have an honesty problem or a taste for drama and othe... (read in full...)
Question to all those who workout regularly
Q. Hello everyone, I am a 23 year old guy and weigh 62Kg (136lb). I have been going to the gym for the past 2 months. I follow the following routine: (1) Cardio on elliptical for 30 mins every alternate day. In this, I take the interval traini...
A. 28 June 2010: And unless you are very very short, I doubt you have much abdominal fat at 136 lbs!
Good luck with your fitness program!... (read in full...)
Violent end to an argument this morning, what do I do?
Q. i have to ask this question, even though i know what people will reply. really early this morning my partner of 7 years and i had an argument, i was getting ready for work, and we argued, which basically led to him hitting me on the head with a m...
A. 28 June 2010: I think you have to talk to someone who knows and loves you. Hiding this isn't going to make it go away. You have to be honest. It did.
I'd also suggest this:
Womens Aid - The premier resource for domestic violence and sexual abuse against women an... (read in full...)
I accidentally told my husband's family that he abused me and now everythings messed up, how can I fix this?
Q. Hi. My husband recently has gotten a little physcally abusive, and has forced blow jobs on my a couple of times when he was drunk.. I guess I wanted to get it off my chest, but I was just going to deal with it. I already forgave him. But then las...
A. 28 June 2010: The point is to help you. I for one would like to be kept up to date on what's happening for you, as this progresses. But I don't want you to wake up tomorrow morning with a vision of my little avatar standing there, saying "tell me tell me tell me ... (read in full...)
I accidentally told my husband's family that he abused me and now everythings messed up, how can I fix this?
Q. Hi. My husband recently has gotten a little physcally abusive, and has forced blow jobs on my a couple of times when he was drunk.. I guess I wanted to get it off my chest, but I was just going to deal with it. I already forgave him. But then las...
A. 28 June 2010: You know the phrase, "you're your own worst enemy"? This kind of applies to you here. You fight the process that could help you because you don't want to have to face the feelings.
This is like getting cancer. It's not fair, it sucks, it is a crap... (read in full...)
I accidentally told my husband's family that he abused me and now everythings messed up, how can I fix this?
Q. Hi. My husband recently has gotten a little physcally abusive, and has forced blow jobs on my a couple of times when he was drunk.. I guess I wanted to get it off my chest, but I was just going to deal with it. I already forgave him. But then las...
A. 28 June 2010: AA stands for Alcoholic Anonymous. There's also Al-Anon, which is for family and friends of alcoholics. I've been to those meetings when a good friend of mine was struggling with alcoholism. I haven't been to an AA meeting but I would imagine they ... (read in full...)
I accidentally told my husband's family that he abused me and now everythings messed up, how can I fix this?
Q. Hi. My husband recently has gotten a little physcally abusive, and has forced blow jobs on my a couple of times when he was drunk.. I guess I wanted to get it off my chest, but I was just going to deal with it. I already forgave him. But then las...
A. 28 June 2010: You're having dreams like this because you feel trapped and helpless and it's about the sexual assaults you've experienced as well as trying to create defensive mechanisms to cope with them.
Q is right in that it's not going to be 'solved' over... (read in full...)
Does cheating count when your a kid still?
Q. So, I'm 16 and I've had a boyfriend for quite a while now. Things are good we care about each other and everything but here's the thing, I recently got a job about 3 months ago and since then I've made good friends with a boy who works there. We ...
A. 28 June 2010: I thought that kids became aware that telling lies is wrong somewhere around age 8 or so.
Of course you're too young to be tied down. But you're not too old to live life with integrity and tell the truth. Perhaps you owe your boyfriend the cour... (read in full...)
Anal sex?
Q. My girlfriend, of over a year, and I are curious about experimenting with anal sex. We are having a lot of trouble. I happen to be very well endowed, two+ inches wide. We are able to get an inch and a half diameter dildo in her, but I'm still ...
A. 28 June 2010: My advice on these questions is to suggest that you figure out what works on yourself (as you have an anus as well) and perhaps you'll understand better what is happening with her. Basically, you are putting something into a tube that is designed to ... (read in full...)
I'm always worried that he'll break up with me again
Q. Hi there! I realy need help. I dated my boyfriend for 11 months when he broke up with me to get with another girl. He dated her for 6 months and then they broke up. 3 months later we got back together. We have now been together for 5 months, ...
A. 28 June 2010: I can see why you might be worried; it would be a foolish person who forgot the past. Forgetting and forgiving are two different things, however. Have you truly forgiven him? And before you do that, is he truly trustworthy still? I mean, he did ... (read in full...)
Question to all those who workout regularly
Q. Hello everyone, I am a 23 year old guy and weigh 62Kg (136lb). I have been going to the gym for the past 2 months. I follow the following routine: (1) Cardio on elliptical for 30 mins every alternate day. In this, I take the interval traini...
A. 28 June 2010: I'm not sure you're getting enough protein to help build muscle. I think you should consult a nutritionist to look over your diet. Perhaps you are taking in too much fat and don't realize it, even if it is a good fat, such as olive oil, it still is ... (read in full...)
When should I take these pregnancy tests?
Q. ok so me and my boyfriend had sex and right after he came he was pulling out and the condom was still inside me. i freaked out and pulled it out. i was so freaked out so i took a bath and cleaned my self out. im so freaking scared. i don't have to ...
A. 28 June 2010: To add to my last answer, I'm not the one who is freaking scared or whose future will be forever altered by an unplanned pregnancy. I have been in your shoes, when I was much much younger. You either wake up and get smart, or you keep reacting to ... (read in full...)
When should I take these pregnancy tests?
Q. ok so me and my boyfriend had sex and right after he came he was pulling out and the condom was still inside me. i freaked out and pulled it out. i was so freaked out so i took a bath and cleaned my self out. im so freaking scared. i don't have to ...
A. 28 June 2010: You could go to the clinic now, and take emergency contraception to make sure you are NOT pregnant. Seems to me sooner is better than later. It's not my body and future, though, it's yours. Why wouldn't you take the best care of it you can?... (read in full...)
When should I take these pregnancy tests?
Q. ok so me and my boyfriend had sex and right after he came he was pulling out and the condom was still inside me. i freaked out and pulled it out. i was so freaked out so i took a bath and cleaned my self out. im so freaking scared. i don't have to ...
A. 28 June 2010: You haven't had a period in six months? And before then, you've been regular?
You have to see your doctor. Who knows what's going on? Time to be brave, and make sure that everything is okay with you.
Best wishes to you.... (read in full...)
When should I take these pregnancy tests?
Q. ok so me and my boyfriend had sex and right after he came he was pulling out and the condom was still inside me. i freaked out and pulled it out. i was so freaked out so i took a bath and cleaned my self out. im so freaking scared. i don't have to ...
A. 28 June 2010: So how much trust would she lose in you if you were pregnant?... (read in full...)
When should I take these pregnancy tests?
Q. ok so me and my boyfriend had sex and right after he came he was pulling out and the condom was still inside me. i freaked out and pulled it out. i was so freaked out so i took a bath and cleaned my self out. im so freaking scared. i don't have to ...
A. 28 June 2010: It's time to tell your parents that you are sexually active. You have the chance to take emergency contraception, but at your age, you will need a prescription from your doctor. Time is of the essence, as the emergency contraception or 'morning ... (read in full...)
I accidentally told my husband's family that he abused me and now everythings messed up, how can I fix this?
Q. Hi. My husband recently has gotten a little physcally abusive, and has forced blow jobs on my a couple of times when he was drunk.. I guess I wanted to get it off my chest, but I was just going to deal with it. I already forgave him. But then las...
A. 27 June 2010: This isn't your fault and unfortunately, you can't see that just yet. You are filtering things through faulty settings, due to the abuse you've experienced. You HAVE to have an outside trained therapist help you through this, or your daughter... (read in full...)
Any men on DC who don't like porn?
Q. *OP's Original Title* Are there any men on DC who don't watch porn? Or never have? If so, why not? Ii'd like a tally please. I've only ever met one man who doesn't. ...
A. 25 June 2010: I'll tell you my take on this. I refuse to police the private thoughts of my man or any other man or woman. They are entitled to whatever fantasy they choose to engage in; I'm not the mommy having to make sure he's not up to something he shouldn't ... (read in full...)
Any men on DC who don't like porn?
Q. *OP's Original Title* Are there any men on DC who don't watch porn? Or never have? If so, why not? Ii'd like a tally please. I've only ever met one man who doesn't. ...
A. 24 June 2010: Does looking at a naked woman count? Or is there a more specific definition of 'porn'?... (read in full...)
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