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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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My long distance relationship has reached breaking point, what should I do?
Q. Hello everyone, I'm 23, my girlfriend and I have a long distance relationship. We've been together 4 years and her communication with me has broken down completely. She's always had 'rules' that I have to follow, like I am not allowed to phone...
A. 25 May 2010: She clearly thinks that she is the one who decides what happens in this "relationship." You apparently aren't qualified to end the farce, in her way of thinking. I'm sure she's quite confused that you've actually shown a bit of backbone and have ... (read in full...)
I slept with my teacher on impulse, what should I do now?
Q. Thanks for answering this, if it even gets posted! A few days ago whilst staying after school to talk to a teacher we got into a very deep conversation, he was telling me about his wife, we've always been closer than teacher and pupil as he helpe...
A. 24 May 2010: Have you verified for yourself with his wife that he is in an open relationship? Because if he is, then she shouldn't mind knowing.
I sincerely doubt he is telling you the truth.
I have given my advice and it is up to you whether or not to take it.... (read in full...)
He says it's over -- is it?
Q. Ok, this is going to be a long one but I really need as much advise as I can get. So, I was with this guy for over a year. In this year we got very serious. We lived together, had a boat, a dog, a quad. Our friends are even the same people. We moved ...
A. 23 May 2010: You wouldn't bother trying to analyze why a four year old throws a tantrum, would you? You wouldn't blame his tantrum on your over-controlling or your insecurities or yourself at all. He's a four year old, he's not developed or matured enough to ... (read in full...)
How can I stop finding fault in other people?
Q. Hi everyone. I have a unique problem and I want to do something about it, but it's not easy. I manage to find fault in people all the time. Not a day goes by where I don't think about something someone did that has upset me. Just a few minutes ago, ...
A. 22 May 2010: You REALLY must read that book I recommended in another post.
Interrupt your thought process. So the next time you find fault with someone, stop, think of 3 positive things about them. For each negative thought, consciously come up with three posi... (read in full...)
I had unprotected sex a month ago and now I seem to have pimples on my penis, what could this be?
Q. Hello everyone... I was not being smart and I had sex with a girl without a condom. It's been like months but now I'm starting to see some stuff on my... Penis. It looks like pimples but there red. I have a few little ones around my genita...
A. 22 May 2010: Genital warts don't hurt, by the way. And they are pretty contagious and can spread easily. You are going to the doctor, right?... (read in full...)
I had unprotected sex a month ago and now I seem to have pimples on my penis, what could this be?
Q. Hello everyone... I was not being smart and I had sex with a girl without a condom. It's been like months but now I'm starting to see some stuff on my... Penis. It looks like pimples but there red. I have a few little ones around my genita...
A. 21 May 2010: You have to go see a doctor. You don't know what it is and we cannot diagnose this for you. Go get it seen and taken care of!
Good luck.... (read in full...)
My long distance relationship has reached breaking point, what should I do?
Q. Hello everyone, I'm 23, my girlfriend and I have a long distance relationship. We've been together 4 years and her communication with me has broken down completely. She's always had 'rules' that I have to follow, like I am not allowed to phone...
A. 21 May 2010: This is a line from a classic song: You can't always get what you want. In this case, I doubt face-to-face closure will be possible.
I want to point something out to you: you have ceded control of this relationship to her. Take it back. Take back... (read in full...)
Why do I always pull stupid pranks on my boyfriend? I think I just crave attention or want a reaction from him!
Q. Hi Guys I've been dating my bf for almost a year and everything is/was going well. I have a problem of pulling stupid pranks on him. They seem to be compulsive and I realise the implications after playing with him for a while. I started by sayin...
A. 21 May 2010: It's an aggressive thing you're doing to him. It's like you are angry for some reason and have decided to take it out in "joking" way. Of course, there's nothing funny about the "pranks" you chose to do. There was malicious intent.
So why are you ... (read in full...)
How do I show him that I am no longer interested?
Q. So how do you give a guy signs you're not interested? I thought I really liked this boy, so I was really into him and flirty and stuff.. now I've gone off of him. Its for various reasons, but the thing is he still keeeeps on texting me and ...
A. 21 May 2010: "Hey, thanks, it's been fun texting and flirting, but I don't feel the same way anymore. Please stop texting me now, I would appreciate it. Hope you find the girl you're looking for, it just isn't me, sorry. Best wishes."... (read in full...)
I accused my husband of having affairs for 23 years and now he has left me, but I cannot accept it is finally over!
Q. I am a lunatic. I accused my husband of having affairs for all 23 years of my marriage. Then he filed for a divorce. Now I cannot stop asking him to take me back. I send rude sms everyday and I am either very nice or i swear rant and rave at him ...
A. 21 May 2010: Why did you act like a lunatic? Why are you acting like a bipolar person? Why the nice and the rude texts? Why is your mood so unstable? Why are you so insecure and lacking trust?
Until you figure that out, you won't be able to move forward.... (read in full...)
My long distance relationship has reached breaking point, what should I do?
Q. Hello everyone, I'm 23, my girlfriend and I have a long distance relationship. We've been together 4 years and her communication with me has broken down completely. She's always had 'rules' that I have to follow, like I am not allowed to phone...
A. 21 May 2010: You've kept yourself from living for the past three years for a girl who can't see you, who cheats on you and who doesn't return your love in the same way.
I don't know how to put this in a gentle way, so here it is: you are wasting your life. You ... (read in full...)
My long distance relationship has reached breaking point, what should I do?
Q. Hello everyone, I'm 23, my girlfriend and I have a long distance relationship. We've been together 4 years and her communication with me has broken down completely. She's always had 'rules' that I have to follow, like I am not allowed to phone...
A. 21 May 2010: Have you sent her any money during these past 4 years?... (read in full...)
He says it's over -- is it?
Q. Ok, this is going to be a long one but I really need as much advise as I can get. So, I was with this guy for over a year. In this year we got very serious. We lived together, had a boat, a dog, a quad. Our friends are even the same people. We moved ...
A. 21 May 2010: Hey, I think I just answered your other question: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-is-my-ex-going-out-of-his.html
... (read in full...)
Why is my ex going out of his way to be mean to me?
Q. So I had been with my ex for about a year. We broke up once but he came crawling back after two weeks. Well he just broke up with me again about three weeks ago. We live together and he said that we can both still live there just have separate ...
A. 21 May 2010: Hi there, is this your post too? http://www.dearcupid.org/question/he-says-its-over----is.html
The bit about 3 weeks ago and the telling you not to be a baby sound the same.
I think this ties into your other post and just reinforces the amateur ... (read in full...)
"I'm terrified of dying and leaving my wife"
Q. Hello. I'm not sure if anybody can really help me but I need it. I broke up from a bad relationship around 4 years ago. It was so bad that I spent the next four months on a downward spiral. I drank every night but what's worse is that I started u...
A. 21 May 2010: They sound a lot like anxiety or panic attacks to me. My sister would get them, especially after her cancer diagnosis. She needed medication for them, as they were so severe and she was having trouble functioning. Thankfully, we're past that bit ... (read in full...)
He says it's over -- is it?
Q. Ok, this is going to be a long one but I really need as much advise as I can get. So, I was with this guy for over a year. In this year we got very serious. We lived together, had a boat, a dog, a quad. Our friends are even the same people. We moved ...
A. 21 May 2010: There was an interesting comment in that link about how someone is trained to be with a narcissist, usually by another narcissist. Perhaps that why the families love each other?
That's a peculiar thing to happen to a boy in childhood, to be sent... (read in full...)
What should I do for date number 2?
Q. So, I've posted here alot about my ex gf, our breakup, and me coping. Well.... its amazing how things can change so quickly. I finally told myself to move on, and leave the ex alone, and surprise! I met someone. We went to a wine bar, had a few ...
A. 20 May 2010: Okay, this may sound really dorky but what the heck. You went to a wine bar for your first date? How about you extend the theme and go to a winery with a picnic lunch? Buy a bottle of wine and sit out in the vineyard with a nice blanket and some ... (read in full...)
My husband's family are putting me in a cage!
Q. My husband is in afganistan doing a dangerous job ! and ever since he has gone he and his family have put me on lock down, I cant go out for a drink with my neighbor, im not alowed to go and see my old best mate because shes a bad influenc...
A. 20 May 2010: I like what Emilysanswers advised much much better than what I initially posted. She knows what she's talking about.... (read in full...)
Is masturbating dangerous at 14?
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A. 20 May 2010: Physically, it's not a problem. The problem may come if you don't realize that the porn videos you are watching are fantasy, not real life. They are designed to sell to men and should not be considered instructions as to how to have sex.... (read in full...)
He says it's over -- is it?
Q. Ok, this is going to be a long one but I really need as much advise as I can get. So, I was with this guy for over a year. In this year we got very serious. We lived together, had a boat, a dog, a quad. Our friends are even the same people. We moved ...
A. 20 May 2010: Google "borderline personality disorder." I don't know enough about it to know if that's his problem, but from what I've heard, it could well be.
He sounds like a guy who is used to getting what he wants and becomes petulant and angry and mean when... (read in full...)
I'm confused by my new boyfriend's penis because I think it's not hard enough!
Q. Hi, Am confused about my new boyfriend's penis coz I think it's not hard enough. We haven't had any penetration sex yet but have had oral sex and what worries me is that the hardest he's been is far lower than my ex boyfriends. I know that with t...
A. 20 May 2010: I think he's gay too. Sorry. Maybe he doesn't want to be or his family is pressuring him to have children, but whatever it is, he's not into sex with a woman.... (read in full...)
I'm confused by my new boyfriend's penis because I think it's not hard enough!
Q. Hi, Am confused about my new boyfriend's penis coz I think it's not hard enough. We haven't had any penetration sex yet but have had oral sex and what worries me is that the hardest he's been is far lower than my ex boyfriends. I know that with t...
A. 20 May 2010: I hate to say it again in such a short time but I think Q is on to something. Unless this guy was a priest and left the priesthood? Two times by the age of 41? There is something going on here that has nothing to do with his penis.... (read in full...)
I slept with my teacher on impulse, what should I do now?
Q. Thanks for answering this, if it even gets posted! A few days ago whilst staying after school to talk to a teacher we got into a very deep conversation, he was telling me about his wife, we've always been closer than teacher and pupil as he helpe...
A. 20 May 2010: Why are you afraid of seeing someone who can actually help you?
To get over this feeling, you need to start to examine why you got to this point. What is going on in your life that you made this choice? What is your relationship with your fath... (read in full...)
Am I over reacting to my friends sms message?
Q. Am I over reacting by being annoyed and upset that my "friend" sent me this sms? "i think of you and your daughter every single day. More than once a day. I guess I can't wait for a baby of my own. I would be honored to be something more i...
A. 20 May 2010: Which takes us straight to the "no role model for my child" comment. I think Q may be on to something here.... (read in full...)
Am I over reacting to my friends sms message?
Q. Am I over reacting by being annoyed and upset that my "friend" sent me this sms? "i think of you and your daughter every single day. More than once a day. I guess I can't wait for a baby of my own. I would be honored to be something more i...
A. 20 May 2010: I think I'm with BunnyTee on this one. I think she overstepped for certain, and may not realize how stalker-y the opening sentences were.
That's part of the problem with so much of our communication turning from face-to-face, or by phone, to all ... (read in full...)
Why do a lot of older people think that teenagers don't know what true love is?
Q. Hey i was wondering why do not all, but alot of older people think that teenagers dont know what true love is? and that it wont work out in the end? Because my boyfriend asked me to marry him, I said yes. I am 17 and my boyfriend is about 7 months ...
A. 20 May 2010: What TimmD said. He pretty much wrote what I was going to say. Dagnabbit.
Remember, we didn't sprout fully grown from our mother's womb. We went through those teen years just as you are going through them now. We have the benefit of 20/20 hind... (read in full...)
My husband's family are putting me in a cage!
Q. My husband is in afganistan doing a dangerous job ! and ever since he has gone he and his family have put me on lock down, I cant go out for a drink with my neighbor, im not alowed to go and see my old best mate because shes a bad influenc...
A. 20 May 2010: Can you move home for a while? Until he comes home? You sound desperately unhappy with the situation.
"Dear Mother-in-law, [whatever you call her]
I'm writing because I'm hoping to clear the air between us and hopefully set things back on track, b... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend just using me for sex?
Q. my gf and i have been together 2yrs. im the lst female she has ever dated. she says she is in love with me but when we have sex she wont pleasure me and i always pleasure her. she wont even use a toy on me. is she just using me for sex or does she ...
A. 20 May 2010: Are you sure she's comfortable with being a lesbian? Because it sounds more like she's an autosexual who happens to have you as her sex toy. Unless this is a consentual Dom/sub thing you have going here?
What does she say when you talk about it?... (read in full...)
Has he changed his mind about taking things further with me?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for 7 months and we haven't really gone that far. he says he doesnt want to go to second base yet (fingering/handjob) yet for a while because he's not ready. when we made out a few days ago, he put his hands ...
A. 20 May 2010: I think the simple thing to do is ask him. I know it's hard to talk about things, but if you've discussed this in the past, I don't see why you couldn't simply tell him that his action confused you.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
What can I do for my boyfriend on a tight budget to celebrate getting through a tough 6 months?
Q. I want to do something really awesome for my boyfriend but can't think what. We've had a rough 6 months or so and I feel like celebrating the fact that we're finally getting back to the couple we used to be (if not better!). I'm on a tight budge...
A. 20 May 2010: Decorate the house with candles and flowers. Put up pictures of the two of you together all around the place. Dim the lights, find some romantic, seductive music, plan an elegant but simple to prepare meal, have a luscious dessert ready, put on your ... (read in full...)
Why does my male friend claim we are "good friends" but wont ever treat me like our other friends? I'm sure there is an underlying reason behind his behaviour.....
Q. Hi i hope you can help me here. A friend of mine...hes a guy we;ve known each other a few years. He says to people he wants to be good friends with me, hes said to me before we're great friends, he'll never fall out with me and he loves me as a...
A. 20 May 2010: There's certainly a lot of emphasis on the word "friends" here. Are you sure there isn't something more to your feelings for him?
Perhaps he senses that you feel more than just friendly affection for him and is very carefully keeping you at arm'... (read in full...)
My husband's family are putting me in a cage!
Q. My husband is in afganistan doing a dangerous job ! and ever since he has gone he and his family have put me on lock down, I cant go out for a drink with my neighbor, im not alowed to go and see my old best mate because shes a bad influenc...
A. 20 May 2010: What on earth happened before he went to Afghanistan to create such a lack of trust and controlling atmosphere? Why are you living with them instead of your own mother while he's gone? Is there a child involved?
Is there a cultural difference betw... (read in full...)
I love him but he doesn't know it! What can I do?
Q. i am love someone but he did not know if i love him pls help me and answer soon. ...
A. 20 May 2010: Who is he? How old is he? Is he married already? Do you know him well? We need more detail.
How is that you came to love him? Is this love from afar, or are you friends already?
... (read in full...)
Dreading the upcoming conversation about anal sex!
Q. Hi there, I just read a question where the guy was worried his girlfriend was lying when she said she had never had anal sex before....I'm about to be that girlfriend. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months now and I really really love him. We ...
A. 20 May 2010: My guess is that she doesn't want to do it, as it was a disaster the first time. She's dreading the conversation because it's going to come to this question, "did you ever do it before?" And of course the answer is "yes."
So I ask our poster agai... (read in full...)
Feel so disrespected and used but can't get out of the relationship
Q. My boyfriend and i have always had problems in the bedroom and it's getting to the point where i feel very disrespected by him and as if he has unrealistic expectations of me. I feel trapped in this relationship and anxious when left alone in a ...
A. 20 May 2010: I have a link for you that will help you find a way to end this relationship in a safe way for you. I too would feel threatened by this and I think you are right to worry about him becoming violent.
Here is the website and phone number. I want you ... (read in full...)
Living with and loving my cousin but now he likes someone else!
Q. >ok,so, i have a problem,I'm in love with my cousin,i live in the same house as he does his 18 and I'm 24 yrs old, i live with my 2 aunts, and the thing is that i don't look 24 i look like I'm 17 or 18, OK it all started one day wen we decided ...
A. 20 May 2010: It sounds to me like he was just playing. He doesn't love you. Sorry. He has a girlfriend on top of it. I think your best strategy at this point is to pick yourself up, dust yourself off, resolve not to play anymore teenage games with a teenager and ... (read in full...)
Is it too soon to ask him to leave his girlfriend for me?
Q. Okay, so There's this girl (let's call her..Rebecca). So a couple years ago, Rebecca started going out wit hone of my close friends (Tommy), and after a month or two him and I got closer. It eventually lead to us kissing, talking, and touching. Th...
A. 20 May 2010: Ah, but I have been in your shoes. The most glorious guy was dating a girl I knew. He and I were on a weekend leaders' school trip together when I was in 11th grade, we sat next to each other and we got very close, talking about everthing. He was so ... (read in full...)
Dreading the upcoming conversation about anal sex!
Q. Hi there, I just read a question where the guy was worried his girlfriend was lying when she said she had never had anal sex before....I'm about to be that girlfriend. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months now and I really really love him. We ...
A. 20 May 2010: Um, Yos? I have a little question for you. You say you do not recommend lying to him. She says she hated anal sex the one time she tried it. So IF they do have anal sex and it's just as awful for her as the first time, how is she going to pretend ... (read in full...)
Where is my G-spot?!
Q. I've enjoyd having sex with my boyfriend for quite a while but no matter what, i can not get to orgasm. I looked the g-spot up on the internet but if i stimulate that place all it makes me do is want to go to the loo. Is it suposed to be that ...
A. 20 May 2010: Ah, the magical G-spot. You are in the majority of women who do not reach orgasm through intercourse alone. The G-spot is an area in the vagina that when stimulated is supposed to give you wonderful orgasms. Well, that would be great if you were one ... (read in full...)
Love in absentia
Q. After several months of mutual attraction between myself and a very nice man, we met up and discussed establishing our relationship. Asked if I wanted to take our friendship further or just remain good friends. We decided to take this further. We ...
A. 20 May 2010: It sounds as though you have differing ideas of what constitutes taking things to the next level. He just meant having sex; I think you expected a relationship. He was thinking "friends with benefits" and you were thinking "and now we date."
I woul... (read in full...)
How do I tell him not to eat my face when he kisses me?
Q. Kissing advice... Recently me and this guy hooked up, we'd liked each other for a while and only really had the confidence to share out feelings when a bit drunk, I know it's sad!! Anyway he is an awful kisser, he pretty much "eats my face" and ...
A. 20 May 2010: Bad kissing has probably sunk many a promising romance. Poor guy. We want them to be so polished and manly and when they turn into the pod-crab things from "Aliens", all our fantasies of how wonderful it's going to be go right into the toilet. ... (read in full...)
Is it too soon to ask him to leave his girlfriend for me?
Q. Okay, so There's this girl (let's call her..Rebecca). So a couple years ago, Rebecca started going out wit hone of my close friends (Tommy), and after a month or two him and I got closer. It eventually lead to us kissing, talking, and touching. Th...
A. 20 May 2010: And how long did you date Tommy after they broke up?... (read in full...)
Is it too soon to ask him to leave his girlfriend for me?
Q. Okay, so There's this girl (let's call her..Rebecca). So a couple years ago, Rebecca started going out wit hone of my close friends (Tommy), and after a month or two him and I got closer. It eventually lead to us kissing, talking, and touching. Th...
A. 20 May 2010: Are you interested in any single guys, or has it only ever been Rebecca's boyfriends?... (read in full...)
I slept with my teacher on impulse, what should I do now?
Q. Thanks for answering this, if it even gets posted! A few days ago whilst staying after school to talk to a teacher we got into a very deep conversation, he was telling me about his wife, we've always been closer than teacher and pupil as he helpe...
A. 19 May 2010: I'm curious, what did you think would happen? Because I don't think you would have slept with him if you hadn't been thinking about it. I think you have built up a fantasy surrounding this guy, and now the cold hard brutal truth is that he is not ... (read in full...)
Dreading the upcoming conversation about anal sex!
Q. Hi there, I just read a question where the guy was worried his girlfriend was lying when she said she had never had anal sex before....I'm about to be that girlfriend. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months now and I really really love him. We ...
A. 19 May 2010: I'm a little unclear on something. Do you want to try anal sex with your boyfriend? Or are you hoping not to?... (read in full...)
Is it too soon to ask him to leave his girlfriend for me?
Q. Okay, so There's this girl (let's call her..Rebecca). So a couple years ago, Rebecca started going out wit hone of my close friends (Tommy), and after a month or two him and I got closer. It eventually lead to us kissing, talking, and touching. Th...
A. 19 May 2010: Jessica, you really don't like Rebecca, do you? This is a repeated pattern for you, and you claim that it's not your fault, that it's the guy chasing you. If this had happened once, I might have given you the benefit of the doubt. But twice? Nope, ... (read in full...)
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