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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Comment I made has turned into a family argument and I'm expected to apologize!
Q. Hi guys, Back in march I wrote a post in here " back and forth online argument and I don't think I should apologise" Basically it was an argument between me and my cousin after I wrote on my facebook about children being messier than dogs...
A. 6 May 2010: In rereading my note, I want to emphasize that I do NOT think you are stroppy, nasty or selfish--it is that the family may perceive you that way right now, depending on how Maybelline has played this.
I too am childless and I have to admit I pref... (read in full...)
Comment I made has turned into a family argument and I'm expected to apologize!
Q. Hi guys, Back in march I wrote a post in here " back and forth online argument and I don't think I should apologise" Basically it was an argument between me and my cousin after I wrote on my facebook about children being messier than dogs...
A. 6 May 2010: I realized I could just put the title you gave into the search bar, doh!
This thing has escalated to a family feud level now, hasn't it? And you posted nasty things on her wall? Oh brother.
Okay, look, if it were just the two of you having a... (read in full...)
Comment I made has turned into a family argument and I'm expected to apologize!
Q. Hi guys, Back in march I wrote a post in here " back and forth online argument and I don't think I should apologise" Basically it was an argument between me and my cousin after I wrote on my facebook about children being messier than dogs...
A. 6 May 2010: I have an opinion forming on this one but I'd like the link to the other question before I write it. Thanks!... (read in full...)
Don't know why I fainted?
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A. 6 May 2010: Heart rhythm disorder, sleep deprivation, low blood pressure (hypotension), atrial fibrillation, atrial flutter, dehydration, exercise, heat exhaustion, chemical burns. That's the list I got when I put in feeling faint as your symptom in the ... (read in full...)
When my mother comes to visit she likes to clean
Q. I'm not sure if this a site for help with mums, but I'm hoping someone will feel my pain on this one. My mum came to visit me today, and whenever she does, she will find something to 'show me how to do it' or something to that effect. Vagu...
A. 6 May 2010: Mothers are exasperating, aren't they? They have a special privilege, by virtue of giving birth to you, of telling you how to be better in everything. In other words, they nag.
Mine nagged at me for years to lose weight. Now that I have, she's nagg... (read in full...)
How do I stop people bullying me?
Q. I understand that no-one is perfect, but I have experienced so much bullying in my life that I am starting to lose trust in people. Wherever I go, I am being targeted by bullies for no reason. I don't know if it has anything to do with my Asperger's ...
A. 6 May 2010: Bruce, thank you for the follow up. I want to point something out to you. You have posted questions wondering why women seem to avoid you. I have to tell you that if you have pulled a knife on a relative because they had been annoying you, then you ... (read in full...)
How do I know if we have sex that he won't leave me the next day?
Q. Dear cupid, I met with this guy 6 years before, in a plane while i was 17. He is a pilot and I was just finishing my high school and about to start my university life and was heading to my allocated campus. I was with my dad and since we arriv...
A. 6 May 2010: He nagged you into being his girlfriend, and then tells you that being boyfriend/girlfriend requires sex? I think that the only solution here, if you are not ready for sex, is to not be boyfriend/girlfriend. You simply become friends. He is free to ... (read in full...)
How do I stop people bullying me?
Q. I understand that no-one is perfect, but I have experienced so much bullying in my life that I am starting to lose trust in people. Wherever I go, I am being targeted by bullies for no reason. I don't know if it has anything to do with my Asperger's ...
A. 6 May 2010: Could you tell us about the bullying? Give us a couple of instances. Perhaps there's a way to deal with it that we could figure out for you.
https://health.google.com/health/ref/Asperger+syndrome
http:... (read in full...)
Is it okay for me to "pop the question" on the night of our friends' wedding?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for a little over two years now. We've known each other for about 3.75 years. One of my best friends is getting married to one of my gf's best friends in August and yes, we're both in the wedding party. I know my ...
A. 6 May 2010: What a wonderful question! And very romantic. Personally, I wouldn't ask her on the day of the wedding or at any event leading up to it, like the rehearsal dinner or anything like that. It's really kind of stealing the spotlight from the couple and ... (read in full...)
Will my helmet be a sex magnet?
Q. I bought a Honda Shadow Aero today and from what I hear, if you strap a helmet to the back of your motorcycle, no matter what kind it is, the ladies will come from miles - is this true?...
A. 5 May 2010: That must have been one amazing salesman. Saleswoman? Enjoy your ride but there's more to attracting ladies than a helmet next to your backside!... (read in full...)
Best friend wants sexual help but I am in a relationship!
Q. Hello, I am in a steady relationship and very happy with my boyfriend. I have a male friend who is very close to me as in...we are open and we used to flirt a bit before I fell in love with my boyfriend. I am still in constant touch with this fri...
A. 5 May 2010: This friend wants to have phone sex with you, knowing you have a boyfriend? He is overstepping the boundaries and you are not telling him that it is inappropriate and frankly selfish of him to ask you to do that.
His sexuality is HIS problem, not ... (read in full...)
Am I gross? OR was the guy just not nice?
Q. Hi, I recently hooked up with a guy and whilst we were in bed fooling around he took off my pants, then he stopped and was like ew, so I asked what's the problem and he told me "your vagina is gross". I've had my confidence knocked by it my...
A. 5 May 2010: You don't actually have to click on the green weinie. Close your eyes for a second and click somewhere around it. The variations are really kind of fascinating. It's like faces. No two are alike.... (read in full...)
Am I gross? OR was the guy just not nice?
Q. Hi, I recently hooked up with a guy and whilst we were in bed fooling around he took off my pants, then he stopped and was like ew, so I asked what's the problem and he told me "your vagina is gross". I've had my confidence knocked by it my...
A. 5 May 2010: Q, you have to scroll your mouse over the screen and click. Then you get a little powerpoint-type text introduction (or click on "skip intro"). Then you have a choice: click on the leaves of the statue of David or the statue of the Venus de Milo in ... (read in full...)
Am I gross? OR was the guy just not nice?
Q. Hi, I recently hooked up with a guy and whilst we were in bed fooling around he took off my pants, then he stopped and was like ew, so I asked what's the problem and he told me "your vagina is gross". I've had my confidence knocked by it my...
A. 5 May 2010: I have a link for you to look at. It shows drawings of some differences in genitalia--there's a huge range of "normal". I'm sure you are quite normal.
Don't sell yourself short. Carry yourself like the beautiful and special young woman that you are.... (read in full...)
Implant is making sex unenjoyable!
Q. Hi I have had the implanton in my left are for 8 months and I thought it would be a great type of protection except well I've lost all feeling down below and I mean everthing!:( oral feels lik nothing to me and I can't feel him inside me wit condoms ...
A. 5 May 2010: If you are 18-21, tell him that you formally request he not disclose any of the examination information with your parents, at the risk of violating the physician-patient confidential privilege. If he refuses, get a new doctor ASAP. And report him ... (read in full...)
Should I ask her to the concert? My ex is her good/best friend!
Q. I'm really into this girl. Theres a concert coming up. I'm planning to buy the ticket then invite her to go. But i'm not sure if i should do it or will she go with me. The reason... I just broke up with my ex about 4 months ago. My ex is on...
A. 5 May 2010: I think you are putting too much emphasis on the concert. This girl either will or will not go out with you--the concert is just one option of many date choices you could make.
Putting myself in this girl's shoes, I would guess that it's a pret... (read in full...)
Help with LOVE that is being pushed away please!
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A. 5 May 2010: Long distance relationships are tough to sustain. Did you start out living close by but one of you moved?
My initial thought when I read your question was "move." One of you would have to move in order for the two of you to be together.
Look,... (read in full...)
How do I stop believing that everyone in the world is against me?
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Because of this involuntary soci... (read in full...)
I'm married, she's married!
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A. 5 May 2010: I have to add that I think she may be using other men, yourself included, to get back at her cheating husband. She's probably trying to get under his skin and either consciously or subconsciously targets guys who find her attractive. I doubt it's a ... (read in full...)
Am I gross? OR was the guy just not nice?
Q. Hi, I recently hooked up with a guy and whilst we were in bed fooling around he took off my pants, then he stopped and was like ew, so I asked what's the problem and he told me "your vagina is gross". I've had my confidence knocked by it my...
A. 5 May 2010: "Douche canoe"!!! LOVE THAT. hahahahaha! Poster, I think you now know what to call that guy. :D... (read in full...)
I wonder if when we are older, things might work out between us? We just broke up but stayed friends.
Q. Hi everyone. I'm just looking for a bit of advice on my current situation. I broke up with my boyfriend over the weekend. We are/were at university together and had been going out for 5 months. During this time we have had lots of arguments, so...
A. 5 May 2010: You sound as though you're in a good place with this. Sad but not devastated and able to think pretty clearly about this. The problem of course is that no one know what the future holds, but that doesn't mean that you shouldn't proceed with your ... (read in full...)
I'm married, she's married!
Q. Hello, I have a female friend that ended up telling me she is attracted to me and she really likes me. She is an attractive woman and I do like her and her personality. We hang out every weekend with our neighbors. The only thing is I'm married a...
A. 5 May 2010: "Hey, I'm flattered that you think I'm attractive. But I have to be clear. Nothing is going to happen between us. Nothing. I'm going to focus on my marriage. That's all I've got to say about this, so let's just stay friends, and leave it at that. ... (read in full...)
How can I trust someone who keeps important secrets for our whole entire relationship?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 7years. We had our ups and downs. She's kept a secret from me for 7years and finally wants to come clean 1st strike. She drilled me hard about sites like myspace and etc. I stopped using them. Come to find out she ...
A. 5 May 2010: It's been said here often that people who are guilty of a transgression often accuse their partner of the very thing they do themselves. She knows what happens on facebook because she's done it herself.
I don't know how you can trust her, espe... (read in full...)
Am I gross? OR was the guy just not nice?
Q. Hi, I recently hooked up with a guy and whilst we were in bed fooling around he took off my pants, then he stopped and was like ew, so I asked what's the problem and he told me "your vagina is gross". I've had my confidence knocked by it my...
A. 4 May 2010: He's not very nice. Forget him. And don't hook up with guys if you don't have much confidence. Work on that first, THEN you can bring home random guys who might say stupid, thoughtless things to you and it won't hurt as much.
Seriously, don't brin... (read in full...)
Now he wants to leave a change of clothes at my house! What does this mean?
Q. Been involved with a man now for more than 3 yrs and just recently when he came over to see me asked if he could leave a change of clothes at my house and even asked me if would wash them for him. This something totally out of the blue because the...
A. 4 May 2010: Here's a question for you. What would happen if you said, no, you can't leave your clothes here? No, I don't have time to do your laundry? What would he say?
I'm not suggesting you do that, but maybe an unexpected answer to him would catch him off ... (read in full...)
How do I get her to back off?
Q. i need some help on how to deal with a very annoying problem. i work at a restaurant and there's a girl who comes in very often and hits on me like there's no tomorrow. the problem is she is only 16 turning 17 (she is extremely attractive for her ...
A. 4 May 2010: "You know something, Sara? You're a good looking girl and I am flattered by your attention. But this teasing is getting really old and tired and it frankly makes me think that you are VERY immature.
"I work with your sister; I respect her and don'... (read in full...)
Is this depression or just life?
Q. Am I suffering from depression because I don't want to go out of the house and I can't see the positive side to life anymore --- or is that just life?...
A. 4 May 2010: Sounds like depression to me. Go see your doctor right away and get evaluated. There are lots of treatment option; there's no point in suffering! Life can get sooooo much better if you get help. Go summon up the energy to call the doctor tomorrow, ... (read in full...)
Did my boyfriend get my colleugue pregnant?
Q. My boyfriend of 8 years cheated on me with one of my close co-workers at work, all three of us work together. And we have hung out together on the regular. But now the girl is pregant she's saying its 50-50. she not sure who the father is? I don't ...
A. 4 May 2010: The cheating bit would have lost me either way, pregnancy or no pregnancy. If you feel you can make it work, then stick around for the results of the DNA test. I'm assuming there's going to be a DNA test because she will need to figure out who's ... (read in full...)
He's giving VERY mixed signals!
Q. I lost my boyfriend a few weeks ago and my best friend who I thought liked me is playing me. He plays me by acting all nice and then he says that he doesn’t care about my texts or what I have to say. Then the next day he smiles and he does look at ...
A. 4 May 2010: How old are you? How old is he? This sounds very immature and frankly, the best thing to do when people who are old enough to behave better act like children is to treat them as though they ARE children. Smile a lot, nod, pat his head, say things ... (read in full...)
Implant is making sex unenjoyable!
Q. Hi I have had the implanton in my left are for 8 months and I thought it would be a great type of protection except well I've lost all feeling down below and I mean everthing!:( oral feels lik nothing to me and I can't feel him inside me wit condoms ...
A. 4 May 2010: Complete lack of feeling doesn't show up as a side effect in the product literature. http://www.spfiles.com/piimplanon.pd.pdf
The best recommendation I have is to talk to your doctor about this. Perhaps there's something else going on unrelated to t... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is selfish with sex!
Q. I'm a 23-year-old gay guy, and I've been with my partner for over three years now. The one major problem in our relationship is lack of sex. My partner never touches my penis, never gives me a handjob, never gives me a blowjob, and never let's me ...
A. 4 May 2010: Oh, and stop the public masturbating; it's illegal and might get you arrested. Stick to your own flat. If you come back and say 'oh he won't let me do it there' then I think you are missing the obvious solution. Good luck.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is selfish with sex!
Q. I'm a 23-year-old gay guy, and I've been with my partner for over three years now. The one major problem in our relationship is lack of sex. My partner never touches my penis, never gives me a handjob, never gives me a blowjob, and never let's me ...
A. 4 May 2010: What should you do? Reconsider the viability of this relationship if you are so unhappy. It sounds as though it's not working for you. I assume you've tried talking; have you considered seeing a couples counselor or a sex therapist? Perhaps he's not ... (read in full...)
I miss the man that sexually abused me as a child! I want a friendship with him but can a leopard ever change it spots?
Q. I need some advice, When I was 13 I met a man who was almost 60, and we struck up a bizarre friendship. He understood me and advised me as I was having a lot of personal problems. He took care of me, he gave me lifts places, he listened to me, and i ...
A. 4 May 2010: You want to be friends with the man who stuck dog biscuits into you? Then made you eat them? He sounds like a wonderful man... NOT. That's a horrible person you've just described. Seriously. That is not a normal person; he is sick and twisted. He ... (read in full...)
Could I have an STD even though we were both virgins?
Q. OK so me and my boyfriend have had sex- multiple times and of course we've been safe about it but also ive given him oral too and i know for a fact that he was a virgin (like me) before we had sex and we both never participated in 4play before each ...
A. 4 May 2010: Herpes simplex, chlamydia, gonorrhea and HPV are a few of the infections that can be spread via oral sex. You don't have to have intercourse to contract any of these. It's pretty unlikely in your case as neither of you have had any kind of intimate ... (read in full...)
He hasn't finished his education, and this is driving a wedge between us!
Q. I'm 16 and my boyfriend is 19. We've been dating for five months. We are inseperable, we are best friends and very much in love. But in the past, all I've dated is low-lifes, guys that deal drugs, guys that don't go to school. My boyfriend has ma...
A. 4 May 2010: Personally, I think you will outgrow him shortly. If you place a high premium on completing your education, and expect him to have a high school degree at the minimum, and he thinks it's a waste of time, you're on different paths in life.
It's a pi... (read in full...)
Please please help me with my 8 yr old relationship break down nightmare
Q. Please please help me with my 8 yr old relationship break down nightmare Hello my name is Jorge, I am 25 yr old male from Puerto Rico USA. I love your videos , great job you are helping on many different levels. I feel that you can shed some li...
A. 3 May 2010: You have started the difficult process of recovering from a break up. It is a grief process and similar to what you go through if someone you love dies.
It's not easy, it's not comfortable, it's not a happy time. But you can get through it and you ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend cheating?
Q. ive been going out with this girl 2 and half yrs now.. love her to death.. but for some reason.. i really want to trust her but than i cant.. our sex part was great before but now its like i have to ask her for it.. and sometime i feel i force her ...
A. 3 May 2010: If a woman's vulva--the labia majora and labia minora (her vaginal lips)--got saggy every time she had sex, and continue to get 'saggier' and 'saggier', we'd be wheeling around our genitalia in wheelbarrows by the time we were in our 60s. That's ... (read in full...)
What can I say to his mom to get her to let me talk to him?
Q. i met this amazing guy who i fell in love with very quickly we spent every day together just about for 2 months he left his g/f a week after we became friends we decided to be exclusive a couple days before he went out of state for his cusins b day ...
A. 3 May 2010: Okay, I think I managed to read through your question. It is a little hard to understand but I think the guy you are in love with was shot in the head, and is now recovering. He is married, although separated, but his mother doesn't want you to talk ... (read in full...)
Videotapes of wife with ex....
Q. I found a video of my wife with an ex, she says she thought they had been erased. I knew they had sex and that my wife wasn't a virgin, so I am not so disappointed by that, but rather in the video he finished by giving her a facial. I always ...
A. 30 April 2010: Maybe she knows you always want to do it, and she's doesn't want to start something that means she's going to get get semen up her nose and in her eyes every time? Maybe she doesn't want to have to wash her hair before going to sleep.
Maybe she find... (read in full...)
Clothes make the woman!
Q. Hey everyone, I heard this one guy say something when i was walking down the street. he said ¨clothes make the woman.¨ What does that term mean?...
A. 30 April 2010: I'm with marieclaire on this one. It means that the choices people make in clothing are an indicator of what they want to portray to others.
Sexy, skimpy = look at me, I have a great bod!
Conservative, stylish = I'm serious but keep up with the... (read in full...)
I just can't measure up to the vibrator.
Q. My MASSIVE problem, someone please....help me. Part 1 : In the beginning.... I have been with this woman for over a year and a half and during this time we have had sex many times. At first everything was great although I was never sure if I e...
A. 30 April 2010: I have just the link for you. Sorry to tell you that some women simply do not reach orgasm through intercourse alone. Think of it like this, the vagina is not an inside-out penis. Technically, it correlates more to the same tissue that makes up the ... (read in full...)
Why won't he tell me about his female friend?
Q. This guy has confused me. We started off as friends. We get along really well together. He is the most caring man I ever met. Gradually, I felt I could see a possibility of a future with him. We are together almost like 24x7, except that we don't ...
A. 30 April 2010: It sounds as though he is keeping you at arm's length. Some men like to compartmentalize, that is, not have areas of their life overlap with others. They keep things very separate.
Either he's a very private person or could it be possible that he h... (read in full...)
I miss the man that sexually abused me as a child! I want a friendship with him but can a leopard ever change it spots?
Q. I need some advice, When I was 13 I met a man who was almost 60, and we struck up a bizarre friendship. He understood me and advised me as I was having a lot of personal problems. He took care of me, he gave me lifts places, he listened to me, and i ...
A. 29 April 2010: Please contact your counselor, or ask your doctor for a referral to a psychologist or psychiatrist. This is not healthy thinking. I wish you well on your journey to good mental health.... (read in full...)
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